No sex in 2 years… that’s a red flag! || STEVE HARVEY

Steve Harvey and special guest Sanaa Lathan help two women decide whether their supposed perfect guys have some big red flags.
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[@MatthewCoast]

No Steve, not all guys are running around trying to bang everything that moves. I spent about two years celibate after a really tough breakup just to get my mind straight again.

[@Kari_Michele]

I did the same. My ex said he did the same before he met me and I had a hard time believing it until I got with him.

[@falkyraizu3063]

that's not what he meant

[@monamouh]

Well, two years is time enough to know if she is the right one. I would just think he is impotent and she needs to decide if that is ok for her.

[@GalaxyGames2002Day]

@Matthew Coast - but I'm sure you were also single. This man has been (what sounds like) exclusively and seriously dating this woman for 2 years without physical intimacy. He has not stated to her any reasons such as former heartbreak, religious beliefs, etc. This is an obvious red flag that something is going on with this guy that he's not communicating to her.

[@tashawilliams8093]

Good for you.

[@lorenzoduron4848]

Some of us men actually do put off dating so we can become better men and work on our character and get things set up and stable for when we're ready to get back in the dating game.

[@londonalexis2877]

there are women out there who are doing the same

[@MarshWaha]

Amen. I agree.

[@vreannarenee7646]

That's what I was thinking. My boyfriend and I were best friends for about 8 years before we got together, and both knew we had feelings bit it wasn't the right time or circumstances for either of us. He dated around, but about a year before we got together he stopped because he said he was tired of lowering his standards for people he didn't really want, and decided to be alone and work and improve himself. I love Steve but I think it's a little detrimental to paint all guys as "always being involved with somebody". Real men aren't like that.

[@vreannarenee7646]

@MadDilla ATCQstarr just from that one statement you've shown that Steve is a better man than you will ever be.

[@MarshWaha]

Vreanna Renee I agree 100% with you.

[@thariqmuchiri3088]

When steve says "what guy is not seeing anyone?" I look around my empty house just to make sure the roaches aren't hearing this....

[@vivianavillarreal79]

LMMFAO!!!!!!! What did the roaches have to say???? 🤦😂🤣😂🤣

[@timetriustaylor7628]

Same

[@davidpoole5273]

Fr 😂😂

[@Lilbit2215]

😂😂😂😂😂😂😂😂

[@andreagrazianodibenedetto1464]

I'm dead 😂😂😂😂😂😂

[@tonymazz9912]

I've had zero sex in 7 years. I've been thru hell with the last relationship and burnt out from it, made me broke and crazy. Life is not a cookie cutter of events that " must happen ". There is no right or wrong about it. As long as your happy and content with your life, that's it. We come into this world alone and go out alone.

[@mrsquietmusic6413]

Same here. Sex is dangerous. It can make someone sick in the head. Espescially if the other person is sick in the head. Game over for many many years, probably for the rest of my life.

[@knshobhin560]

She didn't talked with him properly that's for sure she just asked him and he just replied once. He might have something inside him or he will get too attached to her after that or something else he might be feeling insecure down there may be.

[@aero3538]

Feel what you have experienced brother

[@funtioz123]

I know it's stupid but sometimes I think (during late night sleepliness) that sex is initially meant for having kids and not for our fun and adventures

[@mrsquietmusic6413]

@@funtioz123 fdepends if you are a man or a woman. I have never been with anyone I have been in love with and have never understood the meaning of sex. Having sex with a guy I am not in love with is not satisfying at all and I have never had an orgasm during sex. Having been mentally ill long term twice in my life because of something to do with sex: sexual harrassment and sexual assault by my dad from I was 13 to 16 and then PTSD due to a "boyfriend" who frequently was quite scary. I dont like having sex. Being 44 soon and still single I think time is up for me and life can be enjoyed other ways: I love making money! "Love" is not healthy for me!

[@bobmann8140]

2 years of a man respecting a women and that's a red flag.. good job America

[@thomasagorhom1139]

Ask again bob mann, I am surprised the wrong thing has been endorsed as the right thing in this crazy generation. I have dated women for longer than that without sex and I was proud of that.

[@Alia89119]

Why the whole damn America have to be blamed for Steve's opinion?!?! Not cool.

[@montgal53]

That is because MOST women in America _expect_ to have sex on the first or second night of a date. This is the M.O. of the American date.

[@valterfara5027]

No, that's not completely the case. Men are biologically designed to procreate at any moment. Which makes them more desperate for sex. If a man says that he doesn't has desire for sex, for two years, one of two; he's lying, or has a medical problem.

[@valterfara5027]

@Bruno Zegarra Virgin men are other case. Once a man has sex, he can't live without it or he would loose his mind. But if he is virgin, no action, no effect.

[@mso1ful]

Steve, I’m a man and I can proudly say I’m not seeing anyone. Focusing on self

[@temkawilliams7425]

Good for you!

[@dcoppedge06]

I agree! Too much craziness going on these days to not worry about thyself.

[@Legacy-vi6cv]

Amazing

He's not smashing but SHE is, and you can best believe that! She leaves that part of the story out!!!!!! She STAYS getting banged out!

[@KM-oy5yh]

@@dcoppedge06 AMEN AMEN AMEN 💯💯💯

[@joelvedamony]

Steve Harvey is usually on point with his advice. Sad to see him miss the mark so badly in this one.... I remember a day when saving yourself for marriage used to be the cultural norm, and it still is in many cultures..... How has the fabric of society been eroded so much? Sad.

[@ruthi3236]

You hit the nail, right on the head

[@Elaine-mi8rr]

Well said

[@BigSeanH]

She's a single mother dude... It's a little late to wait for marriage What is the guy a 40 year old virgin?

[@barezzi0236]

@@BigSeanH isn't it his decision...

[@BigSeanH]

@@barezzi0236 Yes, it is... Men don't have to date women who won't be their sexual partner.

