NEVER BE NEEDY AGAIN/CO-DEPENDENCY CURE/LISA A ROMANO

[@alexisyoung9484]

Another amazing video I just had this self -talk to myself this morning 😨 love this content

[@debbievoss3496]

How I feel about me.

[@mishmish6299]

Looking back on all of the relationships I’ve had with Narcissists, parents included, I noticed one eerie similarity between them and you hit the nail on the head Lisa. It’s the look in their eyes when you’re speaking. There’s not an ounce of empathy there, nor a hint of effort to at least try to understand you. They are sitting their judging your every word, mentally shouting at you “how dare you speak, this is my time!”. I’m still grieving the loss of energy in these conversations, but I’m happy to be out and healing myself.

[@PaigeSquared]

My mom. Her stare is so cold! I have an ex that would do the long stare to intimidate into submission, my mom's stare was more of a "why am I dealing with this" sort of thing, even in my darkest years.

[@Luxiouriousprettyme]

That word you use ..loss of energy is so deep so deep so deep my girl ...and my God I'm I'm glad I have my youtube channel now where I talk about this. Its so sad so sad qnd here I am studying this as a graduate student in far away and my dear narc relative then told me I owe him compensation for getting myself through blood and tears and MY OWN SWEAT TO Q NEW COUNTRY. Does the entitlement and lack of empathy not hit the nerve for you guys?

[@debbiekenny8171]

🌟 Thank You for explaining what I could not in words, about the eerie look etc. I see & deal with this man every day & more than once a day most of the time. Wish you the best always.

[@spedteacher2773]

Yep, the stone cold look at me

[@brucebearchum3702]

I agree with you. My ex-wife still has residue within me. No matter how much I tried to be a loving, caring and supportive husband and father it was never satisfying to her and eventually my children. Abandonment created a stronger individual with positive mental, emotional, physical and spiritual self-improvement. Sure I struggle through wintery times however I understand that storms pass to enjoy the world in sunny days .

[@annanims7876]

Such an enlightening piece! as a child, I was criticized, mocked, mistreated, neglected, dismissed and exploited. As a result, I began to praise others to receive "less" abuse. This caused me to play small and focus on them instead of me. Being around so many predators had me in survivor/protection mode.

[@virginiasantillanes3917]

I had same type of experience. I appreciate your courage to share. I'm so glad we have Lisa helping us. Blessings to you 🙏💕🌻💛

[@ketherwhale6126]

Yes. Why were there so many unconscious and mean predators out there? Especially, when you’re a child? You can’t blame the child for falling into victimhood.

[@annanims7876]

@@ketherwhale6126 Sadly, I fear predators will always be around. And, unfortunately many predators sense the neglect, pain and sadness of children and they use it to prey on them.

[@betsyrossispissedoff4259]

Sending you big hugs! It takes a toll that some of us don't realize until later in life! Just wanted got to know you're not alone

[@michellek2946]

When you said that “most people are not going to understand you” that hit me. I’m always trying to get people to understand how I feel and it is so heartbreaking and frustrating. To understand myself AND to not care if someone does or doesn’t get me is really really hard and painful. That’s the work that needs to be done for me

[@virginiasantillanes3917]

Yes I can relate and I appreciate you sharing. Blessings to you 🌻💛💕

[@wellnesspathforme6236]

Most people are trapped so deep in their own emotional state they simply have no energy to worry about anyone else. Stop eating the metallic iron filings in processed foods. I believe there is a tie between iron overload in the nervous system and Fe-ar based nervous system and mental states. The very foundation of narcissism is Fe-ar.

[@justjosie8963]

Me too.

[@amarbyrd2520]

As much as well-meaning and qualified counselors and therapists practically yell at us to "GET SUPPORT TO LEAVE" -- what I don't understand (and I don’t think they do either) is how we're supposed to get that support when literally nobody understands what we're going through and will gaslight and bully us till we back down and stop asking!! 😢

[@tubesurf17]

codependency = recovery time 4 u?,tanks!!!

[@pgdarling301]

I feel sad knowing that my experience has also been the experience of many. I am also happy that we found a place to learn, grow, do better, and be supported. Thank you Lisa!

