Not everything bad is happening TO you (Hardly Qualified Podcast)

[@Carly-wp4hb]

"we're crippling each other from the opportunity to grow" 👏 so good!!

[@hardlyqualified]

@@Carly-wp4hb !!! True friendship is radical honesty !!

[@DominicanMeridaLife]

I think one of your first sentences is true. You said "it feels like we are all victims to the circumstances around us". I think that this segment of what you said is true. I think the problem is that people have empathy and stop at empathy. You can have empathy for someone and still hold them accountable for what they did. Another issue is that people have empathy only for people they can relate to which is how a personality disorder became the most often used word among young adults. Narcissistic Personality Disorder while damaging to others is at the end of the day a disorder. This means that it's really difficult for that person to understand that they shouldn't do what they're doing. It doesn't develop from the sheer want to hurt/manipulate others. It comes from trauma just like any other disorders. When you're mentally ill, you're stuck in a loop within yourself and it's very hard to get out of. There is literally nothing anyone can do to get you out. You have to get yourself out. I say that to say, being human is very complicated. We've spent centuries trying to figure ourselves out. Unfortunately, self-awareness is not something you can learn to an extent. You either are or you're not. IMO you're self aware or you're not and if you are, that level of self awareness can increase but if you're not aware, you can't become aware because you will only be able to see life through your point of view while wearing rose colored glasses. This is the longest comment ive ever written. im so sorry xD

[@reneebrooks2722]

That's why a narcissist needs a TRUE & HONEST FRIEND to hang in there to help pull a friend out of it or be enough of a friend to help your friend from falling into the abyss of narcissism. I say this often: we need to learn to accept a "NO" as graciously as we accept a "YES."

[@MidwesternShawty]

Yes yes yes! I think people forget that sometimes, even if you don’t agree or understand, someone else’s truth is still their truth. That’s their perspective and that’s what we need to work with in order to come to an agreement and understanding.

[@hardlyqualified]

Yes!!! Everyone is having their own experience, it’s not just happening in these vacuums!!

[@easiersaidwithmeg]

This is how I feel when everyone talks about how much they cut other people off but no one talks about who cut them off.

[@kazina.kazina]

thank you, I loved this video. There are so many blind spots..

[@hardlyqualified]

It happens to all of us!!! 💛

[@Deeisfordrama]

HALLELUJAH!

[@milkywaychoco]

Just started the video but already feeling the vibes and feel like ima learn a lot

[@hardlyqualified]

@@milkywaychoco 😭💛 hope you finished it!!

[@franciscac.6075]

Great Video, great Message❤ surprised you dont have 30.000 + views.

[@hardlyqualified]

This means soooo much to me! Really hoping to build here on YT!