NOISY NEIGHBORS 2: WTF for real.

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[@proluca]

All that you have spoken about -- Thank you! I needed to hear this!! I have been stressed, angry and feeling victimize and powerless . . . but you explained it eloquently and to not do "should" . . . acceptance and focus on me!! Thank you so much!! I have a lot of growing to do and today with this knowledge . . . I will start!

[@sophieallen5613]

I find it helps to have a echo show or some device where as soon as I hear the neighbours immediately I ask, in my case, Alexa to play something.. could be white noise, music or some natural sounds like surf or wind in trees or a meditation. This has helped me feel more in control and I am choosing what Im listen too.

[@karenoconnor700]

I’ve got that noise in my kitchen it vibrates the floor. It wears you down. Counting down the days till we move out 😞

[@blooddye6867]

i really love what you said about how 'shoulds argue with reality' this really helped me tbh, thank you! I think i've the worst situation of all (sounds very selfish fully understand but hear/read me out) my pos neighbours their livingroom is right above my fucking bedroom ... idk which r word designed this place but safe to say they're dumb as dirt ... and it doesn't help a bit that they're unemployed so they're making noise the whole day and they go to bed hella late (3am or later) so at night there's also noise and cherry on the shit cake is her sister brings her kid almost everyday and he/she is starting to crawl/run ... literally fml and oh yeah talking didn't do shit.

[@paraconsistentjojo]

Shoulds can also change reality.

[@do_not_trust_bjc]

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[@FollowingJesus17]

Thank you for this video because it's really helpful I have really suffered with this with my neighbours for 11 years and I am unable to move so this kind of video really gives me hope

[@boyv4667]

Well you can also ceased to feel victimised by fighting back. For instance, you are even in more advantaged position, as you are living above the Ass*le, so all your floor is giant drum base :D. I would probably get myself a pair of Danish wooden clogs without rubber soles, and walk in them all day long, and figure out when the loud playing music Asshole is sleeping. Not saying that it is a nicest thing to do, but just saying that with certain people you almost have to go to "their level" of understanding for them to understand. That would definitely make me feel good and not powerless. :D

[@boyv4667]

I also understand your point of acceptance, and trying to deal with your emotions, and I like your point how that is a "practicing ground" for higher spiritual path. Yet, in my life, i had to actually learn to sometime "show my teeth" and fight, i was too nice ,and everyone was walking over me. I actually sometime thing that some things are worth fighting - ie i would possibly bang on their door in my pijama or call a police and so what if they think i am "that lady". At least I would get my peace and I would not really care what they think about me, specially because it is them acting like assholes and disturbing ppl arround. But yes, i get your point and I wil ltry do some of exercises you suggested - thank you!

[@opiumdensRus]

I love how you connect recovery to dealing with scumbag neighbors. I know that Byron Katie book from a counselor in jail. The counselor was a real wierdo creep, but I bet the book is good. Never read it cause I figured if he promoted it, it probably sucked. But if you say it is good I might give it a shot. I use that thinking too, about comparing situation to being homeless. Good thinking.

[@natesmom2244]

you have every right to have some peace & quiet at night. Some people are understanding too, if you just knocked or left a nice note on the door you may be surprised and they might respect your wishes. I know it doesn't always turn out that way but worth a try. You shouldn't have to condition yourself to accept negativity from others.

[@NetworkDellMelove]

Don't worry I'm going through the same thing the sick bastards. There is a lot of things you can do .

[@do_not_trust_bjc]

The worst part is when it is on purpose. Some evil monsters pick if you don;t say anything and if you complain. The people bouncing and slamming things over every room I am in sneqak taunts the n-word and other racist crap.

[@annhaefner2180]

They know it's not ok and are doing it intentionally because they're an abuser and harrasser.

[@kel3678]

I needed to hear this ❤️

[@do_not_trust_bjc]

😞