New research on impacts of spanking children

[@torii1514]

The fact that the news reporter was so honest about their answer just automatically gained my respect. But the fact that she is wanting to learn more about it and how it can impact her children shows progressive parenting. We are all learning as parents

[@nobleone89]

Spanking is simply a parent taking the anger their child caused them out on the child. It does not teach the child anything. It teaches the child to learn how to not get caught.

[@robertlouisburns]

When a child is wound up, you tell them to calm down or stop. If they persist, you tell them the consequences. If they still continue, you follow through or they know they can get away with their actions which is why there are so many spoiled brats today.

[@patrickhamilton7849]

My children would beg to differ.

[@spiritofMongan]

And not trust your parent.

[@overseer970]

I’ve never hurt my children. All 3 are grown and highly functional, loving adults. My Father used physical aggression on me … I haven’t talked to him for a decade. Violence begets violence… or worse still, broken people.

[@greghacker4555]

Very nicely said. Sorry that you do not talk to your dad. But does not deserve to talk or be around a very good hearted person.

[@claghornoutdoors3828]

Lmfao poor ole you

[@overseer970]

@@claghornoutdoors3828 do you feel better now?

[@claghornoutdoors3828]

I will once we stop with the poor ole me bull shit move on with life and stop looking for self pity I grew up in a hard life watching my mother over dose and die in my arms and I have two cousins that whent through the same thing and we had nobody and I have another cousin that gets on Facebook and talks about child hood truma that she supposedly went through but the only thing I’ve seen her go through was her parents had divorced when she was like 14 years old big fucking whooptydoo I’m 33 years old now moved out at 16 years old dropped out of school in 6th grade and now I’m a home owner of a house that I built I’m also raising my two children I don’t smoke or drink I hunt and fish and I bring in about $20,000 a month and I came from the project’s with nothing and I be damn if I go around telling the world my childhood problems I don’t want nor need anybody to feel sorry for me at the end of the day life is what you make it and if you live in the past then you will not succeed in life so you gotta be strong minded and always move forward and strive to want better because in this life only the strong will survive so for every body that wants people to feel sorry for them y’all make me sick so get your head out you’re ass and raise your children the right way teach them respect and morals and decency keep the worthless video games away from your children and beat that ass when it’s needed because if you don’t they will grow up weak stupid and either take their own life and or someone else and possibly turn to selling dope and ass because they won’t knw how to use a fucking screw driver but anyways you’re ignorance pissed me off overseer970 ur probably living at home with mommy smoking dope and playing video games because they didn’t remove you off the nippel

[@overseer970]

@@claghornoutdoors3828 maybe that was a whole bunch of knowledge or wisdom, but to me, you seem kinda judgy and a tiny bit angry.. good luck 🍀

[@ashanithesharp]

People are so disconnected from themselves that they block out the feelings of feeling bad for hitting their child. It’s sad that people need someone to tell them how to treat another human being. Especially their own child.

[@andrewbeltran5795]

What’s sad is that people are saying you can NEVER spank your kid. What’s bad is hitting without explanation. If you’re upset when you hit your bratt kid, that means you waited too long to address the problem.

[@friskflowerfell9689]

My parents never hit me. They only disciplined me by scolding me when I did something wrong. But my mom said that I was a good kid since birth, I had a good heart.

[@tangbein]

My grandfather on my fathers side used to hit my father when he was little. Probably also when he was a teenager. This was during the 50´s-70´s, a time where it was common for parents to do so. On top of that my grandfather was police chief in my town, so he was a hardened guy. He died of cancer in the late 80´s before I was born, and apparently one of the things he told my mother not long before he died was that one of the things he regretted the most in life was how he had hit my dad. I´m all for tough love to build up a strong emotional foundation in peoples life, but hitting is not the way.

[@Jaredpoth]

I find it hard to believe that what we have done since humans existed is so bad for people. I was spanked. I like my parents. Virtually every generation before was spanked and they generally respect their parents. It's such a weird and rapid change.

[@someone2973]

I flagged the posts from people supporting spanking because I think if they won't listen to an expert there's no changing their minds and the best we can do is prevent them from spreading their ideas to others. I think others should also flag the posts supporting spanking.