[@desire4liberation]

I was always the victim. Accepting my role in relationships over the years is tough, but now I am able to travel the road to recovery. The most difficult is what I did to my son :(

[@klyn9619]

Forgive yourself and move forward! You NOW know the difference and can too help many in need.. 💕

[@linneaxue427]

Same. Forgiving yourself is 1st and foremost, then you can move forward. 🕊

[@SusanaXpeace2u]

I would forgive my mum instantly if she had a genuine epiphany. Well, I say forgive like it's me that's not talking to her! It's the other way around, silent treatment going on three years now because I will not submit with compliance to her narrative that she is perfect and I'm mad, bad and sad. But it would be a clean slate looking to the future if only I saw some hint of an epiphany. I hope you and your son can build your relationship going forward.

[@desire4liberation]

@@SusanaXpeace2u Thanks Susan. My son and I are very close and love each other. My errors primarily doing everything to 'protect' him which prevented him from life's lessons. Allowing him to fail is how I went wrong. I have not had relationship with my mom for 10ish yrs. I only spoke to her this month on the phone a few times. She is blissful it seems in her dementia and insists we build a relationship. I'm not sure how to proceed. I wished my whole life for her to have an epiphany... an apology...never came

[@ahermitslife3684]

Such good timing. This is just what I needed today. I have been feeling very much like a broken, used toy. Also I keep trying with my mother mostly because i have empathy for her but I've had to stop talking to her. I'm going to be 55 and she still thinks that she needs to tell me how I should live. I have to accept that I will never have her approval and stop letting her trigger me and pull me back into the mire.

[@SS-jw9mm]

I can relate to you. I am going to be 54 myself and my mother does the same. Born with both narc parents and married one too for past 25 years. I try to separate myself from everyone but keep falling back to the need of being loved.If I avoid them i feel the void and a sense of unknown fear and when I talk to them I feel worse.

[@kili8459]

Good luck to you both!

[@jilli813]

@@SS-jw9mm I relate so much! 😍

[@caroleminke6116]

Indifference frees us to just not care anymore & then we’re out of their reach forever! It’s control kryptonite

[@Lttnggo123]

Thank you so much, Lisa. Exactly what I needed to hear today. I have been beating myself up because I think I've offended, repulsed, even frightened people with my attempts to connect and communicate, with behavior that maybe was inappropriate somehow: off-topic, obnoxious, crude, spaced-out, inconsiderate, boundaryless, desparate, you name it. Everytime I hear the word "fawning" I cringe, because of something I may have done to win approval. Thank you for helping me keep the focus on myself and not assuming that people are put off by my behavior, and for helping me to reparent and love myself today.

[@MagsChase1229]

Rowan, try to do something that you really enjoy. Get good at it and perhaps share. Focus on your happiness from that activity. Your focus will become happier and freeing. You may start helping others, life will get better and better. Keep structure / a schedule on a daily basis. This keeps one focus on the good, happy things in life.

[@racheltuttle7757]

I never comment, but I am a recovering codependent. I was in a relationship with a narcissist, end am now in a relationship with someone who is healthy… I am always projecting and waiting for the other shoe to drop and waiting for his love to be conditional… this was super helpful to remind myself where I came from and where I am going and how far I’ve already come. Your meditations and messages were a part of what saved me from that relationship almost three years ago- I had no idea how messy things had gotten for me and how I was on autopilot. It don’t remember what initially helped me find you, but I do remember it was a narcissist video. At the time, my ex was calling me the narcissist. Now, remembering that, I am genuinely shocked at how far I’ve come in my own healing. I revisited your content as I saw it come up on my page and have been struggling with my worthiness- something made me want to hear your voice, so I listened…. After that video, I see how much I am projecting on my current (and wonderful) partner…. I deserve to stop doing that. This man does not like to kick me when I’m down, he wants only to love me for me… and thanks to your content, I am going forward with much more awareness of that AND a tool to take with me to fight the urge to revert to my bad habits. I’m a work in progress, it’s ok. Thank you Lisa.

[@kittthompson]

Hi, I’d love to hear how you’re doing 1 year on? My dad is a narcissist and recovered alcoholic. I’ve only dated people who cheat, lie, have addictions, and who never see me. The last relationship I had absolutely wounded me emotionally. I do want to meet someone but I’m absolutely terrified as I know my compass is wayyy off.

[@StarMarASMR]

I've watched 100s of hours of your videos, etc. You simply get it and I greatly appreciate you.

[@lisaaromano1]

Glad you like them!

[@danielle2502]

Amazing woman for sharing and being vulnerable to your audience so that we can heal too. Honestly your videos have saved me, and I really appreciate your dedication into the work you do in helping others.

