NOT DEPRESSED, JUST VERY VERY SAD

[@ashleymatney6078]

My beautiful mother (someone who would never even step to the porch without makeup on, hair fixed, and nails painted ☺️) suffered from dementia. The last year of her life, I don’t think I drove home once without tears in my eyes. Some days she knew me, others she didn’t. I’m a Registered Nurse, and often times, others would say ‘your mom is fortunate to have someone like you who knows this process and can help her’. Truth is, when it’s a loved one, no amount of training in the world can prepare us for that journey. Stay strong, friend.

[@WayneGoss]

Reading so many comments on here and makes me sad for each and everyone of you that has had an experience of this kind. Bless you and bless you all! ❤️

[@rene443hgtj]

Fellow nurse in same boat. You grieve whom was dreading day you will grieve whom they have become. Huggs and prayers for all of us.❤

[@terrirojas]

@@WayneGoss Bless you. Dementia in all its forms, is more common than people unaffected realize. Hope you're finding you're not alone and also feeling supported.

[@donnapowers7815]

@@rene443hgtjSame

[@squaresquares1981]

My dad (84) is in the advanced stage of dementia. I'm crushed. It's horrific and has left me not wanting to go on. Torture.

[@palagold4926]

💜It's difficult to mourn the loss of a loved one while they're still living.

[@suzewuk]

Beautifully said ❤

[@mandymagee4943]

❤😢

[@mandymagee4943]

❤😢

[@AlanaByTheShore]

I did that during the last few years of my mother's life. 😢😢😢 My mother had dementia from her condition. She never forgot me though. Since she's passed, it hasn't gotten easier, but it might have helped a teensy bit. Grieving and coping with her illnesses and stuff held me back in ways, and it put me in a dark space mentally. It took me a while to overcome, and I'm still hoping and grieving. It's been a little over 4 years since my mom passed away. 😢

[@BlingyBea]

@@AlanaByTheShoreI’m so sorry for your loss. I’m dealing with my sister who has dementia, she was diagnosed at a young age 69 and she’s 74 now. I’m 70 and she’s my best friend. We use to confide in each other, I miss that. She still knows who I am but she’s lost the ability to talk. She says words but nothing makes any sense, very heartbreaking. I try to get her out of the house as often as I can, just to get her out, I take her with me when I have errands to run. I just pray that she doesn’t suffer, such a cruel disease. Bless you🙏🏻❤️

[@vickibazter3446]

Wayne, It means a lot for you to share. I appreciate it. We love you. It is very difficult. You're a very kind man. ❤

[@WayneGoss]

That’s very nice of you to say Vicki 😊xx

[@hannliev]

​@@WayneGoss we love love you Wayne. Be kind to yourself. ❤

[@Assyrianspirit]

You're such a good person ❤ I Think It's normal to feel sad, I am most of the time 😂 I feel you 😊

[@KH-qc9rl]

Sending love and prayers. Have always liked and appreciated you so much and wish all the best for you xx

[@angelapasky4660]

❤❤❤

[@PennyRossfairy_dust_]

Thank you for sharing Wayne🩵 Myself, I have recently been diagnosed with dementia. I am young, 51 years. My biggest fear is loosing my memory of my 3 loving boys, my mom, my dad, so many more. My family , I believe are helping me, daily. There are good days and bad days. I can remember certain times in my life, but am Not certain how much. I pray for the stuffings people may or are going through in their lives. Love you, Wayne and God Bless🩵🙏🏻

[@susangoodwin1640]

Wayne, thank you for sharing. My husband has dementia, as did his mother and older sister. I choose to care for him at home while I can (I am 70). We have our good and non-good days. I exercise, read and watch your videos when I can. The sad days make the good days so special.

[@BlingyBea]

Bless you🙏🏻❤️

[@JClover2]

Wow. Stay strong.

[@JD-ht4wn]

Sending you love❤

[@ck2d]

When my father, who died of dementia, forgot who I was he called me his friend, and I always took that to be a great compliment. Take care ❤

[@lisabenson]

You have helped so many of us, I hope you know how much we love and care for you.

[@WayneGoss]

Thank you Lisa. Really appreciated sweetheart ❤

[@j.t.l.2515]

❤❤❤❤❤❤❤❤❤

[@AnaLuizaHella]

❤❤❤❤❤❤❤❤😂

[@ednaellis6047]

❤❤❤❤❤❤

[@yangjenny3533]

exactly ❤

[@bambina3148]

You’re a beautiful human. Your honesty, integrity and kindness shine through in every video. I feel privileged to have you in my life, as do many others ❤

[@WayneGoss]

Wow, thank you darling! X

[@francescaa7093]

This❤

[@deedeeacquisto8558]

My best friend has Alzheimer’s and it has been sad and difficult for her husband and all of us who love her. But SHE is happy ( at least today)-and blissfully unaware…and we are happy that she is happy. That’s what’s important. We just try to come from a place of love and support, without expectation. That’s all we can do. God bless you Wayne. And try to take it one moment at a time…❤

[@muflbeauty9024]

I feel for you, Wayne. My mother died 4 years ago. She had Alzheimers dementia. It was a hard time for me, but I once came across a saying. "A heart never has dementia, it's the brain." It always seemed to me she couldn't remember my name but for some reason she knew I was a family member. She literally knew it by heart so to say. That was reason enough for her to be happy when we were together. I pray that you experience the same. Give those persons as much love as possible, it's hard enough for them to suffer from this disease. Love to you all, you are a wonderful person. 🙏

[@tanjadomacinovic3078]

So well said, and it's so true... I'm the caregiver to my mother who has dementia. With her brain she doesn’t know anymore who I am, but with her heart she still knows something, not sure how to describe what exactly, but I do matter to her, and not just as a caregiver. It's the strangest thing, I used to call it emotional intelligence, but I'm loving your explanation so much better, thank you for that! ❤

[@SylviaRR]

I love what you said about how, "we are in their world they are not in ours". Perfect. Familiar with this too and the saddness. Thank you for sharing.

[@DonnaDonnan]

Thanks for the reminder. My dad thought he was 72 the other day; next time, I will agree.