[@aleshalaurens6549]

My husband wanted to wait till marriage. He also didn't want to be intimate and it's was hard for 3 years, but I'm so happy now

[@Kristen242008]

When I met my husband, he hadn't been in a relationship in 6 years or so. Not all men are constantly going in and out of relationships.

[@crystalvouse7015]

Kristen Long doesnt mean he wasnt having sex .Alot of men stay single for years because they like freedom

[@jackdaniels2657]

He must be a geek. Just like me

[@just_wanito6799]

Your man must be a Gamer...like me.lol

[@Ravenbones]

@@crystalvouse7015 Doesnt mean he WAS either. Some men just dont have sex unless it is with someone they are in a relationship with.

[@Kristen242008]

He is a geek/gamer. I am too. He actually wasn't having sex. He isn't your "typical" man. Even now, he isn't hounding me for sex all the time. I'm hounding HIM most of the time LOL. He only had sex with 1 other woman besides me, and we've been married for 11 years now. He grew up very sheltered, in a super religious household. Sex isn't on his list of top priorities. He is focused on work, outdoor activities, and gaming. Now the kids and I are added in there too. He doesn't even hang out with anyone. We're both very introverted, and have no desire to have a ton of friends. Most people would think that we are boring, but I don't care.

[@jaaptendijk7192]

1:26 "I believe in dating, not necessarily sleeping with someone" also her: He is perfect, but no sex? *Red flag*

[@dek1518]

It’s 2 different scenarios

[@haroldbolling3187]

He might be tryin to set up marriage... It take years before really know someone... You puttin in time like them.. You wanna make sure your relationship is very strong and very lovin before you have sex. A relationship built on sex is a hollow one.. Somethin go wrong in there. Ya whole relationship in trouble.. That easy...

[@krisjontabisola197]

Wow. The standard has fallen, to where it's suspect that he has standards for the relationship and self control. My wife and I shared our first kiss when we got engaged, and second kiss on our wedding day. We were celibate the entire 2.5 years dating/engaged. Now, if she takes their advice, she will challenge this standard in him, and he will see their values don't align, and will walk away.

[@omaromaros7170]

Sleeping with a woman: you're a player Not sleeping with a woman: you're a player

[@hermeschristinaanthonydito3055]

Literally No ONE QUESTIONED IF HE WAS RELIGIOUS!

[@jamescook2723]

Holmes Ditoma 😂 💀

[@joshwalters3148]

They already assumed some form of retardation.....

[@jayrimmey]

Well if he was religious wouldn’t you just say it lol

[@darkvoid5152]

@Love 23Amazed That's actually false. I'm religious and I will only have sex after marriage and not before. There are also many more people like that all around.

[@Competitive_Antagonist]

Just for fun Hassan An exception doesn't disprove the average.

[@40III]

Why does Steve think a man wouldn’t have “me” time? Everyone wants time to kick back relax and be unbothered.

[@Magerquark]

yea not sure that kinda threw me off Steve lives in a whole different world than most men, thats probably why he has that view

[@rogerhuggettjr.7675]

Apparently he's never met an introvert or someone with a man cave.

[@nessparadis6948]

All the men on here misunderstood. By me time, he’s talking about the period of time a woman chooses to be single and abstain from any romantic encounters with men to work on herself. He’s not talking about alone time...

[@slimjim6439]

@@nessparadis6948 I'm doing that right now. Other men do it too. Sometimes if you have low self confidence and personal problems you need to take time to improve yourself. Steve seems like a great guy, but he shouldn't assume all men are like him

[@chrisphillips1697]

I’m always alone, not necessarily because I wanna be but well that’s just the way it is with me! I’m not that good lookin, & I’m not as confident as most! I try 2 be but!

[@porcupine1215]

Still tryna wrap my head around this lady telling her that a guy who wants to wait till marriage is a red flag. Should be the biggest green flag you could find😂

[@johnivory3005]

"What guy is not seeing anyone" - Me lol

[@mawmoshful]

So no one asked if this man is a Christian that's abstaining??

[@sheriekakellum6472]

Right, everything got asked but that. However , he should communicate his values.

[@catierollins8493]

She asked him and that was not his reasoning

[@halliwood007]

They didn't ask at all, funny how doing the right thing is looked at as something is wrong.

[@AshleyYoungMusic]

That was my first thought. However its so uncommon for non believers so they didnt even ask

[@AshleyYoungMusic]

@@catierollins8493 she didn't say that she asked him that.

[@Duffydee]

Damn! Dude could just be saved, celibate, a real gentleman or really principled. Why does he have to be gay or married? Na Steve and Sanaa

[@janinacastillo4010]

+Duffy Dee I agree, its funny how the 1st lady they didn't agree that the ex with pics up on social media wasn't a red flag but yet the couple who is saving sex is a red flag come on this was bad advice

[@fithealthyhappy720]

right?!

[@nikewarrior24]

+Duffy Dee Nah is right . lol

[@imancampbell3207]

+Duffy Dee Yes y'all are feeding my spirit I said the same thing. I was like huh??? I am waiting myself and I been celibate for so long I lost count. It's not right to #shame people for keeping themselves til marriage. People who sleep around are sometimes quick to shout " don't judge me" or " it's my body" . But yet they are quick to wag the finger and make fun of people who keep themselves I never understood the hypocrisy of it. SMH

[@SB-jt1ur]

+Duffy Dee he doesn't have to be, but it was my first thought and I consider myself a Christian.. and I bet it has crossed Eunice mind whether she admits it or not.. even the most religious men that I know wants to have sex.. my cousin married his wife in a few months because he didn't want to wait too long, his exact words was.. she was the one and I didn't want to fornicate.. so it is normal

[@Yourlocalintern]

“Are you exclusive? Have you made that agreement? ” Man, I’m 25 and I didn’t know there’s something like exclusive dating. I just thought that when dating, loyalty is tacit already. After all, when they want you, then they want you and only you. Love shouldn’t be that complicated.

[@08angelluver]

Exclusive dating means you’ve made it official that you’re bf/gf. If you haven’t, then you can’t expect someone to be loyal. That would be based on what? That’s why it’s important to not get caught up and define the relationship before you start investing in it and doing couple stuff.

