9 WAYS YOU'RE SCREWING YOURSELF OVER AND MIGHT NOT EVEN KNOW IT/END SELF SABOTAGE

#selfsabotage #stopselfsabotage #personaldevelopment 9 ways you're screwing yourself over and might not even know it. Self-sabotage is often the result of subconscious faulty thinking and until we awaken to how we are sabotaging our lives, we repeat what we know, even if what we know is negative.
If you are looking for ways to end self sabotage, becoming aware of how you might be engaging in self sabotaging thinking and behaving is the first step.
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[@angelakh4147]

My mother was an adult child of an alcoholic and my father was an alcoholic. My mother and I lived with her sober alcoholic father and his angry codependent wife, my grandmother. How do you think I faired? Well, thanks to you and others, I am coming out of the darkness and into the light after 59 years. Better late than never! Thank you for all your hard work. You are saving us.

[@BeegirlsHoneyHouse]

Angela ~ Wishing you strength, perseverance, wisdom, focus, peace, joy and love…. I’m a 58 yof that’s from and lived a totally dysfunctional life… now alone, struggling to survive physically and financially, tribeless and heartbroken. I’m ferociously fighting to anchor and engage in the life I have left. Hang in there kindred sister‼️🌎💙🌀✌🏽🇺🇸

[@dampergoldenrod4156]

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[@sunnyadams5842]

I discovered it 2 years ago at 55. Much better now. As you say - better late than never!!

[@URFUTUREUK]

Bless you. I wish you a full recovery and healing.

[@TGUTTAExiT21]

Amen. Very awesome when we Awaken no matter what age or stage.

[@hissyfitz7890]

1. We let our (subconscious) fears do the choosing. 2. We depend on others for our sense of purpose. 3. We use distractions instead of dealing with our stuff. 4. We look to be rescued. 5. We become addicted ourselves (thoughts & others as well as objects & substances). 6. We stuff our emotions. 7. We push people away that challenge us (sign of trauma bond). 8. We lie to ourselves (why should “I” never change). 9. We falsely believe we can FIX OTHERS.

[@begonia3546]

Waking up is like turning a blacklight on & seeing a nest of narc scorpions where you never thought would be! Thank you Lisa! Im looking forward...

[@lisaaromano1]

Happ you are here .

[@amandamoe523]

Yes!!! 👍👍❤

[@deniseteceno5125]

Do narcs know they are narcs

[@saturdaythe12th89]

I love you Lisa

[@stanleymaestas5441]

@@lisaaromano1 yes lisa I do this, thanks 2 u, I realize this. I've also learned that in my codependency I infact enjoy being angry, self hating, failing. If I want something different I can choose happy. Self love, success. It's false to believe I don't have the power.

[@Pinkdiamond12]

I'm in my mid 30's, have 3 kids and just divorced a narcissist. You're such an inspiration to me. 💜

[@lennyluzitano8920]

Congratulations... remember.. don't let it happen again...learn from your bad abusive experience...Stay close to Jesus...best wishes from Lenny Luzitano..

[@stanleymaestas5441]

@@lennyluzitano8920 absolutely 💯 👌 ❤. Thank u 4 reminding me and encouragement. We are enough...it's not us, but our programming. We have the power to change the paradigm.

[@victoriaholler2949]

Love your videos, have been with you now a couple years. I can really relate to you and your family of origin. I am not codependent, I am an impatient. Was married to a MALIGNANT Abuse Narcissist, I knew something was off. But back then I didnt know to label the behavior.

[@victoriaholler2949]

Meant EMPATH.

[@victoriaholler2949]

I was put into the role by my mother of SCAPEGOAT, not a good place to be. My mother is also a Covert NARCISSIST

[@amandamoe523]

This is incredible! I needed to hear this more than words can say. I've been running on a hamster wheel my whole life as an only child, no dad, only mom. Trying to win her love, her approval. Dating men the same way, my whole life. Im finally reaching the point now where I'm exhausted and I can't make anyone appreciate me or my kindness, my running everyone around to all their appointments to the point where i dont have a day off work anymore. Not fair to me at all. Thank you Lisa⚘💕💕

[@stanleymaestas5441]

Same here, getting better 1% everyday

[@debk5325]

She is spot on. I need to hear her and be validated every week.

