You hate your life because you're trying to be an aesthetic

[@NkirukasWrld]

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[@SloanePaoPow]

Aesthetic: the false belief that you can buy your way into a personality

[@heylacy3563]

👏👏👏

[@sweariefaerie9621]

You need to put that on a tshirt, and sell it at Target.

[@ClarissaDenise]

Literally the best definition!!

[@rainbowcat498]

AMEN

[@Xamry]

Peeeeerfect summary!

[@bapple1538]

People create new aesthetics every week to sell products!! Creating a “need” and then profiting off of it

[@NkirukasWrld]

It’s literally just to sell 😭😭let my pockets BREATHE

[@aleruchiì]

Let me piggy back off your point a little bit 😮 In this social media age people are looking for an identity, a community , friends Having an aesthetic helps them find a community It’s good in theory but the practicality of it thoo …? Cos they are influenced based on beauty and popularity and people without a high sense of self would just fall into it because “everyone is doing it” Hence being in a community and still feeling empty 😕 And pun intended here Empty pockets and empty souls.

[@Kiwilog1]

Clock it

[@JordanS-ww4eu]

@@NkirukasWrldyou’re my best friend I really like you ❤❤❤❤❤❤❤❤❤❤

[@JordanS-ww4eu]

@@NkirukasWrldyou’re very pretty

[@shio5234]

we been trained to market ourselves at this point

[@NkirukasWrld]

Literally, u gotta love a capitalist society

[@nakiyajourney]

this!

[@katpablo]

so perfectly said

[@bellib420]

Having friends that are obsessed with being apart of a certain aesthetic is exhausting. Like just be yourself babe.

[@Jess_icaaaaaaa]

Exactly!

[@Perogativeprincess]

Omfgggg.

[@Randomstuffsig]

What if that aesthetic is who she is???

[@Thunder1i1y]

​@@Randomstuffsig I would say the aesthetic isn't WHO u r, but instead a part of ur personality

[@Xjudissnjx-el3ix]

​@@Randomstuffsigpeople are rarely one dimensional like aesthetics are😅

[@aquarianmajo]

so much easier to avoid all of this if you don’t use instagram, twitter, or tik tok.

[@DrCocofruit]

I use twitter the most but don't follow most accs that do aesthetics, and those that I do follow that try to keep up an aesthetic I give them the compliment I can provide and move on. Honestly I can't even decide between what colours to use for my account when I like all the colours; thoughtless of trying to maintain a whole aesthetic for goodness knows how long

[@kawaiikoto9260]

True once I deleted insta . I'm much happier .

[@Vivian-Luna]

I feel like the clean girl aesthetic is a curated white girl thing because most poc have been doing those looks for years but we’re seen as ghetto or not elegant. My mom did it in the 90s and ppl thought she was just another ghetto or loud Latina. That’s just my own personal view since I am Latina but I’m pretty sure it’s the same for other poc as well. I know a lot of my Indian friends had the oil slick back hair with gold hoop earrings but ppl thought of them as weird or dirty. Now that white girls like Hayley Bieber are doing it, it’s considered “clean”

[@tatafromthehood5573]

Exactly, a lot of what clean girl aesthetic is can be traced back to poc. I'm not latina but I'm African American and I remember how not to long ago a lot of people would insult slick back hair and hoop earrings by referring to it as the "hot Cheetos girl" look and used it to reinforce the ghetto latina/ black girl stereotype. I didn't know that hoop earrings could be found in Indian culture though.

[@h.y_123]

@@tatafromthehood5573 yeah indian culture includes tight oiled braids and a lot of gold jewelry. but most of the middle east and south asians have gold jewelry as their culture as well

[@irlasouza3250]

girl you're said everything. As a Latina when I first saw the "clean girl aesthetic" I was like, "ok, this is what women in Brazil were doing in 90's why this is clean now?" For me the trend has a sense of "new" or "fresh" because white women are doing this now...but this is not a new thing, its what we've been doing for years and never get the credit for it but now Hayley Bieber is the great name behind it? sad but no surprised...

[@livenaturallea]

Yes, I have noticed this too. Its not popular or good until white ppl do it. But all they are doing is copying/imitating

[@tutti-frutti369]

This is so true !

