🔥Answers About the Psychopathic Stare and Other Odd Behaviors.🔥

[@shanelamps6242]

I love when Scott goes on his rants about Psychopaths

[@jwsuicides8095]

Me too!

[@AmeliaInMonTana]

Psychopaths and Hot Chicken! 🔥 🍗

[@loisdiamond3714]

I’m an Empath so I’m fascinated by psychos. It’s like trying to understand the psychology of a malfunctioning human x

[@tracyaf6084]

Same here! It’s so interesting.

[@lisasmith7066]

Me three! 😊

[@SatieSatie]

Non-violent, inconspicuous psychopaths are particularly fascinating to me because there's a good chance that you have one in your social circle and they will never be detected. Maybe you could do an episode on this very topic, Scott? I met a psychopath, who told me that he used to believe that he was just like anyone else, until he sat in a derailing train and felt... absolutely nothing. He calmly watched as everyone was screaming in fear of their lives. Shortly after, he got his diagnosis (there's no official clinical diagnosis for psychopathy, so I assume he got one for antisocial personality disorder).

[@AsAd-gd4hw]

I am one. You might think I’m just saying random things on KZbin comment sections, but I’ll give my opinions on this as I’ve delved deep into researching and you can take it for what it is or ignore. As far as I’m concerned it’s an adaptive evolutionary strategy for a r-selected ecology/fast life history. Psychopaths seem to have the most sex, relationships and children so within stable ecologies it’s obvious why this would be selected for. It also exists in chimpanzees at around the same rate as in humans, so to me this indicates it’s primarily as issue of biology. From a neurobiological perspective, up-regulation of RPL10P9 and ZNF132, and down-regulation of CDH5 and OPRD1 seem to regulate up to 92% of psychopathic symptoms, although this needs further research. 6 gene expressions seem to be responsible, ANKK1, DRD2, DRD4, MAOA, COMT, and 5-HTTLPR. It’s largely an issue of biology, and ‘ASPD’ has a VERY low correlation with psychopathy to the point where lumping the 2 together makes very little sense

[@pamelakimmons9209]

I learn so much from Scott. He has the perfect way to clearly describe the subject. He voice is pleasant and his humor is great.

[@tinaayer801]

I'm autistic and Wonder how many other autistic people watch these videos to understand people better.

[@Nylak-Otter]

I used to before I was diagnosed, actually. My obsession with observing human and animal behavior actually landed me in my career as a behaviorist.

[@ProsewithRose]

Me! I love studying human behavior so much I became a therapist!

[@NotSoNormal1987]

I'm here also trying to understand other people.

[@cherylmockotr]

Great idea! I'm going to recommend this to autistic adults I know. We do this with children, showing them pictures of faces to teach emotions, but these explanations would be much better for adults.

[@Hope-uk6zw]

Me too. I have never understood people or why they do things. My foster family had to explain almost everything to me. I have a great sister who didn't lose patience with me.

[@Jacques_Chirac]

Not a lot of people now this, but Ed Harris stated in several interviews that in order to prepare for his role in The Truman Show, he binge watched Scott Rouse videos on youtube and found him to be a great source of inspiration.

[@ScottRouse]

Lol

[@cheekyrabbit]

The Bob Ross of social behavior. The relaxed tone and cadence are amazing.

[@ScottRouse]

I don’t know why so many people say that! I really don’t. My wife says that too. Weird.

[@Barbara-zo6pq]

😂

[@Leezl41]

@@ScottRouse it's definitely the hair. JK. 🤣 😆.

[@northernshocksouthcoasteng7473]

I’m an empath and I have realised lately that I’ve subconsciously attracted narcissists as a result of living in a family with my mother who was ‘highly strung’. I was terrified of her wrath so I did everything I could just to keep things smooth (obedient to a fault). I had no boundaries. Once you put boundaries in place and you refuse to accept their treatment of you, the narcs drop out of sight. We have to be the ones that say, ‘No!’

[@jacquelinejacobson6789]

I had a narcissist mother. I was a classic narcissist magnet for male narcissists. Codependency is learned coping behavior with a narcissist parent.

[@w1cked001]

You’re not. No one is a special daisy “empath”. You’re either a highly sensitive person or a covert narcissist yourself. If you’re attracting the wrong kind of people, it’s almost certain there’s something majorly wrong with you as well.

[@Luke_MoonWalker]

Your relationship with your parents always dictates how your romantic relationships will play out in your life.

[@jenbradshaw7021]

Would you agree that having self knowledge, KNOWING you are an empath at your core , as you seem certain of….. proclaiming “you must be the one to say no” I’d like to add that it’s your moral responsibility to say “no” to these especially insidious type narcissists …. With outrageous, nonsensical acts Attempting to dominate another persons spirit to serve the narcissistic…..

[@michelej9496]

@@Luke_MoonWalker 🤔

[@MissReneeMichelle]

My father and my ex are narcissists. After having dealt with them my entire life, I can confidently say that they are absolutely NOT fascinating. They are boring and dangerous.

[@dp.2766]

The path of destruction and suffering left by these creatures is deep and wide. Many are scared for life and never recover.

[@KH-rt3ef]

And, above all, pathetic.

[@jamesdeluca6657]

Ya,and simple and predictable

[@jonhutchinson2902]

Very boring and predictable once you really know them.

[@wellyouasked]

If everyone you know is toxic, have you ever considered the possibility that you're the problem, or do you just get angry at that point?

[@isabellflorence4956]

Kind of a funny story about the “uncomfortable stare”. I work with people with disabilities. My co-worker and I went into the home of a single mom with 2 moderately severe autistic boys. We were trying to see what services might help her family. One boy had a fixed stare on my co-worker. I was monitoring that while interviewing mom and the other son. Mom wanted to show me something in another room. As soon as we left the other son punched my co-worker in the arm, really hard. We realized then we shouldn’t be alone with either boy.

[@2LoveMy1Life]

I remember telling my cat she had to be crazy. She blinked at that and began purring. Almost like she was saying: “And you’ll keep loving me anyway!”

[@rhondasisco-cleveland2665]

😂 You’re hilarious!

[@jennifermariejoyce]

Scott, I would love it if you guys would analyze the one and only interview David Miscavige ever did. Ted Koppel scored that one and it’s amazing. There’s nothing quite like the dead eyes of a Scientologist.

[@katharineshade9550]

Great idea! You can see how hard he’s working to try to seem “normal” and control his anger, without beating the interviewer up. Which is his usual way of dealing with it.

[@PrincessofErised]

The best advice I ever heard about not getting abducted was: NEVER willingly go to a secondary location with anyone you do not know. "Hey, come look at my car, come into my house, or follow me... " Because whatever they want to do with you takes privacy. Even if they have a gun, run. It is harder to hit a moving target than you think. Of course, if you are already trapped, then go with your gut.

[@OoLiiMiiT3D]

Yeah I had that kind of Jeffery Dahmer encounter. Just wanted to buy something to smoke, and the guy in the club said he sells stuff, but only at his home. I took a buddy and we drove over there. He had a gun and stuff, even though its illegal in Germany. He smoked with my friend, and my friend was unconscious for 5 minutes from whatever he smoked. I didnt smoke anything and was just ready to fight at all times, but stayed nice. I bought something and I was gone. The guy said he made like so and so much money by selling. Had a weird vibe to him. Either he was into guys, or he was trying something. Seemed totally like a Jeffrey Dahmer.