[@joananson506]

Oh Wayne. I hear you. I work with those who are dying and their caregivers. Yes it is tragic to watch someone you care for disappear before your eyes. If I may, I offer you this. Walking with someone on this path is a gift. For you to be of service, love and care for another. You do this willingly. Not many people do. They run away. In time, you will look back and feel proud that you did everything you could, no regrets, no guilt. And your loved one with become, in your heart, their shiny selves again. I can't help but love you like crazy. Thank you for sharing your gifts with the world

[@nzaud]

How beautifully put x

[@latherandlace]

Wayne ~ I take care of a woman with dementia every other week for 5 hours a day. Yesterday, the other caregiver found her on the floor with a broken hip. It's terribly sad. I went to see her in the hospital and she was on morphine and made absolutely no sense. It's very sad. My mother passed of complications of dementia. As you said, you just talk as if everything is ok. It's a terrible disease to witness. I'm so sorry. You are such a love. I pray I never get this disease. xox ~lori ❤

[@WayneGoss]

Thank you for asking. I'm doing okay, just taking things day by day. I’m sorry for your upset too. Stay strong 😘😘

[@AnaLuizaHella]

​@@WayneGoss what about trying therapy or counselling? What you're experiencing is very sad and if you could find someone to help you perhaps you could have some relief. I don't know what to say. I just want you to find a secure place where you can talk and share your feelings about all of these problems. It's not easy. It's almost like mourning, sweetie. I wish I was near you to listen to you. We love you. We understand what you're going through. ❤️🙏❤️

[@shoh1541]

I’m soo sorry to hear of this. My grandmother had Alzheimer’s and i and my mom were her caregivers. It was extremely sad, painful and a true test of perseverance and patience. I feel for you and your family. My prayers are with you all.

[@screamtoasigh9984]

Alot is a pet, but A LOT = much of something. If you have a pet alot please tell us how you got this marvellous creature!! ​@@WayneGoss( you might get a little cheer up looking online for a: hyperbole and me alot).

[@screamtoasigh9984]

​@@WayneGosssending ❤ (look up the hyperbole alot animal, the person who wrote about it has severe depression)

[@tinvar2193]

Wayne, we are here because we like you! We are here to listen to whatever you want to share! Try not to forget that!

[@anntocoda1463]

It’s not bleak. It’s reality. We lost my mother in law to this disease and it was heartbreaking. My husband is still grieving deeply at the cruelty of seeing his feisty Mum become so dependent and child like. We learned to enter her world, to be in the moment with her. My father in law held on to her in their home by hiding as much of her needs as possible. He asked for his vows to be done again in the church they married. She loved her day, and knew part of the time that something special was happening. All we can do is love ❤

[@onenativerose]

Omg, thank you for sharing this sad diagnosis. I have CMI which is a form of dementia. I lost my job of many years due to my memory loss and I know there are changes with me. I have withdrawn from being around people even family. Tracking can be difficult, and often I stutter in trying to find words. I often have to re read my books or even important information. My thought process is no longer like before. I don’t wish to live not knowing my spouse or family and when my journey takes me to that place. I wish to leave with dignity. I worked in hospice and my feelings and beliefs are different. My family is supportive. You must just “be” with your family member in that time and space. I feel this disease is more difficult on family and friends to see there loved ones leaving life yet still be present without little joy. Blessings to you and all who are experiencing this sadness.

[@reneklein6049]

Wayne, I so understand your sadness. My mom was diagnosed with Early onset Alzheimer's at 64. She was living with me at the time. She started doing strange things. Putting the oven on self cleaner when there was food cooking inside. The day she called me at work and sobbed that she had spilled red nail polish all over my new rugs. The getting up at night, claiming she needed to go to work, when she hadn't worked in years. The many bathroom accidents. I was working, raising a family, and taking care of my mom. A once vibrant woman, who adored makeup, getting dressed up, and always had her signature Chanel No.5 on. She became someone who didn't want to get dressed, became mean and angry, and told my aunts that we weren't feeding her! She began hoarding food in her room. I finally had to put her in a nursing home, because she became a danger to herself. Her memory faded, she forgot who I was immediately. Anyone taking care of a dementia patient deserves all of the credit in the world. My heart goes out to you and your loved one. ❤❤🫂🫶

[@siri1128]

Working with the elderly everyday I can say dementia is hard to deal with. It is also a hard thankless job to care for them and it is heartbreaking to see them deteriorate back to child like behavior. It is unimaginable if you have not experienced. Wishing you and your loved one all the best. One day at a time and never be afraid to ask for help 🙏🙏🙏

[@WayneGoss]

Thank you darling. Appreciate your message. 😘😘😘

[@BlingyBea]

Bless you🙏🏻❤️

[@paulam408]

My heart goes out to you in dealing with health issues of a loved one. I lost my Mom to cancer in March of 2022. Life has been pretty hard for me since then. I dealt with people who treated me horribly at a vulnerable time in my life. A woman I considered my best friend lied & manipulated a situation in order to get information after my Mom's passing. A man I cared a lot for ghosted me & some other people let me down in other ways. I'm still going through the healing process. I miss my Mom everyday but realize that sometimes people's true colors come out during difficult times. I'm hoping 2025 is a better year for all of us. I love your videos so keep on doing what you do. A fan from Missouri - USA

[@ceebee987]

Thank you so very much for speaking about this. In our fight to bring mental health to light, we've lost sight of how different sadness and depression are. Too many health care practitioners simply shove anti-depressants down your throat when what we require is support, love, understanding, a shoulder, and perhaps a little assistance. Dementia is so all encompassing and sad and leaves you grieving while the family member or friend is still sitting right beside you. There is little more difficult than that. So much love and understanding is being sent your way.

[@WayneGoss]

Thank you so very much darling! X

[@jp3sjs]

my father-in-law passed 2 weeks ago, from dementia. he was 85 and suffered with it for 8 years. i loved what you said about us being a part of their world. it’s very true. i coached family members to remove “do you remember?” from their vocabulary (since it’s not helpful for a person with memory issues to hear that). i learned that we could make each day a new adventure and really be present in what the day would bring. sometimes there were really sad days. dad taught me a lot about perspective, compassion, and fortitude.