[@chazchillings3019]

Yes. I have realized my whole life has been fawning over people. Crazy.

[@jalindasimmons7342]

8 months out of my relationship with a narcissist of 37 years and I am finally beginning to see how it fits my childhood and why I married him. Thank God for getting me out. I am beginning to see the changes that I must make for my three teens and to be a better mother.

[@menotyou6254]

You’re already showing them by trying to break the paradigm it’s not falling down it’s getting back up that we have to show our children just like we taught them to learn to walk to ride a bike we have to relearn and you will be attractive and available to them and kids as we know do we show them that what we say so congratulations for you already being an awesome parental unit an awesome tour guide on planet earth for more souls that choose to come here. Stay Strong vulnerable available and compassionate congratulations again to you do you want something to change we begin with ourselves you’re a smart smart gal thank you

[@josephsmom3373]

My mother married someone she thought she could fix, over 50 years ago. She spent my entire lifetime complaining about him, raging, comparing herself to others, and feeling sorry for herself. I think she was jealous of the affection my father had for me. She doesn’t take responsibility for her part to this day. I now realize how much this has impacted my development and my relationships with men, in particular but with female friendships too. she involved herself in my love relationships and sabotaged me when I was below the veil and lived to please her. I’ve worked very hard to understand and change my part of the dance in relationships with men and also friends. I’m Feeling proud of that and am working to forgive myself for the mistakes I’ve made in relationships. You are right, you do manifest healthier people manifest in your life if you do the work on yourself and get healthier. It a silver lining toa very painful and lonely childhood and young adulthood. Enjoy and learn from your videos. Thank you.

[@lisaaromano1]

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[@juliea.]

This video is so true! I was always the woman set up with men with "problems," because I'm "nice," and can "fix," him. Not anymore! How many times have women heard: "Well, he just needs a good woman to whip him into shape!" Immediately the man's accountability and responsibility is put on the woman's shoulders...and they haven't even met yet. I am raising my son to be self sufficient and respectful. Women are being raised a lot smarter nowadays.

[@KayEnOhCoaly]

Lisa, thanks to your channel, your book, and podcast, I was able to leave a relationship with a very toxic covert narcissist! Everyday I wake up happy and hopeful again!! Thank you!!!

[@deborahwentworth8792]

I wish I had all this info 30 years ago.Thank you.never TOO late

[@caitrionakenny999]

A while ago, for the first time in my life I took criticism from someone I was dating and looked at it objectively. I am proud of myself because it's not that I can't accept criticism. It's that I struggle to accept that I made the mistake that led to the criticism. I'm trying to work on that but in childhood I had to be perfect. I struggle to know sometimes whether my thoughts and feelings are valid.

[@savyglam1703]

Its so hard to accept when your own mother or sibblings despise you! So painful! Letting go sounds easy, but how to shed light when no one sees the wrong and you feel wronged but dont know what to do....❤️‍🩹🤯even when we dare question things and want better finding the right support is a battle!

[@katherinemartin3591]

You have a real knack of explaining everything in such a clear way, so it becomes easy to identify the results of being a co-dependant and understand why we have allowed ourselves to be trapped in the self sabotaging situations we have unwittingly entered into. Your unfailing commitment to your work has enabled so many of us who wouldn’t normally have had the chance, to break free from self destructive relationships. Your teachings have had a profound effect on so many lives. Thank you so much ❤️🙏

[@suzannedawson4120]

My parents were older than most. They were both born in the EARLY 20th century. My mother raised me to believe that when a man came into my life or if I had the opportunity to have nice date, EVERYTHING was to go on the back burner. I was told that my friends would all understand if I canceled plans with them at the last minute when a man was in the picture. So much so, that when I explained this to my boss, after having a late night date and needing the time off, she flipped out and I was left feeling completely confused. I was only 20 but God only knows how utterly screwed up I was trying to navigate the 60’s, 70’s and 80’s. She did the best she could with what she had. Forgiveness can be a lifelong process. 😳🌺 Thank you, Lisa! Thank you for all your sound wisdom. Late in life for me as it is, these are still extremely valuable truths; those that I want to embrace for the rest if my life. I am very very grateful. 🥰

