No, where are you really from? | Made in England

In today's Made in England show, I ask, where are you really from, and is it offensive to ask? Plus other interesting topics.
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[@terryallen1529]

She knew exactly what she was being asked but she saw an opportunity and took it

[@paulwally9007]

Unfortunately, you are probably spot-on. And we are letting these grifters win.

[@julieheudebourck]

This woman was very astute and should be ashamed with what she has done.

[@lisaclark6134]

I absolutely agree! People can see right through someone feigning their being offended.

[@MisAnnThorpe]

@@lisaclark6134 Most people see nothing unless they're told they see it.

[@lynnevenables7193]

@@julieheudebourck I agree, Lady Hussy, with all those years of experience, should have known better. Whereas I was a bit sceptical of Meghan & Harry, I actually believe them now.

[@Neveryoumind-o1o]

Her birth name is Marlene Headley and the real reason she got upset is that the question highlighted her fake persona

[@AmmyNoUzume]

Amen.

[@louisecook6483]

Well said. She has a history of dislike of our royal family and she stated that Megan was a victim of abuse from the royal family, how dare she!! Most things Megan said has been proved to be lies. The bastardising of our history and placing of others in our history who absolutely were not even in the country to live here let alone queens , nobility. Even in the 40's & 50's there was a tiny minority here but in our history England , Scotland , Wales and Ireland were all white countries yet there is a push to make everyone white as rascist and that they we had always been a multicultural country which is of course rubbish but our children and grandchildren will grow up believing what they have been taught in school

[@karenyoung8341]

Spot on!

[@lynnebarnes3840]

🎯

[@huporhaha1]

"Hello Dear!" said the 83 year old lady, trying to make conversation in the restaurant, "And where are you from?" "I'm local to the area" I replied - "I live in this town." "Oh!" she said, "I see, but where are you really from?" "Well," I said, "I've lived here for most of my life!" "But where did you really come from?" she quizzed me. Suddenly the penny dropped. I'd never really picked up a west-country accent despite being married to a Cornishman for 39 years and living in the area for well over 40 years. "Oh!" I replied, "I originally come from near Northampton." We then happily talked for another half an hour.

[@just_another32]

yes but this misses the point a little bit. The woman had said where she came from - the UK. It is presumably where she was born!!! I am not justifying the fuss and media response to this. I think it has been absolutely dire and polarising. But there is something about being repeatedly asked where you are from, when you are from the in the UK, born and bred here, and it may be all you have ever known. That is what is different to the scenario you described (which of course makes perfect sense).

[@just_another32]

@Sonification I agree - it sounds like a stitch up. Unfortunately, since 2020 we are now in a situation where anybody who has a grievance or grudge (usually politically and ideologically driven) can easily create a video example of something and the media then jump on it and propagate it. Another but different example of this is George Floyd (which didn't even happen in Britain). The point is - it causes some people to be turned against one another and made suspicious of one another and fearful of speaking to one another. I think it's the aim actually - to re-racialise everything and divide and rule. The media are having a hey day. I really hope people can rise above it. As for the "where are you from question" - I find it irritating and sometimes offensive - depending on how it is asked. I was born in Britain, one parent is from an African country and the one is white English. I don't think I am "from" the African country my father is from - as I was not born there. I am from the UK. So, my perspective is that it can indeed be annoying and offensive - especially if repeatedly asked (and when someone keeps asking it despite you telling them that you are not actually from another country). Sometimes I politely say, oh do you mean why I am brown? Right! My father is from Zambia and I am mixed race. That said, I do not know the motive of the person we or talking about and I haven't listened to the conversation. It is clear to me that this is just being used to stoke (more) division. And we are sort of missing the point to be discussing "where are you from" as a question rather than the bigger of issue of what is being done here. Next week it will be something else... some other incident being used to claim that x is racist and x needs special hard-left Diversity training... that is what is going on here. It is a revolution. Or maybe the revolution has already happened. And it isn't black vs white. It is ideologues vs ordinary people who want to live in a tolerant democracy that has free speech (even if it does mean that sometimes you get offended).

[@fredneedle123]

So sexist. 😆

[@lindabrumpton438]

@@just_another32 unfortunately this lady was dressed as an African person. That being the case,saying the UK was rather odd. Had she said she was born in the UK but if African heritage the lady would have accepted it. It was a set up

[@just_another32]

@@lindabrumpton438 Hi Linda. I think it is a real shame that this incident is causing such a hoohah. But she can wear whatever clothes she wants and it doesn't make her less British. But yeh, there is a real possibility that it was a deliberate set up. Just such a pity that the media pounce on it and blow it up out of all proportion - just like they did with the BLM stuff during lockdowns. I give up, honestly.

[@roverboat2503]

I am sure she wasn't asked the question purely because of her ethnicity. She had an African name on her name tag and was wearing West African traditional costume. I'm pretty sure that I would think her African in those circumstances. The fact that her real name is Marlene Headley, that she was born in London and her parents are from the Caribbean makes one must wonder why she has gone to so much trouble to disguise herself as an African. Cultural appropriation at its best.

[@AmmyNoUzume]

Yep. Also, maybe she forgets that this was an event hosting many representatives of different causes and nations. Some of those reps probably have a near perfect English or close enough accent, purely due to education. The question does not constitute racism... Those bongo dreads and African attire do not represent British dress or history, no matter how much the left or culture appropriators pretends we native Brits are somehow less worthy of our own traditions.

[@roosterbigchiefrunswithchi2695]

I'm Shamed that King Charles has let her resign. That lady is firstly a person who is quite used to speaking to heads of state, King's and Queen's from around the world she knows how to behave and speak in such situations. A true lady! If it were me at such a gathering I to would ask her the same question indeed I would also ask white people the same, as many guests would probably be from around the world. You know they call it being INTERESTED and COURTEOUS!!! Definitely not Racist.

