when your personality makes you ugly...

[@NkirukasWrld]

let me know your thoughts on this one! Does personality affect beauty, or are they two completely separate things? If you want to be part of future conversations don't forget to check me out on Instagram so we can kiki it up! instagram.com/nkswrldd/?hl=en

[@ionedisuh]

I think it's two separate things that impact one another in different ways.

[@Nastya37q]

They definitetly affect each other.Blake lively is just looking like a statue for me like i cannot say she is attractive and i cannot say she is someone i would like to have a date with.No morals,no charm.

[@kawaiibev]

I believe personality does affect beauty. If someone is attractive but does or says horrible things I would not find them as attractive anymore. It can work both ways, for example I started finding this one guy more attractive because he’s very charming and has a great sense of humor. At first he wasn’t the usual type of guy I tend to go for but that started to change.

[@WinterRank-oh5to]

Idk if it’s something small and petty I might just think they’re having a bad day but if it keeps happening or if they’re being really rude then I find them ugly my biggest ick is when people either make racist, homophobic or r@pe jokes or even if they find it funny. People like that just gross me out no matter how attractive they are

[@KDevilgal]

Yes. It’s like if someone created a shit sandwich with expensive bread and put it on a beautiful plate. It might look fine from a distance but the closer you get, and the more you see, the more you can’t separate the two and wonder why anyone else can find it appetizing.

[@justsomeinternetperson2390]

I definitely think people become less beautiful if they’re a bad person. Looks can fade, but personality lasts forever.

[@muskaan3711]

Well said.

[@nodrvgs]

absolutely

[@momof3chis291]

💯

[@rainforest.4577]

I've dated handsome men (movie material) that I stopped liking immediately after finding out they were toxic. The attraction is just not there anymore.

[@justsomeinternetperson2390]

@@rainforest.4577 Yeah I feel like people think they can ignore someone’s not so nice personality if they’re attractive, but for me there’s this icky feeling that I can’t get over.

[@boscorner]

"I used to live here" Then the guy just was like "Ok?" What a guy

[@SusanDelgado1177]

Legend

[@ladyv5655]

Zero f***s given! 😂

[@asarishepard8171]

Epic😂

[@menace4319]

fr like who does she think she is

[@BrownEyedGirl.]

He really said "I don't know her" 😂

[@MelissaMayhem99]

Blake Lively gives off such mean girl vibes from those girls in high school who held the image of the all American girl - but were passive aggressively rude, classist and talked shit behind people's backs but were polite to everyone's faces. I was bullied by those type of girls relentlessly so my inner teenager is THRILLED that these women are being called out

[@pcarebear1]

Not to mention the clothing brand she tried to sell "Antibellum" w/a rich girl- boho southern vibe. And that girl is from California lol. I'm superstitious, I couldn't get married at a plantation or making money of "antibellum" weirdness or being "mean girl"...the ancestors would haunt my butt.😂

[@Evgencia]

Calling her a mean girl would be an insult to all the mean girls that exist.

[@sooah9014]

womp womp

[@BrownEyedGirl.]

EXACTLY. Her whole squad exudes “you can't sit with us” vibes. Pretty ridiculous for a group of people in their mid 30s.

[@Blueeeberry11846]

Same

[@Kim_Dokja_Simp]

For me the biggest red flag about Jlo is how P. Diddy always described her as the "perfect woman". Like yikes just imagine being the perfect woman for someone like P. Diddy

[@momentswithyahya4239]

😂😂😂

[@rinibunny4576]

I would cry

[@SashaRare]

He said the same about Cameron Diaz

[@heylana719]

He said Cameron "was the one that got away" 😮

[@kerri6011]

didn’t she sneak a g u n in a club or something for diddy and then he shot at someone and or threatened them

[@IlikepurpleXP]

It’s not just “jlo repping the Bronx when she went to private school” it’s that she doesn’t keep the Bronx out of her mouth but has done nothing/has not given back to the community she’s used for decades to rake in millions. Also her being horrible to people she deems below her. I worked in hospitality in nyc and have a some JLO stories from coworkers and they’re all very similar.

[@nodrvgs]

very very true

[@liamcollinson5695]

It was great though when she went to her old house and the guy was like I literally have zero clue who she is

[@grimsev5100]

not defending JLO but going to a private school doesn’t automatically = you can’t rep the bronx. that’s the stupidest shit i have ever heard

[@KateCat420]

​@grimsev5100 she likes to pretend she grew up poor, but she didn't. Sure, she grew up in a low income neighborhood, but she was never poor. At worst she was middle class.

[@agirlhasnoname1472]

💯💯💯

[@salfred8252]

I so agree with the notion that, "hey, if you're rolling in dough and not at all relatable, don't put on airs." Look at Dolly Parton, she is swimming in financial freedom, and is by no means "relatable", however she is loved for her ability to maintain that human connection.

[@asarishepard8171]

Yeah she seems sweet and I hope that's true because if its a facade she's the best actor alive! It has to be real from her

[@UnashamedCaliforniagirl]

She actually seems pretty relatable to me

[@dianamunoz4296]

Dolly Parton in my opinion is very relatable, she is a humble woman who grew up poor in Tennessee, she literally modeled herself after the town "hoe" because she thought the woman was so beautiful and she wanted to be just as beautiful so despite everyone talking badly about the woman Dolly didn't care and instead looked up to her for being unapologetic gorgeous, Dolly quite literally is the og girl's girl, also hearing stories about her absurd amount of siblings and parents trying to live in a one bedroom house was quite a rollercoaster, and she has given back immensely to hers and other people's communities, plus she wrote I will always love you and then gave permission to Whitney to sing it which led to the iconic song we have today.

