No One Told Me That | The Truth Behind Respectful Treatment

What are realistic expectations on how to be treated by people in your life? Are people not respecting you the norm and those who treat you well are special? Do you believe you deserve to be treated well? This quick video talks about what is a realistic, normal expectation of how to be treated by others.
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[@juanderuano8969]

Cool video, My relationship of 5 years ended a month ago. The love of my life decided to leave me, I really love her so much I can’t stop thinking about her, I’ve tried my very best to get her back in my life, but to no avail, I’m frustrated, I don’t see my life with anyone else. I’ve done my best to get rid of the thoughts of her, but I can’t, I don’t know why I’m saying this here, I really miss her and just can’t stop thinking about her.

[@elladonaldson-lh6nc]

its difficult to let go of someone you love, i was in a similar situation, my relationship of 12 years ended, but i couldnt just let him go i did all i could to get him back, i had to seek the help of a spiritual counselor who helped me bring him back

[@juanderuano8969]

Amazing, how did you get a spiritual counselor, and how do i reach her?

[@juanderuano8969]

Thank you for this valuable information, i just looked her up now online. impressive

[@bethanybrunn4282]

I'm sorry to hear this. I hope you are able to find the healing you are looking for.

[@truthmerchant1]

​@@bethanybrunn4282This is a scammer. They are on lots of videos, pushing fake 'spiritual counselling'.

[@L6FT]

This also applies to oneself internally. Speak kindly and compassionately to yourself. We don't want others putting us down, so we should not put ourselves down.

[@bethanybrunn4282]

YES! How we talk to ourselves is the most important thing! Patience, kindness, and gentleness towards ourselves is so important. You spend the most time with yourself.

[@audreyquinn73]

🎯

[@EmeraldEdge72]

I'll try.

[@user-im9ov9ud7m]

Respect,,, Get it from a normal person near you 😺

[@bethanybrunn4282]

They are out there!

[@johnchandler1687]

Like my grandparents taught us. Good manners keeps you from choking the crap out of someone who desperately needs it. It keeps interactions peaceful.😊

[@bethanybrunn4282]

Good manners go a long way!

[@angelwings7930]

😂

[@zomepeople1315]

Thank you, this is still a lesson I'm trying to learn and internalize. As a child I genuinely believed I was worthless and unlovable. It was mind blowing to realize as an adult that that is no universal truth.

[@bethanybrunn4282]

Thank you for sharing your experience! Normalizing being treated will is so important. When you do that, it's easier to choose relationships that will make you happy and not drain your energy and make you miserable. Kindness is NORAML!

[@saracoley3163]

I resonate with this deeply. It does feel like special treatment. It really makes me step back and see that it's no wonder I felt how I did with the people I was around. Those people are no longer in my life and I find I'm healing as a result

[@bethanybrunn4282]

@@saracoley3163 yes, setting limits with disrespect makes space for people who will treat you well and then it just becomes what is normal for you; wasting time on someone who disrespects you just doesn’t happen.

[@UNDWARUM37]

Never listen to woman as a man.. they even dont understand themselfs 🤷‍♂️☕️

[@brentdobson5264]

The nurse looking after my roommate in emergency last night was so caring and respectful that I was in a way shocked ❤ .

[@bethanybrunn4282]

I'm glad you have that experience. They are out there. :)

[@tessclare478]

Possibly the only person who was ever that nice to me was a narcissist who was lovebombing me. I thought you were issuing a warning.

[@bethanybrunn4282]

I can see that interpretation and I'm glad that you being that up. A narcissist won't be able to keep it up (treating you well) and definitely they won't be able to consistently say they love you despite making mistakes. A healthy person will always be able to maintain this and if they don't, they will recognize their failure as their own, apologize, and permanently change their behavior away from what hurt you. The key is personal responsibility and consistency in healthy behavior. Thank you for bringing it up! :)

[@jamberry8026]

@@bethanybrunn4282 Lol! If you got lots of money in the bank they will play it all the way out to the end.

[@haimlevy1950]

Great clarification, thank you very much. ​@@bethanybrunn4282

[@xw591]

The difference between normal respect and narcissistic lovebombing is boundaries.

[@roundtwo3321]

@@xw591 True, but if you were raised by a narcissist, you don't even know what boundaries are, or that they even exist.

[@PeculiarGirlKelly]

Thank you for telling me I'm normal. Seriously, sometimes I feel like the weirdo in a relationship just for caring.

[@bethanybrunn4282]

Normalizing healthy relationships, as in how you behave towards others, and how you allow others to behave towards you can go a long way towards feeling good about yourself and life. I'm glad the video was a help to you!

