🔥NOBODY gets this right! Here's the bottom line on the Psychopath Stare.🔥

[@Angela-po9oh]

You nailed the psychopath! I met the most amazing man, he was kind humorous, always wanted to help others . Met in June married in October that year. Had 3 kids and I lived in a nightmare that I couldn’t get out of for many years. Leaving him almost cost me my life. He is now in prison for murder and I am happily married to a wonderful man. I survived a psychopath. Here’s the kicker. I had a gut feeling that I ignored bc everything was soooo wonderful at that time…. Never ignore your gut. If you need help getting out of a relationship, seek help from an organization like the YWCA or an advocacy center. Your friends and family may not be able to support you the way you need bc that can’t see past the illusion that has been created.

[@Echo_1174]

Sometimes we read a comment that helps many. Yours is one! So happy you're happy! 😊

[@Tammi_cherie]

Your comment sounded like the exact same thing I went through. Only he never got caught for all the horrible things he did. I honestly believe I would have passed had I not gotten away. He finally let me leave after close to ten years because I caught him on video. I also ignored my gut instincts and my body paid for this. I was getting sick a lot and would gag when he was close. My body was physically rejecting him and I would smell rotting flesh coming from him. It’s interesting how even though you ignore your gut, your body continues to try and warn you.

[@fionaewen6231]

Glad you re ok

[@QueenOfMarsReactsToEarth]

@@lachousalle31😂 Your comment honestly hit my funny bone! It is clear that you have never been ensnared by a Psychopath, who’s someone who displays the traits of ASPD, Anti Social Personality Disorder and NPD, Narcissistic Personality Disorder. You’re most fortunate…

[@margaretprenger7657]

@@Angela-po9oh Chad Daybell’s children sound like that. It makes me feel like they didn’t believe what they were saying. Creepy

[@FrolickingWithChelsea]

Scott, your calm and low voice reminds me of Bob Ross! “Now let’s paint a happy little psychopath” 😂

[@heatherwoods528]

😂😂

[@TheHoneyDARE]

Lol! So funny. I love Scott…. Now i love him even more

[@nolitedesbastardescarborun51]

Bob Ross. Thats it. Thats so true. Just without the hair. Brilliant 😂😂

[@BEAUTYnIQ]

@FrolickingWithChelsea is that the painting guy with the richard simmons hair..? whats with him that ppl talk abt him so much..

[@KrazyKatLadyx2]

@@FrolickingWithChelsea 😂

[@jacquelinejacobson6789]

Was married to a psychopath 4 horrible years. Constant lying and stealing, even from me. Got worse when I had a baby. He never ever even once held the baby, let alone change a diaper. The week before I fled the marital home I had a repetitive nightly nightmare of him going into the nursery and smothering the baby. After 7 nights of this, I left the next morning with just the baby and diaper bag and filed for divorce. During the divorce proceedings, I found out that he had taken out a large life insurance policy on the baby

[@ThriveCollective1188]

😮

[@ChristiColonel]

OMG

[@cmc7507]

Thank God for giving you those dreams and you took them as the warning they were!

[@curiousone6129]

Your instincts were telling you he was literally dangerous.

[@CynthiaBishop-tl4ib]

@jacquelinejacobson6789 I'm sorry friend.Its probably better he didn't touch baby.Its an evil spiritual disease with those hands. I'd be concerned about the baby.Get and stay well!!

[@jennodine]

I was married to my ex for almost 20 years before I started realizing he’s a psychopath. At first it was just the question - could he be? My therapist at the time told me it was impossible because they’re so rare - even after I told her about him setting fire to his bedroom accidentally as a teenager when he was trying to make a bomb. 🙄 So a huge part of the problem is that most people - and even plenty of mental health professionals- don’t know how to identify psychopaths. Science has only studied incarcerated psychopaths, so we know next to nothing about them in the wild. Another huge part of the problem is that NOBODY believed me. I asked for help everywhere, but because he didn’t physically beat on me, there was no help to be found. And he had everyone we knew fooled, even my own mother refused to accept it. I quickly realized that using the word “psychopath” to describe him was counterproductive - it only made people suspicious of me and my motives. It made me look like I was trying to smear him, when the opposite was true. He had already cut off my access to money, so I couldn’t buy help either. I was truly trapped. And terrified. When I finally made a run for it and fled to a shelter, they tried to turn me away at first because I wasn’t covered in bruises, so they didn’t believe I was in imminent danger. I was prepared for this because I was so used to not being believed at this point. I asked them to do a lethality risk assessment on my situation. My relationship scored an 8/10. They let me stay. After I fled, he tried to find me. I knew he would. I also knew he worked with a lot of undocumented immigrants - people who would be disinclined to turn him in for asking around about a murder-for-hire. So I stayed in hiding after I left. Sure enough, he hired some Bloods to find and kill me. I have no idea if they looked for me at all, but I do know that his little plan blew up in his face because the gang took over his life and turned our home into a brothel. 18 months after I fled, his parents and siblings flew in from out of state to rescue him from the mess he had made. They packed him up and moved him to Florida. Happiest day of my life. I lived with him for 1/4 a century. He kept me in a state of confusion for most of it. I could write a book from everything I learned about successful psychopaths. We take people at face value. We shouldn’t.

[@UrDominioN]

@@jennodine, I’m sorry for the suffering you went through. Sounds like a book is a great idea! So glad you are living more as you deserve.Much love

[@jennodine]

@@UrDominioN thank you. Unfortunately, we have children together. They’re grown now, but it’s a forever tie to him. I learned yesterday that he has now destroyed his brother’s marriage of 25 years. His trail of destruction and broken people extends from CT to Florida. Experts claim psychopaths mellow out over time, but my experience is that they just get better at manipulating and getting over on people. 😞

[@BEAUTYnIQ]

@jennodine a teenaged boy setting fire to his bedroom trying to "make a bomb" doesnt make him a psychopath.. the other stuff is iffy and sounds trite and rehearsed..

[@BEAUTYnIQ]

@@jennodine🧢

[@jennodine]

@@BEAUTYnIQ no, accidentally setting fire to his bedroom doesn’t make him a psychopath. Trying to make a bomb doesn’t make him one either, although that’s what we call a red flag. Running out of the house without warning his other family members who were home at the time that the house was on fire is another. I can’t fit 25 years of behavior in a couple of KZbin comments. But your comment highlights my point exactly: nobody believed me that I was in danger and needed help.

[@chantellevictoria8277]

These videos feel like I’m talking to a good friend with great stories. Thank you Scott!

[@ScottRouse]

Excellent. I’m so glad you feel that way.

[@godsstruggler8783]

I told a girl at work that there was an apparent outbreak of bedbugs at my block of flats. When I explained that something had bitten me numerous times in my sleep a few nights previously, she jokingly jumped back and carried on walking. Within a couple of minutes she started flinching and scratching, even swatting herself. I thought she was still joking but she wasn't - the concern for herself was very real and she was genuine when asking me to keep my distance. As for the psycho stare, I've seen it faked for intimidatory reasons (contrary clusters at play) but also seen that exact same stare employed by both adults and children who are NOT psychopaths. Rather, I knew them to be diagnosed autists oblivious to how their staring was antisocial. Then there's demonic spirits, but that's beyond the scope of this video. For anybody who knows what I'm talking about, it's that harsh and deep hatred full of blackness and devoid of any light. That entity or entities wants both you and their host utterly destroyed. I'd wager that there's many an undiagnosed overlap between such spirits and certain psychopaths - particularly the sadistic kind that commit unspeakable horrors.

[@mileysong1117]

@@godsstruggler8783 this is something that's always been yet society can't believe it...thus it holds more power

[@ginnyjollykidd]

A friend and I were talking about her ex of long ago who did drugs, and she said something like he seemed to be taken over to some degree. We came to the conclusion that though most people seem, for lack of a better term, opaque-maybe more appropriately whole or full-her ex seemed perforated.

[@kellyl1457]

YES, DEMONIC POSSESSION IS REAL! The solid black eyes are one indication. Another is a literal red flame in the eyes. I told a friend that I had witnessed the red flame in a person's eyes. He said he had witnessed it also in a girlfriend's eyes when she went into a fit of rage.

[@zacharyb2723]

​@@kellyl1457wtf no demons are not real omg grow up. I can't believe adults actually believe this. Omg their eyes were weird! Must be a demon! Newsflash, humans express extreme emotions and weird behavior.