[@crownedking_cj8890]

@@UnashamedCaliforniagirlu rich rich, donate to me🤣

[@TheCottonCandyQueen]

Weird how that works, ain’t it? Being a rich and beautiful woman while retaining a connection to your audience and even using your position as an influential person to put your best foot forward and do good in the world. Such a wild thing (I am very much joking)

[@rebidelphi2111]

I've always believed that someone can be physically attractive, but if they have a bad attitude or speak poorly, it quickly makes them unattractive. Attractiveness isn’t just about looks; it's also about how you think, speak, act, carry yourself, your humility, your patience, the way you treats others. Have a blessed day❤.

[@NkirukasWrld]

i agree but i feel the majority of people don't, that's why there are so many terrible people out there who still get praised! I didn't even mention all of them because I know people would be mad LOL, but its the truth!

[@88vfw]

Since learning about Blake Lively's controversy and seeing that interview, I can't find her as attractive as she once was. In the past, I always thought that she is an attractive person and had great fashion sense.. The way she had completely ignored the reporter and had an entire conversation with someone else in front of her was something that I experienced as an adult. It was embarrassing and hurtful experience. At least for me, she is not as a good looking as she once as her outside beauty is masking her horrible personality. I find this happens with regular people in my life, not just celebrities.

[@Heeyitsmika]

Whats wrong with pdiddy? Theres a controversy?

[@martapriya98]

I Agree, it lasts for 10 minutes and then everyone sees it, and dislikes.

[@jaxj968]

yep!

[@00MissDani00]

I think people need to realize that there is a major difference between being confident and setting boundaries, versus just being rude and cruel.

[@Passions5555]

The statement of the century

[@jjgandthatsenough]

Justin did not fatshame Blake, he asked for her wait because of a previous back injury and he wanted to know how to train for those scenes

[@sofiasantoss2019]

yeah but she always have to play the victim in any scenario so...

[@alice_rabbit8345]

I have arthritis in my spine. I would 100% need to know the weight of something before I lift it.

[@bunnii5357]

for me, with ryan reynolds is that he was married to scarlett johansson, and magically, he married blake lively that SAME year. you can't tell me that man was cheating and her literally wrecking a marriage. that's why i dislike her and her unfaithful husband, and it's sad bc he's a good actor. jlo is a whole another story lmao

[@R0mbVs]

On top of that Blake was dating Penn Badgley too when they met. They broke up shortly after.

[@BoyWhoCriedDILF]

Yes. I believe it was year 2008 on the set of Green Lantern. Ryan and Blake would sneak off together and they were even caught kissing by paparazzi. Ryan and Scarlet eventually got a divorce and soon after, he and Blake got married. So, yes. He is a schemer, and a cheater and Blake is a homewrecker.

[@oomay1925]

tbh I think Reynold's is just a decent actor. He mostly just plays "silly guys" in his films, and tries to make that is irl persona. It's a bit annoying imho.

[@rainforest.4577]

Quite honestly, as disgusting as it was, two cheaters getting married is the best combo on the planet. They deserve each other.

[@Vindominus]

Just learned that Ryan was also apparently married to Alanis Morrissette at one point, wonder what went wrong there.

[@marinas7203]

I think you were specially kind to those two, Blake has always been a b- actress and all her relevance actually comes from a show that was more than a decade ago. Jlo is very famous but also the closest she came to beeing iconic was 20 years ago. Personally I think the backlash comes from them behaving like they are better than other people when in fact they were never even that good in their art in the first place.

[@daelitedlee]

i was kinda surpriswd by blake's segment bc most of her films were mid.

[@nodrvgs]

"especially kind" 😂

[@anonme_]

Preach!!

[@svetlanaandrasova6086]

She has been riding on her husband's fame.

[@poshoween]

@@svetlanaandrasova6086 yup, i never watched gossip girl so i had no idea who she was until she popped up as ryan reynolds wife lol

[@nalurodriigues]

33:10 that moment has hit me so hard this interviewer was so isolated from the interview SHE WAS DOING and when she says “congratulations on YOUR little bump”???? that interviewer couldn’t get pregnant (as far as i’m aware) which made it an even worse comment from Blake-not to mention that she tried SO HARD to be all #girlpower with the “i wonder if they ask men this type of things” when SHE LITERALLY PROMOTED THE FILM WITH HER CLOTHES bragging about how she got things from her own wardrobe and asking girls to wear florals, which no men did while promoting the film She’s just unbearable to me fr

[@reneedailey1696]

Plus the interviewer specializes IN fashion- It wasn't the "gotcha" moment Blake thought it was.

[@skcvy8167]

I agree she's unbearable but, mild correction, the movie she's currently promoting is not the same movie she was in that interview for. It was for a period piece and the interview was conducted about 10 years ago. The interviewer just resurfaced the interview video recently, probably the unedited cut to show what they were like behind the scenes.