[@jameslyons6655]

Right before I retired I went on a work trip for a few months in a different state. The leadership there treated me with respect and appreciation at every turn. It was almost disorienting. I had to make a brief trip back to the home office where I re-entered the normal (to me) toxic environment. Then back to my out of state assignment. It made me realize that the creatures I was working for at home were not merely bad managers or incompetent, they were actively and aggressively venomous. As soon as I returned from my trip I put in my papers and retired, easiest decision ever.

[@bethanybrunn4282]

Yes, sometimes you have to get out of the water to realize you are all wet! I'm glad you were able to make the change into a healthier environment

[@AvionBlackstone]

Crap. Well now I'm questioning literally everything about my life. 😮😅

[@bethanybrunn4282]

Arg! It imight be a revelation, yes! But normalizing being treated well makes sure that you *are* treated well. It's possible for you and you deserve it. :)

[@PetitHibou72]

Relatable 😅

[@RebeccaRuano]

I’ve met one normal person in my life. I Thank God for him. I definitely think he’s special. ❤ thank you for letting me believe there could be more “normal” people out there! 😊❤

[@bethanybrunn4282]

There are, and if you have at least one, then you know what you are looking for, for sure! 💞

[@ritahemmerly4224]

Thanks. You showed up on my feed just when I'm as a senior questioning conditional love vs unconditional love. It's time to change the story of the past lifetime. Sometimes the people you call family don't know the difference between the two.

[@bethanybrunn4282]

Often these skewed views on what's "normal" comes from family relationships. We tend to think the whole world operates like our family but it's not true. There's so many people out there who are kind and will treat you well. And it's never too late to change the story of your life!

[@jacquismith3277]

​@@bethanybrunn4282I've just realised, through therapy, that I was the family scapegoat for my parents and my three siblings. I have noticed that now I have more confidence and can accept respect. I am normal too. Thanks for this post which I find reaffirming. BTW, I'm in my late sixties; it's never too late to live.

[@FectPur]

Thank you Bethany, what a beautiful person you are. Thank you for spreading light in this world ❤️

[@bethanybrunn4282]

Thank you for the kind words!

[@chris-b]

You look special. Your eyes look special. And your advice is equally special. ❤ May this channel grow leaps and bounds... 🙌

[@bethanybrunn4282]

Thank you! I'm glad you enjoyed it. :)

[@imwatching2960]

Wow. I needed this.

[@bethanybrunn4282]

I'm glad it helped. :) You are in good company, and that's why I made the video.

[@HiTechFX]

I always treat people the way that I like to be treated. The problem now a days is the world is full of selfish A holes.

[@bethanybrunn4282]

Stick with the people in your immediate orbit with whom you spend the most time. It's not about how others act but what is reasonable to expect and set boundaries to get, from the people immediately around you.

[@cryptojoecoin5480]

@@bethanybrunn4282what you describe is what I would call the optimal lifestyle. However, Ive been forced to work with people who I’d rather not be around. It’s been going on for decades. There is no way to escape spending most of your day with reprobates and narcissists.

[@kimsherlock8969]

Hehehe without any doubt 😊

[@bethanybrunn4282]

@@cryptojoecoin5480 Hi, thanks for the comment. If your immediate circle, as in your personal relationships, are respectful and have healthy boundaries, you have a refuge from situations that are less in your control, such as work. I hope that you will find a more respectful workplace in the future!

[@gatinhatinytigre]

when you asked the initial question if I've ever been around somebody like that before, my answer was no

[@MsGenXodus]

I had the same thought. Maybe this lady lives somewhere super nice, like Wisconsin or something.

[@bethanybrunn4282]

That is sad you haven't had this experience. Even if you haven't, you deserve kindness and respect. I hope your future experiences are better.

[@bethanybrunn4282]

Lol. No I'm not from or in Wisconsin. :). I encounter plenty of people who are disrespectful to me. Those I allow close to me, however, I have expectations of respect and kindness. Those primary relationships are the ones I'm referring to in this video.

[@lulumoon6942]

Witnessing respect these days can be shockingly rare now. 😮‍💨🙏🕊️

[@bethanybrunn4282]

When you get respect, notice it and show your appreciation! It's out there!

[@pinkraingirl]

So simple. Yet so true These people seem few and far between

[@bethanybrunn4282]

Yes, not everyone does this of course, but you can prioritize in your life the people who do. So often we don't think we're allowed to do that, but we are! I'm glad this was helpful to you. 💞

[@ellenm9341]

Thank you, needed to hear that!

[@bethanybrunn4282]

I'm glad it helped. I don't think people hear it enough. :)

[@everydaytwiceonsundays4498]

If you expect a certain behavior from yourself with other people in general, it's not too much to expect to get this kind of behavior from your close ones. If they're not capable/willing to treat you the way you treat others, then either you give too much or you're in the company of an AH.