[@squarehammer4619]

Thank you Lisa for all you do for us. Without you, I don't know where I would be right now. I feel like I've been in a trance for years and now I'm finally waking up. I hope one day to meet you and thank you in person.🙂💙

[@sturobertson6791]

Great comment. My thoughts exactly. Well said Square Hammer

[@joycetodd8863]

well I got a lot out of Of this video. I had a mother like that and its affected me until I went into counseling and learned to get past it and the horrible things she did to me. Now im working on self love and trying to work out a relationship that is difficult. I need to make some changes but am just starting to discover who I am and where i want to be to find joy in my life. thank you so much for these videos'. I've already ordered one of your classes

[@missniki4890]

I manifested my ex husband and first major narcissistic relationship (outside of my mother) at the age of 11. He was the uncle of my then best friend and absolutely gorgeous. I remember telling my friend I'm going to marry your uncle when I grow up. Sure enough I married him at age 22. He was 35. An alcoholic. Drug addict. Extremely physically and verbally abusive. Cheated on me constantly, etc.. when he was nice he was very very nice and when he was mean he was a monster. I'm 51 and been divorced for 16 years. I'm still recovering from my mom, him and a slew of narcissistic relationship in between ranging from family members to casual acquaintances. Sometimes it feels I'll never escape the effects, tho I know I will because I feel my purpose is connected to the experiences I've lived thru. I appreciate your willingness to help us heal from these experience. You're a blessing 🌹

[@fireacross3249]

Now that I feel like my useful understanding of narcissism getting quite complete (thank you for your videos Lisa!!! Big part.) I feel like I stepped on the road of healing. The time arrived to put down my pointing finger and learn more about myself and my codependency and how to heal from it. I use your videos beside other sources. I love how you are always on point and would love to see more of your advice of how acually heal from codependency and how to recognise, stop and rewire unconscious patterns.

[@stayhappylittlemermaid]

Success is not the key to happiness. Happiness is the key to success. If you love what you are doing, you will be successful

[@theresefournier3269]

And if you love what you grow, yes, what you love, will grow!

[@aftabyounis4852]

The key to happiness is contentment.

[@theresefournier3269]

@@aftabyounis4852 Much appreciation, always!

[@josephsmom3373]

I’m on the brink of finding out. I’m making some big decisions in my career but in my gut, I know you’re right.

[@Aerodil]

Love your teachings; given to us for free as well. I can see the healing through your lessons and I appreciate it immensely. I cannot change others, but I can change myself for the better. I need the healing - been too toxic lately and not my self. Thank you Lisa.

[@stanleymaestas5441]

24:50:00 ding ding ding!!!! Yes lisa when I went through basic training we were told when undergoing corrective action. Focus on the issue, not the shame. Yes I still struggle with it but getting better. Healing is not linear unfortunately 😔

[@tammyfitzgerald5336]

😮😮😮😮😮🙏🏽🙏🏽🙏🏽🙏🏽💯💯💯💪

[@johnnycreighton29]

Been since middle of the night, middle of August 2016, when the narcissistic tendencies of the ex got me kicked out of HER HOUSE; how many years is that? I'm still trying to dig myself out of an economic, spiritual, & emotional hole. I struggle to not lose the will to live! I really have a hard time... I want to die. That's all. I have ZERO desire to ever date or have a friend. I trust no one.

[@tammyhoushour8070]

Johnny C. You are stronger than you think. God is bigger than all our problems and we can trust Him to go through everything with us good and bad He'll always be with us. The Narc and the devil wins when we don't love ourself enough to move on . You are worth it and can do it . 🙏

[@lisaaromano1]

THE LIGHT IS WITHIN YOU...LET NO ONE DIM IT...

[@theresefournier3269]

Hoping, with all my heart, that you feel and think... better, with the peace of Abba above, that surpasses all thoughts! Shalom

[@cindy7733]

Johnny, I feel the same way. Just want to withdraw from the world. Zero joy. Zero faith in others. You are not alone.

