Never Tell A Woman You Actually Like Her?

[@BLZ231]

“Somehow I’m going to be the one they’re mad at though” That is both hilarious and depressing at the same time.

[@TracyNorrell]

@@BLZ231 I'm mad at him for being so heckin handsome!

[@sleazybtd]

That's always been the case with people of low intelligence. They hate the debunker because it exposes the fact that they fell for the lie.

[@carolynnwaud7146]

​@@TracyNorrellhe is a pleasant face.and he speaks the truth. I like that.When women say the same thing? We are ignored.( or told we " must be lesbians") the trick? Is to actually LIKE women.let them know about it too. Just dont be a creep.

[@christopherbrown5409]

​@@carolynnwaud7146 and how do we not get exploited?

[@thefirm4606]

@@christopherbrown5409explain the exploitation you get?

[@TheSuzberry]

I don’t understand why men would take relationship advice from another man: selling a course.

[@TracyNorrell]

I would never buy a course like that. I'm too busy ordering this course from some guy who was standing in front of a Lamborghini telling me how successful his financial strategies have been.

[@heartofdawnlight]

Misogyny... if they think women are below them then they can never take advice from women. so they look to men and these men blame women! holy perfect match batman, now they have an excuse to shift all blame to the girls, if they believe these guys!

[@xosunshineoxsunshine436]

​@@TracyNorrelllmaoo smart money not everything tho ❣️

[@xosunshineoxsunshine436]

Indeed❣️

[@AyAReI00]

Yeah i thought men were supposed to be the smart ones 😂😂😂they

[@miriam4235]

Ofcourse he thinks like that. Every single woman he ever went on a date with, started questioning if she could do better as soon as he opened his mouth to speak.

[@Nerobyrne]

I wager she was thinking sitting alone at home with nice music and a good book would have been a better choice. And she was probably right.

[@heidim7732]

Dammit I was just drinking something when you caused a 'spittake'! lol

[@cbpd89]

It was some time between appetizers and dessert when she hit rock bottom and started reflecting on her whole life and how she's come to be stuck listening to this guy.

[@kt3255]

There was no question, she already knew.

[@katherinebrown5720]

Truth.

[@Dyejob01]

When will these men stop treating women like car deals?

[@kryptofreak74]

When they see women as people... so, never. 😒

[@alistairmackintosh9412]

They're used to paying for sexier character upgrades for their video games. Since that's their primary interaction with the world....

[@Nerobyrne]

Never.

[@Swordsman1425]

When they stop seeing a woman as a status symbol, this idea that "you're less of a man if you're not in a relationship with a hot woman and make a bunch of kids with her." It's not so far off from "You're less of a man if you don't have a six-pack/fancy car/six-figure salary"

[@zacharybosley1935]

Breaking down social interaction into its mechanics has been an invaluable tool for someone like me, but practically speaking, "treating someone like a person," doesn't necessarily exclude treating them like a customer you need to sell on a product. A lot of basic social interaction is just persuading people that you're kind, or even tolerable, in order to parlay that perception into a favorable relationship.

[@alyzu4755]

29 years ago a young man told me he really liked me. I told him I really liked him, too. We got married six years later, raised two kids together, and are still happily married. Men, women, everyone: Just be yourself . There's someone out there who will like you for who you are.

[@angela0042]

Same, but 30 years in August.

[@trishayamada807]

This! I didn’t know I married a faker, a man who hid who he was until we got married. I struggled for years to understand him and realized he’s the problem. He’s not honest. I used what I learned from that marriage and found a wonderful man and we are raising 3 children and have been married 17 years and it doesn’t feel like 17 years. It’s going by too fast. We were both open and honest when we met about who we were and what we needed from a partner. My ex had been in jail, two more failed marriages. He should come with a warning label. L

[@Chibi-kittenplays]

the moment I saw the oversized chair.. it was a course

[@JLakis]

Yes! Why was he sitting in a highbacked, Victorian chair with embossed velvet!? At the head of a table in what I'm just going to say is a resort in Costa Rica where he can pay for girlfriends? And it dwarfs him like a kid sitting in dad's chair.

[@Amethystar]

A man needs a throne to remind him he is king of good castle... because no one else will.

[@Evija3000]

​@@JLakisTo pretend like he's some rich bigshot who knows the secrets of life.

[@Iflie]

It's really exploded lately, that men are telling other men that women want chad with money, a high value man. Meanwhile in RL almost all the married guys are regular looking dudes, not rich just minding their own business talking to their wives and raising some kids. At no point are only rich goodlooking men getting a partner.

[@zotha]

To be fair, a bunch of them are abusive narcissists who are married to women who have been told by soceity that they aren't worthy of anything better.

