Marrying Outside Your Church | Our Journey

[@NozibeleQamngana]

As time went by, Skhu started choosing his own path. Even though his Ma would have liked that he chose their path, he changed to a charismatic church. And that's where he first got married. When I met him, he had already been in the charismatic church set up for years. As for me - I appreciate how Ma brought us up. It made me who I am. But there are certain things that I didn't believe in. Things I didn't agree with in the church. But I was stuck. As long as I was in my mom's house, it was very clear that I will go to her church. There were no negotiations. You would come to understand that I'm scared of Ma. I find it difficult to challenge her. And she would always manipulate me in thinking this would bring shame to the family. But I knew the minute I was out of the house, perhaps I should say married, I was gone! And I'll be honest that moving to Johannesburg helped. The expectation from Ma was that I will continue attending her church, with Skhu. We do visit when we're home but that's about it. Nothing more, nothing less. She often brings up the debate of why we don't find a similar church in Johannesburg because "ezicawa zenu azinamfundiso". These churches don't have good teachings because they allow to wear pants in the house of the Lord. When it was time to choose our own church, for our family, we didn't find it difficult. We attend a charismatic church. Yes, we differ when it comes to the value of the teaching, from one church to another, but overall the principle is the same for both of us.

[@nosicelosharontyhulu9057]

I also grew up in Z.C.C nam yaz( my dad was umfundisi omkhulu walapha eBhayi) but ke after he passed away then mama she decided kutshintshwe icawa sakhonza Seventh Days Church. As time went by I started choosing my own path nam ndabashiya pha Seventh Days.

[@nokuthulayipha7742]

@@nosicelosharontyhulu9057 wasishiya apho kulo 7days 😂

[@nosicelosharontyhulu9057]

@@nokuthulayipha7742 mntase andinanto against yona ne ndohlala ndingowalapho always... qha ndisazicinise somewhere 😂!!!

[@nokuthulayipha7742]

@@nosicelosharontyhulu9057 enjoy ke baby... Sakubonana kwi camp meeting after covid I know uzo visit😊

[@nosicelosharontyhulu9057]

@@nokuthulayipha7742 nakanjani mntase ❤️❤️❤️🤗

[@nthabie_m661]

I love the English lessons that always come up at the beginning 😂😂😂😂😍

[@bontlemodisane5859]

😂😂😂and vocal wat wat leassons😂😂

[@letshegomancoe4481]

Nozi's outfit is so cute ❤️

[@DobreyS]

I was looking for this comment, throughout the video I’ve been thinking that💖

[@lindamtatambi2959]

If my wife doesn’t hype me up this much after a haircut andimfuni 😭!!!

[@enhlemaphumulo3612]

😂

[@ncisept5900]

I'm not married, but this has opened my eyes. Thank you

[@yolisajho4494]

Liking your videos before watching is mandatory mntakabawo, because sendiyazi uba kuzobamnandi!

[@sindambinyashe4220]

I loved this video. I always say to my friends and family, I hope your version of God or beliefs is not based on someone else's experience or version. I was born from a Christian home where rituals were not practiced until umzali wam wathwasa, it was so hard adapting to the change however what I loved about mom is that she respected how she initially raised us and what we wanted. Sasingadli kwa ukudla okwenzwe for umncimbi until I learnt what I needed to learn and experienced it myself. Right now I am a firm believer of Christ and a believer of amasiko/ traditions. Ndithy amen ndithy camagu mntase

[@avelamalambile1124]

mna nawe sinje✊

[@amandachlakanyana6102]

You’re like a song that shouldn’t end!!! Your topics are always so relevant and interesting kutsha imbiza mntakabawo!!! Love you Mr & Mrs Mayaba ♥️♥️

[@zolekazulu7894]

To us who like before watching 🥂🥂

[@sisandaxulashe3674]

Imnandi into yenu guys iyamameleka, thank u so much. We are learning😘🙏

[@mphogaotime2489]

I have always known and believed that I would not marry someone who isn’t umzalwane for the following reasons: 1. The word of God advices us not to be equally yoked with non-believers 2. I can compromise for anything except my belief in Christ, not for my family, not for a husband and definitely not for in-laws 3. For my kids’ sake…not to be torn between different believe systems 4. I see the effects of it through my parents…honestly, one has to bow to another.

[@malethaboskhosana2001]

Me is you sis. I cannot compromise my relationship with Christ for anyone in this world. Not even my own family members. At the end of the day everything is spiritual and everything has a meaning and connected to something. We can't just do things for the sake of doing them. We are spirit beings.

[@bonolomasuku5896]

Spot on👌👏🔥

[@thandiwemasela8666]

Me too i don't wanna marry outside my religion/belief i want to get married to umzalwane

[@AvyJesus-centric]

Me and you mntase❤

[@timbawangu3038]

Correct👌👍🏻

[@babalwanapo8306]

It’s always good to hear from you guys.I’ve been married for 15yrs,my husband is from Limpopo ekhaya kuse Bhayi…Ismanga andika kwazi nangok uphek’ipapa,instead I cook other things and I introduced them to our food eg,magwinya,steamed bread and ginger,jonga baphambana babe ngama geza…I leave papa for my mother/sister in law and we are cool with it 💖💖💖

[@sandisiwechila7112]

Jonga me and you same WHATSAPP GROUP😂😂😂😂😂Ipapa yasekhaya andkayichani... And kngk im introducing ezi bangazaziyo kubemnandi kube sweet mntase, 😛😛😛❤️❤️❤️

[@babalwanapo8306]

@@sandisiwechila7112 exactly Mntase focus kle uyaziyo 😍

[@TheDlotos]

I love that you guys are not just a “couple” but you are best friends. It’s beautiful to watch and the love is so visible to us watching. Love it☺️♥️.