[@scarletohhaha6938]

​@@reneedailey1696Tbh, and not wishing to play into the dumb blonde stereotype AT ALL, buuuut...I kinda get the impression with some of these things she has said in interviews that perhaps she isn't that bright. Like some of her answers come off as pretty clueless and thinking what she said was smarter and/or funnier than they actually were. And let's not forget she is in fact a nepo baby...make of THAT what you will.

[@Ilovepi3]

I find kindness hot af. I always end up having a crush on someone who I didnt find physically attractive in the first place when they show they are kind, tender, empathetic humans and I also start finding them physically attractive out of nowhere lmao so yes, personality >>>>>>>>

[@rdc6360]

keep coping

[@arowace498]

​@rdc6360 how are they coping? Sounds like you're projecting, sorry about your personality.

[@Ilovepi3]

@arowace498 yup, they are definitely projecting

[@hypatiakovalevskayasklodow9195]

So true! And so many times someone was looking attractive but the moment they do something mean - YUCK

[@Ilovepi3]

@hypatiakovalevskayasklodow9195 100000% they stop being appealing to me SO FAST

[@S.D._777_]

The only celebrity I 'idolize' is Ms. Dolly Parton. She's out there doing her charity work and entertaining folks. She doesn't pretend she's something she's not.

[@bituinl]

And Michael Jackson the kind of pop 🙂‍↕️

[@oomay1925]

Another example is Ashton Kutcher and Milas Kunis. They were seen as respectable, attractive celebrities until they were exposed for writing letters for Danny Masterson. Ashton has always had red flags throughout his career, but that was a big reveal that those two were not what they let up to be.

[@princessrico19]

If Selena was still alive.. there wouldn't be no JLO

[@MoonMontag]

Jlo was not made to ‘replace’ selena she was pushed by her label to ‘replace’ Mariah Carey which is so funny. But yeah with the right label like she had she would definitely still be Jlo. Just probably minus the critically acclaimed Selena movie.

[@evaphillips2102]

Selena left a huge star vacuum in the industry. It almost makes you wonder if the motivation behind her deletion was honest….

[@ClanToreador]

Fr 💯

[@ClanToreador]

@@evaphillips2102just like Aaliyah for me…. We would be like “Beyoncé who!?”

[@guyanesegoddess444]

10000000%

[@meganfelicity3641]

Sis those braids ATE

[@spongelotts]

Apparently the interviewer is infertile so that "congratulation on YOUR bump" was...🙁

[@adub92199]

I was just wondering how she’d feel if that woman couldn’t get pregnant or sum like that. If this is true she really is a dick head for that alone

[@BoyWhoCriedDILF]

Yikes 😬

[@reneedailey1696]

And also English isn't her first language.

[@asteria1141]

Blake did not know she was infertile, but it makes me wonder... would she have been so heartless if she knew? She can not be that out of touch with the world, right?

[@TheWitchlover333]

​@@reneedailey1696Exactly.

[@KZesty]

Bad personality totally tanks attractiveness for me. The inverse is also true; someone that I didn't find attractive at first can grow on me when they show a beautiful, kind personality.

[@oilybohunk7]

I had a class in college with this dude who was so physically fine, he got put om a group project with me and when i tell you all the girls on rhe team were like "It's a damn shame because he is so hot but he is worthless" I started to get so mad just seeing him.

[@asum7213]

Off-putting behavior is.. well, off-putting.

[@ClanToreador]

8:58 she wasn’t killed by just “a fan”, she was shot by Yolanda Saldívar who had been the president of Selena's fan club and the manager of her boutiques. Girl come on ….

[@goldenageofdinosaurs7192]

And she’d been embezzling money, iirc.

[@maddieb.4282]

“Girl come on” I mean she WAS a fan. It’s not uneducated to summarize a situation in the fewest possible words when it’s not relevant to the video whatsoever

[@scarletohhaha6938]

​@@goldenageofdinosaurs7192Which she was scared of Selena finding out about.

[@hannahxo3097]

the video wasn’t on Selena. So she didn’t need to specify tbh

[@Lookismandorvispeak]

This wasn't about Selena tho and technically the person who shot her was a fan be so fr

[@Faith.M22]

A nasty attitude or personality definitely makes a person ugly no matter how they look like.

[@Libby_Hannah]

Body is a vessel. Your beauty can left the chat super quickly but who you are, your morals, how you treat others is what matters.

[@W00F1]

34:17 to add some info on this topic, the interviewer had struggles with pregnancy (I don’t know the full details) but the comment with the “little bump” seemed wayyy more rude with this context in mind (imo, I don’t think Blake knew this but this just goes to show that words matter and you should be kind to EVERYONE because you don’t know what they’ve been going through)

[@Meeshilin_Man]

She mentioned that what Blake said cut deeper because she's infertile period. I feel so bad for her

[@nixiemartian4658]

Girl jlo has been known to be shady for years 😂💀

[@Pancakes4dindin]

Forreal. She's never been likable

[@nixiemartian4658]

​@Pancakes4dindin There's this old interview from her when she was like, relatively new.In the industry maybe like a few years and or something, and she was basically shit talking every single big actress ever 😂 Ever since then, she's been problematic on and off consistently

[@007mooo6]

​@@nixiemartian4658 omg I remember that especially cause she wasn't that good either. Also because because we been hearing about how they sabotage Mariah and used Ashanti vocals. She was definitely not well liked by many people. The media was probably just trying to push her because no one around me was a fan😂

[@lunix3259]

I mean she was hired for the wrong reasons. Mariah keeps her on her toes

[@Vindominus]

But what about her song! She says "I'm real" It actually not being her voice and for the most part being Ashanti shouldn't matter!

