Here's the PROBLEM with dating as a FOREIGNER in Dominican Republic

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@proteusxl9814 10 ай бұрын

It wasn't working out relationship wise in America. I wanted a traditional woman. I am a traditional man. I was raised that way. Received my passport and started traveling. Met my wife in Santo Domingo. I'm 16 years older than my wife. We took our time and traveled back and forth. Met her family in the Dominican Republic, and she has family near me in America. Finally we married and it's been 4 years. Best decision I've made. I'm 52 in my prime physical and financially. Beautiful family. I'm blessed 🙌🏾

@archangelvvv 10 ай бұрын

Great news, and you are one of the fortunate ones!

@magiala5577 10 ай бұрын

This man is hiding more than what he is letting on. Open relationships are so common in the Caribbean.

@proteusxl9814 10 ай бұрын

@@magiala5577 you sound crazy. Blanketing a whole island in negativity. Just because it happened to you. Doesn't mean it happens to everyone. Bewell✌🏾

@proteusxl9814 10 ай бұрын

@@archangelvvv Thank you. Took my time and precautions. Thank God everything came together nicely.

@magiala5577 10 ай бұрын

@@proteusxl9814 believe whatever American fantasies you want to tell yourself at night.

@wabanks6461 10 ай бұрын

James suggested to pick wisely if dating in the DR. You must do that ANYWHERE! Yes even here in the U.S. Especially in the U.S.😂😂😂😂😂

@NorberisR 9 ай бұрын

How silly of him to think you don't have to pick wisely everywhere else in the world when we are speaking specifically about DR🤣😂.

@wabanks6461 8 ай бұрын

@@NorberisR 😂😂😂

@theoracle6881 8 ай бұрын

Right!!!

@gavriel7123 6 ай бұрын

I had just met a girl working at the plaza next to the resort in Puerto plata , we exchanged infos, next day, her husband left the house(i had no idea she had a husband), she can't feed her child. She can't pay her rent, her glasses are broken, indirectly asking for money. What she did not know is that The week prior I watched a video on the type of women to avoid when traveling abroad. Every single problem she had, was mentioned in the video. I later found out that her husband was in on it so I blocked her, I know better now, be careful and mindful guys.

@wabanks6461 6 ай бұрын

@@gavriel7123 Sadly I’ve seen this happen to a couple of people I know personally. They did not practice the proper vetting and gave up a lot of money.

@TriniCanoAdventures 8 ай бұрын

#1 - LEARN THE LANGUAGE! everything else will follow. Trust your instinct, learn the culture & make sure you can travel there at least several times a year.

@kdmour 10 ай бұрын

Simps get played everywhere and not just the DR. It's always all about how you carry yourself no matter where you are or who you're dating

@trapbois4573 10 ай бұрын

I always say if you can' t pull in your home country, what makes you think you can go abroad and find someone who meets your interests?

@NorberisR 10 ай бұрын

👍🏾

@davonbenson4361 10 ай бұрын

@@trapbois4573. It’s because your in a different environment and culture.

@robertjackson8733 9 ай бұрын

@@trapbois4573 What you stated makes no sense. If someone is unemployed or underemployed in the city they were born in, should they stay in that city and accept not having any opportunities to grow? People move everyday to seek better opportunities and sometimes they win in the process. It's possible for someone to go abroad and have better relationship opportunities than they did at home. Failing to take chances and staying in a rut is the worst thing a human being can do in life.

@xtrey19x 9 ай бұрын

@@trapbois4573 The problem is less about if you can "pull" and more so who you can "pull". The USA for example is well known for having some of the biggest (heaviest) people in the world, but if you move to a country that have slimmer women then you're increasing your chances of getting someone who's more appropriately seized. Please start thinking more logically about these subjects before you start repeating this illogical statement you heard from someone else.

@Passport_Ninja 7 ай бұрын

Im 36 shes 24 but shes super mature, 5 months in and happy so we will see where it goes. Shes everything ive wanted and we have a thousand things in common. No red flags yet and she likes tradition. She's educated, speaks english, beautiful, works for a U.S company but wants to stay in the DR long term so thats a plus.

@NorberisR 7 ай бұрын

Great seems like those are good signals. Congratulations.

@Kelvin_583 10 ай бұрын

Great video. Exactly. My fiance is from Santo Domingo. College graduate and I’ve met all of her immediate family. If you pick wrong you’ll know it if your bank balance is close to 0. Plan plan plan. Be on the same page. Great video.

@NorberisR 10 ай бұрын

😅thanks

@lovepurposeandpassports 10 ай бұрын

Thank you for the shoutout, you two are a positive influence on this island and motivate us to keep doing what we’re doing with the channel 💯

@NorberisR 10 ай бұрын

You're welcome🇩🇴

@whit6444 10 ай бұрын

Great advice. I met my wife 3 years ago in Santiago by chance. We dated and learned about each other slowly and finally married in October. We have 4 years age difference. Our plan is she moves to Florida and we both work and then we retire in Santiago or Moncion. US visa in process. For me this whole process has been worth it and it is possible.

@NorberisR 10 ай бұрын

Awesome, congratulations. Thanks for sharing.

@jasonfields7657 8 ай бұрын

Very great advice… “we not looking for independent bad bitches!!!” 😂😂😂 you had me cracking up… “you look sixty to a 20 year old bruh” 😂😂😂

@NorberisR 8 ай бұрын

😅

@NathanialTheGreat 10 ай бұрын

Understanding is key no matter where you are. Also know yourself and what you are willing and not willing to deal with

@gigcleveland9740 8 ай бұрын

I think He makes a excellent point. Doesn't matter what country. You have to vet a person.

