Nobu & Nomthi: Healing A Broken Sibling Relationship, From Just Siblings to Close Friends

[@nicolangwenya1388]

I’m late to this… but I relate soooo much! My brother and I were always at odds growing up but ended up as the best of friends. Somehow we also healed from a lot! Granted we’ve never had a conversation like this one, but the healing is so clear in the way we understand and relate to each other now. I love the realness of this!

[@pertuniabliss45]

It’s a difficult thing being vulnerable let alone on a public forum. Thank you for sharing your story Parenting, can literally make or break a person from birth to adulthood 😢

[@NobueKhumalo]

Thank you for your support 🙏🏽

[@zuzuTanya-Ncube]

I feel like so much healing is taking place or has taken place, because this was just so bare and vulnerable of you two 🥹. 🙏🏽

[@NobueKhumalo]

It has definitely taken place, we thank God!🙏🏽

[@Nokwethemba_MJ]

Thank you for this video, really made me to sit and reflect and we really thank the Lord that you guys are now where you are, appreciate the vulnerability and honesty hey❤I am a middle child and growing up I always felt like I am just a middle child🤣I do not know how to explain it but you know the first and the last born hype but I really think my parents did a great job in making sure that to a certain extent we all feel seen and important, My older brother has special needs and my younger sister is an introvert which is a total opposite of who I am, I grew up always wanting to have different siblings as I found that it was hard relating to my siblings, I would look at other people and wish they were my siblings and not the ones I have. Only last year did it hit me when I was on my way to church that God knew why he gave me both my brother and my sister, I remember crying so much at the realisation of how cold I had become towards them just because I thought they did not fit to my expectations of what a sibling should be and after that moment I had a change of mind and heart and I started to learn each of them individually and I have never felt so much at peace, I am so blessed to have them and I do not want to exchange them for anything or anyone, getting to realise how cold and unloving towards them I had become and changing all of that made me realise the love that was always there, my brother loves me so much and he does not want anyone to ill treat me, he actually gave me my nick name that I go by now and I am my sisters role model, all that I do she does and together we just a bunch of 3 siblings imperfect human beings but perfect for each other, so to anyone who has a sibling with special needs, take your time to learn them and believe me they nothing less than human beings, they deserve to be loved and taken care of, they already receiving a lot of resentment from the outside at least make them feel safe at home, be their safe space, it requires a lot of prayers and strength but it is worth it. ❤

[@NobueKhumalo]

Shuu!! What a deep message! Thank you so much for sharing!

[@nomthigwebu]

I'm at a loss of words. Thank you for sharing your story with us and I'm glad you got to change at your own time out of your own will. Well done and kept at it

[@politempunzi9997]

❤ well done, nobue and nomthie !!! Indeed Nobue you are wise for your age!!

[@debbiemachamire3109]

Thank you Nomthi and Nobu for this conversation. I learnt a lot from it as a parent of two as well with one of my kids being neurodivergent. I’m like a deer caught in headlights most times but the Lord’s guidance and conversations like these make a big difference.

[@nomthigwebu]

@@debbiemachamire3109 thanks sis.glad you learnt a lot and I’m sure you are doing just fine as a mom ❤️

[@NobueKhumalo]

Aww, I’m sure you’re doing your best

[@Itsyveetoyou]

Aaaw thank you for this conversatin😢It was hard to watch but necessary. Hard in the sense that- this is topics pple hardly talk about yet its something we are living. You have helped break down what might be the cause of the strained differences we have with our siblings. Now i know i may have a part in it and they may also have played a part in it- as well as our parents. Then it has helped me alot - in now evaluating how i must deal with my own kids- i have two teen girls now and a much younger son who i feel i may be “showing” or giving more attn. And amongst the two girls- sort of comparing them from a point of how they do in school and socially etc. Thank you for being vulnerable. I pray you guys are fully healed now. Especially your sister. Someone commented and said- so funny how the way we are parented affects us all our lives😢And somehow, what she was sharing really reflects that. Love and light ❤❤

[@NobueKhumalo]

Thank you so much for being vulnerable with us too. I hope you and your siblings heal too and I have no doubt you will do right by your kids!

[@sikhulisiwenyathi4018]

Watching this as a last born with a big sister….so relatable 😂😂😂❤ P.S:your sister is a good story teller🤣

[@zuzuTanya-Ncube]

Knowing you can have the same parents but totally different experiences is scary…

[@nomthigwebu]

@@zuzuTanya-Ncube it definitely is and unfortunately it’s something that’s unavoidable.

[@LM-he7eb]

@@nomthigwebu Yep, It is way more common

[@sisasibandancube2405]

Woow kids such a blessing to watch both of you ❤❤❤

[@thandekakhumalo4696]

WOW. Thank you for this episode . I have two girls and they are three years apart. Its an eye opener for me

[@NobueKhumalo]

🙏🏽 we are glad we could make a difference!

[@cleopatramidzi6825]

I always thought my brother grew up hating me as a child but listening to you guys made me realise i might have been seeing life from a different perspective from his.I remember vividly though how he literally stood up for me at some point when one aunt slapped me and he got so angry and threw a brick at her,the shock on my face at that point when i realised wow this person actually loves me😄😄😄.maybe its a conversation i should have with him now. Thanks❤

[@NobueKhumalo]

❤️❤️ definitely have the conversation with him. He always loved you, liking on the other hand is a different story 😂

[@cleopatramidzi6825]

@@NobueKhumalo 🤣🤣🤣

[@buhlempofu7235]

Hmmm deep vulnerability here. Great lessons for us parents. Thank you my khulu's girls. This is an eye opener

[@NobueKhumalo]

Glad it was helpful 🙏🏽❤️

[@omphilemolefi3379]

Oh, Nobue, you did it again 😥. Healing a broken sibling relationship is a full-time job 😅, but I love it regardless. I'm the youngest of four daughters, and it really gets down sometimes. It's triggering, and it feels like walking on eggshells. However, growth and respect make it better, and they are my best friends.