[@paulwally9007]

Absolutely. It is a disgrace that she felt she needed to resign. Just shows how far we've gone down the rabbit-hole of appeasing insane levels of wokery when we feel obligated to apologise for infractions we haven't committed.

[@clareb8015]

She was thrown under the bus. I feel very sorry for her.

[@cropduster8798]

Charles is the problem. He is not fit to carry the office of crown. He is a traitor with a huge chip on his shoulder. Such a pathetic excuse as a person. Spoilt to the core.

[@paulwally9007]

If you turn up to a royal function with a tiger on a leash, wearing a turban with a huge ruby on the front of it, whilst sitting on a magic carpet, expect at least a couple of people to enquire as to where you come from. And the chances are, if you reply with 'Dagenham' , then they are likely to have a few follow-up questions. It's not racism; it's normal human curiosity.

[@raypurchase801]

Something similar happened to Peter Griffin. He arrived at an event dressed as a cowboy secret agent billionaire astronaut. Then somebody noticed his hat came off. "You're a phoney! A great big phoney!"

[@Fanakapan222]

Yams can always tell the Brummy by the shamrock in his kilt.

[@raypurchase801]

@@Fanakapan222 Haha!

[@maureenkiker9223]

Shame on William disrespecting his Godmother a lady who served our late great queen for so many years.

[@paulwally9007]

He should be sent to bed without any supper. His brother, however, should be sent to a Siberian gulag for re-education.

[@thomasreed49]

Charles has not only let lady Hussey down he’s let the whole country down nobody ever sticks up for us.

[@ericatkinson9285]

He was indoctrinated by his father into never questioning ethnic 'minorities' or their anti British views.

[@PhoneVidoes]

I'm afraid I feel Ms Fulani is the one with the problem, if she gets so flustered by a 83yr old lady just asking a simple question and then claims it as "abuse" then I'm sorry the snowflake here is Ms Fulani.

[@LittleFrenchHen]

Turning up in full cultural dress, clearly celebrating your ethnicity in a place where it isn't very common to dress in such attire, one would assume a conversation about it would happen. Quite why this is considered "wrong" is beyond me, honestly.

[@stasiabotwright]

With respect, it wasn’t a ‘conversation’. It was one person telling the person who’s answer should be taken as final, told they were wrong - when they know where they are from. 😮

[@PopularesVox]

I note this lady wears RasTafari clours on numerous occasions, including interviews. RasTafari believe their spiritual home is Ethiopia and proudly display that country's colours. Green: the vegetation and beauty of Ethiopia ,Yellow (gold): the wealth of Africa, Red: the blood of the martyrs. Given that, her over reaction to questions from insensitive and rude elderly lady seem rather odd. Lemon drizzle cake and tea, very nice..😀

[@ruthbashford3176]

@@stasiabotwright If you turn up at a royal function calling yourself Ngozi Fulani and dressed like the "Queen of Wakanda" you can be expected to be asked where you're REALLY from.

[@stasiabotwright]

@@ruthbashford3176 yes, and the answer Hackney, London or any space that isn’t what one’s bias wants it to be, is a valid answer.

[@Neveryoumind-o1o]

It isn't her ethnicity tho she culturally appropriated an African name and persona even tho she slipped up today stating she is from the windrush generation. Last time I looked they came front the Carribbean. Moreover she represents an entirely racist "charity"

[@angelamarynicz7865]

I'm English but was brought up in Canada but came back when I was 18. We had loafs of ex-pat friends from all over Eirope. I married an Englishman with an Irish mum and Polish dad so our kids are a right mixture. Origins and and reasons for emigrating/immigrating has always fascinated me and most people take no offence when asked.

[@paulwally9007]

@Jan Safree Or they make a living out of race-grifting.

[@just_another32]

yes, but she didn't ask that... she was asking where are you from (not what is your ancestry or where are your parents or grandparents from).

[@likeabird809]

@@just_another32 same thing ! Where are you from originally ? That is what the Lady meant.

[@just_another32]

@@likeabird809 Ok... so if you are British born and bred but one of your parents was German... and you were visiting a different city for a special event for example. What would you say if someone asked you where you were from? Germany? That seems nonsensical. You'd only say that if they asked you what your background / lineage is - not where are you from. I bet you a fiver you'd say either here , the UK, or the name of the city you are from. And it's no different when someone asks that to a darker skinned person who is from the UK. At least in my case, I will always reply - here... the UK (or words to that effect) how about you?

[@likeabird809]

@@just_another32 I am French born in Algeria from a father born in Vietnam with Parisian gran'father and Spanish and Italian gran'mothers, married first to an English and then to an Italian. So when someone asks me where I am from which happens quite often living in Italy, follows a very pleasant conversation: the purpose of the question !

[@clivejames5058]

Lady Susan Hussey is over 80 and has served The Queen faithfully for 60+ years. Honestly, all this woke nonsense is ridiculous. I'm a white Englishman living overseas and because of my accent, I'm always being asked where I'm from. Even those who recognise I'm English, still want to know exactly where from. I like it. It gives us a point of reference and opens up a conversation. Can these over-sensitive woke people just give it up please.

[@wendyreynolds9969]

Totally agree can't say anything

[@freyastanton]

As one age with experience of encountering tens of thousands of sensitive and insensitive visitors, I would accept a person's first answer in good faith, with grace and elegance. Descartes: I am thinking, therefore I exist (as the person who I say I am). My curiosity would have been to listen to the person's personal achievement as a common ground without risk.

