Nine Types of Elderly People Who Live Miserable Lives Especially the eighth type.

[@vasiesingh1982]

So true don't rely on your children they forget who struggled to take care of them

[@gloriabarberi1292]

I know a lot of people who have many children and they end up alone in hospital.

[@concepcionmaisling1683]

@@gloriabarberi1292 🙏😢😢😢

[@dianagarrison3138]

We don’t forget who betrayed us.

[@lornahaynes7886]

Having children doesn't guarantee that they will take care of me when l can't take care of myself some children forgets about all the sacrifices that you have gone through to raise and support them 🙏 my faith is in God 🙏 hoping that l will meet good and loving people in my later years.❤

[@cheryljune1603]

My husband has died, none of my kids wanna help me. I am 74, with a heart issue, a numb leg, and they just want money. It’s weird as I never expected this

[@concepcionmaisling1683]

@@cheryljune1603 🙏😢

[@jonance93]

My children work overtime to justify their belief that MY every MISTAKE justifies THEIRS.......Distance is at times a SALVATION, I've done my time the rest is THEIRS.....

[@bobvandenbosch3304]

People are not human.in this days

[@BuddhaZenWishdom]

It’s true that having children doesn’t always guarantee that they will provide support or care in your later years. Many people find that their faith and community can offer the support and connection they need. Building meaningful relationships and staying engaged with supportive networks can be incredibly fulfilling. I hope you find comfort and joy in your journey ahead. 🌟❤️

[@ladyd8339]

Some old people don't realize their children are old also! If you are in your eighties and had your children in your twenties, they are in their sixties! They deserve a life also! They may have moved away to make a living or are still working fulltime! We don't have children to have caregivers! It is great if that works out but it rarely happens! Prepare yourself for your older years and do the best you can and let your children know you love them!

[@itsjustme7487]

Thank you! 👏 👏 👏 👏

[@BuddhaZenWishdom]

❤️❤️❤️

[@SynoviaPerla]

👍

[@snehalathanair427]

We must learn to live alone and enjoy it. Books are the best friends and help you to tide over your loneliness

[@MarilynMayaMendoza]

Books have always saved me.

[@starcorpvncj]

Yes...loneliness....thank God for the internet. 73 yo male.

[@zakia8623]

What when your eyes , hands and memory start leaving you? I am 80 living with my husband who is a couple of years older. Children are away and not caring enough. We are happy as on today but feel frightened of the years to come

[@snehalathanair427]

No need to be frightened-- What has to happen will happen-- no one.on earth can stop it. God takes care of the lonely-- trust in that

[@istoppain62]

You guys need to learn to meditate and look deeply.

[@normamitchell1638]

There is no perfect life. Children or no chidren.

[@BuddhaZenWishdom]

❤️❤️❤️

[@claudejackson5590]

Times have changed. I’m 69 years old born in the 50’s family’s had more care for each other. I’m the only child my parents and I were very close. We had care and understanding for each other. I had seizures as a child and my parents took good care of me. My dad developed Parkinson’s disease later in life and passed away. Leaving just me and my mother. I was still having seizures off and on. Later on in the 2000,s my mother had a stroke and every thing fell on me. I done all the cooking,cleaning, washing, etc. I washed and changed her. I was blessed that she could still talk and walk with the aide of her walker. We’re living in changing times. Seems like when we were young things changed but we still were on the same path as our parents and grandparents. But we’ve come to a point in life where the path has split and things are going in a different direction. People today are hung up on them selfsame not everyone but we do have some people that are like that. They have no time for no one but themselves. And it’s only going to get worse. The people who have children today don’t know what the end will be like for them.

[@Jeanette-q7u]

I cherish and revel in my solitude! I have 4 children and many grandchildren who I thoroughly enjoy but my solitude is what I enjoy most!

[@genekelly8467]

Very sobering..I became friends with an old lady up the street-I did various home repair jobs for her (painting electrical work simple plumbing). I would also drop in once a week to say hello and check up on her. After she passed, I received a very nice letter from her daughter, telling me how much her mother appreciated the visits. This came home to me..neighbors, please check up on elderly people -you can make a big difference in the lives of someone.

[@ScottsdaleSushi]

You are a good human being. I am so glad your neighbor had a kind friend like you. That is true Christianity in action.

[@oliveleacock9850]

I am 77 years old and I am very happy and thankful for my three children and six grandchildren ve spend holidays and birthdays and special times together i thank God everyday for them

[@BuddhaZenWishdom]

It’s wonderful to hear how much joy and gratitude you feel for your family. Spending those special moments together creates lasting memories and strengthens the bond you share. Your appreciation for them and your thankfulness to God show how deeply you value these relationships. Wishing you many more happy times with your children and grandchildren!

[@SynoviaPerla]

👍

[@JenHope118]

@@oliveleacock9850 good for you, but keep your home.

[@albertang4766]

Children or no children does not matter. The most important thing in life is you must be blessed. It is God's blessing that is very important. I work hard to raise my 3 sons in my younger years but now that I am old and living alone my sons have become strangers. They have not visited me for more than 20 years. It is fate that I have unfilial sons but I want to keep my head high and after my wife's passing I have decided to cut ties with them. My only regret is that I should not have children in the first place. With the money spent on raising my children I would be a millionaire by now.