[@AnneMariewx]

My heart hurts for all of you. I have walked in your shoes. Please do one thing everyday that brings you joy. Praying for you.

[@mgromz]

My dad suffers from dementia and I’m his main caregiver. He doesn’t know he is my father, but knows I’m someone who cares about him. We do the best we can, and our loved ones who suffer from this awful disease know they’re loved. ❤❤

[@stellaelise8488]

Wow this is so touching

[@wackthegood8884]

Yes, this is my life too. My maternal grandmother died from Alzheimer's and my Mum has it now. It's also been around 5 years. The gibberish is now 90% of the time. It's weird, as you miss someone who is still alive. As Christmas approaches, I think of all Mum would normally do: making a cake, writing cards, and then the hours spent together cooking on the day with a house full of laughter (and sherry!). Those Christmases are gone forever. Mum can't do anything much now. But she's still here, and she's absolutely lovely, and I'm grateful for that. But I know what you are going through. Much love to you and to anyone else in this situation.

[@WayneGoss]

Thank you and this means a lot to me and to others here going through this xxx

[@iahorvath]

I feel your heaviness as you speak and I know what you're going through. My mother had vascular dementia. Watching her slowly deteriorate was heartbreaking. Her personality changed and her memory of me changed but you know what didn't change? Her feelings of love for me. Even though she couldn't remember my name or even that I was her daughter, she knew that she loved me. Right until the end. When I would go in to see her, her face would light up with a smile from ear to ear. This is how I kept the connection with her and that's what gave me joy. I knew that she still felt love for me. Find a flicker of this person's feelings for you, a smile or a squeeze of her hand. Your presence matters and calms. Hugs to you ❤

[@Cherokee51774]

You are handling the situation with your loved one beautifully. They're so very lucky to have you in their life. "Keep F*cking Going" - from a bracelet my sister gave me I never take it off. I truly need that reminder.

[@WayneGoss]

Thank you! 😊

[@janetmorley6681]

My father and grandmother passed away from dementia. It is awfully difficult and sad, especially for caretakers. You do choose your "battles" with them. I think listening to them and simply making sure they are fed and comfortable is the best anyone can do. I do have a good memory that each of them knew me at the end. I like to think so. Wishing you all the very best. Thank you for sharing this. Be sure to take care of yourself. You matter!

[@WayneGoss]

Thank you Janet xx

[@Linda91952]

So sorry for all you are going thru Wayne. It's a great reminder we never know what someone else is going thru, especially around the holidays. Kindness can move mountains, sending you & everyone else going thru difficult time, so much love 💕

[@WayneGoss]

Thank you Linda! I agree about kindness, it’s a beautiful thing and can mean so much. 😘😘😘

[@ruthvanmackelenberg9034]

I lost my mum to dementia. It took a long time and it was excruciating to watch , and gut wrenching. She passed away two years ago, and is at peace now. Please know you’re not alone and we appreciate you.sending hugs 🤗

[@busybee1685]

I know exactly what you're going through and feeling. My mom has dementia and I'm living with her. She can no longer live alone. My father passed away in 2015 and she never speaks of him. My brother passed away in 2018, then my husband in 2019. It's been difficult, to say the least. At one point my mom told me that in a way it's a blessing to not remember the painful times. She is 92 years old, it has been a blessing to have had her this long. But it's been very difficult to watch her deteriorate mentally.

[@WayneGoss]

I’m so sorry to read this. You’ve dealt with a lot over the years and currently with your mother. Sending you both love and big hugs 🤗

[@Watchoutforsnakez]

I’m so sorry for you and everybody in this comment section. My heart is giving you all a big hug. You will get through this! ❤️ I’m also going through the same thing right now. I find tremendous comfort in the KZbin channel ALZHEIMERS CAREBLAZERS also have found great comfort in Cymbalta. It turns down the volume of my sadness over a lifetime of very sad experiences and loss. It makes it harder to cry🤣 I love not cringing all the time. What a relief from persistent sadness. X0x0

[@mgz2873]

I could not read this and not comment, I am so sorry. You must be mentally and physically exhausted. Sending you love and hugs from the UK ❤

[@unmellowyellow]

I don’t know you, but I send you a hug and lots of love ❤

[@busybee1685]

@@unmellowyellow ❤

[@songofjoy164]

Wayne, I am living through this for the 2nd time. My mother passed 9 years ago while living with early onset Alzheimers. She was the most loving person in my life. Since her passing, I have been my Father’s full time carer, & have recently had to make the very hard decision to place him in an aged care facility. This was due to a physical change that stopped me being able to care for him at home. However, 2.5 years ago he was diagnosed with Alzheimers & vascular dementia, which we had been able to have diagnosed early BECAUSE I was able to recognise signs after experiencing the same in my Mum. Unfortunately the illness that brought the change in my Father’s physical needs has also accelerated his memory loss, so now he is forgetting names, but still recognises faces. I feel your sadness & grief at witnessing the “loss” of your loved one’s former life. All I can say is, remember that you have loved them in the past for who they were to you, now love them for who you are to them, even if they don’t recognise what that means. You will never regret that love, time & those memories, because when they are physically gone from this life, you will ALWAYS have them with you.

[@MillieMaa]

My mother has alzheimer's. She is in her mid 80s and my Dad is 89. They are still living in their home and my siblings and I have been trying desperately to convince Dad to get more support. Absolutely agree re: how you work with someone with dementia. It is deeply deeply sad experience. A parent getting sick and dying is such a monumental life change. Grief is a part of life, and the loss with this situation is so important to honor. As is talking about it with others. Thank you for sharing and God bless.