[@lynnevenables7193]

Yes but like you said, you’re an English man, living abroad. She isn’t living abroad and didn’t have an accent. And if like you said, she’s been living a privileged life for 60 years around the head colonisers, one might think she’d have been trained in these areas but it seems that no effort as been awarded to this area.

[@ruddo1970]

Well, while offense is not often given or meant in social situations, its always taken. The 'offended' person has always made a choice to take offense. Unfortunately there is value in being offended these days so no surprise people are making that choice. The media is always there to fan the flames as well so there's always that...

[@nevsart5884]

I’ve traveled the world, like quite a few people, I have been asked several times my country of origin, mainly due to my accent, I’ve never felt offended.

[@svaughan3851]

But she wasn't 'traveling the world' - she was in her home country... that's the whole point.

[@judithcressey1682]

@@svaughan3851 No, it wasn't the point.

[@svaughan3851]

@@judithcressey1682 Let me try to make sense of that... She's an English woman telling another English woman that she's English and this all happened in England. This comment above is about travelling the world and being asked your origins because you're not in your home country. So, what point was it making and how does it relate to the charity gala story exactly?

[@patriciahoskins9514]

When I me this particular young lady, I asked her where her family originated from. Seemed quite a normal question to me. Not in the least offended she told me and the happy ending is ,we are really close friends. I would imagine that Lady Hussey, meant to ask the same question but did not word it correctly. It is a fact that older people cannot always remember words they really want to use. Drives me up the wall that so many people want to make mountains out of molehills now, especially when it concerns race. As for Prince William have always really liked him but you can go off people. That Lady has resigned now and that should be enough punishment for everyone.

[@Neveryoumind-o1o]

She is a fraud tho

[@wildcampingharry]

No reason for her to be punished at all though.

[@anthonylemkendorf3114]

@@wildcampingharry that was my exact response. The fact that she was is a shame on the RF for not defending her and many loyal years of service.

[@paulwally9007]

The chances are ENORMOUS that Hussey meant no offence, and offence was taken because the charity worker views EVERYTHING through the lens of victimhood.

[@isobelbradley8318]

Totally agree with you

[@albionmyl7735]

I have been in Sussex and Kent in August..... I am German and literally every english person I met.... "Oh you are German... so we are very similar we are both Anglo-Saxons..... I met very nice and polite people I love England and it's culture.... please preserve your wonderful England..

[@idrinkcoffeeandknowthings]

Right says the white person because black people are not already marginalised

[@svaughan3851]

I think you're missing the point. This woman isn't a German person living in England, she's an English person living in her home country. When she explained that she was English, the reply wasn't 'so we are very similar', the reply was: 'no, where are you REALLY from?'. I don't see that your story is in any way comparable, or even relevant.

[@albionmyl7735]

@@svaughan3851 I know that.... thank you...

[@svaughan3851]

@@albionmyl7735 So, if you know that, how is your comment in any way relevant? This woman is very much part of the 'English culture' that you claim to love.

[@liahurst8575]

I'm from abroad and I don't take offence when people ask me where I originally am from. You ask any European, North/South/Central American, Australian etc etc where they are from, they won't take offence. I find it's only a certain ethnicity that seems to take offence.

[@kenhickford6581]

I think all of us are from 'Broads', ...... Unless you are a 'Post-Modernist! Lol!

[@adammorris7434]

You don't have to be the ethnicity on the receiving end to take offence. I am white British and I take offence at this situation.

[@Trevorjesuischarlie]

@@adammorris7434 What do you mean?

[@adammorris7434]

@@Trevorjesuischarlie I mean that I am not a person of colour but I still found the situation to be offensive.

[@liahurst8575]

@@adammorris7434 Why would you take offence? I don't understand why you would?

[@charlotte_plays1236]

You sum matters up perfectly and a little sadly when you say we are now all 'walking on eggshells'. What a state of affairs. Love the channel.

[@Happyheretic2308]

For her godson to refer to Lady Hussey as “that individual” reflects very badly on him (William).

[@markhenry192]

I think you are being too polite. That woman was/is no more than a nasty race baiter who saw an opportunity to play the victim. She new what she was doing and I suspect was not offended and likely was hoping to provoke a reaction by wearing her ethnic attire and even changing her name from a western name to an African one. Struck me as a nasty bit of work. My heart goes out to that poor elderly woman who gave her life to the service of our late Queen and country. Shameful affair.

[@delphinium5555]

I'm sure there would have been no malicious intent on the woman's part but as an 82 year old maybe it would have been a more sensible decision that she had been retired upon the death of the Queen. This poor woman has apparently devoted some sixty years of service to the Royal Household, I read that fifty of those would have been unpaid with no employment contract. Feeling devastated for her at such a great age to have to be going through this huge stress. Just very sad. I know nothing of the events of the day but only what has been published in the press.

[@Joan.Sandmoor]

And we're only hearing one version of the conversation.

[@barbaramatthews9562]

As usual the press and tv are making the most of it! It’s easy for someone in their eighties to get confused and say the wrong thing! Shame on the woman accusing her of racism and making a big thing about it.

[@ruthbashford3176]

The public have been told just one side and I find the transcript of the conversation quite bizarre as no-one was filming or recording the conversation.

[@christinequennell5855]

Yes and who trusts the press they are the problem along with this women from wherever she is

[@LouiseL7740]

At what age is one allowed to be racist? Do you get a card and a badge at say, 65, 75 yrs of age that gives you permission to be one? This woman clearly believes that unless you are white, dress in proper British clothes and look the part...you are NOT considered really British. Even if you were born in Britain. I highly doubt she would have ever walked up to any caucasion woman dressed in 'the right clothes' and asked her the same question....