[@doriellesoler7502]

My experience was slso bitter. I have accepted their lack of love aftwr much sadness and thank God I am now happily married too. Contentment is possible even after such a disappointment.

[@coraasuncion4989]

While you are still.young a d able to work.do.itvand have a saving do some got children it depends how you discipline your children a d stressed the family values and important of believing God and prayer.if you gets sick need help that's thecyimevyou need that money you save if your family values are not with your children let your money do the wondet

[@cheryljune1603]

Same, husband passed and the boys are strangers.

[@BuddhaZenWishdom]

It's incredibly painful when the sacrifices made for one's children aren't reciprocated in their later years. Your experience highlights the complex nature of familial relationships and the unpredictability of how they evolve. It's commendable that you are choosing to maintain your dignity and focus on what brings you peace, despite the challenges. Reflecting on the past can bring mixed feelings, and it's understandable to question decisions made long ago. Focusing on your own well-being and finding fulfillment in other areas of life, such as personal interests or community involvement, can be empowering.

[@clemensquinones4863]

Too sad...we will die alone, even if we have many children. I only claim what the Lord promise "I will never leave you nor forsake you "

[@sallyclay1974]

The world has changed. Im retired in Danbury, CT.. Ive had alot of deaths in my family, in resent yrs My sister had Lewy Body Dementia, My ex husband, a heart attack,my elderly mother, natural causes, a male friend , heart attack My older sister, is in Austin, my daughter LA, my brother Brinnon, Wash.lm alone, and am on long waiting lists m for senior housing. I dont expect my daughter to watch over me. She never married. This is life.

[@dharmapola1003]

Elderly types: 1. Elderly with children who are ungrateful / unfilial. 2. Elderly who are often sick. 3. Elderly with no pension/ income. 4. Elderly staying with children. 5. Elderly with no children. 6. Elderly with children of no prospects. 7. Elderly with bad conduct. 8. Elderly giving away their money to children. 9. Elderly with children staying far away. Tq, God bless all. Cheers from Malaysia. 🍁🤝🍁

[@CivenegArevir-pf6nd]

Absolutely Yes❤ from The Philippines.

[@queva3062]

What's so bad abt number 5? 😂😂😂😂😂

[@JacksonKimani-nl5gq]

1)No 5 elderly without children die. --the story ends --no future generations --the World is empty --no human beings left. HOW DO YOU LIKE THE ABOVE SCENARIO?

[@justinamusyoka4986]

I got most of those types but happy because i'm not that well and need someone closer,a family member.

[@franceswalker2986]

Human nature is fickle. We all play the cards that we are dealt to the best of our ability through the years, and the lesson I learnt now, being elderly with husband and two grown children, is that some children you can rely upon, and some children you can’t. Some elderly are fortunate and others are in effect abandoned.

[@bonnitaclaus2286]

My mother ended up in a nursing home for short while while she was recovering from joint replacement surgery. One of us visited her every day, most of the time, two or more of us would be coming and going seeing mother. My nephew tried to put in cameras with speaker and microphones, but the nursing home refused to allow us to do this. we did see my mother get much better care because we were attentive to her. They knew that she was loved and there was somebody there all the time. Whereas there were others that were all alone, such as myself, and from all appearances, the nurses I caregivers were busy all the time and had no time for them except for medication’s. My mother’s wits very sharp. Her mind as quick as ever. I believe this also contributed to her good care. She was only there for about five months, probably a month longer than what she needed to be. When she returned home, we were there. 2 daughters, a grandson, and a granddaughter. Her granddaughter who lived two states came to visit several times.

[@BuddhaZenWishdom]

It sounds like your family did a great job ensuring your mother received the care and attention she needed during her recovery. Your involvement likely made a significant difference in her well-being and recovery. It’s clear that you all cared deeply for her, and your presence was a vital part of her experience.

[@alexsandrarokas7117]

Some people have abusive parents and some people have abusive children. Every choice is a gamble. Having children and being a caring and loving parent does not guarantee they’ll have unselfish children when they, the parents, grow older.

[@BuddhaZenWishdom]

You’re right. The dynamics of family relationships can be complex and unpredictable. Loving and caring for your children doesn’t always guarantee they will reciprocate in the same way as they grow up. It’s important to focus on creating a fulfilling life for yourself and building strong relationships based on mutual respect and understanding.

[@BuddhaZenWishdom]

You’re right. The dynamics of family relationships can be complex and unpredictable. Loving and caring for your children doesn’t always guarantee they will reciprocate in the same way as they grow up. It’s important to focus on creating a fulfilling life for yourself and building strong relationships based on mutual respect and understanding.

[@Prismatic1359]

This sounds like propaganda to me. To have children so you have someone to take care of you is a very selfish reason to have a child. Having a child should be unconditional and not attached to expectations.

[@riyazahmed208]

@@Prismatic1359 only 4 types should have children: 1child lovers( for them spending on children will not be a pain but a wonderful hobby) 2 Rich business men who have an empire to take care of and a legal heir to offer the throne 3 Those who are too attached to society and dont have the guts to go against the social norms 4 millionaires who already have surplus wealth. If someone doesnot fall in any of the above categories(like me) , childless life is best. But yes, after having a child its hundered percent parents responsibilty because child has not demanded the parent to bring him to earth

[@annaholt1860]

I've met elderly people along the way in my 73 years of life. Sadly, I've met more elderly people than not who have been neglected by their children, for whatever reason. My parents strongly urged the siblings NOT to marry - main reason? It costs too much to raise children and give them a healthy upbringing in many respects. And, with parents working longer hours in their career, it's difficult for them to "be there" for their kids.