[@PrincessofErised]

@@OoLiiMiiT3D gotta always trust your gut

[@bohofoto6929]

@@OoLiiMiiT3Dmy son has a classmate (expelled) that sells illegal drugs and guys have reported waking up with their pants down. Stay away.

[@RandomJumble]

lol I have ADHD and I tend to stare into people’s eyes to try to show that I am paying attention but I usually end up focusing on the staring and then forget to listen. If I am looking off to the side or at anything other than you then you can bet that I am ACTUALLY listening to you and not trying so hard to “prove” to you that I am listening. Also, as a kid I heard from many people that if you don’t look someone in the eyes then they will think you are lying and now I worry about that in every conversation and I am 43. EDIT: because ADHD

[@TiphanieBirdingNW]

So relatable😂

[@rosethorns1893]

Truth is that people who stare straight in your eyes are only doing it to prove they’re being honest when, in fact, they’re lying. lol…very likely, they’re the ones that came up with that lie that you have to stare. Truth is that it’s highly unnatural to stare into peoples eyes. Usually , only someone lying does this. Hope that helps and puts you at ease for just being yourself. 👍

[@ebrown7782]

Wow, word for word that is the same thing I go through. I have a hard time looking at people in the eyes when they are talking to me. Back then they called it being very very shy. To remember what they are saying, I have to look away from them. It actually almost physically hurts to keep looking at their eyes. I try and do it because I don’t want them thinking I am lying or have something to hide.

[@SourceAwryT]

@ebrown7782 , thank you both for putting this into words. I don't have ADHD, but I am certainly willing to adapt, for the sake of mutual respect and accommodation. I don't want my conversations to be like torture to the other party. So, thank you again for describing how it goes for you, so I can expand my perspective. Cheers!

[@Liliarthan]

AuDHD here and same! I can’t actually concentrate on what I’m saying if I maintain eye contact. I’m totally comfortable with that now and just do whatever makes me feel comfortable and best function in that situation. I also tell people early in longer conversations that I need to fidget or doodle to help me better focus on what they are saying and it’s because I have ADHD, not because I don’t care.

[@russellhammond371]

I've always had good eye contact, but I have to actively remind myself to look away regularly to avoid making some people feel uncomfortable.

[@NicolaMaxwell]

Scott, my son is 14 tomorrow - He spent last night studying your videos. He was up past bed time watching, said learning from you is easy to understand and you have a great voice. He picked psychology in school, only had 2 classes - learned a bit about psychopaths and came right here to learn in depth from the best and study out with school curriculum box.😄 Thank you so much!⭐ I'm beaming with pride. 😇 Brayden was 12 when he read your book after me and loved it. 🥰 THANK YOU from the bottom of my heart! ❤

[@ThePathOfLeastResistanc]

Reminds me of Mr Roger’s lol

[@NicolaMaxwell]

@@ThePathOfLeastResistanc lol I had to look who that is up. I'm Scottish 🤣😂

[@ScottRouse]

That’s awesome! I’m proud of him too! Thanks for telling me all that. 🙂👍

[@NicolaMaxwell]

@@ScottRouse Aww, he is going to be so grateful for this reply, I appreciate it too.. Can't wait to show him when he is home from school!! God Bless. Thanks Scott. 🙏 🤗⭐

[@catherinecheyne3273]

Can’t wait for this!! So fascinating!! And thank you once again Scott for your time and insights.. all these episodes are just brilliant!! 😊❤️👍

[@ScottRouse]

Thank you. 🙂👍

[@nellabrown6190]

The eye dilation makes sense. How many interviews have I watched where people say the killer's eyes turned black, esp serial killers? Many, enough to be striking.

[@dayinthelifeofmycat]

You touched on one of my pet peeves where I'm still suffering from PTSD. What about the psychopath man who crushes the woman's fingers when he shakes her hand? I've had this happen to me at least a dozen times in my business life. Here is what I finally did: You literally call out, "Ouch!" No kidding... It catches the attention of people around you, and they all look at him. He gets embarrassed and so much for his micro aggression in putting the little woman in her place by smashing her fingers. You see ladies, these men are counting on you to be professional, suck up the pain, and not make a scene. But THIS is how you handle a physical assault of this kind. Good Lord, I've still got issues...

[@loganross1861]

I’ve never heard of this happening, is that a thing?????

[@dayinthelifeofmycat]

@@loganross1861 Yes, that is a thing, or it was a thing, back when people shook hands pre-Covid. It was always a much older male, never somebody younger.

[@amymayrose6210]

​@@dayinthelifeofmycat Ive had the same done to me when i was younger, in my 20s, and my 30s always by older men. They would literally crush your fingers all together, at the same time as smiling at you as they did it. Sometimes giving a determined look or a menacing stare, if they could get away with it. To me i always viewed them as petty, pathetic, and ugly inside and out. To have to stoop so low to hurt a decent hard working young woman so that they could feel better about their short comings always made me laugh. Thank you, going forwards i will make a huge scene 😂 im looking forward to one of these dip shits now!

[@nilgiridreaming]

Another ‘thing’ is hiding car keys then ‘finding’ them so they have ‘saved the day’! Also, one 6 footer stood on my foot , broke my big toe, when he saw me chatting to a couple of men at the launch of an art exhibition. I thought it was accidental and told him to get off my foot but he acted deaf for a couple of minutes. I did not wake up to this dirty deed - just too trusting!

[@WheresWaldo05]

Real men shake hands. If you do not like it, do not shake the hand of a male. Adrian Peterson was NOTORIOUS for hand breaking hand shakes to guess what? Other men. Men in the sports industry like media would constantly talk about it. Yet you don't hear them yelling out "owwwww". Don't enter the work industry overwhelmingly full of men in the infrastructure of our world built by men if you are going to try to do your feminist propoganda in an attempt to get men to stop being men. I am not a woman. I do not plan on giving anyone some femme handshake. This also the way men can distinguish the heirarchy of men within groups of men. So i suggest you quit your job.

[@suzystone244]

Was married to a covert narcissist. Now divorced. Recovering from all of this. This experience speak for itself. How to sever the hold. No contact. Ever❤

[@MustardLadySaveMe]

I first learned about narcissists when I was frantically googling "how to deal with difficult coworker" because I was just STRUGGLING to work with this one individual. I learned the things to 'manipulate' or 'pacify' narcissists and it completely transformed my work environment. I would not describe it as being Able to ~control~ the narcissist, it was just tricks and tips to get them to not view me as a threat or a target so I could live my life peacefully.

[@TriniStarr3527]

OKAYY!! 😃 So I am not the only person to LOVE Scott Rouse's voice! ❤

[@ScottRouse]

I love it too! But even more, I love his handsomeness. And how he’s so much more handsomer than Chase is.

[@TriniStarr3527]

@@ScottRouse Absolutely!! Followed by Greg Hartley! ❤We leave last, ex aequo, Mark Bowden and Hugh Chase.

[@deonaeddy7749]

@@TriniStarr3527 Nope. Me to

[@TriniStarr3527]

@@deonaeddy7749 😆❤

[@OneAmongBillions]

This might sound like an odd remark, but there is something wholly very natural, calm, compelling, and trustworthy about how you speak. Listening to you reminds me somehow of folks prior to the 1970's before life began to speed up. Thanks for helping others with your insights.