[@RichJule1]

My dad was diagnosed with early onset Alzheimer’s at 59, it was devastating. He passed away at 67, I felt like my whole world crumbled around me. I had to be strong for myself, my mom and my young twins at the time. It changes your whole life, this is the worst disease! I pray they find a cure! It’s important for everyone to do the Alzheimer’s walk every year in your area and raise money! ❤ My heart is with you Wayne! ❤

[@bridgettucker3692]

Hi Wayne !! Thank you for sharing appreciate your honesty . Dementia is such a cruel disease. Along with many other cruel diseases and conditions. We had an extension built on the back of our house 4 years ago to accommodate and take care of my husband’s parents . His dad had Parkinson’s and his mum was diagnosed with mixed dementia two years ago . Vascular and Alzheimer’s. His dad sadly passed away , but we care for his mum and face different challenges along the way . We laugh we cry and feel sad all at different times ❤🤗

[@zebralove2840]

So many of us can relate with this. Share freely what you want when you want if it helps. Wishing you peace.

[@emilyevans6989]

My own mom died of a heart attack. One minute she was there, and then she wasn’t, but her mind was intact. My husband and his siblings lost their mother to Alzheimer’s/Dementia and it was truly heartbreaking. My husband saw her every day, as she slowly slipped away. His brother and especially his sister saw her less frequently, and her marked decline was so devastating. It was as if a thief stole away their mom bit by bit. When she did pass, my poor husband felt so ashamed, because she was finally free-no longer imprisoned by a mind that had not served her for such a long time. It was truly awful. I pray for the person who is affected, as well as those who love them.

[@BrighterThanYours]

You’re due for a cry and avoiding it. The emotions have to go somewhere and you have let them flow.

[@myhomemylife9510]

Going through it myself with my mother. Started 10 years ago with simple loss to now not knowing who I am. I can tell you have tried to educate yourself on the stages of this horrible disease is so helpful. But nothing prepares you for the sadness of watching their progression. I find comfort in the moments of clarity she has had. She once said early on “ remember no matter what I love you so much”. ❤

[@lindahind2205]

Currently caring for my husband with dementia and can echo your pain. There’s a lot of us out here hidden in the hustle and bustle of everyday life. My bright spot is my adult daughter with Down Syndrome who has health challenges but is being so helpful around the house and with her dad. My sweet spot!

[@WayneGoss]

I’m sorry darling, but glad to hear your daughter helps with her Dad. You’ve got each other ❤

[@freemanmt]

​@WayneGoss please surrender your heart to Jesus Christ as your Lord and Saviour.

[@susanscharf6250]

First of all I just love you Wayne! I'm so sorry you and your family member are suffering. My mom also had dementia She was my world and to see a strong , brilliant lady fade away before my eyes just about did me in because she wasn't 'mom" anymore you know? Play the game. I hated doing that because she was my rock. I'll be praying for you and your family. I can't stand when someone says hang in there But hang in there. I truly believe even though their not there they still know you are. Thank you for being such a kind person❤.

[@Reneekincaid]

We love you Wayne ❤... I've actually been feeling that lately. As soon as fall time comes I get sad, up until spring. I feel like I'm tired all the time and I go in circles and don't want to do anything. I feel like I don't go to peoples houses and visit anyone or anything... hate this rut I'm in 😢... it's like I'm ok being at home constantly. I struggle with growing older and people I love getting older. I've seen people I know deal with parents with memory issues and it's hard to go through 😢...praying for your family ❤

[@WayneGoss]

I understand that, I prefer spring/summer to fall xx

[@entelequia8236]

Like me... 😢

[@Reneekincaid]

Thank you both ❤ it helps knowing your not alone

[@AnaLuizaHella]

I'm Brazilian and you must think we don't have this problem. I hate winter. I feel terrible because it's too humid. Yes, I live in Rio de Janeiro but I hate winter. We don't have snow and our trees don't loose their leaves. But it's depressing for me. It's spring time here. I'm starting to get better and can hardly wait for summer. Love 💕

[@Sam-yr7vl]

I really relate to what you're saying-this time of year can be tough for so many people. It sounds like you might be going through what some call Seasonal Affective Disorder (SAD). I know that for me, things like Vitamin D and light therapy have been helpful during the darker months. Other things that can help include getting outside when you can, staying active, keeping up with a routine, and trying to stay connected with others. I’ve also found mindfulness and meditation to be good for managing stress. It’s so hard watching loved ones go through health challenges, like memory issues. I’m sending prayers and strength to you and Wayne as you navigate this. Please know you’re not alone in this, and I’m thinking of you.

[@zenobiaw831]

I just went through this with my Grandfather. Every time I saw him it was like I was visiting a completely different man. His true self would shine through every once in a while, those moments were super special. The last time I saw him he was in an excellent mood, his eyes were sparkling and he grabbed my hand and held it for a while. A few weeks later he passed away. Cherish those lucid moments you have with your loved one. Health can go south quickly in this state.

[@jeanettafuqua8269]

Thank you for bringing this subject to your channel. It is very hard to watch someone we love go through something like this. I watched my uncle and grandmother having dementia and her dying from dehydration due to not remembering to drink. It's so unfair. Your not alone. We stand with you loving your happy and not so happy videos. Your real, raw and people appreciate that especially these days.

[@WayneGoss]

Thank you Jeanetta. That must of been so hard for you to see two of your family members go through this awful illness. Bless you darling 😘😘

[@AzDesertFoxx]

This is a sad experience many of us have had. Know that it is okay to feel sad. Enjoy the times when your family member is "there", and take care of your own mental health as well as you can.

[@anthonylonardo910]

It’s horrible I dealt with it for several years with my mom I called it the long goodbye because you watch this person just fade away she eventually stopped talking only mumbling sounds she passed away at age 93. Do the best you can that’s all anyone can do. You will get through it but it’s very difficult. All the best.

[@WayneGoss]

Thank you so much ☺️

[@SnowWhite681]

Hi Wayne, I’m so sorry you are going through this. When I was attending University I had my internship at a residential care center for Alzheimer’s/Dementia. My experience really opened my eyes to how difficult it is to experience. At first I struggled being sad with the residents and families because it is a very heartbreaking to see. Many times I was a daughter, sister, granddaughter etc to the residents and it brought them joy. They had the most interesting stories of their lives in their moments of clarity. I always think of going back to it now that I can. I can imagine how painful it must be to see that person fade away but fewer moments of clarity. Sending you so much love and peace. ❤❤❤

[@WayneGoss]

Thank you xx

[@julieprice7808]

That is so true, my grandmother thought my husband was her neighbor when she lived in England. in her early years. You just roll with it. Like you said, there were times of great clarity. We were happy to be who ever she thought we were. If it made her smile one time that day, life was good. She did not know the difference and seemed content most of the time. I would have been Minnie Mouse if I needed too!