[@BuddhaZenWishdom]

You’re right-having children should ideally be about the love and desire to nurture a new life, not about expecting them to be a form of security or support in old age. It's important that the decision to have children comes from a place of genuine affection and commitment, rather than as a strategy for future support. The relationship between parents and children is complex and should be based on mutual respect and care, not transactional expectations.

[@ginnyazcona8529]

Having children is an unselfish act, which gives more purpose to life.

[@MichaelHou-p3q]

When you are 70 plus remember to go with the flow with the family don't bother what your children do

[@carolpysher8409]

You have point as parents we did what we knew or didn't. AS in the age group. Take of yourself physically, mentally. And we can't wait to long to have this knowledge.

[@itsjustme7487]

Im 70+ and all I'd like from my daughter is repayment of loans I made to her and possibly a mother's day card and birthday card yearly.

[@oliveleacock9850]

My husband is eighty and going strong i am also able we have good neighbours and friends and family God have been good to us

[@BuddhaZenWishdom]

Glad to hear that!

[@OleksandraAbessonova]

If you are going to have children in order to rely on them in old age it will be better not to have them at all.

[@verity4917]

Khalil Gibran:" Your children do not belong to you..."

[@annbow4064]

True I did have 3 but they are 500 miles from me so I'm on my own anyway.

[@URRT]

You do Not have kids to just take care of you, when you're old!

[@MJ-hl1kk]

@URRT CORRECT!

[@62halee]

But kids take responsibility for parents 95% of the time in one way or the other. That's the point.

[@theresarolle9126]

What reason to burden yourself with having children if and when you need them, they are not available?😮❤🎉

[@Noname-n1n4d]

​@@62halee Not necessarily true.

[@62halee]

@@Noname-n1n4d "Next of kin" is a powerful term in law. Like it or not.

[@MJ-hl1kk]

This video is giving WRONG advice. IN my seventy years, I have seen that 99% children are either not filial or are in no position to help their parents in old age because the pressures of looking after their own families, conflict with their spouses and work pressures leave no time or energy left for their parents. It is not at all easy to live even for oneself in this extremely competitive world, for most of humanity. My parents had brought up four children to the best of their ability and neither of them were able to take care of their own parents. Similarly, when the four of us grew up, found jobs, married, moved away and had children, we still were so unstable that for every need we had to run back to our old parents. Later on, in their very old age, none of us four were able to return the favour, except in very small and unsatisfactory measure, though we did not lack in filial piety. This is just the nature of the world and one has to be very uniquely lucky to have the full care from one's children. On top of the natural state of things as I have mentioned above, most children lack equal love and concern for their parents. So, whether we have children or not, whether we adopt or not, there is NO GUARANTEE. Mr Guom and his wife did well to decide for themselves to be child-free, instead of falling for the false logic of his parents. At least they enjoyed a life of peace, fun and freedom for forty years. After that, they had to join the ranks of other old people in the nursing home. Just to POSSIBLY avoid discrimination in the nursing home during the last years, it is a very stupid thing to do to have children and burden your whole life as well as those of your children, who in their turn will reach old age and face the same difficulties. Better accept that this is life and take good care of your health, avoiding bad habits and always eating natural and simple food and remaining as active as suits your body type. There are many people who live to be a hundred and pass away peacefully in their sleep without undergoing any disability.

[@sandrawhelan9159]

I never see or hear from my daughter, so no help there. I have 2 grandchildren, 1 has a very busy life, with no time for us, the other is a drug addict. You can't rely on children . Just hope that God is good and there will be help when it's needed. Amen

[@Noname-n1n4d]

Couldn't have said this better myself. You are very astute. Such is life.

[@JamesPardee-pr4ny]

Some people choose not having children for the greater good of not passing the issues of instability on to another generation.

[@BuddhaZenWishdom]

❤️❤️❤️

[@kimlee3607]

We are at our 80s .Both of us graduated from same University. My wife is American and I am Chinese. Two offsprings.. Two sons. None of them want to come home to see us. Sure like to see advise.

[@HansSenwua]

These advices are excellent.

[@dianagarrison3138]

Why don’t they want to visit?

[@lizmclean5342]

Leave ur money to the ppl who care for u

[@starcorpvncj]

Wave money and they will come. It's a sad fact.

[@dianagarrison3138]

@@starcorpvncj. Here’s the problem - you think it’s about the money. It’s not. It’s about you controlling your kid with money and threats and rejection.

[@myrabyrd3522]

I'm blessed🙌🙏at 73, a Widow, I have peace of mind🎉able to still take care of myself 🎉MB Thank You Jesus🕊💞

[@voyaristika5673]

Never has the world seen such a large elderly population, and it will become larger. What to do? Many children don't live nearby or work and have their own families. Having care is costly. Hopefully we will be able to adequately deal with this new phenomenon of a large elderly population. I do not want to be dependent on my children. No way. I'm 75, thankfully in good health, but if I keep living.....who knows?