[@Nerobyrne]

Yeah but like, the guys are getting cheated on .... Or whatever 😅

[@Iflie]

@@Nerobyrne Oh yes, with any chad around because they want to be baby mommas. So they love broke guys that treat them badly at the same time as just wanting rich goodlooking guys. Meanwhile the poor devoted never cheating "nice" guys stay home tending the children from another man.

[@theundone777]

​@@prestonbosch-black4343 I'm going to assume that neither math nor empirical data are in their wheelhouse.

[@un959]

Men continue to hurt men. 🎵 A tale as old as time 🎵

[@brackalack1]

To be fair I have turned down a very wealthy man who was good looking played rugby at a high level and was confident his status was very high... Why did I back away after he offered to whisk me away from all the horrors of my grubby little working class life? Errr he was a drunk who liked to make others feel inferior by splashing that cash. Personality counts way more than cash. It's not rocket science.

[@marymystery4427]

You're a better person than me. I would've married him and dodge the prenup, divorce him 2-3 years later lmao

[@sleazybtd]

There are quite a number of people who value cash more than a happy relationship.

[@geekcollage]

​@@sleazybtdsure, but not anywhere near the percentage that aren't. This isn't the Georgian era. While some lazy or unscrupulous women exist who do care about only money, those also eventually find out how empty all of that is without a real human relational connection to go with it. The rest of us are better adjusted humans with real friends and lovers. Do the work on healing yourselves guys. The only people pretending "high value" men means only monies and not a fully realized, responsible human adult are these lazy misogynists who would rather just prattle on instead of doing the real work of healthy maturity.

[@sleazybtd]

@@prestonbosch-black4343 I agree that if no one is being deceived, then it's fine by me. My point was specifically towards the OP who said that personality counts more than cash.

[@atlander4204]

@@sleazybtd I know a guy who bought a Lamborghini to get girls, then complained that the only girls he “got” were interested solely in his money. Then again, he believed verbal apologies were “beneath him.” When he brought a vegetarian to a dim sum restaurant, he “apologized” by going to her workplace and handing her a red rose. It didn’t go well.

[@jeanping9739]

He made his intentions clear and said he liked me. He had no money at all, just character and hard work. He certainly didn't have a car. And yet I married him....

[@Alresu]

For you is this guys other course "How to get the best deal on the husband market". Tip one is to never date someone who actually likes you.

[@Candlemancer]

I'm maybe upper end of average looks, skinny but not fit, and make just enough money to scrape by. Getting married in January to a wonderful woman who loves me for who I am, and I couldn't be happier about it

[@RebekahAmberClark]

I guessed correctly. The salesman was so oily it's a wonder he didn't slip out of his chair.

[@atlander4204]

That’s why it’s velvet-to absorb the runoff.

[@neighborMin]

Wouldn't it have been so nice if he had just taken a hard left on us and said "never tell her you like her verbally... SHOW her you like her. Be supportive of her interests. Text something sweet randomly. Bring a pretty flower you saw growing in the grass and thought she'd like. Instead of saying 'I like you' say WHAT you like about her so she FEELS liked... 'You always stop to help people you see struggling... its just awesome', 'your laugh is so great to hear', 'you're such a goof. Its great', 'I just feel happier when I'm around you'. Show her that she specifically is someone you like." Ah well C'est la Vie

[@abipoole2859]

Fantastic advice!

[@lucidthriller]

That is phenomenal advice! I love that!

[@AngryTheatreMaker]

Okay, but I would love to see someone posting advice like this, because this sort of thing would work on me. (My partner does exactly this. He also makes me laugh, which I enjoy and appreciate.)

[@kirstenwyatt9675]

Words without supporting actions are just hot air.

[@gingerfellah5665]

Not once did he mention ANY personal qualities like kindness, empathy, willing to engage, curiosity about their fellow humans, emotional intelligence and openness. Not one.

[@Evija3000]

Not even a sense of humor.

[@-Yohanna-]

Not one

[@Psychmajor345]

Apparently he believes women only want looks and status from a partner. Those good personality traits are shoved in the backseat according to him.

[@-Yohanna-]

@@Psychmajor345 And it's the opposite, actually.

[@Psychmajor345]

@@-Yohanna- Yeah, I look at personality first because if I don’t like someone as a person why would I date them

[@ladylightning1741]

I love that his advice for how to get a girlfriend is "don't tell her you want her to be your girlfriend"

[@deeps6979]

If his credentials don't include a 20-year relationship, I'm not even coming close to taking his advice, lol.

[@Tsuliwaensis]

20 years... just imagine, being with someone for 20 years without them even merely mumbling that they don't hate you. I mean, unless he's dating a blow-up-doll. you wanna play your cards very close to your chest with those, they're tricky. one false move and they straight up go poof.