[@victoriakelly8989]

My mom passed in 2000 from Alzheimers. I cannot express how hard it is to watch a person who has been there from your first breath not remember who you are. At the end of the day, all we really carry with us through our lives is our memories of people and places, and to watch someone you love have all of those wonderful moments that make them who they are just taken away, it is a heartbreak I still have not recovered from after 24 years.

[@wabi_sabi_gin_jen8583]

You’re right it is such a multifaceted pain. I mourn who my mother used to be yet she’s still physically here. There are moments of normalcy thrown in & quickly those are snatched away by the reality she’s ill. For me it’s helped to look through the lens a different way. I give all my love & attention knowing that she won’t remember but I will. We have a a dinner out at her favorite restaurant or we have a long visit whatever it is I’m present enjoying what I can knowing that full disclosure to my heart she won’t remember most of it or any of it but, I will. I tuck that in my heart & hold it tight when the rough waters pain roll in.❤ I’m so sorry this has touched your loved one & your family Wayne. Best Wishes

[@WayneGoss]

Best wishes to you too lovely xx

[@betsybabf748]

I was widowed in our 40s. The thought of not recognizing or remembering my late husband brought tears to my eyes. Her situation is extremely sad but she is also so very fortunate to have you and your husband by her side through this scary chapter in her life. Please during this heartbreaking time do not miss the good your kindness and love is also giving.

[@heatherbrookes6082]

I am so sorry. Dementia is so cruel - it’s awful for the person going through it and wrenching for those that love that person. We will be here when you want to share. X

[@mse1875]

This is a part of life no one ever teaches. Things talked about in hushed tones behind doors. Mental and physical decline is crueler than cruel. Abandoned by my siblings, I am now the sole caregiver to my father who's gone from 90kg to 60 kg, and who's body is breaking down. It truly is the saddest experience one could ever endure. Sending you love and light in this difficult time.

[@BlingyBea]

🙏🏻❤️

[@TheBohemianStyle]

When we age, we are stuck facing more illness, weakness and death. I think we need to be more resilient, be grateful and continue to enjoy life as we can. Your videos bring me joy, the same for me to put on makeup; it is the small things that bring me joy.

[@kathryndouglas5767]

Just lost my dad to this and it was heart crushing to watch someone who was the most loving dad vanish before my eyes..

[@BlingyBea]

🙏🏻❤️Bless you

[@anneweller]

I appreciate you bringing this subject up. It is truly awful. My Mom is only in her 60s and has Alzheimer's and dementia. My stepfather moved her into a memory care facility a year ago as it was too difficult to care for her, as he had his own health issues, and he ended up passing away in June. Trust me, almost every day I cry for a bit about my Mother..in the car, after a yoga class, etc. I see my Mom every week, I love her so so much. It's such an incredibly sad thing to witness in a loved one. I am sorry that you are going through this...I think it helps to talk about it because it can feel isolating at times. Much love to you, Wayne.

[@WayneGoss]

Bless you Anne and I’m sorry what you’re going through. So many people on here going through the same thing. Wish there was a magic pill to cure this. Hopefully, one day in the not to distant future 🙏❤️

[@anneweller]

@WayneGoss thank you, Wayne. One day there probably will be a pill to wipe it all away...I don't think I'll be around to see it. But one day☺️ blessings to you and yours❤️

[@brendatuttle8722]

I lost a dear friend to Alzheimer’s when she was only in her 50s. To see this smart, funny, articulate woman disappear by inches was utterly heartbreaking for everyone who loved her. Now one of my sisters has dementia. She thinks certain things are true and they aren’t. She has unexpected outbursts of rage over the tiniest unpredictable thing. Dementia kills the person long before the body stops. You said it well Wayne - it’s just so sad.

[@Lil_Nuggles]

Thank you for opening up about this ❤. I feel your deep concern and love to the core. My sweet mother has Parkinson’s Disease and witnessing the decline is difficult, so I know the sadness you are experiencing. You have a beautiful heart, and your gentle way will help you guide your loved one through the maze of memory loss. Praying and sending good, loving thoughts to you and yours, sweet gentleman. ❤️

[@WayneGoss]

I’m so sorry to hear about your mother, it’s such a difficult time. Sending you both so much love xxx

[@lauriemullay2960]

I’m so sorry, Wayne. I very much been caring for my husband diagnosed with vascular dementia for 14 years post stroke. He has good days and bad days, but mostly coherent, however he’s paralyzed and totally dependent on me. I’m blessed he’s still with me.

[@janiem6347]

Bless you❤ Stay strong and take care of you, too

[@kimmai30]

Thank you so much Wayne for talking about this. Unless someone has experienced this first hand with a loved one they will never know. My 93 year old mom lives with my husband and I, and has been with us 14 years now, she moved in 2 years after my dad passed. Her dementia has progressed slowly, there are good days and days of confusion. It's so heart breaking for me to watch this happening, and I can't escape it to catch my breath as im her sole caregiver. I do have an older brother but he cares only about himself and his family. I thank God for my husband for 1. Moving my mom in with us and 2. For helping me the best he can with my mom, he also has some major health issues. So I understand being sad I feel sad most of the time, but put on a good face for everyone. We do the best we can for our loved ones and hope it's enough. So in short I understand what you're feeling. Sending you a big hug and lots of love from Canada ❤😘

[@Lioness_UTV]

So sorry to hear you carrying this weight of responsibility. In those quiet moments we have its very difficult to understand when sibling isn't there to help share the feelings and shoulder the burden. About your feelings of sadness, I hope you don't mind my recommendation. Please do seriously think about getting some therapy, counseling. Sometimes just having someone listen to you, how you are feeling helps to lift the burden of it. I know it help me enormously, I don't know where I'd be now without it..