[@crochet.lover501]

I'm so glad I'm not the only one who doesn't think I have a "specific" aesthetic 😭

[@alexandragrilla161]

I have multiple bc i love wearing wtv looks good on me tbh

[@jennetzysisaac4098]

I have this friend who keeps asking me what's my aesthetic but I don't really have one. I like trying different looks bc I don't want to look the same all the time

[@alisonmercer5946]

​@@jennetzysisaac4098 this calling everything an aesthetic was never a thing until this last decade

[@alexandragrilla161]

@@alisonmercer5946 i think ppl just want to define some style's vibe but instead they make it a whole aesthetic

[@jackieclingman9707]

I have multiple aesthetic disorder (MAD). One day I’m sporty, next day I’m clean girl and another day I’m coquette, then I’m glam…I like multiple styles and being able to dress for many occasions right from my closet.

[@emily-yo1cy]

My Aesthetic is Me. Me Core. Me Aesthetic. 😃

[@XCaptianXChaosX]

Nice! I call mine "Chaoscore." Because I don't even know what my personal aesthetic is. Comfortable, maybe? So I spin a wheel and play dress up for funsies.

[@morbidleaf]

this is the best aesthetic, because there's only one of you, you're unique, and nobody can replicate that. throughout my life, the coolest people i've ever met were just totally comfortable being themselves and did not care what other people thought of them.

[@CultofDani]

I feel this, I never really stick with one aesthetic ever so I really just feel like it's just a me aesthetic

[@sanjanat1085]

My mom was a beige mom. House was beige, from the kitchen to the bathrooms to her bedroom. I honestly like it now as an adult since she played around with shades and texture. But my room was never beige. She always left it up to me how I wanted to decorate my space and never enforced her preferences on me. It was her home so she rightfully decorated it how she wanted with beige but she understood I wanted a space of my own and let me do whatever I wanted with my room. Painting your kid's toys beige is so weird like kids thrive on colours! My mum always made sure I had colour and vibrancy in my environment. She hand-painted my old crib and rockick chair in a studio Ghibli theme and looking back on the pics, it was so beautiful!

[@sameerakhan7455]

Ah, when you talked about the different shades and textures I had a feeling your mother would be into arts or into interior design (which I find can be a form of artistic expression in itself) The last part of your crib and rocking chair being painted in studio Ghibli theme was so too cute. I'm glad she understood the need to let children's creatively through colours out, especially with her having her own beige look that she liked. I loved this comment. I would also love if you could tell in detail HOW the rockingchair and crib were painted to have studio Ghibli themes as that's really cool

[@diannaparis.]

That's so lovely! And the studio ghibli customisation is super cute ❤

[@solarholic]

coquette becoming mainstream and just watered down to pink, grey, and bows is so painful

[@drowsy7921]

Considering how toxic the coquette subculture is, I'd say it being watered down is a good thing

[@SibilaDelphos]

People who create a personality around an aesthetic and not the other way around.

[@NkirukasWrld]

That ain’t the way to go!

[@NeonLeonSonic]

We have too many expectations for ourselves

[@britneybij3997]

I just wanna get the skinny and financial stability 😭

[@ykmnia]

I already feel so pressured, I'm not even 18

[@NkirukasWrld]

Thanks to social media 🙂

[@kimanijackson8502]

​@@ykmnia For real 😭

[@Stellaryz]

@@ykmnia frr 😭😭

[@NlsnBckr08]

There are so many aesthetics that the word don’t even have a meaning anymore

[@FINNSTIGAT0R]

Aesthetics is just "style" rebranded and turbo-charged. Thank god I'm from Finland, and a male. Insanity comes here much later than elsewhere.

[@mdvttx]

It’s sad to see how we as a society created a need for a label for literally anything.

[@FINNSTIGAT0R]

It comes directly from the internet and social media. This labeling started innocently from hashtags, so that certain things and issues are easily grouped together, and now digital evolution has brought us here, where absolutely everything is sorted, grouped together and labeled.

[@angela_tarantulas]

It‘s all about the money 💰 just marketing!

