Three Secrets to Thriving After Losing Your Spouse - You Won’t Believe #2!

[@nafizaghanniaiman9932]

My husband passed in Aug 2020, we were married for 43 years, I missed him very much, he was the first and last. I am making myself very busy, to drown my sorrow. Whenever I dreamt him I am in high spirit that day. I tried to live on the good memories. I do not want another husband. No man can fill his shoes. I eat what and when I like, I don’t have to ask anyone for anything, I am free like a bird and that’s how it will be until I meet him again.

[@AW1Lucky]

Good for you! I feel very much like you have expressed. My wife passed too young after we were together 30 years.

[@ireneduran1655]

Yes, my husband passed in 22, and we had been married 43 years old. No, I will not marry again. He can't be replaced, and I'm not interested in finding anyone. He was good to me. Why bother looking for someone who's going to be a pain in the butt. Until we meet again, I will always love him.

[@OliverKitkat]

Same here my husband passed almost 6 years ago miss him no one can replace him we promised each other we would search for each other threw eternity

[@ajayaraham]

Happiness is what matters and one should be happy always, no point in drowning in sorrow or past ! Life is one great opportunity to do things , good for you and then good for the world! God has given you more time to accomplish unfinished dreams

[@MsSandi48]

I lost my husband in April 2020 after 3 weeks diagnosis of pancreatic cancer. We had our 43rd Anniversary a week before. He was a good man and I miss him terribly and I feel as you that I don’t want to be with another man. I have some wonderful lady friends and I go out a lot with them. It is lonely at night but I am doing ok. Hugs to you as it’s not easy!

[@JuanAlmonte-rf7xk]

I lost my wife at 56 in 2016(illness), immersed myself in my work,hobbies & getting my daughters through college I was completely numb.I had no real time to greave for over a year when it all hit me.I then began to heal.God sent me a beautiful blessing after 4+ yrs & now I’m happily married.I pray my story gives people hope.🙏🏾✌🏽

[@shunbanaidu2425]

I lost my husband it’s 19 years , every word is said itrue , you feel you whole life is shattered, I started trusting in God ,without God I wouldn’t have made it on my own, I am on my own with my children an grandchildren, quite happy, I keep myself busy doing things, thought of settling again never occurred to me , God had a reason for me to be alone, I am free to go or do what I want , sleep , cook , eat an watch tv whatever I want, I am quite happy the way I am ,

[@AKHWJ3ST]

And you don't have anyone you have to clean up after or take care of! Life is much simpler!

[@cheryl1909]

❤❤❤YR on the right path-- ❤

[@BuddhaZenWishdom]

Your reflection is profoundly moving, and it’s inspiring to see how you’ve found strength and happiness in your life after such a significant loss. Trusting in God can provide a powerful sense of peace and purpose, especially during challenging times. It’s wonderful to hear that you’re able to focus on your children and grandchildren, creating joyful moments together. Embracing your independence and the freedom to choose how you spend your time is a beautiful way to honor your journey. Your ability to stay busy and find fulfillment in your daily activities shows resilience and a positive outlook on life. It’s clear you’ve carved out a path that works for you, and that’s truly admirable. Thank you for sharing your experience; it serves as a reminder that happiness can be found even in the wake of profound loss.

[@jackiehaggard5123]

I😢 Will Never Stop Loving or Thinking About My Spouse. ❤

[@cheryl1909]

@@jackiehaggard5123 YOU WILL SEE HIM AGAIN 💯 PER CENT-- KEEP YR FOCUS ON JESUS , AND HE WILL GUIDE YOU ALONG WITH YR HUSBAND WALKING BEDSIDE YOU-- YOU ARE NEVER ALONE -- THERE IS PEACE IN CHRIST AMEN 🙏 ❤️ 💖 💗 ♥️ 💕

[@infodaynightconv1445]

You sound like a very loyal person.

[@Di...747]

I have a life partner after the death of my husband. No marriage No living together. He lives in His own home pays his own bills ,cleans his own house.I live in my own house, pay my own bills and clean my own house. We meet in the middle, and it works out nicely.

[@narasimha5566]

Congratulations.

[@ingenuity296]

Brilliant!

[@prabhavathikamalakaran464]

This is better than any other ways.wishing you happy times.

[@sizzles48]

My situation too. It works amazingly well.

[@earnestinen.maxwell7151]

Makes for a great quality of life! Enjoy and Continued Blessings.

[@Emy53]

I am looking forward to living alone, and traveling. My children are grown, and I can support myself, cook, go for walks, paint, I have friends. ...live your life.

[@brucecarey3174]

Married 58 years. I live alone. I live for my children my grandchildren and great grandchildren. I still grieve for one dear wife. I miss her so much.

[@susanhamilton1205]

Your wife left you with the gift of children. You are more blessed than some. Enjoy your precious children of all ages. They, although they not know it now, are blessed with you in their lives.

[@cheryl1909]

Iv been on my own now 17 years-- I now live for my grand children as my contentment is being with them--- ❤

[@infodaynightconv1445]

Try living for God. He never dies.

[@cheryl1909]

@@brucecarey3174 stay strong; you will see yr wife again ; when jesus returns;;; enjoy yr family as that's what's important ♥️ GOD BLESS--

[@tommyjames3993]

I met a lady at church who was always happy, she had boundless energy. I asked how she stayed so happy. She answered that she was blessed because her husband had died at the age of 52. She said she travels, spends money without asking anyone, gets to watch something on TV besides Gun Smoke, only cooks if she feels like it. Saying that she dearly loved him but has never missed him.

[@karenannemaddox5794]

I am only with my husband of 21 years because we are guardians of my daughter's ten year old special needs son. Husband is a narcissist and verbally abusive. I don't trust him with my grandson. I am slowly taking control of my money and decluttering my stuff.

[@anablackford7457]

Wow. There was no love lost there. She's heartless 💔

[@carolmadore1405]

Believe you me, she is one smart women!!!!! Their nothing we can do but move on, your spouse is so happy and at rest😊😊😊😊

[@kgs2280]

@@anablackford7457No she’s not heartless, she’s free. Big difference. Apparently, he was not a fun person to live with. There are a lot of them. Sometimes it’s better to be without them.

[@MariaOffiong-l5q]

Honestly I thought something was wrong with me as I never missed mine once. RIP beloved

[@noramaghanoy4941]

So much truth and wisdom to this video. My husband passed 5 years ago and it was difficult to get to where I am today but I’m grateful for how I’ve grown.

