Never Get REJECTED Again: Understand the Rules of the Game

[@Manggilik]

Have you ever thought why you have this fear of rejection? It's just you have selfish intentions. When you want to ask a girl out or even compliment her, what you really want to do is to make yourself feel good and just use girl for your own desires. That's focus on you. It's all me me and me. What i advise you to do is to completely forget about yourself, focus on girl, have sincere intentions to make her feel good with your genuine compliment. In fact for girls it's flattering when a guy asks them out, even if she rejects you, you made her feel good about herself. And when you sincerely want to make the other person happy, you just simply cant fear, because you are doing a good thing. How can you fear to make someone happy???

[@sarvitalks7522]

I don't know why but I just started crying towards the beginning of this video. the part where you said "No matter what somebody says I'm still alive" for some reason I guess my soul really needed to heart that. Thank you

[@khalfehoopstar]

didnt mind my last rejection, cause it was a learning experience. but of course i felt crappy but for very little time.

[@kershaw1450]

when you get "rejected," its them rejecting the fake image of you in their head, not the actual you. There rejecting you because of their own insecurities, or in the other case they just don't think ur hot,confident enough for them.IMO.

[@MrJackaquack]

Or they just don't like you

[@MAGNETO-i1i]

We must realize there is no good or bad outside of our heads, then we will feel so much better about EVERYTHING!

[@MandyPlaysPiano]

I'm a girl. And this message I find is really powerful to deal with something I'm currently going through. Instead of searching endlessly through videos aimed at understanding the actions of men, I am realising how helpful it is to embrace the actual mindset of a guy for my own purpose. And basically, start dating like a guy! Thank you :)

[@NateSpurs]

Read Zan Perrion's The Alabaster Girl.

[@rightangle4]

An essential key to learn in this new paradigm is transcending duality

[@jonathonpatrick840]

Great advice Shogo, There's a refreshing honesty to your video's man- no ego or bullshit involved. I wish you'd make some more!

[@randomnumbers84269]

Recent subscriber here. Really powerful ideas. Thanks for letting them out.

[@vikaskarawadra560]

This some really amazing advice, honestly I haven't heard good advice like this in a long time.truly.

[@duo8110]

changing lives as we speak

[@latent1234]

Neither thing is good or bad, only thinking makes it so - Shakespeare

[@ThisIsBoomerTV]

Great explanation!

[@Badboyifier]

I can image one can develop this mindset, this way of living the world instead of the one portrayed and constructed for us by the media... ..if one has grown up besides the Dalai Lama or around those circles, I dont get how you dont get twisted along the way? This is certainly purity

[@weirdeccentriccreep]

I just found your KZbin and I love hearing what you gotta say bro! Really inspirational.

[@Hobbies305]

Shogo you're a complete genious.

[@tomjones2819]

Hi Shogo, thanks for your video and effort. However, in my experience it does not work this way. You cannot "think" yourself out of feeling bad about rejection. I have read pretty much all the reframes about this topics there are, so your ideas were not really new to me. The only thing that works is exposure and practicing rejection. And even then, I still feel the sting at times.

[@shogogarcia]

Hi Tom, thanks for sharing your experience as well. I think you are correct that what I'm talking about in this video is perception, but it's not about changing one's perception, or "reframing". It's about seeing perception itself. The weakness in reframing, as I understand the concept, is that those exercises fail to show that any "reframe" our minds can produce has itself come out of a previous frame. With reframing we can never fully overcome our perception of anything, because the kind of an exercise itself relies on whatever previous frame is set in our minds. We have never let go of the first frame that gives birth to any and all subsequent frames. This is the illusion. It's like coming up with all kinds of ways to improve the lighting in a room when the real source of the issue is that we are wearing sunglasses. What you are talking about in "exposure" and "practicing rejection", that deals with overcoming the initial fear of a unknown or scary situation we may find ourselves in. That is also an interesting topic, but a completely different one that I don't think has to do with this video.

[@danielloch5314]

Love your video's man. Keep up the great work!