[@NkirukasWrld]

No frrrrr

[@glitterkitty1979]

Nailed it

[@nariskotchg7598]

“Why is drinking coffee an aesthetic? Let me drink coffee in peace” girlllllllll I felt that, preach!

[@JessicaFloresM]

The best decision I could have made, has been deleting all my social media apps. I just dress however I want and it has improved my self esteem. I think aesthetics are fun and all but not on what you should base your personality.

[@kendram4118]

The trending “aesthetic” is consumerism! I can’t scroll on TikTok without a product trying to be forced on to me or advertised on an influencers video. The trending aesthetic is constantly changing and they expect us to keep up 🤦🏻‍♀️

[@LDY962]

I don't understand how adults can be so easily influenced. It's clear that not everyone has the mental strength to resist trends, but worryingly, the majority of adults aged 20 and over often do. There is a complete lack of authenticity in their lives, replaced by 100% conformity. they are in total denial where they live for others and not for themselves. It's just cringe and pathetic.

[@Rosula_D]

Because it's the easiest way to feel "different" and safe at the same time. Everyone wishes to stand out from the herd, but few people are willing to actually leave the herd. Following aesthetics is the safest way to appear different, without the risk of being shunned for that difference.

[@LDY962]

@@Rosula_D I understand what you're saying, but in my opinion, it's an illusion to feel truly different by following trends. It makes you feel like you're standing out, but deep down, you're still in the same mold. For me, true individuality comes from within, not from the aesthetic you adopt. Following trends can bring some comfort, but it doesn't help you develop an authentic personality.

[@oOAleex]

I think being inspired by aesthetics you truly like is absolutely fine. The key thing is to not let it dictate your life. Don't discard stuff you like that doesn't fit the aesthetic or follow it even though you hate everything the aesthetic stands for.

[@Kuroo-]

I think it has something to do with having a sense of community or feeling included somewhere, but people are overdoing it HARD and I wish people would just wear what they want regardless of the newest aesthetic because I’m sure it’s genuinely exhausting.

[@alexandragrilla161]

Fr but tbh subcultures aren't any better either i think both are stupid if you obsess over them and they're the only thing you care about

[@LyricsxxVideos]

yes! i had a professor in college stop class to ask what jeans to wear since skinny jeans are out, and her 10 year old niece called her cringe. she kept complaining about how baggy/boyfriend jeans look and how much she likes skinny jeans. i raised my hand and said “what if you just wear what you like?” and everyone ignored me and went back to telling her what jeans to wear felt like a black mirror episode. just teach me R please 😭

[@uui219]

​@alexandragrilla161 So everyone should be a part of the mainstream culture? ??????

[@alexandragrilla161]

@@uui219 no but ppl are allowed to try trends as long as they don't follow overconsumption it's okay to be basic

[@baronessboomer3865]

It's training people to conform, while draining their resources. It's about control, keeping people broke & and constantly trying to follow the herd.

[@Giantfloatingballoonhead]

Where I live (I don’t know if this happens anywhere else), influencers show up to restaurants with suitcases filled with clothes. They go into the bathrooms, change, and come back out to take multiple photos (they usually come with a friend/lackey who is responsible for taking the photos). These influencers aren’t there to eat food. Just take photos. It’s gotten so bad that some restaurants don’t allow influencers to take photos or they create a special menu for influencers. My point is: social media isn’t a real place.

[@pizzadogma]

That is dystopian

[@nessa1511]

YES. I just want to live an authentic, messy life.

[@FullyLovingYourself]

Same

[@d1gitalsonder]

yes! life will never always follow one “aesthetic”, that’s just not the nature of the universe

[@soude85]

The clean girl aesthetic is what we used to call “basic” mixed with “preppy horse girl”.

[@polinka5621]

I think some people just love labels. "I'm virgo, my MBTI is INFP, I'm an introvert, my blood type is 0, my Chinese zodiac is pig..." and then they can find excuse to their choices and behaviour

[@Gretelsbetterhalf]

Hate this so much. I avoid answering any of those and just say everyone is different, doesn’t matter what phase the moon was in when I was born. Being treated like a stereotype isn’t fun and people are doing it to themselves every day now.