[@blacksorrento4719]

Well said 😊 I lost my husband 5 years ago this August, after a very long illness. It’s been a long road to get where I am today, but like you I am grateful for the journey and all I have learned along the way. Greetings from Australia 🇦🇺

[@noramaghanoy4941]

Sending hugs and love to you. We are survivors! 🌻

[@BuddhaZenWishdom]

Thank you for sharing your journey. It takes immense strength and resilience to navigate such profound loss, and your ability to find gratitude amidst the challenges speaks volumes about your character. Growth often comes from the toughest experiences, and it's heartening to hear you've found a way to embrace life again. May you continue to find joy, wisdom, and connection as you move forward. Your story is an inspiration to others who may be facing similar struggles. 💖

[@user-kp7hp7kd7k]

So much truth and wisdom in these videos. Thank you. The greatest discovery in life is to discover WHO YOU ARE AND WHAT MAKES YOU TICK. Some people enjoy being married while others treasure independence and solitude. A good rule of thumb before undertaking ANY major life-changing decision is to ask yourself: Will it make my life better or worse? If unsure, then don't go ahead. Unlike in the old days, we have many opportunities to make new friends, meet up with old friends, travel and have fun. Why risk it all settling for an elderly spouse with problems and baggage?

[@AKHWJ3ST]

The ONLY thing that helps after a spouse passes is TIME. How much time depends on the one left behind, but don't tell them when their grieving time should be over! That's their decision, not yours! You be patient, and let them grieve and listen to their stories WITHOUT injecting any advice. Just be there for them, and keep your opinions to yourself. If you have any good stories about the deceased probably everybody would love to hear them, no criticisms, keep everything positive and upbeat. And remember that YOU will be in their shoes someday.

[@lourdesbarrientos5564]

😢😢😢 well ❤️‍🩹 put !, very well put! 😢😢😢

[@janicegelbhaar7352]

So very true

[@davegball]

Don't give advice to grieving friends or relatives unless you've been through grief yourself.

[@kennethpatierno6223]

You are absolutely correct

[@EllyzGoodwill]

Perfect marriages or relationships aren't real; they're all different. What works for one person might not work for someone else. But I've come to understand that there's always a solution to problems. Five years ago, my wife and I were close to divorcing because of issues in our marriage, but we found a way to fix them. It was tough, but we survived.

[@EllyzGoodwill]

Parting ways with someone you deeply care about is never easy, but in my particular circumstance, I was aided by a spiritual mentor who averted the collapse of my marriage. Her name is Suzanne Ann Walters.

[@EllyzGoodwill]

You should... I promise you will not regret it.

[@mikedeprete1235]

😢​@GodfreyKelz

[@BuddhaZenWishdom]

Your insight is incredibly valuable. Relationships take work, and it's reassuring to know that even in the toughest times, solutions can be found. The journey to understanding each other better and overcoming challenges can truly strengthen a bond. Your experience is a testament to resilience and the power of commitment. Thank you for sharing your wisdom!

[@BuddhaZenWishdom]

It's wonderful that you're open about your feelings and committed to making things work. Relationships can be challenging, but it's clear you value the connection you share. Keep nurturing that love and working together; sometimes, that dedication can lead to beautiful resolutions. Remember, it's the effort and understanding that truly matter. Wishing you all the best on your journey toward happiness!

[@JoycePhyllis-py8mj]

In new relationships seek balance and retain your freedom. Learn to say no. Discover your own passions. Find shared values and hobbies

[@DeliaHarger-cu7qc]

My husband and I were married for 65 years. On June 14, 2024 he passed away in his sleep. I am devastated. If it were not for my only child left, I don't know what I would do. I thank God for my daughter. God bless her and her family. It is terrible and my heart aches for the man who was my partner and my friend for so long, but daughter is my blessing.

[@mikemiller6568]

❤❤❤

[@g.flesch9731]

So sorry for your recent loss after so many years together. Give yourself grace & time. I wish for you some new beginnings. Maybe a new friend or craft, painting, you do not have to do things perfect to enjoy things, maybe visit a place. I wish you the best but for now go thru each day as best you can. Be sure to eat healthy & stay hydrated with water. Have compassion for yourself & you are worthy & enjoy the time you have been given.

[@satishnair8004]

I leave alone past 10 years. My spouse left me without a word. She lives alone & same with me.

[@melissahart567]

r​@satishnair8004 why do.the other (*I'm a widow) Without telling me anything Would u ever think why a man didn't say his last qhen inwas there a day before this death Was it he may know he may be gone Or.maybe he felt leaving world to the next without reminding or say last words better for his other I cant understand why ..I took it as he was not in time and couldn't tell me..I felt sad?sadder..tan

[@steventay5834]

I understand. Is not easy

[@mythilychari8754]

Lost my companion of 43 years 9 years ago. It hurts still. Loneliness is missing the other self. Solitude is finding your self. Osho's words.

[@lourdesassal6441]

I agree 100%

[@shelleycharlesworth5177]

Lost my beloved husband of 39 years 10 years ago. Was in so much pain I didn't know how I could still be alive. I still miss him so much.

[@AW1Lucky]

Lost my younger wife after thirty years together in December 2021. Thought I was going to lose it mentally and emothionally for the first few months, but pulled myself together to plan a celebration of life for the sake of friends and family (and myself). The event was well received and, gave me closure. I agree with the points presented in this video. Have no plans to re-marry, and am in good graces with my former in-laws. My adult daughter is divorced, and an excellent mother to her nearly adult sons. She has a new man in her life and they are clearly in love. I am independant, capable, and would never inject myself into their new lives together. God bless. Be well. Be generous.

[@rosemaryrogers1478]

My masculine died dec.22...my.birthday was dec 27...he died 2022....it’s still,very fresh to me..sometimes I feel like I’m slowly dying inside....now I’m crying....I need words of encouragement 😪😪😪😪😪😪

[@rosemaryrogers1478]

@@shelleycharlesworth5177 could you please tell me how you made it thru...I can’t stop crying and I’m losing weight...need a lil help

[@ladyd8339]

A companion when you are older is fine as long as they are not, as the saying goes.... Looking for a nurse or a purse!