[@mfr58]

The problem the English have, is that as you demonstrate, we are too polite. If someone looks and sounds like they could be foreign, what's the problem with asking. I notice the woman in question referred to her culture when being interviewed and she wasn't talking about English culture. We need to stop encouraging people to be offended and be less worried if they are, so long as we remain generally respectful.

[@Neveryoumind-o1o]

She is a professional victim and race baiter

[@colinharbinson8284]

Outdoors loving Kent.......then why did she use a false name??

[@theclumsyprepper]

I couldn't agree more. I'm a Pole living in Ireland and have no problem with people asking me where am I from. They usually assume I'm either English, Finish or South African because of my accent.

[@geoffdundee]

@@theclumsyprepper ..........when i used to visit the states americans used to think i was polish....blonde,blue eyed scotsman here LOL.

[@theclumsyprepper]

@@geoffdundee good one.

[@kirstenabootorabi852]

I am Scandinavian and often asked where my accent comes from...I never mind..do the same to others...always interesting...everyone has a story

[@frasegfunk9790]

Absolutely fantastic channel Richard! New subscriber here, Keep up the good work and truth as it should be told, thank you

[@RichardVobes]

Thank you so much. Very kind!

[@mariaridler1831]

I’ve just found you too, loving it thank you 🙏

[@paulstanley518]

Much Ado about nothing,but it'll be headlines for weeks,I'm from Brighton, england and proud

[@roblloyd1879]

She was dressed in ethnic costume, what does she expect. Me! I'm English/Welsh border folk but a recent DNA test shows me as 40% Welsh, 40% English and 20% Scandinavian. Guess some of my distant ancestors come over in the longships, lol. Many years ago I worked for an international communications company. We were a mixed bunch of many ethnicities but we were all work colleagues just doing a job. Didn't have a 'purple people eater' in the group but such is life. Only geriatrics will get that joke. Then came along a request to be a diversity coach amongst my many other duties. This is where the whole thing was taken over by the black members of our community in the greater world, NOT, I hasten to add in my organisation. Only a minor part of diversity was about ethnicity, the major part was how we dealt with people, and recognising the limits according to the individual. Some love banter while others dislike it immensely for example. I must admit I hadn't given it much of a thought to it until I undertook the training and started coaching. What seems to have happened is some black people with a hidden agenda took over the whole thing and it all became about race and, in my view, their culture of failure. Now they want reparations, I despair! The problem seems to me more about culture than ethnicity. Certain groups in society are aspirational while others carry a large chip on their shoulder. Many in the black community seem to have taken this to the extreme, blaming white people for their own failures and lack of work and learning ethic. Why do we rarely here of problems with other culture except, perhaps Pakistani Islam. I think the problem is exacerbated by the English 'hair shirt' guilt mentality. In the world of 'Woke' every problem in the world is the fault of the British. Personally past experience has now actually made me racist. If I go to live in another country I would respect their culture and values, surely that is why you move there. Unfortunately, those who come to Britain seem to want to impose their culture on us.

[@SecretGardener9736]

Oh very well said. I despair at what has happened here in the last few years. It's all about colour now where it generally wasnt 50 years ago. But I do wonder why so many non whites want to come here if they dislike us so much.

[@fiv3passion968]

@@SecretGardener9736 Colonialism, duh 🙄. Like they say what goes around comes around. 🤭

[@freyastanton]

You are over thinking with extraneous material to the heart of the matter. In brief, a person's good standing should always take a person's of "I am thinking, therefore, I exist (as what I say I am)". A person, with grace and elegance, should respect a visitor's first answer in good faith. Lady Hussey did not, in spite of her vast experience in diplomacy. Moreover, each person has a thin private space, one should not reach out with one's hand onto a stranger's body part (hair). One has grace and self-respect in using one's hand on a stranger/visitor.

[@candlewax5234]

On holiday that's the first question you ask people as they've come from everywhere. It's a conversation starter.

[@Catmad65]

I absolutely love watching you two, I’m so glad I discovered you on the off chance . Fabulous and quintessentially English . You make me smile 😊

[@Marcus-ec1qk]

I've lived in Asia for over 20 years, with half of that in Japan. "Where are you from" is always, without fail, the first question I get asked in every single social interaction (bar doing my shopping in the supermarket, but sometimes even then). I've been asked that question literally thousands of times. Should I take offence? Of course not.

[@dee74raz]

I come from a mother’s womb. That’s where I come from 😂😅

[@PibrochPonder]

The Japanese are super racist. They literally have zero diversity so they must be extremely racist

[@_dude..]

@@PibrochPonder not sure if that is sarcasm or if you're genuinely mentally ill.

[@freyastanton]

I thought the substance was, "I am who I say I am", but, this was not accepted in good faith 7 to 9 times. Where on one time, her hair was brushed aside to reveal her name tag. A person of good standing should always respect, a stranger in good faith and not intrude in the thin air space of this stranger. Lady Hussey did not do this.

[@sandranorth0009]

I wonder if as a longstanding lady in waiting to our late Queen that Lady Hussey is very well travelled and as such she may have asked because she may have had something interesting to share or ask about the woman in question's country of origin had she admitted to one?

[@delphinium5555]

This!

[@geoffdundee]

Sandra North .....lady hussey may have very well known the jamacian charity worker had no african background despite changing her name to an african one and dressing like an african...............she probably didnt know names of any towns of villages in africa so was about to be caught out if lady hussey asked what village in africa LOL.

[@sandranorth0009]

@@geoffdundee I find it all terribly sad that tbh 😞

[@geoffdundee]

@@sandranorth0009 ......yeah its sad....they all have a big chip on their shoulder and are race baiters or looking for compy for their false allegations..........one thing for sure is she,ll never be invited back to the palace unless its to clean the back stairs.