[@heartofdawnlight]

@@Tsuliwaensis i have friends who have been together for 11+ years that you'd think were still on their honneymoon.... Shut up

[@tymondabrowski12]

​@@heartofdawnlight reread their words, they're making fun of the guy in the video, not saying that 20yo relationships are impossible. They said that it's difficult to have a 20yo relationship without talking about your feelings to each other.

[@Tsuliwaensis]

@@heartofdawnlight 11+ years marathon honeymoons without expressing any fondness? that sounds so fun! and real! 😂

[@vangu2918]

😂

[@KayKayBayForever]

I am a woman, and my husband told me he loved me before we were married. He also is less wealthy than me. And yet, for some *strange* reason, I still married him!

[@TracyNorrell]

Was it his 6-pack?

[@animeotaku307]

You telling me that personality is more important than looks or wealth?

[@xosunshineoxsunshine436]

So pointless to go after a man for looks and money.Looks fade and his money Is HIS money ..make your own money

[@b0thers0me]

DH blurted out ILY after our first kiss. I was a little alarmed, but after 30+ years, I guess he was right... And no 6pack or money, just the most genuine person I've ever known.

[@TracyNorrell]

@@b0thers0me your good outcome makes me genuinely happy. I wish the same of more people

[@bec7080]

Men selling courses: "absolutely do not treat her like a person"

[@Plethorality]

And never believe that women can be people. Dont grow your own personality, blame women when my shitty advice doesn't work.

[@-Yohanna-]

Like i'm in fact doing with you. Take my example

[@johnlove2954]

That is based

[@reformed_attempt_1]

if you treat her like a person, "hypergamy will not be satisfied" lmao

[@Rosaedora]

Married almost 17 years to a man who tells me he's into me and how much he likes me every gosh darn day.

[@FishareFriendsNotFood972]

If I had a penny for every manosphere dude who mistakenly assumes women date based on how expensive your car is, I'd have a Maserati

[@owendejong9711]

Trust me bro if you really have a Maserati the women be lining up for you! 💯😎 There is a way to get this car btw. If you look in my bio there is a link for cRipT00 which you just have to check out 😉😜It will make you enuf moneyz to even meet the most modernest womens criteria for yearly income 📈↗

[@RutabegaNG]

People keep asking why certain men would go to someone like this for relationship advice. Because he's telling them what they want to hear, that it's not their fault, the system is rigged against them. That happens in a lot of areas, not just relationships.

[@FarenHalven]

This!

[@Wants2knowitall]

I have never once thought, “Can I do better?” Never. My go-to thought is, “Am I better off alone?” The answer is almost always yes. This advice has served me in more than romantic relationships.

[@mfenderson2714]

Yes! Or mine is, 'will this be worth the potential heartache or headache' if I'm already seeing things that make me concerned, because I could actually be mistaken that this person is not the one I should invest my time with....

[@magnarcreed3801]

@@mfenderson2714 “Am I better off alone and is he worth the risk of abuse or dying?” Is my go to. Answers been a forever no lmao

[@deborahdanhauer8525]

Why wouldn’t a man go talk to an old grandpa who had been married 50 years for relationship advice? (someone who might know enough to actually help) Why would you go to an obvious lounge lizard trying to sell you something? I don’t get it….🙁🐝❤️

[@kryptofreak74]

These guys don't actually want a relationship, they want status. They want the wife equivalent of a lambo- not for companionship, but to show off to other men.

[@Rikrobat]

Because the lounge lizard validates the idea that it is always the woman who is the problem. Self-reflection and self-improvement are difficult processes to go through, so lots of people prefer to take the easy route of “I’m not the problem. What do I try that doesn’t require core changes on my end and if it doesn’t work, it’s because the woman was shallow and entitled anyway.”

[@Nerobyrne]

Probably also a bad idea, grandpa formed his relationship when a single working class income could buy a house and third spaces weren't something you only read about in sociology class.

[@elaexplorer]

Well cause in a lot of cases old grandpa is married to a woman who really had no choice. She either get married or get dead. She had very little schooling, most of it centered around keeping a house and raising kids, she wasn't allowed to have her own finances or make her own medical decisions without a man's approval. Women weren't allowed their own bank accounts until about 50 years ago.

[@FacebookAunt]

@@elaexplorer 50 years ago was 1974. "A woman needs a man like a fish needs a bicycle" was all over t-shirts and stuff. Women were allowed to drive cars and rent apartments. There was a strong social pressure for young adults to pair off and get married, but for most women it was no longer a matter of survival.