[@lauraramirez671]

"omg you should know!" without skipping a beat. Keke Palmer, the treasure you are 🥺♥️

[@radioactiveramenponies3877]

0:36 I know it’s for just a few seconds but I wish creators wouldn’t use AI generated images. It just damages the industry.

[@raehyt]

what industry

[@radioactiveramenponies3877]

@@raehyt The art industry? Image generation engines are built off of artists ripped work without permission.

[@raehyt]

@@radioactiveramenponies3877 oh, okay! i never thought about artists work being featured in ai without their permission.

[@raehyt]

@AnnatarielsGift im already aware..

[@raehyt]

@AnnatarielsGift lol it’s all good babes the person before you explained it the same way

[@lolalalia4119]

1:46 girl you took the words outt of my mouth! I'd be multi talented too if i didnt sing my own songs 😂💀 🔥

[@NkirukasWrld]

OOOP! now thats some TEA!

[@hokageofthebronx]

Lmao its funny cause iwas legit about to comment this shit. 🤣

[@kateri35]

Frfr 😅

[@Langley_Ackerman19]

Mariah is that you??? 😂😂😂

[@lolalalia4119]

@@Langley_Ackerman19 what I would give to see the one and only MiMi slide into these comment sections!

[@shintarotoriyama6949]

Oh my, what a beautiful hairstyle! You look stunning! :)

[@NkirukasWrld]

thanks boo:) you're so kind!

[@rosemcpaint6013]

was going to say the same thing she looks GORGEOUS ❤

[@shintarotoriyama6949]

@@NkirukasWrld

[@julia-p1m6q]

She really found her perfect hair color toooooo

[@ilovenycsomuch]

I thought the same, never saw a hairstyle like that before, idk why it isn’t more common

[@lovelydragon23]

I think of that Roald Dahl quote that basically says ugly thoughts make you ugly and having nice, beautiful thoughts will make you beautiful even if you have unconventional beauty traits. I’ve always thought this

[@lolalalia4119]

The Selena movie was phenomenal because of SELENA! Not Jlo.

[@NkirukasWrld]

i need to rewatch itt, but i did like Jlo as Selena when i first watched it but Selena herself was a true icon!

[@aziatix1168]

Then how you'll explain JLo receiving 2 Golden Globe nominations and her being praised by critics for her acting in Mi Familia, Out Of Sight, The Cell, El Cantante or Hustlers (Oscar Academy sent her personal letter with apology for not giving her "Best Actress" nomination for "El Cantante" movie, cause they didn't see the movie before setting up the nominees writing that if they did they would nominate her)? Most of her movies are rom-coms, so obviously they weren't highly rated but reviewers almost always praised Jennifer's acting. Maybe Salma Hayek- the actress who originally got the role of Selena- played in the movie then she'd have been better, but we'll never find out. Jennifer Lopez did a great job, whether you like her or not. And she worked with A-listers in the industry BEFORE SELENA.

[@lolalalia4119]

@@aziatix1168 jlo is that you?? 😂

[@lolalalia4119]

@@aziatix1168 jlo is that you?? 😂

[@aziatix1168]

@@lolalalia4119 I mean, what you achieved in your life other than shitting on other person you don't know personally who actually achieved something and yes- with hard work. Seeing how GenZs and millennials just sit on their phones and computers anonymously judging people as some kind of judges...this is so pathetic and narcisstic...I can't even.

[@SonoNariFiorewithGrace]

That man questioning who JL is was like a humbling moment lolol Why can’t she just be herself but learn to have better character without thinking she’s “all that” No one is all that no matter who they are or what they can bring. Woody Allen sounds predatory, Jesus that age difference is not ok!

[@Mystic_Paths]

While physical beauty is often emphasized, personality traits such as kindness, humility, and generosity can elevate or diminish someone’s attractiveness. When someone behaves poorly or treats others badly, their outer appearance becomes less relevant in the eyes of others.

[@racheldeschaine]

I actually weirdly like gwyneth Paltrow because she leans into being unrelatable. Like she’d be the first to say she’s out of touch and I respect it.

[@IrinaD-dh5en]

And you respect that. The bitch is out of touch. She doesn’t care about anything/anyone other than herself and she admits it AND you respect that. It’s people like you who will make this country go down. Just being honest. Sorry

[@Vindominus]

I could've lived without knowing "Goop" exists but no turning back now

[@racheldeschaine]

@@Vindominus Yeah sorry about that

[@Langley_Ackerman19]

She's part of the clan too

[@adlilzafri2322]

​@@Langley_Ackerman19 like the white hoodie clan?