[@kimmai30]

Thank you for your kind words. My best friends daughter is a Dr, and I do talk to her, she is a great one to talk to because she understands completely seeing it first hand. She has seen how I have given up all of my 50s some of my 40s and now I'm 61.

[@Wayne-s5p]

My heart goes out to you, your family and loved ones. In case you are unaware or haven't confronted this issue, some individuals experiencing dementia become fearful of walking from one floor surface to another, ie., walking from a carpeted floor to a hardwood floor, etc. Take care of yourself and God bless.♥

[@Pocahontaskowalskiiiiiiiii]

My dad has that awful sickness for 7 years…it startet at 75, and ended at 82 years…but you know what I told myself when I was sad about all that what it is?? That is just a sickness, and he will gonna remember us, and everything he was when his soul gets free! And now his soul is free, I’m more than sure that he is happy, cause now he can be himself again, and he knows it all! You have to remember in those times that is not more than that, they are still them, they are just trapped in sick vessel! Love to you and your family ❤

[@BlingyBea]

Bless you, reading this brought me to tears, I’m going thru this with my sister, diagnosed at 69 and she’s 74.🙏🏻❤️

[@susanbergman1200]

Oh Wayne, my heart breaks for you, My Dad was diagnosed with dementia when he was only 69. And being Daddy's little girl, i was devastated and I ended up on anti depressants. To watch someone you love turn into a child, and you loose a little more of them each day. They did everything for us, and I couldn't help him or make it better. My precious Mum lived to 97 but when she started to show those telltale signs, I moved her into my home to care for her. I found that it was the most heart wrenching thing I've ever had to do, but I'm so glad I was able to care for her. You'll find that it is heartbreaking, but also the most rewarding thing you'll ever do. Our loved ones deserve the best we can possibly give. I feel that it was an honor to care for her. It's an incredible gift we can give them, and I'd do it again in a heartbeat. You are an wonderful caring man to be impacted some much by this. You have a loving caring heart. I pray that this journey you are on will be rewarding to you, and your family member is so lucky to have your love. God bless you.

[@mandyrobbins7074]

I feel for you Wayne. My Mum had Alzheimer's with vascular dementia. In May she passed away & the relief at not seeing her suffering anymore is something I can't quite put into words. I lived with her for six years, it was terrible having that much stress & responsibility 24/7. My daughter was co carer, something I regret! You will get through this Wayne & you will smile again. ❤

[@lorainemcgillivray77]

Don't feel bad about being relieved. They have been released from their suffering and you from watching it. I helped my mum care for my dad and stayed with them for weeks and weeks prior to his hospital admission (he became violent and was a big man). I don't regret doing so and I am sure your daughter doesn't either x.

[@cecillec2331]

You are an empath, Wayne. It is difficult to be one. I love how wonderful a human being you are.

[@RadBadJodster]

It is the pits. Your feelings are real and true. Your statement that you are in their world and they are not in yours is spot on. Don’t try to correct. Don’t try to bring them into your world. You just stay in their world and enjoy the best you can. Good luck Wayne. 😔💙

[@AC-yb9ml]

I took care of one of my most favorite people on the planet when she got dementia. For 3 years, 24/7. Hardest thing I’ve ever done in my life and at the end looking back, was the most rewarding. Make sure to take care of yourself first. You can’t pour from an empty cup!

[@lucyw.7597]

I'm so sorry. You must be exhausted as well as sad. I was a carer for years & the majority of my clients suffered dementia in one form or another...then my Mum had a couple of small strokes that left her with vascular dementia too. It's very difficult to see someone slowly disappearing in front of you; I always felt pleased I could help family members get a little bit of respite now & again. I hope you're looking after yourself, & that you know how many people care about you & are thinking about you, & wishing you well.

[@theresa1305]

You are so kind and so loved by all your fans!

[@heatherb6755]

I had the privilege of care-taking for my Mother in her final years. Dementia is such a terrible thing to experience. To witness someone you love slowly forget and fade away is horrible. You want them to be comfortable, at peace, while inside you just want a little bit of them to come back. To tell you it's going to be ok. The disease robs you of that and makes you feel sad and hopeless as it progresses. In the end I read to her, alot. It eased her anxiety a bit and made me feel connected to her. Don't forget to take time for yourself, find moments of things that bring you joy, it helps to offset the enormity of losing someone to the disease. My heart hurts for you.

[@susanhemme8465]

I lost my father to dementia. To this day, the hardest chapter of my life. A man so full of integrity his whole life reduced to a man I only knew by appearance. Even that became questionable. You experience two deaths when a parent/loved one is diagnosed with dementia. Always remember that you are so loved. Not only for your professional skills you share here with us but for your genuinely authentic self.

[@michellekirwan-woods7623]

Wayne, thank you for sharing. My Dad had vascular dementia. There were some days where he was like "My Dad" and he was perfectly lucid. On the flip side, he was a completely different person most of the time. It was almost like dealing with a child at times, but I did my best to treat him with dignity. It was the most difficult thing I've ever been through. Sending love and light your way. PS-- your skin looks AMAZING today. Hugs!

[@clairewright8153]

Your channel is so much more than about make up, it’s a community. I worked in Age Care for nearly 20 years and you never forget the heart break when a family member is not recognised. Dementia and Alzheimer’s are such horrible thieves. Thinking of you and everyone here, sending hugs to everyone and their loved ones.

[@BlingyBea]

Thank you❤

[@DragonflyBeez]

I was very sad as well for the very same reasons, my mum is 101 years old now. She has been bedridden with vascular dementia for about 5 years now. It was extremely painful at its onset, seeing her morphing into someone who didn’t recognize any familiar faces any longer and watching her confusion worsen day by day…as time passed, it became a new norm. Luckily I was able to have her remain in her flat. Routine and familiarity was key. She has the same aides throughout these years. She recognizes our voices most of the time. She is reminded that she is home whenever she tells us to take her “home”. I placed beautiful floral wall decals around her hospital bed to let her know this IS home. Luckily, she is happy, smiles and is extremely well cared for. That’s all that really matters…Thank you dear Wayne for being so candid, open and real. I hope we, your viewers lessen your pain a tad bit. Your sadness will subside…be present…🫶🏼 from the Big Apple 🍎 NYC

[@micheletomlin3691]

My mom died of cancer at 81. For 6 months each time i visited her best was her previous worst. Yet I treasure those last few months. It’s bittersweet.