[@FigaroHey]

In dogs, yawning isn't boredom or sleepiness, it's a stress response. Dogs will yawn, for example, if the owner is using words, long sentences, to chew the dog out for some behavior. The dog knows the human is upset, but has no idea why, and the dog yawns because its stressed and has no idea how it's supposed to react. Yawns relieve stress and can tell other members of the pack, "Something's off, but I don't know what." Makes a kind of sense that psychopaths won't yawn like normal people, to relieve stress.

[@pillow4casestudies]

I dont believe it. my dog yawns when hes sleepy. Also other mammals yawn. So other mammals are sleepy but dogs are stressed out? Nah

[@Manicprogressive1]

My dog yawns when she gets excited and something fun is going to happen like a walk or food. So I suppose that’s heightened awareness but really stress.

[@IT-zx5jc]

@FigaroHey a horse will sometimes yawn to release stress, too. But most often, it's a good sign, a sign of release if a horse yawns close to you. A horse can also yawn to signal for ex to her foal, "it's safe you may precede" I have experienced that when I ask a mare for permission to approach. Foals are very curious by nature and will look but not go closer until mommy yawns or starts eating grass or some other relaxing signal, only recently I had that experience in a herd of 59 horses. 2 mares yawned after I had asked politely to approach and slmost in the same seconds. 5 foals ran towards me. I was encircled by them it was so cute and such an honor.

[@906-p6i]

@@FigaroHey Laced?

[@Jaeger2086]

Im autistic and we are the opposite of Psychopaths. I get joults of pain when I see someone injuried as it happens. My empathy is really strong, but I cant identify it. Im happy im a good person

[@stevenpace892]

@@Jaeger2086 correct ASD doesn't mean I don't have empathy, but our empathy is different. Each individual with ASD is different, but there is a strong tendency for us to have usual empathy patterns; really good at one type of empathy and very poor at another.

[@allshades7991]

Actually autism and psychopathy are not very different from each other , just an over active brain and over stressed brain of autism is the difference , both conditions share a lot of similarities.

[@cosmicmuffin322]

Being autistic does not make you a good person and it definitely doesn't mean you necessarily have more empathy than non-autistic people.

[@wolfe6220]

Even with psychopathy, their feelings of empathy are on a spectrum, just like everyone on this planet. I may feel empathy more than Bob, but less than Susan. 99% of people who have the brain structure typical to what you see in psychopaths, live pretty normal lives: school, jobs, marriage. It's when you add trauma/abuse, typically as a child and usually from family members, that things go haywire.

[@Jaeger2086]

@@wolfe6220 some times. There's been so me who grew up in stable homes before too but I agree

[@Zer0ne-Infinite]

I've actually been very scared at points in my life fully believing that I am faking my life and that I am actually a psycopath. This video has shown me how stupid those fears are. Sure I might not have been the best person all of my life but the descriptions you give is so completely alien that I think I can finally have more peace with my inner demons. Thank God for empathy

[@kellyl1457]

Date someone a minimum of ONE YEAR before even considering marriage. You need to spend a lot of time with a person and observe them in many situations to be certain you know the real person.

[@howareyou857]

And even then. I was married for 17 years my ex husband had many affairs and I didn't know

[@JanetSmith900]

I dated my ex husband for 6 years before we got married and 24 years later I divorced him. I had a bad feeling when we were dating in high school and throughout the marriage and ignored myself. I'm a shell of myself but trying to find myself again.

[@soulstr3ss]

I had an ex husband that I've awoken from sleep some nights and he'd be in the corner of the room staring at me, sometimes eating a snack, like chips, and just staring at me without blinking. When I made eye contact he kept staring.. so I just turned around and gave him my back praying I would make it through the night alive. I didn't stay too long in that marriage, it wasn't just red flags, it was a full on war. 7 years later and that stare is still burned into my mind and makes me sick to my stomach.

[@Mfer0077]

My god! Am I the only one who read this all the way through? This is terrifying! That brought chills all over my arms truly a horror film for sure.

[@chynnhowe]

That’s chilling 😭😳😰🫣

[@heatherwoods528]

Scott’s comedic timing is *chef’s kiss* 😘. “Tried to put a Volkswagen in my pocket… 😐”

[@ruthgallagher1168]

Btw my father was a psychopath. Scored higher than Hitler on the psychopathy test. Charmed my mother for awhile but in the end he was about him. They did marry in 6 months. Then she found out his past was a complete lie. He was emotionally abusive and a gaslighter. Learning about the pathology helped me understand my childhood.

[@buckwheatINtheCity]

The psychopathic stare is essentially the look of a cat eyeing a bird in a cage. The psychopath appears calm but his eyes are bright, alert and do not squint. There is also a subdued demeanor even though the mind is anticipating a reward accompanied by victimhood.

[@ceeveekaye]

Oh my God! Scott that's what happened to me! I met my husband and it felt like fate. The love bombing went on for two years but the day I found out I was pregnant, he changed so drastically and so quickly it was scary. I mean, on a dime. We started arguing, then fighting, but nobody believed me because I'd talked him up all that time. Also, he'd be spitting max at me, but would cook a meal and serve me in bed and bring my drinks. It was so spooky. I started drinking too much, I started getting sick, I was so anemic I couldn't function. It went on for years and I thought I was going crazy because I couldn't believe I was someone who could fall for that. I'd always thought of myself as a strong-willed person, but being trapped with him made me feel weak. Everybody thought I was crazy. And he told everybody I was crazy. He knew I was done long before he finally left. He'd berate me and say the most vile things to me, right in front of my kids. But he'd never hit me. So one night he bought some high-dollar weed. I took it from him and when he asked for it, I just said no. I hate it when you get high anyway because you act so goofy it's embarrassing. He went into a rage. He threatened to hit me and I said do it! Do it so I'll have the assault charge I need to get you out of here. Then he threatened to destroy everything in the house. I said that's communicating threats- 4 months in prison, I've checked. Please be my guest. He stood here staring at me for over an hour while I watched Netflix and ignored him. By the way, that's a hell of a long time for someone to stand over you staring at you. It was eerie. He finally went to bed. The next day I called the police station and talked to an officer who said file a complaint now. Even if you don't press charges you've got two years to do it. I filed the report, emailed him a copy at his job and said get out by this weekend or I'll press charges and I'll include everything you've ever done in my statement to the court. So anyway that was last November, I started feeling so much better, I just took my kids on our first real vacation, just us, with them not having to worry about an argument breaking out. It was amazing. Anybody who feels like they're stuck and have dug themselves in a hole pretending their partner is awesome when they're anything but, just buck up, be honest with yourself and everyone else. If there's someone who doesn't believe you when you finally say hey, this has been abusive and I'm getting out, you weren't going to have their support anyway. Find the people who have your back. Life is short. Cram as much life into every single minute of every single day, keep doing that, and don't look back. That's my advice for what it's worth:) ❤

[@ScottRouse]

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[@mercyr6105]

@@ceeveekaye oh girl you got out easy!! They do hate being ignored..but I wouldn't suggest that working with all of them!!..*.edit* to say I sympathize...don't misunderstand me....but not every type of psychopath / narcissist/ sociopath will stand down when being challenged! I'm glad you stood firm but mostly that he was disarmed....depending on the personality you're dealing with this could get someone killed! We are stronger than we know and MUCH stronger than they want us to believe! There is always a way out and it's never easy! I really should have said he let you get out easy in comparison but I'm not making light of what you went through AT ALL!

[@ceeveekaye]

@@mercyr6105 It was easy by the time I just had nothing to lose. It wasn't even living at that point. It was hell for a long time. I'm just grateful to be out of it. I took plenty of abuse before I got to the point that I was desperate enough to risk doing what I did in the hopes of getting him away from me.

[@normac9931]

❤❤❤I'm so sorry you went thru all that. But I am happy you came out on the other side❤ thank you for the advice, I truly needed to hear that today. 😊

[@Eugen963]

Why did you have more than one kid with such person?

[@glenngebhard1575]

scott, you don't do enough of these and they are never long enough. i wish i could watch tbp and you every day. i love all y'all. if i had to choose between going out and having some hattie b's hot chicken or staying at home watching you or tbp, i would starve, but i would be happy.