[@robertlouisburns]

You flagged people who are for spanking because you are a Karen.

[@robertlouisburns]

“Oh, someone has a different opinion than me, I have to flag them!” Sorry if you can’t accept tat we think you are setting your children up to be spoiled by lett them get away with things and when they become adults, reality catches up to them.

[@340dokidoki]

@@robertlouisburns Sorry that u cant accept that ur lazy and u dont wanna try other forms of discipline instead of justifying abuse. Maybe if spanking wasn't a thing we wouldn't have as many criminals.

[@patrickhamilton7849]

You flagged people who disagree with you? Very tolerant.

[@dumb_me195]

​@@patrickhamilton7849there's no need to tolerate abuse

[@ShaankhaneyeM]

I was beat as a kid....now I think of it, it was justified as i was a troublesome kid. However, the beatings just made me hate authority and smartennup, so i don't get caught as I did before. Now that I have kids, I have never raised my hand to them and used words instead and honestly, when my kids do something wrong or bad I just explain to them right from wrong and if they do it again or do something seriously upsetting, I let them know how their actions upset me and that I'm disappointed, and THAT, makes them not do it again. Words matter. But I can't blame my parents either. They went through their own struggles and beatings in their time. That obviously has an effect on them. They broke the cycle as best as they could and now I'm breaking it for good until another future generational member becomes the past, hopefully not. Only good thing of beatings are in the moment it may work due to the fear factor. For the future, it has negative affects on the individual and those around them.

[@netrunner2.0]

violence begets violence

[@aris4124]

NEVER SPANK!! If you spank a child you’re an abuser😡😡. Shame on you 🤮🤮

[@applezapple2340]

Physical punishment leads to emotional stress that can last a lifetime. How can you teach a child that violence is wrong, with violence? Physical punishment leads to emotional stress that can last a lifetime. Spanking is only useful if you intend to control your child using fear. Or if you want to teach them that when someone does something we don’t approve of, we hit them. You should relate the psychological effects of spanking to other relationships in your life. Do you go to work and think “I want to get this project done to impress my boss” or do you think “I don’t want to screw this up because I’m afraid my boss will fire/punish me”. Which boss would you rather have? If your wife does something that makes you upset , are you going to slap her so she doesn’t do it again? Or are going to talk it through and explain to her why it made you upset? Do you want your dog to listen to commands because he loves to make you happy and get rewarded? Or do you want him to listen to commands because he’s scared you will hit him?

[@Randomratz240]

This. I never understood why it's only okay to hit someone if they're a child. Fear is not a relationship, it's unhealthy

[@LostAccount-v6m]

This sounds like me. I didn't even realize.

[@robertlouisburns]

The “spare the Rod, spoil the child” generation is why juvenile SERIOUS crimes are way up and they become adult criminals. These brats think they can get away with anything and that the par will back them. I didn’t hear so many police sirens at night while I was growing up.

[@theWoodsman25]

Imagine thinking it’s okay to hurt someone half your size

[@robertlouisburns]

When a child is wound up, you tell them to calm down or stop. If they persist, you tell them the consequences. If they still continue, you follow through or they know they can get away with their actions which is why there are so many spoiled brats today.

[@Randomratz240]

​@@robertlouisburnswhen a kid is wound up, we help them deal with it. Not say "stop" and threaten them. Children can't handle their emotions without being taught guysss....They're humans not robots they run on instincts and what you teach them. I was spanked as a child and developed serious emotional issues and can't have kids! :D how non abusive is that?

