What is the most awkward social interaction you've ever had? comment below- we've all had them
@mack30092 ай бұрын
Me with the girl i liked :(
@sadville132 ай бұрын
When you ask someone an open ended question and they answer bluntly and don't continue the conversation or ask you in return.
@user-uc8zh5me5u2 ай бұрын
They do it everytime!
@yangnitsu2 ай бұрын
when you are speaking clearly but the other person asks you to repeat yourself more than once
@danieru_risu2 ай бұрын
Girl came up to me and interrupted my piano practice to stare blankly with no expression nor a hi and expected me to carry. I probably should have but that was the last thing I wanted to do in that moment.
@lordcypher5889Ай бұрын
As a Weather Forecaster, talking about the weather is a completely valid option.
@simplereally.Ай бұрын
I’ll give you that one for sure lol Appreciate you and thanks for watching-
@zamirtachackvalencia12123 күн бұрын
Haha that's another level and I'm up to. I am an enthusiast in Meteorology and I commonly say things like "How beautiful is the weather today" when it's broken and the people doesn't understand what is the beauty that I see haha
@creativeaxolotlАй бұрын
Heres the main points of ths video for everyone who wants to sum it up: -you cam leave a conversation if you want, they dont all have to be successful and its ok to leave if its super akward and uninteresting (I would only do this after trying the other strategies in the video) -ask questions, especially ones that will have an emotional connection with the other person (its important to mention that if you just met this person, dont get to vulnerable (as in trauma) as they may not want to talk about and will feel akward) -attempt to connect over shared interests or ask someone about their interests (I find its easier to do this when you ask them questions in a shared environment, for example of youre both a on a sport team ask them what they like about it or how long theyve been playing) -its ok to tak pauses! Thry aren't as akward as you think and it can give you a good amount of time to naturally ask questions You can't expect every social encounter to be every thing you were hoping it would be, but its important to keep going at it, as thats how youll get used to it abd build tons of social skills.
@simplereally.Ай бұрын
appreciate you watching and helping others with the short notes version! let's make it a good year-
@creativeaxolotlАй бұрын
@@simplereally. Thanks for making the video!!
@MichaelC-to7uzАй бұрын
You got that right!
@chanrapeesooksawee557518 күн бұрын
Thx man
@cholpon2good2 ай бұрын
I’m a 100% extrovert until it comes to people that i feel they don’t like me or crushes so tysm i didn’t knew the « techniques » 😭
@simplereally.2 ай бұрын
Glad you found some value here! Appreciate you watching, next video is out tomorrow with more value-
@biaotochАй бұрын
this!!
@imgoodkindaАй бұрын
Well I wish I was an extrovert but I still can't stop being nervous talking to people
@Saifshaikh-sk5fv12 күн бұрын
Ok showoff-
@emeraldchat14 күн бұрын
"Do not carry the weight of an entire conversation on your shoulders" couldn't be any truer. Any conversation, be it face to face, an online chat or video chat, is always dynamic. Its kind of like a dance between talking and listening, not one is more important than the other.
@argonman42902 ай бұрын
I turned into a conversational master one time coming down off of a shroom trip, never felt more alive, this video pretty much summed up how I talked, making connections between things and expanding on them, I have been kinda trying to reach that level of conversing since then with limited success, but this video really dissected my experience and made me understand better what I was doing, thank you for this insightful and very well put together video. you sir, have earned another subscriber
@simplereally.2 ай бұрын
appreciate you my friend! interesting to hear some parallels from different experiences. Let's make it a good year, yeah?
@argonman42902 ай бұрын
@@simplereally. lets hope so buddy :)
@behindthepie94302 ай бұрын
The comedown is always my favorite part, when everything feels like it is exactly where it belongs. I understand exactly what you're talking about. Though keeping the lesson throughout daily life is the difficult part.
@argonman42902 ай бұрын
@@behindthepie9430 tell it like it is brother
@mesmedorАй бұрын
Had a similar experience! Came down off of a trip and had the most relaxed and friendly conversation with an old lady at a bus stop. I usually don't ever talk to strangers in public lol.
@xoxnataiie2 ай бұрын
wow, i don’t have awful social skills, i just don’t give myself time to think of questions or responses. yipee!!!😍😍
@Vile_D2 ай бұрын
I'm afraid there's a bit of comment in your sarcasm madam 😎
@simplereally.2 ай бұрын
awesome to see you again my friend! appreciate you like always, keep me posted on your progress so we can celebrate together-
@xoxnataiie2 ай бұрын
@@simplereally. i know this was probably for the other person replying but thanks i will :3
@8yanna9 күн бұрын
Same at my big age
@silentlywisperwinky9319Ай бұрын
i'm an anbivert (more leaning to extroverted) but i keep reminding myself ''oh if i get nervous they'll be able to tell'' and social anxiety goes dskadkaskdas but then i remind myself they may be nervous as i am, and honestly getting tips and help have been huuuge help
@simplereally.Ай бұрын
great insight! you are right, most people are just as or even more nervous. keep practicing and it will start to become much more natural. wishing you all the best-
@vico_dinnerАй бұрын
did you make up that term anbivert? sounds like an excuse for poor socialization like "muh autism" or something
@derpinheimer29932 ай бұрын
copying another channel is easy, actually
@crimson.11112 ай бұрын
i noticed that too bro😭
@Komi_Is_My_Name2 ай бұрын
Its fine if you are just starting and you'll slowly find your own style. So, no pressure on that.