[@ScottRouse]

❤️🙂👍

[@glenngebhard1575]

@@ScottRouse 🥰🍗🔥

[@AshtynJadeProduction]

“Quit DOIN’ that. It’s WEIRD.” 13:48 😂

[@midwestkatie4]

Scott needs to get that on some tshirts.

[@AshtynJadeProduction]

@@midwestkatie4 I’d buy it!

[@elis3607]

I imagined that someone was behind Scott pretending to be his arms, and I can't unsee it 🤣

[@latitude1904]

OMG now I can't unsee it. - like the vids of dogs eating with spoons. Hilarious

[@3ForestAnimals]

his guardian angel?

[@karyn1813]

That’s so true. 😂😂😂

[@kenstewart7700]

I stare blankly like this all the time and I’m pretty sure I’m not a psychopath or a sociopath I’m simply introverted and tired

[@ScottRouse]

Totally normal.

[@marpal4764]

When my grandson was born, he yawned as I was holding him, my daughter and I yawned also. I looked up at my son in law and he didn’t. I remember thinking it was weird. He turned out to be incredibly disordered and put my daughter and family through hell.

[@SwanSong1234]

My friend was 12 yrs. Old. I was 11 Yrs. old. We were riding our bikes around our neighborhood. It was a warm evening. My friend was a head of me. A VW bug was coming up behind me. It was a light yellowish color. It went by me. It stopped my friend for a minute. Then she rode off a little ways up the road. The bug still sat, where it stopped in the road, waiting for me. I was going to pass it when the man said something to me. He wasn't speaking, so I could hear him. I stopped he said something I couldn't quite hear him. I was still on my bike. I said what ? I was about 2 ft. from his passenger door, the window was rolled down all the way. He repeated something . I thought he was asking for directions. I had never seen him before. He was grimy, dirty, unsaved. He didn't have a shirt on. I noticed there wasn't a passenger seat or back seat. When I looked up at him, our eyes locked. He had the most leering, twisted grin. His eyes looked black. His eyes had the look of a wild animal Stalking & wanting to toy with his prey. I had seen the look before. I know he wanted me to get closer, to lean into his car. But I wouldn't. His final words, he said them aloud for me to hear Him this time . He looked down at his lap. As I started to look down, he looked up and said, "Look WHAT I GOT FOR YOU! He was completely naked. He had his hand around his erect penis. I looked him in the eyes and rolled mine, discusted. He was laughing as he continued to masterbate. My friend was still watching me and smiling. Then she rode off. I rode my bike in front of his VW , and I took a chance. He would sit there till he was done with his task. My road to home was that left turn. I was close to my house. I flew home. My mom wasn't home. My Dad was in his office.. I locked myself in the house till my mom came home about an hour later. I felt & knew I had just escaped the Devil in a man body in a light yellowish VW Bug! I know he was just playing with us 2 girls that evening. It would not make sense for him to try & take 2 girls on bikes. He was sitting naked between rows of houses in a VWBug. He was a hunted serial killer that night. I lived in Pensacola Fl. That night on the news , I saw the mans face staring back at me. He was Ted Bundy. He was arrested in Pensacola, Fl. I told my mother what happened. She only sed , I heard they were looking for him . I wasn't surprised at my mother's reply. The strangest thing was, I felt betrayed that evening by my friend. We never talked about the encounter with Ted Bundy in his VW. Bug. I never trusted that girl again. She proved she wasn't a friend. Stay safe.Peace🕊

[@hippopotamus6765]

@@SwanSong1234 amazing story, well done on following your instincts. I've learned there are all kinds out there making up our species.

[@tinamercer3473]

@@SwanSong1234 wow what an incredible experience! I’m sure that changed you, one way or another. It’d be unusual if it didn’t. My sister was almost kidnapped on her way home from school in the late 80s. He pulled up next to her and asked her if she wanted to see his puppies. Before she knew it he was out of the car and yanking her in. He had a grip on her backpack and was pulling her into the car… she was able to get the backpack off of her back and slip away. She was young so she could run fast, faster than him. He peeled off not to be seen again. There were articles in the paper about it. And this was all happening around the time the Steven Staynor movie came out so it was definitely eye opening. These sort of interactions were becoming more mainstream. Sending lots of 🩷🩷

[@ScottRouse]

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[@coochalena2616]

People respond to trauma in different ways. Your friend may have frozen and not known what to do or say?

[@SwanSong1234]

@@tinamercer3473 I'm glad your sister got away safely.💜 I wonder why some of us get away.🕊️

[@sharonbland9061]

Always, listen to what your gut feeling is telling you. As its normally spot on, if something feels off, its normaaly is.

[@ccpperrett7522]

I think it's called the gift of fear. My husband has the gift of suspicion. He learned early on in life that the world is not safe. I have a tendency to be too trusting. I'm learning tho.

[@GirlfromMaine]

I’ll be watching! Thank you for teaching regular people like me.

[@brynsohappy9190]

Timestamp 17:30 for the description of a psychopathic stare.

[@elixyveth]

Thank you 😊

[@marrop2760]

thanks!

[@grovermartin6874]

Hmm. This psychopathic stare discussion reminds me of something. My ex was never bothered at all when the dog would look longingly, pathetically, while we were eating. I also noticed that my ex apparently was oblivious to any looks, much less stares from anybody, anytime. I chalked it up to the autism. But your explanation about the amygdala makes sense.

[@Lion-rf8xi]

Well as someone with autism I have held a look too long and been accused of being a psycho. Usually by a psycho or narcissistic bully lol.

[@carolallison9685]

On the bright side, if you fall in love with a psychopath or a narcissist, at least you know you must be an amazing person. Imagine if they are copying you, but you can't stand them.

[@janwilliams3058]

As a bartender for 17 years I definitely learned to accurately read body language with precision!

[@nicolem889]

Same as a girl who has gone to bars for 17 years 😂

[@jentaylorwarren9095]

Psychopaths don’t see to feel shame either. They behave inappropriately around people and you would think they would be humiliated to be around those people again but they have no problem palling up to them like nothing ever happened. Zero empathy. Red flag 🚩.

[@stevemcmillan2213]

I think you are confusing narcissists with psychopaths. Autistics also fit your description. Psychopaths are different animals and they are not inappropriate. A lack of empathy can be caused by all sorts of neurodevelopmental disorders. The two traits you mention sounds like they are on the autistic spectrum. Not all autistics behave like this but they do struggle with empathy and shame. A psychopath would mask their condition to look like they are great people and you would likely never realise. They manipulate people's perceptions of them, and being appropriate and showing an obvious lack of empathy would not fit with that. They are more likely to try to charm you.

[@TheWatcherx3]

@stevemcmillan2213 ok Steve, I would like your opinion on this: I knew someone that told me they harmed animals when they were young, couldn't hold a serious conversation for very long & when they tried, it seemed to piss them off, lied about a lot of things, if not everything, told me they were sexually attracted to their own mother, has multiple profiles on multiple platforms, later, told me he was gay though before he acted like he was straight, caught him doing some creepy, gay stuff on 1 platform, basically this person was & probably still is all over the place & I've been trying to figure out if he's a narc or psychopath, has DID or a combination of things...! What do you think??? Ask any questions you want! Oh & btw when I first met him, he seemed very nice & sweet, but then I found out later his true colors.

[@brenda0823_]

The only way out if an abusive relationship is to sneak out very carefully!

[@07wrxtr1]

Or do the work and understand why people think they can resolve their past issues by choosing a destructive present day relationship

[@carolsimpson4422]

@@07wrxtr1 that's not a way out, that's just getting understanding about the circumstances. Once you're in, it's dangerous to leave and leaving must be done extremely stealthily.

[@HanChap2]

@@carolsimpson4422 exactly! The risks of harm, when leaving an abusive relationship, are phenomenally higher than staying! Unfortunately, many people who haven't been in this situation, don't understand that do they? 😔 And, like you said, the counseling/understanding is needed once escape has happened. It's of no use whilst in the relationship because it's not going to help protect you from the unhinged mind of the abuser.

[@HanChap2]

@@07wrxtr1 people don't usually "choose" a destructive present day relationship. Most abusers are master manipulators. Look how many murderer's and rapists go undetected because people who know them think they're decent members of the community. An abuser works hard to get their victim where they want them. They don't meet their relationship victim and abuse them from the second they meet or they'd never have anyone hooked into a relationship for them to have their abuse supply met.