@johnathanmcnair7297 2 ай бұрын

I appreciate you guys making this content.. I'm 40 , single , never been married, and have no kids... Been looking and trying to navigate the finding something real and true to build a family... Been trying to figure it out finding and building something something life long marriage.

@NorberisR Ай бұрын

You're welcome.

@phillybred8580 9 ай бұрын

My wife is from Venezuela she tells me Dominican and Venezuelan culture is the same , great content

@NorberisR 8 ай бұрын

Thank you.

@willest0652 2 ай бұрын

Jay dropping jewels 💯

@NorberisR Ай бұрын

La que a mí me gusta que tiene de todo está en la Ovando como a tres esquinas de la Gómez como si fueras para la Duarte. En la Duarte hay varias, en la Jacobo Mujluta hay como 2 y en la independencia hay, también hay varias en la autopista las Americas.

@rickjames40 10 ай бұрын

Great advice. I would also add, vet their family, and how they were raised

@greggwilliams4533 10 ай бұрын

This is a great topic. I know most women in that country earn the average of 300.00us per month. That's nothing to live on. Yes most are trying to get you but their are a few that actually need help. I helped some before but I met them. They never asked me for help. Money doesn't mean that much to me. No difference than giving money to an organization. I agree with your husband and you. It's more about who these people are.

@cristiandiaz6333 8 ай бұрын

I like the way your husband talks about DR and its women. You also make some good points though.

@NorberisR 8 ай бұрын

Thanks 😊.

@richesmethod 10 ай бұрын

🎉💯% Facts on all and every statement on both couples points and about those outside people addressed😊. Keeping in mind that people also don't work out most times because of personal differences and people apply that to culture or country unfortunately, because it's a easier scapegoat many times, then asking the man/women in the mirror. As for the story times, yes controversy sells and as we say in sales a bad experience will be told 10 times over for every 1 time a positive experience is told. It's psychology. BIGGUP to your channel 🍻

@NorberisR 10 ай бұрын

True👍🏾

@rob8886 10 ай бұрын

Great information....Especially the point of red flags... Every example you gave produced "A RED FLAG ".

@anseasal77 10 ай бұрын

I was a subscriber to your husband's channel and didn't know who he was. I love to cook and had aspirations of a food channel. But then I was visiting the DR for over 7 years now and connected with Noberis channel learning more about the culture. Thoughts of retirement are on the table, and divorced and free minded 10 years, I might be ready. I appreciate the update and clarity. Blessings to your family

@NorberisR 10 ай бұрын

Thank you. 🙏🏾

@douglasanderson5516 8 ай бұрын

Funny you mentioned that her husband has a channel. I love to cook too and thought he looked like someone with a cooking channel that I subscribe to. What's the name of his channel?

@ScottTakesOnTheWorld 10 ай бұрын

I love you and your husband. You have given me so much good advice about buying, investing, and living in the DR!

@NorberisR 10 ай бұрын

You are so welcome!🤗

@vernonedmonds8596 10 ай бұрын

This was very pleasant 😊 . Just when you think you've seen it all, there's always a story with a different twist. Its unrealistic to be in your 40's and 50's and marry a girl in their early 20's. While you're filing her papers, she is already making plans with someone else. The women are worth it if you take the time to immerse yourself in the relationship. That means getting to know her aswell as her family, and that can't be done 5 or 8 thousand miles away. 💯

@NorberisR 10 ай бұрын

Yes, thanks for sharing.

@Dee-pj7hh 10 ай бұрын

Your winning too James 👍👍👍. You made a great point too. They always publish one side of the story. I for one would love to hear the other side. I wish, I wish someone will find there woman; put them on camera and let them tell their side of the story. Some of these guys need to understand too, they are the problem. If you’re dating or married to any Latin woman, your dating and or married to the immediate family Period. ( don’t mean your an ATM) Immerse yourself in the family and the culture. Kinda wonder how guys don’t understand this yet. Great topic guys. 👍👍👍👍

@NorberisR 10 ай бұрын

Perfectly said, thank you.

@lt5550 8 ай бұрын

First and foremost, excellent video. Im Latino and spent about 10 years exploring DR. Dated and also had a long-term relationship, which for the most part was positive, but cultural differences made it challenging at times. The island is very beautiful scenecally and has a lot to offer. I agree with you regarding culture. If you dont understand the culture, then there will be issues. I think you should immerse yourself in the culture as much as you can, but your Dominican partner must also be willing to embrace yours. I think that is why Norberis and yourself have such a good relationship. She spent time in the U S. and had a chance to understand how things work outside of the island. My issue was with the negative aspects of the culture that I experienced firsthand. The "get the gringo mindset was one of the biggest one" That feeling of prices and services being one price for you and another for the local, never sat right with me amongst other things. There is good and bad everywhere, but in order for me to cosign dating on the island 🏝 Just like you said, vetting and heading the red flags is a must! As I mentioned before there should be a mutual desire to embrace each others culture, if it will only be one sided, then its a no go. I understand folks get upset when the negatives are mentioned, but if we only paint 🌈 rainbows and ☀️ sunshine, then we are simply being disingenuous. Yes you can find love in DR, put proceed with caution and do your homework 🍷 Constructive criticism is not necessarily aleays a bad thing.

@NorberisR 8 ай бұрын

Who gets upset when negatives are mentioned? And who paints sunshine and rainbows all the time?

