Avoid The Counterfeit Relationship // A message to single people!

[@MiaKarineDesigns]

I was once in a counterfeit relationship. I was 100% certain I would marry this person. At this point in time I put my relationship with this person before my relationship with God. I put my feelings and dreams with this person first. I leaned on my own understanding. It was the Biggest mistake of my life. It brought a lot of pain and destruction into my life. But the Lord made a way out for me. He rescued me and healed my shattered heart. And today I am single and beyond content with waiting for my perfect person!! Thank You Lord for your grace!!!❤️❤️❤️

[@ziyandamakupula1999]

So Happy for you❤❤❤👑🤗

[@Estiexo]

how did you know they were a counterfeit?

[@ellahdivine329]

Amennnn ❤️

[@JahzemaFitzHenley]

Thank you for being vulnerable. Proud of you! allow Him to heal & lead. ♥️♥️♥️♥️

[@natalie_arty7360]

Thank you for sharing 💖 I did the exact same thing...only I'm still fresh out of that relationship. Christ had healed my broken soul though, and I love Him and praise Him every day for bringing me through that!

[@misskaykayRSA]

Emotional purity should be a thing too. We often forget about this ❤

[@sonnymariedavoren7960]

once i ended my unequally yoked relationship God showed me a vision of a new door being open… i felt within my heart and on my mind Him saying, now you can focus on me. putting God first is important and remember that

[@ricbon9581]

I wish I heard this in my 20’s. Married 16 years wife left with another man. But the Lord had been faithful and is healing my heart and soul.

[@winstonsmith4694]

For me it was not painful to get out of what is called "counterfeit relationships". The moment I realized that I was acting against the will of God I was like nah that's it and the LORD has helped me to move on instantly. Same thing happened to me when I quitted smoking overnight, the LORD again helped me. What I learned from this and it is something that I think many people don't understand, it depends on our willingness to follow God

[@TulinaNakashona]

I had never heard of the terminology with regards to relationships before until one day God loudly dropped the word 'counterfeit' in my spirit as I prayed over a relationship I was in. Probably the next day or so, I got onto KZbin and I found a video titled 'How I almost married the counterfeit', confirming to me what I had just heard. I had asked God to show me who this person really was, then i quickly saw that the fruit weren't in line with who they said they were. The relationship looked like 'it' in the beginning but was shortly accompanied by a lack of peace. That experience taught me quite a lot. Thankful for God's mercy. Thanks for the great video

[@apologeticministry]

Was this video from Beauty for ashes

[@TulinaNakashona]

@@apologeticministry yes

[@ellahdivine329]

Hallelujah 💓 Amen

[@cbebop5]

Great video, very wise advice.

[@NowBloom]

Thank you so much! I appreciate this 😍🙏

[@ΦωτεινήΑρετή]

THANK YOU THANK YOU THANK YOU.. Do not settle ladies, do not entertain.. my body is a holy temple!

[@Khalinadenae]

7:00 I agree with this point and so many points in this video. I met someone who was "spiritual not religious" when I was committed to being on fire for the Lord and let's just say its a red flag I will never ignore again.

[@FoundSheep-AN]

Why ? Can you elaborate please?

[@mianda7773]

Sarah . You have no idea how God has used you in the weirdest way. Thank you for mentioning the story and adding the link below. 😪in 2018 a friend who is not in my life anymore but I was very close at that time has sent me the podcast as we were praying and believing for our husbands. It did mark me because it was the season when I truly believed God has a custom made for me but I have never heard stories like this and as I grew older and people kept saying my standards are too high I started to believe that my life story will end up in either "settle for a counterfeit" or staying unmarried. Years later, as I became weary in my waiting, God started to remind me of this very testimony and for the life of me ,I was not able to find it ANYWHERE. I could not remember the name of the person nor ANYTHING at ALL in connection to anything that would help me find this podcast again. I stopped watching you tube related to any love stories for various reasons, however, you kept appearing in "recommended for you" and I kept ignoring it and rolled my eyes. Then, out of the blue, last night I felt led to finally watch one of your videos and I was shocked at how full of the Spirit you and your husband are ( the world is aching for real followers of Jesus) . Now I was watching this specific video and I genuinely burst into tears realising you are talking about the story I was looking for. I cannot even fully explain . Thank you for letting yourself being used by God and pouring out to others.