[@JumbaFan]

I give plenty of fake smiles working in retail, lol. The number of times I did that in response to a customer saying, "It won't scan? It must be FREE, then! Har har har!". I can't very well say, "I skipped coffee today, and I'd like to chew your face off", so I just smile.

[@ginnyjollykidd]

Here's about idea, say, "no price tag? It's priceless!" My dad had to explain the term " priceless" meant the item had such high value you can't put a price on it. Words are so weird.

[@ginnyjollykidd]

And I also had the plastic smile on when I was a cashier. I got lucky most days because someone would say, "You have such a beautiful smile!" or similar, and I would just melt. And the smile became real. Sometimes "fake it till you make it" comes in handy.

[@JumbaFan]

@@ginnyjollykidd That it does! And people like that do make my day.

[@hadassahrose8295]

Regarding the psychopathic stare. I had a friend who was on the Autism/Aspergers spectrum. He lacked certain social awareness skills. He would bcome hyper interested in a person and stare. This was misinterpreted and on one occasion a woman accused him and caused harm with her fear and gossip. But he was by no means a psychopath. He did not lack empathy, but had difficulty expressing. He had been born in the 1950's when autistics were misunderstood. As an educator in special education for many years, don't you think this should be considered?

[@ddl4374]

EXCELKENT COMMENT.

[@time_2_get_ready]

As someone wisely said once - "Back up slowly and avoid eye contact"

[@pillow4casestudies]

As an asperger, i agree. I stare, mostly with a blank or annoyed face, not on purpose, i am just very interested in most people and their facial expressions. I have had to pull myself away from staring at mean people, tough men, from too long, just in case.

[@shanchan8247]

I think a long time ago a link was found between psychopathy and autism.

[@frct6273]

@@hadassahrose8295 Most humans like Simple labels as they ease the burden of discernment.

[@LishaV81]

I'm dying laughing about the tiktok pointing 😂 it's SO TRUE Thank you for answering my question, Scott! I'm going to go read that study now and I'm very excited for it. 😊

[@IExpectedBSJustNotThisMuchBS]

As an autistic person whose face is almost never animated unless I'm talking or laughing (and I almost never ever use my forehead unless squinting in the sun), I can tell you that you must know the person, have experience with the person that's not just you looking for what you expect, to understand what their faces may or may not mean. I can't tell you the number of times people have told me than they were frightened of me or thought I was judgmental until they got to know me. That's because they were projecting their stuff onto my flat face. I've tried to practice having facial expressions and uttering interjections when others are talking particularly since being on Zoom and I have to laugh at myself. Even when I think I'm nodding or providing non-verbal feedback almost nothing shows up on the screen. I can't tell you how wrong so many neurotypical people are about the faces of people who are autistic. Trying to make faces when I'm not talking takes a huge amount of effort as if my face is not connected to my brain and I have no doubt it does not look natural. (For example, I cannot in any way shape or form fake a smile.) Not only does my face not react when I'm not talking, my face doesn't do what I think it ought to be doing based on how I feel inside, which is joyful much of the time. A smile is a frown, a larger smile is a smirk, a larger smile is a straight slash across my face. I have to be on the verge of laughter to flash what looks like a "real" smile. Oh how I dislike all of this stuff. Not only do people get me wrong (i.e. think I'm sad or depressed or angry when I'm mostly happy and/or joyful). My brain makes little sense of what's going on with other people's faces. One thing I've learned though... most researchers are neurotypical and they're absolutely convinced most communication is non-verbal and tone (probably because most of their subjects rely on nonverbals not because much is not being communicated with words), and yet, I was a very successful mediator because I actually listen to people's words. The changes in how they deliver words. Word choices. Pauses, etc. So much can be learned. I always worked with a neurotypical mediation partner and far too often when they and the parties would think they'd reached an agreement, I was the only one who could tell that they had not. I was the only one to realise there had been a misunderstanding as to what they were agreeing to. When I'd stop the mediation and explain what I was seeing and most importantly hearing, I was never wrong and saved them from making agreements that they'd have quickly defaulted on. Note that how psychopaths use words is noticeably different form people who are not psychopaths. Psychopaths can be good mimics and so they can give all of you neurotypical people all of the non-verbals you want all day long. And when they drop their mask, you believe the excuses they deliver because they reapply the mask. Me? I hear their words. Also as a child I didn't like to look into people's eyes and was forced to do so. It took me until in my 40s to realise that I looked too long and too deeply. Seriously, not everyone is the same. One commenter here says that psychopaths look into people's soul. That's what I was accused of. Then one day it occurred to me that people were telling me that that made them feel uncomfortable, and now I'm back to not being comfortable looking at people's eyes. I'm not sure these sorts of videos are helpful given the comments I read.

[@alienatedd]

i feel this. thank you for saying this. i was always TERRIFIED (growing up non-diagnosed autistic) i would watch so many crime shows and become obsessed with trying to “fix my face” in the mirror. i noticed a lot of the things they clocked as “lying” or “being a bad person” based on microexpressions in the face - that no WONDER i was making people mad all the time. but i didnt understand? because i always cared about others who were struggling… when a lot of the people who judged me never actually cared about others unless they were in the right social group. it is very weird. i also thought “eye contact” was something you had to force yourself to do. i would also stare people in the eyes too long / too intensely when i was giving professional advice in my career or interviewing…. luckily “strong eye contact” is applauded for those things…. look at a friend too long that way and it is “weird”….. god, idk i never really wanted to stare people in the eyes anyways… i only started because i was taught that liars wont look at you in the eye, i was taught i was disrespectful for trying to listen instead of making eye contact. it is all very confusing lmao. i 100% agree with what you say. and i wish more people were intelligent enough to pick up on this…. maybe instead of wrongfully hating autistic people for our faces not being “normal” they can start holding ceos (who are the highest rate of psychopaths) accountable (instead of praising them) for actually being psychopaths. 😭😭😭 because of their ACTIONS and WORDS and how the two align - and obviously other psychopaths too. but i do think it is funny we hold people in high regard CONSTANTLY who are psychopaths

[@honorclarkescatacomb67]

Thank you, Scott, for putting out these videos answering our questions! Not only are you highly skilled, but you've remained humble and self-deprecatory, instead of becoming conceited or arrogant. This is what makes watching YOUR body language, and listening to you describe things so enjoyable. I especially love hearing you talk about and explain psychopaths, sociopaths and narcissists. I love learning new things, and you have a way of explaining things, that not only is easy to understand, it's also very funny. It increases our awareness because the topic is so interesting, but because they can be so dangerous, it's important to know. I know not all of them are, but it's still good to be able to spot them, so we can be more "aware" of them, and keep our guard up around these people. I've met a few of them over the years, but only two that turned out to be very dangerous. This one particular day was the first time I saw the psychopath stare; this was pre-internet/cellphone, so I didn't know what it meant. I just felt it meant death. I was in a small deli to get a couple of gallons of water. I grabbed them, and then I had a creepy feeling of dread. I looked at the checkout line and saw a man, 7th or 8th in line, staring at me. His eyes looked black, like shark eyes. He didn't blink, break eye contact, or make any facial expression. Looking at him was like looking through him; his eyes just bore a hole right through you, and it felt like staring into the bottomless pit. The look seemed to say, "I see that you've identified me, and understand who/what I am. I'm going t have to kill you". This all took about 3 or 4 seconds, but it felt like 10 minutes. My mouth went dry, the chills went up my back and I felt just terror. I took the items in my hand, put them on a table next to me, and started to slowly back up, and I did that until I was out of the store. Thankfully my dad , who was huge, was outside. I said, "We've got to go. I was determined to get my car out of the lot and up the street before this guy left the store. It was one of the scariest things that ever happened to me. My father told me I was right to leave the store, and to always go with my gut (former Navy vet). When I got home and told my husband about it, he thought I was kind of silly to back out of the store that way. Here's where it gets weird. About 3 hours later, we had a knock at the door. It was the Police. They handed me a folded piece of paper, and said, "Due to Meghan's Law they were required to inform every neighbor, that a felon (repeat offender) had just been released from prison (after serving time for violent CSA and R***) and registered in our rural town of a few thousand people. My father and I opened the paper; IT WAS THE SAME GUY !!!!!!!

[@jogrant3851]

Far out!! Bloody hell.