[@MatthewMe]

And at no point will this course-peddler deal with the issue - when those men expressed interest in a woman, they'd 100% disregarded the woman's response if it wasn't reciprocated interest. If she said she wasn't interested, they would use it as an excuse to push harder, attack her, lie to her, or work around her autonomy any way they could. And of course, that didn't work either. And as the initial friendship deteriorated into a set of tension-filled, awkward social encounters, he alternates between anger, frustration, and short term conditional affection while she waits for his attention to focus on someone else. The course-peddler is just selling new ways to lie and manipulate in the short term.

[@johnlove2954]

Funny how you generalised all the men while fighting against generalization of women. Lol. No wonder, men are not trusting the simps

[@slbarbieri1725]

Why do all these men think we want six pack abs and a sports car? I'd rather a guy who goes out and volunteers at the Y and drives a Honda! It's the content of the character, not the flash!

[@lululemons8267]

Because that's what they want in a man, they always trying to show off to each other

[@abipoole2859]

Exactly

[@abipoole2859]

My husband doesn’t have a six pack. He has more of a keg going, but I think he’s handsome. Here’s the thing though…I don’t have that much of a strong opinion on his physique. Ok, I will admit he is tall and broad shouldered, but he’s heavy, and guess what? Besides my concern for his health, it doesn’t bother me! A good woman really does care more about your personality and character than your body or your wallet.

[@atlander4204]

“Why would I want a six pack? He’s _fluffy!_ ” - @uyenninh

[@lokicooper4690]

Why? Because, to him, women are two dimensional characters, not three dimensional beings with thoughts, emotions, and dreams. If he stopped for two seconds and actually conversed with a real woman, he’d learn we don’t all want the six pack, six foot, six figure man to provide for us. But then, he wouldn’t have a course to sell to all the men who want to be able to blame women for their failed relationships, or failure to obtain a relationship.

[@MacRoss44]

If a potential partner didn't clearly communicate their interest, I would move on. Who has time for these baby-ish games? Certainly not healthy and well adjusted adults with any level of self-respect and emotional honesty.

[@atlander4204]

Communication is #1. If he can’t do that, the relationship is DOA.

[@Josh-99]

Perhaps I should start a course on relationship advice. Not how to "pick up" women, because I have zero experience there; instead it would be about how to nurture and develop a healthy relationship with your partner through communication, compromise, and caring. I feel like I'm well-qualified to discuss that, as I've been in a committed, loving relationship with my best friend since she asked me out when we were in 10th grade -- almost 32 years ago. In a few weeks we will celebrate our 25th wedding anniversary. I have maintained this relationship through every phase of my life that I have lived with the exception of early childhood as I didn't become friends with her until we were 12 years old. After, all, STARTING a relationship is actually pretty easy as long as what you are looking for is not a short-term one based entirely on sex. Investing in the people around you will frequently yield opportunities for romance. It's building from that initial inflection point that is difficult.

[@larafranke1802]

Dating advice for anyone who needs it: treat the person you are interested in like a human being! Be respectful and keep in mind that it might not work out and how to deal with that, cause it is neither yours or the other persons job to fulfil the needs of each other if you don't want to/feel comfortable with it.

[@amijacks]

can I buy your course???

[@larafranke1802]

@@amijacks No, but I can try to give you specific advise if you want XD I am no expert when it comes to dating but I know stuff like that pressuring someone is very unattractive to most people (especially women) and that it is important to check if the person is ready to commit to the things you want before expecting them to fulfil what you want and that every boundary this person or you set is important to respect and not over step!

[@naomihatfield3015]

Wow, he used an obscure term like “hypergamy,” he must know what he’s talking about! And that’s so much better than thinking it might be something wrong with ME!

[@matthewcharles9813]

Honestly i look for couples that have been together for at least five years and still act giddy with each other. My gf and i of 6 years have been through so much life crap but we can always make each other laugh and feel safe.

[@JoeyMcJoe]

Yes. I think he's selling a course

[@mnccslls]

If you're gonna do a course about relationships: ask a man who is poor or disabled who has been happily married for more than 10 years. How men have little to no resources keep their marriages together against all odds, they know how to keep women happy, ask them!

[@ShalomDove]

As a woman…no. That’s not how that works. I have never in my life met a woman who says “this guy I like says he likes me… I wonder if I can do better?” 🤦‍♀️ that’s so beyond stupid I am starting to think these “coaches “ are keeping men single on purpose.

[@awfuldynne]

Men in a happy relationship aren't buying courses from dating coaches; as another comment pointed out, selling good advice means they don't get repeat customers. (also see: planned obsolescence)

[@wartgin]

We've moved far away from the idea that you want satisfied customers because word-of-mouth advertising will grow your business. Instead of the the Internet allowing people to screen who does or does not actually supply the advertised product, it has become a place where a grifter doesn't even have to travel from town to town in order to find a ready supply of new victims.