[@sandman8920]

My grandma would have done exactly the same! She once asked my sister in-law how heavy she was (big lass) and thought nothing about it.

[@merlejoyce8318]

The media make it worse. There was no need for lady Hussey to resign

[@amarus8966]

Spot on again, Richard. I have a different accent to English folk and I kid you not, I get asked on a regular basis 'Where are you from' I take it as a sign that people find me interesting enough to want to know more. People see and hear exactly how they see the world, racism, ageism, sexism - it's getting hard to say anything without offending someone. Don't misunderstand me, Racism does exist, as does sexism and ageism but I like to think that is not as rife as some people make out. I think the British people are a tolerant lot. My children are bi-racial so I do understand what it is like for people of colour in this country and it's never been an issue with my family. I brought them up to embrace their heritage - it just makes them very interesting people.

[@francesmorgancline2821]

I’m an Irish woman living in the US, I get asked all the time if I’m from Britain or Australia lol. People are curious and that’s fine. Can we all just breathe and be a little kinder.

[@albionmyl7735]

You are Irish... so everybody will recognize that... because the Irish are the most warmhearting people on this planet... ❤️🇩🇪

[@thisandthat849]

Maybe, like you said, the word "heritage" is a better question. I am a white man, living in the States, but was born in Canada and my heritage is half Norwegian and the other half is an equal split with England and Scotland. Sometimes, people can pick up on a slight Canadian accent when I talk long enough. It is always interesting to know where people originally come from and so maybe we need to come up with a different question to make it clear you are asking about that.

[@radicalcartoons2766]

No, anyone wanting to take offence will still take offence.

[@ruthbashford3176]

I think 'Ngozi Fulani' knew exactly what Lady Hussey meant but she was looking for an opportunity to play the race card.

[@thisandthat849]

@@ruthbashford3176 Unfortunately, often that can be the case.

[@thisandthat849]

@@radicalcartoons2766 Unfortunately that is probably true! Too many people now choose to take offense and enjoy it thinking it makes them virtuous.

[@josephineholme82]

I worked with an African woman once. Not much conversation, so I said "where do you live" "WHY DO YOU WANT TO KNOW?" was the answer. End of conversation!

[@SecretGardener9736]

I think the person who was dressed in British? traditional costume had an agenda and saw the opportunity to make trouble. She could have answered the question straight away and just kept the conversation to herself.

[@dee74raz]

She should have said I come from a woman’s womb 😂

[@roystonvehicles9129]

Lady hussey quite correctly asked her where her people were from, especially being dressed like that, now in one fell swoop she's succeed in bringing down a pillar of our establishment, surely not planned?

[@notsohairybiker]

There is no easy way to say what I need to say due to wokeness. I would get arrested and banned from the internet. An Englishman and proud of it.

[@paulineroff9617]

The Lady I don’t think she said anything wrong

[@yamatodamashii1179]

Teaching in Japan, I was constantly asked where I was from. It’s easy enough to just answer the question. And on a similar topic, anytime we had foreign exchange students at the school, visiting, the children were always excited to get their guests into a kimono or yukatta. These people that get offended are the type that would be upset if an elderly person asked for help getting stuff off the top shelf at the grocery store.

[@junosaxon4370]

Merry Christmas Richard! The various sorts of tea looks nice. So, where are you from? My actual ancestors came from Hastings, Sussex. I am trying to get back there, I find Sussex a very historical and beautiful place. Matt Monro also sang 'And You Smiled' (to the theme tune from the TV Series Van Der Valk, a very catchy tune). Your video had a very Christmassy feel to it, very nice. I hope you will have a very nice Christmas. Take care.

[@angelsone-five7912]

I know lots of people who wear pyjamas and nightdresses with a little hat and claim to be British. But when holidaying in the country of origin they always talk of "going home" - and I wish they would.

[@caz12345]

There is definitely a difference between taking an interest in someone's heritage and being rude. I wasn't there either, so I can't comment on that situation, but I agree with you Richard, I think we've gone backwards for some reason...?! Tea looks like good quality, I'm so pleased! Maybe if only one teabag though, you could make it in the pot? 😊 How were the biscuits? Thanks for another very interesting and fun Made in England 🏴󠁧󠁢󠁥󠁮󠁧󠁿

[@Neveryoumind-o1o]

It has also been brought to light that Marlene is mates with me-again's photographer. What a strange ol' coincidence that is

[@layaclode6363]

I didn’t know that! Join the dots …

[@geoffpantopownall8210]

Richard! I am curious how the lady remembered the whole conversation, word for word ! Word for word ! Was she making a secret recording in some way ? If you look at the transcript, it makes you wonder!!

[@carolradloff1725]

I agree with you. What a sorry state this country is in now.xx

[@anthonylemkendorf3114]

I ask everyone this question in California and have always received a positive response. Most people have a positive enough attitude about their heritage.

[@jillfarley520]

The woman was dressed like an African envoy would dress if they wanted to show pride in their origins. So what was she trying to prove? Why be insulted when an old woman asked what country she was from? In my opinion this woman is deliberately causing an unnecessary stink.

[@exbritishforcespatriotscha7723]

Nugosi Fulani is Swahili and means buisness type,this is not her real name.Her parents came from the Carriebean in in the 50s..

[@dee74raz]

Her ancestors would have come from west Africa and certainly not from the Swahili heartland

[@Happyheretic2308]

@@dee74raz so in any event, Marlene is lying through her teeth. What a surprise.