[@yzma6142]

Doing things off my own strength brought me so much pain. God’s timing is everything

[@luise77moya15]

God gave me a similar vision but instead of a customized piece on the antique chop. He had this special gift on the back that wasn’t even on display. Telling me that it was a special gift and that when I get it. I would have to make the commitment to take care of that seed/gift, protect it, be responsible about it and value it. Know it’s importance and prioritize it’s growth. Follow his instructions on how it should be done, be patient and obedient. Let him work on it and make sure that nothing intoxicates it. Because it is his blessing, special gift and perfect plan🙏🏻

[@JaninaTylr]

Let’s also be cautious people of the enemy’s deceptive ways of bringing someone in your life the seems to be God sent, but then turns out to be a really bad person. And then send you someone again that is seemingly a lot better than the previous person, only to be worse when they have captured your heart. I hope this makes sense.

[@emjeybelison6094]

This is true. This happened to me recently and the excruciating pain is killing me

[@JaninaTylr]

@@emjeybelison6094 Oh wow. I am so sorry that this happened to you. I truly understand your indescribable pain. It is no joke. I pray that God heal your heart in Jesus name. I pray that you don't become numb and that God restores your faith.

[@emjeybelison6094]

Thank you, I appreciate it.

[@JaninaTylr]

@@emjeybelison6094 Sure thing. It’s good to help encourage others, to let others know that it is possible to get through this as we learn along the way.

[@charityhope9546]

This is wonderful advice! I’m in love with Jesus, so worth the wait. I’ve been through a lot of heartache stemming from childhood. Waiting on the Lord is a gift. Press into God always.

[@rifumomhlaba5327]

Sarah may God continue using you I’m truly healing through your teachings, in 2020 I was involved with a counterfeit I thought he was a man of god, but he changed my life for the worst, but I’m glad that God took me out from that relationship, I am free now and still healing God is faithful and I am more wiser, as I wait the God destined relationship ❤️

[@faith5704]

This just confirms my gut feeling I’m in the wrong rn

[@jewishbride5010]

In accordance with this word and 1 john 4:7-8, hebrews 13:4, 2 corinthians 6:14-18 I bind myself, my family, friends, colleagues, neighbours, acquintances, opponents and the body of Christ to loving and healing relationships while loosening one and myself of every unequal yoke and common share with those who do not contribute to loving and healing relationships, in the name and blood of Jesus Christ, amen and hallelujah!

[@wings8099]

you have a very calming presence and you give a lot of good insights which are very valuable especially for younger women who have been through quite a bit. thank you for your words! :’)

[@dashelledisna6239]

Amen... Have to be in communication with the Holy Spirit often, when it comes to marriage especially. Our hearts can easily fall for anything. Guarding is a daily thing. Thank you. From NY

[@roseroyaltyy]

Just wanted to thank you for this video. I was just speaking to my friend about how I could have discerned better with my last relationship. I almost feel kind of icky thinking about it because I feel like I was a bit deceived even though at the time I thought it was a relationship from God… but in reality I was spending too much time with him and pushing other friendships away, not guarding my heart, ignoring red flags, being codependent. Almost kicking myself because I thought I had it all together hahaha

[@Shayisbackagain]

Sarah, thank you for sharing your wisdom and journey with us. I am of Muslim faith but I find your story and path very relatable, and feel like you're the wiser sister that I needed. Thank you so much for creating this space and for delivering your message. May God continue to bless you.

[@1John4.17]

It seemed God allowed my counterfeit (I had prayed for confirmation from the beginning) to deepen my relationship with him. I was idolizing marriage, and when that relationship ended, I was in sorrow and longing for years but I eventually gave up my life to Christ feeling how much he cared. Now I have to hear from God everyday for he is my husband ~ Isaiah 54:5.