[@saylremi]

I really appreciate this video and the way you handled this topic!! As a goth for 20+ years we've been struggling for literally decades with trying to explain to people the difference between subculture and aesthetic, often facing backlash in the form of being called gatekeepers or elitists. Wear what you want, you do you! That's fine! The problem comes when you take an aesthetic and use it to try to claim or overhaul an established subculture.

[@d1gitalsonder]

i feel people are forgetting that as multifaceted humans beings we don’t have to be able to perfectly fit into any box; also ur life experiences can very much authentically shape your personal aesthetics. this all ties in to late stage capitalism, and a decline in originality which is ironic as individualistic mindsets are all the rage rn. we are humans we don’t have to be like robots. lots of subcultures have become aesthetic-fied as well; unlike subcultures these aesthetics aren’t usually based around real community, culture, or shared beliefs.

[@Ketchupangel]

I fuggin screamed when you mentioned the coquette vibe being creepy/reminding you of the shining twins 😭🫢 I couldn’t put my finger on why I don’t necessarily love tht aesthetic BUT U SAID IT PERFECTLY I get what ur saying

[@Killjoy_Mel]

I don't think individuality was ever alive. We are a social species whose successful survival depends on tribalism and social cohesion. We like ti belong. A little bit of individuality goes a long way, but by and large, we crave to be more alike than stand apart, and it's been so since Ugga invented the first loincloth. It's nothing new. If anything, even with these microaesthetic movements, we're more individualist and 'apart' than we've ever been in the entirety of human history.

[@alexandragrilla161]

THIS how ppl do not get it? The vintage fashion they like and think it makes them different was probably the same deal back in that time as well it's just that ppl didn't have social media back then

[@alysd]

I used to be so obsessed with becoming the idea of the dark/light academia girl.. but it’s so exhausting bc it’s really unattainable, especially when ur broke. Like being aesthetic is expensive.. 😭

[@kphoria1009]

fr i thought when i got to college i could embrace dark academia but buying all those trenchcoats and doc martens was gonna be too expensive and i adopted a streetwear style naturally

[@kyramarchelli967]

I am genuinely confused about how people cultivate friends around esthetics. I've been friends with the same people I met in elementary or high school. We share and influence fashion or beauty ideas and some of us like the same look, but we're definitely unique.

[@SloanePaoPow]

*Whispers*: No one cares about your aesthetic offline. 😉

[@Tamietwist]

True, but no one is making life nicer or paying me not to offline eighter. 😅 And isnt office/farming/mom/stores the old school aestetic with all their clothing rules and expectations? I do not think you can be who you want to be in that case. 😂

[@soude85]

@@Tamietwist Yes, you can. It’s clear that you shouldn’t go to the office half naked but you incorporate your own style into the requirements of the environment. That’s how people have been doing it for decades..😂 Nobody has ever looked the same, except when they have to wear a uniform.

[@drowsy7921]

This is honestly kind of comforting to hear

[@shripadbhagwat6566]

I'm so glad you are making a video about this !! These aesthetics are getting out of hand day by day

[@solysuero]

I love this. Every time I’ve studied my instagram I’ve always felt the same way. I don’t have a dominant aesthetic because I don’t like to be put into a box. Perfect example of people who don’t have a trendy aesthetic are celebrities. If you look at their instagram specially actors, they post all sorts of things from work, red carpet, behind the scenes…. Just random stuff. It’s similar with musicians as well and other artists. It’s the “influencers” who need to have an aesthetic because they need to otherwise they won’t be noticed online.

[@beingcece]

It’s giving Bratz: The Movie with the cliques😭

[@Privation]

My astetic is "stay at home mom": breastmilk stains, lounge wear, husband's sweaters and no make up included lol

[@theresalives]

You can create your own personal aesthetic by wearing what makes you feel good inside and out

[@mightyseashell]