[@missmarya747]

Some males do date multiple females and will not let you know, this is why the question of “are you exclusive “ needs to be asked. My dating experience this has happened i assumed just as you said above, i was completely wrong. Therefore wasted energy, time, love etc on someone dating, seeing, being with other females. I was 1 of many. I left of course once i found out.

[@MsAngelique]

You don't have a lot of experience, huh?

[@ellabella7071]

So happy to read these comments from men!! I hope that there are plenty more men out there like this ❤

[@jordicuautle2245]

Steve: Don’t say “Well he’s not seeing anyone”. What guy is not seeing anyone?? Me: *sheds a tear*

[@yana212]

Lol. Steve gives the worst dating advice

[@al-shaimaothman5182]

Lol 😂

[@michaelrobinson9713]

Sometimes, it’s not the man’s choice...

[@jonathanrhudy1080]

Lmao same

[@shop.ebla.]

Wow...got to your comment just when he said it😂😂😂😂 wipe yourself tear hun😂💕

[@karjala.]

Because he got high morals. And they dare to call it a red flag

[@moongazer9891]

Literally almost every woman that goes to steve harvey show talk about men who mistreat them n who are only interested in sex. This woman found an incredible guy who respects her, her kids and her mother so why can't they respect his decision to wait for sex.

[@prouddegenerates9056]

@@moongazer9891 It makes a woman feel undesirable, so Brannan told me. Its a moment of emotional venerabilty, so I thought finishing school was priority. Securing financial stability is of great pride to a man, proving to myself that I was enough for the woman I've held so highly.

[@moongazer9891]

@@prouddegenerates9056 I applaud u for working so hard for yourself and ur partner and for having ur priorities straight. But who is Brannan?

[@helen4526]

This is hollywird we are talking about! . Because they all do wrong that don’t make it Wright tho . Every one is doing wrong having sex the day after he started seeing someone or they can do it one night stand.that is not make it Wright . They are crazy people u can’t come to them for relationship advice.

[@wezichirwa5398]

It is a red flag

[@shaquillerivera3195]

I applaud the brothers admitting to working on themselves. Salute

[@Mekuzee_Khen]

Steve, man, I love you and I respect you but I'm gonna be real with you. This segment is the most 'off' that you've been since I started watching you. First off, I had a really messy breakup about 6 years ago because I wasn't ready for a relationship. I told myself that I wasn't gonna break any more hearts so I wouldn't date anyone until I was ready. God help me, I've been single and celibate for 4 years straight. Only started a real relationship when I got a job and moved out of my parents house because I finally believe that I'm ready. Then on the subject of sex, I told my lady that I wouldn't want sex until I marry her because before I take a woman's honor, I feel obligated to honor her first. And what greater honor than to make her my wife?

[@barbararichardson2747]

Hope you're blessed with a woman that's deserving of an honorable man.

[@Mekuzee_Khen]

@@barbararichardson2747 Thank you

[@missj3434]

@@Mekuzee_Khen Wow. You are definitely in the minority. 🙏🏾🙏🏾✨

[@noanswer2003]

I’m on your side brother all the way

[@rhurtado1342]

Hallelujah I respect tht and we receive those beautiful words in the mighty name of Jesus! May the lord continue to bless your life and ur future marriage to come in Jesus mighty name amen amen and amen👏

[@VincentTownes]

Let me put myself out there I'm a Christian, I'm a PK [Preacher's Kid], I'm a Man Of God, I'm a Musician, I'm still a Virgin, & I haven't kissed a woman since April 17, 2013...God knows that I would love to have sex everyday but here are my 4 problems: 1. I don't have a woman. 2. I'm not married nor have I found Mrs. Townes yet. 3. I have a commitment to God. 4. I'm scared of catching HIV.

[@nikewarrior24]

+Vincent Townes I feel you on that.

[@VincentTownes]

nikewarrior24 AMEN!!!

[@nikewarrior24]

Vincent Townes Amen my brotha.

[@treasurecarelli488]

Vincent Townes salute! !!

[@crazymusicgrlcheesecake]

+Vincent Townes About the forth one get her tested, literally be there. Most women get AIDS from their undercover boyfriend.

[@tericlee]

It's not a red flag...The world see's it as a red flag but the God in me see's it as the right thing to do

[@jcklsldr]

I'm not religious and I still don't see it as a red flag. I respect people's beliefs though as long as they don't harm others, and quite frankly not having sex isn't going to harm her. (I'm agreeing with you)

[@crystalvouse7015]

tericlee she didnt say he was keeping himself for God. They have lack of communication she needs to talk to him

[@jaineenah]

AMEN

[@tammiebrazzel]

Amen

[@gino6658]

I would just make sure he >>Really

[@stevec3526]

Relationship advice from Steve Harvey is like getting financial advice from someone who has declared bankruptcy many times.

[@moonmoh1802]

I’m glad that at least the comments all agree this was the advice we’ve all heard from a steve so far

[@TheNewRiflemanBob]

So according to Steve, every man is seeing some woman. Apparently there's no such thing as a guy who enjoys time alone where he can catch up on his personal hobbies or interests. I think that Steve forgot to take his medication this morning.

[@nikewarrior24]

+TheNewRiflemanBob True.

[@treasurecarelli488]

Yeah I think Steve is a bit off mentally. His logic and matter of fact speaking on things goes beyond being strongly opinionated it's some type of damage at work.

[@drovane]

+TheNewRiflemanBob I agree with this, there is also the fact that if you have not found the right woman you aren't going to be with someone. I was single and didn't date for about 3 years and I'm glad I didn't because now I'm with someone who is worth everything to me.

[@treasurecarelli488]

drovane that's awesome!

[@thickyvick]

+TheNewRiflemanBob right.. wtf is he talking bout.

[@gloryyalovee6182]

No sex is not a red flag ! My bf and I have been together for almost 2 years and we haven't had sex. We want to wait till we get married and there is nothing wrong with that. We are building a strong bound and great memories without sex. Disapointed in both answers :/

[@ilililhy1]

+gloryya lovee SAME HERE!