[@Elevationwithpalesa]

Thank you. I needed to hear this 🥺

[@zoew9900]

Thank you for this word and also I absolutely died (in the best way) listening to the link you uploaded! So beautiful!! God is so amazing!

[@anastasiaifinedo7780]

I wish I could subscribe ten times. Thank you for your advice

[@lilianahernandez5186]

Wow! God knew I needed to hear this. Sarah, you are an inspiration. You are so strong in your faith, you have a gift to deliver God's word, and I hope you know that you are helping so many people, like myself. Your message in this video speaks to me, loud and clear! Thank you for your words, your prayers, and may God bless you always.

[@christinarjay]

Thank you for posting this and sharing the podcast link, super encouraging!

[@NowBloom]

Thank you for this encouraging comment 😀💜🙏

[@mariak6464]

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[@andelamlinarevic]

Thank you very much, I pray and hope that I find my future husband and that God leads me to the right one.

[@hannahisrael7577]

It’s funny how your videos have blessed me throughout my day, every single one about relationships and all of them speaking directly into my situation … thank you

[@stephendorman9118]

Gosh, your videos are so, so good. It speaks to every thing I could think of. It has really, truly helped me and my wife. We were struggling with so many issues, and these lessons really help keep the focus and brings so, so much clarity. Thank you! Thank you! Thank you! God bless you and your family.

[@nebonitajohn8450]

I love your blog..Its kind of give my encouragement...thanks so much ...because I am in this season..I learn a lot from you...thanks for blessing...

[@AshhoUSA]

Bought the book today ty 😊

[@Olamidotun_udoh]

Hey Sarah 👋🏼 So I have had this video and some other of your video's related to marriage for months now. Whenever I'm feeling restless about my future husband I just go back to watch and listen again. You're always a blessing and God bless you!

[@triciarosqvist1075]

Wow! So much wisdom! Thank you! This is perfectly, divinely timed for me ❤️ Thank you Jesus 🙏

[@wendydominguez7738]

Wow I really needed to hear this, thank you so much ❤️❤️

[@nikkiisrael2708]

Thank you so much Sarah for recording this video.Yes it’s really good to be accountable, and also I think counselling from a Christian counsellor is a really good thing to do if one feels one needs it LOL obviously I’ve had counselling in the past.I married someone who was most definitely the wrong man for me but the good thing out of that marriage was that I ended up with four beautiful children who are now all grown up. I’m not that old really ha ha but I thank you for doing this video, and for your honesty. I think you are a really beautiful example of a godly lady and I am very blessed by hearing your testimony. Love Nikki X

[@jefferywashpon8389]

It is worth the wait. I am currently thinking of planning a career goal.

[@RoseDances]

Very wise. Hallelujah

[@lunarose9042]

I have been with my partner for years and living together before I found Christ. They have actually helped me grow closer to God, despite them not being a follower of God. Praying for direction but still so new that I am not sure if God is speaking or not.

[@farahyusof7512]

Thanks you for this your messages have been so clear to me and helped me to be more relying on God than my own emotions and to wait on God’s promises and His confirmation. So glad to watch your video that suddenly appeared on my feed. ❤️

[@hollandfilippini571]

I’m so thankful I found your channel! God bless you

[@Growninfaith]

Thank you sister for sharing theses very important tasks while waiting for the one ☝️🙏🏼💓!!

[@katherinemeyer6278]

I left my ex husband due to DV. we are now friends and also great co-parents but idk if I can now ever divorce and marry again now that I am truly trying to live a real Christian life or if I must be alone for the rest of my life now.

[@dellaswanson9837]

Read what the word says about that and remember to pray for discernment and a willingness to glorify God

[@ambassadorforgod6808]

So encouraging 😊

[@nikkiisrael2708]

Btw must clarify: I have been divorced for around sixteen years, and he is now married to wife number three!