[@susanwoodcarver]

The first time I applied what I learned from the behavior panel to a corporate meeting where I KNEW one of my director's lied about a project, I almost fell off my chair when she did ALL of the deceptive behaviors ... IN A ROW ... that you guys tell us about. OMG! All I could do was stare at her. Her behavior confirmed what I knew. IN SPADES! Talk about confirmation! Thanks Scott!

[@ScottRouse]

And now, you’ve seen it in real life and the world will never be the same again. Sounds bad but it’s actually really good. Thanks for letting me know!

[@susanwoodcarver]

@@carolincas Yes! But in the back of my mind I thought maybe I was wrong and she was being truthful. NOPE! Trust our instincts, like Scott always tells us.

[@susanwoodcarver]

@@ScottRouse Oh boy ... you are absolutely correct. But, that first time was like watching a TV program, that only I could see, happening right in the conference room. You probably hear this from everyone, but it was stunning. Thank you, again! You provide insights that will be with, and affect us for our entire lives. And you do it so well! Apologies for the long reply. HUGS!!

[@JiggaDrew-uz4ki]

That's a awesome thing I might have started laughing if I seen it right after learning it but it's nice u can learn and use what ur learning. Keep getting better and more successful

[@susanwoodcarver]

@@JiggaDrew-uz4ki You would think I would start laughing, but I was too stunned to see it play out right in front of me. My brain just kept saying OMG this is just like what the Panel said! And then I didn’t know what to say to her. They don’t teach that part. You just can’t say “I know you’re lying!” Hey @ScottRouse … Question…what do we say after we catch them in a lie?

[@tiffanyapag]

I don’t know if it’s your voice and tone, your disposition in general, but you’re so peaceful and calming to listen to. You’re talking about narcissists, and psycho pathic serial killers, and yet, there is something calming about listening to you.

[@Nikes62]

That mild Tennessee twang that Scout has is pleasing to the ear.

[@Scott0909-j7m]

Nothing worse than being in a workplace where all the bosses are narcissists. You will find the people around them start behaving like them. The problem is I would just get a feeling that this person was a narcissist and then I had to think ahead about everything they would do. So exhausting. You on edge all the time. Eventually I left the place. They loved inflicting punishment on the people lower than them.

[@ariannamartin7230]

I was incarcerated, in federal prison, and had never been in trouble before. I was absolutely terrified. I have green eyes, and my pupils were HUGE. it was scary, because i couldn't see the iris of my eye. I went to the prison doc, bc my mom kept calling and complaining that i looked "like a psychopath" with giant pupils. The prison doc examined me, along with the psychologist...they told me my pupils were dilated because i was in a state of fear. Lol, it worked for me, bc i did look absolutely crazy and creepy. It lasted for a few years of my sentence, and the last bit, they were still BIG but werent dialated to the point where you could only see a small ring of green. It completely went away the day i came home.

[@dubaiedge]

WOW! Glad you're out in one piece, & your eyes went back to normal.

[@sarah.j.777]

My "father" is a psychopath & his eyes look just like Jeffrey Dahmer's. He use to hang cats up by their tails next to each other and watch them attack each other. He also beat me & my sister since we were toddlers, I remember him holding my 2 yr old sister up by one arm & her body flailing in mid air as he hit her. then he threw her in the crib and she curled up in a ball in the far corner, crying inconsolably & hyperventilating. I did my best to say things to try to make her calm. He made me sit on my sister's back so he could do "surgery" on the back on her knee. When she screamed and squirmed he punched her in the back of the head & her forehead hit the floor and she passed out. He gave me several of his prozac for a headache, told me to take it with water and not tell my mother. I didn't take them, I handed them to her & told, she called me a liar. Unless you have a recording device attached to you, people don't believe these things and don't help. These are just a few examples of *many* To say I hate my "parents" is an understatement. My sister is debilitated til this day, acts like a little kid, has emotional meltdowns & panic attacks.

[@sobeidalagrange7129]

🫢🫢🫢😡😡😡

[@MoonLightt57]

I'm sorry to hear that, you have great inner strength I hope you heal 🌸

[@lidyseinen]

Oh dear , I’m sorry you had to experience this . Cruel people do exist . I send you Love and healing

[@mercedesharrison5550]

That is heartbreaking. ❤️🌹

[@AnnaMarianne]

This is so awful and wrong. I hope you find healing, love and happiness in life

[@RiverPaisley]

I like the definition that a psychopath is an “inter-species predator.”

[@SkyandMoon909]

Intra. Very cool description

[@AsAd-gd4hw]

Imo it’s an adaptive evolutionary strategy for a r-selected ecology/fast life history. A successful strategy too as psychopaths have the most sex, relationships and children so it’s obvious why in stable ecologies it would be selected for

[@KH-rt3ef]

@AsAd-gd4hw I doubt it’s an evolutionary asset, I think it’s a developmental disorder like a learning disability or other ailment. They’re merely blind; a feature most have will be disordered in some.

[@VestalNumbre]

@@AsAd-gd4hw How does reading help a psychopath?

[@ND-or5so]

My covert narcissistic husband whom I'm separated from (thank GOD!) And I'm alive. I do think they have psychopathic traits and can easily graduate to be serial killers. Those are my findings. When my husband upset me and I didn't know shit about narcissism and full-blown narcissists that are abusers and the different types of full-blown narcissists. I finally broke down telling him to stop doing what he was doing with the head games and all and as I felt like dying and was so sick physically because my nerves were shot and my chest hurt and I had a sore throat from raising my voice - and I was dying. I will never forget that stare as long as I live. He was in a trance people. A frigging trance. That freaked me out. When I went to my bedroom I couldn't stop thinking about that stare. That trance. That was witnessing a monster in him.

[@blade_warrior_blue]

A lot of people may see me, I'm full of stress, anxiety and trauma, don't like to make eye contact. These narcissists always mistake that for weakness and think they're gonna dominate me. Little do they know I can switch at the drop of a hat. I'm not interested in playing anyone's games, the second I detect any condesencion or belittling tone it's go time. If you can't dominate me physically, don't ever think you can do it mentally because I will humiliate you. Don't ever mistake my trauma for being timid and fearful. I don't care how much people try to shame me for being aggressive, I don't care what anyone thinks about me, I mostly leave people alone but I like to bully the bullies. I love when they underestimate me. I'll make you understand some body language. The first liver shot will tell you exactly who I am.

[@beckythornton6470]

The whole world is not waiting to hurt you. Walking around with a quiet chip on your shoulder doesn't sound fun to me. Laying in wait for the person you identify as a threat to slip up, could be more work than you actually have to do to be safe. I am sorry that whatever happened to you was so intense that you ended up this way. I believe there is some healing out there for you, but it's more important that you try to believe it.

[@martaescobar7625]

@@beckythornton6470 People who have been victims, and are now survivors, aren't looking to hurt other people, just protect themselves.The narcissist/sociopath still see's the co-dependent and will go after you looking for emotional feed......like a vampire. So where is the happy medium? Your not getting a shot at me either...my boundaries are now walls, and I am safe.

[@ukraine7249]

Oh be quiet dad. I’d dominate you like I dominate everything.