[@just_another32]

Hi Richard. You are so right about how we were (or were becoming) colourblind, but now there has been a big step backwards. I hope you'll continue to share your rational thoughts on this issue. I thought I'd share my view about the "where are you from" thing, since you asked what others thought. I also think it is fine for someone to be curious and ask about someone's heritage. But that isn't the same as saying "where are you from?" (which implies that the person is not from here when actually they are). I remember feeling like crying as a kid when some adult who should know better asked me that, as if it was not bleeding obvious (by my accent etc) that I was from the same place they were from. Now that I'm an adult and have a thicker skin it is still irritating at best. If you want to know why I am brown or what my ancestry is then why not just ask that? What's with "where are you from" as if I've emigrated here and have a home somewhere else. I haven't and I don't. If you asked an American where they are from, the answer would be America, not Denmark, Germany, Africa, etc (their ethnic origin). If you kept saying yes but where are you from and where are you REALLY from, it would just be strange and offensive - as if you were trying to imply that they are not really American but from another country. I am British and Britain is where I am from and all I've ever known. If you want to know my racial background, why not ask that instead? I'd happily tell you - I am 50% English and 50% Zambian - my dad is Zambian. Having said all that, I do not like the way that this incident is being weaponised by those who who want to divide us. That is a dangerous nonsense. I'd rather be offended ocasionally than lose free speech and live in the racially divided world some people seem determined to re-create. Just another point of view!

[@_dude..]

Most Americans do in fact identify and state their ethnic heritage and say they are from English/Welsh/Scottish/Irish/German or wherever, it's pretty common and most often they will reveal their heritage without even being asked. I don't know why anyone would be insulted by this question tbh; if I was in Japan and someone asked me where is was from I'd just tell them my heritage, even if I was born there. No big deal.

[@just_another32]

@@_dude.. But the question where are you from means where are you from. So if you are from GB, you say GB. Unless you infer that they are asking you where one or both of your parents are from (or even further back). Anyway, I think understanding why some people (and not others) find the question offensive requires a bit of perspective taking / empathy. If you were born in Japan and all you'd known was Japan and someone at an event asked you where were you from - you might answer honestly with the name of the place you are from (eg. Tokyo).

[@IngramCars]

I embrace diversity of all kinds, even my partner is from the Philippines. But the problem with mass migration is all those that have moved for a better life, seem to bring their bad habits that they perhaps were escaping from with them, so standards change. For example English humour seems to have has gone, replaced by feeling insulted, but at the same time respect also seems scarce. I suppose it doesn't matter but I heard recently that white English people are now a minority in London, Manchester and Birmingham.

[@KatarzynaJo]

I am Polish living in Ireland and very proud who I am. Always very happy to say where I am from. From beautiful Krakow. And my husband is black and very anty woke. There.

[@RolloTomassifan]

The whole debacle was contrived.

[@seanjamescameron]

I should get one of those glass cups with “The gardeners first cup of tea of the day” written on it. 😂

[@SecretGardener9736]

Yes but make sure it's microwavable, my tea always goes cold when I am gardening.

[@gavinstirling7088]

Are these all the answers to your internet banking security questions Richard? 8) I'm Scottish but I still love you and your wonderful content. I love anyone in this world, no matter where they are from or what they look like with the "exception" of people who knowingly and deliberately hurt others.

[@andycapp9063]

I'm a new subscriber to your channel. Absolutely loved the content, entertaining and informative. Although I, like you , agree that the important people to listen too are the retired

[@jhankri]

When I was growing up in a multi national and cultural environment, i often asked people, yes even white people, especially if they had an accent different than mine, where their people were from, not out of racism or bigotry but simply out of interest and the conversations that ensued were a way of learning about different cultures. I would have to say that the race card is born of insecurity and is a convenient way of playing victim at every turn in an attempt to manipulate every situation. I am a 70 year old white woman who has endured many inappropriate comments or questions (by current standards of wokeness) from blacks in the US, but I just ignore them lest I have to hear how only whites and all whites are racist. And we all know that is BS. The lady was only trying to clarify her question and was baited by the offended party to keep trying to clarify what she meant. I dont believe she meant to offend. Shame on Prince William for his insensitive handling of the situation and publicly vilifying a long time loyal staff member. Let's all stop speaking to anyone but our own kind and of course we'll be called racist and accused of segregation. No middle ground any more.

[@themediaman100]

These days it seems that Cornflakes have been scattered all around and you have to go about your business without making a crunching noise. If someone has a US accent I think it's fair to ask where they are from. It's showing an interest, and I might be familliar with that city in the US. Common ground for conversation. I was once in Alice Springs and there was a construction site with the site foreman shouting instuctions in an accent very familliar to me. I went and asked where he was from and it turned out he used to live about a mile from me in the UK. He had not returned to the UK in 40 years but was clearly delighted to chat about the places we both knew.

[@skylongskylong1982]

I am waiting for the tape recorder conversation to appear in a U.K . Newspapers. The conversation information was so detailed it must have been taped.

[@MisAnnThorpe]

Unless the protagonists in this affair had well rehearsed their lines.

[@pm1104]

All taken out of hand because she asked where the lady originated from……….! 😂

[@stasiabotwright]

And the member of the household did not like Hackney as an answer… that’s the issue!

[@izzyplant8428]

The lady who was offended was looking for cause to be offended. Offence is a choice. Clearly a new woke rule is don't ask anyone where they come from. Even the next cencus is avoiding this question, fear of causing offence is wide spread. Lovely to see the English flag lifted

[@michaelgurd7477]

There are also a lot of people out there who have been offended on the 'victims' behalf.

[@pamelabartlett6352]

I agree with you. Why couldn't she have just said yes I was born here but my grandparents t were originally from the Caribbean. After all. Isn't she proud of her heritage? Its all a bit ridiculous. Too many people are easy to offer t these days. I'm proud of my heritage from my Scottish Fatner even though I was born in Engla d

[@roverboat2503]

She was pretending to be African so it would have been difficult for her to explain that her parents are from the Caribbean.