[@LifeTooBig]

Straight Wisdom🙏🏼🔥🩸👑🤙🏼

[@truthefish9715]

BELIEVEING GOD TO BLESS ME WITH THE ONE WHO MAKES HIM SMILE I AM WITH HIM ALSO AMEN

[@NonyeNwandu]

This was helpful. Thank you so much. I also listened to the podcast on custom made you linked. It was so powerful. Thank you so much

[@elloradiehl]

Thank you for this word.

[@____Daniel____]

... A BEAUTIFUL STORY it amazing, same as yours one 🙏🤗

[@iCa11]

Thanks

[@mary0214]

I really really love ur videos! I just I spend hours watching it and Im learning so much from it! Thank u so much! I pray that God will continue to bless u more together with ur ministry 🙏🏻💙

[@loseweightwithmealplanning]

God really truly does give a NOW word! THIS!! A year later I’m watching this and it’s needed. Thank you for posting

[@christellen3077]

Thank you for your videos, be blessed!

[@luvg_rose]

I met my ex and started dating him around the same time you and your husband met and started dating, which is crazy lol. I mean, him and I were friends in high school but we didn't actually start dating until two years after we graduated. He's two years into the military, and I'm two years into my college career. Anyway, thank you for this message because when Ashton (that's his name) came into my life, long story short, I genuinely thought and believed that he was sent from the Lord. He felt the same way, and we actually talked about marriage sometime this past May.. you know I met his family and it's crazy because his grandparents actually live in my neighborhood (who knew?). And then it was around mid June where we got into one disagreement, and he broke up with me. I remember feeling God's grace the moment Ashton broke up with me, but I was also distraught.. and confused. I was asking the Lord, "Isn't Ashton the one you sent to me? Why did You do this to me, Lord?" You know I was kinda fighting with the Lord as to why He let this happen. It's been four months since we've broken up, and I'm just now coming to the conclusion that he just wasn't the one. The reason it was so hard for me to let go is because he's touched my heart in so many ways I can't explain. It was the little things he's done.. like putting my written letters to him in his bible box, setting his iphone wallpaper of the cross on his first screen-- and then my picture in his second wallpaper.. you know, those little things. I couldn't let go of the moment in time where I felt that Ashton was going to be the one I'd marry one day. That feeling kinda stuck with me throughout since then. But everything you said in this video has opened my eyes a little bit.. our relationship wasn't Godly centered, even though him and I wanted a Godly relationship.. and it was all lust and disregard. And it's true.. every time I looked at that man.. it was all lust.. Even though these red flags presented itself, I wanted to work it out with him. The mistakes that I made, and the mistakes that he made.. it was hard to talk about them especially being at long distance. It was hard tending to him when I can't do it face-to-face. We gave each other a million reasons to end it, and that's why we're not together anymore. Despite that, he was always good to me. Not once has he ever tried to start an argument with me. He was patient, and did his best in understanding me. I had a mental breakdown one day and he called his mom cuz he couldn't be there for me since he's all the way at Camp Leguene (his duty station), telling her that he's worried and he begged her to do something about it. Even got his Staff Sergeant involved, and a couple of Marines in his platoon.. they were worried about me. That was one of the many things he's done for me to show that he cared about me. And it confused me as to how he can leave me so fast, you know? So for a while, I kind of turned away from God. I was at a place where I just didn't understand why God did this, and I was angry at him.. I admit. I was angry. Confused. Distraught. I turned away from my dream of getting married one day, even though God promised me marriage when I was 18 years old (3 years ago).. that's how I came across your channel by the way. I clicked on your video, and when you mentioned God's promise, I was immediately captivated because I've been writing a lot of songs and poetries about God's promise to me since I was 18. I've never heard anyone in my entire life mentioned God's promise before. It was mindblowing to me, and that's when I knew God had me come across you and Adam.. it was for a reason. And both of you have not once failed to provide wisdom in my life, and I am honestly so grateful for you. Thank you so much🌹 Anyway, yes.. I turned away from my dream for a while.. and I'm still kind of closed from that dream to be honest.. there are days where I tell myself I'm better off alone, and there are days where I'd find myself looking at wedding dresses on Pinterest lol. It's weird. A lot of guys on campus has asked me for my phone number and for my instagram.. but I wasn't interested in any of them because even though I don't believe in love right now, I do believe that God has my husband reserved for me.. does that make any sense? My family actually encouraged me to go on Bumble and Tinder, and while I tried it for only three days-- I deleted them because it just felt wrong in so many ways. That's not how God wants me to live my life.. and that's not how I want to go about healing from Ashton either, and that's certainly not how I want my husband to come into my life.. you know? I truly believe that God has someone in store for me, I just really don't know or even believe it just yet to be honest. But I know everything works to the greater good to those that love God. And I'm trying my best every single day to live according to God's will. I'm not necessarily waiting for my husband anymore to be honest because I think I've settled with the fact that I'm better off alone (for many personal reasons having to do with my mental health), but at the same time, I do believe God is always good. He knows what's better for me than I do. So. Yes. :) I've struggled with my mental health for a long time too, and I think that's part of the reason God said "No" about Ashton. I have to do my own healing before I can love a man wholeheartedly. I still love Ashton, and I always will. He was my one and only, my first ever "true" love. But I wish him the best, and I pray he makes the right decisions.. and that he's smart in his pursuit towards happiness and success in his life. Anyway, enough of my rant. Thank you so much for you and Adam's wisdom. It genuinely means a lot. 🌹