[@temeriando22]

Wow while if you guess wait it's going to be very amazing for the both of you!!!!

[@temeriando22]

Guy* sorry

[@PhdMusic03]

+gloryya lovee Amen! Honor The Lord with your marriage!

[@writerzblock00]

yes but it sounds like your bf at least let you know that it's going to happen in the future. sounds like hers is saying wait and she has no idea if he ever will.

[@6ixlxrd]

"Men don't do me time." *Laughs in Social Distancing*

[@MrK1ngi]

"Where is he at during the parade?" Is wild asf 😂😂

[@Bems__]

For goodness sakes, there’s more to life than sex🙄🤦🏽‍♀️. Society has corrupted your minds ‼️‼️

[@salmanko5610]

Facts

[@toreytownsend4705]

Exactly!!!

[@retiredsnowbunnyhunterx5106]

True! But i aint waiting no 2 years unless im single.

[@christheballer0468]

U got ur life by sex

[@mariososa1979]

Yeah it is but making love is a very important part in a serious relationship, y'all can wait till yall married, which is fine. But y'all better have the best sex ever during the honey moon

[@robertlane8927]

I’m literally the guy that isn’t seeing or talking to a single female bc I’m more focused on getting myself together.

[@leelee2357]

Steve is so down to earth and Hilarious!... I enjoy his show so much

[@champagnes5898]

Steve’s face @ 4:00😂😂😂😂😂😂 I wonder what is going through his mind😳🤣🤣🤣

[@WälläceExplores]

no steve you talking rubbish im sitting at home and not seeing no one lool

[@Hamudi82]

Me three

[@RastasNevaDie]

Lol me n black ops at home

[@King-Montu]

Maverickcreatedthis whats your online id lol

[@rossjohnson1301]

Good I'm not alone lol

[@alaataktokani8884]

same here

[@ChristopherHaynes]

I think Steve & Sanaa are making the mistake of dismissing that some men practice abstaining from pre marital sex. I was a virgin until I got married, am I strange ? & I dated beautiful women & had make out sessions but sexual intercourse was something said no to. Society makes the mistake judging people by the same expectations .

[@bradleybrad398]

Christopher Haynes ikr

[@bradleybrad398]

Im only 13 but i pray to Jesus he gives me the strength to wait too props to you man hope you guys have an awesome relationship

[@lamontewiggins41]

Nope, you're not strange. I was a virgin till I got married at 31.

[@abdelghanibouftih6542]

ur not strange ur a good man

[@Darin-USMCB--]

Christopher Haynes Good for you, I didn’t have that will power, but did marry my first a year later at 18, but that was a big mistake!

[@char6321]

Yessss Sanaa & Steve👏🏽👏🏽👏🏽👏🏽you speaking Facts💯

[@SmoothOthello]

Been watching lots of his videos and loving them, but this is where I'm like wth Steve I love me time

[@jackosnjames2306]

Bruh America is so hypocritical first women complain all guys want is sex but then when a man is trying to build a strong foundation based on love and not sex it’s a problem 🧐🧐 ok was nobody else raised to wait till marriage it saves a whole lot of heartbreak

[@159753smith]

You can build a strong foundation through sex as well

[@phreshstylez218]

Word up my man,and people wonder why I feel the way I feel about this silly country called.....america....land of divide and conquer!!😕🤢🤮😄😂🤣

[@Ddaddyification]

I agree one thousand percent when did it become a problem to wait and built a foundation on love and respect etc before sex. I guess since its a man all that doesn't mean anything

[@avenidasaturn6189]

I Just met a guy that was in Such a relationships of waiting cool But standing next to me he was having a BIG problem IT Will ends UP with cheating anyway

[@josuastangl7140]

2 YEARS, that's not a "foundation", that's disrespcting her

[@jacobgarrett2361]

I’m single and not seeing anyone...... Steve lost his mind

[@danielleg2616]

How old r u? Most guys over 25 r rarely single

[@lzumm]

Jacob Garrett 😂

[@danielleg2616]

@MadDilla ATCQstarr what does bad boys have to do with the fact that most guys over 25 r seeing a woman and not single? As for the other lady she needs to see y he doesn't want to touch her or stay over after 2 yrs. (unless he's religious)

[@danielleg2616]

@MadDilla ATCQstarr read it again..... Ive never changed my stance from saying most guys over 25 r seeing a woman and arent single (at least in my area of the world)

[@danielleg2616]

Do u people know the meaning of rarely single lol.

[@JM3jUiCe]

I AM…one of “those guys” that Steve be cracking jokes about, “No man just sits around alone.” I ain’t seeing anybody. That’s me.

[@uchennandego2931]

Steve i am a guy and I've not seen anyone for the past 15years and this is an absolute truth ....

[@threat645]

“No man does me time” HARVEY WTF?! Im doing me time right now in youtube by myself on my phone in bed and i got work in the morning.

[@daniely8350]

He meant that no man is totally romantically uninvolved with anyone. Even if you're single, you're still flirting with someone and catching someone's eye.

[@bingbong2697]

Lol

[@rickodhiambo6318]

For real.. smh

[@karellt2355]

Lololol!!

[@anubisgod23]

Daniel Y even that isn’t true. I would say at least 50% of single men are doing them time and are in a moment of having zero interest in women. I did that for two years and it was a time of massive growth for me

[@tonid773]

Steve really need to stop speaking for other men. Nothing wrong with being alone and waiting.

[@markkujantunen8298]

There are countless guys who aren't seeing anybody and not necessarily because they don't want to. Men have standards, too, which Steve apparently does not know. If a guy hasn't met anyone they're not really into, it can make a lot of sense not go out with anyone. And as you say, there are are guys who prefer to be alone at least for the time being. They could be out of a taxing failed relationship or they could have something else that is time-consuming going on in their lives.

[@tally1938]

He's a comedian jeez

[@shivamaraj7055]

Total agree

[@govanageneral8861]

Right

[@outsideworld76]

Steve is an idiot! Never take advice on women from a men who can't even hold his own.