[@bethanybrunn4282]

Different words, but same sentiment. We don't have to tolerate disrespectful behavior from anyone, including family. How to respond to the disrespectful behavior is a case by case issue, bat it is actually normal to be treated with respect is not case by case, it's a given. Thanks for the comment!

[@clairebearie87]

What is an AH

[@everydaytwiceonsundays4498]

@@clairebearie87 AH = a**hole

[@ar1079]

I am from India. And being respectful in households and society is a pretty common thing among "decent localities" .. Especially around some elders, women and dignified / knowledgeable individual people tend to be more respectful often.. And most of us tend to think it is normal..

[@bethanybrunn4282]

Thank you for your comment. I think the idea of respect in society is common- "respect your elders", etc. What I find in my practice though is that people don't experience respect towards themselves, as in how people threat them, not how they treat other people. In lessons during childhood, respect towards others is heavily taught, but how to make sure you are respected isn't. For example, we are often taught to put others first and put yourself last. From a specific perspective, that makes sense. A better lesson is we are all equal, no better, no lesser; treat yourself and others with equal kindness, and be kind to all. Maybe the Golden Rule.

[@roundtwo3321]

People really need to know that.

[@bethanybrunn4282]

Thank you!

[@atlasiroh5095]

I love that you're encouraging people to think of respect and consideration as the baseline instead of special treatment. This is wonderful. I chimed in because i know it can be a very confusing and long journey finding out what healthy boundaries are and where they should be. In my experience i've hit a roadblock several times where i would gaslight myself into thinking my standards were too high or that i was too needy because i saw so little kind and respectful behavior coming from people around me, but in those moments i was simply surrounded by the wrong people and needed to let them go and keep looking for the people who are kind and loving. I want to encourage people by letting them know that the right people and the wrong people exist in pockets in the real world, and if you grew up without seeing healthy boundaries demonstrated you are far more likely to find yourself in a pocket of the wrong people because they feel familiar. So if consideration, thoughtfulness and respect don't seem normal, keep letting people go and meeting new people until you've collected a group of friends in your phone contacts who demonstrate to you day by day that kindness and respect ARE normal 😊.

[@bethanybrunn4282]

Yes, this! Setting limits with unhealthy disrespectful people makes space for people who will treat you well. It's like cleaning out your closets and dressers to make space for a new wardrobe.

[@Diana-007]

Well said, life is too short I found it difficult to differentiate from the McGivers and the McTakers in my early life and subsequent friendships but as retirement beckons it’s a great time to clear out that wardrobe and surround yourself with good kind people, the rest can join later if they mend their ways😂🥰🏴󠁧󠁢󠁳󠁣󠁴󠁿

[@JadaGates]

This literally made me cry

[@bethanybrunn4282]

Aww, hopefully some tears of a deeper, kinder connection with yourself. I'm glad my words reached you.

[@JadaGates]

@@bethanybrunn4282 it definitely hit a spot! But I’m away from that and I won’t be returning!! Thank you for your words of wisdom!

[@lauratyler4863]

Why did I burst out in tears?

[@JadaGates]

@@lauratyler4863 I’m sending you so many hugs

[@bethanybrunn4282]

@@lauratyler4863 You deserve love and respect!

[@Aochic]

Brief, to the Point yet impactful. Thank you! ❤

[@bethanybrunn4282]

You are welcome, I'm glad it helped

[@user-kw5hx7ji8h]

Respect must be earned.

[@bethanybrunn4282]

Thank you for the comment. The video is about how you allow people to treat you. It's assumed that you treat others with respect as well. Many of the people I work with allow people to treat them badly and have of so long they think it's just how it is. Some people need to hear the message in the video.

[@anweshakar146]

I don't know whether to laugh or to cry. This really got me!! 😅

[@bethanybrunn4282]

@@anweshakar146 I’m glad you liked it! ☺️

[@anweshakar146]

I always get overly attached to people whenever anybody's nice to me because it's such a rarity for me 😶

[@jfangio4186]

Love this message and how it was delivered. Just below the surface of this concept, and what makes it all possible, is that the two parties must be playing on the same field. Meaning: When one party creates their own definition of TRUTH, respectful treatment immediately collapses. Period. Therein why this video even exists. Today, those without a moral compass create their own truths. Lying is rampant. Denial is somehow considered brave. Lowering standards to their whimsical needs and tolerating what they believe while begrudging those that stand a-posed, believing in a higher standard and greater purpose. Yeah, “Respectful Treatment” is a concept that needs revisiting and it starts at an early age, in the home, coming from both parents, within the family.

[@bethanybrunn4282]

@@jfangio4186 I’m glad you liked the video. It does start at home, but even if you didn’t get that growing up, there’s still a chance, and you deserve it!