[@BuddhaZenWishdom]

❤️❤️❤️

[@fepartosacaballeganpadit]

Am a widow for almost nine years already, i still grief coz i love my husband so much and i miss him so dearly. But life for me must go on, i live alone and i enjoy traveling and seeing my friends. When loneliness strucked me, i do gardening and attend to my little business. I feel so blessed with my four responsible and career oriented children and got one grandson.

[@ramabaiapparao8801]

I hate the word widow. Or late . Just say lost partner.

[@jennifersetser9091]

I’ve been married for 53 yrs..if anything happened to him,I’d never want another partner…I couldn’t be this lucky twice…I’m happy to read,work on hobbies, care for my cats..I have three living kids and a grandson who we have raised since birth..he is 17 ,will hopefully be on his own. I’m hoping for some peaceful time with my husband..who is still working! I’d be ok with living with my daughter,as we are both interested in the same things,but she has her life, and I’d never want to depend on her even if she was ok with it( and she would be)

[@BuddhaZenWishdom]

It's wonderful to hear about your long and fulfilling marriage, as well as the close bond you share with your grandson and family. It sounds like you've created a beautiful life filled with love and hobbies. Your independence and desire to maintain a sense of self-reliance, even while being open to living with your daughter, reflects a wise and balanced approach to family dynamics. Enjoy your peaceful time together!

[@gabrielwood9345]

This is so wise, as they would not want us to be sad and remember the beautiful times we had together❤

[@BuddhaZenWishdom]

Absolutely! Remembering the beautiful moments shared with loved ones can bring comfort and joy. It’s a lovely way to honor their memory and keep their spirit alive in our hearts. Embracing those happy memories helps us celebrate the love that was shared. ❤️

[@josephyeo6966]

Marriage is not what it used to be, and it is not seen as a lifelong commitment anymore. If I am single again, I would grief for a while, but I will not enter into a marriage or share a house.

[@George-wx9dj]

Your loss

[@shelleycharlesworth5177]

I think that's the way to go-if you had a GOOD marriage no one else can even begin to compare.

[@George-wx9dj]

I lost my wife of fifty years in 2019 and it was a beautiful marriage. I almost died five months later from the grief and stress. Seven months after her death the pandemic hit. For three years I stayed home and stayed away from everyone including my adult children . Three years I met a beautiful woman who lost her husband after 61 years of marriage. We started dating and decided to move in together because we didn’t want to say good night and go to our own homes. After five months of living together we got married. It’s going to be a year and a half next month and we are happy so and thankful

[@josephyeo6966]

@@George-wx9dj Your loss.

[@Christinschrader-hd4io]

Marriage is not what it used to be that is a shame😢

[@ellacobb6872]

I'm going into my 5th yr of widowhood. It's still difficult. I miss my husband every day. Not a day goes by that I don't think about him. However, i refuse to be too sad. It's unhealthy! And i know that my husband would be disturbed if he felt i just was "sad all the time" and not moving ahead with my life. I have a new man in my life. I think the world of him. New love has helped me to heal. However, i will never stop loving my late husband and he can never, ever be replaced ❤ Blessings.

[@BuddhaZenWishdom]

Your approach is truly inspiring. It’s important to honor and cherish the memories of loved ones while also finding ways to move forward and embrace new opportunities. Your ability to find new love while continuing to hold your late husband in your heart shows remarkable strength and resilience. Wishing you continued peace and happiness as you navigate this journey. ❤️

[@tonyamcgrew5891]

Inspiring!!!

[@ronsmith2241]

My wife passed with MS 2 years ago after suffering it for 26 years. I was her carer. I live alone and rarely have any contact with my children who live fairly closeby. Our agreement is I only visit when invited by them. I don't want to enter another marriage. I am content to live alone and I walk about 15,000 steps each day.

[@tammyfitzgerald5336]

So Sorry my grama passed in 77 had no clue what ms was back then 🙌🙏🙌🫶🏽🫶🏽🫶🏽

[@g.flesch9731]

Why do you need permission to visit your children. I live near my adult child & we stay in touch with texts, photo texts, emails. If I want to drop off something for a grandchild, a quick text or phone call. Emphasize that it is a quick pop over. Sometimes a 15 minute visit is what you need.

[@GrandmaJulianne]

Thank you. Wise words. ❤

[@raffaellavitiello1762]

@@g.flesch9731 well lucky you. ! Not everybody has children that want what you have. You do not know this personne nor his children. A lot of elderly feel unwanted, because they really are.,,,,, Or because, everybody is so busy, and have time for no one. They have all sort of excuses. It is so precious what you have, so happy for you.

[@kathe.o.]

Widowhood is hard at first. But once you establish yourself enjoy the freedom of doing what you want, going where you want. JUST be yourself & thrive. Marriage is always challenging. Live your life in GOD'S WILL.

[@rajkumarjotsinghani1729]

Very well explained. Life is really challenging after the death of spouse. Sweet memories , unfulfilled desires & dreams constantly remind you. Void remains unfulfilled. I lost my wife on 15.05.2021 during 2nd wave of covid when I was 67. I am still struggling after 3 years. I have full support of daughter & her family. Loss of spouse at advancing age cannot be filled only one can try to adjust to realities & reconcile.

[@tammyfitzgerald5336]

Learning to release them yet never forget them is the dream 💭 love and live every days as it’s my last day ❤

[@philomenamagill700]

I have been on my own for about 30 years and still happy

[@Alex-o6o2t]

I'm excited about the prospect of living independently and exploring new places. My children are now adults, and I'm financially secure, so I can enjoy activities like cooking, walking, painting, and spending time with friends. It's important to live life to the fullest.

[@margaretdlima9761]

PLEASE Don't Remarry uf you have a home 🏠 n Finances Eat/Drink 🍷/n Live a happy Life sometimes 🙏 Hod will look after you don't worry Trust in the Lord 🙏

[@tammyfitzgerald5336]

Amen 🎉

[@cathietonkin5577]

Some of the best information out there! I have a good life, but if I do out live him, I don’t want another one! I just want to learn to live, life is a learning experience! Replacing a spouse isn’t something you can’t do,especially if he’s a really good one…. finding a new life is a good thing! I love learning new things, even with my insufferable brain fog, there is always something I will retain, remember, even my old foggy brain!