[@teresev1435]

I got goosebumps!

[@ScottRouse]

🫨!!!

[@teresev1435]

@@ScottRouse …women’s intuition… Godzilla size!

[@SassieNewf]

Side note.. Scott you look fantastic. Haven’t seen a video of you in a few months but you look 15 years younger! I even double checked date to see if this was an old video. Now off to continue watching. Then will have to go back to last video I saw with you, as I can’t put my finger on the change but it’s driving me to distraction.

[@ScottRouse]

(I list like 20 pounds. Maybe that’s it.)

[@SassieNewf]

@@ScottRouse Wow! I never thought of you as someone who needed to lose weight,but it clearly did something for you. Way to go! I don't know, your skin seems so clear and smooth yet not artificially so. Did you change your diet completely, or just cut down on quantity? I don't know, just babbling now. Haha

[@windangel7720]

I briefly dated a psychopath and from the first interaction, didn't listen to that little voice that warned me to avoid this guy. There was something 'off', cold, dark and flat in his eyes. I told myself I was just imagining it. He was soooo charming, he knew just what to say to make me feel special and important. I wondered if he was a psychopath, but told myself I had read too many serial killer books. He strung me along for a few months and there were little oddities about his behavior- no emotional reaction where there ought to have been, he had a schedule even for his private life that he would not break or change, and more. Why did I ignore all the damn signs? When he finally broke up with me after convincing me he cared, and trying to convince me that I had misinterpreted him, not that he misrepresented himself, it hurt worse than I expected it to. But I pushed at him demanding to know why. I finally got an answer, after a bunch of platitudes and lame excuses, that made me realize I should never, ever ignore my intuition. He admitted he has no real feelings, but goes through the motions of what is expected of him to be likable. I was in love with his mask, his artificially created persona. 😢 I also found out he allows nobody in his house, even his family. I can't help wondering what he's hiding. He constantly wears a bracelet that belonged to a dead friend, he reminisced about missing this friend, and there was something creepy about the way he mentioned missing how this guy smelled. I still wonder if Mr Psycho has a corpse or two hidden in his attic or basement. It took me a long time to heal my heart from this relationship, more because I didn't trust my intuition.

[@murillorodrigues4122]

ur lying, you would went to the police, come on

[@sharankinakin2790]

Go easy on yourself, now you know better, at least you know now and will avoid people with psychopathy. More importantly, are you needy, when you are needy this attracts them like bees go honey. Also empathic persons are also attractive to them because of the Narcissism. Educate your self on Narcissism because Psychopathy and Narcissism go hand in hand

[@windangel7720]

@@murillorodrigues4122 Don't be stupid, I know the law. He's legally allowed to not allow people in his house and wear whatever jewelry he wants. I didn't see a body or any physical evidence, so there was no reason to call the police. The police aren't interested in creepy feelings, and it's not against the law to be a psychopath. Why would I lie and announce myself as a damn victim if it didn't happen?

[@windangel7720]

@@sharankinakin2790 I am not so much needy as lonely. I hadn't dated anyone in years when this happened. It's so rare for me to find anyone attractive anymore. 🙄

[@VictorianLace]

​@@murillorodrigues4122Police can't do anything off of somebody's intuition.

[@PotatoeJoe69]

I have the psychopath stare... but it's because I have chronic generalized anxiety, manifesting primarily in extreme social anxiety, and I need to turn off part of my brain and transport it to a different land in order to hold a conversation with 99% of the people I talk to. So I guess, like a psychopath, I fake like I am involved and or enjoying the interaction, which leads me to having that stare. I can tell it makes people uncomfortable at times, at which point I can't fake it anymore and have to disengage from the conversation because the anxiety becomes crushing.

[@CrystalShadow]

I too have GAD. I guess I put some people off by just trying to get by around others. Good to know, thank you 🙏 😊

[@itzybitzyspyder]

The stare is because they aren't looking at your face for interaction, they're looking through you.

[@sassygirl5422]

You never tell a Sico that you’re leaving them. That you should mention… because that’s how a lot of women or men get killed by threatening to leave the Sico.

[@dfrey1885]

@@sassygirl5422 *psycho

[@dfrey1885]

*psycho

[@GinaF69]

I met my first husband when i was 17 and he was 18. It was during a church service and he was staring at me so hard that my mom's friend noticed and told me. When I looked he just kept staring. I was so young and naive, grew up in a sheltered, christian home and he was a street person that his family had disowned. After dating for 2 years we got married and right from our honeymoon he changed. He went from so charming and attentive to selfish and angry and abusive. Years later we went to a few psychologists for counseling and they all said he was a sociopath, that he had "dead eyes" and showed no emotions or compassion. He had everyone so charmed though and always managed to make people feel sorry for him. When he would beat me, and eventually tried to kill me with a huge hunting knife, he got this blank stare that made me feel like he wasn't there anymore, that he was a completely different person or even possessed. I barely escaped with my life, mostly for the sake of our kids, but nobody believed me when I tried to tell them what he was really like. I had always protected him and made him out to be a great person but in reality he was a narcissist, pathological liar, sociopath and psychopath. It took me so long to leave him, he had isolated me so much so even my family believed him over me and I didn't even realize he had been painting me as a horrible crazy person behind my back. I didn't even find out until after I left him that he was also a pedophile who had been raping a neighbour girl from the ages of 13 to 19 and he was 26 to 32. He had also molested many others. The police were told by the women who came forward and he charmed them so he was never charged. I have such bad PTSD from that period in my life but I'm glad i not only survived but escaped

[@chadg6874]

@@GinaF69 wow, the amount of absolutely wild things you have had to go through is enough to fill up 10 lifetimes. I can relate to that feeling. There are some things in life that are so evil, we can only get and stay away from them and trust God with it. I hope you're recovering ok. The fact that you are able to talk about it is a great sign!

[@GinaF69]

@chadg6874 thank you. If you only knew the half of all I've gone through you wouldn't believe it. I would love to write a book about my life, just to get my truth told

[@chadg6874]

@@GinaF69 I know the feeling lol but not at all to take away from what you've experienced. It helps to know you're not alone, and that God understands every single tear it has caused you and cares for you (even though it doesn't initially seem that way). I'm still navigating thru the minefield my abuse experience has created but the one things that's changed is I gave it all up to Jesus and trusted in Him with it. We don't get to see all the answers but He guides us thru recovery.. it's the only way I've been able to make any kind of healing progress that way. Glad to hear you're free and God protect you

[@suehowie152]

I'm glad you escaped too..🫂

[@LillianOglethorpe]

@@chadg6874He gives beauty for ashes. May you both radiate that beauty a little more each day in your journeys forward.

[@maureenc1284]

I was in a Dunks in Boston and someone was there with the psychopathic stare (toward me) and a big Irish bloke motioned me toward him to be protective. It was so nice to have someone do that.

[@ScottRouse]

🫨

[@CrystalShadow]

More and more people are aware of these toxic types❤

[@gemmalouiseroby8090]

Love the psychopath advice for relationships! The same goes for narcissists/people with a narcissistic personality, some are downright evil. On a lighter note, I wish we could see your pranks in action, Scott ❤😂

[@faemalone]

I'll share a story about being on holidays in Spain. My husband and I were walking around a market. A man approached me and it was as if everything was in slow motion. I'm a spiritual person and every hair on my head stood on end. My peripheral vision blanked out and I only saw him. He stared me out of it with the most evil look. I honestly felt he could've killed me. After we passed I said to my husband 'I've just met the devil' and he said he knew, he saw his stare too. I saged myself when I got back to the hotel. He was evil personified. True story. Trust your instincts.

[@axiomaddict]

@@faemalone I am wary of “spiritual” women who “know” that someone is “evil”. It’s been my experience that such women have very intense histories.

[@faemalone]

​​@@axiomaddictplease stop trying to belittle my experience. I know what I saw and I know what I felt. My husband sensed it too. In fact more women should trust their instinct not less! You do you and I'll do me. 💁‍♀️

[@pietjeprecies7648]

Terrifying.

[@yungmentalproblems]

Are you sure he wasn't just sub5

[@MotownGal]

"The Mask slips"! Oh, my gosh. my ex and I dated for 10 years and that mask stayed in place (for the most part) and within 1 week of the "I Do's" his mask came off for "the worse". I was like, "who the hell are you?" It took another 10 years to get out of it, and man... as you said, it was ugly. When they crash your life, it's thoroughly destroyed. And in public he plays innocent and calls me the "nefarious" one. holy crap. Explains a lot. It explains his profession, that's for sure!