[@crunchypickles99]

This is where I'm stuck right now. Finally out of the toxic relationship, but WHO AM I??? I'm scared, and honestly, very resistant and LAZY about recovering. I want a quick fix but I know there isn't one.

[@pgdarling301]

Stay the course, don't fall back into that relationship you will be fine!

[@crunchypickles99]

@@pgdarling301 No chance there! Been out since October 2022 baby!!! Sweet freedom! 😁

[@pgdarling301]

@@crunchypickles99 🎉🎉💃

[@klyn9619]

You are a phenomenal example of how WE can change for the betterment of "WHO" we truly can become, NO matter what.. Thank you for giving SUCH hope and inspiration to SO MANY in need!! ✨🕊️🙏

[@nancymontoya1963]

Dear Lisa, I lived this type of life .I am alm.ost 69 y.o. Because of you teaching your lessons . The time has come, I am meant to L9ve my Inner Child. And hardworking, all my Career. Being retired I continue to learn. Because of You I realized why all my life I needed people's approval. Being almost 69. I am learning by listening to you. It's Time

[@Indy__isnt_it]

I read this once, Others people opinions of us are none of our business....... It helps to recite this when needed. I grew up 3rd child after a dance prodigy and the prodigal son, after a miscarriage, I was the 2nd best after their loss. I always felt that from my mother. Her favorite question was "what's wrong with you?" There WAS but who knew, who cared, nothing done about my "wrong" I spent 55 years suffering from Celiac disease, undiagnosed or ever treated until 10 years ago. Life has preyed on me SO EASILY. AND I ALLOWED IT

[@kerrysmook452]

Absolutely real and true, sometimes also its a feeling of not being good enough because maybe they don't smile once. That's how sensitive I am, and I am sick of it. From now on I am going to remember this video and meditate on it, I am good enough and I don't care if they don't like me. Living like this has caused me to be booked into a psychiatric ward with severe depression and generalized anxiety disorder. Its time to live my own life and take control of my mind and not let my mind control me!!! Thank You Lisa!!!! Love your content !!!!!!!!!!!

[@Luxiouriousprettyme]

I'm doing a study on this if you give me a comment on my channel I'll let you guys know how to participate. Love from Canada

[@francesw.5919]

"Narcissists idealize you NOT for you, but for them. Aren't they great because they picked you?" Ma'am, if I hadn't experienced this I would not have believed the words that are coming out of your mouth! My coworker put on her evaluation that I was her greatest accomplishment, and I thought, "Whatha' ?" This was self-glorification. OMG! She wears this personality blueprint precisely. How sweet it is to be free; people perish for the lack of knowledge (Hosea 4:6). This video was liberating for me! Thank you!!!!!

[@lisaaromano1]

Glad it helped🪷

[@robertchilds131]

I've watched many of your videos and I just wanted to say I love you. I appreciate you. You are making a difference. I wish you the best. Please know you are having a positive influence in this world.

[@lisaaromano1]

That means a lot thank you 🙏

[@susannyloves]

I’ll be re-listening to this video…probably several times! So much truth, wisdom, and life-changing inspiration. Thanks once again…words can’t express how incredibly grateful I am for you. 💛

[@URFUTUREUK]

Wow, the grooming comment just hit home about having two alcoholic parents. I'd never thought about it before, but friends have pointed this out to me about my parents. Just want to say your work is saving my life and building me back up after a lifetime of accepting abusive behaviour by my relatives.

[@ean3345]

May God bless you ma'am. Always on time. It feels like a message from our God to our souls throughout you. 🙏🏾💙 Much appreciation and respect to you.

[@phyllisneal8687]

I married my MOTHER! My husband is "Mom!"

[@karamlevi]

That’s crazy and I get it. Keep evolving. Awareness is a big step 🎉

[@justjosie8963]

😱😱😱😱😱😱 I get it. 😣

[@caroleminke6116]

He married his too

[@deeannbrashear4346]

I have walked away from my narcissistic mother and 5 siblings in the last 6 months. I have learned my favorite sister is a covert narcissist I went to Amen Clinic March 2023 and was diagnosed with Chronic PTSD.

[@iw9338]

Wow, so sorry for what you been through 😮 hopefully healing will help😅

[@godzillamanstreb524]

I can relate….. I only want healthy relationships now

[@soundscapes4619]

"Can't be any shadows, without light." Yes! That is inspirational!