@derpinheimer29932 ай бұрын
@@Komi_Is_My_Namei get what you mean, but, his user is “simple really” while all of his videos end with “easy actually” so i dont think believe hes actually trying to create his own brand i think hes just trying to steal clicks when people search up “easy actually”
@asgacc87892 ай бұрын
@@derpinheimer2993 while that last part may be true. I appreciate that he provides good value in his content as well so it's still a win for me as a viewer
@rudrakanekar46372 ай бұрын
Bruh hes just making them seo friendly, otherwise the vids wont show up on ur feed @@derpinheimer2993
@cheesncrocos2 ай бұрын
Im definitely a better listener than I am at asking questions.
@xan1872 ай бұрын
i genuinly don't think asking questions is a skill, it all depends on how much youre actually interested in a person, if you ask what you actually care about then it's easy
@user-jq9xf6vi8k2 ай бұрын
asking questions is part of listening. If you're just standing there while someone is talking you might as well be a wall
@simplereally.2 ай бұрын
that's great insight, if you GENUINELY care / are interested in a convo, asking questions becomes natural because it is your own curiosity. in my line of work, the skill comes in how a question is asked, timing, pace, tonality etc. But as you said, the genuine interest in a conversation is the biggest driver in being a good conversationalist
@cheesncrocos2 ай бұрын
@@user-jq9xf6vi8k you're definitely right about that
@Backbite1242 ай бұрын
@@user-jq9xf6vi8kyour so right. You feel like you can’t even engage in a proper question with people like that. I have better conversations in my head.
@Myocardium1039Ай бұрын
If you smile to them, laugh and nod, they automatically continue the conversation without you saying anything. - introvert.
@simplereally.Ай бұрын
can relate, but it is funny to think how powerful those three things can be! appreciate you watching, much more value coming VERY soon-
@bumpajumper11322 ай бұрын
One of the most important lessons to learn when communicating with someone, anyone, is how you talk. Delivery is key. You have to be confident that whatever you're talking about is the best thing since sliced bread then watch how the conversation flows thereafter. Oh, and what's just as important as opening and maintaining a conversation is how you close it. Remember to not linger on anything for too long, lest it goes stale.
@simplereally.2 ай бұрын
I agree with you! Most of the time, it's not what you say but how you say it. appreciate you watching and adding your insight, should help more people build the skill!
@dusanstojsin49382 ай бұрын
I actually got made fun of for the whole "pause" thing you were talking about, people were telling me stuff like "Oh, bro's lagging!" and "Bro has high ping LMAOOOOOO!" when I try to pause for a few seconds before giving an answer. I don't know how some of these mfs answer a question the millisecond after they hear it, I can't even do that if someone asks me "What's your name?"
@simplereally.2 ай бұрын
"you will never be criticized by someone doing more than you" is a saying that comes to mind. There is a vocal / speaking coach I have learned a lot from - Vinh Giang. He has a youtube channel with good content on it. He talks about the pause a lot. just like any other skill, takes practice. Keep at it and you'll get it my friend
@sObad3672 ай бұрын
me when mofo asks my age (i forgor and now need to subtract the year of birth from the current year)
@simplereally.2 ай бұрын
@@sObad367 🤣🤣
@firewolf71082 ай бұрын
Tell them it just means you are smarter, more respectful, and a better listener then them :D
@simplereally.2 ай бұрын
@@firewolf7108 😆🤣
@Nyx309Ай бұрын
I don’t know if it’s just me, but I’m an introvert on top of being detached from everything, I barely go out with people or meet my relatives, so I have little to no experiences to share and I end up feeling that I have nothing to talk about, it’s a never ending loophole but hopefully I get over that soon
@chloehall628Ай бұрын
Throw yourself into your hobbies, and try to find people that help support those hobbies. I feel very safe in environments where someone I'm talking to and I are both knowledgeable on a subject and working towards the same goal. Helped me gain confidence and get practice.
@simplereally.Ай бұрын
It is very hard to tell stories when there aren't any stories to tell. Would you be ok if you didn't have anything to share when it's all said and done? I agree with @chloehall628 , find environments that are aligned with you and your interests and start there. That's the easiest place to practice. Keep me posted on your progress, I want to see how it goes! Appreciate you and your input @chloehall628 , it will definitely help people!
@isabahlalaАй бұрын
you are not the only one dude that’s exactly how i am. I feel like since i’ve lived no life to begin with, it’s hard to go on and try to seem like a cool person to others especially when they’ve all done so much and I haven’t done anything cool or interesting ever
@rossinanterose829Ай бұрын
that's insanely true, when i see people around my age they have infinite more experiences/responsability and knowledge about life that i will ever get so i just got nothing to say at all
@natalytito2269Ай бұрын
@@slapshotjack9806 Im sorry for what youre going through, but I think you are refering to another topic right now. In your case, these friends of yours dont invite you to hangouts but the original comment was talking about being detatched from everything. My advice would be to reconsider this group of friends because if you were actually valued by them, you wouldn't miss a single one of the planed trips and going outs. If i understood well, the problem you have is not general. You just need to be surrounded by people who respect and value you :)
@ajaxyw2 ай бұрын
Felt like more of a guide on "how to interview someone", but it was great.
@simplereally.2 ай бұрын
that's a way you could look at it. but a STRATEGIC interview :) appreciate you watching
@thejakejake3212 ай бұрын
Dude, youre awesome. Been in my head about communicating (although I'm a extrovert) as I worry about what to say next. Stay blessed!