[@BuddhaZenWishdom]

You’re absolutely right-our aging population is growing, and it’s important to consider how to manage this change effectively. With many children living far away and the costs of care rising, finding solutions for elderly care is crucial. It's commendable that you're thinking ahead and aiming for independence. Staying in good health and planning for the future can make a significant difference. Exploring options like community support, senior services, and maintaining an active lifestyle can help ensure a fulfilling and independent life as we age. Wishing you continued good health and strength in the years ahead.

[@concepcionmaisling1683]

No one size fits all in old age🙏

[@franwebb7756]

Do everything you can to stay healthy, exercise and eat healthy diet. Find a hobby you enjoy. Have a few friends if possible or a pet if so inclined but not more than you can manage safely and financially. Live in the present. ❤

[@agnes4113]

Very well said.i agree.

[@BuddhaZenWishdom]

That's excellent advice! Staying healthy, both physically and mentally, is key to a fulfilling life. Regular exercise and a balanced diet can make a big difference. Hobbies provide joy and purpose, while friends and pets can offer companionship and support. Living in the present helps you appreciate each moment. Thank you for sharing this positive and practical approach to life!

[@chantellucky4565]

I love your advice Ms. Franwebb. I think I will follow your recommendations! Thanks 🎉

[@siewmoywing6653]

I agree with no one size fits all in old age.

[@basilchukwudinwabichie-dn6rl]

It is always good for one to be with his own children.

[@MichelleKennedy-sd5yl]

Only if your capable of being a reasonable human, mental illness, addiction ,unstable work, drugs ,violence, are unacceptable for families health, don’t bother it will end badly ,for you and the children, get your act together first, but people don’t,

[@BuddhaZenWishdom]

❤️❤️❤️

[@vu3mes]

We in India have close knitted joint families still and elders are taken care off usually. It’s an age old tradition still exists in families to a great extent.

[@MJ-hl1kk]

@vu3mes I have been to India and lived there for several years as a doctor in Vellore. Joint families, etc are a thing of the past. Young people have started moving away independently for several decades now, since the seventies and eighties because MOST joint families I have come across are nothing short of hell for the old parents, even in well-to-do families, not to mention the lower income who really starve them. Everyone is busy and nobody has time for them. I have personally counselled thousands of geriatric cases who die slowly day by day because of loneliness even in the joint family setup. STop boasting, please.

[@riyazahmed208]

​​@@MJ-hl1kkTrue. I live in India butIIm 53.Fitness freak. Divorced. No children. No siblings. Fit 85year old mom and dad,both financially self sufficient. They stay alone. I stay alone , meet them once in a while.. I Think staying single and financially sound will not make an old man get bullied by elderly in nursing home. Besides, being in a career of sales and marketing with fanatisism on fitness I will get atkeast two people from my network to take care of me in my old age which will not be earlier than 80years. I just have to plan for my last ten years 80to 90 .Better than having a family burden , lots of responsibility, and no passion for fitness. Freedom brings control. Control brings peace

[@aidaknopp548]

You can't compared India to other culture. In India old people cannot afford to leave on their own with no pension neither Social security. So they rely on their families

[@riyazahmed208]

@@aidaknopp548 New India is different. Now a 30year old man will bring a child to earth understanding very well that the child will grow up to feed him self , not his parents. So parents have to start doing sips, ppf and other savings and investment for their own self without being dependent on children. A childs growth should not be stunted due to the incapability of his parents to look after themselves when they retire. Nor should a child expect that his parent will keep feeding him after he attains the age of 21

[@sivanandavelama1136]

VERY VERY TRUE ..... FORTUNATE ARE, THOSE WHO HAVE CHILDREN AND ALSO THEY ARE VERY FILIAL...👍🙏...

[@bonniespruin6369]

This is way too old fashioned. I can't finish watching this. Having kids shouldn't be the only goals in life. Living a good life with lots of people you love around you is important, but don't scare people into having kids they don't want. That would not be good.

[@zettyaddison7697]

Agree totally with you 👍

[@janicehill-es1br]

I believe you are talking about yourself and do hope you're managing to stay well emotionally and physically 😊

[@BuddhaZenWishdom]

❤️❤️❤️

[@elisabethgardner6321]

How about instead of have children you have good friends? I rater choose friends over family. Have a nice hobby and enjoy your single life. It comes all down to a planning years before.

[@jwelsh939]

I have no idea what you said

[@okosalaska]

@@jwelsh939 What don't you understand? She has good friends and they will help to take care of each other in old age. She either has no family, or has family, but they have no good relationships.

[@zhugeliang3905]

It's ok if they are healthy and alive at the same time as you. Many old people are seeing their friends die one after another as sickness takes over. How can sick people take care of each other?

[@snehalathanair427]

We must learn to live alone and enjoy it. Good books are the best friends-- they help you to tide over your loneliness

[@yvette-f2n]

LIFE HAS NO PLANS

[@zenaidaalejos5896]

Good reminder either single or married there’s disadvantages n advantage

[@madvriendt7131]

I have no children, but I noticed that the health of many parents is ruined by their children and not necessarily in old age! Perhaps one day I will ' 'adopt' a family which has no grandparents...

[@BuddhaZenWishdom]

❤️❤️❤️

[@Truthseeker371]

The problem is most of people don't keep friendship for a long time. The children have the own life. Like-minded people are rare.

[@BuddhaZenWishdom]

You’re right; maintaining long-term friendships can be challenging, and it’s true that children often lead their own lives, which can create distance. Finding like-minded people who share your values and interests can be rare but rewarding. Cultivating and nurturing genuine relationships takes effort, and sometimes it involves being open to new experiences and connections. Even if like-minded people are hard to find, cherishing the quality relationships you do have and focusing on personal fulfillment can help create a sense of connection and satisfaction.