[@sherryab3964]

Very well put! And it is normal. Even for people like me who were raised by wonderful parents and had a wonderful childhood, it was low self esteem I suffered from. Your short video makes for a nice “meaning tool” to gauge the status of one’s self esteem at a given moment. This was a reality check for me that my self esteem has taken a dip lately and you have provided me with the perfect reminder ❤

[@bethanybrunn4282]

I’m glad it helped! Even with a great family experience we can struggle with negative people.

[@lishyajennifer]

Thank you for this. I always felt I had to win over people to respect me. My mom, my other family members it was the same with all of them. I attracted a Narcissist partner into my life who knew I would do anything to win their respect and love. I have been so foolish. It is really normal to respect and everybody deserves respect.

[@bethanybrunn4282]

You are welcome. When our starting point is that reasonable expectation of the people we allow closest to us are respectful, then those are the type of people we spend the most time with. Nothing says we have to spend time with people who are disrespectful and unhealthy for us even if they are family.

[@Deelitee]

Love this!

[@bethanybrunn4282]

Thank you!

[@Man_of_Tears]

I am pretty special for being normal under abnormal circumstances... Being normal under normal circumstances counts as normal, being normal under duress reveals deeper character

[@bethanybrunn4282]

You definitely need to get out of the water to know you are all wet. Yes, adversity and duress help exercise who we really are and who others really are as well. Thanks for the comment!

[@victoryamartin9773]

I've been under the impression thru 5 decades of teaching by the church that the sinful condition is what's normal, and to rise above it with love and respect requires divine intervention.

[@bethanybrunn4282]

People's experience with church varies. You have a choice to believe what makes sense to you regardless of what you've been taught. You are born worthy of love and respect. :)

[@EmeraldEdge72]

I actually met a person like this. She said that she believed in me, so i asked to take her picture. She asked me if i wouldn't remember her, and i said no. It's just that you're literally the first person who has ever said that to my face!

[@bethanybrunn4282]

It feels great to hear that from someone else. Thank you for sharing your story.

[@theSword-]

You've just described my ex-girlfriend. Not respecting me, my time, or the relationship.

[@bethanybrunn4282]

Yes, many people can do this short term, but the healthy, kind people can keep it up. I'm sorry your relationship didn't work out for you. I hope your next is successful!

[@theSword-]

@@bethanybrunn4282 Me too, but the way modern women are, I don't care if there is a next one.

[@aLightShines]

I experienced this first hand.. by my mother... everything seemed to hit the fan when i became a teenager, which is when i was trying to figure out who i was as young women and then growing into an adult. Looking back, through all of those years.. and tears, I see how my mom's covert (narcissistic) traits, her inability to no longer control me as her little "doll baby" little girl, were cause to the chaos and tears i remember. To compound this, my mother was a Jehovah's Witness and still is to this day, which is a platform that fueled her toxic behavior towards me. Her EGO, has lessened slightly over the years, but it doesn't take away the pain from the words and hate she spewed at me. The heart never forgets. Sending my authentic and genuine love to everyone, God Bless🙏☝️❤❤❤❤❤

[@bethanybrunn4282]

It sounds like you had some really painful experiences. We can't change our past or how people treated us, but as adults it's within our power to allow only those who treat us with respect and kindness access to us. It's completely fine to limit or stop contact with anyone, including relatives, who don't treat you with respect.

[@aLightShines]

@@bethanybrunn4282 ❤️❤️🙏

[@LeydenAigg]

"Can't we all just get along?" - Rodney King

[@bethanybrunn4282]

@@LeydenAigg I know, right?

[@johnchandler1687]

You should see the unedited whole R. King video. He was out of his mind on PCP and actually attacked the cops. Threw 2 of them out into freeway traffic. Of course, that wouldn't fit the anti- cop narrative of the MSM, would it?

[@pearlhunter2440]

EXACTLY... 🙌🏽💯👑

[@bethanybrunn4282]

Thank you!

[@lillyfahey1921]

Great Video! Simple! Thank You! Truth.

[@bethanybrunn4282]

@@lillyfahey1921 you’re welcome! :)

[@9parasqn656]

That was nice. Genuine and told with a smile. Thank you.

[@bethanybrunn4282]

@@9parasqn656 you are welcome :)

[@davidvincent8929]

❤OH YOU DIVINE WOMAN!❤

[@bethanybrunn4282]

Thank you! You are Divine as well!

[@MotherOfGodot]

Thank you. This is shocking to realise, and true.

[@bethanybrunn4282]

Thank you!

[@sadenbrick]

Amazingly well said and I couldn't agree any more. 😊

[@bethanybrunn4282]

Thank you!!