@onlythereal6067 4 ай бұрын

I appreciate the maturity and transparency of this conversation. Definitely found this useful

@NorberisR 4 ай бұрын

Thank you. Glad it was helpful!

@smokejoe14 6 ай бұрын

Met my Dominican wife in early 2010, married in May 2011.... still blessed to this day! Living in the US but we do have a house in Santiago... enjoy both of ya'll videos

@NorberisR 6 ай бұрын

That is awesome! Thank you.

@kwedog2373 10 ай бұрын

Thanks for the advice...For the record, i love the DR and I especially like Santo Domingo...I have had nothing but great experiences in the DR. I will keep your advice in mind for the next visit to the DR. The DR is one of the two places I'm looking to relocate to. Now saying that. I did do research on the country and city before I went so I wasn't an obvious target. If you use common sense and pay attention you will be fine.

@NorberisR 10 ай бұрын

We agree.

@RuthlessxNexus 8 ай бұрын

I’ve been looking into whether or not for the past few years to head back there, not really to date, but to more or less just find that woman for me over there, and I’ll be honest, I’ll just put my two piece here.  I think the idea of having to date is to think of it like: You’re dating because you want to secure the bag with someone you know very well would be worth your time. You shouldn’t be dating if all you wanna do is just, sling yourself onto other people just because you want to, that’s not really the most sensible idea when it comes to dating. I know this very well, and I haven’t thought about dating women in years, purely because I’ve just been focused on my own life, and just making bread, but I can’t just focus on that 24/7 for the rest of my life. I think I would have to agree with that. Always listen to both sides of a story, and view things under a tinted lens of like “Okay what this person is telling me probably doesn’t sound like the the truth, I’m gonna go with this other person.” And listening to what people say is key. Understanding context clues of what the person said is key to understanding whether or not the person is just talking out of their ass or if they just want to say something to just let you know, to look out for you, sort of speak. I think in terms of age, it should really be looked at in a case to case bases. I personally am of the opinion that I don’t want to date someone above my age, because that would be dating like my mom (I’m 23 currently as of writing this.) and I don’t want to date someone that’s well above my age. The whole Social media thing is a huge turn off, but I will say that it is true, that people think of that shit as currency, when the real currency out there is to work. In terms of their socio economic status, if they’re like poor, like poor poor, like they don’t even have a house poor, you gotta think of it more or less as like: Yes, you can help this person out the best way you can, but there’s only so much you can do, til your like “I have other things to do that’s important.” Because some people may not even want to listen to what it is you gotta say, even when it’s beneficial to them. Like, I’m of the firm belief that financial literacy is key, and you definitely don’t see that kind of stuff be put in women now in days in the US. So the whole social media thing, and finances go hand in hand, not just in women, but in some men where, they just don’t want to work, or do shit that they’re supposed to, and you gotta find what works for you in the end of the day, and if that person just, don’t want to get some help out of you, and instead does a one night stand, leaves, then ask for some money from you when you wake up, then don’t even bother with her, just stop contacting her all together. There’s a certain point where you gotta think like, even though you’re providing for someone, you gotta think about yourself too. Some women may not even be there because they like you like that, they like your company, but not you, which case, it’s best to just forget about them. I think I agree with that, being selective is one huge determination on what kind of woman you want, because not every woman in the Dominican Republic is the same as the next. Women in Sosua aren’t going to be like women in Santo Domingo, and the ones in SD aren’t going to be like the ones at the camps. It’s different lifestyles, different sort of, subsects of the same culture, because they are Dominican, just not, the one you would want to be with necessarily. It’s really the area of the island you’re in. I do 100% agree on that. It doesn’t matter how good looking the woman is, if you’ve known her for a couple of months, and she’s like “Lets live together.” Thats where you gotta like, tell her to take a step back and let her know that you still love her, but, you can’t just take things THAT far into the relationship, you’re just taking too many steps too quickly in that case, and I’ve seen that happen to friends and family members. Don’t really have this Money > Necessities mindset, because that materialistic mindset can easily be replaced by stuff that, while it may not look as good, it can literally replace most of the shit you have on you already, and while it may not be pretty, it get’s the job done. I do also 100% agree. I get it that if you come from a decently wealthy background or you come from a hard working background, and you wanna find a woman over there and stuff, but if the girl comes up and is like “My parents are dying.” All you can literally do is pray, because you’re not a bank. If she sees you as $$$, then all you can really tell her is just, you hope she gets better. I have to agree with her on that, if someone is just consistently lying to you in front of your face, cut them off immediately. It’s like a leech, you don’t want to get a blood sucking leech on your skin when they don’t provide any benefit to you. I think that’s a big factor when it comes to being in love with someone from there, that you need to show effort, take your time to get to know them, and to just not rush it. Let life go the way it goes, and just, show that you’re interested. The thing that I see in myself is that, I actually am interested in learning the language, the culture, the setting, everything, to the point that I’ll even ask my mom face to face, rather than through text, of “Hey mom, in your culture, how do you say/do this.” And she’ll teach me. That’s something I genuinely appreciate because, I genuinely don’t have much to do in my spare time other than just work, and to focus on myself is all. So it’s like, I have all these books and really do want to learn Spanish, but because I got so many things to do, I’ll see if in the meantime, if I can just take it a little easier, and just, learn, and work as I go along, because I don’t want to just, go there and rush finding a girlfriend, when I may just end up treating her bad because of my own negligence, and then she dumps me because of shit I did/say, and I’m left in the dust; this has happened to me before from memory, and she has dumped me before, and I can say from several times previously, it was my fault, I learned from what I did, and say, and all that, and would rather evolve and move on from it, then bring past flame back, and just not learn from what I did. It’s better to treat a human being with the saying “Treat people the way they want to be treated.” And not “Treat people however the hell you want.” Because some people just may not like that, especially the women. If you can’t respect the women, they’re going to find it harder to respect you, when you can’t respect yourself in that sense. 100% having a plan is a big thing when it comes to finding that certain someone, not just in RD. You just need to talk, communication is Key. Like if I find the right one, and she says she wants to head to the US, I’m 100% down to do her paperwork, it’s just she’s gotta be sure she’s gonna stay with me is all, think and thin, through and through. I got family that helped out their own spouses with that, and they’ve all but just lived their own lives as normal afterwards. So if anything, having a game plan is key.