[@strawberrysangria1474]

Oh no! That man showed interest! The means the woman might notice that he fancies her! Quick, throw water in her face to keep her guessing! Keep those mixed signals coming so they have no idea what we want and date someone else!

[@aellalee4767]

Based on his stance, background colours, and microphone I'm gonna say selling a course.

[@elaexplorer]

0:36 Because dating is just like buying a used car or a house. Never let them know how much you like the car or house or they will know they can ger away with not lowering the price for you.

[@RoonMian]

"Interest level", I'm at 0:42 and calling it: Inventing bullshit metrics and categories to try and put a pseudoscientific spin on human interactions. He's selling a course.

[@Prismatic9008]

That course is about to have so many men single 😂

[@JLakis]

He looks like Gilda Radner in that comically large chair. And wow. Just immediate "NOPE" vibes.

[@nollypolly]

Edith Ann? Wasn't that Lily Tomlin?

[@lostsol6757]

And that's the truth! Phht!

[@A_T216]

The nice mic told me up top that "telling heartbroken men awful things" is his career lol.

[@fn-2187bb8]

Hmmmm. Let's think this through. He's definitely giving Joffrey-level high-status vibes, which has activated my hypergamy valve in the back of my female brain, causing me to wonder if I can do better. Surely there must be a richer, taller, more desirable heir to the Iron Throne. Therefore, after careful thought and much consultation with various other female members of the Stark / Targaryen families, I do believe he is *selling a course.*

[@TracyNorrell]

This guy gives off more of a Cersei /Jamie Lannister relationship vibe. Do stay away from his course.

[@wartgin]

😂

[@discodave8412]

​@@TracyNorrell You might be onto something....Seen some of the vids on his channel, his "sister" does some videos saying similar things.

[@jessicalukram74]

I love this 🤣

[@neva_nyx]

I've been with my husband for 30 years, married 25. This guy couldn't get nor keep a healthy relationship. My spouse got my attention by making me laugh. He hasn't stopped yet 😊

[@ChubbyUnicorn]

Someone who has been married for 20 - 50 yrs only means they know how their relationship works and it certainly doesn't mean it works well for either of them.

[@mfenderson2714]

That's so true. They still probably know more than the guy selling the course but it's totally true! Plus those that have been married that long sometimes are just used to each others' dysfunction but both have the perspective of never divorce. It doesn't necessarily mean they have a great relationship but they tolerate some toxicity up to a point especially if they never had the perspective that I should be better. Like we fuss and fight and we don't share equal house duties but we don't cheat physically on each other and we are financially stable...."it could be worse" especially if their peers just up cheated, and divorced their spouse. There is so much that could play into it. Yes, it's great to probably seek out someone who has been married a long time for marriage advice but a better option is to get to know them and see if their marriage has healthy qualities that we would like to learn for our relationship and try to inspire them to share how they succeeded in certain areas.

[@cassandrabelyeu2419]

Yet I guarantee they can help more than this guy.

[@prod.arcsyne2990]

because I'm apparently a communist here's some free relationship advice. How to deal with a woman who looses interest in you... let her leave. loose interest in her.

[@movingforwardLDTH]

Ya gotta wonder about men who will buy advice from a guy looks like he’s living in his aged mother’s home.

[@ceciliacorbett8313]

My guess: He's selling something. Partly based on what he's saying, but also on his surroundings: note the expensively upholstered chair, and the expensive Tiffany-style (or knock-off) light fixture that would be installed in an expensively decorated room in an expensive house. Salesmen need to look successful, so they surround themselves with pricey stuff.

[@Wants2knowitall]

Great point! I didn’t even notice any of that. I was thrown off by the “big comfy couch” vibe of the chair. I mean, if the show took place in the Victorian era. 😂

[@heidim7732]

They don't surround themselves with it, they rent it.

[@ladyalicent705]

My favourite thing is that I am certain that this guy has spoken to exactly zero women in his life, like even his mom couldn’t care less, and yet somehow, by some miracle, the people who actually purchase his course have somehow spoken to women even less

[@JoeyMcJoe]

Yay!🎉 I got it right. I was hoping to be wrong, but man, it feels good to be right😂

[@satiashaw1857]

The guy he described as fantastic was all about his physical attributes and money level. Every word. That was all he could say. Which stores you exactly what people like him actually prioritize. Ugh that they are influencing others.

[@John-hz8xy]

Here for 2 minutes since upload lmao. I was hoping for an answer, but I have to learn it by buying his course? I'm better off buying myself some mcdonalds.

[@Yendor1224]

Good choice. Giving this guy any money would decrease your successful level with women by 25 %.