[@sadenbrick]

@@bethanybrunn4282 you're welcome 💚

[@sas-lt4qv]

Great stuff 👍👍👍❤️❤️❤️

[@bethanybrunn4282]

Thank you! Im glad you liked it.

[@Danka42]

The whiplash from being respected is so strong I always suspect a catch 🥲

[@bethanybrunn4282]

That's unfortunate, but I understand. Time will tell with anyone

[@coralmccrystal4606]

Oh. I have a lot of catching up to do. I didn't realise what you were describing was normal!

[@bethanybrunn4282]

It can be normal for YOU. How society works is completely different; if you don't have contact with certain people their behavior doesn't matter as much as how people in your immediate orbit act.

[@lalithamichael2668]

Some people are gifted and special!

[@bethanybrunn4282]

@@lalithamichael2668thank you for watching!

[@Diana-007]

Fabulous, well said, not rocket science just fact but hard for some to believe when they have been hurt in the past. Thank you for highlighting that it is ok to expect “normal” love makes the world go round.

[@bethanybrunn4282]

I'm glad it helped you. Setting the expectation that this is normal behavior towards you will greatly impact who you allow in your life. :)

[@bignapolean3068]

Interesting…

[@bethanybrunn4282]

Thank you!

[@GregsTake]

Bravo Bethany Brunn :) That was awesome!

[@bethanybrunn4282]

Thank You!

[@dougk7075]

Normal, in this case, is great, it’s healthy, just not quite as common as I would hope it would and should be. Thank you for your video.

[@bethanybrunn4282]

You are welcome.

[@MsGenXodus]

I've never met someone like that "normal" person you are referring to. Whenever someone is nice, I just assume they want something from me, such as my money or labor. Even my own mother won't talk to me unless she needs something from me. Then she's nice to me until she gets what she wants from me (money, favors, a ride, housekeeping etc.). Then it is back to radio silence or outright abusive language until she needs something again.

[@bethanybrunn4282]

If this has been the behavior you grew up in, you may have a world view that people are users. Yes, there are users, but there's many people who aren't. The idea of seeing the behavior as normal is to recalibrate the expectation to be treated that way. When you do that, you don't waste time with negative people and spend your energy on those who treat you well.

[@werdwerdus]

i really needed to hear this right now. thank you thank ❤

[@bethanybrunn4282]

I'm glad it helped

[@stevesmith-hi3oo]

So Nice

[@bethanybrunn4282]

Thank you!

[@beyummy]

I wish someone cared enough to tell me this when I was a child,all my life Ive been treated with disrespect and awful,rude,ect...when someone was nice to me it was like special my whole being needed it,it's so sad,im 38 years old today and I am fighting so hard to get out of this death pit,I never had a home,I don't know what rest is I'm just a quiet being, trying to be strong and protecting myself emotionaly,Im happy about this video thank you ❤

[@bethanybrunn4282]

Thank you for sharing your story. Even though your past has been difficult and painful, the future can hold much more happiness and peace for you. Recovery from adversity can be slow, but daily steps add up. Peace to you!

[@beyummy]

@@bethanybrunn4282 thanks today I reached out to a friend she said that I must go to refuge house for abused women,I have two boys that is still in school and I can not afford to take care of the three of us,

[@beyummy]

My boys is getting taken care of by my abusers,I'm the one suffering and I have tried speaking up or defend myself the they say I'm mad

[@beyummy]

If I could I would take my boys and leave,but I can't get us a flat or a place I don't have a job I didn't finish highschool,I'm just in the house bound to this circumstances and I don't see away out, like I said all I can do is learn to protect myself emotionally...

[@beyummy]

I do want to get out,just don't have support im alone

[@louisnathaniel5424]

Thank you!!!!!

[@bethanybrunn4282]

You're welcome!

[@elektramed27]

THANK YOU!!!!!!!!!!!!

[@bethanybrunn4282]

You are welcome!

[@nahimabella]

❤

[@bethanybrunn4282]

Thanks!

[@carolcollins3108]

Thank you.

[@bethanybrunn4282]

You're welcome!

[@dianateunis6796]

Ik leef rustig dankjewel voor u belangstelling lief van u❤

[@bethanybrunn4282]

Thank you, you as well.

[@aLightShines]

❤❤❤

[@bethanybrunn4282]

Thank you, I'm glad you liked it.

[@aLightShines]

@@bethanybrunn4282 ❤️🤗

[@cynthiacassel]

I wish someone had told me this before I listened to Newman Gopherwood month after month after month when I moved to Kansas.

[@nikoroo]

Thank you! This spoke to me. Used to get so blown away by how kind people were… 🤣

[@bethanybrunn4282]

Me too! I’m glad this resonated with you.