[@seahorse251]

@@cindy7733 yes. Same here.

[@allentempleton2429]

Can't wait to see this. No one has screwed themselves more than me as far as being in /staying in a narcissistic relationship than me. An easy way to stop screwing yourself is to just do the opposite of of what I've done. LOL.

[@Raymond-rr5iv]

It's too bad my comment fail to post. It was honest and unoffensive. I'm a survivor and I feel blessed to still be live. I don't know why they wouldn't post my comment.

[@marandawalker9370]

Well what did u say it says 3 replies but I see two

[@johnnycreighton29]

@@Raymond-rr5iv that your comment didn't post is simply what it is. No committee or person decides this. Might be the algorithm. Might be a "bug" in the system. No one to blame. But we're taught that something or someone SHOULD take the blame. Why is this?

[@lisaaromano1]

I hear you...I learned the hard way myself...

[@dustin1722]

Lol me too buddy me too

[@annaharris7515]

She's has described me, maybe I need help. However I have been trying to fix myself by getting a career and getting my kids to a place where they are happy and healthy.

[@esperanzavence7288]

Thank you for another banger, Lisa! I was definitely taught it was bad to express “negative” emotions, i.e. anything narcMom doesn’t want to hear. I’m in my 40’s now, and i don’t know if it’s because i’m getting over the flu& am too tired to care, but yesterday i did something small and simple that felt very freeing, maybe other commenters can relate? In the checkout line at grocery the worker kid said, “and how are you doing today?” And i bravely pushed all my midwestern conditioning aside and instead of my standard “pretty good, how bout you?”i felt like speaking true, so i replied “NOT good”. He looked up surprised to say the least 😂we both paused, then we giggled. It was a pretty fun and harmless little baby step, like for anybody who maybe wants to practice voicing their truth in a low-stakes setting. And the kid was very nice! He gave me my change and said “well i hope whatever’s not good goes better for you soon”. So thank you for all the hard work you put into all your videos, Lisa you are a Gem. The comments section helps me a lot, too. Hope this comment helps someone else! 💕🍻🤗🌈✈️

[@Butterfly-if1qs]

Wow.... A brilliant summary even in the first 3 minutes! I look forward to studying this video.

[@coachmark82]

You do good, Lisa. I've been subscribed for a little while and I appreciate how well you articulate these experiences with toxic people, and also articulate the healing process. It's hard to name these experiences, but when you do, you can tame it.

[@LivT04]

Re-defining my purpose. Thank you Lisa. I’m so happy to have found your channel. Finding my power with your help.

[@drnobody7934]

This lady looks amazing for 56 years old. Good god.

[@-melanie-1115]

Dear Lisa, you are amazing, I learned so much from you and I keep on learning.... I am wondering: could you maybe make a video about as a codependent always wanting to talk about her feelings and thoughts to her loved ones? Maybe because she thinks she needs them to process the thought, or she feels the need to be understood, of for another reason? The loved ones can be are so bothered by this and I do not know what to do to stop! Much love!

[@vocals7693]

Brilliant insight Lisa! You hit the nail on the head on so many levels. Arguing to stress a point is about as useful as trying to sway someones religious beliefs, unless as you said, they're open minded and have the ability to appreciate other points of view, but that's rare. Another thing that is rare is the ability to be able to cchabitate in a new relationship after 40. So many are preconditioned by negative input from their past that they shut the door on their future. It's a subconscious defense mechanism to keep people away no matter how nice they are or what value you hold in their life. It doesn't matter to them. So when you speak of the subconscious it resonated because people don't have the ability to step outside themselves to see how they are and how they behave towards others and therefore are unable to recognize and fix it. I myself can't find my way out of the neverending relationship hole. I'm a lead rock singer in bars and I have a bad habit of going with the first woman who shows interest and it's never worked out, because like you said, some people are rescuers and problem solvers. That's me. Here I am thinking I'm going to be the night in shining armor to save them from their past, but every time I fail. I feel like I'm running on a treadmill to nowhere and it's ruining my life. I'm as emotionally drained as the ones I'm trying to fix by being the 'nice guy'.

[@leanneb9111]

Thanks so much lisa.your teachings are so helpful. This one showed me that I have come far but still have a way to go.....your awareness is a gift.