[@nicolash.9222]

3:59 Steve's facial expression was priceless at that moment ahaha !

[@mastermind0981]

Love this actress, smart, beautiful and has common sense.

[@PharmD2be1]

No sex in 2 years and that's a red flag!?!??!! Ughhh, I hate what this world has become. I must have red flags all around me then, lol. I take pride in my body, I am a woman of integrity and I'm not having sex. I find it a red flag that a person sleeps with every Tom, Dick, and Harry that they date. Integrity is lacking these days.

[@ladynottingham89]

+PharmD2be1 If her beliefs don't line up with his, then she should break up the relationship. I am considering breaking up my engagement because of the same reason, except the roles are reversed. Then again, my situation is occurring due to my Christian beliefs. She should find out why he's not being intimate with her; if the reason is personal beliefs she should know now so she can decide if she can deal with it. It could be something else, just like Sanaa mentioned, he could be gay. I doubt a man would be wining and dining a woman while he sleeps with other women without getting anything from her. She could be his beard, it happens.

[@purplelonghorn07]

+PharmD2be1 amen!

[@Mebeshe]

But, I bet this is a conversation you have. The fact that they have not had sex is not the red flag. His reason is the red flag. They have been dating for two years, and he feels their bond isn't strong enough?!! Not buying his reason. I think he is impotent. I do agree with you regarding not giving yourself to everyone. If I'm not worth marriage, then he isn't worth this precious gift I have for my future husband. I am saving myself to honor my future husband.

[@futuredoc1988]

+PharmD2be1 im a soon to be PharmD too!!!!

[@starzhisoka6346]

If you're married, its a hole other storey girl...

[@stephanieokoro7073]

Maybe he just wants to wait till he is married to have sex and he sees sex as something sacred between a husband and wife. Why didn't anyone think about that ?!

[@rhondagoso654]

+stephanie okoro when u aren't used living right....

[@replicant7697]

Sexual urges in men can be strong. I admire a man who does not force or pressure a woman to deal with his sex problems. Takes more balls to wait than to try to get sex from anything that moves.

[@1964beetle]

In all likelihood the guy is an asexual. For them, sex does nothing. They are likely to get as much pleasure from it as they do from cutting their fingernails. Just like psychopaths are born without the ability to feel emotions, asexuals are born without the ability to be sexually aroused or have sexual desires. Relationships with asexuals are very stressful for non-asexual partners. Asexuality has only recently been clinically recognized and is believed to represent up to 1% of the population. en.wikipedia.org/wiki/Asexuality

[@anoil125]

true

[@shanickscott7426]

I absolutely agree with you.

[@michaelsix9684]

I have done me time for decades and don't regret it, kept me sane

[@oktagonmw3340]

I am glad I came to the comments section. I have been doing some ''me'' time for about two years trying to put my life together. And yes guys do get holiday to focus on their lives

[@hookuhjones3287]

Im single with nothing on the side of anything. Havent had sex in 2 years. I focus my time on my son not me, i don't need a woman to be happy

[@temkawilliams7425]

I know that's right! And a woman don't need a man to make her happy as well. Both should already be happy when coming together.

[@chichiafriq8674]

True

[@adamcastro7593]

I feel you

[@sesethuntaphane3933]

I knew there were man like this, Steve got me confused for a minute... Yhooo ha a

[@KM-oy5yh]

💯💯💯💯💯💯💯

[@346rrr]

There is nothing wrong with building a solid foundation first. Because he doesn't sleep with you doesn't mean that it's a red flag. Come on. There are still some people out there who believe in marriage then sex. And, there is nothing wrong with that.

[@colasalz2]

he didn´t even spend the night with her.... what is that?

[@darldinaebot3814]

Agreed

[@nicholasgakuu5223]

that is the problem these days many people are promiscuous..there was a time that sex before marriage was frowned upon for a good reason because look at what is happening now..marriages breaking apart people cheating allover the place since sex has become easier to get than a good realtionship...so when women find a good man who believes in no sex b4 marriage he looks like an alien to them since most have been used to being used .

[@beyondthehorizon904]

Maybe his foundation is too soft. Hope he can hardened it, so it get solid of. Who says the woman doesn't have a need, that's we have deputies to fill the cracks

[@ruthi3236]

It's the only way to go!!!

[@tfl4817]

“Where is he at during the parade?” 😂😂😂

[@KATHERINEMARIA-ks9sk]

I love being alone. I refuse to be Abused in anyway put in corrupt situations. I'm beyond picky and I refuse to change

[@adamdavenport8009]

Man withholds sex: RED FLAG!!! Woman withholds sex: YOU GO GIRL!!!

[@shantemanuwa6033]

Two years though. Is he saving himself for marriage?

[@jaimealvarez8896]

The hypocrisy of Sanna Lathan🤦

[@darkknightk]

I couldn't agree with you more dude!

[@darkknightk]

@@shantemanuwa6033 what if he is?

[@onlyh8720]

She also asked about the reason 🙄 i would question a woman too and think that the person doesn’t really like you unless they are celibate or waiting for marriage

[@HemaFTW]

Steve is always projecting. He's talking solely from his own point of view and then claims all men are exactly like him. Utter nonsense

[@RodieRo1]

Facts

[@The1baddman]

Steve can't speak for every man, just like a woman can't speak for other women, every man's or woman's situation is different.

[@babydoll2887]

Agree!!! But abby just also talks nonsense...now we all know that her relationship is based on sex

[@JaKaMaTuS]

Thats true i noticed that

[@El_Crispaulo]

I agree. Complete nonsense!

[@quatanahodges6967]

I really think it's sad how Steve refuses to believe that there isn't any man who's fine with not dating sometimes. When he said men don't say "I'm trying to get myself together right now" . . . the fact so many of them don't is part of the problem.

[@ninamack8324]

Steve is spot on

[@nicksgottalent]

No he is not. He is far off respectfully 😂😂

[@sol3417]

I am afraid that the girl is about to lose this wonderful guy who adore, care, and respect her because of her sex demand. I respect her need; that is natural but abstinence until marriage is golden gift from God. Most men doesn't have this courage. That man is a real man.