[@averyevemccall9139]

Not at all bleak. Thank you for sharing your experience and awareness of how detrimental Vascular Dementia affects a loved one and the loved one’s that care for them. You and your loved ones are in my thoughts and prayers.🙏🏼

[@MadameSarah]

I am so sorry for everyone going through this. Realising a loved one may never return when they’re still standing in front of you must be agony when all you’re trying to do is make sure they feel safe and minimise their confusion. Life can be so cruel.

[@kimsmart263]

I’m so sorry for what you’re going through. This disease is devastating on so many levels. It’s ok to share your feelings here. It’s real life, and I’m sure I speak for others when I say I appreciate that you feel you can share about your personal life here with us. I lost a good friend to this disease 2 years ago and it’s the saddest thing ever. Sending you love and hope ❤️

[@K-p1p6f]

Thank you for talking about this, Wayne. For several years I took care of both my parents who had Alzheimers and it was tough to watch their personalities fade away. Eventually they both went into care homes because my husband and I were unable to take care of them adequately. When my parents died I felt relief that they no longer had to suffer the distress, anxiety and confusion that had been with them for years. Now my best friend has it too and I am watching her slip away from me. Everyone surrounding the person with dementia is affected, it is heartbreaking.

[@njtappe3938]

I’m so sorry to hear about your family member’s diagnosis. My father passed away from Alzheimer’s 5 years ago. My father would get this blank stare during the final months of his dementia. I knew he didn’t recognize me anymore. I’s painful. He was such a kind and loving human being.

[@BlingyBea]

❤️🙏🏻

[@MartinsDesign-cs9iq]

Psychedelics are just an exceptional mental health breakthrough. It's quite fascinating how effective they are against depression and anxiety. Saved my life.

[@carly102982]

Can you help with the reliable source I would really appreciate it. Many people talk about mushrooms and psychedelics but nobody talks about where to get them. Very hard to get a reliable source here in Australia. Really need!

[@BestOffer-ii9ny]

Yes Steve_porss1, I share similar experiences with anxiety, depression, PTSD, and addiction. Psilocybin mushrooms have been a game-changer for me, aiding greatly in my recovery and sobriety."

[@bestaneierflott1195]

I wish those were more easily accessible where I live. Microdosing was my next step for my husband. He's 59 & dealing with lots of mental health challenges, possible CTE & a TBI that put him in a coma for 8 days. Unfortunately, I had to get a TPO since he's 6'6, over 300 pounds, and showing violent behavior, constantly talking about harming others. He's aggressive. To anyone reading this, if you're familiar with BPD, is it common to have an obsession with violence?

[@carly102982]

Is he on instagram?

[@BestOffer-ii9ny]

Steve_porss1 is the man

[@elizabethb5210]

My dad has dementia and has been losing memory for several years. He's not as severe as your loved one. He knows me and remembers old stories and pretty much things that he actually does but not conversations. I just retell my stories. I ask if he remembers certain things. He retells a story over and over. I just act like I don't know or say, yeah I heard about that. It's just a fact of life now and I've accepted it. I know it'll get worse so I am just taking it as it comes. I work in healthcare so I understand the mechanics and all but it's hard to see a loved one change. I'm just happy he's still here with us. Most of his siblings are gone due to Covid infections so thankful he is healthy in that way. Acceptance is the best way to go after you have grieved. It will get better but maybe seeing a therapist would be good to sort out the hard feelings you are struggling with. 💙

[@sje8089]

Oh Wayne, we hear you sending you so much love and strength, and all those people who are also affected by dementia and care for people with dementia. It is truly heartbreaking 💔

[@lynetteplans7974]

Much love and prayers for your family. I had a friend and a family member that had Alzheimers. Everything you said occurred in both cases. My friend had some verbal violence that he took out on his wife. It was very difficult for her. My aunt didn't remember 2 of her children. She only recalled her oldest son. Her daughter visited her daily, and my aunt thought she was a friend. That hurt my cousin deeply. You are correct in saying that we are in their world and don't correct what they think. Music seems to help calm those afflicted by this horrible situation. Thank you for sharing your experience.💜😊

[@KimTyssowski]

Wayne- I volunteer in hospice and see heartrending examples of families trying to find the best way to connect with their loved ones. I was told that enfolding loving presence is one of the things that can be perceived until the last breath is taken., regardless of dementia and Alzheimer’s. Your kind presence is the highest blessing you can give this person throughout this time of transition. Sending love in your direction as I’m certain so many others are as well.

[@SnowWhite681]

Hi Wayne, I’m so sorry you are going through this. When I was attending University I had my internship at a residential care center for Alzheimer’s/Dementia. My experience really opened my eyes to how difficult it is to experience. At first I struggled being sad with the residents and families because it is a very heartbreaking to see. Many times I was a daughter, sister, granddaughter etc to the residents and it brought them joy. They had the most interesting stories of their lives. I can imagine how painful it must be to see that person fade away with fewer moments of clarity. Sending you so much love and peace. ❤❤❤

[@WayneGoss]

Dementia is something that can affect anyone, regardless of background or lifestyle. It's not something anyone plans for, but it's more common than people realize, you’ve seen and dealt with this first hand. Thank you xxx

[@AlenaPapayiannis]

To watch a loved person suffering from dementia is the most terrifying experience. You need a lot of courage (and help) to go through it. We were greatly helped by meetings with support group where we could talk and share experience with another caregivers. Because they can understand what you are going through. Life can be very difficult. Lots of love.

[@K_ballet]

I’m so sorry it’s been a rough time. Thanks for your openness. I understand your low feelings. You are loved.

[@Andrea.S.G]

I always explain dementia as loosing a person twice. You loose them as they forget you (and everyone around you). Then you loose them again when they eventually pass away. It is heart breaking and you are so strong for sharing how you’re feeling with the world.