[@rebeccabay6806]

More women have probably witnessed a man's eyes going black than other men have, most just don't live to tell about it and that's something that men don't consider when dismissing women, women and men have different lived experiences and while women are highly aware of this, men must develop an interest to learn about the differences.

[@sonjiaferguson6867]

@@rebeccabay6806 To see your partners eyes appear black is the most terrifying feeling. I only saw it once. The night I walked out of his life forever. I cannot ever unsee them whenever I happen to think about him.

[@andreacagle208]

I work with attorneys and we have specific ones who do our depositions for a reason. It’s the same with interrogations. These are people with a knack for asking the right things multiple ways in just the right way such as to catch people off guard and get the truth, etc.

[@LDRight]

You’re right on the love bombing. “How did I meet someone so perfect!” He wears the same mask for everyone you love & know, they are convinced he’s the right guy you need to balance you. As a young adult, I wasn’t too keen on static or boredom & HE was a COP! He was everything I wasn’t, he HAD to be a good person! When I decided to leave him (or die slowly,) I knew he’d keep his promise & ruin me. …. And that he did. He told lies & played victim, made me out to be a crazy woman. I can’t say I wasn’t emotionally lost, looking back I have no idea how I did this alone or at all… he was hoping for a self deletion, and maybe some would have. I was Alone because he took everyone from me. Even our daughter, whom he alienated her from me. I don’t even know her. So… pay attention to your instincts, deep deep down, on my wedding night… I knew something was off.. but I it was already too late, I mean I’m in a wedding dress! Hindsight is always 20/20. I’m ok now, took 2 decades to rewire my brain& I still have a tough time leaving my home, but I’m working on that too. This isn’t something you can heal from quickly. Anyways… this is why people don’t leave once they realize whom they married! Stay safe!❤

[@helenaquin1797]

@LDRight I know a fair bit about what you're describing. It was a work colleague, though, that wouldn't take "no" for an answer. I lost my career. He knew so many ppl in the industry (he was married and decades older!), not just at the company. I think he's finally out of my life, but the anger flares up now and again, for some reason.

[@someguy9519]

​@@helenaquin1797Scars tighten every now and then, don't sweat it😊.

[@lindawest4580]

@LdRight: These are Covert Narcissists and are the most dangerous. Whether they're psychopaths, maybe or not. Been there and it does take a lot of work to overcome the psychological trauma that one has endured with such people. Good news is that one can recover from this type of abuse and go on with their life. You'll never forget but the traumatic feelings do subside and the lessons you've learned from such experiences hopefully help you to help others going through similar experiences. These people prey on Empaths (people who actually care about others).

[@kimberlylaszlo8768]

@LDRight I have been thru almost exact situation, cop, lost my daughter, etc,

[@katioconnor5295]

I dated a guy for 2 years, the flags started flying within 3 months .... the dealbreaker was lack of trust (we were both in our early 50s) with the constant need to call 5-8 times a day and indignation if i didn't pickup. He had an abusive childhood and I didn't. Some times you have to walk away for your own salvation.

[@MerryLeafField]

Please be aware that neurodivergent people have different behaviors. For instance, looking away while engaged helps with focus. Looking at you while engaged in conversation is highly uncomfortable and distracting. One person with autism discovered that looking up and to the right allowed them to stop pacing while speaking on the phone.

[@ChelleLlewes]

Up and to the right? I'm going to have to try that! Thanks for the tip. 😘

[@prototype9904]

There is a way for me to NOT pace while talking on the phone ?!?!?! ~ I was just telling a friend the other day, I can't talk anymore because I'm really getting tired hahaha

[@wolfmoon2010]

I was doing the head down, eyes up and my dog did not like it one bit 🤣🤣

[@Echo_1174]

😄 tell us how he reacted?

[@sunnygirl9691]

Yeah that’s super creepy 😧

[@teresev1435]

I did the Vincent D’Onofrio evil look to my sister a few years back-we’re both in our 50s but behave like we’re 20 when we’re together 🤣🤣🤣 She said NEVER do that again! She got freaked out. I didn’t speak to her, but I did the creepy smile. She was not amused

[@wolfmoon2010]

@@Echo_1174 she is a husky, they are already pretty judgy 🤣 she backed up and gave me an tilted head stare and them jumped forward and howled in my face 🤣🤣

[@ulharuzo01]

I was at one point in my life involved with someone that I thought was either a socipath or a psycopath. I noticed a pattern that did not involve staring at, but rather looking away / ignoring / laughing in situations where any normal person would show concern /worry or empathy. In many occasions it would involve a child getting setiously hurt and this person looking away, staring at the empty space, rather than helping out the child. On more than one occasion I entered the room and the child was crying her eyes out, kids and adults around them trying to help out and the person just laughing out loud, completelly out of tune with what was going on and trying to downplay like it was not a big thing. And on another occasion this person was laughing at someone after hearing they had had a miscarriage. Honestly it sent chills to my spine. I planned ahead and left thank God. Always go with your guts. If something irks you to this point do not even attempt to help this person, just leave as soon as you can. It breaks my heart to think how someone can actually be this cold and not care about others AT ALL. 😢

[@mrs8792]

Lack of empathy is frightening. When Covid first came out, I was living in a hot spot and working in a hospital. I went home with Covid and was very I’ll. When My boyfriend called, he was laughing at me fir being very I’ll with it. I was stunned, confused and just couldn’t see the humor in the situation.

[@Grannynan]

Based on your definition of the psychopathic stare, I now realize that my cat is a psychopath. 😂😂😂 Seriously, a great show!

[@MexicoDigDoctor]

I just stumbled across your site, and I'm hooked. I am an anthropologist/archaeologist, but when I was young I was going to join the Los Angeles Sheriff's Department. Human behavior in general fascinates me, as does true crime, so this is right up my alley! I am subscribing right now! 🤗🇲🇽

[@ScottRouse]

Yay! Thanks for hanging out with us! 🙂

[@yootoob1001001]

Q: Does marijuana affect your body language? A, everyone who smokes: No A, everyone who doesn't smoke: YES

[@peterobrien1499]

I’ve noticed that pot smokers wave their arms a lot when they are stoned but only for relatively unaccustomed smokers. I can’t see any relevance to body language but I could be wrong 😑

[@klynzs]

As an artist I stare because something about what I've seen has stimulated my creativity. To know what that looks like find a self-portrait by an artist looking at themself in the mirror. It is quite intense. In my mind I'm in a deep level of focus. I may or may not notice the person looking back at me. I've had people blow up at me and I realize I've made them uncomfortable.

[@gayleodonnell4860]

I get it. Sometimes a composition just has to be framed. It may include at least one human form. 🖼️

[@myunknownland9272]

Wow, when I first met my husband he did that. I thought he liked me or maybe loved me. I married him two years later. Was I wrong!!! 2 children later, divorced and stayed single. How true!

[@treaty8631]

The psychopathic stare is intense and you get a feeling......a feeling of complete emptiness

[@cindysmalling4226]

Man, I love your explanation of meeting a psychopath! You are spot on!!! Fantastic! Scary but great description. Anyone can be taken.

[@TheReal1953]

Guilty or especially if you're innocent, this is EXACTLY why you don't talk to cops/interviewers.....ever. Request an attorney. Cops will twist and or delete interview testimony to make their case. Figure if you're in their sights, they think you're guilty or they want you to be guilty. Cops are usually not the brightest lights on the tree, but you're in their environment and they interview people daily. Don't assume that you're going to outthink them in an interview. They can say you were 'aggressive', 'uncooperative', etc. And it's read in court as evidence.

[@JeeJubee]

My daughter has had schizophrenia since age 17. She’s now 40. All this time she has had the psychopathic stare but she’s never hurt a fly. It’s just one of her symptoms.

[@UrDominioN]

@@JeeJubee Has your daughter ever had a brain scan? If she has problems with her amygdala, that would explain it. Much love

[@thegoodlightllc4093]

@@JeeJubee please look into the work of Harvard Psychiatrist Chris Palmer. His work gives some more paths to consider for families and individuals navigating dealing with schizoaffective disorder or schizophrenia.