[@hfortenberry]

BeckyThornton is right. There are a lot of us good people around but we just tend to keep to ourselves unless our time or investment is warranted (like now). I’m not sure how old you are but eventually you may want more peace in your life and decide to heal. But in the meantime, there’s nothing wrong with coping any way you need to. Much love and hugs to you.

[@kristengottula9337]

@@hfortenberry really nice response 👏

[@brookescott9598]

I was taught that little area below ones nose is called,"God's Kiss." He kissed His fingertip, touched you there, with it and said, "Remember, I love you," before sending you on your way.😘

[@deborahdennis9177]

My grandmother smacked me! Wasn't expecting that. Laughed so hard! You were so serious!

[@LivingLove-lw6kf]

Just had a guy do that to me at walmart today. Could tell after the first time we locked eyes something wasnt right. Then he was following behind everywhere I went. Finally he disappeared, but he had no expression or a smile, just an empty blank stare til he passed. This is the second guy at walmart that gave me the creeps by constantly following and staring. Always stay aware of your surroundings!

[@ScottRouse]

😮

[@wolfe6220]

loss prevention person in plain clothes

[@Little_Sidhe]

​@@wolfe6220The Venn diagram can overlap.

[@AD-eg9cw]

There was a serial rapist in my hometown who exclusively stalked targets in a specific grocery store before following them home and attacking them in their *own* parking lots. He was only caught because of CCTV camera footage. Grocery stores are the PERFECT environment to stalk and select prey while pretending to be looking at the avocados next to them. His name is Oswald Scott Wilder Jr. You should google him. Stay safe ♥️

[@AD-eg9cw]

​@@wolfe6220 No.

[@MargaretHerman-nt9sm]

One big difference between Psychopaths and Narcissists is Psychopaths don't care what people think. Narcissists care deeply.

[@Bruce-ph9nq]

Narcissists suffer from wounded egos and seek emotional validation from people to cope with their low self esteem. No psychopath is ever going to care what people think of him.

[@allinix7]

That is not true. A lot of psychopath wants to have a certain image, be respected by others, etc...

[@Bruce-ph9nq]

@@allinix7 To have a certain image means wearing the mask. The world is made by and for neurotypicals. If you want to live well and have nice stuff you have to present as a neurotypical. For a psychopath, there is no emotional need to be respected, loved, admired, etc. rather those things are a means to an end.

[@Soh583]

@@Bruce-ph9nq narcissist has no ego or sense of self . Psychopaths is goal oriented and very good at cognitive empathy to get under one’s skin and get what s/he wants .

[@jcd5211]

Many psychopaths are nonviolent. You’ll find many of them as surgeons and CEOs.

[@dalestaley5637]

The people who work with them see them abuse people emotionally and throw instruments across the room. As an anesthetist, I never recommend any surgeon who treats any human badly or throws temper tantrums. I don't want a neurosurgeon in my head that's maladjusted.

[@TheBluesman511]

@@jcd5211 : Really? I know medical industry well. Experienced it on my skin. Med. industry that is not immune to aggresive bullying/harrasment at work place at highest ranks. The doctors that gave hypocrites oaths to protect their patients.

[@nancycrandall4545]

I breathed a sigh of relief when you shared reaction about running into someone who runs to the store without getting all dressed up, because I’m that person. 😂

[@HrsB2494]

Same! I was on edge like, oh lord, what is he going to say about me! Whew, but yes I agree, I’m much more likable to be around lol

[@Twinkle_Toes88]

Yep, I’m NOT GETTING READY to go to the grocery store right now! 😊👍

[@teresamccollum8954]

I can remember lying in bed one night when I was about 12 and I heard my father talking to my mom about killing us and burying us in the back yard because he didn't want kids any more. He wanted to be like his drug dealing friend that had a good job and made a lot of money selling weed. That didn't want kids. There is a lot more to this story and my dad. Everyone was so blind to who my dad really was.He was a monster.

[@ScottRouse]

😮!!!

[@dubaiedge]

I had a friend with a similar story about overhearing his dad. All his mom said was well, we can't kill them bc it's not like the old days when people could get away with it 😮. My brother tried to con me into us killing our parents bc all we'd get was juvie due to being kids. And my mother would threaten my father all the time that she'd kill him & take all his money. Some families are just... different. I'm glad you & I survived all that horrendous abuse ❤

[@ambermuth]

3 mins in and you’re talking to me directly! It took becoming a psychology student for me to realize that my mother is most likely a psychopath and my step-dad (who raised me) is probably a clinical narcissist. The difference between them is basically what you said. And yes, it is all about her. She’ll do anything to get her way and make you pay for it if she doesn’t. Nobody is excluded, not even her own children or someone else’s.

[@Freedomisreal670]

You never cease to amaze me with your knowledge and the open comfortable way you talk, it's like you are a friend and we're just having a really good chat about this stuff. Love you dude.

[@ScottRouse]

Thanks so much. 👍🙂

[@BluieBeth]

Another great video! I LOVE this, Scott!! The stories about you playing guitar made my day! That was my music for sure, when I was growing up! The good days! lol 🙂 Not trying to be weird, but for real, you are such an interesting guy! These videos are the best! It's like getting to just sit down and visit with you, while learning so many things. Thank you for these!

[@lindahaggard6416]

Narcissism is not fascinating if you live with one ~ Narc Hell.

[@angelinag4116]

True. For those who haven't gotten to know them more closely, they are fascinating. They don't know that the devil is charming too.

[@ChristineNavarromusic]

As a really small woman, I hate handshakes that are so hard they are obviously meant to hurt me. Pretty much the reason I stopped wearing any rings...

[@phataton7588]

Tip Shake hands with thumb and two fingers (like making a gun but two fingers) (Keep pinky and ring finger folded) No one can squeeze your hand in this position

[@Twinkle_Toes88]

I’m from Texas, 5’3’ tiny, had to learn how to give a good handshake very early in my life. Total power play to try to hurt the other person 😡

[@ChristineNavarromusic]

@@Twinkle_Toes88Right? Same... I'm a good handshaker, but it blows when we get those that are trying to hurt us. Like... folks, really? Be better humans!

[@akmediascope]

I just hate those kind of handshakes too. I shake hands as lightly as possible

[@ChristineNavarromusic]

Really glad I’m not the only one…

[@kath5201]

13:43. The handshake with finger on wrist: When I studied Druidism, Wiccan, etc. This was taught as a way to influence someone. Transfer a thought or urge to another, as in a job interview. To encourage them to hire you. The finger on the wrist is actually touching your pulse point. When you felt "icky" you felt their energy. You had the correct reaction. "Stay away!"

[@monimon-g9c]

I am an Esthetician and a few years back had a male client that had that type of stare. In the initial conversation, he stared wide eyed and unblinking which, made my hair stand on end. He also, stood so close to me that I was unable to move away. In that short interaction, I figured he was a psychopath and was so excited to find one in the wild…I thought, I have watched the Behavior Panel and you can’t fool me.

[@jaynesager3049]

Narcissists feeding off a more popular narcissist are also called flying monkeys. It’s a very intense, unstable relationship.

[@zeerohour8129]

Perfect symbolism.

[@ewap789]

Flying monkeys don't necessarily need to be narcissists themselves. But they usually gain from either maintaining status in the eyes of the narcissist, or other people in the pack. Often, it's not necessarily an ego thing, but a fear or survival thing. You can be a unaware flying monkey and then realize the toxicity of the dynamic and stop engaging in the same way.