[@jonathanedwardgibson]

What a lovely discovery you’ve made and right to plant your flag.

[@parasinthephilippines]

I moved to the UK with my parents from Eire in 1976. At the age of 11 Joined the British Army at 16. With a name J Murphy I never hide my background. That said. I dont dress like a leprechaun when I go out FFS.

[@stephencoleman2414]

I agree it kills conversation and curiosity dead

[@lorrainenoneofyourbusiness]

I live in France and get asked this all the time, no big deal! My son was born in France ditto. If I went to a party dressed as a North American Indian, and had a name associated with that part of the world, I would be culturally appropriating another culture, same as the woman in the row. She is Caribbean NOT African

[@roberthollands7863]

Recently found you.Loved your show Keep 'em coming.

[@JohnnyPeacock1959]

The MSM didn't take into account the Lady's age when they accused her of causing such offence.

[@matrixwakeup]

She's British, but gives herself an African name and dresses in African clothes. Isn't that cultural appropriation? Shouldn't she step down from the charity?

[@garyweaver957]

Interesting topic. I'm from Texas. Family came over from England for religious freedom once my 14 grandfather got out of jail for not attending the Kings church. Somewhere along the way my ancestors married into two Native American tribes. Caddo and Cherokee on my Mothers side. On my Dads side they married into the Apache tribe three generations ago. One part of my family has literally been here all along, and the other nearly 200+ years. I used to travel for work. All over the USA. 26 different states at 2 or 3 times as many oil refineries. I was asked a lot where I was from? My accent was kind of a hodgepodge. I was even accused of being a yankee by some Oklahoman. That's an insult for a Southerner. I came up with a novel way to deal with the question. When they asked I would tell them "Right back over there. You didn't see me walk up? Are trying to keep up with me? I'm going over there next. Don't follow me. " then I would mutter under my breath but audibly "Stalker"....this always got eveyone who heard it laughing. Broke the ice. Then I'd answer them in detail.

[@alastairmcmurray4873]

As a country, we seem to have got ourselves all in a tizzy about taking offence. I’ve spent years working in Africa, the Middle East and all over. People are always asking where I am from and why I am their country, I expect it as I’m white with light hair and blue eyes, people are inquiring, it’s normal. My family has been in Britain since time immemorial, the history of Britain is my history, I think if you are confident in your identity you are not easily offended. Let’s be honest, we know when someone is trying to offend us and when they are just interested or making conversation. Having said all that I do know someone who takes offence at everything, I consider that her problem, not the world around her!

[@anthonyconte400]

Alaistair You are dead right!!

[@richardwebb9532]

My family has lived in South Africa for 200 years. We are still English.

[@georgecowdry3545]

I think Susan Hussey's questions were probably poorly constructed, however Ms Fulani's responses appeared to me to be from a person who was unfortunately determined to be offended but never mind as the majority population of some UK cities are no longer white British we too will be able to play the race card and be treated equal.

[@Asilis23]

So william and charles got rid of the late queens old friend and lady in waiting to keep their popularity

[@leviercosmicwind]

I would imagine most Royal gatherings are packed full of crashingly awkward conversations, where people simply don't know what to say and the Royals try and make the best of it to make everybody relax, and no doubt fail on occasion. It is a sign of personal benevolence to accept these situations and forgive on both sides. I'm sure no malice was meant.

[@steveroperfilms]

Matt Monroe Was a bus conductor and lived in West Ealing W13.

[@VivaVictory]

Whenever I've been asked where I come from, here or overseas, I have always taken it as a polite enquiry rather than something to make a fuss about.

[@renatetebbel6954]

Thanks! 21:31 ❤😂…and where do I come from? Lower Saxony, Germany, my husband came from Michigan, our children were born in Australia ( Oz) and I now live in Southwest Germany across the border from France- Strasbourg just 20 mins away- I have been asked many times where I come from - it was a good way to strike up a conversation-( especially since I was thought to come from Ireland! I liked that idea…)

[@jayneblowey2024]

Really enjoyed this you made me laugh, my Dad was a bus driver told me Matt Monro was too🤤 by the way it was Virginia McKenna i saw her in The King & I at London Palladium 1985ish with Yul Bryner it was fabulous. Thank you for making me laugh and i love your singing🍻🇬🇧🍻

[@josephinemitchell9504]

I can not deny it I am from my mothers womb.

[@geoffas]

We're all made from stars ;-)

[@AmmyNoUzume]

I’m English but lived in NY for years, I often get asked where I’m from, interestingly most often from African or Caribbean people, namely medical staff or colleagues. Roles reversed, I don’t think most white people feel comfortable asking someone’s origin. This is an elderly, royal staff member who has contributed throughout her life! This woman Ngozi flouts her heritage, supports BLM (defund the police, pure anarchy!) and runs a black women only charity (I suppose Asians, Hispanics and Whites can find their own group!). Now we’re to think that the invited question constitutes racism. Well, back at you lady! Some might call the above black supremacy! Her detailed account was supposedly caught on a wire too, convenient. Perhaps she should not be flouting a culture and heritage that she doesn’t seem to actually know much about. The royals might want to rethink inviting those with racial preferences to their events - and I do mean ANY preferences.

[@albionmyl7735]

Consider to come back to England....

[@maxineblick2002]

In a couple of hundred years when everyone is a light tan, that question Won’t be asked.

[@kenhickford6581]

Ahhh! .....'Pan Europa'?

[@keithcollins6216]

Brilliant.

[@Rob-wg2cy]

Just because your Born in this country doesn't make you British. No matter what colour you are . those people under the age of 60 are to young to understand Britishnes, it's culture and values. It wasn't taught when they were going to school, if you were to ask any one under 60 if they are culturally British they wouldn't understand the question and if you were to ask them what are your values if you're culturally British , they would look at you with a blank look on their face . we really do Liv in a Nation of culturall and political Philistines.