[@dianalr8893]

Lisa, I’d like to thank you for this video. I knew I was codependent but I didn’t know how to start healing until you talked about triggers and the reason behind them. I was overweight for most of my life and Im at a healthier weight now, but growing up I was constantly criticized for it. I grew up being told to suck in my tummy and I don’t remember anyone telling me a compliment. I was taller than most kids so I wasn’t allowed to play and I had to stop trick or treating and hunting Easter eggs when I was 9. I don’t want to not like myself anymore, and you inspired me to start my healing journey

[@rachelemma1932]

I’m doing your 12 week program which I have attempted before but abandoned due to ANOTHER unhealthy relationship with a narcissist but not the type I had encountered before but instead a covert one which really rattled me but eventually I found my way out and I’m now living independently with my two kids and am no contact with my ex , I am on the other side of years of seeking outside myself to be ok and I’ve never been happier , I’m in the goal setting faze and I’m so excited for my life and my potential. I have such a deep gratitude for finding you and changing my life x

[@janicebeauchamp61]

Beautiful truth! You teach others ti be their powerful self! Hell yes!!! I’m taking my power back more and more. Super grateful for you and your work! Healing is beautiful ❤🙏💫

[@BeStillandKnow0000]

AND I'M SO PROUD OF YOU AND YOUR JOURNEY AND NOW SPEAKING AS AN EMPOWERED BEING... I CAN JUST FEEL INTO YOUR WORDS HOW WONDERFUL IT IS TO BE FREE OF THE WORRY OF WHAT WOULD OTHER PEOPLE THINK OF ME AND WILL I BE SAFE FOR IT... I CHOOSE TO REVERT MY ATTENTION BACK TO MYSELF, TO WHAT I THINK OF ME AND FEEL ABOUT ME. THANK YOU. Never knew how simple it could be, to live a wonderful life inside of yourself. 🧡

[@LOVEtoPLAYdrums]

@Lisa Romano - Thank you for making your videos~! Helps me a lot! I ended the narcs abuse cycle of 35 years on 1.9.23 safely with 2 attorneys. And reverse discarded family of origin.

[@SusanaXpeace2u]

I just can't get there. It still hurts me that my parents blame me for our estrangement because it was not my fault. I know that rationally but the part I can't seem to set aside is that they hold me responsible for not capitulating compliantly to their narrative that they are perfect and I am the mad/bad/sad.

[@justjosie8963]

You CAN get there and you WILL get there! 💙 Keep watching healing videos, understanding where you are coming from and why. And give yourself the compassion that you likely have reserved only for others. 👭💛

[@laetitia-joy]

Just what I needed to hear! Thank you Lisa, Namaste 🙏🏻✨

[@tonia6291]

Is anyone else loving hearing her say ‘I bow to the love and the light that is absolutely in you’ ❤ I missed that from the old videos!

[@rlong8038]

This hit me very hard, it describes me completely and I'm trying to leave a narracist after 38 years. Thank you!!!

[@aditichandrasekar3279]

I was exactly one of those people who thought hard work gets you good results. This works in studies or office, but just like you said, I transferred the concept to relationships. This does not work! Thank you so much, Lisa. For saying this out loud, for putting it so simply.

[@lisaaromano1]

So happy it helped🤗

[@Master0fHamsters]

Whoa this is breakthrough quality

[@donnakelly2677]

Well, you described me to a tee. Thank you for giving words and meaning to all of the things that were unknown to me. I have a hard time knowing how I feel, and certainly have difficulty explaining it. I am working on not wondering what other people would do in a given situation in order to make my decisions, or what will they think of me. I am learning how to unmesh with others. Thank you, Lisa, for validating my lifelong experience around codependency and trauma. You have shined a light so that I might see my way out.

[@kathyperilloux1856]

Possibly the most important Lisa video I have watched, yet! ❤️

[@izawaniek2568]

I love this message Lisa. It resonates with me on so many levels and I totally agree that holding on to yourself is extremely healing! Being authentic and honest about how you feel and respecting that and honouring yourself are crucial! God bless you Lisa. ❤

[@dampergoldenrod4156]

This is a really good video you will not hear this kind of good information in any kind of therapy for some reason.