[@jaynesager3049]

@@ewap789 yes, a codependency type of relationship. It’s very prevalent in middle school and some seem to grow out of it as they mature.

[@hfortenberry]

Flying monkeys aren’t always fellow narcissists. They can be anyone who’s either bought into the narcissists story and is participating in the drama/triangulation or someone who’s simply naive and going along with them by believing them. A lot of people who’ve never been exposed to narcissism are susceptible to this because they naturally give people the benefit of the doubt and would never believe the type of people like narcissists actually exist.

[@ashleylanina950]

I talked about this with someone who spent 12 years in prison. NY area prisons. He was locked up with lots of murderers and called this “shark eyes”. Apparently if you get psychopaths in groups it’s easier to identify. Excited to watch this.

[@Liliarthan]

Being Autistic, I’ve learned to doubt my instincts about people because of a lot of mixed messaging about social cues etc. but one thing I can always rely on is how someone interacts with children, animals, homeless people, people with disabilities, service/wait staff. This -always- reveal who someone really is, especially over time and when the interaction isn’t planned or is unpredicted. Because people can fake and pretend to be nice to others, but when they aren’t prepared for it then there is usually a tell, even if it’s for a second before they compose themselves and put on the act. That to me counts so much more than how someone is dressed etc.

[@hfortenberry]

Yes! I agree 100%

[@VestalNumbre]

Autism is spectrum there is deficiencies in emotional identification.The Song of Solomon 6 “Where has your dear one gone, O most beautiful of women? Which way did your dear one turn? Let us seek him with you.” 2

[@ambermuth]

This is excellent advice! ♥️ Definitely spares ya that fish out of water feeling.

[@VestalNumbre]

@@ambermuth hello 😐 read any good books 📚?

[@karenmalnati5094]

How people treat Children, animals, waitstaff - I agree, that is an indicator of who a person is at some level. Disabled people, and homeless people are in a different category, though, in my opinion. Homeless people are not helpless, and are often drug addicts, and/or dangerous, so it's only prudent to steer clear, and avoid interacting with them. That makes you wise, not mean. Disabled people are also not helpless, and often can be militant about "don't touch me, and/or let me do it myself" - so again, I steer clear, unless someone is clearly struggling, and then I will "OFFER" to help, but not just insert myself into their business. Not everyone wants your help, or to chat with you. And some want to rob you or hurt you, so it's best not to judge people too harshly based on their interactions with strangers - of any sort. Even dogs bite people, so you can't know if that person is evading the dog due to not liking animals, or if they've been bitten before, and prefer not to risk bodily injury, just so you will like them better.

[@Hollylivengood]

There was a guy at our chess club who used to always squeeze people's hands like a vice when he shook hands before a game. He did it to everyone, man or woman, and stare at them like he was he was hard man boxer or something. He wasn't even that good. We're just playing chess for godsake. So guys, the next time someone does the death grip handshake, roll their hand sideways in your hand. Anyone can do it, no matter how strong the other guy is. You have 27 bones in your hand, and none of them work moving two directions at once. It's perfect for the average wannabe power player, or psychopath.

[@Nature_guurrll]

Narcissists are exhausting. Physchopaths are terrifying.

[@vaska1999]

Sadistic, malignant narcissists are almost indistinguishable from psychopaths.

[@jillferrier8715]

They will drain every last ounce of energy and good humor from one’s body.

[@pjmccord]

My ex narcissist husband would stare at me with such hatred and when I would ask him what was wrong he would always say that inside he Snoopy doing the happy dance. Wow. Master of gaslighting.

[@craigcrawford6749]

Ex narcissist or ex husband

[@pjmccord]

@@craigcrawford6749 both.

[@therealdeal3672]

@@craigcrawford6749 typically narcissists don't really become ex-narcissists, unfortunately.

[@lourdessimon7813]

Aside from the negative enerby coming through, I guess that's why people will say their attacker's eyes "got black" must be the pupils dilating give the effect of black eyes

[@moyamontgomery1468]

People who are experiencing ongoing and intense stress can have black eyes also.

[@keelypack2735]

Your eyes dilate when you see your wife! Be still, my heart!! You are the best!! I am Scott Rouse’s #1 fan! ( ‘cept maybe for his Lovely wife. ❤️ )

[@Rando15]

I didn't know you had a channel of your own. I'm so happy to have found it. Great video. Informative, interesting, and entertaining. Thank you.

[@goldcat3512]

You describing narcissists coming together is kind of fascinating. I kind of feel like I witnessed that when I was into the whole new age type of stuff. The devotion we all had for the "guru/psychic" seemed so normal when I was in it . I didn't get how surreal the whole thing was until many years later.

[@mattjack3983]

Having been diagnosed with Anti-Social Personality Disorder (ASPD) and am a clinical psychopath, i thoroughly enjoyed this video. I especially liked and appreciated the way just iterated that many of those with psychopathy are not violent people with malevolent intentions, who just want to harm people. And that all of those with psychopathy aren't geniuses either. Idk why that trope is so prevalent. The majority of us are of average intelligence..the majority of us are fairly "average" in general, for that matter (except, of course, not in regards to having psychopathy)..and there are definitely some psychopaths who are not very intelligent at all. When i was younger..a teenager, and into my very early 20s..i remember making people uncomfortable with staring. Not because that's what i was trying to do, but because I wasnt aware that i was making them uncomfortable. That got me yelled at and smoked a couple times basic training in the Army. It was actually during my time in the Army when i became alot more aware of myself..very, very self aware..and also learned about my psychopathy. Soldiers, especially grunts, are typically not shy about telling you about yourself. And as i very curious individual to begin with, i was often not shy when it came to asking about myself. I close friend i met during basic training was the one who told me that my stare makes people uncomfortable. And I can remember that it struck a nerve that caused my curiosity to spike bigtime. Immediately i wondered why it made people uncomfortable, and i also wondered if there was anything else i did that made people uncomfortable. And i figured that since my new friend was so forthcoming and forward about the staring, i could ask him. And i did. We had many long talks that were very introspective, and i had many moments of some very deep self reflection. I began seeing a therapist a few months later (on my own..not thru the Army..i did not want my military career negatively impacted for psych reasons). That eventually led to a diagnosis of ASPD/psychopathy.

[@howareyou857]

I have periods of staring but that can be because my mind has gone blank.

[@Meritouschannels]

I have talked with a licensed therapist, became vulnerable and his eyes dilated. He was either attracted or something was happening. He helped me leave an abusive relationship and never acted upon anything. He was honest and never crossed boundaries. But the eyes dont lie.

[@ewap789]

Perhaps concentrated?

[@in_vino_veritas7938]

He was interested in helping you. My opinion really, but when we're interested in something our eyes dilate so it's not always a bad sign

[@trixie9777]

Maybe the therapist was nervous for you. Our eyes dilate when we’re nervous or in fight or flight. It’s a sympathetic nervous system response.

[@Meritouschannels]

@@trixie9777 interesting

[@Meritouschannels]

@@trixie9777 so basically, empathy and psychopathy look the same

[@susanwoodcarver]

I’ve followed the behavior panel since the first video. I sincerely enjoy these videos of yours, because you’re intelligent, you’re an excellent educator, but most of all you’re friendly. After spending so much time with you, I look forward to what almost feels like a visit and a good conversation with you. Thank you so much.