[@jenfullem5279]

Having children has nothing to with guaranteed happiness That is a lie !

[@BuddhaZenWishdom]

You're absolutely right. Having children doesn't guarantee happiness, and everyone’s path to fulfillment is different. Happiness can come from various sources, including personal achievements, relationships, hobbies, and self-contentment. It's important to recognize that while children can bring joy and meaning to many lives, they are not a one-size-fits-all solution to happiness. Personal satisfaction and a sense of fulfillment often come from understanding and pursuing what genuinely matters to each individual.

[@vernaxxx8940]

Im in my 70s but still hoping to contribute to my son's life rather than be a liability. I had him rather late so he is still making his way in the world. At the very least i will husband my resources so he gets a decent inheritance. As for health.I'm seriously working at maintaining it. A lot of ill-health is selfinflicted, by poor diet and lifestyle.

[@williesmith3466]

Thank you for this KZbin. I am in my seventies, no children and never married. So, I know how you feel.

[@BuddhaZenWishdom]

You are so welcome!

[@jefftan4052]

Don't blames our chilhrens. They too suffer living in this corrupted world. When the government of the day can do something, much money goes to corruptions and useless projects. We are talking of billions of funds going elsewhere. Live with it life is short to worry about it.

[@zhugeliang3905]

Yes, like governments send money to fight wars abroad.

[@MJ-hl1kk]

@jefftan4052 I agree!

[@zhugeliang3905]

I look forward to the video from this channel every day.

[@lindamiller4649]

I pray that I can endure this world and as I get older I pray I can help others and be nice to people. Everyone will have the storms in life, I pray I can endure all the troubles and happenings. 🌸😊🌺🌼

[@BuddhaZenWishdom]

I hope so too!

[@doreenfernandes2431]

It's very enlightening and true. The last 2 stories were touching. ❤

[@clarencehammer3556]

I am 77 years old and live alone far from any family. Never had children. Now I think that that may have been a mistake.

[@Marie-lf8ut]

Not necessarily. I am 75. Just because you have children doesn't mean they will be around when you are older, or willing to help. I have a 31 year old granddaughter who lives with me and she does absolutely nothing. My daughter lives 1,500 miles away and is barely scraping by. That is why my granddaughter came to live with me at 15. My granddaughter is jealous that I was able to provide for myself better than my daughter did. So she refers to me as money bags Grammy, even though I am far from being wealthy. She doesn't accept that I worked 2 and 3 jobs most of my working years to provide for me and my daughter as a single mother. Your choice was not a mistake. It's just life.

[@riyazahmed208]

@@Marie-lf8ut So True. Im 53 .divorced. no kids. Fitness freak. Im free. Live life on my own terms. I can create wealth the way i want. I can eat what i want . Do whatever i want. I have Control. Control brings peace. At least for me. Control on fitness+control on finance= Peace of Mind.

[@louiseevans8242]

No you made the right decision.

[@BuddhaZenWishdom]

It's understandable to reflect on your choices, especially as we get older. Living alone without children can bring its own set of challenges, but there are also ways to find support and fulfillment.

[@chantellucky4565]

I just turned 76 and living alone. Children are overrated. The hard lean years you struggled to take care of them and when they grown, they don’t want to see you let alone take care of you! I have not seen my younger son for over 25 years and my older son for over 2.5 years. Once in a while they text me a few short sentences and I wouldn’t hear from them again for another 5 to 6 months! No Mother’s Day greetings, no birthday wishes! Lucky if I heard from them in Christmas time at all! I regretted having children and spent my healthy youthful years raising them instead of pursuit my own dreams!!!! Now that I am old, full of regrets and sorry for myself. Sadness is my companion although I tried to be healthy and find happiness anyway I can.

[@ageeibc6029]

We are children of God. Stay close in youth, stay close to Him on old age. Never depend on anyone but l have learned young, To Trust only in God.

[@astramccracken6555]

PRAY THE LORD

[@massimo625]

🙄

[@Grammie-hk5vb]

This is very depressing....Many folks don't need children which is evidenced in our world today through the horrorible and tragic child abuse examples we see in all media arenas. To , although covertly, stress that lives are incomplete without children is.....mean.

[@patriciacestare232]

One of my daughters cut me off The other i am living with.. I believe it is the children that should come forward to help their patients period

[@BuddhaZenWishdom]

It’s a challenging situation when family dynamics shift, and it can be particularly painful when one child steps away while another steps in to provide support. Ideally, children should offer support and care for their parents, especially as they age. However, family situations can be complex, and sometimes the expected roles and responsibilities don't align with reality. It’s important to communicate openly with your children about your needs and feelings, and if possible, seek ways to address these issues constructively. Support from a counselor or mediator might also be helpful in navigating these family dynamics.

[@Christine-j7b]

I rely on God , I am old and have no children.This is the promise I hold on to. I am your God and will take care of you until you are old and your hair is gray. I made you and will care for you; I will give you help and rescue you. Isaiah 46:4

[@yvette-f2n]

what you say is also for people who had children, children are not a guaranty for old age no matter how good of a parent you where ,ONLY GOD IS.