[@laughingwolf330]

Healing this RIGHT NOW! As a Divine Feminine this has been my core wound and was just recently triggered hardcore, so I could FINALLY actually heal it. Realizing I don't just deserve to be cherished, I deserve to cherish my SELF. In fact, I deserve that first & foremost, above all else. I deserve to go the 'extra mile' for ME. My relationship with my Self is paramount, top priority. I'm reparenting my inner child and inviting her to be playful and free, to feel seen and honored by Self. I've started talking to myself about doing things 'together' - I'm taking myself out for dinner, on a date, taking myself to the store, etc. Looking at and touching my own body with wonder & appreciation as I would have done to others in the past - actually admiring every aspect of my being. Recognizing with active awareness that I really am wonderful, unique, lovely, magical. Hell, if I were me I'd be in love with me - and since I AM me, I'm letting myself be in love with the Self I AM! It's time for all my blessings to come in, and that starts with the blessing that is me - I Am a gift to my Self, and I Am Worthy of this Magnificence!!

[@allisonb.8492]

This is literally the best video I have ever heard on the dynamics of this type relationship, which I am currently working to get out of after 22 years

[@alanhunt81]

Good for you 😍

[@gisella1350]

Hello Lisa, thank you. What you say makes 100% sense. I am in my late 70's now, when I was young I was trained by religion and parents to please people, it was never enough. It is a shame how much life you waste in this en-devour. You will pull people out of this mode with the help of the internet and your wisdom. All we had was de funked humans.

[@tobyschoeneberger7126]

"What you think of me is none of my business" from an al~anon meeting. Love to all

[@bisschoffb]

Yes! I need to focus on MY SELF!! Be loving, gentle, tender, soft to MY SELF! Identify what I feel For and About MY SELF!! I really hope this video can be the turnaround for MY SELF which I BELIEVE is a codependent SELF. THIS IS HARD WORK..my old SELF would say, but I'm WORTH it my NEW SELF would say!! Let's GO!!!

[@scottschilling7483]

We've lived it too , no more , You're words are very helpful & completely validating . Learn to give it to ourselves , now , and always , by being present . Thanks so much for your help . You communicate , Lisa , in a very different way , and on a much higher level that really reaches out and helps .

[@jonnavennard7253]

Lisa, I cannot express my gratitude enough for your truth and knowledge. Thank you for sharing it has made me feel so understood and ready to find me!! Love and light my sister in spirit!! 🌙🧡✌🏻

[@luzelmartinez9016]

Thank you for showing my now-future Self in recovery.

[@highpriestess322]

brilliant presentation. 💚.

[@kristinmichael6191]

❤ Wow! You continue to inspire me and break down these walls and truly understand who I am! Thank you for helping me love myself again! Mother 37 years old and 3 children! You are exactly what I needed in my life! So for that, I thank you! 😊

[@vallang4832]

It is so freeing not caring what other people think. I have to work on giving myself grace hard. I love all your videos Lisa. Thank you from the bottom of my heart.

[@sujanm1046]

Once again a very helpful video, thank you so much for sharing your deep insights and understanding. You transmit a kind, honest, clear vibe... so good to listen to your content. You always emphasize to be gentle, loving and patient but yet kind of radical with the whole process... its gold!

[@valeriemontgomery6678]

Lisa, “Loving the Self Affirmations” is the sweetest book I’ve ever owned! I’m reading it over and over in my daily devotionals and sometimes I just flip to the back and read your love letter to us. You are a gift and a light and I am so thankful you have done the work in order to help and uplift others. When you get to heaven God will hug you and say, “Well done, little one!”

[@valbonaivezaj140]

Omg who needs therapy when this exists! Thank you

[@sandylucas4279]

Listening to this video I realized how much I've grown! Thank you Lisa you have been a big part of that growth! The part where you said, "only my opinion about me matters" was spot on. I just did something that my husband didn't agree with. He would have gone about it differently. I didn't defend my position. I didn't get upset. I felt good with my decisions and immediately felt okay with myself. I wasn't upset or regretful for doing it my way. Wow! That was huge. XO

[@BeStillandKnow0000]

LISA... YOUR WORDING JUST HITS. THANK YOU.

[@janetsbff5974]

Thank you, Lisa!!! You are saving my life one video and book at a time!!! 🙏🏽✨💖

[@mariamihaleva3430]

Such a powerful words! Thank you for this video this is really helpful with my recovery from past trauma.

[@Wanderlust246]

“I’m not ashamed of my shadows anymore” Thank you!