[@Capriunicorn999]

It’s not a gift it’s a blessing !!!

[@roomforsquareassussman3478]

Being over fifty...and dating is harder than I once thought..I started listening to your talks over a year ago..I am single. In the last 2 yrs I've had 3 dating experiences..one worse than the other...2 scosiopaths 1 narc...short lived thank God ...one if these vampires was gonna kill me literally.. I outsmarted him and got away..ofcourse went no contact..obviously i need to make different and better choices..it may be a slow up hill journey..and I'm alone..but at least I'm learning to live myself in a healthy way..!!!!I want to thank you lisa ..you have helped me more than anyone..to understand myself and others..trying to be patient..and have started painting and making music in my time alone..to deal with the lonliness..and wonder if I'll ever find love..but ya know..its certainly better to be alone..than abused in any form.

[@1Galacticweek]

You can find a sea of love among abandoned children and those in need. Just reach out for them

[@chilloften]

I feel ya, cesspool of toxic bs out there, pretenders.

[@josephsmom3373]

You are not alone. I’ve had similar dating experiences. The last narcissist died just over 2 years ago of cancer. He tried everything to bring me down with him. Spend time with yourself and learn to enjoy it. Then, you might be ready for a relationship. I’m talking to myself too.

[@alysiahite12]

I never felt like a child. I was the oldest of 3 girls. I had too much responsibility at 10 years old. Mom worked and put all the responsibility on me at home with my sisters.😥

[@ErikaRodriguez-db5kg]

My soon to be ex-husband always told me that he wanted to divorce me every time he would become angry with me but then when he would come down the next day, he would tell me that he loved me. He did this for 35 years and would also give me a heads up to what his intentions were. When my oldest daughter moved out of the house, then he would tell me..."when we get divorced, I only have to give you child support for two". Then when my middle daughter moved out then he would say the same words again..."now that our middle daughter is gone." "I only have to give you child support for our smallest daughter". He had played this pattern for 35 years that when I told him that I was done with our marriage. Then he cried crocodile tears. You are so right about my narcissistic abuser soon to be ex-husband was pretending to love me but he didn't truly love. Your advice is so helpful and is going to help me heal my soul.

[@lilyghassemzadeh]

I think it doesn't even occur to a really healthy person that "Henry just walked past me and didn't say hi". As if they are psychologically blind to it.

[@vectorair1]

Wow. The counting, not feeling like I have a self, no direction, jump in and take responsibility, feeling desperately to be rescued and second guessing myself when he does something that feels wrong - if I get the courage to tell him dealing with his 30 minute defensive rant and I second guess myself.

[@Just_Hearts_NYC]

Side note: you look lovely and I’m loving the The glasses they make you look super smart and sassy 😎👓🥰👍🏼♥️

[@ladennayoung2939]

This is a good video. Thanks for sharing.

[@radzhurl8711]

Most enlightening ever, So many thanks Lisa, you r God sent

[@kathyperilloux1856]

This is it, "Guilt" unhealthy self imposed guilt.

[@hijones2968]

This is really hard to hear. Tough stuff, but thank you, dear Lisa! Processing this matters!

[@joebayless6177]

Thank you so much for sharing your experiences, rich pool of knowledge and selfless service on your channel.

[@johnsmith8848]

Amazing advice, so relatable

[@inhale.exhale.2527]

i have a 3☆ evaluation system of vids for review and this just got it's own 4☆. needs daily revisiting it carries so much insight. 🙏🙏🙏🙏

[@inhale.exhale.2527]

thanks for your heart. i am glad you saw my comment. such terribly hard won knowledge isn't it? i am 60 and these issues have utterly blighted my life. i am at the point of despair now finding myself utterly rootless. i have no homeland (it was pathologically toxic (racist)), no society nor community (i cut away from that, from my colonial origin, and from it's original source (england), no family of origin left because of their toxicity nor family of my own having been maliciously abused by my ex. all related issues i have truly struggled to comprehend, but this place it leaves me in ... now in a new country i have found to be so unwelcoming contrary to all expectation (sweden) ... it is truly devastating. what hope can i now have? can you see any? can you help me? kindly mentorship? i really need it. 🙏

[@inhale.exhale.2527]

ps. would you consider writing a collaborative book with me about this? there is a truly sinister sting in the tail too. 🙏

[@avrilsimonen7314]

I have watched so many of your videos Lisa the last few years which have been a great help. I have watched certain videos over and over, I just cannot seem to get the information stick in my head for longer than about an hour after watching! I know the theory how to get over codepdendacy, but boy puting it into practice feels so hard. Never going to give up. Thankyou.