[@Christine-j7b]

@@yvette-f2n amen

[@massimo625]

🙄

[@chantellucky4565]

😢🥲🥲

[@massimo625]

@@chantellucky4565 🙄

[@humdrumable]

Who wants to be a ‘burden’ on their children? Besides having children just as an ‘insurance policy’ for the vicissitudes of old age might just be perpetuating misery.

[@BuddhaZenWishdom]

You’ve raised a valid point. Many people don’t want to be a burden on their children or use them as a backup plan for their old age. It’s important to plan for the future in a way that maintains independence and self-sufficiency, while also fostering healthy and positive relationships with family. Balancing self-reliance with maintaining strong connections can be a key to a fulfilling and less burdensome later life.

[@garnetjaglal3308]

Something to think about

[@a.s.k3149]

God will arrange everything for us when we live for Him in our life. Love God and love our neighbours, Jesus said. In our old age, God is our Father who love us and will take of us.

[@FazeilaKaran]

Excellent topic

[@riyazahmed208]

IIm 53.Fitness freak. Divorced. No children. No siblings. Fit 85year old mom and dad. Financially well to do. I Think staying single and financially sound will not make an old man get bullied by elderly in nursing home. Besides, beibg in a career of sales and marketing with fanatisism on fitness I will get atkeast two people from my network to take care of me in my old age which will not be earlier than 80years. I just have to plan for my last ten years 80to 90 .Better than havibg a family burden , lots of responsibility, and no passion for fitness. Bachelor hood allows us to save that money which orherwise gets spent in raising kids and build a corpus to help in old age.

[@BuddhaZenWishdom]

It sounds like you’ve got a solid plan for your future! Staying active and financially sound can definitely help in maintaining a good quality of life as you age. Plus, having a strong network of connections can be invaluable

[@starcorpvncj]

You are only 53. Don't be do confident. Health problems start at around 65. I hit two retina detachment at 63. At 73, out of the blue I got the auto immune ailment, Myasthenia Gravis (grave muscle weakness). I wish you well and all happiness. I trust no bad illness or accident will befall you. Fitness is one thing, Fate yet another.

[@chantellucky4565]

@@starcorpvncj I read your comment and I am 💯 agreed with you!!! Fitness is great but we also need a bit of LUCK & good fortune alone the way!! I was healthy enough till I hit 70 then suddenly I can’t digest my food well because I am now lack of proper digestive enzymes to absorb nutrients from food! Luckily after 3 years of suffering I found a solution with HCL & Betaine for my gut restore. I am now 85% good enough and live a pain free life except the old age related problems like back sore now and again etc. no one in my life to take care of me but myself. Children are useless in my case. Haven’t heard from them for a long while!! Only now and then they would texted me a few words!!! 😢

[@riyazahmed208]

@@starcorpvncj You are right. But I have no guarantee that having a life partner will help me in my old age . Who knows, instead of me, my partner starts falling ill and I have to take care of her. I am not ready to take the risk

[@starcorpvncj]

@@riyazahmed208 True. I guess it depends on your personality. I always like the company of a good, intelligent, and loving person. That said, since returning from busy Vietnam home to very quiet Western Australia I have finally got used to living alone. But it took me two hard years to adjust.

[@richoneplanet7561]

Jesus, I'm depressed early just listening - is that river in the opening couple of minutes really that brown? Wow thats disturbing

[@kirohiro7333]

My daughter separated us took my wife to be her free maid ,now im living alone with no help,don't trust children

[@BuddhaZenWishdom]

I'm sorry to hear about your situation. It must be very challenging to feel isolated and unsupported. Trust can be difficult to rebuild after such experiences. It's important to focus on your well-being and seek support where you can. Consider reaching out to local community services, support groups, or friends who might offer some assistance or companionship. Your well-being is important, and there are resources out there that can help.

[@smujer1]

Go to your daughter's and get your wife back and tell your daughter to go pound sand.

[@ev.adelemandagie4589]

Asian culture respects parents.

[@BuddhaZenWishdom]

❤️❤️❤️

[@JacksonKimani-nl5gq]

A World of people without children means 1) get old and die 2) no future generations 3) no people in the World. 4) the World is empty HOW MUCH DO YOU LIKE THE ABOVE SCENARIO?

[@fredsmith3456]

Sad.

[@MichelleKennedy-sd5yl]

Fortunately we don’t all think the same,irresponsible also have children that’s sad😢

[@chantellucky4565]

Very sad world!😢

[@goddessdiana8250]

When your only child is 20 and her child is 20 years younger, that means I am 80 daughter is 60. So, we look at the granddaughter that will he 40 at this time. As far as getting old, 3 generations will he considered old if we live long enough. Can't depend on your kid or grandkid, that's something to think about.

[@RoseChipembere]

It's rare to find children taking care of their parents. I have children. Iam a widow. I raised and educated them single handed. Their father died when they were so young. they are now independent. When I am sick, they check on me through phones. Fortunately I rely on my pension. My only challenge is that I Iive a lonely life.

[@chantellucky4565]

Yes, I understand that feeling! I live a lonely life too! The future is uncertain and grateful to have each day that comes! 😢

[@LigayaBartolome-d6g]

HWhat information gave very true I am old enough to know what

[@samdelacruz883]

exactly

[@margaretfonceca3919]

I know how things are ny children dont care for me,i do everything on my own,they say they dont have time even when i feel suck,they say go on your ow,and treat ne badly,i dont getbpension,the saying when we have money they are there,when we have nothing the children dont care,nursing homes cost such alot,

[@chantellucky4565]

Me same! If I was a rich woman, my sons would be around but I am not, so I hardly hear from them!! 😢

[@carolestapletonstapleton]

If people didn't have children they would be better off in their old age is the message here.