Money drives the production of these aesthetics. They sell the idea of hyper-individualism in a group setting. They tell us this is the new trend to look a certain way with every aesthetic. This is what drives so many inconsistencies in our own personalities. We start to feel like other people don't understand our fashion choices because they aren't even our own choices. If you were wearing something you actually resonated with, there wouldn't be any internal conflict about your fashion choices and thinking that whether other people accept them or not will not affect you or have a deep meaning about other people's opinions about your fashion choices. We begin to make fun or snark remarks about other people for not being as fashionable as we are. We might not even recognize that we are self-reflecting. Making fun of other people because we deem them not fashionable is a clear portrayal of the conflict we face with our own fashion choices. This is a purely online experience and in real life, it's just capitalism. It is about making more money. These corporations don't care what internal conflict you have because they will just push out a new aesthetic to fix that presumed conflict. They don't care whether you look good or not as long as you buy into the train of constant consumption. This is so clear when a person criticizes a modern fashion choice, it's easier to write them off for being ignorant about fashion or just a hater instead of analyzing why we made that choice.

[@dianarodriguezd1567]

I used to follow that aesthetics to feel and dressed “better” when I did I was not feeling good , when I deleted social media and I stared to dress how I wanted I started to receive a lot of compliments 😊just perspective

[@dianarodriguezd1567]

And I don’t dress “trendy” anymore

[@fairykelsie]

I remember in 2014 there were Instagram themes you could do for your page, if you used a specific VSCO filter. I'm glad I minimized my social media usage, it has made me over think a lot and had me purchase unnecessary things to match my "aesthetic". I hate it all because, in the real world, no one cares....

[@Karmillina]

You know what they say, when you lack a personality, just buy a new one.

[@rufarochabedi5125]

The media online lies to us about certain aesthetics trending, to make us believe their fake hype and buy into the aesthetic. I swear it's all a scam, that's trying to ruin our ability to find our style and identity.

[@crochet.lover501]

LOL I don't know much about aesthetics but IMO ur giving classy baddie streetwear vibes iykyk

[@crochet.lover501]

Just realized you mentioned later in the video trying to incooperate streetwear in your style 😭

[@cheslxy]

I’ve seen groups of people “friends” at the mall wearing the same outfits, hair to toes and only a few who actually have individuality in some friend group. These people need to develop personality and discover themselves over and over not follow trends 😅

[@elizabethmcnamara6548]

It is sad because the trends change everyday you will never catch up. Just have what you like to wear or what you like your home to look like.

[@didilubrano2b]

Let’s make having a personality an aesthetic

[@YazzyFairy]

I think your "aesthetic" should reflect who you are within (not the other way around), and it should change only when you do. Wear what you love and what fits you.

[@sophiegrits]

At the end of the, be yourself! That is *the aesthetic*

[@Papas151]

Say it louder for the people in the back!!! Every time I hear the word “aesthetic” or “-core” I feel like melting my damn brain. Especially since the word aesthetic is not even used correctly in any of these instances, though I feel like thats nitpicky of me lol

[@HK-cp8tm]

This was such a well put together video essay. I love the way you communicated and its so true - just because someone has a put together aesthetic doesn't mean they/their lives are truly 'put together.' God bless x

[@PinkRosePurpleMauve1]

Bruh... I swear, I am so glad that I do not have any social media account (except for Fb, Reddit and Pinterest) because every time I see a clip of a Tik Tok, I feel like I am getting dumber hahaha. People on Tiktok/Instagram love to use big words to talk about the most trivial and dumb things to make themselves sound smart and important.

[@enamorana]

Remember the drinking game? I died of alcohol poisoning

[@Beapoem0802]

Before, sub cultures emerged from a need or a desire for change. Young people didn’t fit in or wanted to live differently (goth, punk) so they found each other through their shared interest. The optics just came with that. Today, the aesthetic comes first, but there’s no backbone holding it together. It’s just surface with nothing to say. That’s why true sub cultures like goth or punk are still prevalent today. The iced-matcha-tennis-creamcore-girly will not survive the next five years. 😄

[@robinkisuma]

altering my top while watching this bc i choose ✨ underconsumption aesthetic ✨ (im broke)

[@yarp1246]

"Think about what you have on right now" I currently am wearing an oversized Amazon Prime Day shirt my sister gave me and it is my pyjamas of the day lol So I'm wearing Amazoncore aesthetic rn

[@NormieNeko]