[@BuddhaZenWishdom]

Thank you for sharing your thoughts! It's wonderful to hear that you have a fulfilling life and a great perspective on learning and living. Embracing life as a continuous learning experience is so important, especially as we age. Replacing a spouse isn't easy, especially when you've had a great one, but finding new ways to enrich your life is indeed valuable. Your love for learning, despite the challenges of brain fog, is truly inspiring. There's always something new to discover and cherish. Keep embracing each moment and new experience with that positive outlook!

[@cathietonkin5577]

@@BuddhaZenWishdom exactly!!! I think we also need to learn to live first with ourselves!!!! I’ve been fighting health issues for almost two years and every step of the my wonderful hubby has been there, I’m ver lucky! I’ve apologize to him all the time for not helping him more…. He tells me not to worry about it, we both took the same vow, we both meant it and how they weren’t just words to us, plus how I’ve been here every day with him!

[@venicebeckford2178]

I lost my husband of 35yrs...4 years ago ...im still in so much pain and hurt...can you imagine went to church together and you alone comes back home.. But i tbank God everyday for his strength for the journey 😮😢

[@starcorpvncj]

Ask God why he took your husband from you so early.

[@debfurm2023]

Lost my husband 2022 after being married 40 years! I just gpt a puppy! Staying busy with what i want, no drama! No idea i was stressed till i wasn't! Why would i want a job (man), i don't get paid for!

[@VirginiaSado]

❤when you are left alone, the Lord is closer and you are closer to Him too. Praying, praying is more of the oldies responsibility to the beloved ones and for everyone, more to the less fortunate, they need prayers.❤

[@cheryl1909]

Nothing in life ever stays the same-- we are challenged many of storms in life but iv learnt to adjust my sails ⛵️ and move on --- iv found peace in Christ as the journey just gets sweeter every day--- im blessed with just with being humbled Amen 🙏 ❤️

[@theranjithjay]

Great useful video and I agree in full and I’m 81 living alone !

[@Lenny-ww2qv]

I lost my wife and my best friend two years ago. She was an amazing woman and I was so grateful and blessed to have shared a life with her for just over thirty years. The first year or so was miserable. I still miss her terribly but time has healed my grief somewhat. I am remarried to an another beautiful woman and she has been a blessing to me and helping me through my grief. True love is not easy to find and if you have it you can only pray for it to happen again. God is great and he does provide you with a purpose if you ask him for it. The one thing I am most grateful for is that my deceased wife isn’t having to deal with the grief of the loss and is in a better place than me. My greatest hope is that we will be together again soon along with all of those who have went on before me. ❤

[@angelaratzay9034]

One thought that helped me widow at 28 years was knowing that he died not me I could not wish the pain on him.61 years without him I'm never not miss him.i had a good second marriage. Coping with this new loss. I believe in God.

[@davidwillie9263]

I lost my wife of 23 years and our 3 year old son in a house fire on FEB 27th 2023. I truly don't want to exist anymore. I'm 43, we were together half of our lives together. I don't know How to live this life without them. I've lost all my friends and most family through just my own grief. I don't want be in world that she isn't in. All I have is my elderly dog and she too is getting closer to the rainbow road. I've lost all passion, I have no idea what I'm doing anymore. All I can do is remember them and honor them until the day God come to take me to see them. Hopefully sooner than later.

[@luvlabso130]

🙏 prayers up for you. ❤❤❤

[@maximilian333]

That wasn’t long ago at all

[@evadunlap8891]

So very sorry for your loss. Please find support through grief counseling and prayers. God bless you with peace.

[@terriloveandlight6983]

Hello David. I am just so sorry to hear of your tragic loss. No one knows completely how it feels until you’ve actually experienced it first hand. It’s a deep pain that is almost inexplicable. I lost my husband just 1 month ago. It’s the hardest time of my life and deeply painful. What is getting me through all of this is knowing completely that my husband loved me more than life itself. He would want me to live a happy life and being the very best version of myself. He would want me to experience joy and to celebrate his life, not grieve it. Thats hard, as my grief has been a throbbing agonizing pain, and I know he would suffer if he knew how much I was hurting. He wouldn’t want that, so I wake up now thinking of him and trying my very hardest to celebrate everything I learned from him. Celebrate his love, his life, and to celebrate my own future because now it’s different having loved him. I am a better person, a more well rounded wiser woman as a result of loving him. This makes him happy, I can feel it. I hope you can spend some time living in a way that supports some level of happiness and joy. Maybe your late wife and son would want that for you. I am sure you would want that for them, if the tables were turned. God bless you. Prayers for you….🙏

[@dianakidd4219]

Stop looking back. The best advice the Bible ever gave is, don’t look back. Don’t invite heartache in, telling it to put its feet up and relax we only have NOW. Today. I lost my husband too, many loved ones. I’ll see them again. They wouldn’t want me to stop my life because they’re gone.

[@annekariuki4734]

Indeed..55 I sometimes feel like dead a life but God is faithful am here .

[@larryherbert252]

I realize l made a mistake in remarrying after my wife passed away(1994) and l remarried in 2014( 20 years passed since my wife’s death) what was that time telling me and it wasn’t worth it, she doesn’t like my son and l don’t really care for family either- l realize another woman cannot replace the birth mother, there was that itch to remarry, what a MISTAKE!!!! So have learned the hard way, the woman l married, we are just married on paper, that what happens when you (l) drop your standards, we don’t anything together anymore, that too l realize that was a DRAG!!!!, l learned about 2yrs into the marriage? well l learned that she’s a vegetarian, the restaurants that we went to were the 1’s she could eat at etc l like the comment that said don’t remarry if you have your own home etc-another MISTAKE!!!!, Well I’m sure you that have read this you get the picture

[@tonyrobinson362]

My wife Christine passed away suddenly 10 months ago after 47 yrs married I'm gutted cannot move i feel crushed, We never went anywhere on our own, We loved doing everything together, And now theres nothing i feel im just waiting to go, I love my Christine so much.

[@BuddhaZenWishdom]

I’m deeply sorry for your loss. Losing a life partner after so many years together is incredibly painful. It’s understandable that you feel crushed and are struggling to move forward. Your love for Christine is evident, and it’s important to allow yourself to grieve and seek support during this challenging time. Connecting with others who understand, or finding ways to honor her memory, might provide some comfort. If you feel overwhelmed, talking to a counselor or therapist can also be helpful. You don’t have to face this alone.