[@BuddhaZenWishdom]

Thank you for your comment. The message isn't that people would be better off without children, but rather that it's important for everyone, including parents, to have self-awareness and independence. Having children can bring immense joy and support, but relying solely on them for your well-being in old age can lead to challenges. Balancing independence with familial relationships helps ensure a fulfilling and respectful life for both parents and children.

[@marykinuthia6067]

You reap what you sow 😮

[@GracePillado]

We shall not worry God is with the elderly.

[@lilacnpink3864]

I am 63 and i am working, struggling to support my granddaughter for her college.

[@BuddhaZenWishdom]

Supporting a grandchild’s education is a generous and admirable commitment. Balancing work and financial responsibilities while helping with college expenses can be challenging. If you need any tips on managing finances or finding resources for support, feel free to ask!

[@ginnyazcona8529]

Habe children. Very important. You will be happy bit gibe them all your live.

[@BuddhaZenWishdom]

You are so kind

[@BestLife1133]

You reap what you sow.

[@Noname-n1n4d]

That should be a consideration for all adults.

[@zettyaddison7697]

If you have rotten children, you wasted your life looking after them😅

[@lizmclean5342]

I dont think children should have full responsibly for parents ,but they damn sure should help.I was in the prime of life,which i put on hold to have 4 of them,for a big chunk of my young life to see them thru every diease,social,body injures kind they could find( some all at the same time.some times)2 or three at the same time.Having made it thru that to have a good life,i can see no reason why 4 of them cant divide up my care between them But on second thought i dont want to listen to them bawl& squall& piss& moan,so ya off to the care home i go.

[@BuddhaZenWishdom]

It's understandable to feel that after dedicating a significant part of your life to raising your children, they should contribute to your care as you age. After all, you put your own life on hold to ensure their well-being. However, balancing expectations with reality can be challenging. Having honest conversations with your children about your expectations and their capabilities can help set realistic expectations and reduce misunderstandings. Shared responsibility is key. Even if direct care from your children isn't feasible, they can still support you in other ways, such as helping with administrative tasks, organizing professional care, or providing emotional support. Sometimes, professional care is the best option. This can relieve your children of the direct burden while ensuring you receive the care you need. They can still be involved and supportive without being primary caregivers. Consider planning for your care needs in advance. This includes financial planning, exploring assisted living options, and creating a support network of friends, community resources, and healthcare providers. Striving for a balance between your independence and the support you need can help maintain your dignity and reduce stress for both you and your children. Your feelings are valid, and it's important to find a solution that respects both your needs and your children's circumstances.

[@armoniamg6750]

Many people that don't have children didn't have choices, infertility is a big factor. The none filiar grup is more común. Pets are a good choice. Independence living is the best choice and planing. There are taxis, cleaning services and gardeners. But I do recommend having kids, but be aware but remember children are like a lottery

[@BuddhaZenWishdom]

Many people who don't have children often didn't have a choice due to factors like infertility, and it's important to recognize this reality. It's true that the non-filial group is becoming more common. For those without children, pets can offer companionship and joy, which is a wonderful option. Living independently is a great choice, and planning for the future is crucial. Utilizing services like taxis, cleaning, and gardening can help maintain a comfortable lifestyle. While having children can be rewarding, it's also important to acknowledge that it's not a guarantee of happiness or support in later years. As you mentioned, children are like a lottery-there's no certainty in how things will turn out. Ultimately, the key is to build a life that brings you fulfillment and to have a support system in place, whether that includes children, friends, pets, or community services.

[@MichelleKennedy-sd5yl]

Regret and pain comes with old age, with or without children ,know yourself are you a loner, do you have a lot of vices do you enjoy youngsters for there own sake, make an individual decision 😮

[@BuddhaZenWishdom]

❤️❤️❤️

[@LucyYoung-n3j]

❤❤😊 truly educational

[@BuddhaZenWishdom]

❤️❤️❤️

[@JanetFoley-k6w]

Provision for old age care should be built in to the social and economic system we live in, and should be reliable. That's not outwith the realm of possibility. Some countries do this better than others. The last thing our overpopulated planet needs is more population. People who choose to be child-free are actually doing the next generation a service. They should not have to suffer because they have no children to 'look after them' in their old age.

[@BuddhaZenWishdom]

Absolutely, the social and economic systems should indeed provide reliable support for old-age care, and different countries do have varying levels of success in this regard. Creating robust systems for elderly care is crucial for ensuring that everyone has access to the support they need, regardless of their personal family situation. Regarding the choice to be child-free, it's important to recognize that opting out of parenthood can be a responsible decision for many, especially in the context of overpopulation and environmental concerns. People who choose not to have children should not be penalized or face additional hardships in their later years. Societal systems and policies should ideally ensure that everyone, regardless of their family situation, has access to adequate care and support in old age.

[@MichelleKennedy-sd5yl]

If no one likes you in your family just remarry and do better the second time, you can also be abused or bullied by family OR nursing staff ,there is no garantee 😮for anyone, there has to be societal support for raising children or less inclined to have them

[@patriciavandevelde5469]

The thing is we live to long! Absolutely pointless to live so long! Both parents in a carehouse 4200 euros a month! Horrible!