[@jibberjabber3477]

I went through this with my great aunt with whom I was very close. My great aunt and uncle could not have kids so they were like my extra grandparents, we loved them so much. But on my great uncle’s last few days he pulled my parents aside and told them he’d been hiding my great aunts Alzheimer’s diagnosis. I was around 10 or 12 so I did not understand, but as time went on and her disease progressed, I’d go home crying because I’d spend after school with her and have to keep reminding her who I was and follow her around to close the refrigerator, turn off the stove, close the doors, turn off the sink, etc. Eventually the family agreed that she needed round the clock nurse care when she couldn’t figure out how to use the toilet and we chose a very nice facility. It was heartbreaking and I just broke down crying as you told your story, it is truly sad and I wish you didn’t have to experience this.

[@WayneGoss]

So sorry darling, it’s so sad. Sending love xx

[@hayley7090]

Wayne, I'm so sorry you're feeling low and that you have someone close to you suffering with dementia. It's a cruel illness, for sure. My mother in law was diagnosed about 9 years before she passed away last year. As the illness progressed it was heartbreaking but the one thing that made her light up was music. She played a keyboard in her younger years and loved to sing so the home where she lived began music therapy for all the residents and bless them, it gave them such joy for a few hours each week. I know how tough this time is for you, I send you the the very best wishes and be kind to yourself.

[@JFK1962]

Wayne remember it’s ok to feel sad. And I appreciate you sharing because like you said a lot of people are dealing with this. My Maternal Grandmother had dementia she got to the point that she didn’t remember if my Mom had kids and she wandered off. My Maternal Aunt also had it and she got to the point that she recognized no one. Then my Mom started having problems but she wasn’t completely out of it just about 50% of the time she forgot my Dad and where she was. She died in her sleep 2 years ago at age 88. This disease of dementia is horrendous. I miss my Mom terribly but at least she’s not afraid and confused anymore. I am trying not to get too depressed because I know the odds of me getting it someday have to be really high. Love to you and your family ❤

[@marshawilliamson8602]

I love my mother beyond words. Losing her, in any way, will break my heart and spirit.🌸🐝

[@qianwang2229]

You have a soft heart for this world, and that’s why you feel the way you feel. It’s not unusual! Thanks for sharing with us! Go out and hug the sun 🌞! Enjoy every little moment of happiness in life! We love you! ❤

[@bronwynerees4297]

Hi Wayne, I’m an off and on viewer (only because I don’t use KZbin much) but I’m so glad I saw this one. I was a caregiver for my grandmother, who was my best friend, for 10 years. She also had dementia. I now work with seniors and am a Certified Dementia Practitioner, and specialize with families who are grieving. And that’s what I experienced, and what I bet you’re experiencing. It’s called Anticipatory Grief. We are grieving our loved one, while they are still with us. It is a profound experience- with highs but mostly lows. I was so glad to hear you are meeting her in her reality, and not trying to bring her into ours. She is lucky to have you. One thing I notice in my dementia clients, and in my gramma, was that emotions are the last to go. They can feel our love still, from time to time, and can love us back from time to time. I hope you are experiencing that. Sending you light and love through this difficult time. ❤

[@melissaharper6124]

I just imagined myself giving you a great big hug! Sending you love and light!

[@user-de6xi9vx8r]

My dad had dementia. It was incredibly painful to see him change. He passed away this past January. It is very normal to feel an overwhelming sadness, and grief, grieving even when the person is alive. Wayne, I wish you the best. It's not easy. ❤

[@TooTs499]

Aww Wayne 🥲don’t beat yourself up ! Everyone knows you are lovely and kind and compassionate! We can’t get everything right all the time . Sending you love and big hugs . You are doing your best and that is what counts .xxx🧑🏻💕🇬🇧

[@katestark2519]

I'm so sorry you're going through this! After her stroke, my grandmother was never the same. But you're so right about being in their world. My son was 2-4 yrs old at the time, and my mother would take him to visit her regularly. I'm certain that my grandmother had no idea how this little boy was connected to her, but she lit up every time he came in the room! There is joy to be found, but unfortunately we can't manufacture it, it has to come naturally and that makes things difficult/painful for the loved ones who so desperately want to help!

[@marizarivera9177]

This is so sad and heartbreaking. I can relate, to see your loved one fading away. Sending you prayers and hugs to you and your family.❤

[@tinalemarier9696]

"You are part of their world." They rob you of your joy." But their hearts feel your love even if they can't express it. You are so beautiful, Wayne. Praying for you to feel the love you have shown others. 🙏🩷🫂

[@Freshtaa16]

I just lost my grandpa to dementia a few months ago; it happened so quickly so my sense of hope dwindled fast. I also wasn’t depressed, but very very sad. He started to show signs and was diagnosed just this Spring and passed July 31st. It’s so hard to grapple with, I still struggle processing it. I’m so sorry you’re going through this. ❤

[@BlingyBea]

🙏🏻❤️

[@dalemann8648]

So many of us have traveled this road unfortunately. My advice to you is that they are who they are. Love them as you always have and try to live your life to the fullest as they have always wanted for you. It is SO hard and we are all here for you. We feel your pain. Hang in there my friend.

[@christineprice9378]

I’m so sorry, my mum looked at me and asked why her daughter didn’t come see her. I’m sat there looking at her and tried to say I’m here mam, but no, she was angry I’d not been to see her. It’s heartbreaking you’ve all my sympathy

[@Essie_K]

I am so sorry. This breaks my heart. I can't imagine having to experience something like that. Big hug! ❤

[@gillianmcgrath1929]

Christine 💔 I just welled up reading that. I’m so so sorry you are going through this. I’m sending big hugs to you x

[@christineprice9378]

@ thank you xx

[@roselewis1797]

I can sympathize. Before my mom died she got to the point where she didn't remember who I was. It's a terrible feeling I wouldn't wish on anyone. It's a different kind of death where you start grieving long before they are gone. I didn't try to tell her who I was cause it just made her angry to imply that her memory was going. It's really hard for someone to understand how much that hurts unless they have gone through it.