[@ClaireA-b9o]

That state can be a temporary PTSD trauma response. The person needs a reduction of negative stimulus, safety, comfort, and lack of stress to re-regulate.

[@weaverfirst8217]

Handshakes with men can be weird . As a woman who grew up in military bases and a southern father I was taught to have a firm handshake . I run into so many men who do what I call the fingertip handshake like they are afraid to break my little hand or kiss my ring. It just creeps me out. I was attacked at 19 came close to dying and spent most of my adult life in therapy. I noticed a few years after I got married that my husband would lie about the stupidest things. Then I noticed in a crowd he’d take on other people’s personalities it was so weird. I’ve always been the the type of person who can talk to anyone . He didn’t like that. I was very vulnerable for years trying to put my life back together . Honest to God I would take the time to explain things to my husband because I thought maybe he just wasn’t that smart lol not that he didn’t care what I wanted he only cared what he wanted. It took me 30 years to leave . I mean I got my first clue when he lied directly to a priest! I didn’t want any part of that and said no that’s not quite true. I’m not even Catholic ! Byt he is. So weird.

[@saracurtis]

Nothing worse than a limp handshake when you meet someone. Weak handshake, weak character, I've found.

[@kashkelly1508]

The dead fish hand shake is what men often do. It’s beyond awkward. I want a man to open a door or treat me like a woman but I also want them to shake my hand normally. I also had a guy once that literally hurt me shaking g my hand . Maybe they just don’t k is what to do.

[@willowmoon5063]

Agreed. As a woman I've always had a firm hand shake, hugs too. Everytime someone would weakly shake back my thoughts instantly go wtf! Lol. Here's to you thriving and surviving girl. It takes us a while to get out of the pit but when we do it's absolutely amazing to live. Cheers!

[@firewilson573]

I've had a bit of arthritis for years and sometimes men shook my hand very hard because they thought it was funny or at least pretended to think it funny but in reality intentionally showing dominance and power. Not realizing it guaranteed dislike from me

[@thijsjong]

@@kashkelly1508 It could be that they dont know what to do. It couod be that the person does not know he squeezes your had way to hard. It could be that he is nit aware he squeezing that hard. It could be that he squeezes that hard because he wants to dominate you..... If someone always a man this far squeezes really hard I will asume he is an asshole. My uncle squeezed my had real hard one time. But I didnt mind he was laughing doing it. He is a good guy. He was testing me. He is was a cop back then and I got along great with him. A stranger who squeezes har as he can. I asume ut an ashole. If someone guves ne the dead fish handshake. Wtf. Wtf are you. Yuck. Grabbing my fingers. The person is clumbsy or a taker. Not a good impression. Context information. I am a man. The squeezing very hard happened to me most when I was a kid. And it wasnt a little too hard. I had the impression the persons intentionally were squeezing way too hard.

[@janandthezoo]

All right, Scott. We want pictures from your Berkeley days!

[@jean-mariehendricks7399]

All I'll say is when youre being abused by someone with toxic traits, maybe a narcissist, believe me, it's not interesting, but I appreciate and respect your perspective.

[@TolinaSapphire4444]

the PSYCHOLOGICAL aspect is what is interesting. i am a child of TWO lol ( supporting pain with humor) and i totally understand your plight. i also get the aspect of going through torturing yourself over every detail, because you see subtle actions of your own self, or thoughts, and are extremely afraid of becoming them. i hope you find peace over that mountain; i just got to the top and the air's really nice up here. ❤❤❤❤ also i realized you may not feel that way at all; if so, i apologize. xo

[@sciencenotsrigma]

@@TolinaSapphire4444. Right. People have to understand their abusers better than themselves, sometimes, if they want to survive. I can recall being, alternatively, terrified and horrified by an abuser and riveted by their psychology at the same dam time! This also goes for the socially destructive classmate, or workplace narcissist. I’m autistic and I usually feel somewhat detached from social situations for that reason, and experience them more as an observer than a part of the group, so maybe there is a built-in protective aspect of that neurotype, although it can also make us more vulnerable to abuse. Speaking for myself, normal social interactions are painful anyway, so it was hard for me to distinguish between what’s socially acceptable or not…it all seems like a minefield! Neurotypical people can also learn to detach from abuse, so it’s not unique to autism. Social interactions seldom feeling “right” is more so. What makes the traits of autism actually autism or not is, largely, a matter of degree. Im aware that lot of people find certain social situations jarring, but some neurotypical ones may be more adept at distinguishing between actual toxic behaviors and normal patterns of communication and interaction.

[@sciencenotsrigma]

@@TolinaSapphire4444. Random thoughts about healing: I used to be unable to watch crime shows, w/o PTSD kicking in. Now, I love to watch and think about how a person becomes the perpetrator, how the victim was targeted and/or isolated, and how such things happen. I find it comforting, because I’ve studied behavioral sciences, worked in victim advocacy, and seen knowledge and experience applied (and used it, myself) in such a way that people have been able to escape & heal from abuse, and create abuse-free environments. Knowledge really is the power to create the change we need! Congratulations on your healing journey and finding peace in your life. ❤. To all those who are just starting, your feelings are important, and you will be able to use your experience in a meaningful way!

[@sciencenotsrigma]

It’s definitely not a good experience being in the target on one of these people

[@TolinaSapphire4444]

@@sciencenotsrigma 100% agree with all of that. i too am neurodivergent, if not completely also autistic lol, i faced that awkwardness with exuberance and over-zealous behavior....giving me the nickname Spunky haha. i found solace in the other peoples of the world, because i didnt find it at home. long story short, now im extra awkward in public cuz WTF HAPPENED TO SOCIETY? when did it become taboo to tell someone they're pretty or make a small encouraging or funny comment to lighten someone's day? i feel like a pariah LOL

[@jeffodonnell8354]

When I was working in corrections we would call it Shark eyes. No emotion or soul behind their eyes.

[@dubaiedge]

Yeah, it's chilling when I run across that in someone. I taught college for a couple decades, & I had a few students with zero in their eyes. It really stands out when you run into it. I was afraid around them at all times, relieved when the semester ended.

[@wread1982]

My cousin married a Muslim man who jokes about rape constantly and he asks me if I ever thought about having a hidden basement to torture people and I said hell no! He has all those traits and has mo emotion

[@Kayenne54]

Wonder if you can get your cousin out of that? Very very quietly?

[@bohofoto6929]

You need to stay protected around that dude

[@btappe1286]

I could listen to Scotts swave voice about psychos all day 😂

[@ScottRouse]

😮

[@lovewins8238]

😂😂😂😂 Me too!

[@AD-eg9cw]

When someone stares at me, I stare right back with a cold expression and don't look away until they do. I feel like it lets potential predators know that I'm going to be difficult to catch.

[@sarahb2004]

😂😂😂 💀 💀 💀

[@AD-eg9cw]

​@@sarahb2004Well, Sarah, Mr. Rouse likes my strategy, so HA! In your FACE! 😌

[@AD-eg9cw]

@@CCave-wj6xy I learned this tactic from experts. If returning a predatory stare is "edgy" to you, then by all means, continue submissively avoiding eye contact. I'm sure that will serve you well in life lol.