[@alexmcd378]

Something about the way he kept saying levels made me think it was a course

[@darrenskjoelsvold]

Yes, because not telling a woman you like them is the best way to have a happy, healthy relationship. 🙄 Anyway I kinda think that the majority of people are just incompatible with relationships both men and women. That perhaps we should advise people to just give up. Accept that they're going to be alone for the rest of their lives and teach them how to be happy with themselves and by themselves making them more well adjusted people so when they do meet a person they're compatible with they'll be more likely to have a healthy relationship. So, trying to teach them to find a partner is just setting them up for failure, but teaching them to be healthy, well-adjusted people will make them successful in life regardless of if they find a partner.

[@xtinkerbellax3]

I think that's because most people are lacking in self awareness, which is kind of the root of being able to grow, admit mistakes, take accountability, etc. Without self awareness you're going to have a harder time with any type of relationship.

[@darrenskjoelsvold]

@xtinkerbellax3 oh definitely. I absolutely agree. But the things that everyone needs to be successful in relationships are not complicated. Everyone needs just a few traits. They need to be happy. They need to have a growth mindset. They need to have good communication skills and good conflict resolution skills. That's it. And when in a relationship, if both the man and the woman are respectful and appreciative of the other person given a little affection and eventually love and you're off to the races. Love is a choice at the end of the day. People meet someone who is a functional person that they're attracted to and choose to be with them because they want to. But you have to be a functional and happy person to start with.

[@wartgin]

I don't think it's a matter of being incompatible with relationships and telling them to give up. I do think that someone who is not mature and self aware enough to be happy on their own is more likely to choose people with whom they are not compatible and ignore signs that the relationship is not working. People with that attitude also tend to let issues fester and get worse because they believe if they address the issue (discussion, counseling, therapy, etc), "she might leave". The reason "giving up" appears to work is because the person now becomes more relaxed when meeting others. So less clingy, less stressed about "is this person the one", how do I keep them, etc.

[@darrenskjoelsvold]

@wartgin but it's all about your attributes going into a relationship. Look I don't want to argue. Luckily there's an actual researcher and expert who I am basing this on. Her name is Samantha Joel. You can Google her and her research and look up her research on successful relationships. Just read her work and see what I am talking about.

[@wartgin]

@@darrenskjoelsvold I wasn't arguing with your conclusion (that people will be more successful in relationships if they already have certain skills and attitudes going into the relationship) nor with the skills and attitudes that you thought were important. I was objecting to the way you phrased it. It sounded like you meant that most people are not suited for relationships WHETHER OR NOT they learn these skills and people should just give up INSTEAD of learning those skills and developing those approaches to life.

[@kilianalexander2736]

This guy's been getting his dating advice from A Very Potter Musical "You never tell a girl you like her if it makes you look like an idiot!"

[@jenni4claire]

Here's the thing. If you think a guy might not be that keen on you, then you don't invest as much in that relationship. If you know he's all-in crazy about you, you can meet that energy.

[@zacrl1230]

Online they are always selling a course. On the news they are always selling a book.

[@tjenadonn6158]

Books are just courses for boomers.

[@iarmycombo5659]

I would like but thats probably in reference to Jordan Peterson. Hes smarter than any1 of you, just sadly hes past his expiration date so he unfortunately isnt coherent.(Not even to me, only thing i know is he is for sure smarter than you, thought about everything you ever thought but 3x more. Sadly his conclusions may never be revealed to the world in a cohesive understandable manner. Only thing he can get as a legacy is some clout and haters. Some1 who can reach his intelligence be4 becoming senile would be the equivalent of Jesus but yeahh nahh that wont ever happen cuz he probably is one of the best we will ever get, modern day einstein and still not smart enough for today. Unfortunate but the brutal truth. Only way human race gets anything smart done if every1 suddenly goes through enlightenment but that very obviously isnt happening so yeah, it will just be a chaos of stupidity for my lifetime anyways, maybe future generations will do something smart but i will be long gone so unfortunately i just have to bear the stupidity.

[@tjenadonn6158]

@@iarmycombo5659 You talk about Lobster Boy the same way that Scientologists talk about L. Ron Hubbard. Current estimates suggest there are less than 25,000 practicing Scientologists worldwide, less than 50 years after Hubbard dropped the body. The conclusion to be drawn seems obvious. Also, my brother has a BS in Psychology from NYU and a Masters in Social Work from Columbia University. You know what Jordyn Petersyn's nickname is among top level academic psychologists at top universities? They call him Kermit the Fraud. Among people who actually are in the field doing the research he's taken about as seriously as any other woo-woo self help author like Deepak Chopra or Zig Ziglar.