[@y2ksurvivor]

Yep. People need to leave room for all sorts of things like traumatic brain injuries before assuming a stark stare must equal psychopathy.

[@eyeamme1917]

Someone I know intimately is a legit psychopath. I don't say that because of the stare, although that occurred too. I say they're a psychopath because he openly acknowledges that he doesn't understand empathy. Like he doesn't even recognize that's not something he should advertise. He can use logic to assume what someone may be experiencing, but even that has limits. He doesn't know what it's like to FEEL sad when someone is sad. He thinks it's hilarious when someone is injured or scared. I'm talking laughing so hard he's crying after witnessing a man hit by a car in front of us. The man was mangled. He used to pretend like he had lost his mind and was trying to strangle me for a laugh. He would keep going until me and my children were sobbing in terror, and then, he'd laugh hysterically. He enjoyed seeing people in pain, too. He was court ordered into therapy, and his therapist immediately noted he had no comprehension of empathy. In my experience, the psychopathic stare was expressionless, but it cut straight through me. It was intimidating because there was no feeling in him. When you make eye contact with someone, there's an instant connection on a basic human level, but when you make eye contact with a psychopath, there's nothing to connect with. It's the void that's scary, not the expression. The psychopath I know is actually very likeable to people who don't know him well. He even fooled a psychiatrist for a while. I was married to him for 20 years. I feel like that experience taught me how to better identify sociopathy in people. Everyone has an instinct when a predator is near, but many women confuse the physical sensation of your instinct with "butterflies." Just start taking note of the connection you can feel when you make eye contact with regular people, even with people you don't get along with. If you get in this habit, you'll immediately notice the lack of connection when you meet eyes with a genuine psychopath. You know how we all have a visceral reaction to AI robots? They have the features of a human but our brains immediately pick up that something is off. It's kinda like that.

[@psychshell4644]

@eyeamme1917 Could he have Anti-social personality disorder? Most people tend to call non-empathetic individuals 'psychopaths', but the pattern of abnormal behavior is much more involved. I am so very sorry for your experience and hope that you and your family are healing.

[@eyeamme1917]

@psychshell4644 I don't know for sure, but it extended well beyond a lack of empathy. He is extremely sadistic and manipulative, and he has no regard for laws or social norms. He follows only what suits him at the time. He's cool as a cucumber when lying, stealing, and doing things that physically or emotionally hurt people, even our children. He has no remorse whatsoever, but he does fake a sort of shame. It comes off like rage and blame for others. He's destructive and can't hold down a job for very long. I guess I always assumed it was psychopathy because he doesn't seem care about fitting into society, but even that confuses me because didn't the dsm do away with the term psychopath? Whatever it is, it's probably the closest thing I've ever seen to evil.

[@eyeamme1917]

@psychshell4644 thank you btw. It's been almost 5 years, and we're all doing much better.

[@X7lilred81]

@@eyeamme1917 Wow, excellent explanation of what many of us have experienced…and really not understood…only felt. As we would say in the 60s “they give me the creeps.” Now I know why a certain person never looked me directly in the eyes. EVER.

[@itnaklipse1669]

this is the first time i think i understand what's really meant by a psychopath. you give some really good pointers, thank you.

[@darksoul479]

I was a fighter years ago. I would never smoke weed the day of the fight even though a lot of Fighters say that they do. As soon as I smoked weed I didn't want to fight anymore I just wanted to go to Taco Bell.

[@ciscowarrior]

😁🤣😂

[@karamlevi]

Sometimes weed, when mixed with exercise and meditation, can bring you to timeless / painless… all in trance. But if I don’t click into that, I totally agree with you!

[@Assimulatorful]

@@karamlevi now I know where the hippies came from...with free sex for all,flowers in the hair,and weeds are everywhere...

[@Mike1614b]

15:05 Scott starts talking about the Psychopath Stare

[@michelemcintyre9749]

Oh my gosh, I laughed so much at your style of humor, I HAD to sub. I'm 66, southern, female, and just lost my malignant narcissist mother who also checked ALOT of psychopathic boxes. Out of 4 of us, I ended up behind caretaker for her and dad. I feel as though I may have ptsd from caring for her. Trying to unfold all the damage now. 🙏

[@Kathy-d2u]

I bet that psychopath as u express yiyr parents to be left u their home

[@Kathy-d2u]

U don't have no room to talk the apple don't fall to far from the tree

[@Kathy-d2u]

The f nerve

[@Kathy-d2u]

I also took care of my parents and I sure wish I had them back all the trouble and all look wat they did for u

[@Kathy-d2u]

Anx I'm sure they had lots of ptsd from u😊

[@sddRd68]

He used words that sound benign out of context. For example, he would put his hand in the drawer where he kept his gun and say (in the sweetest voice, too) “It would sure be sad if someone went to sleep tonight”. When I tried to talk to others who knew us, he would tell them he was just worried about me because I had to work and convince them that I was just paranoid. That’s just one example of an actual event.

[@ScottRouse]

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[@karamlevi]

My murderer father would ask people if they’d like to met Jesus. As in… right now, and flash a gun or some other type of threat. It’s both funny & terrifying. He called it a faith check. He liked Christianity cus it helped hide his behavior, but he also believed he was pure and good.

[@caroh3071]

You grew up with Doc Watson! One of my all times favorites. You are a gift. Thank you!

[@HeidiSue60]

You remind me of my Uncle John. He had a calm voice and always talked about brainy things.

[@got2kittys]

Some psycopaths/sociopaths, probably the majority, are Not anti-social, but are socially adept. They are functional in society, but have few emotions. They are highly represented, drawn to, work in Businesses and Politics.

[@islandgal1187]

Wait, what, Scott? Put a Volkswagen in your pocket?? This is my question for your next video!🤣 I love your videos, so damn fun and informative!!

[@WaknUpDed]

“I tried to put a volkswagon in my pocket…” WTF?!? are we just moving past that?? LMAO 😂 3:20

[@ScottRouse]

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[@906-p6i]

LACED? 😅

[@sunking45]

18:29 is where he talks about the psychopathic stare.

[@seerstone8982]

Thanks

[@UrDominioN]

Try starting at 19:10. Be well

[@nancypiros9133]

Thanks Scott ❣️ Your humorous earthy delivery captures my attention which holds my interest to learn all the more… I would love to have seen the two guys talking really loud to each other 😂😂😂😂😂! What a trouble maker …

[@DominieRobinson]

I Always tell people "LISTEN to your Gut !it Won't lie to you ! When you get a bad vibe from somebody , it's your gut Warning you Danger is present !"

[@Morbid_micko]

I NEED to know about the voltswagon in the pocket story. 😂🙏🏻🙏🏻🙏🏻

[@cjbrown8245]

I’m happy to have found your channel. Have a great weekend

[@ScottRouse]

Hi CJ. I’m glad you found it!

[@cjbrown8245]

@@ScottRouse yes I joined 🛎️ I’m from Arkansas and so is chase. Have a good night

[@TeriHuebert-tq7kf]

I was a tom boy as a kid, all the kids within playing distance were boys, my parents best friends only had boys my age and my daddy didn’t have a son. So I ended up mowing the lawn, cleaning the kennels, helping my dad build our house, things like that. Some of the boys had boxing gloves. Daddy had been a champion golden glove boxer and he taught me to box. I have always been super athletic and even though I was very thin I’ve always carried a lot of muscle. When I was old enough to go clubbing I went with my friends that had grown up with me. One time in a club in our town there was a woman that kept staring at me. Every time I took a breath I’d look up and she was staring at me. It started making me mad and it was approaching the point where things weren’t going to go well for her. I went to the bathroom and while I was gone she approached my friends. It turned out that she was gay and she wanted to know if I was interested. My friends found this whole situation hilarious! Even so, they were smart enough to let her know I wasn’t interested . It has always stayed with me because Im a happy drunk and pretty easy going most of the time but her staring at me made me really mad. That was in the early eighties and in my small town it was kind of unheard of. I just always thought that it was strange that I was so angry just from her staring at me, but I was. So sometimes you can be very wrong about someone’s motives for staring at you, lol! 😂 😅😂😂

[@CeciliaReinheimer]

This is the first time I watched you. I really enjoyed your content. You are very down to earth,relatable and funny. Thank you😊

[@ScottRouse]

Thank you so much Cecilia. 🙂👍

[@emilyflotilla931]

Oops, Replay Crew here. Thanks for chatting with us "smokers" outside of the hotel at CrimeCon Sunday night! It was great to meet you.