[@PumpkinCherub]

What are some examples of red flags/non-biblical things? Thanks :)

[@simonespencer2244]

Good day beloved, please read Gal.5:22-23, 1Cor.13 & The 10 Commandments. If the person's life, their walk & talk doesn't align to any of these & they claim to be a Christian, you have to let them go. As children of God, His Holy Spirit is making us more & more like Christ each day in words, thoughts & deeds. We are not going to be perfect but we are being perfected. Anything below God's Standard of living is a Red Flag. I pray for spiritual discernment for you all the days of your life in Jesus' Name, Amen!💜🙏🏾

[@christinavanniekerk4928]

Thank you so much for your teaching and sharing the podcast link, it has really blessed me so much, God is so faithful and beautiful ❤️

[@BeccahJoy]

I wish I knew about your channel earlier!!!! 😍😍😍😍

[@Faithfully_Fi]

Great video!! Can you do a video with your book recommendations for inner healing. 💕

[@elsaklein5780]

Sarah, you're wonderful 😊😊

[@tricia811]

This is excellent,excellent!!❤ I have already shared this and will keep it in my library-thankyou!😊 May God bless you and your husband's ministry!

[@enhancebeauty2975]

Thank you for sharing this encouraging word for the single sisters. I just received my book 31 Prayers for my Future Husband and also I ordered lady in waiting and For Women Only. God bless you both.😊🙏

[@JesusistheOnlyWay222]

Hi sister, for me Father did an overlap where he took me out of a cointerfeit unequally yoked marriage and connected me to my KS at the tail end of my trial (on 26 June 2020!). He broke my soultie and connected my.soul to my man in an incredibly strong way over 3 days when we were cut off from each other while Holy spirit did a work in us, opened my spiritual eyes to him, and confirmed each other separately..

[@saintmoine7354]

So He brought you your new husband right when your previous marriage was ending? That sounds so interesting. What does KS mean?

[@mathapelonyembe4702]

Needed this ❤️❤️❤️

[@Stanbott]

Equally yoked doesn't mean that you see eye to eye on everything Paul uses it as an example of not being married to an unbeliever. Because then you actually have two different kinds of animals on the same yoke

[@davina4676]

I definitely needed to hear this! Thank you so much for making this video!

[@sallykabukuru1638]

Great, blessed message!

[@blackphoebe3834]

I would really like to watch the video you were talking about the custom made husband. can you pin it or link it, please?. Perfect video, thank you so much.