[@danwhite1198]

Respect is something that you earn not deserve! When I treat someone respectfully it is not that they deserve to be respected; it their respect that I am trying to earn.

[@bethanybrunn4282]

Thank you for your comment. Of course you need to respect others to expect the same in kind. However, what I see often in therapy is that people are so used to be treated disrespectfully by those who are closest to them, they think it's normal. As in, they haven't done anything to be treated with disrespect. You do deserve respect, particularly from those who you allow closest to you. The further outside your social circle someone is, the less important this is. And always, you deserve to treat yourself with respect.

[@SixIntuition]

That was fantastic. Thank you to the Universe for everything that took place, in order for me to tap into this video!! Freedom, Grace, Love, and Respect to everyone who is reading this❤

[@bethanybrunn4282]

Thank you, what a wonderful message. All the same to you!

[@bjones5791]

Why does the universe that Father God created get the credit for loving you?What about thanking God for bringing you life,love,and the forgiveness needed to finish each day in the joy,peace,and kindness that pours from His heart to yours?Much love from central Texas!Brent

[@andrascarmonaiii2258]

Thank you

[@bethanybrunn4282]

You are welcome. :)

[@Eat.Love.Skydive]

I never had anyone treating me like that and if there was, they had hidden agenda

[@bethanybrunn4282]

Thank you for your comment. Sincerity usually has to do with the longevity of the kind, respectful behavior. Someone who is not genuine will not be able to keep up with the respectful behavior. I wish the best for you in the future!

[@AmandaLamy82]

I think it’s okay to acknowledge that the level of kindness and consideration which you’ve described is not normal, as in, not the norm. How can we move towards a vision without first seeing the present state of humanity?

[@bethanybrunn4282]

I think that what we want to see in others and experience in others we first, exhibit ourselves, and second, prioritize relationships based on level of respect, kindness, and consideration you get from those people. This may mean limiting contact with family members and/or making other life choices to make sure this happens. These acts alone can be enough to make a difference in the world, and if not the world, at least in your own life and immediate orbit. That’s enough, it counts.

[@LucyClover]

This ☝☝❤❤❤❤❤❤

[@bethanybrunn4282]

Thank you!

[@kamalahasanmoorthy2066]

"*God Bless Everyone Take Care All Long Lives 100 years and above all*"

[@bethanybrunn4282]

Peace to you!

[@cynthiacassel]

Yes, I’ve known normal. Thank you.

[@bethanybrunn4282]

You’re welcome 😊

[@SAnnaWhite]

Really a cool talk. Straight to the point and valuable insight for relating

[@bethanybrunn4282]

I'm glad it was helpful!

[@Chris-hp2gg]

R-E-S-P-E-C-T. Aretha Franklin.😂

[@bethanybrunn4282]

Absolutely! Love that song. :)

[@MrJBest78]

I feel as though that those kinds of people come very far few in between. This is getting to be a lesser of a we’re all in this together type of world and more of an every man and every man for himself type of world. Sadly.😔

[@bethanybrunn4282]

It's going to feel hopeless if you think about the whole world. It's enough to affect things in your immediate surroundings and in your own life. Your immediate world is enough!

[@MrJBest78]

@@bethanybrunn4282 you’re right. Maybe I’m missing the point but sometimes it’s just easier to throw some slippers on my feet than to attempt to carpet the entire world.

[@bethanybrunn4282]

@@MrJBest78 Just make sure they are some really nice high-end ones that feel awesome. You deserve the best. :)

[@solutions553]

Facts..

[@bethanybrunn4282]

Yep! :) I'm glad you could relate.

[@cynthiacassel]

Thank you. I’ve had to endure some weird stuff for a celibate woman who moved to Kansas.

[@rejectionisprotection4448]

In what way?

[@mycreations318]

Wow, thank you so much for making this video. I needed to hear that today. I love you and I respect your boundaries as well. And I wish you nothing but the best in life.❤❤❤

[@bethanybrunn4282]

Thank you so much. I'm glad it helped you today. You deserve happiness and peace. :)

[@sayusayme7729]

Thank you, living & learning 🦋🫧🌌

[@bethanybrunn4282]

That's the best we can do. :) You are welcome!

[@vickisnemeth7474]

Run like hell from a mental/social professional that responds to recovery ideas with, "There's no such thing as normal." They're trying to keep you dependent on them unnaturally long.

[@bethanybrunn4282]

Thanks for the comment. Not all mental health professionals are the best, and most won't keep you just to keep you dependent. However, if you ever feel that your therapist isn't working in your best interest, yes, it's best to move on. :)

[@deadman746]

Sometimes someone who treats people nicely is normal. Sometimes they have a Cluster B personality disorder and are in the early stages of an ultimately destructive relationship.