[@ScottRouse]

Hi Emily! We had a blast!

[@emilyflotilla931]

@@ScottRouse We did. It was very kind of you to take the time. All the best with your new show! Hope to see you in Denver!

[@nanceb4him]

He knew where to find the fun people! :)

[@Larida101]

You are so easy to listen to. Great voice and content 👍

[@Shria9]

My favourite thing to do in Zoom meetings is to see who follows me. I look for the ones who take drinks of their coffee after me, scratch their noses, sit back or whatever. It's fun and helps keep me more focused on the meeting. I like gamifying boring tasks like Zoom meetings to keep myself engaged and cope with my ADHD. And, yes, I'm also listening to what's being said and making notes when needed. It's just that I've heard some of the information before so I find it hard to stay interested and miss things unless I'm also watching for body language.

[@ImogenC-rt3fm]

Here's a tip from my experience: Socio-psychos will even go into therapy to preserve deniability. Don't buy it. Check out the therapist. More often than not the therapist will have ethics complaints.

[@CrystalShadow]

Like birds of a feather flock together? 🙄Good advice.

[@F21_332]

It is easy to pick up on their energy, too. Microexpression analysis helps, but always trust your gut.

[@Jeanninecomeau]

Psychopathic stare starts at about 16:30

[@lizh1988]

TYVM

[@SoundsBogus]

He finally gets to it at 18:40

[@CTimmerman]

@@SoundsBogus So it's a normal stare except longer. Boring. No wonder he padded the video.

[@SoundsBogus]

@@CTimmerman Nope. The brain disconnects. There's a vacant look, like they're not there for a moment so wouldn't even notice any awkwardness and look away. It's a glitch.

[@AmazingGrace2699]

Im a gardener, and I’m well respected by my customers. When I arrive I take a photo and text it to them. I don’t want any coffee. Im not ringing your bell, I just do what I do. TYPICALLY I listen to music on my earphones - my clients know this and they don’t even TRY to chat with me. If they have something to say they do it before or after work. I WORK. They all know it. Especially when they hear me singing or working or bopping to the music. Ppl know I’m real, and in this profession I am.

[@missmiss5051]

When i figured it out, my ex, when asked about the courtship and such, said "i did that because i thought that's what married people were supposed to do." I got out within 2 years.. was and is very scary person. I got the impression that if i ever saw the mask fully off, it would be the last thing i ever saw. It was the complete void in him that scared me. You would never know if you were just his friend or socially acquainted.

[@CrystalShadow]

So true

[@CGlass-o6f]

YOU'RE WONDERFUL. Thank you for sharing your knowledge.

[@ScottRouse]

Thank you. 🙂👍

[@joanneblack7697]

Scott, I LOVE your channel. To have answers like this in "long form" is really great. Ty!

[@swankyankee]

Great to see you again. Very interesting and informative program. And you look wonderful, rested and healthy. Bravo and keep it up!

[@SpikeLover1863]

I went to an appointment about a month ago and started talking with the guy beside me in the waiting room. When I first made eye contact, I got quite a shock. His eyes were far more wide open than the average person, kind of bugging out. It was enough to ring my alarm bells. Then he told me he had schizophrenia. So it seems that other mental conditions can make someone's eyes seem "off." I'm not judging him because I've had depression for over half of my life. Just wanted to share this example with others. ps: thanks for another great video.

[@lisab5716]

Usually that is a sign of incest.... a deformity is not related to a mental condition... it could go hand and hand with an intellectual disability.

[@cvoern]

It could also be graves disease caused by high levels of thyroid hormone. You might see commercials about thyroid eye disease.

[@heathergerbyshak4078]

Yep. Or severe nearsightedness.

[@ConStan-i5w]

My ex-husband did EXACTLY this 38:07 Finally, with the help of my family, I took my 3 and 4 year old and left. Unfortunately, being a psychopathic narcissist, he couldn't "lose" at his own game and fought for custody of the 2 children he also ignored. The judge ended up giving him 1/2 custody and ruined my 2 kids lives. They are now 24 and 25 years old and having difficulties with life. Their dad is SO happy he still has the psychopathic control to make their lives miserable.

[@brigittebowman9113]

Oh goodness 😳 how awful for you and your children, poor thing.

[@spindriftbeach6082]

My ex wife used to clench her jaw and stare at me with eyes that seemed to go black and it was like nothing I was saying was registering with her. It was the black eyes that freaked me out.

[@ginnyjollykidd]

I think, for those 2, Whatever she asked you to do, that's the last time she'll ask nicely.

[@spindriftbeach6082]

@@ginnyjollykidd I don't understand, she hadn't been asking me to do anything and I divorced her 4 years ago.

[@mayamcknight3874]

I was in a short relationship with someone who I now believe to be a sociopath. I started watching one of your videos Scott after I broke up with him. I have ADHD so all of that dopamine I received in the beginning was intoxicating. But things did not add up. I finally realized he was not a good guy. His mask definitely slipped. I left. Your videos really helped me come to terms with what happened. Now I am dating again, but very cautiously.

[@dr.m.l.s6571]

Fascinating study, when I was a kid we used to go to the zoo on Sundays and make all the animals yawn, we could not make the snakes yawn but almost everyone else did. I love how you remember authors and dates for important studies and give credit where credit is due

[@SpaceCase6valence]

Many people with different types of mental illness often have a blunted affect. Quite often, it comes from circumstances they survived growing up. And people very often judge it too harshly. A person's face does not necessarily reflect their inner mood. But we live in a shallow, stupid society where everyone thinks it's okay to judge someone on "vibes." You don't know what someone survived. You don't know what they lived through that made their face that way. Maybe talk to them. Maybe you'll discover that the person who looks harsh or careworn or taciturn is actually quite pleasant or engaging.

[@eevilauntie]

@@SpaceCase6valence also people with neurodevelopmental disorders. I'm autistic and I have very flat affect in my speech, and I tend to avoid eye contact. Some autistic people maintain too much eye contact instead - it's very hard to gauge what's a good amount of eye contact when it doesn't come naturally. Our unusual/muted body language often makes people uncomfortable and they may think we're unempathetic or untrustworthy, which isn't true. It's more like we have to learn body language as a foreign language and that makes it much harder for us to express ourselves.

[@eleanornelson5810]

I thought the “chin down, eyes up, smile” was the come hither look! 😂😂😂

[@lindasapiecha2515]

@@eleanornelson5810 Oh youve got the wrong chin down eyes up smile 😅👍

[@sandrajordan8387]

That one usually has a tilted head, lol

[@sunnygirl9691]

Actually I’ve seen kids attempt this “wrong” version trying to be cute and charming to get something they want but if you capture it in a picture it’s really freaky.

[@Saraflowerk]

More like possessed problem child. 😂

[@pamigreenway]

I even find myself yawning every time you say "yawn."

[@Echo_1174]

I commented too many times so I didn't want to be rude, but I experienced the same thing! 🤣 😂 Too funny... I just yawned now!

[@noneyabiznazz]

I listened while driving and was thinking "Wow, I never knew Gary Busey was so insightful!" When I arrived and saw who was speaking I was surprised to see your not Gary! You sound spot on!

[@GraoulDuke]

My eldests father was quite definitely abnormal, they way he treats people, his subsequent partners and children, his family and friends. Absolutely no empathy whatsoever. Even when his sister killed her children and committed suicide it did not touch him on any level, no tears or anger, nothing. He couldn't even be bothered going to the funeral and did nothing to support his siblings. He does this thing when someone is confronting him about his behaviour and he just stops moving and stares straight front of him with no expressionsat all, almost like he disassociates, he's stuck like that for some time, long after the other person has given up and walked away, once he starts moving he again he acts like absolutely nothing has happened. What the hell is that? It's totally bizarre.

[@daisyb2637]

There’s someone in our life just like this style of communicating is really unnerving. No emotion or connection- is weird to deal with. The one in our life is a young adult so we will see how he developes but it’s been this way since a young child. Just like his mother, and she is diagnosed B cluster traits - shows dark triad- never is wrong.

[@katherineg9396]

Autism?

[@GraoulDuke]

@katherineg9396 definitely not, I have autism