[@melluques8475]

Divorced at 40, 56 now and never had anyone but my children now grown up. I’m disable physical and mentally with independent children. I miss my boys so much and I fell that I’m not needed anymore. My second granddaughter (4 weeks old) I’m not allowed to see because her mother said I’m rude and opinionative. My son has not say on this🥺🕊🙏🏻

[@BuddhaZenWishdom]

I'm really sorry to hear that you're feeling this way. It’s tough to feel disconnected from family, especially when you’ve dedicated so much of your life to them. It sounds like you're dealing with a lot of emotions right now, especially with the arrival of your granddaughter and the distance from your sons. It’s natural to miss your children and feel like you’re losing your role in their lives as they grow. Have you had a chance to talk to your son about how you feel? Sometimes open communication can help clarify misunderstandings and mend relationships. Remember, your love and support still matter, even if it feels different now. You're not alone in this. 💖

[@dannymeyer3256]

Only if you have experienced it can you really know. And every loss has a different way they died. Some very traumatic. If only more understanding could be accomplished.

[@BuddhaZenWishdom]

Absolutely, every loss is deeply personal and can affect individuals in unique ways. The circumstances surrounding a loved one's passing-whether sudden, traumatic, or expected-can significantly impact the grieving process. It's important for those who haven't experienced such losses to approach the subject with empathy and compassion. Understanding that everyone grieves differently and that healing takes time can foster a more supportive environment for those in mourning. Sharing experiences and encouraging open conversations about grief can help build that understanding, allowing others to feel less isolated in their pain.

[@oscarrivera693]

My spouse past on September 18 of 22 I will live the rest of my years widowed my wife was one of a kind.❤

[@chomama1628]

❤

[@cyndimoring9389]

Mine passed November of 22. I miss him as much now as the day he died. I get it.

[@BUBBLESPOGO]

I understand 😢n

[@BobHolepit]

You sir, truly loved your wife. If a person loses their beloved spouse, they should always be true to them. Only my opinion.

[@cyndimoring9389]

@@BobHolepit no my husband encouraged me to find new love while I'm still alive. It's my choice. I'm just not able to find anyone that could top him. It's not a 'should' don't assume you know what love is.

[@raymondrivera617]

I lost the love of my life on our 49th year and the day after my birthday. It's still very hard coping as I've become an introvert by choice. We did everything together and in the last 6 years of his life became his caregiver. After 2 and a half years I've become so closed off to everything. I'll never remarry because he was my one and only. Hopefully, we'll meet up in the next dimension after I leave my vessel behind, God permit. I feel for everyone that's going through losing their spouse. The worse part of it was, I didn't get any spousal benefits from the VA or his from his Seaman's Union. I'm 71 and half now and so depressed and drained from fighting these institutions. Can't wait to leave this life behind.

[@lumity238]

I am a Widow of 2 years , married 48 years and I miss him dearly. I'm lonely and cry a lot so many Memories , how to keep going. I worry I won't be able to take care of the house or Car. It's not easy, I'm still working on my Confidence. I don't know how to Cope, my family have forgotten me . My Daughters are busy raising their Children.😢 So I'm going to try to Make The Best of What I Have. 💔

[@BuddhaZenWishdom]

I'm truly sorry for your loss. Losing a partner after so many years together leaves a deep void, and it's natural to feel lonely and overwhelmed, especially when dealing with practical concerns like maintaining your home and car. The grief you're experiencing is profound, and it’s important to give yourself permission to feel and process it at your own pace.

[@edwardlittlehawk1097]

Easier said than done. I've never believed in a god nor an after life. I lost my husband 4 years ago and the pain in my chest has not gone away..if anything it is more severe. They say time heals all wounds, but it is never enough time. I'm so glad I had 40 years with him. But I hate these years without him. I try very hard to stay away from people. It is sickening to have to put on my "I'm FINE, everything's FINE" face. It took almost 3 1/2 years before I stopped sleeping little naps during the day and staying awake at night so I did not have to deal with people. Taking long walks in the forest during nights when the stars are bright enough to walk by is the only thing that brings comfort.

[@albwilso9]

Marrying after death of a spouse, and in old age, is disastrous many times!!!!

[@MKTElM]

If the person is mature in way that does not objectify their partner. Accepts that another human being have their own ideas, beliefs, tastes, habits and preferences.. He would look for the things in common that made him choose her and accept her individuality .

[@morningglory9288]

Why remarry. At some stage you or your partner has to face losing one or the other once again in death. Why put yourself through that a second time?

[@kgs2280]

I have been married to my husband for 30 years. My first marriage ended in divorce after 10 years. While my current marriage is fine, if my husband passes before me, I wouldn’t even consider re-marrying. I’m old now, and I can’t imagine accepting another man into my life. Sure, I will be sad, and grieve, but I think, for myself, I’ll be just fine alone for my last years. I hope to be able to travel a lot, as that is the thing I’ve always wanted to do a lot more of, either alone or with a group.

[@morningglory9288]

@kgs2280 I personally think traveling with a group would be nicer, you might make new friends and you can share your travel experiences together.

[@BuddhaZenWishdom]

It's true that entering a new marriage later in life, especially after losing a long-term partner, can come with its own set of challenges. Each person's experience is unique, and what works for one may not work for another. The emotional complexities, blending families, and navigating different lifestyles can create difficulties. It’s important to approach such relationships with care, open communication, and realistic expectations. Many find comfort and fulfillment in companionship, while others may prefer to cherish the memories of their past partner. Ultimately, it’s about what feels right for each individual.

[@joannegild8001]

Widowed at 80, I joined a bereavement group and met someone who is now my life partner. We live separately, but have dinner together every night and occasionally sleep together. I’m lucky.

[@BuddhaZenWishdom]

❤️❤️❤️

[@wilmamanzanillo6968]

😂

[@wilmamanzanillo6968]

All must marry if a partner is dead. Trauma affects others

[@sandylambeck3151]

I lost my husband 4yrs ago . I miss him everyday....I was 64 when he passed away....I ment him when I 14yrs old....you always think you have more time ...I've always been independent..which has help me though I think ..my adult children have their own lives ..I live on my own ...Wouldn't want to to live with them ...young & old don't mix ...tho my children are very good if I need help .

[@tiagovargas4076]

Yep they do. Weekend specials, actually. Extra spins if you play on Saturdays.

[@carolpoole-t7k]

I lost my husband this past January. We were married 53 wonderful years,he is missed beyond words ❤️

[@ln3804]

No one could replace my beloved husband who died two months ago. I have no desire to find a replacement. Time doesn’t heal - with every passing day the reality of his absence is confirmed. He is never coming back. And I am desolate.