[@sarahb2004]

@@AD-eg9cw I loved it too! I’m sorry if it came across any other way! It made me lol in a good way

[@Fiona2254]

I don’t stare back like that but I let my stare say “I’m aware of you, and have taken notes” It doesn’t serve us well to look submissive as most predators are looking for easy prey. Looking confident and aware IS definitely a way to not be a victim.

[@robertdbarron]

I watched to the end, and then watched again a couple of times. At the third viewing, I changed my interpretation of the person seeing fear - not as them (the psychopath) experiencing it, but witnessing the fear in others. In thet sense, agree while heartedly. The concern I had which precipitated my reply was that a person just learning about body language would hear that statement regarding pupil dilation with fear and then later be with a friend or family member during a fearful event, see their pupils dilated, and treat it as an if then statement - If I see their pupils dilate as a fear response, then they are likely a psychopath. When my son became of dating age I shared with him: If you meet a girl and think she is cute, ask if she can tickle herself. Most people cannot. However, there is a set of people who can and usually they have schizophrenia. But, remember absolutely no one signs up for a mental illness, so be compassionate and know that so long as they are compliant with their meds, it should not be an issue. The people you do need to worry about are psychopaths because they typically aren't the murderous people portrayed in the movies. Instead they appear to be very charismatic and brilliant. Since the key factor of psychopathy is lacking empathy, they are very manipulative. So, here is a rudimentary "test" you can do to help yourself stay away from such people. If you see a girl in your class and you think she is cute, fake a yawn. Yawning is an empathetic response. If yhe dog yawns, you yawn. If you yawn, the dog yawns. However, using critical thinking skills - if you see something once; that is an anomaly. If you see something twice; that's a coincidence. Three or more times is a pattern. So, if she doesn't yawn, while a possible red flag, it is an anomaly. Ask her out for coffee. People with psychopathy prefer bitter tasting things. So if she doesn't use cream or sugar, that may be red flag number 2. But now we are only up to a coincidence. Ask her what the coffee smells like or what the nearby flowers smell like. Empathy is processed in the prefrontal cortex, so is the sense of smell. So, if she didn't yawn, drinks coffee black, and has little to no sense of smell, you need to be on high alert. Certainly not to be used as a diagnostic tool over the DSM-V as there can be mitigating factors, e.g. recovering from COVID has impacted sense of smell, and she typically consumes pixie sticks by the pound but simply likes black coffee, and perhaps she didn't notice you had yawned. But once you find yourself in the clutches of a true psychopath, you likely won't escape their web until they find another target. So, just as I don't want anyone viewing the video who witnesses someone's pupils dilate as a fear response is suggestiveof psychopathy, don't presume the person who didn't yawn, drinks coffee black, and has little to no sense of smell has psychopathy. Instead, be alert, observe for other patterns, and follow gut instinct. Again, I appreciate that you did not take my reply as a personal attack as it certainly was not my intent and hopefully if someone else misinterpreted the initial statement as I did, that our interaction provides clarity.

[@christinekennedy7726]

It really says a lot abaut society when the thought of people being killed by a serial killer doesn't get the news, yet some celebrity having plastic surgery, gets more coverage.

[@sdot6318]

Way too many many psychopaths, sociopaths, and Narcs in the world very troubling...I believe the numbers are growing.

[@rdallas81]

Takes 1 to know 1.

[@fitnesssoup7553]

​@@rdallas81Thanks for coming forward 😅

[@DVD927]

Thought: Are the numbers actually growing, or is it YOUR AWARENESS that is growing? I’d guess it’s the latter. It’s just like if you buy a red Volkswagen, you’ll start noticing red Volkswagens.

[@Readmore462]

I love Scott's channel and all the questions, This is so interesting

[@ScottRouse]

👍🙂

[@4DaysInApril]

Scott's eyes dilated when he read the psychopath question! 😂

[@ScottRouse]

😮

[@marlenechicoine4005]

Do you believe (as I do) that animals and sometimes children, can sense "evil" or psychopathy in a person?

[@queenofthebutterflies5212]

100%

[@autex2609]

I tend to agree. I love animals and I usually really get along with dogs and cats. People always mention how "great I am" with animals etc. But my friend's dog is utterly terrified of me and immediately runs away before I can even try to connect. First time in my life this has happened. It actually hurts me feelings a bit because I genuinely respect how an animal reacts to ppl.. So now I hope I'm simply wrong about the whole "animals can sense bad ppl" thing ha

[@marlenechicoine4005]

@autex2609 It could just be that you remind them of someone they don't trust...a mean mailman or something. Really! It could be your hat, the way you walk, etc. They remember those things from a bad situation.

[@dubaiedge]

​@@autex2609for the first time in 60+ years, I had the same experience with a dog. The owner, a neighbor, said he never does that will ppl, then asked if I was-- however she put it-- a bad person 😂. I'm scared of the dog bc he's HUGE. But yeah, animals & ppl can totally sense evil, I'm, if we're listening to our guy. It can be a strong sense sometimes, too. Even just the feeling like someone's walking over your grave.

[@caupain66]

Holy crap I didn’t think I could possibly freaking find you any more likable! LEGEND!!!!! Thank you for real sharing this story!

[@ChronicallyCassidy]

Narcissist: Hangs with a group. Gets energy out of a group. Needs to be complimented. Can be really chararasmatic in social settings. Says things that only put themselves in good light and others in bad light. Blame everything on everyone else. Nothing was ever their fault. They don’t apologize. See no problem with their actions and the actions of everyone else is the problem. Do not like being confronted Do not respect boundaries and believe they don’t apply to them Guilt you Try to make you turn on someone else Say things about someone else, negative things, but it’s actually them talking about themselves without realizing it. (Projecting) You cannot criticize them. They will turn things around to make it seem like it was your fault. Everything has to be about them. They are fake people putting on a facade. They can try to buy your love. They’ll never listen to your side of the story. They’ll never change.

[@bohofoto6929]

And they will even turn on young people who they should be supporting. So toxic and manipulative. Dangerous to people who have low self esteem.

[@Rachel-v5u1m]

@@bohofoto6929 very dangerous

[@feefeeder]

Learning boundaries, thats what is to be learned. Tough work!😮

[@klimtscat347]

I couldn't possibly say narcs are 'fascinating', I feel DISGUSTED by them.

[@SerendipitySunshine]

Hey, this is great format for questions :-) Gotta chuckle about people checking shopping baskets...poor fellow had to make a plunger run to the grocery store! I'd ask questions about shopping baskets before making assumptions. I was helping a friend several years ago with a garden party and picked up a case of wine. A rumor followed that I was a heavy drinker even though the party wasn't at my house and we're a dry home. I've shopped for home bound neighbors before online shopping was available. I'm sure a few folks I met at Costco thought I had incontinence due to Depends in the cart. Take away message: consider the shopping cart an indication not a fact. Have a thick skin and sense of humor about what others think of YOUR shopping cart 🙂

[@kinsmade--wherecraftsarefa7830]

I would love a thorough video on narcissist's nest! I believe in that! My narc mother-in-law has superfans, even though she is a total nobody with no talent. People protect her like she is their queen.