@NorberisR 8 ай бұрын

Thanks for sharing🤗

@antoniothomas3862 10 ай бұрын

Being in SPM I really haven't experienced a lot of those things that people talk about that they say goes on in DR. I agree 100% of everything y'all are saying. Regardless of what idiots say in the comments. You really have to have that mindset of being versatile. Because it's not just they are coming into your life. You're also coming into their life as well. I made one mistake that I wish I would've had a plan. But after 4 1/2 years we are still pushing forward. I love Dominican culture. Oh and bro my wife cuts my nails too. ☺️☺️. So y'all keep doing what y'all are doing. You're helping a lot of people. Because some have no clue.

@NorberisR 10 ай бұрын

Thank you. Glad you enjoyed the video.

@berniebutler5549 10 ай бұрын

It is ABSOLUTELY 1000% Worth it!! As in any country with any culture there's going to be women that are only out for money, nowhere is that more prevalent than the US. But I know from experience that you can meet BEAUTIFUL, Model type women in the Dominican republic that are genuinely looking for a good man, where in the US those beautiful women are mostly STUCK UP AND MATERIALISTIC. I am going to Santo Domingo next month and I can't wait!!

@archangelvvv 10 ай бұрын

100% CORRECT! Like you I am also from the U.S. I can't wait to return to Santo Domingo and for me it would be like a home coming for reason some time ago I lived there for 2 Years! Beautiful people, Beautiful culture!

@NorberisR 10 ай бұрын

Thank you. Enjoy yourself in Santo Domingo.

@MBCrusin 10 ай бұрын

As a Dominican women I will tell you if you are attractiing stuck up materialistic women in US. You are going to meet those same women in Dominican Republic. It’s something you are doing that’s attracting those women. Best wishes

@kalumacuellosantana8388 5 ай бұрын

Totalmente de acuerdo. Todas las culturas tienen personas interesada solo en lo económico. Pero la mayoría quieren un compañero de lucha en la vida 💛

@donpop_gxp 3 ай бұрын

It didn't work out with my ex fiance from Santo Domingo but I'll try again 🙏

@WhipstrTV 4 ай бұрын

Wow! This was Awesome. I'll be coming to see you guys in the DR Very soon....lolol #respect

@NorberisR 4 ай бұрын

Thank you🤗💛

@keikeigallard 10 ай бұрын

Currently dating a man in Dr here now visiting him in higuey. Leaving today he has his own place a vehicle he said can stay as long as I like. I also heard bad stories about Dominican men. So far he has changed my views

@NorberisR 10 ай бұрын

That's good. Not all Dominican men are bad.

@JerrySheilaIslandliving 5 ай бұрын

Wow, I can’t agree more! Here in DR I’ve heard that a lot, age isn’t important but as you said that will come at a cost. There would be too many differences in the long run.

@NorberisR 5 ай бұрын

Yes and that's when the problems start.

@aldwynsamuel8319 10 ай бұрын

When get to the DR, I'm taking you both out for a meal... Thanks you both for educating folks who think it's get off the plane and all the eye Candy is sweet.

@NorberisR 9 ай бұрын

You're welcome. Let us know next time you're in Santo Domingo.

@lenny364 9 ай бұрын

It is sound advice you both gave. Norberis looks for the good in people. James expect the worse and adapt according. LoL..Most men of a mature age do not want a woman of the same age. Men comes with egos as well. I agree never lead with you wallet. Yes a woman with a business or job, motivated to learning with a good sense of humor, fit, feminine is a much more attractive person. Interesting James says know where a person comes from. Apples never fall far from the tree. I also see Norberis point that sometimes the Diamond is in rough and just needs polishing. Divide by two and add 7 is a great rule. I always look at how a woman treats someone who is not as fortunate. It says a lot about who she is. Great content. One for the archives. God bless.

@NorberisR 9 ай бұрын

Great assessment. Thanks for sharing this.

@rodrain2 10 ай бұрын

I think the best advice is vetting and not leading with your wallet. I met a good woman relatively quickly and those 2 things worked well for me.

@NorberisR 10 ай бұрын

Well said!

@RickTech-wx6oj 7 ай бұрын

did she asked for money ?