@simplereally.2 ай бұрын
appreciate you man! you got this. once you understand how conversations are constructed (as weird as it sounds) you can lead it where you want-
@haydengamino97562 ай бұрын
That little nugget at the end was fucking golden. Both the responding and leveraging of emotion and the example of flirting. Make the flirting video now. You are the only person I have found online to break it down in a manner that can be applied.
@simplereally.2 ай бұрын
glad you found value here! will add it to the list, have some other projects that are in the works as we speak. appreciate you-
@pojaki962 ай бұрын
from someone who is really bad from a social standby, just say some random things i mean be yourself and see if people match you, then don't change for someone , keep yourself as yourself
@simplereally.2 ай бұрын
You are one of a kind my friend. Appreciate you and your insight. I’m sure it has helped someone’s perspective!
@simplereally.2 ай бұрын
You are one of a kind my friend. Appreciate you and your insight! I’m sure it has helped someone else-
@salikaziz62672 ай бұрын
Only laziness can beat you. Even if your growth is not as fast as other channels, make sure to keep believing and keep posting because i believe in you ❤️
@simplereally.2 ай бұрын
losing to laziness will not happen 🔥 Appreciate you and your comment, made my day!
@SorinoirАй бұрын
Usually my only problem is i fear I'll say some creepy shit or something no-one in the world thinks or agrees on except me. And so i might forever ruin any further attempt at conversation with them this way.
@ll-zy5okАй бұрын
reall
@simplereally.Ай бұрын
I can relate, I used to feel the same too. might be some "out there" nonsense but when you really know yourself and have a good relationship with yourself, that cures that fear. There have been multiple times in life where I've said a joke I genuinely thought was HILARIOUS to a group. and they looked at me like they heard the dumbest joke ever. Doesn't change how I feel about the joke, I still laughed because it was something I believed in and made me laugh. So why would I change how I feel about it based on someone else's opinion? Told it again in a different circle and they loved it. No matter what, someone wont like you / your view. As long as it's true to you, one person not liking what you have to say doesnt matter at all. wishing you all the best my friend, appreciate you watching
@wooyoungsdoormat3853Ай бұрын
these are really the most important key advices you gave. can assure that from personal experience
@simplereally.Ай бұрын
Appreciate you and your feedback! Glad to know it helped in your own experience. All the best-
@stankman15632 ай бұрын
"because you are human" woke me up.
@simplereally.2 ай бұрын
I'm all for hearing what you need to hear.. but sometimes you need to give yourself some grace. appreciate you watching-
@user-uc8zh5me5u2 ай бұрын
When I tried to ask questions to continue a dialog, it rapidly became boring, just like question bombing.
@hottomek7423Ай бұрын
I really appreciate this man. I am 18 and have literally no friends. I graduated early from highschool and never really connected with anyone. I am heading to college this month. Hope this helps. Thanks again.
@simplereally.26 күн бұрын
Appreciate you my friend glad you found some value here! Much more coming soon, thanks for watching-
@zleepy_zigАй бұрын
man, you have no idea how much valuable information this has. i dont comment much on videos, but i felt the need to here. i always feel like the only way i can barely attempt to keep conversations going is by either, 1: trying to be funny or sarcastic, which usually doesn’t last long, or 2: talking about how awkward the conversation is, which, at a certain point, gets boring for me to talk about over and over. i never knew how to ask questions about the other person’s topic, but this truly helped me feel more confident in my conversation skills. i didnt realize that you could ask a question more directed at how they feel about the subject. thank you. i will be using this for my future conversations.
@simplereally.Ай бұрын
Appreciate you my friend and thanks for watching! Glad you found some value here, and more coming tomorrow- Wishing you all the best on your continued journey
@hxmohd2 ай бұрын
I can't describe how much i needed this. I went through your channel to find more useful videos like this, which did meet my expectations, but one thing I didn't except is the amount of subscribers you have, given how great your style, sense of humor and way of explaining things are. it's simple, really 😁
@simplereally.2 ай бұрын
thanks for your comment, made my day! I'm glad you found some value here, more on the way soon- anything you would like to see a video on in the future?
@argerco2 ай бұрын
quite possibly the most underrated video ive watched. value from this was unparalleled 🙌🙌
@simplereally.2 ай бұрын
i'm glad you found value here! appreciate you, next video will be out soon-
@just_mdd42 ай бұрын
I am not going to sleep on bro's channel! 🗣️🔥🔥🔥 I am investing! 🤑🤑🤑
@simplereally.2 ай бұрын
appreciate you watching and glad you got some value! next video in the works, you'll get a lot from it 🔥
@nelsonguo22 ай бұрын
Im an extrovert and I still found I sometimes have surprisingly poor convo skills that leave lasting impressions and I really liked the little drawing tidbits during the verbal explanation (especially the constant callback to the subscribe jokes). I'll subscribe because I want to "let you know I've received value from you" to use your exact words. The 3rd layer of responding to an "underlying message" seems a bit difficult to incorporate/understand at the moment, but awesome to see how unaware I was of this
@simplereally.2 ай бұрын
as long as you received value, that is what counts. If needed, focus on the basics before moving on to the underlying messages. Once the basics become natural, the rest is much easier
@bassamabduallah6476Ай бұрын
man you are the first youtuber ever to make subscribe through hinting or asking ever
@simplereally.Ай бұрын
Gotcha ;) as long as you found value here, that’s what matters Appreciate you my friend and thanks for watching-
@swindle66442 ай бұрын
Thanks for this. I'm talking to this girl right now i knew back in high school, and this had some good advice.