It's somewhat fun when an aesthetic finally describes your overall look. It's not so fun when it becomes a costume or joke. I'm a blue collar housewife in a rural small town, and it shows. I am the "farmer's daughter" or "cottagecore coquette" or "farmcore nymph" or "prairie girl" or "Americana" or "countrycore" in real life. I have some "morute" and "trailer park princess" touches as well, and that last one reminds me of upper middle class teens pretending to be poor for aesthetic reasons (happens often nowadays). I didn't grow up in a trailer park, but I've lived among lower class and lower middle class people my entire life, so the cultures behind these aesthetics are genuine for me. My look and lifestyle hasn't changed much in my lifetime. I enjoy how playful aesthetics are, but they're artificial skins and short-term roleplay for many people, rather than a subculture or lifestyle. They lack meaning and purpose on their own. Making them a personality is honestly kind of sad. I've seen girls change aesthetics with every boyfriend or new best friend they have. It's weird. As for my cat girl tendencies, I add those pieces to my already existent "farmcore coquette" aesthetic in my somewhat-of-a-country-girl real life. It's but one small part of a larger picture.

[@ashcruz904]

People have become way too obsessed with labels. Not everything has to be assigned a name. The need to belong to a category is why I feel like individuality is dead.

[@lujainmustafa20]

My aesthetic is and has always been “ME” it just revolves around being myself and doing and wearing what I want and what I like and what makes me comfortable ❤

[@angelblue52]

I also noticed that aesthetics have gone overboard. But I feel liken moderation like adding certain elements here and there isn't hurtful. It can be fun and authentic to the person.

[@annad.4406]

I REALLY like the clean minimalist aesthetics when I visit a hospital XD It makes me feel calm, but only in that context 🙈🙈🙈 I think we should normalize that the homes where we live just can't look like that... and don't need to do it

[@chae2074]

right, i feel damn near ashamed to like the modern look because it just looks really nice to me, while seeing everybody else bash it. but yk, to each their own 🤷🏽‍♀️

[@anerdygoldenagesoprano]

I dress mainly a mix of coquette and generally alternative but its not even on purpose in a way of trying to follow a trend or aesthetic. It ended up being the name people started using for the fluff, lace and cutesy stuff I like

[@drowsy7921]

Same. I go from a frilly girly girl one day and an edgy metalhead the next.

[@stephaniehuthmacher4214]

Overused words... Aesthetic and iconic.

[@XCaptianXChaosX]

I went to fashion school and am a certified stylist and personal shopper. Fashion is my passion, so to speak. I take great care of my clothes and have been keeping them since the 1990s. So i decided to dress in a different aesthetic almost every day. Half of them i have to google because i have no idea what they are, but i haven't met an aesthetic that i couldn't match from my wardrobe yet. I do this entirely for sh*ts and gigs. Today, i am a VSCO girl. I have never been on that app. My home decor however, i dont think fits into any aesthetic.

[@c.v.3025]

4:42 (A-ees-thé-tee-koh-s) you can also imagine saying Aesthetic- but then just adding an -os at the end, and say it with your best Spanish accent. Happy pronunciation! ❤

[@TheYoungKilljoy]

I never knew how bad this was, until I noticed some people befriend others on the base of their aesthetic. Honestly, how do you find people who look so similar to you? It's uncanny

[@EspritsFantomes]

As someone who doesn’t post on social media. Aesthetic is hilarious to me 😂😂 that’s mental

[@Vivian-Luna]

I feel like the clean girl aesthetic is a curated white girl thing because most poc have been doing those looks for years but were seen as ghetto or not elegant. My mom did it in the 90s and ppl thought she was just another ghetto or loud Latina. She also did the “browny lips” . I know it’s also a thing in black culture. I had my hair slicked back with my hoops almost everyday in elementary and middle school. I was just mad fun of 🤷‍♀️ but I guess That’s just my own personal view since I am Latina but I’m pretty sure it’s the same for other poc as well. I know a lot of my Indian friends had the oil slick back hair with gold hoop earrings but ppl thought of them as weird or dirty. Now that white girls like Hayley Bieber are doing it, it’s considered “clean” Idk why I just have a grudge against that aesthetic… it’s probably irrational 😭