[@zacrl1230]

@@iarmycombo5659 You are delusional if you think Peterdick is smart. .

[@iarmycombo5659]

@@tjenadonn6158 All Petersons power is inside his mind and he is too stupid for his time to be able to share it and too senile. (Find me scientologist calling L. Ron senile). Also the more i study psychology the more it seems like the stupidest thing ever. It just generally ignores 90% of ideas created by the assumptions it wants us to presume and the part that it does refer to in its reasoning somehow ignores 90% of possible reasons for it. Its painful to hear anything they wrote about it. Any1 who subscribes to the idea that Freud had any more impact in the field of psychology than asking a 4-year-old for answers and taking them as right out thruths is a dumbass anyways. Still every book makes that assumption.

[@vegpuppy255]

Terrible advice, and I am a hetero female. Tell me you like me

[@kryptofreak74]

I like you 😘

[@TracyNorrell]

@vegpuppy25 I like you! You're a smart person with goals and aspirations that I can appreciate.

[@vegpuppy255]

@@TracyNorrell how sweet. Thank you 😊

[@Nerobyrne]

It's actually great advice, and here's why: If the young men get relationships that last, they no longer buy courses. Therefore, how do you generate returning customers? Make sure they have to keep coming back.

[@atlander4204]

“I love you” is something my parents say to each other every day. They’ve been married 43 years and they still mean it. (Even/especially when mom says it snarkily in response to my dad’s puns)

[@joeshmoe0136]

Of course he is. If he gave practical, sensible advice to young men, they'd get partnered up and wouldn't need the snake oil hes selling 🤷🏾‍♀️

[@deconstructing7307]

Hypergamy? High status? Most fanciest sports car? Whose house is that, his mom's or his current girlfriend's?

[@mslindadoll]

call me old fashioned; I never got to this point and considered; can I do better? I would consider if I thought the two of us had enough in common to make it to the next level. I would consider what I knew of him as a person. I would consider what I knew of his other relationships with parents and family, friends and how he had treated me in the past. I would consider whether we had shared values and goals.

[@rosevan7845]

He was telling on himself. That is what he thinks. The answer had always better be yes. What a refreshing relaxing perspective he has/s

[@Imakegachavideosforfun_17]

Definitely a course

[@SatipatthanaSakuraDragona]

But remember, ladies, the male loneliness epidemic is OUR fault. It's absolutely not the fault of these grifting older men who have been selling these ideas to younger men at an unprecedented rate since 2015 nor the fault of the younger men who have been eating it up for the last nine years. Nope. It's us. All of womankind. Because we are just existing while also being the thing these guys are trying to sell or trying to buy.

[@Lunakitty1234]

Wow. Good to know. And here I was thinking it was cuz they don’t make an effort to have a genuine relationship with anyone. They don’t want to be too close with their male friends in fear of looking gay, they want to fuck all their female friends , they drive away the women that do like them by being a-holes , and they probably don’t have healthy relationships with their family . My mistake , it’s not any of that, it’s always women’s fault. Silly me Lol

[@CodeOmega0]

I'm shocked - SHOCKED! Well, not that shocked..

[@wartgin]

Next you'll be telling me that gambling occurs at Rick's place.

[@dawnrunner77]

I love that his list of what "makes you an attractive man on paper" didn't include personality. 😂 Like yeah, my guy, if you don't have an appealing personality wealth, and status and 6 pack abs don't mean shit

[@kimwilloughby8752]

He sits on a throne of lies.

[@dominictemple]

Red flags included were “high value” and “hypergamy”, at least he didn’t say females or refer to the greek alphabet.

[@marymystery4427]

The second I saw his portrait with the mic Im betting hes selling a course immediately lmao Edit: THE MICROPHONE NEVER LIES.

[@K8isGr88]

Apparently it's weird to be attracted to a man you would trust to be a good father, and weird to be unattracted to creeps

[@SophiaAphrodite]

They all need to be sent the great course from the 1980's " STFU, Next!" by Denis Leary

[@nonasmith2405]

What how does she know then? So he thinks that all women think they can do better than him? Well I think I can do better than a man who won't tell me how he feels and plays head games with yes!

[@amandawayne829]

I also turn down men with the most fanciest car

[@mfenderson2714]

​@@prestonbosch-black4343that's so sad

[@MichelleX]

Grown men giving advice with a highschool boy mentality.. most women don't give a flying F about their car, or any other possession. Ya wanna know about women? Try talking to one or a few. 🙄

[@megustAslagt]

You've shown enough examples of people just getting mad at women for the clout rather than selling a course, so I sadly got it wrong. Should've taken more hint from his setup too I guess. But please do more of these, I want to be able to redeem myself!!