@simplereally.2 ай бұрын
takes some practice to master it, so try and use every conversation you have to improve. You got this 💪
@swindle66442 ай бұрын
@@simplereally. thanks man
@cravingfriedrice22 күн бұрын
The first thing I do is ask the other person if they play genshin, star rail, prosekai, draw, stuff I like etc. If they don’t, then ask them what they do in their free time. Ask more questions about themselves until you find something you both have in common. e.g. you both like reading books or stuff like that then talk about that hobby
@TheOGRokma2 ай бұрын
BEST social advice ever oh my god thank you🙏
@simplereally.2 ай бұрын
Glad you found some value here! Next video is out tomorrow, should add to this in life. Appreciate you watching-
@seenitlikeditlovedit2 ай бұрын
you will blow up the real always beats out the fake and your content is some of the best and actually informative I have seen in a hot minute
@simplereally.2 ай бұрын
you leaving this comment is amazing, grateful for you! next video is out on monday, you will love it-
@KimberlyFaith260Ай бұрын
Oh my gosh, I need this. I am a seasonal camp counselor for high schoolers, and I'm 20 and by far the most difficult part of the job is just talking to the students during our "in-between" times, like during our meal times and the times we transition between activities. I was told this year to incorporate our power skills terminology as much as possible, so I took that to a T (being a task-oriented introvert that takes everything too literally), but realized that none of my team was interested in anything I had to say the entire time. In previous years, I did what you said in here and the results were so much better! I will definitely need this preparing for my next camp, so hi future me. And thank you sir for making this so I know how to improve rather than beat myself up, haha.
@simplereally.Ай бұрын
I’m glad to hear you found some value here! Seems like you already knew what to do, just needed a little reminder. You got this! Appreciate you caring about how you make an impact in the world too-
@zart847819 сағат бұрын
Hey, Gumball Waterson's dad, Richard, met his wife and made conversations using the toddler method when they were younger. So this definitely works.
@mich19702 ай бұрын
The psyop example to make me subscribing worked ahah. Apart from jokes, really nice video
@simplereally.2 ай бұрын
appreciate you lol and appreciate the feedback! will continue to improve for everyone. next video will be out asap-
@carterlevy9895Ай бұрын
For the first part of this video I was zoned out (in my own head). Then he said "you are in your own head" and I realized I was. He is too good
@simplereally.Ай бұрын
Appreciate you my friend and thanks for watching! Glad you found some value here, and more coming tomorrow-
@JohnTavastian2 ай бұрын
So I have this coworker who is a bit of an introvert. He isn't the type to start a conversation. I'm also an introvert but I would describe myself as a social introvert. I can make up conversation when I want to. Well I was feeling a little bored one day so I struck up a conversation with him. We talked about stuff and at one point he mentioned that he likes videogames. I used to spend a lot of my time playing games but for the past two years I have barely played anything. I asked what kind of setup he had and the specs for his computer. The funny thing is that I know nothing about computer parts. Needless to say I didn't understand a word. But I kept it going. I made him do all the talking and asked small questions here and there. In the end I got to know a lot about him. Pretty cool dude. You really don't even need to know anything about that topic, just use any small piece of information you know.
@simplereally.2 ай бұрын
crazy thing is he probably loved the conversation and left thinking you were a great conversationalist... even though you weren't the one talking lol. Great example man, appreciate you watching and giving your insight. I'm sure it has helped someone else as well-
@ggthewhale2 ай бұрын
4:45 Letterman's original response could have been better, but he was on the right track. You can't keep asking questions or turn the spotlight completely on yourself after the 2nd question and ignore what the other person has to say. You should say something that acknowledges what the other person says THEN follow up with another question. So imo this is how the conversation should have gone - "Where are you from?" - "Wilmington, Delaware." - "Ah, I don't know many people from Wilmington. Tell me about the place, what's the thing you like most about Wilmington?" - "(river)" - "(river follow up)"
@simplereally.2 ай бұрын
appreciate you watching and giving some feedback and insight! most likely can help someone improve their skills even more.
@imgoodkindaАй бұрын
I thought that high school was gonna give me some hope on getting friends. I guess not. I'm going to college and it's my only hope, but it's probably gonna be me lonely again.
@karenramirez694624 күн бұрын
I came cause I'm an introvert 😂 and for Taylor as well
@ihavenotalent28016 сағат бұрын
I am an extrovert, I don't know why this was suggested to me 😄
@Saifshaikh-sk5fv12 күн бұрын
As an extrovert i agree on the content and also i sub consciously follow this methods so yea it's quite accurate
@pianopuppy09914 ай бұрын
this guy is rly good with his words, can u write my thesis?
@simplereally.4 ай бұрын
since your profile picture made me laugh.. we can talk about writing your thesis lol
@pianopuppy09914 ай бұрын
@@simplereally. so my plan is simple, lie on my resume, u write a brillinant essasy, and getting into an ivy.
@simplereally.4 ай бұрын
then we take over the world. its fullproof
@pianopuppy09914 ай бұрын
@@simplereally. and after that, the stars, and the whole galaxy will bend to our will.