[@dee5904]

No point in guessing.. lol thank u:)

[@lauradavaloz2755]

Your message really blessed me and made me realize parts of my journey and things in my season that I wasn’t surrendering to God so thank you 🙏💕♥️

[@marielsantana3377]

Merci!!!

[@abigailjoyblignaut7517]

Thank you so much! ❤️

[@nehemilia5033]

Put m'y needs first IS putting God first in m'y life

[@Veronica_Graced]

So insightful ❤️

[@SimplySage854]

I’ve been praying for Christian marriage one that will glorify the kingdom it seems impossible for me …. I have no prospects

[@NowBloom]

Nothing is impossible for God!! ✝️🤗🙏🏽

[@alexisleatte2529]

Thank youuu!

[@itsallaboutjesus6111]

Wow I'm helped 🙏😍

[@paigeelise6411]

Something for others to be aware of, just because both of you are Christians, does not mean you are equally yolked.

[@k.b.2077]

Amen🙏🏾

[@symmaify]

Can i just ask... does the devil hear and act on our prayers when we pray?

[@jessefoster2832]

REPENT FOR THE KINGDOM OF HEAVEN IS AT HAND TURN FROM SIN AND TURN TOWARDS RIGHTEOUSNESS THROUGH CHRIST JESUS JESUS CHRIST IS COMING BACK SOON AND WE MUST BE READY FOR WHEN HE COMES BACK

[@hyp3r_unii]

If Adam is reading this, please, make a video, no need to be a fancy video, but... share if us about how it was pursing Sarah. i won't like... The hardest thing in life is to pursue a wife. OK Ok, But being single as woman and being single as man is T O T A L L Y different! Waiting for a wife is T O T A L L Y different than what you girls do (which is "waiting"), we have to pursue you, it's not like a "chill out and wait sit" thing... The Creator hammer us as an ingot of Iron on a furnace, he put us on fire to strengthen us. It is NOT as chilly as it is girls. Because we PURSUE, you girls WAIT. It's Passive vs Active... Totally different. And i'm commenting this because this video doesn't kind of works for man, like... How could Adam encounter a counterfeit, if he was already pursuing you? For man the battle is between giving up or continuing on. And I can tell, this hurts!

[@simonespencer2244]

Good day beloved, I hope this finds you well. Contrary to your belief, waiting for us women is not passive. When a guy approaches me, I have to first find out from God if He sent this person for what purpose. Is he being used to fulfill a need I pray about or is he my godly spouse? After speaking with the individual for less than 5mins or so, I usually know. If there's someone you're interested in you first have to make sure that you & her are persons after God's Own Heart, loving & serving Him as commanded in Scriptures. Because let me tell you sir, if you or that person is not loyal & faithful to Jesus in words, thoughts & deeds, your marriage will never work. I know & learned this the hardest of ways after 3 failed marriages. Observe her walk & talk especially if she says she's a Christian according to Gal.5:22-23, 1Cor.13 & The Ten Commandments, ask deep & tough questions, listen closely & pray every step of the way to God & ask Holy Spirit for discernment. If you see or hear anything unbiblical from her, call it out & if she apologizes & change, glory to God if not, you have to let her go. God is not going to drop the perfect person from the sky into your lap, He's going to allow all kinds of women to come into your life BUT the onus is on your to do the hard work in order to choose the person that is perfectly, perfect for your life, your vision, purpose & bring God honor, glory & praise most of all. May the Lord God of good & perfect gifts help you to find your good thing & obtain favor from Him in Jesus Name, Amen.💜🙏🏾

[@yzma6142]

Don’t idolize marriage over the love from and for God 🙏🏾

[@iCa11]

Please.what if he is another religion to Christianity.

[@shanx4170]

pray about it and seek God first , God says to be equally yoked so remember to take that into account!

[@Lightgeneration6446]

It’s okay she’s avoiding me

[@jennimontalvan]

Sigh……..😓