[@NarinDeliah]

It’s literally just the opposite of someone getting more attractive once you like them. Beauty is in the eyes of the beholder so if you disrupt that in any way it affects how you look at a person (idk if it makes sense). Idk if it’s completely related but yk when you have a crush/partner and try to show pics of your them to your friends but they find your crush/partner unattractive but you think otherwise? It’s cuz you like them so much that their outer beauty becomes even more attractive 🤷‍♀️

[@MoonMontag]

Made 100% sense, never seen it described so perfectly. Especially the ‘ disrupting the perception’ part. I’ll print and frame this 😅

[@NarinDeliah]

@@MoonMontag thank you for understanding! 😅

[@bcray2548]

I have been saying since I was a kid. The moment you have an ugly personality you ugly all around. There are people I genuinely can't see the appeal of anymore because of the things they've said and done. It's like a switch. Personality over beauty. For example celebrities, there are celebrities that aren't conventionally attractive but I absolutely think are gorgeous solely because of the personality they have shown and then there are others who are just disgustingly ugly because of they are literal criminals walking around and they are not behind bars.

[@katie_cant_compute]

33:40 also apparently this interviewer had fertility issues anyway and maybe couldn’t get pregnant. So Blake’s comment was not only rude but very inconsiderate

[@nightbird3839]

I doubt she knew that. I don't see it as being something she did on purpose. Possibly hurting someone feelings on accident doesn't seem as bad as Jennifer Lopez saying waiting staff can't look her in the eye and purposely invading your spouses privacy. Apples vs oranges.

[@Heeyitsmika]

​@@nightbird3839dude that aint the point, this is not a competition between jlo and blake. Not a comparison on who hurt someone more. And also the comment's point is to emphasize how not all "jokes" are funny and can be very very damaging/hurtful/triggering.

[@robertamors6656]

She did know it

[@RustyGator]

Maybe its just me, but being raised in the South and hearing the saying "Quit being ugly" when someone was being rude/mean has always made me think that personality affects your beauty more than looks

[@_hello_yellow9825]

Something to remember is people have different emotional capacities- for example, Ryan may get the very best of Blake, as do their children (which should be the case) but there is not much left for others. People also commonly struggle with empathy outside their circles of family and friends, meaning they may appear one way to an external party but be considered differently by their nearest and dearest.

[@Nina-tw7dl]

Nicely said

[@yourboss8791]

Exactly, great point made , some people just are more empathetic towards people in their close circle doesn't automatically make them an asshole, I'm not saying don't have basic empathy for strangers but just because you aren't going above and aboard for being nice doesn't mean you're a bad person

[@lillianabright03]

it is not difficult nor emotionally taxing to have sympathy and being nice to fucking strangers. if you struggle with not being an asshole to people outside of ur very small circle, youre just an asshole that only likes a few people. not any less of an asshole.

[@Elndorsez]

My thing is, there’s no way he’s never been witness to it. Just because she doesn’t treat her family like she does others doesn’t mean he doesn’t know she’s horrible to people. Some peoples first date red flag is rude to service workers but he seems like the type to watch her berate a waiter for nothing and pretend it never happened.

[@R0mbVs]

They both most likely got together by cheating on their previous partners.... that is dishonest harmful behaviour.

[@stephstevens2]

In my mind; as soon as someone good looking treats others badly; they stop looking good to me. The opposite can be true as well. Someone can look better to me when they're a good and kind person

[@igottaberp]

the reason they picked a plantation is because Blake was obsessed with the pre-civil war south, she even had a blog dedicated to it

[@katrinax_x3689]

For me, looks can get you so far through the front door. You can get away with being an awkward/shy person for example, yet people will still give you attention. However it doesn’t discredit you from getting away with being a shitty person once people see through the looks.

[@nodrvgs]

im so glad you made a video on this! people believe that a pretty face will compensate for a poor personality, but if you are truly a terrible person, your actions will eventually outweigh your good looks.

[@Jimmy94411]

Nah. Honestly men don’t care.

[@nodrvgs]

@@Jimmy94411 when I said “people” I did not mean “exclusively men”. Also, you cannot speak for every single man.

[@phoenixgirl70]

I’d like to add that Blake Lively had a website romanticizing the Antebellum South! She’d brag everyone thought she was from the South not California. After Gossip Girl this is what she was going to start her “Brand” with. Then, I forget what happened but one day it was just gone. Any trace it existed. So she would know what that plantation was. I can give Ryan a pass as he’s Canadian and we learn about the war of 1812 as far as American history. So he could have thought it looked like a beautiful house. I knew because I’d seen Gone With The Wind and my mom told me all about slavery, we watched Roots, the only black family in the city was our sitter for 2 years and we’re friends with their kids to this day. so we just had the privilege and curiosity to learn more about American history. I’ve always seen Ryan be kind and appreciative in regards to his work and always professional and respected. I just can’t see how he’d go through with that. But I’m glad they acknowledged how wrong it is.

[@camlam5269]

I'm glad to know she isn't really southern. That makes more sense to me. Most people who really are from the south want nothing to do with that era. Even the ones who defend the South's part in the Civil War often have a cognitive dissonance about it relating to slavery.