@simplereally.4 ай бұрын
fate has brought us here. We can't lose.. and it starts with the ivy league
@elisal318Ай бұрын
Never running out of things to say can actually be a bad thing too. Guys specifically think if they make themselves smart and share how much they know or how much they achieved, or their controversial opinions they are going to win their audiences when actually that can backfire. It takes 2 to have a conversation. I don't like people who monologue me just because I am making space for them to be comfortable to share, doesn't mean I am a weak, passive, a pushover, an easy to win impressionable person or anything like that. Do you actually care to build a connection with me or are you just an arrogant show off person who is too deep inside their own arse.
@jujuoof1746 күн бұрын
Great tips, thank you🔥🔥 I’m backt to school and integrating well
@simplereally.6 күн бұрын
Let's make it a good year this year! Glad you found some value here- Appreciate you and and thanks for watching!
@banchandethuong1476Ай бұрын
Ask question: good, people interest about. Pause: last 3 words Emotion
@simplereally.Ай бұрын
simple as that! practice each of those for awhile and you'll be top 5% communicator in the world. appreciate you watching-
@joemamma44442 ай бұрын
Looks like the tips on the book "Never split the difference"
@simplereally.2 ай бұрын
good book on how the human brain works! few other examples here, but a book I recommend often. Thanks for watching-
@buster2134Ай бұрын
4:15 that's, to me, a perfectly good question. the moment he fucked up was not asking a second question. so indeed there's no *very* bad questions, any question can be caught up. just dont ask something out of pocket, really "where are you from originally?" *answers* "oh i dont know anyone from there!" -> should've been *answers* "oh do you miss it?" *answers* etc. nevermind it's in the video
@simplereally.Ай бұрын
I appreciate you adding some insight! Always a way for someone to better understand a concept. Let’s make it a good year this year -
@santiagovidal44972 ай бұрын
I guess my problem is that I’m not very naturally interested in other people… I think I tend to mostly focus on the conversation topic itself instead of what the person thinks about it, like I’ll only take their opinion on it in order to discuss it and compare it to mine…? So if someone’s talking purely about some experience they had I don’t know how to engage with it at all. I think that lack of self confidence also makes me feel like my own experiences aren’t worth enough to communicate, but that’s another thing
@simplereally.2 ай бұрын
is it people in general or people that don't share your interests? if the second, find a group that has shared interests, then you can share experiences for DAYS. Also, I'm not great at talking about things I have no experience, expertise, or confidence in either. So I don't speak about them lol. Confidence comes through repetition my friend. You can do it, just one rep/ convo at a time
@santiagovidal44972 ай бұрын
@@simplereally. hmm guess I gotta find people who I find more interesting? Or get better at finding common interests… anyway Thanks for the reply! :)
@randombeluga2522 ай бұрын
@@santiagovidal4497kinda similar experience here.. for example, most people in my country love cricket and i don’t.. i’m more interested in badminton.. so i can’t relate to them and enjoy when they’re talking about it n all but then i realized that it wouldn’t hurt to know the basics of cricket and just to have an idea u know.. the more u know, the better and if you have no idea about an experience they’re talking about, just show that you’re interested and ask open ended questions.. it’s not like you’re gonna find people who share the same interests as you all the time right.. so just be open minded and act like you care alsooo most people are supportive than you think so like just talk about your experiences as well.. when doing that.. delivery is the key soo like just dramatize the way you speak..that’s gonna keep them hooked so uh just go out more and have more experiences and get out of your comfort zone… social skills are like a muscle.. so if you train it well you can improve so much
@swiftie4lyfeАй бұрын
I’m an extrovert but I’ve recently lost my sense of identity after going through many very emotionally stressful things, it hurts having to relearn how to be myself.
@simplereally.Ай бұрын
I feel for you my friend, wishing you the best as you build yourself back up again. In one frame, the ability to recreate yourself however you want can be exciting! not always easy, but exciting. Keep me posted on your progress, excited to see what you do-
@baeyuh8 күн бұрын
"you don't always have to know what to say" Ask questions pause. Take your time. Take a deep breath. repeat the last 3 words of what others have said.
@Sideral_5Ай бұрын
Thank you!! This video was really interesting and I think I learnt a lot!! I feel like I don't have problems starting a conversation and just asking questions to get to know the other person, but when it comes to continuing the conversation I lose it haha 😅 It's like the conversation is just me asking questions and the other person answering them, which is really uncomfortable... And when the other person asks me a question to continue the conversation, I just give a really dry answer unintentionally and then regret it. I also feel like it's because I'm afraid I might talk too much and bother the other person. This is why I'm so glad your video covered it up!!! I will try to put your advice to practice and thank you again!!💞💞
@simplereally.Ай бұрын
I’m glad you found some value here! Try taking one aspect / topic at a time and practicing it.. then you can keep adding other skills. You got this! Appreciate you-
@alondradelamora09173 күн бұрын
I think my problem is I zone out of the conversation because whatever they’re saying doesn’t interest me. (Ik it’s rude) I’m gonna apply these tips to my social interactions now, hopefully it helps with this dilemma 🤷🏻♀️
@pedroapp22272 ай бұрын
love from Brazil bro, awesome work, keep rising!
@simplereally.2 ай бұрын
appreciate you! hope it helped and much more coming soon-
@astr_80142 ай бұрын
the most awkward interaction I’ve had recently was talking to a girl at work. I was asking questions and she was answering them but it felt like I was interviewing her instead of sharing my interests too. I ended her thoughts with oh I was just wondering instead of sharing what my favorite music is or my favorite songs.