[@emilywikner6900]

I just want to say, that my husband made it VERY clear to me that he liked me when we first started dating. He consistently messaged me, arranged dates, and planned romantic gestures. Men do not need to be mysterious and aloof to find a life partner.

[@animeotaku307]

The only person who can use “Let me explain” is Sojiro Sakura right before he drops a fun fact about coffee or curry.

[@2wheelsalyssa]

My man said he liked me, the joy and love I felt inside myself hearing those words were indescribable, I would marry him in a heartbeat if he asked.

[@KingoftheJuice18]

You're right, Prof, except in one thing: His advice about not telling a woman you like her puts all the blame on the man, not the woman. It's a common theme among certain dating gurus for men, "You've messed up by showing too much interest." One of their prime directives is this: "Women are more attracted to men whose feelings they aren't certain about." And it makes sense that it's the man''s fault, if you're selling a course to men.

[@gsmith6595]

It's amazing how people will listen to strangers with no bonafide credentials

[@nnorthwest9594]

Oh my f***. Just find someone you connect with. Find your soulmate. Why do they think it's about manipulation. It's about connection and love. It's that simple. Find your person.

[@heidim7732]

People who think it's about manipulation do not deserve a person.

[@sabiro2315]

The guy in the video may be a snake oil peddler, but you saying "just find your soulmate lol" is almost entirely useless.

[@dawnstar6727]

“You never tell a girl you like her, it makes you look like an idiot!” -AVPM

[@kimsk4962]

Any man who feels like he's struggling with women just needs to read the responses in this thread...

[@rubyfazil9136]

This advice will make you lose a woman really quick.

[@paulabecker1139]

You are just such a joy and you are a restorer of faith in men and humanity

[@SiiriCressey]

"🎶 Don't ever let a woman know you care!" From a song made *very much* as a *negative* example in an episode of Frankenhole.

[@themultiverse5447]

Talking about how someone has terrible advice is thereby terrible advice

[@seraphilight]

How to defeat this man: "Do you like me?" OR Third date tell him if he wants a fourth then you're both officially dating- and exclusive.

[@lisastenzel5713]

From the background alone...I vote he is selling a course😅

[@malmnn]

So I'm not supposed to assume that a guy likes me at least a little bit if he asks me out? I always thought of that as a pretty good hint that he might not hate my company if he's making an effort to spend time with me.

[@amijacks]

if I hear "hypergamy" one more f-ing time, I'm going to 🤢🤮

[@hollisbostick2872]

1:45 I'm gonna say, "Selling a course." Definitely. Though I don't think it's a good one, even if I agreed with the premise, which I don't. Let's unpause and see how I do!😀

[@neighborMin]

Ah see I knew he was selling a course because he bought a fun looking microphone. Thats a business investment right there 😂

[@LB-ge8ih]

Interesting how similar the words “scummy” and “scammy” are…

[@njp4321]

"Is he selling a course?" Dude goes by the name Zander. So yes.

[@CordeliaWagner1999]

Whenever a man tells me he likes me I feel threatened. I have been stalked several times after rejecting men who wanted me and my body, I was besten up twice so bad I endet up in hospital. A man showing interest in me = next problem, potential danger. I am 22. All my experiences with men outside of damily and inner friend circle are extremely negative. I am beautiful. Men see me, men want to use me. Men get angry when I don't act like they are used to from prostitution and porn. Angry men are dangerous. Of course the last thing I want is a man tellingcme he likes me. That only means he will be the next stalking threat in my life.

[@LittleMissLanna]

Please keep this game up you can make an entire playlist

[@Capt-Mayhem]

Thank you. So tired of seeing the videos of men telling other men to not let women know they like them. If a man doesn’t seem to like me I don’t stay with him. So this advice is absolutely crazy from my perspective. It’s hard enough to find someone to date at my age (40s) if enough men listen to that advice I feel like I’m never going to find someone and someone that actually shows interest. 😭

[@ednakravitz2738]

Feeling sassy with the red 💅

[@aranyaphoenix]

Bet he's unmarried and none of his "girlfriends" last longer than 2 months at most. He can't be divorced, he's not the kind of bitter and hateful that comes with divorce.

[@adamkauffman9311]

I love the new series idea! Yeah, I immediately distrust anyone trying to sell me something.

[@becca53444]

“Don’t tell women you’re dating how you actually feel about them” is an insane take.

[@Mattnoble80]

I have never asked anyone for advice on meeting women and don’t advise other men to start with him

[@heathertomlinson1961]

It was the throne-like chair that made me roll my eyes the hardest. For one thing, he was crouching in it like that Lily Tomlin character in the chair that was way too big for her. Also, it was so obviously meant to make someone think he was rich and powerful and it was just plain tacky.