[@megonvi]

Those 34 minutes felt like 5! These Q&As are very engaging 😊. The psychopathic stare and how they may get excited with other people's fear is creepy and something to watch out for... Scott, so cool that you were the called metal guy. I wish we had music like the 80's back... Keep rocking!🤘🏼

[@yme9953]

I’m sure I was getting the psychopathic stare a few weeks ago at the supermarket so I made a point of keeping eye contact for a bit but had to drop it, I looked again and he was staring right at me across the checkouts so I kept it again so I didn’t look like prey. He probably thought I was a psychopath 😂

[@chrishumphries1516]

I think your voice is very calming sir

[@ironDsteele]

It's my opinion that a true narcissist does not have any empathy. They may have cognitive empathy if they are of the midrange or greater especially- but this is strictly for manipulation purposes. The lesser narcissist won't even have that.

[@ironDsteele]

@@IrisKarls The term "covert narcissist" is so broad that it could cover 8 different subschools of narcissist. Additionally, as stated in my comment above, the upper-midrange and the greater schools will have cognitive empathy which is a simple calculation of your feelings based on observations that they use for manipulation purposes and to manage the facade. They have no emotional or contagion empathy whatsoever and any believing in that they do, is emotional thinking. The lower midrange and the lesser narcissists won't even have that.

[@rosemadder5547]

I'll never forget the first time i was strangled by an abusive ex. Almost all i remember is his pupils being huge. I was told later that night predators do that when they're going for a kill. Sickest feeling I ever had...

[@ScottRouse]

😮

[@cherylmockotr]

First time? It happened more than once??? I hope the guy's in prison!

[@lonestarbellepk]

It's terrifying

[@kristengottula9337]

This is my first video of yours that I've seen. I have to say I'm intrigued. You're in good niche that people will benefit hearing from.

[@BridgetteBentley]

I saw the title and had to click! Between my narcissist ex boyfriend, psychopathic rival at work, and ex cop myself, it’s good to learn why people do things. I truly believe it’s equal parts how they were raised and trigger for something there when they were born. Some people are just evil. Thanks for the video!

[@hannahriley8085]

Omg I always wondered why his eyes seemed to turn black especially because he had dark brown eyes! Explains it all and I can’t believe I’ve never thought of that before! Thanks

[@rachelwyatt9529]

My mother was a Narcissist and my father a psychopath. She had all the power and kept him somewhat in line then she passed away and he went off the rails.

[@Altered4n892t]

So sorry! I had my own set of insanity parents.

[@jeaniebird999]

I've noticed that narcissists often like and are drawn to other narcissists but also clash with them because they're competing with each other for everyone else's attention. Also, narcissists will notice and take their proper place, on the totem pole, when an alpha narcissist (so to speak) is in control.

[@lonestarbellepk]

Disagree. Seems like Narcissists hone in on sensitive, empathetic, vunerable people

[@jeaniebird999]

@@lonestarbellepk Oh yes, those types of people are a narcissists _preferred_ victim, not friend. If you look, you'll notice that narcissists often like and are drawn to other narcissists. Take a look at (haha, I'm using _his_ playbook 😜) an infamous narcissist that is currently in the news, on a daily basis, and all the sycophants that surround him. The DSM-5 is strong, with that crowd! 😂

[@johanblume2621]

Randy Rhoads!! My absolute favorite guitarist. It’s so beautiful that you mentioned him. Love your videos, as well as the panel.

[@lizztaylor]

Your voice is as smooth as butter ❤️ Thanks for educating us!

[@ConnieGMK]

I could listen to you all day

[@lauraescobedo3426]

The best authority in all narcissists is Dr Ramani Durvasula she’s the best! Nice to see you in your own channel

[@SailBale007]

She helped me heal from my being targeted and twisted inside out from a Covert Narcissist. The most insidious, hideous, and damaging of all cluster Bs…

[@orisatalabi]

She's quite popular for sure, however, there are other clinicians who have more experience and insight than her, but unfortunately they are not as social-media famous.

[@ChantelStays]

As an INFJ i have a really intense stare.... My extrmely abusive mother said to my very small self that I have souless eyes (I was probabaly just giving her dirty looks for her cruelty) , so for most of my life until recently ive avoided eye contact...it makes me nervous anyways, but ive been trying to be more confident. When I stare im either analyzing a person's behavior and looks or im looking through them cause im day dreaming.... All I know Is we are all pretty messed up in one way or another

[@dmt7674]

Oh my god I have the same problem, the emotions feel like I’m getting sucked into them when I’m talking to them and sometimes it switches. It’s weird. I felt like I was giving myself away or hypnotizing someone else, as in they seem drawn into me. Some people literally will be looking at me as I’m looking at them in the eyes, they just slow down talking, movement, or they stop talking and stare altogether. I never know if I’m just being creepy with a stare or too friendly. Really weird shift of energy. I grew up never trusting anyone and everyone’s emotions feel intense to me. If you live in a void within yourself I think this is the case.

[@machruk]

Just subscribed. I work in a psychiatric hospital and am also fascinated by narcissists, psychopaths and other personality disordered people. Great content! Thanks

[@ScottRouse]

Yay!

[@kekcsi]

I was raised by a narcissist and fascinating is not the word I would describe them with. They're not at all fascinating to me. By the way, psychopaths are kind of polar opposites. Narcissists harm you because they are so deeply ashamed they lose control. They think they are in emergency and saving them is your priority. Psychopaths on the other hand, they are not ashamed at all. They just don't know shame. They don't think they are in danger and don't ask for help. They simply enjoy seeing others feeling unsafe. The end result is similar but their ways are different.

[@ConsciousConversations]

You are the best, thanks for sharing!

[@jacquelinejacobson6789]

Had very destructive relationship with narcissist BF . I finally went silent and moved 2000 miles away. I was sick of him keeping bragging about what his children did. I had 2 kids too - he never talked about them. If you see one - run in the other direction!!

[@jacquelinejacobson6789]

@@Godbody_Gladiators not at all. He would brag in public with me as well. But I left him because of his control over me.

[@GiGizGolden1]

@@Godbody_GladiatorsSounds like s🎉omeone who is a narcissist with no empathy. My ex-husband and his wife brag about the wife’s kids always in front of his kids without acknowledging them. I know because our kids were hurt and complain to me always. I can’t help them but there were many other reasons I left.

[@SourceAwryT]

​@@Godbody_Gladiators, I assume you get off on being rude and dismissive? It's not very nice at all. Anyone can be mean to strangers bc it takes no strength of character to do so. Good luck.

[@Godbody_Gladiators]

@@SourceAwryT welcome to the real world kid *takes your chocolate milk*

[@Gainz12345]

​@@Godbody_GladiatorsGo touch grass. There's a whole wide world outside. Life isn't all about yt comment sections kid.

[@karenk2409]

My horrible sadistic ex stared at me the whole time during 2 days of court. I refused to meet his eyes. He was trying to intimidate and control me. The judge was not amused.

[@a016202]

Love Scott so much! He and his behavioral buddies are so brilliantly helpful with dissecting human behaviors.

[@GrandmaMarlayne]

I love your response to the weird handshakes. Absolutely!

[@Soh583]

Apart from being very interesting & informative. I find your voice very relaxing. Thank you.

[@jacquelinedara]

I could listen to him forever. He’s also very handsome, but when he talks about being a metalhead in college, I was thinking he must’ve been such a babe 😂