[@bethanybrunn4282]

Right! Those with Cluster B won't be able to keep it up, but those who are normal in the sense talked about in this video will continue, "...even when you make mistakes..."

[@CatalinaEX]

Thanks, I've been trying to explain to the narcissistic piece of shit that was my ex that HER EX wasn't lying to me for flirting with me. Guy just liked me because I treated him with the minimal bare decency I treat everyone, opposed to how she gaslights and guiltripts him constantly to make him feel bad and force him to crawl for her attention. That mothertrucker is sick for real, I don't see myself as an angel or a wonderful person ( au contrair I even feel like an awful person most of the time) .... And all I did was just being barely decent and respectful.

[@bethanybrunn4282]

Whew, sounds tense! I'm glad the video helped, thanks for watching!

[@user-vb7kw1rq3p]

I want to tell you that I am a Christian and since oneday as over my aged 40. I tried to donate to some organizations and more person to person too! But, they all betrayed me even they trapped before me so I disappointed their acts to me. Now I am reducing the donation gradually n it will be to the zero oneday. Your saying I can find into Holy Bible. But, these days in our society, I am living in South Korea, it's not possible because of they asking me my everythings even my foods for the meal. So I made the conclusion in myself about these society!! The peoples lost their conscience themselves and they only think for their benefits through anyone else. But, through I see on KZbin and I feel of your society's has many good persons still and them whose accepted the help from somebody. They express thanks to the givers. I think your society, Americans can make much more bright society after this hard time passing.** GOD BLESS. Boky B.

[@bethanybrunn4282]

Thank you for sharing your story. Peace to you as well in South Korea!

[@caradonnelly7335]

Thanks pretty lady 💗🩷💛💚

[@bethanybrunn4282]

You’re welcome! I’m glad you enjoyed this.

[@wittymystic7361]

I think a definition of normal might help some of us to understand this video better. If you take normal to mean typical, I can't entirely agree that the typical person is respectful. History helps me prove this since we have been at war far more than we have been at peace, with humans only having been at peace for about 8 percent of recorded history. Of course, war is all about violating boundaries. Since we are products of this wartime behavior, many humans do not have the proper role modeling for setting healthy boundaries. The good news is that we have folks like you who are doing your part to change this. I hope humanity has a better future.

[@bethanybrunn4282]

Hi, thank you for your thoughtful comment. What I mean by normal: the closer someone is to you, as in who you spend the most time with (think partner, family, close friends), the reasonable expectation of behavior for those people to exhibit in order to have *access* to you, is that they treat you with respect, kindness, etc. If this happens, then what's normal (most frequent) behavior to you is the kindness and respect. The further out someone is from your immediate circle, the less necessary it is that they be kind, respectful, etc. *to you* because of the amount of access they have to you. You are probably just and average person like me, who has no real impact over anyone except for those in my immediate orbit. We cannot reasonably expect our behaviors to change what's going on across the world. We can only control what it right in front of us. If we cultivate respect, kindness and boundaries in our own life, then we at least aren't *adding* to the state of war, big or small. Finding peace to replace to war in ourselves is sufficient to help with world. I hope this helped, and your comment is also helping change things, in your own life and in the lives of those around you!

[@wittymystic7361]

@@bethanybrunn4282 AH, normal as in reasonable expectation makes sense.

[@margaretscranton8275]

Thank you sweetheart🌻🎶🐾

[@bethanybrunn4282]

You are welcome! :)

[@edwardmylnychuk5774]

AS A MALE I FIND RESPECTING YOURSELF IS BECOMING IMPORTANT BECAUSE YOU WONT GET IT FROM MOST PEOPLE TODAY ESPECIALLY MODERN FEMALES

[@bethanybrunn4282]

Thank you for your comment. It seems dating relationships are where it's hard to find someone who will treat you with respect. If you focus healthy behavior from your primary relationships, as in those with whom you spend the most time, this will help you. Best wishes int eh future!

[@wolfgangkranek376]

Only women believe, that getting treated special is normal.

[@cynthiacassel]

Normal is good.

[@atlasiroh5095]

Normal implies that most people behave this way. It is appropriate, but increasingly uncommon.

[@bethanybrunn4282]

Thanks for your feedback. I bring this up to normalize respect as a starting point for yourself to expect this behavior from others who you allow close to you. Even if many of the people in your orbit aren’t respectful, it is reasonable to expect it. There are plenty of people out there who will treat others with respect and considering that normal will help you to spend your energy on them and not on those who are disrespectful.

[@adamson786bi3]

Everyone, I mean everyone bullied the shit out of me growing up!! I hate my parents for this, but I could never be like them... So I don't speak to them anymore!

[@bethanybrunn4282]

Sometimes that hard boundary is what needs to be set even it's your parents. I hope you are able to find peace.