[@roka2031]

She said, He said that he believes a relationship shouldn't be based on sex, he did not give sex after marriage as his reason. If that's not the reason , then I think it's a red flag, because after 2 years he should know her well enough ,after that time ,how could the relationship be based on sex when they weren't having any for 2 years

[@johnbaron2228]

Ro Ka He doesn't see her as a girlfriend only a friend the reason stated by the show are extreme even though they might be likely. Mental issues are more likely to be the reason e.g. when I was unemployed I didn't date or talk to women etc I was stressed and depressed had low confidence self esteem and low energy which makes you puruse less as you are broke and look at things more objectively.

[@krrrobinson236]

Sol

[@ajaxjohnson7999]

Why would he have sex with her with her 2 kids (who aren't his) are nearby and can bust in at anytime? She should be grateful he's still around! Because everyone knows a single should never get involved with a single mother. If a mother is single, there must be a REASON.

[@Joskemom]

The mother of a failed relationship with 2 kids is complaining that her guy is not banging her and making a bad example for her kids and risking another kid. After 2 years, she should know the exact reason of no sex.

[@thickyvick]

THe dude could be celibate waiting for marriage! WTF is Steve talking about?!?!

[@YAHWILLREDEEM]

+thickyvick Steve doesn't represent true brothers at all. So sick of these paid folks who think they speak for the rest of our nation.

[@ASOnly1]

+raw9025 i totally agree.

[@dianejuhola9187]

+Phil West Celibate waiting for marriage? No man does that, and certainly doesn't stick to one woman after marriage.

[@shamisha10]

that's true but that not the reason he gave for mot wanting to have sex.

[@1965paw]

+bigjayking24 I just updated the same information above! He is hiding something!

[@jairogarcia5931]

3:59 Steve's face hahahahahahhahahahahahahahahahhaha

[@joeyjackson7773]

I'm that guy. I needed time to get myself together because after being cheated on, I need to trust myself and love myself. Without this time for yourself you go into risky behavior. So I took time to myself so i can be ready to give myself to the right woman.

[@defaultemail5636]

“What guy is not seeing anyone?” *cries in corner* Me

[@cherylwade4365]

Default Email Don't freak out. Sometimes society's attitude is that being with someone is the everything. I know I am an older woman who is not with anyone . If you want a relationship don't be afraid to ask someone even if it means getting rejected trust me you will not implode upon rejection. Sex should not Be the main attraction. Enjoying the company of a like minded individual is good. You don't have to be soulmates to have fun together. Watching a movie, riding a bike whatever. Shared interests doesn't make a romance but it does teach you how be yourself around others. Accepting yourself and being aware of your standards makes life a lot easier .

[@sesethuntaphane3933]

@@cherylwade4365 your advise is so profound, like I just agree with everything you are saying because it makes sense..... This is wisedom

[@Fastsport2]

Facts

[@kirullol8215]

here i am single for 5 years already

[@thetruther9521]

I actually like my alone time .. Something called privacy..

[@kingraiderr]

Rocky 2028 Me too .

[@davidbolha]

قفشات الأفلام Me 3

[@grey-fv9gr]

Right!!! Not everyone is the same you can't generalised a character to everyone

[@RodieRo1]

Aman

[@elsersosa]

bruh look at steve faces on the second lady lmfaoooo

[@LetsPlayWalkers]

2 Years without making love to your partner could be considered a red flag to one or the other. Like Sannan said " He sounds like an amazing man which is very hard to come by, but do you want to spend the rest of your life as a beautiful sexy woman with a man who does not make love to you"

[@mommabear8260]

My husband was 100% single. He stated HE was waiting on the right one. So, not true for all!!

[@Godsimage23]

Steve is not a go to relationship guru hence married 3 times and divorced that's a dam red flag! You're welcome!💯😉

[@babydoll2887]

I want to give you a thousand like but unfortunately i can only do it once

[@MegaPiatro]

trial and error. he finally got it right.

[@samaryechic]

@@MegaPiatro agreed

[@flo-dd5sw]

Four times

[@abdullaalturabi6526]

@@MegaPiatro 3 times to get it right? 3 times? If i got 3 warnings at work I'd be outta there

[@ms.shiiproperly6777]

“A man votes with his actions, not with his words” line of THE YEAR right there Sanaa

[@NikkiSalazar.]

There's a point to having time for yourself & respecting your body. Also, I think it's important to know & set expectations going into courting a person. Eunice: You'll have to make the conversation about that. You should be in control of your body & he his. Maybe he is waiting until marriage. But, you both have the right to know, right?

[@LadyChemicalEngineer]

if he's been with you for two years without sex, he must really like you! he's a keeper! you should talk to him about it

[@ZMDevotions]

Definitely!

[@hypergummy1266]

Joke of the week

[@MrBraddles3128]

Without sex with HER.

[@B.Latriece]

thank you i mean dang do we promote having sex before marriage. he probably wants to wait until hes married. men like him are hard to come by because instead of getting to know whats in your panties he wants to know about you and who you are. i think that's beautiful.

[@badlandsghost]

LadyChemicalEngineer but usually you tell someone that don't you? I mean two years in and you haven't had the sex talk, that's kinda odd to me

[@themoonlitquill]

Eunice said one important thing that proves she's not paying attention to her man...she said he's VERY old fashioned. If he is that old fashioned, then he probably won't be intimate with her until they're married. That was a total 'no duh' kind of moment for me.

[@t.i.794]

The Moonlit Quill" that was a 'no duh' moment for me". . Not for me he's a grown man & if that's what he's waiting for than he should have courage to be upfront & honest about it so she knows what she's getting into. How can you be with someone for two years and not let them in on the fact that your waiting for marriage to have sex...come on that's not the reason

[@colasalz2]

oh. I have news for this " old fashioned" guy: talk about it. Woman are not mind readers.