[@miguelcano2608]

​@@Randomratz240In his example he gave the child more than one chance to stop what they were doing it's not a first reaction it's a last resort

[@sabricr]

I honestly don't mind the spanking if I would have had loving parents, who would play with me sometimes, read stories, help me with my homework but the only times I recall this people is when they would hit me or punish me so yes Im happy my childhood is over they ruined it

[@garywilliams3419]

If you hit an adult, it is assault, if you hit a child, it is discipline. But the bible tells you that it is all fine right? Spare the rod? The bible also tells you that two penguins swam all the way from Antarctica to the Middle East to climb on a boat with two of EVERY other kind of animal (one BIG fkin boat) just so they won't drown... Guess the two penguins were too tired to swim anymore. My wife and I never laid a hand on our son in violence, and he turned out to be amazing. The only time I ever saw him lose his temper in 26 years was when he lost a life in some game and he stamped his foot.... Violence breeds violence, and the most common source of this bs way of thinking is religion.. Children need love and attention, not pain and fear. My parents never had to use barbarism on me, my dad would make me repeat my wrong actions over and over again until I got bored and did the right thing. I think honestly, deep down, parents who really LOVE their kids know the right things to do, they just rely too much on the bs spread to them by others. It is almost entirely instinctive to love your kids, why listen to morons spouting garbage from an old book..

[@Mr.Goodkat]

The issue isn't religion because the people who already deep down want to hit their kids will and then they'll cite the bible to their Christian friends as the reason and justification but it really isn't and then the people who don't want to hit their kids will simply ignore the claim it's in the bible or rationalise it saying things like "Oh, that meant something else", people find what they want to find, it's called confirmation bias, if religion was why people hit their kids then so many countless non-religious people wouldn't do it and on top of that they'd be following all the other instructions the bible has too, eg. don't mix fabrics, wives are subservient to their husbands, stone unruly child to death etc, etc, there is a whole host of biblical stuff they ignore because they either don't like it or their culture disapproves of it and culture/peer group always overrides religion and gets the final say when their teachings are in conflict.

[@garywilliams3419]

@@Mr.Goodkat The issue IS religion, as nothing good has ever come from it. Girls being burned as witches, CGM, the Inquisition, priests molesting children, AIDS proliferation due to the Cathodic stance on contraception. This could go on for hours to no satisfactory conclusion. At the end of the day, I have NEVER, in decades (50) found ANY single one thing that makes religion of any use whatsoever. To me it is a virus that is killing our species way more effectively than Spanish Flu or Covid. Religion has killed more people than anything else in history. If the Devil existed, HE would have written the Bible, and it would have been the single most potent weapon ever made to kill people, and he would be grinning all over his face.

[@Mr.Goodkat]

@@garywilliams3419 I think the "single most potent weapon ever made to kill people" would be the nuclear bomb tbh. I also don't think if you're right about all of that, that it means spanking also came from it. I explained well in my earlier message reasons which show indeed it does not, it may be and is proliferated by religious people but it does not come from religion really just because you have a grudge against religion don't let it your emotions overwhelm your rationality ironically that's what religious people do but so do non-religious people when they start getting so worked up over it's BS, so everybody needs to be careful to think sceptically and logically, best way to do that is to calm down and make an earnest effort to debunk yourself, it's how you progress your views by finding faults with them or trying to.

[@Mr.Goodkat]

@@garywilliams3419 And spanking has killed more people than religion because it sends off a causal chain effect, like dominos and instils and conditions a variety of things into the human condition which aren't naturally there upon birth. Including a destructive conflict resolution ideology, power appealing effect/psychological need for it, an "external morality compass" (which is the leading cause of selfishness in the world), discourages our natural true state of "play/joy we're born with, supresses and destroys it, encourages self esteem/self worth issues and countless mental health problems and then all the things people use to cope with those things, alcohol, drugs etc, but it's biggest evil is how a few of those things (mainly "external morality compass" and especially the conflict resolution ideology it instils) are why humans go to war so all the wars can be chalked up to punishment in youth too not just spanking but punishments in general. It lowers altruism and makes power attractive and encourages sociopathic traits and then you have people like that seeking positions of power like religious figures those priests for example who then molest and then what happens? the children don't say anything because they've been told repeatedly by their parent's and other adults in their lives "children should be seen and not heard" some still did speak up and got a smack on the mouth and grounded told not to dare speak ill of father so and so, this unequal power imbalance which made them vulnerable to the priests advances in the first place and lack of self confidence and anyone to confide it and not feeling safe around adults was all already instilled before the priest even showed up on the scene and it was exactly what made them good targets, they are second class citizen's and nobody would ever believe a "mere child's" word over an "adult" etc, trust me this attitude is still around and it's disgusting but I've seen it. So spanking and indeed punitive methods in youth is actually behind everything including religion's corruptions and then the lack of care so many have and continuing to support it is easier for them to do because of how the derogatory treatment of youth instils a lower altruism in all of us and self concern is made paramount in a punitive youth because each action or inaction you undertake is making you think of how your actions will effect YOU and not other's and only care about that.