[@BeegirlsHoneyHouse]

You’ve ruminated the patterns and beliefs and emotions for a lifetime… it’s woven into your fabric. Gorge on the material until it becomes a natural response. Wishing you a bold beautiful life‼️🌎💙✌🏽

[@jilllibertucci9304]

Yes. He is

[@heathermixson1265]

Thank you Lisa

[@Inkironnrum]

What a powerful message, Lisa! Your insight allows me to assess my situation through a secondary thought process. One that aligns with my default understanding yet one that allows me to stop and process new thought patterns and healthier awareness. I hope that made sense. The other day I was reflecting on self love. If we can harness a love for ourselves, at a level matching our love for another human being. We will then be free of seeking validation. We will love ourself enough to walk away from an abusive individual without falling into depression. Does your love for your partner match the love you have for yourself? I

[@maryara9841]

Thank you very much. I’m searching for how to improve myself and not to continue to beat myself up for the relationship choices that I made in my 72 years of my life. Thank you

[@fabiennepdt4898]

You gave me so much info, I had to stop the video at some point. I need to watch it again ASAP.

[@fabiennepdt4898]

Because of my childhood trauma, my narcissistic dad and codependent mum, I saw myself as a commodity, ready to provide others with narcissistic supply. I thought it was my duty to help and provide for friends, BF and family. What a wake up call!

[@jessicascreenwritingservices]

Thank you so much Lisa! Your videos and podcast and meditations are a huge part of my healing journey. Thank you again for all that you’re doing. 💕✨

[@katherynaearhart4060]

Thank you ,Lisa! So helpful,you are so smart and great with explanation. My question is: how to get subtitles with your speech ?

[@InfiniteHumanProductions]

Wow! Killing me softly with your words😩🙏❤️

[@tiablasangoriti8347]

Thank you Lisa for sharing these gems of wisdom.

[@nikkiona]

Oh my gosh, this really hit home for me

[@deb2319]

Awww that was a sad intro, sorry that u had to deal with that. I love your work it’s So Helpful 😇😇😇

[@sarahlaw4671]

Thank you Lisa. I absolutely needed to hear this and it couldn't have come at a better time. You've helped me understand why it has been so difficult to change and why I behave in so many unhelpful ways. x

[@llkellenba]

Reading about self sabotage being deaf to intuition as you’re talking about it…lol

[@sandydriscoll9247]

I’m so thankful for you. You help me so much. I’m not alone.

[@sheilamurry9875]

When a person is in need of help and support especially if the person's health is declining and I am in that inner circle giving the person their basic needs.I noticed alot of openings for other people to help and what I experienced was helping with complaining,in denial,had to work (but they had vacation pay), friends are with their significant others, medical team hiding in the shadows about certain topics brought up. So unfortunately and it's unfortunate that grown adults have to show their distain even more when I was there. They just hated the Jesus in me and was blinded by the light only to go back to there routines hopefully with conviction of how rude they all were

[@victoriaholler2949]

Potential to grow. Says it all!

[@iampstylesss]

Wow. I just want to say, I love watching your videos. They give me so much hope! I am an aspiring psychologist & this is giving me so much insight. I’m not even half way through this video but I just had to leave a comment. The jaw dropping moment when you say you’re driving & reciting license plates. That’s something that I do so often, it’s bad. I didn’t realize it was a emotional mental thing 😪 thank you Ms. Lisa Romano. I appreciate you more than you’ll know.

[@michellescalia2142]

So validating

[@Rodrigos.godoy86]

Thank you dear one! You've been helping us healing shedding a light for us.

[@beachboxrealty]

Very good! Process emotions.