@rodrain2 7 ай бұрын

@@RickTech-wx6oj no

@kevindela3371 10 ай бұрын

I have talked with and dated several Dominicanas. With the goal to meet someone before I am able to move part time or full time to DR. Unfortunately long distance dating DOES NOT WORK. But it can work if you are there on the Island. I know of numerous happy relationships. Vet and pay attention to red flags

@elegal184 9 ай бұрын

I can tell you that long distance relationships/dating do work. It may not work for you, but it works for others, such as myself. I have been dating one person a little over one year. She lives in DR. I work in the US, and travel to DR minimum six times per year. It’s only a 3 hour flight. To me it’s equivalent to visiting my family members in Pennsylvania, while I live in NYC. I have stayed out there for months at a time, working remotely, unfortunately paying a small fee for over-staying , but that’s my contribution to the government/airlines. Now I just travel back and forth, but stay two weeks at a time. I have keys to her apartment, and I just show up. She’s 13 years my junior and we have excellent communication. Yes, I speak fluent Spanish and have been fully immersed in the culture since I was 11 years old. I am 44. Long distance DOES WORK! It also worked for a good friend of mine for 3 years, and his wife now lives with him here in the US.

@TheDominicanRoute 9 ай бұрын

Great Points 💪🏽🫡

@gigcleveland9740 6 ай бұрын

Being in the Dominican. Jay is right. Don’t be in a hurry. But learning the language is very important! Or at least have a good level of conversation. Men are visual but they let that run their lives. Instead of knowing them. There are plenty of good decent woman out there in the Dr.

@JermiahCrawford21 9 ай бұрын

Yes it’s worth it, put it like this I can’t wait to go back to DR and date. But yes, Dominican women are the best

@NorberisR 9 ай бұрын

🤗🇩🇴

@terrygregg89 7 ай бұрын

Terry from Los Angeles, California. Really? Really good video. My fiancé is there in the Dominican Republic. And I am definitely thinking about moving there in the near future

@1mikesofocused42 6 ай бұрын

I got me a Dominican woman and I haven't looked back ever since there's a side to everyone and their mentality. I have a heightened sense of awareness when it comes down to dating a woman as a grown man

@CHI-TOWN-CHICAGO 9 ай бұрын

This is an excellent content! Viva James and Norberis! ASE!

@NorberisR 9 ай бұрын

Thank you.

@izzyizzyizzy5638 10 ай бұрын

All men pay one way or other. Whether that be in USA or a third world country. If you choose to pursue a woman who is not financially well off as you EXPECT her to ask for money like clock work.

@filmjunkie4034 2 ай бұрын

Love this video & the commentary from the both of you: deeply informative & straight to the point.

@NorberisR 2 ай бұрын

Glad you liked it...

@Brandon-cr9if 9 ай бұрын

@16:30 & @35:25 this guy is smart. I could take advice from him

@NorberisR 9 ай бұрын

Thank you, ill let him know you said this.

@dfossco7925 6 ай бұрын

I been dating my female for 3 years because I want to hear the truth about different perspectives

@walteranderson2507 5 ай бұрын

Both of you brought up good and factual information. If a person is not receptive to cultural immersion and learning the language and customs. Stay in the matrix of the US. Nuff said! I'm gonna change my nickname from El Nigro de Bate to Avenida "Lope de Vega" (where my Airbnb is).😅😂😅

@NorberisR 5 ай бұрын

😂🤣

@moebetter3143 9 ай бұрын

Great advice, I'm a little biased towards Santo Domingo myself. Although i have been to several other parts of the island. I agree it's not the whole town of sosua it's mainly them 7 blocks lol. Great video. You can find a good woman in any in just about anywhere on the island by the places that are known tourist areas will attract a different type of woman from the Island

@NorberisR 9 ай бұрын

Well said!

@RickTech-wx6oj 7 ай бұрын

I dated a girl in SD for a week, i left the DR after my week but we talked for three months. she asked me for money by the third month LDR. her situation was legit about her mom spending time in the hospital but i got defensive and told her no. i lost her after that. but i didnt know any better. you live and learn. its best if i find a girl and date her over there. i think it will be a lot different. dont do long distance. the reason why i didnt give her money was i thought gold diggers ask for money and a girl should love you of who you are. but i didnt know that it was an expectation because of their status and its hard for them to pay bills.

@NorberisR 7 ай бұрын

I think it's better to date while you are living here. But there are some who do the long distant relationship and it works.

@RickTech-wx6oj 7 ай бұрын

@@NorberisR Help me understand the cutlure and the situation. is that what every dominican women expect from their men? to give them money when they need it? or give them a monthly pension? so im aware of what exptected when i go back. im naive as to whats happening

@anon2143 Ай бұрын

Yes, of course, because love pays the bills; and you only with her because you like her personality. :D 😀

@StreamlineLLEMA 8 ай бұрын

James and Norboreis im a big fan for years of your channel. I am visiting my woman's family in Santo Domingo

@NorberisR 8 ай бұрын

That's great. Is this your first visiting? And what part of Santo Domingo does she live?

@StreamlineLLEMA 8 ай бұрын

@@NorberisRyes it is my first time ever and she lives in Santo Domingo East

@NorberisR 8 ай бұрын

Wow, I hope you are enjoying yourself.

@mr.ashley1741 10 ай бұрын

Thanks for the tips. You make things much better

@NorberisR 10 ай бұрын

You're welcome 😊

@PANTYRAlDER 10 ай бұрын

You gave some good information. I'm going to write ✍️ those street names you mentioned and hang out in that area when I get a chance

@JaimeRobledodotcom 8 ай бұрын

Dating in the Dominican Republic is similar to dating in any other location. It's essential for individuals to refrain from dating minors, as it is inappropriate and disturbing. Additionally, not everything associated with Gittle's is necessarily valuable; it's crucial to ensure your well-being in mind, body, and soul before entering the dating scene. Many people rush into relationships without being adequately prepared, so it's important to be ready for the journey ahead.