@simplereally.2 ай бұрын
sounds like a one sided convo.. hmm might need more context but good news is you survived lol! on to the next one-
@BigManTing792 ай бұрын
Closed ended questions can make a conversation like an interview or interrogation. Use open ended question
@Bleilock12 ай бұрын
@@BigManTing79 give some examples od such questions And i disagree, its not always OP's responsibility, he was just dealing with awful uninterested/ing person
@astr_80142 ай бұрын
@@BigManTing79 you know when in a conversation I really don’t think like that I try to flow as much as possible but just as @simplereally said i think i was in my head trying to control it all when it’s a two person thing.
@s3rge2162 ай бұрын
I’m so cooked I need this video to help me
@simplereally.2 ай бұрын
hopefully you found some value here! wishing you the best this year my friend
@szerokiczowiek71522 ай бұрын
I just discovered your channel and this video inspired me to become a pretty good constantly improving communicator so I can actually go through this life smoothly, don't ruin it and keep going. F your haters but I doubt they exist lol (don't make it be the effort reducing parts of your brain ). KEEP GOING
@simplereally.2 ай бұрын
I appreciate you and thanks for your support! I'm glad you found some value here. It's a skill like everything else, and we can all improve. More value coming very soon-
@mk__._Ай бұрын
awesome advice man, shame im gonna blank out during my next convo and completely forget it all 😭
@simplereally.Ай бұрын
You got this! Focus on working on one thing at a time-
@silasmartin5210Ай бұрын
I’d also like to add that , for a general rule of conversation especially when you’re meeting someone for the first time, it’s important to not talk too much about yourself. I feel that asking questions about someone and their stories rather than butting in constantly and saying “I remember something like that..” or “that reminds me of..” keeps the conversation solely rooted on that person. At the end of the day people like to feel valued and heard and focusing the conversation on them is a great way to do that combined with the fact that if you’re trying to talk to the opposite sex it is useful in seeming more mysterious and attractive.
@simplereally.Ай бұрын
great insight added, appreciate you! hopefully it helps someone improve the social skill let's make it a good year, yeah?
@eayyelАй бұрын
Great video man! I sometimes struggle with conversation because I have a stuttering problem, it's not as bad as it was a couple of years ago but it still happens yk. I try not to think about it too much and just go with the flow of the conversation and ask follow-up questions. I've been getting better at talking with people but it can be quite draining still. Have a good one mate!
@simplereally.Ай бұрын
Glad to hear about your progress my friend! Appreciate you and thanks for watching! Glad you found some value here, and more coming tomorrow-
@LAKDАй бұрын
1:13 when you forget you named your own channel "simple, actually" but name the guy you copy lol
@simplereally.Ай бұрын
appreciate you and thanks for watching!
@LAKDАй бұрын
@@simplereally. :D
@IknowJoshАй бұрын
An amazing video. Thank you for being so in depth and understanding the POV of an introvert!🙏
@simplereally.Ай бұрын
Appreciate you and thanks for watching! Glad you found value here Introverts have to stick together lol. Next video out VERY soon-
@otto_kau9951Ай бұрын
I'm gonna try it today with people I know but can't keep a conversation. If it works I come back and subscribe
@simplereally.Ай бұрын
let me know how it goes! if it worked, great. if not, try to figure out why and make an adjustment. from there, you are closer to making it work. keep doing that and there is no way you don't improve
@Staleyboi124 күн бұрын
Upsetting that you used a bar chart to plot an increase in something over time.
@simplereally.4 күн бұрын
Charts are hard. Hope you found some value elsewhere- Appreciate you and thanks for watching
@Staleyboi124 күн бұрын
@@simplereally. Hey not a huge dig, keep up the work man ✌️
@ericd1022Ай бұрын
i tend to trip over my words and putting together a thoughtful conversational response like some of these examples seems almost out of the question for me. But when I talk about things I'm excited about, I can't shut up.
@simplereally.Ай бұрын
That’s the key! When positive emotion comes into the conversation it becomes much easier for everyone Just make sure the other person feels important / included too. Appreciate you watching -
@krankvegannАй бұрын
I'd like to point out something, and it's the importance of having a mentor: mimicking and having someone drive you through the process is really helpful but with the rise of social media - video games - porn consumption, the loneliness epidemic and generally speaking more and more people being individualistic I fear we will see a rise of people with very poor social skills in the future. We should have more mentors in society, especially when it comes to flirting, since that shit is very hard to master if you don't practice it IRL. Thanks for the video, keep it up.
@simplereally.Ай бұрын
agree with you 1000%! a mentor/coach/etc is a huge asset. The most successful usually have multiple, but people who are just scraping by think it is a silly thing to do appreciate you my friend and thanks for your input!
@defaru479114 күн бұрын
the video is nice and i understand fully the whole point but if someone brings up something that a i have in comon or have knowledge on and also talk about it people will just tell me ``no one asked``
@EbvardhАй бұрын
I’m not a natural extrovert; I’m very much an introvert, but I got myself a customer service job and I can assure you that regardless of whatever advice you follow, it’s going to feel like hard work to get used to talking to people. I can keep a conversation going for 40 minutes, and I can talk to people all day, but I still have a social battery that can still run out, and once I’m done, I’m done, stop talking to me.
@simplereally.Ай бұрын
I agree with you - simple, but not easy! conversations can be exhausting (i'm in sales so after a long day, I'm wiped). it's a mental workout. Appreciate you watching, hoping you found some value here-
@Valanci5552 ай бұрын
The fact is i can have a great conversation but at some point it gets boring 😊
@tonyjumpscliffs4 ай бұрын
I personally feel like I can do fine in real life conversations, but how can I have the same effect over text?