[@kamalahasanmoorthy2066]

"*Humans All Normal & No Powers*"-"*Spiritual Life Difference & Mental Care Different & Psychological Care Different - My Dear Friend*"

[@bethanybrunn4282]

Peace to you!

[@funtimefoxy6699]

I have a near-phobia of calling people to ask for stuff - even if I'm calling a business I know I'll l be paying for their services. I also hate answering the phone, because for decades the only people who called were asking me for stuff - usually free of charge or at a cost to me. Nobody ever calls just to say hi and ask how I'm doing, so I don't even know if such a conversation is possible.

[@bethanybrunn4282]

It sounds like you've had some unpleasant experiences and phone calls can be hard, both calling and answering. Thank you for sharing your experience and keep trying with the calls!

[@funtimefoxy6699]

@@bethanybrunn4282 I'm giving some thought to calling some friends just to see how they're doing - but to be fair, I'd have to call all of them. And as an extreme introvert, I'd have to pace myself very carefully.

[@O8080808O]

I prefer those who prioritize truth, not my feelings. To me, catering to my feelings is just enabling, not respect.

[@bethanybrunn4282]

@@O8080808O thanks for your thoughts!

[@rejectionisprotection4448]

Mmmm..........I wonder? Could you give an example?

[@O8080808O]

@@rejectionisprotection4448 No example, just a concept: You can expect the world to be carpeted (and label that normal) , or you can wear shoes.

[@Sleipnirseight]

Your comment is a totally different topic of discussion and irrelevant to this video. And respect has nothing to do with lying to someone and catering to their feelings... That's just weird.

[@O8080808O]

@@Sleipnirseight Censor-at-large no doubt. Part of your issue is "respect" in the present, has been redefined as an entitlement. (an obvious self-serving debate tactic) Most of the world's cultures, and in most of the history of this culture, RESPECT is earned. It is an assessment made by the giver, not a demand made by the receiver. (duh) So you are policing a political campus language with no authority or credibility. (pathetic) To stop the pain of diversity, to be comfortable again, you will need to go back and live on campus.

[@ThePrairieChronicles]

I can't even remember "normal".

[@bethanybrunn4282]

I feel that. I hope this video helps to remind you what is realistic to expect from others in your life. You deserve respect even if you have a lot of experience of not getting it.

[@elaineen1]

Be aware of sociopaths. They will agree with you on everything to take advantage of you. True friends will disagree with you on occasion and will point out when you are making bad decisions.

[@bethanybrunn4282]

True friends will be kind in their disagreement and will be consistent. People who are insincere won't be able to keep up with the fake behavior. Thank you for your comment!

[@sandy-pf9bb]

Sadly, I've reached a point in my life when the only time I am surprised is when someone is nice to me. I was treated badly as a child and I have allowed everyone else to do the same. I'm about ready to withdraw from the world bc I'm just really tired.

[@bethanybrunn4282]

I can see how you would be tired. Don’t give up, and I encourage you to get support to learn how to set boundaries with others. Even if this has been happening for a long time, it can get better.

[@TheFaithfulPatriot]

@sandy-pf9bb Don’t give up. I’m in the same boat as you. I have worked with some nasty coworkers who hate Christians and conservatives. No matter how much I tried to show them the love of Christ, they were just as hateful. I don’t intend to turn this comment into a political statement. However, what I have noticed is that Democrats and atheists are in general angry and miserable people. Honestly, I feel bad for them. Life is too short to be angry and miserable most of the time. After all, are they not the party of peace, love, unity, understanding, and compassion? I guess not!

[@sandy-pf9bb]

​@bethanybrunn4282 I do struggle with boundaries for sure. Thank you so much for the encouragement, it means more than you know!

[@sandy-pf9bb]

​@TheFaithfulPatriot I don't think they are what they claim to be!! Life is definitely too short to be angry and miserable. There's a lot of mean people in the world, unfortunately most of the knives I have were placed by Christians in my own church.

[@remainunlisted2630]

Uhm beg to differ. In our current society it is NOT normal. But if you’re in an environment and you’re lucky if you are, where it is normal? Count your lucky starts. I’ve been working in the real world for 35 years. These things are not normal anymore.

[@bethanybrunn4282]

We can't control society at large, and of course there's a lot of uncaring people out there. But you can control who you allow in your immediate orbit and because they have direct access to you, it makes the most difference what the quality of those relationships are. Demanding respect from the world is unrealistic; demanding respect from someone you live with or interact with on a regular basis, that is an imperative.

[@OnboardingInformation]

Can I be a very special person

[@3glitch9]

You already are 🥰

[@bethanybrunn4282]

I hope that you can!

[@amitshridhar]

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