[@AngloSaxon1]

Im from London, and according to the latest census, where only 36% of the population is English.

[@_dude..]

...something happened in the 90's Can't think what it was that sent us down this slippery slope 🤔

[@NotMarkKnopfler]

The black lady in question was simply looking for an excuse to be offended and scream 'racism'. There's nothing wrong with enquiring about a persons _ethnicity_ , which is what Lady Hussey was actually doing. She was simply interested. But no, the black lady had to play the racism card.

[@lesleycouch6557]

Well said again Richard. I think Lady Susan Hussey was taking a genuine interest. It's not (or shouldn't be) offensive to ask where someone is from - at least not in the context of polite interest, which I'm sure this was, although of course I wasn't a witness to the conversation. The actress was Virginia McKenna.

[@MisAnnThorpe]

I wonder if Lady Hussey ever asked the queen where she was really from and if so whether or not the queen answered honestly?

[@shereenlawford3220]

One word sums up todays food production convenience, we like it in wrappers ready to go, I work in a supermarket and if you dare suggest making it from scratch the look you get is unbelievable

[@RichardVobes]

That is amazing

[@barbaramatthews9562]

Enjoyed what you had to say Richard and I think you have a lovely singing voice! 😃

[@paulwally9007]

If you don't want to be asked where you come from, don't come from anywhere.

[@lisaclark6134]

I absolutely love to know where people are from. Never is it meant to be offensive. I find it hugely conversational. I love to discuss the cuisine, or perhaps I too have been there and can share thoughts or experiences. People really need to try being less offended by so many things. Not everyone is a racist.

[@angusmacmillan5365]

I understand the woman was in foreign dress so it was quite understandable Lady Hussey would ask where she came from. Some people think it was a set-up as I believe her charity is funded in part by Black Lives Matter.

[@annatanneberger1]

My grandfather would have loved this. He fought in the Boer war and hated the English, who invaded our country each time some precious mineral was discovered (diamonds, gold). After we were finally conquered, my grandfather refused ever to stand up for "God Save the King" My grandfather signed up half-heartedly to serve with a rag-tag band of farmers, whose only real concern was to get back to the farm in time to bring in the harvest. Then Lord Kitchener decided he could end this war quickly, with scorched-earth policy and be home by Christmas. Burnt down the farms and rounded the women and children up in concentration camps. Big mistake. Then the Boers had nothing to go home to. Nothing to lose but their lives. And fought to the bitter end. I'm sure my grandfather is looking down from heaven laughing at the English king bowing and scraping to people in foreign fancy dress, leopard print and shells.

[@christinequennell5855]

It's funny how she dressed up in that outfit says she was from here but also changed her name to an African one yet calls this 83 year old racist I think it's the other way round as she was named Marlian si she's not proud to be British so she's the racist

[@edwilliams5912]

I often ask people where are they from and i do not mean anything by it. Maybe this Lady in waiting was a genuine nice person and inquisitive type. This all sounds like a bit over the top. We should just treat each other with respect and not have to be worried about walking on egg shells. The world has clearly gone mad. As usual Great video Richard. Thank you

[@robbeales5516]

Well she was dressed like a tossed salad , very British 😂😂😂

[@karlchapman7754]

They woman is a joke, she's pretending to be some one she isn't, she changed her name to an African one, She is British by birth, yet identified as African yet her parents were or are Caribbean, if you read her bio she is just out to cause trouble her parents names are/were Mildred and Gladstone Headley , However she has now achieved her 5mins of fame to top the whole story off shes called Marlene headley from wilmslow

[@layaclode6363]

Well said. I was just about to post a similar comment. I think part of her defensiveness is because she knows she’s fake, as in, not authentically of recent Nigerian heritage.😊

[@karlchapman7754]

@@layaclode6363 hi shes certainly whipped up a storm, evan on question time last night, what makes me choke is the fact ,"they" all go along with it

[@layaclode6363]

@@karlchapman7754 Yes, it sucks. Big time!

[@maverick6461]

Reminds me of a TV advert in 1970's I think, a beautiful slim girl, (the model, Lorraine Chase) with flowing hair is on a tropical beach, a handsome, clearly wealthy guy sees her, like love at first sight. He sidles up and says to her, in an upper class accent, 'Ah! You are so beautiful, you must have been wafted here from paradise'. She looks surprised and replies, 'Nah, Luton airport!' in a common London accent 😂

[@kenhickford6581]

I wonder if all this kerfuffle would have occurred if our great Queen had been alive? Perchance someone wanted to settle an unknown score with the Lady in Waiting? As engineered incident? Someone once said, I forget who or whom: - 'Revenge is a dish best served cold'!

[@flossypark3169]

Playing the race card for 5 min of fame! If I were to be in a foreign country and someone ask me the same question, I wouldn’t be offended. I suspect the lady who asked what she thought was a simple question, probably didn’t phrase in a way, that the offended the lady felt acceptable. I might ask a similar question without being racist because I find it fascinating to learn about other countries straight from the horses mouth, so to speak! If everyone is scared to speak in case we hurt someone’s feelings, then we will live in silent world. I think it’s ridiculous that everyone is brainwashed into believing that if you misunderstand something someone sad, then it was a race or hate crime! Meanwhile grooming gangs can swan around preying on white girls without fear of getting court, at least not straight away.

[@traceymurphy3469]

Great one Richard! I'm from Hampshire too as we're my Parents. Glad Julia & You enjoyed the Advent 'T'. Have heard of Matt Monroe. Have you heard of Nat Gonella? 🇬🇧