@NorberisR 8 ай бұрын

You are correct 😊

@adamjiminez9605 10 ай бұрын

Talk about it James!

@AmpFonzo 10 ай бұрын

Good info. I was telling the people at casa Linda that I didn’t want to purchase there because of the reputation of Sosua. My next visit I’m looking in Santo Domingo but concerned about the hurricane season

@chulah4051 10 ай бұрын

I think you will be ok in a high rise.

@NorberisR 10 ай бұрын

Unless you're living near rivers or the Campo in unstable housing then there is no real reason to be concern. In the city the most you see is flooding

@AmpFonzo 10 ай бұрын

@@NorberisR thanks that’s great info to consider on my search

@donalddavis6689 6 ай бұрын

I Like This Video!! So True Of A Saying!! You Can Go Anywhere And Date!! But!! For The Man And Woman!! You Have To Get To Know The Person From The Heart And Be On The Same Level As Each Other.

@mariajackson2570 10 ай бұрын

Great segment as always. Santo Domingo definitely has my heart and where I plan to live one day. But I’ve loved every place that I’ve visited so far. I know both men and women from the US that are dating in RD. Mixed experiences but nothing crazy. For sure you’ll see a different class of people in Piantini. Like they’re saying, don’t rush into anything and pay attention. BTW James and Norberis do yall have any doctor or lawyer friends there that yall can introduce me to 😝jk

@kmack4191 10 ай бұрын

I agree with you James. I like SDQ. You have to know where to go or have someone who lives there to show you

@NorberisR 10 ай бұрын

I agree.

@XYRN02 9 ай бұрын

Great Video and EVEN GREATER INFORMATION…

@NorberisR 9 ай бұрын

Thank you☺️

@mala-mal9696 10 ай бұрын

This was a very good and true segment thanks for the great content

@NorberisR 10 ай бұрын

Our pleasure!

@billisrael6676 3 ай бұрын

Good video. I agree with 99% of what you say. I am living in Juan Dolio full time. And it is difficult to meet a woman of any age that wants a relationship. I have talked to many men that think the woman here are bad. They come here and get married or have a girlfriend, return to their country and do not come back here for 6 months to a year. Then they say the woman cheated on them. First I ask if they have had any sex in their country? And then I ask how do you expect a woman to stay faithful for a year when I doubt he is. As you have said in another video the women here love sex. About age gaps. I don't necessarily age. But it must be the right woman that is mature. If she likes going to a disco most Saturday nights until 3am she will probably not be very mature. I have meet women that are mid 20"s to mid 50"s and age doesn't mean they are mature. Some women are only looking for a dollar. Only worrying about today and can not see tomorrow. When I talk to them and they ask for money after the first few conversations or dates I block them. There are good women here you simply have to go slow. And You are correct never lead with your wallet. I have been told I am a stingy man. I pay for dinners and drinks but never give anyone money who go out on a date with me. And what type of man doesn't have a plan for his life? How can he go anywhere and not know what he will want for his life in the future. Have a plan in place before you go to any country.

@NorberisR 3 ай бұрын

Thanks for sharing this feedback.

@gj0628 7 ай бұрын

Good advice bro. I’m considering Dominican or Spain with South Africa in my mind.

@NorberisR 7 ай бұрын

Sounds great.

@gj0628 7 ай бұрын

@@NorberisR y’all have a great story continued success and blessings

@NorberisR 7 ай бұрын

Thank you, we appreciate it.

@gj0628 7 ай бұрын

@@NorberisR you welcome. Tell your husband I’m getting a hr job in Florida lol.

@NorberisR 7 ай бұрын

I will😀

@AphrooneRichardson 6 ай бұрын

Bravo tio Jay and tia Norberis! I'm age 73 in June 2024! Dating in the DR has been great for me! I'm a Passport Gentleman! She got the HONEY! I got the MONEY! Mi amigas let go inside and hablas de negocios! I'm the PRIZE and she's the CATCH!

@EL_SID7 10 ай бұрын

Great video! I'm hoping to visit DR in the near future. Keep up the good work!

@NorberisR 10 ай бұрын

Thank you! Will do!

@TrinileBaez 3 ай бұрын

I married a domincan man in 2013 we had a rough time because of language barrier i learnt his language but he still doesn't speak English he got here we still married but i guess mine was a scam....😢 because he start changing when i got his son here last year then kept lying to me coming back to where we lived together and moved up north with his son because his sister helped with care of his disabled son we had a sitter but things didn't work out now he left me 😢and said he needs to take care his son ....ok....but what about our marriage i guess he planned this all along i should of seen the signs when he didnt get close to me or want o go out wirh me for the 8 years we been together and always say he want his son here before we have children wooow this was shocking i also have a friend happened to him with a domincan woman but im trying to heal he blocked me from everything to contact him and i dont know what going on with our marriage

@NorberisR 3 ай бұрын

Sorry, hear this but it seems there were many red flags along the way.

@steverose7122 10 ай бұрын

I had no problems dating in the Dominican before i met my now wife. you have to go through a thorough vetting process.

@NorberisR 10 ай бұрын

Yes, exactly.