[@beautifullEternal]

Her failed GOOP project: Preserve 😂

[@PBEl-mj4en]

It’s not “odd.” I believe the words you’re looking for regarding Woody Allen are “sick,” “perverted,” and “Creepy old man.” 🤣

[@liya2205]

I agree with u, if someone have ugly personality they will never ever be attractive to me like ever… also u really got me out of my horrible mood so thank u. 🙏🏽

[@RiLovesBees]

Your deep dive today was absolutely phenomenal (per usual); and we NEEDED to talk about this!!!! “Accountability” from public figures isn’t enough anymore-it’s below the bare minimum! We need meaningful and REAL commitment to transformation and the lasting impacts of their pernicious/dangerous actions and words! I love how you approach these topics with such care and respect for women as a whole while offering sharp, thoughtful critiques. It's so refreshing to see your perspective

[@KlaraL-_-]

Works the other way around too! If I don´t find you physically attractive, but then get to know your personality, attitude, opinions or interests, you can suddenly become so attractive!

[@mkayyy1918]

I think people have more smoke for Blake because she had a website dedicated to romanticizing the 1800s. It's down now but in like 2017 or 2018 she was asked about the website and she still stood by it and thought it was a good idea. Personally that makes me believe she knew exactly what she was doing getting married on a plantation and that it really was a dream of hers. I bet if she thought she could get away with it she would be wearing the big gowns and all.

[@nodrvgs]

we as a society need to realise that good looks are not finite. please stop placing emphasis on pretty faces; yes the halo effect is real but its important to unlearn your bias and understand that beauty does not raise your children, guarantee a healthy relationship or guarantee someone will be a good friend. anyone can have a pretty face, but your personality is unique to you. please prioritise your inner beauty guys, because beauty is fleeting and charm is deceptive (proverbs 31:30)

[@laurexlawnn6184]

23:24 my tia was a manager for a club in Miami back in the 90s and she said one of the rudest celebs she met was JLO, who was incredibly rude and dismissive to staff

[@sarahonu7674]

ive never been this early lol, but yeah celebrities honestly need to take a long hard look at who they actually are and what exactly they are contributing to society

[@NkirukasWrld]

a lot of them contribute nothing lmao, well maybe not nothing but still. just because they are "talented" and beautiful doesn't mean they need to be terrible people SMH

[@lolalalia4119]

Can we please talk about Marc Anthony (54) marrying a 23 yo model?? It gives grooming and power imbalance vibes

[@NkirukasWrld]

i've come to the conclusion all men are weird

[@malloryhowarth9905]

@@NkirukasWrldreal

[@kebechet6138]

@@NkirukasWrld I’ve come to the same conclusion while dating after healing

[@BadAssNigga95]

Hollywood is pedowood.

[@elk111]

Its not weird, thats how the things always were. People with power and money of course always they have what they want. Older rich woman too get along with much younger men.

[@rbfloat]

Being pretty only gets you so far. Looks don’t last but what does last is personality. People will remember how you treat others, your kindness, how humble you are. Looks are fleeting but kindness is forever

[@karinirene-sv2hx]

Kjersti is a sweetheart. I am norwegian too so have followed her a while. One way to pronounce her surname is almost like Floh. Cannot stand BL in that interview !! I totally agree. Narcissisism make people look ugly !!!! A person with empathy have a charm that the selfobssesed people lack !!

[@buttercupz-kw7rv]

It feels illegal to be this early

[@NkirukasWrld]

it is!

[@saeslayz]

real 😓

[@Astoldbygrey23]

Real 😂

[@tobis9470]

Broooo I always watch her videos at least two weeks later😂

[@monsterlovefreak3]

4hours ago

[@amandaelmer5533]

Completely unrelated, but I love your voice. Especially your cadence and enunciation, it feels so lively and gives your videos a lot of personality ❤️

[@haruhwa]

the moment someone's personality starts to rot, their beauty in my eyes immediately wilt. like that person doesnt seem beautiful whatsoever anymore for me.

[@bennymoreira1443]

Narcissists are usually very good in manipulating public persona this is where they put all their effort in looking attractive but their ugly self entitled behaviour will eventually put them in a bad light.

[@eniesyoutubewatchingchannel]

You know your videos are really long in comparison to “typical” youtube videos. But time flies by when i watch one of your videos. I never get bored. It’s super entertaining. That’s it, just wanted to say that.

[@kindseyvaughn8667]

I think because Ryan Reynolds is Canadian there was also less pressure for him to have known better.

[@mrhappy7654]

Nah, I’m British and I would’ve known better! 😂 I think it’s just good ol’ fashioned misogyny ✌️

[@Jurnee87]

No, we know better 🤦🏽‍♀️

[@evaphillips2102]

It’s not misogyny, it’s marketing. Ryan is simply more likeable, charismatic though imperfect. Self aware. Blake is annoying, comes off as spoiled, rude and lacking self awareness. Look at it this way: there’s King Charles, the only rich man EVER in history to not be forgiven for having a high profile affair because Princess Diana had, my god, sooo much more charisma than he did and does. Her charisma was so everlasting the public still hasn’t forgiven him. It’s not misogyny. No more divine feminist victimhood please I can’t take it anymore.

[@reneedailey1696]

This legit doesn't fly. Canada was a place many slaves escaped to (only to *also* be treated like crap), and combined with Canada's abuse of Indigenous people, I find this argument to be a cop out- Especially because it isn't as though Ryan was born in 1950, when the propaganda excusing both the US and Canada's actions was more prevalent.