@pyxn4204 ай бұрын
LMFAO I'm the absolute opposite! So many things you can do via text - send a link to a website, video, reel, meme...so much harder to do irl
@tonyjumpscliffs4 ай бұрын
@@pyxn420 you got a point there ngl
@simplereally.4 ай бұрын
@tonyjumpscliffs lot of tools you can use like @pyxn420 said lol- gifs, memes etc. Would have to see some examples, but would focus on the emotion in a convo to move it to the next stage which is usually in person. Then you are good!
@tonyjumpscliffs4 ай бұрын
@@simplereally. I appreciate your input.
@saifalfalasi37013 күн бұрын
underrated channel
@ErosMorelli2 ай бұрын
How do you only have 3.77k subs? This video was so good!
@simplereally.2 ай бұрын
appreciate you and that comment! glad you found some value here. Any topic you'd like to see a video on moving forward?
@ErosMorelli2 ай бұрын
@simplereally. I would like to hear a video about how troublesome is it to date people in our current society. Meeting people is easy. But finding actual good people is challenging. Also not a huge fan of dating apps.. like many other people lol
@Aeriel_farm_view2 ай бұрын
Me: ehhh whuh?! So simple yet SO FUCKIN COMPLICATED AHHHH!
@simplereally.2 ай бұрын
We have all felt that haha, remember one step at a time. Can even focus on one aspect at a time. Appreciate you watching, next video is out tomorrow-
@xxmemestar69xx822 ай бұрын
I liked this video. Reminded me of Casually Explained. Very insightful stuff too with some nice examples to go along with it as well.
@simplereally.2 ай бұрын
appreciate you watching and glad you got some value from it! next video is out on Monday, you will love it-
@derpinheimer29932 ай бұрын
it reminds me of this one guy “easy, actually”
@xxmemestar69xx822 ай бұрын
@@derpinheimer2993 they’re the same guy
@NuggetMan2222 ай бұрын
I found the solution to social anxiety a few years ago. Whiskey
@simplereally.Ай бұрын
definitely helps reduce your fear! long term solution? debatable appreciate you watching my friend, all the best-
@NuggetMan222Ай бұрын
@@simplereally. thank you, its just a joke tho...or is it?
@tasenova27172 ай бұрын
Video sparked introvert realization (autism). Socializing drains (emotions, not fun). Exhausting.
@simplereally.2 ай бұрын
appreciate you watching, hopefully you aren't too tired from it lol
@Theduk2 ай бұрын
yo your content is so helpful ☺you deserve way more subs imo 👍
@simplereally.2 ай бұрын
appreciate you and thanks for your feedback! glad you found some value, and hoping you find more in the video that is posting tomorrow. should offer a new perspective on life-
@steveohellno14 күн бұрын
Ever consider saying you don't got "nothing to say" in the first place. Cause everyone experienced this.. So "nothing to say" is technically a topic
@frankdiaries21 күн бұрын
conclusion: talk, ask, listen.
@newd.10 күн бұрын
by the love of all thats holy dont use 10:50 if you have no indicator that the person likes talking to you. otherwise you'll seem like a creep, or as if you are doubting them
@YehudiNimol8 күн бұрын
Maybe you can say it nonchalantly... That way you have plausible deniability, and if she presses you about it you can just say you were referring to her actual stamina and that it wasn't meant to be sexual. But yeah, this takes incredible mastery to pull off successfully
@ceheyfr14562 ай бұрын
Great video, Could you expand on how to speak with people with relatively low communication skills ? I often find myself speaking with reserved people who won't be good at entertaining a conversation even though they are clearly interested in the conversation and in me. How to respond when the answers are always dry ?
@simplereally.2 ай бұрын
do you enjoy those conversations? If not, I try to avoid them - life is too short. If you do, sometimes it just takes a little bit more time for people to open up. vulnerability is a way to do that depending on a convo (if you show it, it makes them feel like they can trust you). depends on the situation / conversation
@myagrothues-ix4ug2 ай бұрын
Moved to Delaware thinking no one knows about it and now I won’t stop hearing about it
@simplereally.2 ай бұрын
😂 phone is using your location to push more Delaware lol
@tekimpo2 ай бұрын
So simple yet effective
@simplereally.2 ай бұрын
glad you found some value here my friend! appreciate you-
@gamingbrothers906Ай бұрын
You sir just earned yourself a new subscriber
@simplereally.Ай бұрын
thank you my friend, just glad you found some value here! let's make it a good year this year, yeah?
@elwen85252 ай бұрын
My question is how do I start a conversation without feeling awkward. People nowadays would rather die than start a conversation with a person they don’t know?
@simplereally.2 ай бұрын
Isn’t that interesting to think about? If it offers any comfort, most everyone else feels the same (I think it’s funny to think about). If you are up for a challenge, next time you are at a Starbucks, etc.. after you order, ask the cashier if you can have the drink / meal for free. Small chance, you might actually get a free meal. Most likely, they will say no. Do that a few times and you will realize that is the worst case scenario of any interaction. And life goes on
@Alexander-pt8hj2 ай бұрын
I think its really Just fake it till you make it
@iffattaffi7061Ай бұрын
I have learned a lot from this video! Thank you and keep making moew videos like this! Subscribed.