@percy1952potts 10 ай бұрын

Greetings. I enjoy your videos. I have been traveling to the Dominican Republic for the last three years. I recently pay a down payment on a condo in Santo Domingo. The building is under construction, to be completed in 2025. In the mean time, I am getting more familiar with Santo Domingo. I’m a single man looking to meet successful and stable single women in the DR. Your husband mentioned different locations where these women hang out. Can you and he provide me with those locations. I spent 12 days there in January and plan to return in April. Thanks, Kelvin

@NorberisR 10 ай бұрын

Areas like Piantini, Naco, and Bella Vista you'll find bars and restaurants where mature women go. Places like Revel, La Posta, Brickell Rooftop, La Otra Bar, are nices places to visit.

@percy1952potts 10 ай бұрын

@@NorberisR Thank you! Much appreciated!

@meego_marron4202 9 ай бұрын

Very wise man ! 🙏

@NorberisR 9 ай бұрын

Thank you 🙌

@FrankGrabbe 10 ай бұрын

Hello, what can I say about that. Opinions on this topic are always based on personal experiences, observations and, if necessary, statistics. Ultimately, matters of the heart can always be discussed controversially, while those directly involved often do not see this. Amore is supposed to make you blind. I also think that a relationship between a sixty-year-old man and a twenty-year-old chica probably doesn't have much chance of success in the long term. But I also think this doesn't just apply to the DR. Perhaps in the DR a large age difference within a relationship between a man and a woman is the least of a problem. (depending on the body type and mentality of the man 😂). The real question is why such relationships are more common in the Dominican Republic. What is the chica's intuition and what is the man's intuition for such a decision? That's where I see the problem. Furthermore, I would never claim that such a relationship cannot work and not everywhere. My aunt was married to a man who was over 30 years older than me for almost 30 years until his death. I also see a big problem in the disastrous development of many young people in the DR, especially the Chica. The ever-increasing moral decay that has been triggered by social media and its dubious offshoots in order to make money with sex and is completely contrary to the actual culture of the Dominicans. This leaves me with little hope for the future of the young chicas. The government should slowly do something about it. I don't mean bans; Framework conditions and rules should be created. Young people need to be educated in school about the many negative effects of the World Wide Web. Otherwise, in the near future, with the increase in AI tools, each of these girls risks being denounced online. In no other country in the world do so many chicas pose with their butts and present themselves in provocative poses on their social media accounts as in the Dominican Republic. If you look at this in relation to the total population of the Dominican Republic, you get this impression. Unfortunately!

@NorberisR 10 ай бұрын

Thanks for sharing this opinion.

@aaramonyqueens5681 10 ай бұрын

Perfect saying 💪

@ngcoleman90 10 ай бұрын

Oo man I love how yall hit the very topics I been wondering about. 33 yo no kids, really want a family with a domincan woman treat her like a queen. Really want to sign up

@NorberisR 10 ай бұрын

Thank you.

@desmondcharles 7 ай бұрын

It’s hard to find one in her 30’s with no kids . They start putting them out early over here . I live in San Pedro.

@dando133 9 ай бұрын

At the end... "Are you going to take care of me?" A good Dominican woman takes care of their husband. That is what a man looks for in a woman. Men visiting are looking for looks or the BBL and end up upset when they are taken for a dummy. Get to know the woman and the family. Don't go by looks alone.

@NorberisR 9 ай бұрын

I agree.

@curtisjones8693 10 ай бұрын

I Agee with most of the video I stayed in San Domingo a month and will be in San Domingo again for the month of May. If there is smoke there is fire to many bad stories on dating in the DR something has to be true. I even have watch American Dominicans say they won't get ladies from the island. Just watch one yesterday. When I was in the DR I felt that many ladies really did not want be seen with a gringo maybe I was paranoid. I see you at very nice clubs with classy women but many of those lady don't want to be seen with a gringo. I dated a few and local guys would say to them are you dating a gringo what wrong with you or her friends say hey a Dominican won't want you if you date gringos. If you dating a gringo especially a black one. I dated Profesional one it was obvious to me she was hiding me not letting her friends and family know because the gringo thing would come up. Not saying all but alot. I tried talking to some on the malcon in SD on Sunday and got no play but saw her on Monday and got her Whatsapp and she even said I could not talk to you on Sunday because my family and friends were there and would of talk trash . I speak Spanish but can't dance. There are many Americans in San Domingo and they are dating same type in Sousa. The few older professionals I met had hit the wall. Dominican women hit the wall early example there many beautiful women in the DR so a professionals Dominican man has a loads of options so a 35 year old single Dominican woman has to compete against younger Dominican ladies she will lose most time like in the US so she also might have a kid or kids she knows not many local men with money will want her and her kid even though she is a professional so she will say I date me a gringo and say I don't care what family and friends say because her options are very low to get a professionals local with her kids but I be back in SD again in May for a month and puerta plata in Jun for a month I take your advice and see how it goes. I see many classey women in the clubs you show on line but no gringo meeting nobody out of there that why they don't go especially in front of locals you have a better chance at the bus stop while she alone and nobody she knows see her talking to a gringo.

@NorberisR 10 ай бұрын

You're right when there is smoke there's fire. We are not denying that. We never said anyone was lying. But only one party gets blamed for starting that fire. We said only one side of the story get told. We also said there are red flags that many guys ignore along the way before it gets to that point. We know this because we speak to these guys directly. We aren't speaking in hypothetical. Just like we can't discount your experience you just mentioned however we know at least 10 Dominican/American couples personally, that says to us what you are saying isn't completely true. It's just your experience. My point and will always be point is there are people who have positive relationships here but all you hear about is the bad ones. Like my husband said not everyone is losing in their relationships.

@curtisjones8693 10 ай бұрын

@@NorberisR you are correct in your answer. Many not many but alot of gringos do mess things up and then blame the Dominican woman. You are correct.