[@momadfaruque1676]

I was watching "Sex Education" series and I learned on a episode that if someone doesn't want to have sex that could mean that he/she may have something traumatic or euphorbia towards sex.

[@fatimadaher7499]

Not a red flag to abstain until you are fully committed! But by 2 years we should already know where the relationship is going. She has every right to know. So does he. Communication is key.

[@goscott2]

NEWS FLASH: Believe it or not, there ARE men out there who are trying to be righteous and holy and trying to obstain (Not all of us are successful but there are many that try to make an honest effort). Steve Harvey is a good guy and all but he is NOT a relationship expert and I can't believe that women are taking what he is saying about relationships as the GOSPEL. There are some things he says that are true but also MANY that arent regarding men and relationships and also not Biblical.

[@anubisgod23]

Abstain** It doesn’t have to be biblical for it to be good and correct relationship advice

[@natashaallen1687]

100% I'm even more confused that Steve would make these statements since he identifies as Christian. I would have thought that he'd mention the possibility of that man being a Christian himself.

[@anubisgod23]

@@natashaallen1687 Harvey knows Jack sh** about men

[@garrycollins3875]

That's exactly what I'm talking about!... perhaps the best answer on here!?... but Steve can't give anyone relationship advice...sex is reserved for the married. People can play house if they want to!?... but that's sin!

[@sharkkeeper01]

Maybe he’s a REAL christian Steve with principles. See not everyone is a “ hollywood” christian.

[@thedreamer9011]

I don't think he is . She did not mentioned is because of his faith. It's not a red flag to me, but it's a concern. She said that he never says overnight. I'm hearing a need here. Remember she has kids. So, she knows what's up. She needs to have a conversation with him about their future together.

[@turbomustang8417]

He has performance issues...

[@barakajacobs4539]

Yes , wish I can find one like him...yes sex before marriage is sin and we Al know that (Christians)..so it's not a red flag

[@Lift-N-Travel]

sharkkeeper01 big facts 💯💯

[@joaopaulob80]

But She is already has kids, so doesn't make sense this man do this. He must understanding people in the past wait, 'cause they marry so soon, they used to marry with 17 and 18. different situation !

[@kathyerasmus1270]

Steve took me tf out with that "hello te te te" 💀😅😅

[@anthonywhite9867]

Nah Steve you wrong on that one I PERSONALLY NEED SOME ME TIME !

[@Michael_B82]

Why is this a problem? Fornication is not the answer. Why is he being criticized for not wanting to have sex before marriage. Sex is for marriage

[@rimo926]

+falconfan1990 lol, christians

[@RochelletheRealtor]

+falconfan1990 It is a problem because he hasn't given religious beliefs as his reason for not having sex. His vague response -- especially considering that most men are pretty upfront in their desire to have sex with a woman -- is the red flag. It would be perfectly acceptable if he said "I don't believe in having premarital sex." But he's just being very strange.

[@Kellythelegend]

+falconfan1990 its 2015

[@jojolabellefleur1]

+The Effortless Naturalista Eunice's description of her man was vague its not enough for you to conclude that her partner did not give her religious beliefs as his reason for not putting out. Secondly you mentioned "especially considering that most men are pretty upfront in their desire to have sex with a woman". Maybe just maybe he is not most men.....

[@pzigotnofilterp7882]

+jojo labellefleur AGREED!

[@AlanValdez_TV]

hey, for the 2nd woman. Some people dont believe in sex out of wedlock.

[@taajchosen5291]

+gargouenzene, just because it's okay for you to fornicate doesn't mean those who are not OK with it are morons

[@abdulhannan2510]

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[@nyofacezproductionz]

he did tell her that jasmine purdy

[@Force1Com]

No ding ding without a wedding ring!

[@ronnies8309]

Alan Valdez if this is the case then yes but if not you better run.

[@mxgx7508]

I chill at home by myself regularly.i live alone and love it don't think i can have it any other way

[@dionne8837]

some of us men don't see anyone and avoid dating for a while especially when the last relationship we had was extremely abusive and toxic after that it takes a few years to be able to start to trust enough to try again

[@deejay803]

If a girl is waiting then no guy should pressure her cuz #chastity but a guy wants to wait and all of a sudden it's a red flag

[@parrotshootist3004]

Don't forget though women who sleep around shouldn't be shamed for it, because guys who do are 'studs'. If it weren't for double standards...

[@CartmanMorisato]

@@parrotshootist3004 No one should sleep around. If we didn't there would be MUCH less problems in our society today.

[@anubisgod23]

Roman Flores there is absolutely zero evidence to suggest that promiscuous culture is negative

[@jordanjones3850]

@@anubisgod23 studies show more sexual partners you have more likely ur marriage fails. More likely that fails more likely children live in single parent or divorced households which statisically show more adverse effects if both parents were together. Which means people are just being borned disadvamtage at mass. Also the destruction of the family has been heavily linked to psychological and loneliness problems with people. So yh.... it has beeen proven to have negative effects :p

[@anubisgod23]

@@jordanjones3850 none of that is true, like at all. Going into marriage as a virgin gives your chances of divorce a big boost compared to if you've slept with one or t two people prior. Most importantly the person you marry. Sexual compatibility is believed to be more important to an relationships than religious ideology.

[@Faithful1ne07]

Getting advice from a single woman and a man who has been married SEVERAL times. I hope these ladies didn't take it serious because it was terrible advice.

[@Faithful1ne07]

Definitely

[@leilanirose3274]

No..its because the women were being beaten and divorce was frowned upon

[@Faithful1ne07]

That's not everyone's experience, but ok.

[@TreasureOne]

It's because there were no other choices for miles around!

[@MsBeyutiful]

good advice is good advice. Nothing to do with what the person who's giving the advice past.

[@mr..niceguy6666]

There's no me time for a guy🤣steve knows how we guys are👊🏽facts...

[@tommoore2012]

“Men don’t do me time.” 28 years old and have never had a girlfriend. Watched all 4 of my siblings with the oldest being the last one of them have a relationship and get married. I’m the family loser but thankfully neither my parents or siblings love me any less than the others. Though sometimes I am ignored more than them even before any of them ever found their significant other.