[@beuvelain]

This has been great help! Thank you!

[@stevef4010]

Wow Lisa, you're 56? You look amazing.

[@hugmc]

A adult is product off childhood we are programmed robots 🤖 so much work to be done too heal but we get there 😃

[@Hispanictexaswoman]

It's never too late to try to be a better person, as long as our hearts are still beating. 🙂

[@americanpatriotism1776]

Honestly....you've been a big help for me. Thank you!!!

[@sharynnmcgee9684]

You are beyond amazing Lisa. You inspire me so much.

[@anaitovsepyan7427]

Thank you Lisa, really appreciate your help. By your videos you give a key to so many people to freedom

[@kingawalorska3722]

Amazing film 🙏 plenty of important advices. So many points, which I can recognise in me. Thank you so much ❤ you make me feel less freak and different than the rest of people.

[@kq1613]

Brilliant 💙💙💙

[@chazchillings3019]

Sound advice. Start to finish.

[@reginap942]

My mother loves? me when I am not doing well or not much at all. I had to learn how to hide my accomplishments or luck

[@hml7391]

Is it normal that I really don’t crave the connection with both my mother and father, what I truly feel is that they disgust me and I just want to stay away from them!!

[@EzequielMartin55vf]

Me too bro

[@PrimordialChaos07]

Lisa, I enjoy and learn so much from your sessions, and even though I feel I have come a long way I know I have a long way to go in my healing journey. Thank you.

[@StarMarTV365]

Thank you for sharing your thoughts. You are amazing ❤

[@tiablasangoriti8347]

Your work is so helpful. It seems like we grew up in the same family Lisa. Wow!

[@zthealchemist]

I’m afraid of every relationship I have. I trust no one. Now I’m left with just myself. I’m not sure how to heal being 18 and still living with those who wounded me. Any advice?

[@activelifeg5237]

You a baby I’m 26 , continue healing and learn not to open up . Learn social skills how to social with people

[@EzequielMartin55vf]

Same here and l'm turning 20. I feel like lt's too late ppl have no clue how we feel.

[@StarMarASMR]

You are incredible thank you.

[@missniki4890]

I'd love to know more about your program.

[@beckymichel1845]

I always learn valuable information that I can add to my personal growth from your videos. Thank you!!!

[@loddyism]

Thank you so much.

[@svetlanadragicevic4968]

In my case it was completely different as it comes about friends. While I saw red flags and wondering, my so-called friend said; oh no, you are sensitive, he is probably ok. When he did the horrible mess of my life and I finally cut him off and was in state of shock, she was like; - oh he wasn't that bad, maybe if you should have been different. ... and later, oh come on, get it over with, turn the page (in the moment I just discovered connection; my narc mother, couple of narc exes..) . Well, she is the ex friend with the reason.

[@menotyou6254]

Thank you 🙏🏽

[@davidkyle2073]

Wonderful

[@Flaminhotmo247]

💚💚💚 thank you!!! You’re amazing 😇

[@iraidushka]

@Lisa A. Romano Breakthrough Life Coach Inc. Thoroughly enjoyed listening to this video. A different topic - I though you were in your 40’s. You look very good 👍😃

[@triciadreas9835]

Thank you so much 💓

[@oatisb.driftwood8513]

You just described my mother. She has ran off every woman I've ever had any interest in. My mother is excessive compulsive. 1 of some thing just isn't enough. Is hard to handle.

[@Guiltyangel605]

I adore your content ❤❤❤❤❤❤❤❤❤

[@frankiepatron9834]

Tears Thankyou

[@zthealchemist]

Than you

[@constanzesophiem9132]

love you

[@Vercanya]

One of the reasons I chose my second boyfriend was because my first boyfriend had cheated on me. I was subconsciously thinking that the 2nd one could never cheat on me because he was ugly and uncharismatic. Turns out that he was a covert narcissist who used his nonthreatening facade to lure in and abuse women.

[@cindyc]

🤗❤👍so relatable

[@SilentFigure1]

U look fabulous WOW. U and Ross Rosenburg should collaberate. He really get's it.

[@tld-q9n]

my mother hated me and told me so many times.