[@tonyamcgrew5891]

I feel this at the bottom of my soul, I see you and I'm so very sorry. You are correct time does not heal and its not our friend.

[@cheryljune1603]

Thank you for this. Very useful information. I really don’t wanna deal with that stuff, and I don’t want have to answer to anyone

[@BuddhaZenWishdom]

❤️❤️❤️

[@anneofcleveswithinternet]

I am only with my husband for 5 years total and we have not been married for a year when he passed away from cancer not even a month ago. I know that our time is short but our love is deep. I don't know how to move on. I am still young they said but I don't really care how many tomorrows I have left. I want to see him again.

[@After_70]

"I really enjoy the content you share on your channel. It's very insightful!"

[@BuddhaZenWishdom]

I appreciate that!

[@Aboi-gm9dz]

I lost my best friend and wife to a drunk driver in early december. We had been married 19 years and together for a total of 22. Im 42-so pretty much all my adult life. We have several children, the oldest is about to graduate and the youngest is 5. I wish i could have gone with her that night. She was just grabbing stuff for the kids. I know im at the begining of this grief thing, but im not excited for the ride. I have lost almost 30 lbs in 4 weeks. I am meeting with a grief counselor as well as joining grief share group in a couple of weeks. I dont know how long i can do this without her. Its one breath at a time, one step at a time, one second at a time. I have 0 desire to try and think about any future. The reality is, shes not in my future on earth either. If my youngest was a bit older i would have chosen to die already. But i need to keep my kids safe. I guess its true-every day i get further from the last time i held her is another day closer to my own death and meeting in heaven

[@BuddhaZenWishdom]

I am so deeply sorry for your unimaginable loss. Losing your best friend, partner, and the mother of your children so tragically is a burden that no one should have to bear. Your pain is palpable, and your love for her is evident in every word. Grief is a relentless and unpredictable journey, but it’s clear that you are trying to find your way forward, even when it feels impossible. Your decision to meet with a grief counselor and join a support group shows incredible strength and determination, even if it doesn’t feel that way to you right now. Those steps can provide understanding, comfort, and a space to process the enormity of your loss with others who understand. Your children, too, are part of your reason for continuing-they need you, just as much as you need them. Through your love and guidance, you honor your wife by keeping her spirit alive in their lives. You’re doing the most important thing: surviving for them, one breath, one step, one second at a time. Please don’t hesitate to lean on the people around you-friends, family, professionals. You are not alone, even when the pain tells you otherwise. Take your time with this process; grief is not a linear path, and it’s okay to feel every raw and jagged edge of it. I hope that in time, you find moments of peace amidst the storm and can hold on to the love you shared as a source of strength. Be kind to yourself-you’re doing the best you can in the face of unthinkable loss. If you ever need a listening ear or words of encouragement, I’m here. 💔

[@starcatcher3691]

I am 57. My longterm boyfriend died in January of 2024. He was super special and unique. I am in grief and wonder when ill feel good again. This video taught me to not wallow in grief, have gratitude for the love we shared, and to choose life. I am working on it.

[@janetrussell2908]

My boyfriend died rather suddenly Mamorial Day 2023. It takes time dear. It really affected me. Be patient with yourself. Don’t let anyone hurry your grieving process. 💔😢

[@janetrussell2908]

I am a lot older than you but he was younger than me. I am struggling too.

[@beatleme2]

Was married for 13 yrs knew each other n dated 30 yrs ago, she passed from cervix cancer she thought was menopause n butt pain, but was a tumor n the docs gave us hope till the end, they did a kidney tap n got blood clots, she bled out on the table 8 1 23 :(...from the 1st sign of pain to passing within 3 months, was only 50 we were together 24/7 n caregivers for my grandma who passed in 2017 n for my mom who is now 83 and called her mom, and can't work due to being a caregiver and extreme insomnia since :( have no kids no friends nor family but a sis who comes by here n there...no $$$ for therapy but put my faith in the lord, but 15 months later still feels like yesterday n a bad dream, so awful

[@BuddhaZenWishdom]

I'm deeply sorry for your loss. It’s heartbreaking to read about the love you shared with your wife and the pain you're enduring. Losing someone so special, especially under such sudden and tragic circumstances, leaves a profound emptiness that doesn’t fade easily. Your grief is valid and a testament to the bond you shared. Being a caregiver for your wife, grandmother, and now your mother shows your immense strength and compassion, but it can also leave you emotionally and physically drained, especially without a strong support system. It's understandable that 15 months feel like no time at all when someone who was your world is gone. While therapy may not be an option, there are free grief support groups, often run by churches or non-profits, where you can share your feelings with others who understand this pain. Connecting with others who’ve walked a similar path can be comforting. Also, consider journaling or finding a creative outlet to process your emotions-it can help untangle the complexity of grief.

[@alexismontano5850]

Good to know I'm going to try out the late-night slots. There's a night owl bonus for playing after midnight

[@MarieLDonaus]

Loosing my husband after 36 years,this is the hardest thing for me.😭

[@tyronemarcucci8395]

This is right on point.. I lost my wife of 42 years.. I feel lost, but I am coping.

[@sun-man]

I lost my wife of 41 years in 2021. Finally got over it in the last year. I'm 65 and fortunately I have a lot of money, so I'm starting to travel all over the world

[@BuddhaZenWishdom]

I'm truly sorry for your loss. Losing a partner after so many years together is an incredibly difficult experience. It's normal to feel lost, but it's commendable that you're finding ways to cope. Surrounding yourself with supportive people, pursuing activities that bring you joy, and allowing yourself to grieve are all important steps. Remember, healing takes time, and it's okay to seek help if you need it. Your resilience is a testament to the love you shared. Take care of yourself.

[@stalagnight]

My husband passed in 2012, he was 62. We had been married 43 years. I had nursed him for 😮many years. I eventually started socialising but never really fitted in. I am now 81 and still want to live. I enjoy bowl's, skydiving, traveling etc my other pleasure is reading. I cannot find a companion, I don't want a husband. My age group are ready for Gods waiting room. Where do I go from here?

[@AW1Lucky]

Where do you go from here? I would say: "Carry on fair lady, you are on a good path!" 🙂

[@starcatcher3691]

That's great you want to live.