[@Nick-kf3io]

Brilliant video! I keep coming back to it every few months

[@Spiritman597]

Much Love. You have such amazing videos. You should do one on how to overcome all the anxiety and depression that you get from a narcistic person who is a perfectionist at lieing and cheating that you can't get any relief from. I'm struggling with dealing with my soon to be ex-wife who cheated on me with a court judge of all people and who she now works for. The justice system is so corrupt, if you don't have thousands of dollars to fight the hypocrisy you can't get real justice. You can't win against a liar and they are all in bed together. No lawyer is going to crap where he eats. Pulling my hair out. Ugh..

[@malizee2264]

Lisa❤❤❤I recently finally got my sister to talk to me again! It feels amazing but then it’s showing me all the work I still have yet to do!!! Thank you for being there whenever I need you!!!❤❤❤❤❤❤

[@womanclothedinthesunq7574]

Thank you 💞 love from Albuquerque shared.

[@gracehamusonde3654]

Thank you so much,this was so beautiful and helpful I don’t even know the right words to say.

[@lb3410]

I've learned so much in the 8 months since my narcissist told me our conversation is on hold until I work on myself. I have worked on myself and I have grown and come to understand so much. I am healing now and I really don't need to everr talk about anything more important than the weather with him again.

[@wizardofcog]

This is your best video.

[@lisaaromano1]

Hey thank you!🪷

[@stanleymaestas5441]

Thank u 4 showing me. I am enough. Nameste, everyone ✨️ ❤️

[@christina7561]

Beautiful. Very empowering, thank you for acknowledging the shame that can be so debilitating. "You can't have shadow without light". Loved this

[@rebecca8663]

😮😢😮 thats me !!!! I’m constantly worried about what ppl think of me. I never understood why others say they don’t care 🤷‍♀️ what anyone thinks of them. Thank you for this channel im in a bad place right now and im trying to figure it all out and change it but unemployed and can’t afford to see anyone 🤦🏼‍♀️. ❤

[@miko-vg2fc]

I had so much abandonment trauma that when I met my ex and he said he had no feelings or empathy for others it didn't show up as a MAJOR red flag. I just didn't want to be alone.

[@Kandakaschemebeth]

It feels good knowing that someone understand

[@Wanderlust246]

Family, certain co-workers and especially men….always had control over how I felt about myself. I’m slowly realizing this and working on it. Thank you so much for this empowering message.

[@rakelpeneyambeko]

Sometimes i want to comment but going through the comments i find tons of responses exactly of what i wanna say. We are not alone and it's not us, it's our programming that we need to work on.

[@lisawhitley1518]

I was never good enough. That is exactly how my soon to be ex husband made me feel! 🙏Thank you for your videos Lisa!

[@ccharles848]

Holy cow! 🤯 I am so glad I saw that video with you and Jerry Wise because I wouldn’t have seen this video! I have been reading self-help books and watching all sorts of self-help videos. This one has so many answers that actually make sense! So many videos actually make me feel angry or foolish because I see what’s wrong, but I don’t know what to do to start the healing process. In this video you gave me so many ways to begin the process! I’m going to have to listen to this multiple times to really let it all sink in…. Thank you!❤

[@oberonstar6278]

This skill that you demonstrate in communicating your personal memories with out any emotional intencities. is a skill l would like to have. long term , for the purpse to assit the world. after l am clear. a procces that l am accessing from my own reality. a s a unique artist. l have not taken any steps to give it to the world. this has been my reality for years. and l am breaking it. fear of rejection, . lisa thankyou

[@danasdiaz]

Extremely enlightening, particularly with regard to the point of seeking approval after a childhood of constant criticism.

[@MK-cc5ve]

Remarkable insight. I’ve recovered from CPTSD, and meditation is what realigned my brain to think straight. My amygdala had been enlarged and meditation (30 min a day minimum) was the key to shrinking the over active amygdala. I learned this through therapy for CPTSD.

[@anneaires3984]

Has anyone told you how terrific you are today?? I just did!!!! Many, many thanks for your words of wisdom dear one!! So happy to have found your channel, you've helped me immensely!❤️

[@Luxiouriousprettyme]

I love you Lisa...this whole journey led me to bow studying for a mental health program as a graduate student

[@chilloften]

Wow wow wow, such powerful message for myself. So grateful to have found Lisa Romano. Every child on this earth needs to hear this. 🌺🦋🌲

[@Katthecontrarian]

Growing up my dad was the world's biggest narcissist and my mom was very codependent- that was my reality. That's how i thought all relationships were like so for years I had given up on relationships. I'm excited for the june program to reprogram my brain.