[@EEnrighteousAyusoyolo]

dude ur on the same level of life as i ... so life lessony

[@Phenumas]

Hey, like always love your videos. I have few question. How tall are you? Im 5'10 and it is really one of the biggest concerns about my look, the only thing that just gets in the way of my self confidence. Any tips on this dilema? :/

[@MrJackaquack]

5'10 is around the average height for a guy. Being that height is not beneficial, nor a setback. Don't worry too much about it :)

[@motardbrah7768]

Are you telling me you feel self conscious about your height even when hanging around girls that are 5'2"?

[@HeavenlyH3R0]

Your height is perfect. Its a height that commonly causes people to be fearful of being too short tho , as you're just shy of 6 foot. But dont let it get to you! You're awesome dont forget it

[@BEARZAIS]

hey 5'10 i great!!! dun feat over it , i am 5'8 , trying to build muscles with wide hips, just trying to live as well as possible,plus i got rejected recently....Maybe because she is 5'7 :/ .....just trying to live as well as possible..

[@js83]

Dude there are 5'5 guys that would kill to be 5'10...get that nonsense out of your head

[@johnbasha8561]

hey shogo can you say some thing about a guy "who faces every time failures, loses everything what he had"

[@MrJackaquack]

Hey Shogo. Nice vid. Can you do a vid on long-term relationships?

[@shogogarcia]

What do you want me to talk about in long-term relationships?

[@MrJackaquack]

*long distance. Sorry

[@iPlatano07]

Once you get rejected act like it doesn't hurt you even though you're dying inside. Go away from her/his life, meet, new people and never talk to them unless they initiate the conversation. Dont show weakness by posting stuff on social media that has to do with love. Act like just normal and dont try to get her/him back while talking. Just let her/him do all the flirting since they were the one who dumped you first. Hope that helps my friends.

[@justinmckenzie9851]

hey iv I had a crush on this girl named wemdy and she showed me all the signs she liked me and then on the last day of school she rejected me and felt like SHIT and she goes to my high school now she still tries to make me fall for the same fucken trap when she kept looking at me constantly I'm like ughh rolled my eyes and shit she has a bf I'm like wtf I just ignore sometimes it makes me want to hate soo bad for what she done to me and make her suffer the same shit she did to me and she hangs out with alot of guys oml its fucken horrible now I only see her as a ugly girl I'm like ewe she ugly AF I can't believe I fell for her BTW that was when I was shy and I'm not anymore cuz I learned my mistake tho but I also learned my lesson to be confident about my self and im still single but idc anyways

[@justinmckenzie9851]

+iPlatano07 true lol

[@iPlatano07]

Dating is all about numbers anyways. You just need to escalate physically little by little and you watch how reacts to them. Remember to never be seen as if you're more into her than she is into you.

[@justinmckenzie9851]

+iPlatano07 yea it would be funny if a girl a was like ur not my type and the guys is like what are thosse

[@iPlatano07]

+justin mckenzie Lmaoo. A great channel that I recommend you to follow is "Corey Wayne Coach" that dude is awesome.

[@alarmedone5983]

thanks, man I was having a hard time and you helped me thanks!

[@lyomon9981]

it depends on the interest

[@ProfessorTime]

If I ask for a woman's number and she turns me down, I just smile and say, "Your loss" and casually walk away as if her rejection meant NOTHING to me. 9 times out of 10 this completely devastates and demoralizes the girl because now SHE feels rejected and you look like the "winner" of the encounter. Try it out.

[@ssimon8719]

+Professor Polymath Hehe, i see what you did there Professor! XD ... ..Have to try that out O.o

[@tomasmoresco]

It's really funny because the title says 'The Rules of the Game', but Social Generation's motto is 'No rules. No games. Just you'

[@RustyFiReWorKs]

You look like my dentist o.O lol great vid man.

[@Carmen_Ragusa]

your awesome! this made me feel better :)

[@raginggamers6270]

This is my first time asking a girl out,how bad is this response."you're very nice but I'd rather not yet".

[@szymusanonimowy2006]

That is soooooooooooooooooooo true. Thx mate.

[@justinmckenzie9851]

good vid bro

[@heyyyitssabrina]

brilliant

[@pops1pops178]

Redstrip beer

[@gio957]

Does rejection even exist?

[@realnigga7107]

Depends on your perspective and how u think like he said