[@Unbreakable245]

Respect your youngers...

[@102A_MarkhamRoadOfficial]

I got spanked by my parents cause I COMPLAINED OVER A BULLY

[@patrickhamilton7849]

Did you?

[@102A_MarkhamRoadOfficial]

@@patrickhamilton7849 Yep

[@patrickhamilton7849]

@@102A_MarkhamRoadOfficial Sorry to hear. Unjust accusation is never good. I always would confront bullies, but to exclude spanking is never a solution. Do you believe the bully should have been spanked? Yes or no?

[@102A_MarkhamRoadOfficial]

@@patrickhamilton7849 Yes

[@patrickhamilton7849]

@@102A_MarkhamRoadOfficial Then we agree.

[@mountainben88]

Hitting children and violence makes the children feel that they cannot trust you thus don't share as much important information. It does not necessarily make them distrustful of others, just you and can make them harder to teach. Genetics, upbringing, , values, right and wrong and stories both can have benefits. some kids will like the good and other the evil, ones who like villains over heroes will more likely grow up to be criminals, womans have a higher chance of being raped or murdered by villain lovers and you may be forced to use more violence against the villain lovers. Who enjoy the ideal of harming others and may even get pleasure from it. Sadistic children have thug genetics and normally fill the prisons when older. you can use observation to teach cats sign language and is all about gaining the cats trust and loyalty. No need to spoil the cat. Hand to simple relations, pet sign, food sign, come sign, go sign, fetch sign. works with some cats better than others and some cats will teach signs to themselves from your hand motions. Not uncommon for cats to sit back and watch. Some cats pick up the fetch game by watching dogs.

[@ajshaka3212]

Srsly? Measuring aggresivness by how boys play with toys after viewing a spanking is your arguement? Such a weird experiment

[@jhonklan3794]

Its not the only experiment though. When looking at children who have been spanked and those who have not, those who were spanked had far more behavioral issues, were more likely to be diagnosed with anxiety or depression, among other issues.

[@marclabrie6027]

Time outs dont work

[@nobleone89]

The key is to teach your child how to behave. They listen. They can hear and comprehend. If you know how to teach your child correct behaviors, very seldomly will they misbehave. Forms of punishment do not teach a child what not to do, it only teaches the child to work on not getting caught

[@slaydog5102]

Yes they do , if you have to take your anger out on a child you failed as a parent

[@Randomratz240]

They do

[@burnttoast385]

Proof?

[@gregorkrause]

@marclabrie yes timeout works.

[@YessahBlessah608]

Not gonna lie this is ongoing thing(i was spanked a lot/abused) in my culture hawaiian culture its a norm for sure!

[@Bonnie-ly7ev]

Please….

[@tinasustic6504]

Time out is not discipline but rejaction.

[@sabricr]

Yes its complicated I don't like it that much as discipline ai don't think it has positive effects on behavior...

[@claghornoutdoors3828]

Oh bull shit if you don’t discipline then might as well raise them in the hood

[@Peonies925]

There are 100s of ways to discipline without violence.

[@claghornoutdoors3828]

@@Peonies925 at some point they will realize they can live without tv and games in witch I think that’s part of what’s wrong with the world today when they should be outside building things and doing productive things instead of playing a game 24/7

[@SuperEddie0228]

So as an adult you have never misbehaved?. How would you feel if a bigger person hit you, and you couldn't fight back? Especially if that person is someone that you love

[@claghornoutdoors3828]

@@SuperEddie0228 I can clearly see your education level

[@claghornoutdoors3828]

@@SuperEddie0228 ur an idiot I bet you voted for joe Biden

[@taddspencer3205]

LMAO....