@simplereally.Ай бұрын
Glad you found some value here my friend! More coming soon Appreciate you and thanks for watching
@s.s750711 күн бұрын
"how's your stamina?"
@theweebandrea600823 күн бұрын
i'm hanging out with a friend tomorrow so i'll try these tips out and comment an update if I don't forget
@theweebandrea600822 күн бұрын
Update : tried it and it was actually pretty good advice. I found it difficult to implement ths transition part but i'll try again next time
@WilliamDunBrochАй бұрын
I propose we send you our pictures and you do this to us so that we can learn
@simplereally.Ай бұрын
you know what, i LOVE that idea. think it would be really cool to incorporate will work on this soon. appreciate you my friend, all the best-
@WilliamDunBrochАй бұрын
I just watched the whole video again and I have no recollection of my thought process on how my comment is linked to the video 💀@@simplereally. Still, love ya boo
@darkcasterx46282 ай бұрын
I liked this video a lot. Common sense advice without a whole lot of bullshit
@simplereally.2 ай бұрын
Appreciate you and your feedback! Glad you found some value here. Next video is out tomorrow, should give a new perspective for you-
@paulbooij74252 ай бұрын
Awesome video, I appreciate the effort you put in this, very helpful.
@simplereally.2 ай бұрын
Glad you enjoyed it! appreciate you, much more value coming soon-
@pasc4leАй бұрын
I think that the Joe Rogan analogy fails if we're referring to casual every-day convos. He has days, if not weeks to prepare in advance for the people he's going to speak with, that's mainly why he has always something to say, or something that the other person is going to be interested about. Usually one's going to encounter a lot more "failures" in finding something interesting to talk about.
@keatynn1038Ай бұрын
I can’t believe I just got minioned
@simplereally.Ай бұрын
not sure what you mean my friend?
@keatynn1038Ай бұрын
@@simplereally.@3:00 I got spooked because I was only listening to the audio
@mack30092 ай бұрын
Ok so the the basics are: -Do open questions. Ex: what do u like the most about that place? - Dont feel the need for a good conversation -Talk about interestings topics -respond to same emotion level -be present at the moment -be ok with pauses
@simplereally.2 ай бұрын
and practice building the skills! appreciate you watching-
@mack30092 ай бұрын
@@simplereally. i am practicing literally rn. In a roblox game with voice chat, but it doesnt matter. Practice is practice. I also practice in real life interactions a lot, but in games it is easier. Cuz u can meet people faster and leave them faster to talk to new people
@mack30092 ай бұрын
@@simplereally. i am already confident in real life to talk to anyone. But interacting in games still have it's benefits, even if u are already confident to talk to people irl
@FunkyMunkey00_Ай бұрын
Great video simple and down to earth. Most realistic
@simplereally.Ай бұрын
Appreciate you my friend and thanks for watching! Glad you found some value here, and more coming tomorrow-
@AIM-PR0T0Ай бұрын
When a topic is naturally coming to an end, I've had to learn that there doesn't need to be a smooth transition to the next topic. Does it help if it's smooth? Yeah, but that's better than a really long and awkward pause
@simplereally.Ай бұрын
there's a lot of different directions you can take from that awkward pause stage... good news is, most things in life really don't matter. so if the awkward pause stage is the worst thing that can happen you will be fine. my thought process is call the 'elephant in the room' out when it is there - followed by a genuine compliment of the other person. more often than not, the other person feels it too and will get some relief. from there, the the possibilities are endless thanks for watching and wishing you all the best-
@singusbiggle9977Ай бұрын
This doesn’t work. You try to relate to people during conversations and they just want to keep talking about themselves. I can only handle so many one sided conversations, I’m done trying.
@simplereally.Ай бұрын
This is foundational communication skills. Seems like you are wanting to learn about controlling conversations, strategically interrupting, etc. What do you feel would help you get to the next level?
@singusbiggle9977Ай бұрын
@@simplereally. I appreciate the reply. No, I’m not trying to control conversations. I’m far too self conscious for that. I’m talking about when there’s a lull in the other person’s story or whatever they’re talking about, and when I pipe in, they seem incredibly disinterested. I know how to politely and respectfully speak to people, but others seem more interested in themselves than actually holding a conversation. I don’t interrupt. I’ll actually gesture to try to get a word in. But I get trampled. Maybe I should just be rude and interrupt, because that seems to be what people do. But I can’t do that. So I’m done trying. If people want my input, they need to ask for it. And in my job, they need my input. They can either ask for it, or keep quiet so I can give it. I get interrupted. Oh well. What the job done? Let me talk.
@simplereally.Ай бұрын
@@singusbiggle9977 there are few people I feel understand my struggles in my sales career early on but that hits the nail on the head lol. I HAVE BEEN THERE it honestly depends on what you want out of the conversation. If you want to be liked, continue to let them dominate the conversation. They will feel like you care, and that always tips the probability of a relationship (friend or more) in your favor If you want to get a sale or speak your mind, you have to find ways to STRATEGICALLY interrupt the conversation. for example, if someone is telling you their life story.. "I just applied to USC to be a doctor and [xyz]"... and on and on and on. you can interrupt and say, "wait did you just say USC? I have [xyz short statement (true or not) about USC." and you briefly mention it and then say, "wait, we could talk about this forever. what were we talking about? Oh yeah... XYZ" and then you lead the convo where you want helped me a lot in sales when dealing with people who like to talk about anything and everything while i'm trying to provide for a family lol