[@cheryl1909]

I'm in my 60's and iv found in life there are many storms we challenge and nothing ever stays the same I'm afraid!!!! I'm very lonely but sadly there are many others like us!!!!! I just live for the little things in life now and any thing after that is a bonus to me!!!! Every one's out for them selfs these days as we are now living in our last days!!! TIMOTHY 2V3 -- OUR LAST DAYS 😢---- I'm very lonely and I try my best to keep my self busy-- I modervate my self to get up early and leave my house for a coffee ☕️ at a near by Cafe and a read of the paper-- I then go on my power walk for 45 mins-- I love op shopping and love juses--- I read bible scripts and draw my time in getting to know juses!!! Our only real victory is in christ juses as there is no other!!! Juses is coming bck so there's alot to look forward to when I'm one day givn my wings to fly home !!!!! People don't give you happiness so iv found my own happiness in doing the things I like in life!!!! I have a roof over my head so I'm g8 full for that as there's alot of less unfortunate people in this world than my self!!!!!! People iv got to know frm the coffee shop and its a start to my day--- the staff know my order of a mugga latte skinny milk 😂--- life is only what we make it!!!!! ❤

[@cheryl1909]

JUSES IS THE WAY AND HES COMING BCK SOON!!!!!! FAITH IN CHRIST IS OUR SALVATION AMEN 🙏 ❤ WE MUST NEVER COMPLAIN BUT SOLDIER ON AS JUSES IS THE WAY AND OUR STRENGTH--- WITH OUT JUSES WE ARE NOTHING!!!! WE ARE CHALLENGED MANY OF STORMS IN THIS LIFE AS ITS ALL PART OF GODS PLAN 🙏 😊❤

[@donneary7104]

How about joining a like-minded group that appreciates books. Often Public libraries organize book reviews and discussion groups. This offers opportunities to learn about new books and new people.

[@boblongmuir1412]

I am widowed 8 years after 51 years of marriage. Part of grief for me was missing the life we had both good and bad. I have become much closer to my children and their children .

[@BuddhaZenWishdom]

❤️❤️❤️

[@ramabaiapparao8801]

All comments are not ok.Lifegoes on. . Stay alone,never get married. If lost partner no remarriage. Why to struggle. Live your life. Sources are abailable to make you occupied happy.

[@sharonflannery3094]

I lost my husband in April 2023 after 55 years. In the beginning I felt so lost. Thank God for my family and grandchildren. Have been doing well and just want to go forward. I think of him always. I know we will be together again.

[@BuddhaZenWishdom]

Sorry to hear that

[@jamilesoares2670]

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[@margaretdlima9761]

I have only 1 Son he Straight away told me if Dad dies im not coming to live with you 🙏 i said i dont need anyone dont worry God will look after me😢

[@AKHWJ3ST]

I've lived alone now for 15 yr. Doin' fine!

[@charmainemoodley2414]

When children don’t understand that one day they will also be old. Sending you love and hugs❤️

[@buddha2845]

I'm from India,,a country where joint family was a tradition few years ago, but present generation wants money, property and comfort from elder generation,,but don't want to do any sacrifice for parents,, they openly say this attitude,, Now I regret why I worked so hard to establish business and property for my children,, i am 60,, now I want to sale everything slowly and enjoy my further life which I couldn't for sake of my family

[@goforitrazz]

Alone time is fine but having no one to share your accomplishments with or someone to do things for.Volunteering to benefit other would give purpose,life has so much less in it with my wife gone.She was a good friend.

[@chancemcfarland2897]

I didn't do very well. It's been almost 7 years. She passed of stage 4 recurrent ovarian cancer 3 days after her 51st birthday.

[@shawngraham4902]

My wife and best friend passed 4 26 2024 We were married 32 yrs and were high-school sweethearts I have no words to describe the hole left in my heart She was on dialysis for 13 years and was the true definition of strength but her body just was completely worn out I wish I had some advice for the ones who have recently lost their spouse. All I can say is the pain and emptiness haven't changed I've just learned to cope Without our 3 adult kids and our 2 grandbabies I can't say where I'd be in life but for sure it would be much worse There is another grandbaby due this April and I can't wait to meet her but sad "Grammy " won't be here to see her Anyway if you've lost your soul mate hang in there. Remember that God loves you and will be with you through this and there is a reason you've been left behind

[@BuddhaZenWishdom]

I’m deeply sorry for your loss. Your words reflect a profound love and an enduring connection to your wife that goes beyond words. The strength and grace she showed during her long journey with dialysis must have been both inspiring and heartbreaking to witness. The hole left in your heart is a testament to the beautiful life you shared and the bond that will always remain. It’s encouraging that your family-your children, grandchildren, and the soon-to-arrive little one-are a source of light in this difficult time. While "Grammy" may not be here physically, her love and legacy will undoubtedly live on in them, and you can carry her memory forward as you welcome this new life into the world. Your words to others who have lost their soulmate are filled with wisdom. Coping, rather than "healing," is often what we strive for, and finding strength in faith and family can be a lifeline. Sharing your journey will resonate deeply with others who feel the same emptiness, reminding them they are not alone. Thank you for your courage in sharing this. May you continue to find moments of peace and love, surrounded by those who cherish you and the memory of your remarkable wife. 🙏❤️

[@shawngraham4902]

@BuddhaZenWishdom Thank you

[@angelaratzay9034]

Please find a friend someone you trust to talk to. I look at the pain and know that my first husband did not die to cause me such agony , also to help him rest i made a full life for our daughter and m( looking back i now know i was running from the pain) honor his memory learn to smile with you passed husband , hug his memory ,hug him in your mind to make him happy. Don't pup your pain on your husband, life is rough, stomp on it. God less.

[@BuddhaZenWishdom]

It sounds like you’ve been through a lot and have found ways to cope and honor your past. Reaching out to a trusted friend or confidant can be incredibly helpful, and finding ways to cherish and remember your loved ones can provide comfort. It’s important to take care of yourself and seek support, whether through friends, family, or professional help. Your advice about honoring memories while managing pain is heartfelt and wise. Take care, and may you find peace and strength. 🙏

[@oldagelifeyt]

I am 65 years, I missed her very much.

[@sksharma6741]

Very nice suggestions Thanks sir

[@kristinegroch2231]

My husband passed 6 yrs ago. I'm still grieving, I will never love or be with anyone again. You only are blessed with one soulmate in your life, and mines gone. 143 honey

[@BuddhaZenWishdom]

I'm sorry for your loss. It’s completely natural to grieve and feel that way about a soulmate. Your feelings and memories are deeply meaningful, and it's okay to honor them in your own time. Wishing you peace and comfort as you navigate this journey.