[@misstybyers]

I would take a man with values over a sexual relationship any day. Married or not, because that's what's important to me!

[@jcklsldr]

Seriously. And the older you get, the more it is valued having someone you trust and cherish, even for men.

[@t.sk.8067]

Desert Rose Thnk you

[@lisabradford8180]

Thumbs ☝ thumbs ☝

[@nancybreaux9684]

Amen.

[@ka7126]

Hell nah wtf married life is pg13 and boring. After a baby its survival mode and the focus is not even on the relationship. Wish someone would have told me that after a baby you lose sensation, i wouldve been hoeing for life. Its not all white and satisfying

[@missbeeline]

my husband and I were together, before marriage, for 6 years, no sex with each other or anyone. that was not accurate advice. yes we all have our deal breakers but don't miss out on a potentially awesome relationship by using sex to gauge his love and concern. you're not married.

[@NyokabiWaweru]

same

[@son-ofblack-king2187]

MissBeeline's Natural Hair I don't believe you

[@missbeeline]

Son-of Black-King I understand.

[@son-ofblack-king2187]

MissBeeline's Natural Hair what was the goal in this tactic?

[@missbeeline]

Son-of Black-King goal? no goal. I was responding to ur reply to my comment. you said you don't believe me. it's understandable that you dont. it goes against the mainstream ideal. that it all

[@Joan1able]

Great advice yet we should work to know our situations first hand

[@krennopher1269]

Steve: What guy isn't seeing anybody? Me:

[@Eimoon70]

Q: "What guy does not see anyone?" A: A poor law student in huge debt

[@sesethuntaphane3933]

Right... There are so many man that do me time because some have other priorities and focus.

[@halberdoh8489]

Damnit I feel sorry for you, another victim of that stinking system

[@kodyscot9360]

@Eimen don't worry , when u pass the bar and get hired u will pay that off real quick

[@quickseevee3509]

ow-kay. my answer to that would be, "you got a couple hours, because the scroll list is pretty long."

[@daltontannery3243]

A better answer would be, someone who's short, ugly, fat, hairy, and not worthy of love. Also known as me

[@jeviam]

To be honest i was single for about 2 years before i met my recent girlfriend.If i break up with a girl i like to be single for awhile before i get back into a relationship. I don't get people who go from 1 relationship to another straight after a breakup

[@austinhoward299]

jeviam I agree. You can't go around jumping from 1 person to the other. It's unhealthy and when would you ever have time to learn from and work on you as a person. Quiet time is quality time

[@perry4543]

jeviam exactly but apparently theres something wrong with us if we do

[@outcast566]

Some people fear being alone.

[@r.i.pxxxtentacionforeverre949]

jeviam some people are just not strong enough to be alone. They always need some type of validation from someone. I've been single for 3 years and I feel happy. I don't need a relationship I prefer alone.

[@delldawson5643]

Love her

[@BB-wh2vm]

What guy is not seeing anyone? i felt that😂😂😂

[@tawanda33]

Wow! Steve's advice on this is so shallow and really disappointing. For starters he said "men don't have me time" and went on to say that a man is "always seeing somebody". I've never heard a more untrue statement. I have friends who have done this. People that are mostly spiritual and I've done it myself. When I've wanted to achieve something, my time was often limited. To the point where I only had one free day a week. That was my day of rest. Sometimes a relationship can be a distraction. It also takes a lot of energy, time and money. Secondly, the guy who's waited 2 years doesn't necessarily have something wrong with him. I once abstained for that long. Again it's perfectly normal for the spiritual person to do so. It's really disappointing that Steve and Sanaa fail to look at life from a different perspective. Something that any good counselor must be able to do.

[@kimmiet.8962]

Which why I didn't fully agree with his "Think Like a Man" book. My present boyfriend was single for almost a year before we met & I was for two (celibate). It was a cleansing period. Both sound shallow & close minded. I appreciate your candor about this. When I saw it on the actual show, I was very disgusted. Sad. Poor advice & unfair. Steve has been married 3 times & Sanaa none, just a thought.

[@tawanda33]

+Kimmie T very shallow and close minded. Nothing wise about their words.

[@kimmiet.8962]

***** I pray in the future they try to say, " For me & what I've experienced, not speaking for all..." I thought their statements were sadly general & very one-sided. It is always up to those to choose whether to accept the advice, not all advice is good advice.

[@Joskemom]

Steve gave lousy advice. Men who have a plan always have 'me' time and retro speck. At 22, there is no law that you are always seeing someone, what the hell?

[@lejlasas9103]

Tawanda Mawushe, Yes.

[@Rosedaleb1]

And you never asked if he was a Christian with certain values??? I'm sorry but the advice given was lacking real substance.

[@mmlas8683]

Surely she would have mentioned it to Steve if he was religious, instead he wanted a better 'bond'.

[@dygeorge44]

+Rosedale1 I don't beleive that "no sex" is a red flag in a relationship. I think that the advice that was given was inaccurate. There should be a conversation between the two of them about the subject. What is he is a Christain and has morale values that he chooses not to have sex before marriage? I really expected for Steve, being a Christian to speak to this, but sometimes even we as Christians can get soo caught up in what society dictates as right and wrong that we fail to uphold our Christian values.

[@janinacastillo4010]

+Rosedale1 I agree this is crazy, Steve Harvey really disappointed me big time.

[@SheniceSays214]

I think that he probably is looking at the fact that this woman had children from a previous relationship and it didn't end up well and because this woman has children he is probably a Christian guy trying to treat her like a lady and exhibiting Christ like behavior by waiting for sex he could be waiting for marriage you never know.

[@xcyta2006]

+Lovely Candice Him being religious was discussed ,but they had to edit to fit the time allowed . They chose to leave that out .

[@neilsparlor2893]

The perfect guy heeinnn😉😉😉😉

[@ItsSoarTime]

where WAS he when the parade was taking place? LOL!!!!!!