[@myrianvalenzuela9199]

Blood is thicker than water, so children should really care for their parents.

[@BuddhaZenWishdom]

❤️❤️❤️

[@bethr8756]

First of all, please don't use the word elderly or old age. Those terms automatically can bring about false assumptions. Actually age is only a number, you have three ages, spiritual, biological, and the actual number of years. You can be 80 in the number of years, but feel 40. You want the same things you did when you were younger. And should try to achieve them. Romance, marriage, career, stylish clothing etc

[@BuddhaZenWishdom]

❤️❤️❤️

[@WandaBeasley-pi4hl]

Don't really care if anyone doesn't like old people as they call it not relaxing they don't know what life is about.🙏✋✌️🎶🎶🎶🤔

[@BuddhaZenWishdom]

❤️❤️❤️

[@EligioTello]

What is Filial?

[@wendi2819]

Family connection. Unfilial would imply their children aren't close to them or care to help them. That's my take.

[@LLM1235H]

It sounds like failure.

[@Noname-n1n4d]

​@@LLM1235H What?! You sound dreadfully young.

[@chantellucky4565]

A new word for me! FILIAL 😉 learning every day even in old age!

[@JoyceDurham-s9h]

Ha there are more types then that

[@perrydimatera9966]

😢

[@TaraSingh-rc6rs]

I have children but i gave them everything thinking that my husband would care for me. I trusted him but he gave everything away to his child with another woman. Today im penniless and im living on government assistance. Im poor but my lord Jesus provides.

[@BuddhaZenWishdom]

I’m truly sorry to hear about your struggles. It sounds incredibly challenging, but it’s heartening to hear that you find strength and support in your faith. Trusting in Jesus for provision and finding comfort in that belief can be a powerful source of resilience. If you ever want to talk more about your experiences or need support, I’m here to listen.

[@eduardofortez8370]

IN EVERY ACTION, THERE IS AN EQUAL AND OPPOSITE REACTION. EXPECT THE UNEXPECTED.

[@ev.adelemandagie4589]

Trust in the Lord. He provides and cares for us. Either live with Jesus or out of Jesus. I choose live with Jesus.

[@BuddhaZenWishdom]

❤️❤️❤️

[@chantellucky4565]

My rent and monthly bills will be here soon again! Can I tell my landlord “trust in the lord”??????? If I don’t come up with $$, I will be homeless!!! Period!!! 😢😂

[@susanlunizo8368]

Learn to save for your self while u r young .

[@gordanacizmek351]

Kad imas novaca ni jedan dio zivota nije tezak s djecom ili bez djece svejedno

[@BuddhaZenWishdom]

Having financial stability can certainly make many aspects of life easier, whether you have children or not. It can provide more options and reduce some of the stress related to managing daily needs and unexpected situations. However, even with financial resources, it's important to remember that emotional and social well-being also play a significant role in overall happiness. The challenges of life can vary, but financial security can help ease some of those burdens.

[@cecilysharrock678]

Q1qRiyaz Ahmed man proposes God disposes.

[@emineyalcn9514]

Im going to the video which has7 types of elderly...

[@artisanann4954]

Propaganda

[@nancyweisbrodt3964]

Don't watch this stupid video and save 22 minutes of your life.

[@JenHope118]

Typing humans based on behaviour, blood, sickness, finance, etc, 😂

[@mohammedanakorath8833]

Natural and biological rule is having children if they are biologically fit.

[@artisanann4954]

So whats with the children

[@marvigli993]

This doesn't apply to me, I'm almost 70, have no kids, pretty healthy don't care about having kids, got friends.

[@BuddhaZenWishdom]

❤️❤️❤️

[@lizmclean5342]

Ya my attitude is, If u want to spend my money ....maybe be a little nicer now.

[@BuddhaZenWishdom]

It sounds like you're advocating for mutual respect and consideration, especially when it comes to financial matters. This is a fair expectation. Respect and kindness are fundamental in any relationship, and your approach highlights the importance of treating each other well.

[@mamiewilliams8415]

P9mg56YMYbw​@@BuddhaZenWishdom

[@pushpaparker1412]

In Our INDIA That Couple Suffering Who's Not Boy Child. 😢

[@MJ-hl1kk]

@pushpaparker Yuck, such a backward mentality, even today!!

[@chantellucky4565]

You mean couples don’t have male baby will suffer in India???

[@sundaramsadagopan7795]

It will be difficult for seniors who do not plan for their financial support to live in fiture. Seniors should start looking inwards not continue to look outwards. Inward looking leads to self discovery (who am I and why this life ? ) through meditation and dispassion particularly for taste buds.. This will change life style with mental strength to bear any eventuality - Hinduism advocates vivekam (intelligence) and vairagyam (dispassion)-- "from a seventy two years old Indian" .

[@BuddhaZenWishdom]

Thank you for sharing this perspective. It’s a thoughtful approach to dealing with the challenges of aging and life in general. Focusing inward and practicing self-discovery can indeed provide a sense of peace and purpose. The principles of vivekam and vairagyam offer valuable guidance for finding strength and contentment, regardless of external circumstances.

[@Evelyn-rf2tq]

Not every children are filial 😊