[@jeanholtz579]

I have been on my own for 41 happy years!!!!😜😜♾️♾️🐬🐬

[@AKHWJ3ST]

You have never married?

[@VickiBrowne-yk4co]

Can never understand people that say they were blissfully married...and then they marry again when the other dies!

[@tonyamcgrew5891]

this happend to me too, im grateful for both of them, and each is harder than the last

[@kevinherrera3168]

Love the weekly chances 4RA gives us, their odds are always spot on.

[@ericbagaspratama7457]

Always a fair game with 4ra, they really know how to treat bettors right.

[@tonyamcgrew5891]

so basically, the best years are behind me, good list. I miss Phil so much, he died suddenly and bravely. I am depressed for sure, i have spouts of due diligence and keeping my job, on weekends are the worse. I made content on my other channel (misstbikini i know goofy name) Our daughter estranged us, then Phil died, then phil's cat died, I have such huge personal loss, it is a climb. I'm 54, 8 months in, in WA State

[@BuddhaZenWishdom]

I'm so sorry for your loss. Losing Phil, your daughter’s estrangement, and the passing of his cat all in a short span is a tremendous weight to carry. It’s no wonder weekends feel especially hard when there’s more time to sit with your thoughts and grief. You’ve been through so much, yet here you are, keeping your job and sharing honestly-those are no small victories. 💙

[@misstbikini]

@@BuddhaZenWishdomthank u!! ❤

[@DelareeReid-wx1qj]

"I know" sometimes easier said than done😢❤

[@rozanncoppin6467]

Just love this advice. Concurr 100 percent❤

[@katharineamin6066]

Excellent advice! ♥️

[@BevqueenB]

This is si true.My husband died the same day and time.Marr.I led52 years.Its so lonely.😢 hope yourdays and years get better for you and for myself.❤

[@George-wx9dj]

Live your life you’ve been given a gift of life

[@BuddhaZenWishdom]

I’m so sorry for your loss. It’s incredibly difficult to navigate life after losing a partner, especially after such a long time together. Loneliness can be heavy, but I hope you find moments of comfort and connection in the days ahead. Remember, it’s okay to lean on others when you need support. Sending you warmth and strength. ❤️

[@lindahawes3725]

I have just lost my husband of 50 years I feel so empty and full of grief things will never be the same 😂

[@cheryl1909]

Yes I'm in same boat-- life never stays the same so iv had to adjust my sails ⛵️ and chose to travel on smoother waters ; with just peace and juses !!!! ❤

[@cheryl1909]

❤JUSES IS COMING BCK AND IM WAITING ON GODS TIMING!!! I MUST BE PATIENT ; HAVE FAITH AND PRAY AMEN 🙏 ❤

[@jn3098]

Lost my wife of 38 years!! Nothing is good anymore. My soulmate

[@TerenceTHNg]

Food for thought. Wise wordsfor life time living

[@vu3mes]

Great points 🎉thanks for sharing

[@BuddhaZenWishdom]

Thanks!!

[@tammyfitzgerald5336]

Lost My husband at 41 and if I am meant to have someone else then so be it otherwise love yourself ❤and make yourself happy Stop asking God why will never get an answer the weirdest was day before his 15 year of death like God freed me was the best feeling ❤❤❤❤❤❤❤🎉🎉🎉🐐♌️🐐❤️❤️

[@Iamforspiritual]

At my 56, my wife of 54 mentally got detached from me. Though we live together we are not connected. It took 4 yrs for me tooo to mentally detach from her. My daughter was the main reason for this disconnect to meet her selfish needs. I don't know how long yo continue....

[@jagdishshankarankutty1459]

I feel after 60 yrs age v shud mentally prepare for the day our spouse leaves us… accept that such an event eud happen and prepare oneself

[@buddha2845]

I'm from India,,a country where joint family was a tradition few years ago, but present generation wants money, property and comfort from elder generation,,but don't want to do any sacrifice for parents,, they openly say this attitude,, Now I regret why I worked so hard to establish business and property for my children,, i am 60,, now I want to sale everything slowly and enjoy my further life which I couldn't for sake of my family

[@Jendromeda]

things can never be the same and just like the first marriage. second marriages present many problems, one another's children, finances, personal habits....it's much wiser to remain single after the loss of a first marriage. no need to tie the knot again. older but wiser. companionship is another story, it can be very nice if one also maintains a certain sense of freedom.

[@tonyamcgrew5891]

my second marrage was awsome and he passed suddenly, I am profoundly grateful for his companionship as long as he was with me.

[@swordguy5833]

My husband passed away the 27th of December (using his youtube account) and I have no idea how to get the stage where I can turn a page. How do you all get to there when ths is so utter shit?

[@MaryLynch-r4f]

Me too. I'm happy

[@Christinschrader-hd4io]

My creator is my parents period

[@Luiza-mr4jo]

Telling everyone about 4ra's fair betting, it's a game changer.

[@patriciamvisnofsky4750]

When my dad pass on july third 1963 the funeral director ask mom if the bank accounts were in both name said yes with the fourth the bank closed for before the died notice was put in the papers went to the bank and put the account in her name that i was holding anything back

[@CarolMarkgraf-tc7vl]

David Willie, I just read your story. You haven t mentioned Grief Counselling or a Psychologist. I think you should try both. Do you go to church. What I hear is a person that has shut down.. Perhaps suicidal. I am not a Doctor. You need to reach out. You, Sir , have only lived half your life. You were very hapoy with the first half. I d love to see what your next half will bring.

[@npbarot109]

Ll this is well till you are healthy, at far end days after 80 you may need support of somebody, whom you can trust and a dedicated one. No hired person can come near to these qualities. He may be a potential danger if he is after your wealth.

[@RonaldSleath]

My wife past away in 2007 I me as her so most amen

[@starcorpvncj]

i read a lot here about people thanking God for his help in their time of grief and loss. By hey, he was the one directly responsible for your grief and loss, surely. You can't have it both ways. Why does God need to cause us such pain? Why didn't he create a more perfect system so we could avoid this unfair trauma?

[@ginnymiller5894]

He did have the perfect plan but Adam and Eve messed up.