[@Kyle-ok8vp]

Can you make a video on how one stops being narcissistic? You have videos on Spotting them but what if you are one? How do you stop being one

[@Kim-dl5ih]

That was incredibly eye opening! Thank you

[@DJ_Flame_Jade]

I have a few more books to read then I’m ordering yours x im still in refuge for domestic abuse and violence once I’m out and I’ve done the books I’m on I’m reading yours I really appreciate you you have saved and continue to save so many peoples lives it’s hideous what men have done to me and my family x x x I’m nearly 40 years old well 5 more years no children and feel I’ve wasted my life xx but o have to have faith and trust the universe x x shaktiii

[@HAPPY.DRAGON]

thank you ,for me to feel right for feeling like you felt.....I love my inner child!!! wow ..thank you

[@noeliaortiz2974]

You are a blessing. Thank you!! 😊

[@oberonstar6278]

played drums in my garden last night, got a compliant form my next door .the choice is l can not care. about your oppion. But l choose to take steps so that l play the drums without any reaction, by going to the river or park which is what l did. in the past l would of thought. your not telling me what to do. l am so please to be growing rapidly. thank you for helping us all.oberon l

[@nannysplace30]

Honestly you have used this brief period to tell my entire life story. Your words alone have given me so much revelation about my childhood pain and trauma which led me into a marriage that was full of control from me. And now I see that my children were neglected, I was an absentee mother, though very present, the abusive marriage I endured deprived my children so much love, healthy connection and attention. I see it now. Your videos and many others are helping to bring awareness of the chaotic life I led. The guilt of the neglect of my children at times I feel it so deep. How do I work to alleviate some of the guilt. Thank you so so much for your insights on this narcissistic dynamics.

[@noelfisher1829]

Again I thank you for being my go-to co- raiser for my young adult child. We need you to heal fully from the parents homes grandparents homes uncle and aunts and cousins homes all alcoholic and full of childhood traumatic incidences, patterns. You heal our family. You share the way. Honouring you and grateful eternally.

[@janinadello599]

Thank you Lisa. I needed this video at this emotionally draining time in my life. ❤️

[@YuliaGrushevskaya-bi6he]

❤😊being there with love and warmth is not needy😊❤🎉 it is healthy 😊. But don't allow people to use your warmth love and sensuality against you, healthy relationships are never harmfull they are restoring protective ❤😊rewiring. ❤️ understand that we are all different we see and understand love differently but one may never hurt another😊

[@GuitarMatt]

Agreed! Too much overcompensation and victim blaming there. By trying to not be "too warm," I lost a few people I could have had a decade ago

[@Karlien68]

I am the more rebellious type. Lots of anger and acting out in toxic realtionships 😁

[@The1972maxim]

❤ Thank you. You gave me wings...you gave US wings...the little girl in me too❤

[@HabitualLover]

I don’t know why, but this video has nugget after nugget exactly for me. Oh, probably because this topic she’s done is my core problem… I forgot that’s exactly why I clicked to watch so quickly. I’ll definitely be saving this to watch again a few more times. :D

[@lisaaromano1]

I am glad it helps🪷

[@ElsaThal]

Thank you for sharing 🌻✨️🐝✨️

[@helentaylor8206]

Thank you so much Lisa for the valuable content. What you say makes so much sense. I’ve been searching for these answers for most of my life and feel so grateful to have found your channel. It manifested at the right time. You have used your traumas to transform and to inspire others to heal. Thank you so much for your help and example xx

[@justjosie8963]

Me too Helen. I think we could have spent 1000hours in therapy and not have gotten the value we are getting from Lisa's videos and a few other awesome yt-bers that have been where we have been.

[@Goldenheart2911]

Namaste 🙏😊❤️✨🕊️ Excellent video Lisa. I am right there with you and after everything I agree it feels 💯 great. 🤗 The healing path is grueling, humbling and eye opening, but it is 💯 worth it. 💛🎉

[@kimberlymccracken747]

I remember when I began to wake up and I began trying to communicate with my husband about relationship dynamics. He would give me this look like "what in the heck are you talking about?" But, it really seemed feigned - I felt he knew EXACTLY what I was talking about, but didn't want to own his part.

[@meetaitan]

I'm on road to emotional independence n Lisa you are my Guru.

[@rceliamendez]

Those two videos of you I learned a lot of myself and open my of child trauma .