[@vilet5257]

Lowkey not even listening because the editing has been top notch lately!! This is wondrous video styling

[@femmevdp670]

It sure is an interesting take between inner and outer beauty! What i find interesting is that JLO is so focused on being relatable, when her image is very far away from it, that it makes it seem forced. Which is uncomfortable to see. As for Blake, i was honestly quite unfamiliar with her interviews, so this was very eye-opening for me to watch! And to answer the question whether someone's personality can make them ugly: YES!!!! It really can! I've come across many people who look ''sweet'' or ''kind'' but are actually the most horrible people. Ugly personality = ugly. But it's also someone i'd consider 'disgusting', when their behavior is very off-putting too. Even when certain features can be deemed attractive or pretty, their overall appearance in combination with an awful personality makes them a 0/10 every day!

[@MarcelScars]

I saw on tiktok a man who worked on the JLo documentary who said they filmed that messy hair scene 12 times and that was the best take 😂😂

[@cozyaboutbooks]

I have in other way around. If someone have great personality, that person become atractive for me.

[@varsity.1]

9:57 thank you for recognizing us, but also please do not refer to us Latinos as 'Latinx"! it was a term that doesn't originate within our community, not even LGBT+ Latinos like using it as Latin(o) is already both masculine and unknown or vague. But your video is very insightful, I like your way of how you explain things. Keep it up

[@gabulec1103]

ma'am ur braids look absolutely stunning you ATE

[@staceyvitale]

I love it when I meet a strangers eyes (male or female) and their first instinct is to smile…that’s huge!

[@rahbeeuh]

I read somewhere that the interviewer whom Blake & Parker were rude to, struggled with fertility so for Blake to make such a comment to her was gross. Even if she didn't know it was still uncalled for. She could've just said "thank you" and kept it movin'

[@someonethatisw2364]

I know the comments are mostly regarding the content of the video but I wanna just mention my appreciation for the improved editing compared to when you had like 4 videos on your channel and the difference now. Really proud and looking forward to more interesting topics being explained and discussed by you! (I love hearing opinions i agree with like ughhh)

[@karakreativevlog]

I tried playing a list of JLo's songs almost two decades ago and realized she doesn't sound at all the same between songs. And it surprised me that I never realized it before.

[@Hoonish]

As a heterosexual man. A girl with a bad personality could look like Cindy Crawford and I would still walk away. An intelligent mind and a lovable personality make a beautiful person shine brighter.

[@jemimahjulian4806]

Just want to say Justin Baldoni already had back problems so he only asked how much Blakey weighs in order to avoid re-injuring himself and not throwing her or something. That's not fat shaming that's some one looking out for his back and you( Blakey) as well.

[@moe3235]

19:40 that was a Freudian slip "20 dollars" is much more appropriate 🤣 🤣

[@africanxhosaasmr]

So early today. You look amazing btw! ❤

[@NkirukasWrld]

thanks girl! debating if i like the hair tho lol, sighhhh, but its growing on me haha

[@africanxhosaasmr]

@@NkirukasWrld Why? It is making you glow. I love it!🥰

[@sophiehae]

Your hair is so cute!!!!!

[@R0CKST4RMK]

ikr

[@greksmith1874]

1:18 SHADY BOOTS 🤣😂 Putting up side-by-side of them in the same sweater 🤣😂

[@88vfw]

Hi! Great video! This is the first video of yours that I came across and I will definitely check out your other videos as well. I loved how you defended the question about what to say if a DV survivor approaches Blake in the street. Many people claimed that the question was inappropriate to ask of Blake. However, the actresses like Mariska Hargitay (who plays Olivia Benson in SVU) have spoken about survivors of DV, SA, etc will write or talk her about their personal experiences. It made her realize that these people often have still needed support for their trauma. I think she eventually created an organization that provided resources for survivors. Blake doesn't need to go that far, instead she have said while I might not be the best person for that discussion, here are some resources that would help like the No More organization that were actual advisors during the filming of the movie. The crux of the problem of the was that Blake can't read the room (most times) as seen in her answer to that particular question, other interviews and how she reacted to Kjersti Flaa's congratulations. Yes, using the word "bump" was different and little clumsy, but it was clear from her tone and body language that she meant it in a congratulatory way. If anyway, the reporter seemed little nervous and wanted to break the ice. Watching Blake's previous interviews, there were similar behaviors (not the same degree), but because she is a conventionally attractive woman, she was not called out on it. Like you said, eventually the rotten personality becomes more obvious to ignore.

[@fbs8606]

"Speak so I can see you" - Socrates

[@Maria-em4rc]

Controversial opinion: but Blake Lively and JLow are both extremely average (even though they both had work done) in the looks department and talent wise. Compared to women like Margot Robbie or Ana de Armas they both are mid as hell. Blake and Jlow got to where they are because they knew the right people and not by talent and average looks.

[@SusanDelgado1177]

Yup, Ba-la-ke is the beigest of all Beckies

[@R0mbVs]

I kinda think the same with Ryan Reynolds tbh.

[@Of_infinite_Faith]

​@@R0mbVs blacke looks like she has a lisp and Jlow is mostly benefiting from her latina sexual appeal rather than actual talent. Ryan Reynolds has a good voice but his face is bellow average and he looks like he doesn't have much jawline. Personally i dont like men with long faces and tiny mouths

[@nadiairaola1064]

i love the flow of the video and the editingggg🩵 luv ur videosssss🩵

[@giufcs3165]

This hairstyle looks amazing on you!!