[@mial3033]

It feels like we're creating needless cliques outside of schools 😩

[@erinmcclain6423]

11:27 NK if I drink anymore I’ll be drunk! 😂

[@cascaa5357]

thank you so much, every time i feel lost or behind others i just watch your videos and i feel good

[@seasonalien125]

I have a pretty set-in-stone aesthetic for myself, because I've always cared a lot about my looks and my "branding" even before aesthetic was a word the internet knew of. But it's an aesthetic that's very unique to me, because it's this very specific mix of other styles based on what I know suits me and works for me. So I guess you could say it's a restriction I put on myself, like it's the case with all aesthetics, but it highlights my individuality because it's born from my personality and my own personal style that I've curated over the years. I love indulging in it. I love pretty things, I love to look pretty, and I love the thought that other people already know me a little it just from looking at me.

[@_omanita]

I just want to say I love love your videos! How you breakdown everything! I’ve been following you since this year and I’m really proud of what you’ve achieved!🥰❤️

[@EssyMerrosy]

Girl your youtube is everything! I love your personality and I watch every single video that comes out ever since I found you. Love from Zambia

[@loreimiya]

The hardest part about the clean girl aesthetic is that it is a very visual-induced concept in comparison to others. Like coquette and other aesthetics, at least I can get away with applying a ton of makeup that fits this standard. While clean girl aesthetic was at its highest peak, my acne was terrible. The way that I never saw any women with this aesthetic and my type of skin was detrimental and resulted in hundreds of dollars dropped JUST on skincare due to influencers curating this belief that the item will stop hyperpigmentation. If a woman does post about her face, people will comment on her visuals and say that she is not "taking care of herself." I am currently seeing a dermatologist (which is going amazing), but I wish that more girls know that having acne is more than simply just getting "dirt" on your face or not wanting to prioritize self-care :(

[@FullyLovingYourself]

Did you say they were painting their kids toys beige

[@Imraveofficial]

Yea watch Hannah Alonzo influencer insanity on beige moms she describes it perfectly lol love her

[@chindiaharris]

This is my first time hearing about core aesthetics lol this is actually insane

[@housecat5958]

My friend and I were talking about this, but if you’re honest with yourself and just buy what you like, your stuff does end up usually going together. It creates a “you” aesthetic. It may not be a defined aesthetic but people tend to gravitate towards things with similar qualities whether they realize it or not. So just do what you like and make your own aesthetic

[@Cranberries4Crows]

This video was so so interesting because my experience with aesthetics has been so different from yourss! I think it's maybe because I've been drawn to like lifestyle based aesthetics. Downtown girl, acadameia aesthetics, goth aesthetics, goblincoree(that one's very niche) and now, Earthy Black Girl. Watching this video and getting to the segment where you spoke about how you shouldn't join communities just based on looks I realized the communities I was joining all revolved around lifestyle, and looks just sort of trailed along for the ride. I feel like these are so much more fulfilling and entertaining for me!! Another thing, Anytime i've participated in an aesthetic..it wasn't for anybody but myself. I always did it because I thought it looked cute and i thought it would make me happy. "I adore this aesthetic, I want to emulate it in my life because it's so so cool!" has been my mentality throughout everything. I think interacting with aesthetic culture can be actually fun if done in a healthy way, and ONLY for yourself. Not for social media, not to make friends, not for anything but you, My friend group is a mixed bag, and a lot of us go after very specific aesthetics that are so totally different. You should NOT base your friendships off of an aesthetic. Also trend hopping on certain aesthetics also seems pretty unhealthy too. At the end of the day, you should be following an aesthetic because you ENJOY it. You can participate without destroying your self esteem and value your individuality above all. Nvm, I got to 23:25 and I've been participating in SUBCULTURES and a feww aesthetics. Even then though you can apply the same mentallity to both.

[@cassie_1177]

thanks for talking about this ❤️

[@NkirukasWrld]

Thank u for watching!!!