@bermudabreeze2088 10 ай бұрын

Immerse yourself into Dominican culture. Learn the language. Don't be thirsty and enjoy life in that beautiful country. You'll be surprised that the chips will fall in your favor very often, pertaining to the ladies.

@NorberisR 9 ай бұрын

Well said.

@JB_gliding 10 ай бұрын

Good stuff

@NorberisR 10 ай бұрын

Thank you.

@Dwill29s 8 ай бұрын

Dame I always loved the way your husband explains stuff brotha you'd make great father brotha seriously 😂just haveing your mind set makes you great father potential in my opinion 🙏 God bless you both soo sooo educational but also always beautiful cuople you both are so motivating for me I want what you bouth have built mentally together and financially and happiness in your relationship ❤❤

@NorberisR 8 ай бұрын

Thank you. We appreciate this🤗

@PHDaGoat 7 ай бұрын

My friend she live in Santo Domingo. I’m coming there in May

@NorberisR 7 ай бұрын

That's great. Is this your first trip?

@almerichendricks5425 10 ай бұрын

Facts 💯❤️👍🏿💎 Thanks

@NorberisR 9 ай бұрын

Our pleasure 🙏🏾

@mrwill1779 10 ай бұрын

Great video

@NorberisR 10 ай бұрын

Thanks!

@jimmydavis4735 2 ай бұрын

Great Advice ...Especially OnThe Age Gap I'm Trying To Be Cautious About But It I've Heard Filipinas and People Say Age Doesn't Matter In Phillipines I Don't Believe It I'm Hearing Horror Stories About Older Expats Especially Being Played In The Philippines.

@NorberisR 2 ай бұрын

Thanks.

@Juancarlossantana2023 10 ай бұрын

Great info

@NorberisR 10 ай бұрын

Glad it was helpful!

@power-of-the-bluebook 10 ай бұрын

I found my wife in Puerto plata. While on vacation with my mother. If you choose to date women in sosua and Boco Chica or in night clubs then that is the type of woman you will get. They are for a good time. But If you are serious about finding a wife then you will meet her in the supermarket church the mall at her job or out and about in the city or the county side. These type of women have morals and are family oriented. I'm 40 and my wife is 30 so the age gap is not too big and we have a lot in common .my advice to the older men is to stay within 15 years or so of your age..

@NorberisR 10 ай бұрын

Great story, thanks for sharing 👍🏾

@jasonfields7657 8 ай бұрын

Amazing video … thank you!!

@NorberisR 8 ай бұрын

Our pleasure!

@veronicascott1477 10 ай бұрын

Another great video😊 hubbies looking a little scruffy😂

@NorberisR 10 ай бұрын

Thank you. Yes he is letting his beard grow out😅

@ccon8 9 ай бұрын

Great video! What is your husband’s channel?

@NorberisR 9 ай бұрын

He has 2 channels @JayAbroad and @allwingseverything

@magiala5577 10 ай бұрын

What are y’all thoughts on San Pedro de Macorís?

@NorberisR 10 ай бұрын

Regarding what?

@magiala5577 10 ай бұрын

People from there.

@NorberisR 10 ай бұрын

Never been spent enough time there to have an opinion on the city or people.

@titeofcpt2867 10 ай бұрын

I keep seeing 👀 & hearing that Greg has a channel......well what it called?????

@NorberisR 10 ай бұрын

Who is Greg? Why do you keep asking about Greg?

@justinxten4real657 10 ай бұрын

I was in Santa Domingo January 26 on the street with my girl ( La Romana) and a Moto driver snatched my phone 🤳. If the street weren't packed due to some team celebration, he woulda got away with my shit. I swear 2God

@NorberisR 10 ай бұрын

Thats what they do over here, snatch your phone.

@bretttittle3966 2 ай бұрын

Great view same as women all over the world not necessarily gold diggers but wants a better life no love involved they do what they feel they need to do and only have one thing to offer or use it as control

@NorberisR 2 ай бұрын

🤔

@aneesahzakee8726 8 ай бұрын

I mean this had some good general points but I need info on what dating Dominican men is like as a foreign woman

@NorberisR 8 ай бұрын

I don't know any Dominican men who've dated foreign women but I can make a video on my experience before I was married and family and friends experience dating Dominican men.

@othelo6 10 ай бұрын

My fiancee is in Santiago love it

@logicwins3492 10 ай бұрын

"I pray for her" 😂😂😂

@NorberisR 10 ай бұрын

😅

@CHI-TOWN-CHICAGO 9 ай бұрын

Question! Where do the educated, business-mind, business owner latina women hangout at?

@NorberisR 9 ай бұрын

Santo Domingo and Santiago.

@Dakkadot01 8 ай бұрын

That country is amazing...Endless types of people to meet...You MUST learn the culture, people, traditions, and gender roles. My dream is to marry a girl from there..BUT....You must understand the situation is extremely different there then in the states. So you have to understand the frustration these women go through to provide for their kids. So you as a man must understand the territory that will come with dating there.

@NorberisR 8 ай бұрын

Well said🤗

@Dakkadot01 8 ай бұрын

@@NorberisR By the way! I just booked my flight to go spend Christmas and New Years out there! I heard its one of the best times ever!!!

@NorberisR 8 ай бұрын

That's good. Yes you will enjoy yourself.

@khalidelshabazz4020 6 ай бұрын

What part of the Island James? I want to know

@NorberisR 6 ай бұрын

If you are asking about the women, he said the entire island.