[@DontShineForSwine]

I normally hate bashing any woman, but I truly believe Jennifer Lopez is insufferable, and she destroyed Ben Affleck. He was sober, in therapy for decades, and I think she ruined him. He looks exhausted and struggling with his sobriety. Then Jennifer comes out with an alcoholic beverage line?! She has no respect, empathy or compassion for Ben, and that is quite clear. I sincerely hope Ben is able to get his life back together and be with his kids as much as possible. I just wanted to correct something quickly. Mia Farrow, not Mia Sparrow :)

[@caringcherry]

I love this video! I just wrote a reflection paper about attractive people and its correlation with ugly personalities for my class too 💗

[@JellyBastidas]

The editing is on point!!

[@m.c07]

"So, if someone who understands the themes of this movie, comes across you in public, and they want to really talk to you. Whats the best way for them to be able talk to you about this, how would you recommend for them to go about it"? We can all agree that her answer was in very poor taste, but Im asking for a friend. How would you answer this question in a kind and thoughtful way? 29:08

[@Epokiceblue4]

I would say do your own research is the safest way to gain knowledge. And say something along the way about having respect for SA victims. Periodt nothing more.. the longer you talk about it the less genuine it feels and the more you expose yourself and the fans probably don't look for answers more like a way to connect with their fav ppl. Everyone just want to be seen. And also intentionally make things akward to avoid talking further if you don't want ppl to come up and talk to you

[@m.c07]

@Epokiceblue4 I really like your answer, thank you. Im really shy, so I wouldn't have known how to frame an answer in the moment. Everything about it felt improvised and too relaxed. There was no respect towards SA victims in her address, and it felt self-serving, too.

[@zoehaskell7047]

“You know it’s such a serious topic with a lot of nuance, and I regret that it’s so rare for my interactions with fans to have enough breathing space for such an important conversation. But I hope I could communicate the incredible strength of each and every survivor, and the importance of promoting more awareness of an issue that affects so so many people”

[@Nastya37q]

I love you so much sister,you always have valid points and you dont overtly praise opposite gender and insult women to get male validation.You are a perfect example for us,thank you so much for that.Oh and not to mention your mesmerizing beauty!You are so captivating, i can watch you for ours!God bless you my Nigerian Queen, sending lots of love from Armenia 🇦🇲🇦🇲❤️❤️❤️

[@NkirukasWrld]

we never seeking male validation over here! haha I rebuke that😂 I really apprecate your kind words, just made my day omggg. I hope I can continue making videos that you enjoy and can resonate with, thank you so so so much for being here!

[@Nastya37q]

@@NkirukasWrld you are the sweetestt! Thank you so much for your reply and i will always be here to support you.May God bless you sister.Lots of love! ❤️❤️

[@katriiinanotfound]

i have been noticing this lately and am just saying it now, your editing has always been good in my opinion, but now, it's really really good! Keep up the good work NK❤️

[@goosecrap6161]

I’ve only watched one other of your videos it was on the baddie aesthetic and I’m so excited for this you’re so funny and your videos are amazing from what I’ve seen so far!

[@kristiechesebro8363]

Most people will tell you that inner beauty never really changes. Whereas outer beauty gives a person too many reasons to treat others poorly, forgetting that all outer beauty fades eventually. Then what do you have? A bad reputation of being nasty, that's all.

[@busisiwemjimba8073]

The editing in this video is top tier

[@Aerie925]

When you’re attractive people either automatically assume that you’re nice, shallow, dumb, or some combination of the 3. However, when you’re a celebrity, people hold you to a higher standard and if you don’t fit their preconceived notion of how you should be, it can either be to your benefit (if you’re smart vs dumb) or to your detriment (if your mean/aloof/insensitive).

[@nari5161]

I didn't see SotTP as a kid but I saw it recently as an adult and Blake Lively's character's thing is that she's a pick me to a college/adult guy as a teen, the degree to which they hooked up isn't specified and then she's like actually nvm, catch me in a few years.

[@janehobbs7574]

"Imma go eat and sleep" you already ate with this video though??

[@sereen-bf9zq]

I feel like there are so many people who are pretty to the point that i dont care about beauty anymore

[@riverrae6763]

I don’t think it’s beauty it’s money and celebrity’s being put on a pedestal and people Worshiping them.

[@idalodell3870]

This is the first time I've come across you and I really like your video and I like your personality. And also your hairstyle in this video is just SOOOO beautiful! I've also heard a lot of bad things about J-LO, that she's a real diva and really rude to people, haven't heard a lot about Blake tho. So this video was really nice to watch. I got a lot more intel of both these ladies. I also fell like if a celebrity is being rude once, that's one thing. Like everyone has a bad day and we say something we don't mean cause we're just going through a lot. However if there's MULTIPLE occasions then there's an issue. Just cause you're a celebrity you have no excuse to be rude to other people. Cause I think J-LO is a beautiful woman, but after hearing all the rude things she's done her beauty just sinks in my eyes.

[@salmagtz7110]

9:58 WHY? Just WHY? WE DON'T use "Latix". WE don't like that word. Is "latino".

[@jadeandblood]

god i actually had to do a double take cuz girl you did not just say that word that latino hate

[@lilylis]

my jaw dropped when I heard it

[@studiousqueen]

girl u are so pretty i cant stop my eyes and remember i am straight but still aprreciate ur beauty