[@moemoeanisong]

As a lolita, seeing a relatively large youtube channel mention our fashion is always a W! I didn't know people were linking lolita fashion with coquette tho. I guess there are ~some~ aesthetics overlaps? Idk. But about the "coquette" house decor itself, it obviously isn't new and has been around since way before Tiktok got popular. There's that one Japanese household shop called Romantic Princess that has always been a huge inspiration for me to decorate my own bedroom

[@Skrzacik]

I thought I'm free from this because I don't have tiktok, don't care about any influencers etc, but hell, I noticed I'm not really free when I saw some flowery jewelery I really liked, but I said to myself I wouldn't wear this because it doesn't fit my style... and now I'm thinking why am I restricting myself to certain styles even if I find something pretty? It's pretty sad.

[@homiekeen23]

I like playing with "aesthetics" when there's a part of your personality that maybe you can't show (cultural reasons, for example, etc.) or still don't know how (social anxiety, shyness, ....) , it helps me to actually feel more like myself at times when I can't or can't *yet* show that side of me

[@sigmaalphaleaderrr]

love youu!! this video was soo good 💕💕💕

[@ghouligan3045]

Aesthetics or whatever core people make up, is just minimal cosplaying.

[@lwahdoccies]

Thank you for this video, I was just about to delete my Pinterest because I'm tired of these aesthetics 🙆🏾‍♀️😭😭😭

[@luisabolado]

omg your hair is giving live action ariel its so cuteeeee slay

[@joshuamoon9312]

When anime girls my age have more relatable rooms than people on tiktok do

[@kwantum12]

0:54 i just love how literally everything comes from Greece

[@leahsmith2078]

In the psychology world, I feel the intense feeling of needing to stick to an aesthetic is evidence of an adolescent brain. When you get older, you don’t feel the need to stick to one look to fit into a crowd. The need is just not as intense.

[@heysaras]

Thank you for being one of the few people I’ve seem to critique the use of the word aesthetic. I feel like it’s used ignorantly by people and they just label anything as “aesthetic” like it’s only an adjective rather than actually describing it. Like what IS the aesthetic you’re commenting on, please?

[@Heyflaviaahey]

the only time where aesthetics were ever useful to me is when I broke my fav mug and wanted to get a similar one, so I typed in cottage core ceramic mug into etsy and boom perfect match, but mind you I had to think a bit to even come up with this silly example so that says it all

[@Sapphire_Reacts]

for me, i like certain aesthetics because i grew up watching shows or movies that had those particular looks and always wanted to wear that once i got older. i like coquette because i like the regency/victorian era like the style is cute and also reminds me of beauty and the beast. i like whimsygoth because shows like sabrina the teenage witch and charmed had those aesthetic. i like goth mostly romantic because of the vampires i watched like bram stokers dracula and drusilla from buffy & dark academia because i read books from authors like edgar a. poe. also like anime and videos games. my personal style is mix of all these aesthetics, i dont confine myself to a box. I wish more ppl would just embrace what they like inside of trying to conform to one ideal or look

[@chelseaperkins9708]

I'm rocking the poor girl aesthetic in 2024 🏆 😂🎉

[@mineshinee97]

mee too

[@baigalmaatsolmonbaatar7421]

Thanks for highlighting the hell out of the consumerism, capitalism, greed, and the point of making money in every levels of all of this!!!!!

[@amandapark7786]

I generally follow Kitchener essences when it comes to fashion and aesthetic choices. It’s timeless and is based on your physical proportions so whatever aesthetic you like you can make it work for you if you follow your essence. It’s not a trend it’s like unlocking a game changer.

[@shiparmada4460]

Would highly recommend following folks who have tips about finding what feels right for YOU. Aesthetics are fun to play with and it's fine to take inspo from them, but they can't be anything bc life isn't an aesthetic. One thing that helped me was thrifting. Go to the thrift store and spend the time to put together an outfit with whatever you can find there. Have fun! Play dress up! Pick stuff that feels like You

[@Trekkie143]

Having OCD or being someone who is very overstimulated when surrounding by too many loud designs and bright colors…. It’s more about mental health. If everywhere you go all day is loud and bright, having a certain calming aesthetic that makes you feel good inside, can be a game changer. Mine is dark gamer girl. 😂

[@Ari-ge5cp]

Loving your background, its so aesthetic ❤😂