[@NobueKhumalo]

It’s definitely a lifelong journey. I don’t think you ever arrive, but it does get better. Hugs to you!

[@omphilemolefi3379]

@@NobueKhumalo from how it used to be I can definitely say it really gets better.

[@MissKhosi]

Loved this Nobu and Nomthi ❤

[@emilynyoni7893]

Thank you so much, Nobue and Nomthi, I really enjoyed this episode because I could relate to the sibling relationship. Coming from a family of 2 girl and being the youngest jhoooo we would fight a lot..but hey we are the best of friends now ❤

[@NobueKhumalo]

Glad you have healed❤️

[@thandekaamandamoyo4327]

Glad I watched this to the very end… thank you guys for sharing I learnt a lot and praying I become a good mom to my boys who are also 3 years apart ❤️

[@NobueKhumalo]

Thank you for watching! I’m sure you’ll do great with your boys! ❤️

[@hlengiwe1464]

I really enjoyed how you both navigated this challenging topic and showing the journey that it has been for you both in healing and become closer as siblings. Related on a number of points raised. Shout out to you both ❤👊🏾👌🏾🤝🏿🙌🏾. It can only get sweeter as you both get older.

[@nomthigwebu]

❤❤❤

[@NobueKhumalo]

Thank you!❤️

[@nicolancube4122]

Thank you guys for being vulnerable and sharing your experiences. This was lovely ❤

[@NobueKhumalo]

Thank you for watching ❤️

[@rewindthelesson]

Not even done watching, but I am enjoying this conversation so much. Wow 💙

[@NobueKhumalo]

Glad to hear it!!

[@zuzuTanya-Ncube]

This is very insightful, I was well prepared and very ready to be a parent but I’m still terrified of not treating my kids the same, and then not even see I’m doing that (as most parents say ababoni) scary.

[@NobueKhumalo]

I can imagine. I think if you develop a friendship with them they will be comfortable to tell you when they don’t feel treated right

[@_nceba__]

I related with this video so much. . We thank God for growth. And for healing. Thank you so much for sharing. ❤

[@NobueKhumalo]

Hugs to you 🫂

[@bekezeladube3394]

So relatable, thanks Nobu!

[@NobueKhumalo]

So glad!

[@rutendoamanda]

Relatable 🥲all of it...

[@NobueKhumalo]

I am sorry to hear that 🫂

[@awakhiwemkwananzi1800]

....because i feel like my love for my daughter is me showing off to my mum especially ukuthi this is how you love and treat your child....nothing to do with loving my daughter because she is my daughter i gave birth to her. I do love my baby with everything that i am but i cant help the feeling of feeling guilty yokuthi am i just showing off to my mum or??? The trauma is real guys even talking about it as i have soo many times as i have with my parents, it still seats there because it part of my childhood and it hurts...thank you my babies for this episode😘😘😘😘😘😘

[@NobueKhumalo]

I am so sorry. I hope and pray you find healing, I know you mean well for your daughter.

[@awakhiwemkwananzi1800]

Guys...im watching this as a person with 2 siblings one being my twin sister, shocking as it may sound....our parents treated us differently (as twins) and mina personaly this affected me even to my adulthood and parenthood to a point where i feel guilty of being a parent.....

[@nomthigwebu]

@@awakhiwemkwananzi1800 eish sorry mamzo. Healing takes time and the first step is being vulnerable and opening up about your experience.

[@chelesanihlatshwayo6297]

Loving it... watching it all

[@NobueKhumalo]

Thank you 🙏🏽

[@Ndinonzi_gg]

I wish I could tag my sister. I relate so much. My sister is a 28 December baby and she complains about her birthday being bunched with Christmas.

[@NobueKhumalo]

Clearly a support group is needed!

[@nomthigwebu]

Oh no,now that sucks.we definitely need a support group

[@Ndinonzi_gg]

A thousand likes for this guys❤

[@BM-dr4eu]

I feel you guys should do a storytime with the full story about the tin lid burning incident. I think we ought to hear the full thing coz wawu 😅😅😮😮

[@NobueKhumalo]

🤣🤣🤣

[@mthokozisinyoni7310]

Guys you were supposed to read that letter for us😂... Thanks guys, 👏👏👏.

[@NobueKhumalo]

😂 I deny the knowledge of said letter.

[@nomthigwebu]

😂😂😂 the letter disappeared

[@thulanimpofu5583]

powerfull

[@NobueKhumalo]

🙏🏽

[@TholokuhleM]

Ohh wow...cant wait to liste..n...oMaDawu❤❤

[@NobueKhumalo]

Hope you like it!

[@TholokuhleM]

​@@NobueKhumaloi loved it! mina ke I'm an only child..there are times when i wish i had a sibling..

[@NobueKhumalo]

@@TholokuhleM that’s an interesting angle that is rarely spoken about!

[@pertuniabliss45]

@@TholokuhleM Kamo is also demanding for a sibling. Imagine trying to explain to a 6 year old about Gods timing and nature and and and

[@sherontshuma8302]

I relate with this sooooooo much

[@NobueKhumalo]

❤️‍🩹❤️

[@roselynbutshe-dube134]

The “letter” story🤣🤣🤣🤣

[@NobueKhumalo]

I am innocent 😂

[@nomthigwebu]

@@roselynbutshe-dube134 shhhhh 😂😂

[@thembekilesibanda8127]

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