[@nontsikelelochiteshe5487]

Oh guys how I love you is unexplainable.... Jonga you make this life thing seem very easy. Stay blessed to be a blessing. Much 😍

[@nangamsofani6143]

It's Nozi's singing for me😂😂😂🤣🤣😅

[@kaurikanjoka]

Namibians fully represented 🇳🇦🌻

[@SuzetteKhiba]

NA 🇳🇦🇳🇦🇳🇦

[@letshegomancoe4481]

Skhu cut his hair ❤️, we love to see it

[@sinaloanitabota4805]

This content is so relevant for me right now 💞💞💞 Thank you guys 🌺🌺

[@homecomingproperties202]

I am married to Zimbabwean Ndebele and I am Xhosa. It's very true Nozi and Skhu. Do some research about the family you are marrying into. Someone said to me you only spend at most 10 days with your inlaws in a year and so make it count. Be willing and give it your best shot don't be wanting things that are not there and sokolising this husband. Great vedio like always.

[@lindtkatmmwaya4824]

How is that going for you? I am a Zim Shona girl and my partner is a SAn Tswana man. We are going to meet each other’s family in December hopefully covid will be contained. but I still feel like what if they treat me differently to how he thinks they will as the two countries cultures are different. Or upbringings are worlds apart.

[@mphoqete8981]

Interesting topic. I have not been exposed to any rituals until I got married. I'm understanding and attend whatever I'm expected to attend as a makoti but that's about it. Hubby and I go to a church that we've both chosen and raising our kids the way we've decided to, which is very different to how we were both raised.

[@snayezulu7251]

Skhu and Nozi must always argue in the intro😂😂😂. You two are beautiful.

[@luluqhola]

Yoh! The relevance in your conversations. Thank you for sharing. I'm unmarried, kodwa ndifana noMaSkhosi, ndiyawufuna umendo and I'm unashamed to verbalise it 🤣 Ndi-ready for the mqombothi and to kotiza nase next door 🤣🤣🤣🤣 Ndifuna utsiki 🤣🙈

[@ZazaMpaka]

Nase next door sana🤣🤣🤣🤣

[@thebenevolentpatriarch424]

Having bo lase next door?!😂😂😂. May you find what you're looking for

[@mabjalakhomotso1617]

Thank you Skhu for clarifying that ZCC does not not practice rituals. And it's not associated or practice any "Witchcraft".We are Christians.I am a ZCC member. I am very Proud of the Church.I appreciate how you acknowledge your background of the church.

[@lulekozikode3029]

It's a matter of acceptable/unacceptable doctrine rather than 'witchcraft'.

[@wangunolilian7207]

I love the way you tease each other. You were created for one another. The highlight is when an important message is being given by either of you, I have observed that you let the other person express his or herself. And High quality attention is given. Jokes are put aside for the real business to take place. Later, laughter and teases continues after the business has been settled. I admire you two!

[@neziswamaram7108]

🕯️🕯️for me to be as matured as sis Nozi😘❤️❤️

[@dipinamgoma1288]

I love this conversation. My grandmother is just waiting for that day I get called to emission. Jonga that time mna I'm like , how 🤔 Because ugirl has a guy🙈

[@mpumimoyi3862]

Owu bethuna uMakhulu

[@dipinamgoma1288]

Eish maar ku rough

[@oh.eulanda]

I love the teachings in my church (they aren't "unique" or extraordinary) but they have helped me progress from a milk drinking believer to a meat eater. I don't see myself fellowshipping anywhere else even after marriage. Idk how that dynamic will work but I hope it does.

[@mrshamunyela2194]

Guys, please remember some of us are watching from outside SA.. try keep it in English so we follow everything... Love from 🇳🇦

[@SuzetteKhiba]

Yes please. Team Namibia 🇳🇦🇳🇦

[@beechichie7228]

True these days they are usually using their language a lot but we also want to know everything because will be missing out when they speak their own language please consider this sis Nozi

[@92Kandee]

Or have subtitles when speaking isiXhosa. Let's not limit them to only speaking English, but to find ways to accommodate international listeners.

[@timbawangu3038]

You two are glowing 💕💕💕 Enjoy your weekend.

[@PrettySbosh]

I laughed yhoo Lionel 😂😅 and forgot a little about the protest.

[@zamabhelentangana]

I love your tracksuits Nozi ❤️

[@givensekhoto3348]

It's key to be equally yoked with your partner, the Husband must make it clear to his family about boundaries in the new family.

[@nokwandasbiya6462]

“All night long …” yes sisNozi!!! 🔥🔥🔥

[@shirleygeza5677]

I keep checking my notifications if there is a new video of you guyz. You are both incredibly blessed . Your content is really uplifting with genuineness👏👏👏

[@nozukoprudencemdingi595]

Interesting topic indeed🤗 Love your insight and honesty💞. This is where your faith and beliefs are tested!

[@tshepisophala5354]

I just joined the family and am in love love with you guys😍😍💯🔔📍I literally watched all your videos in two days✌🏽💯😘😂

[@nkosazanangombane1714]

Just joined them yhuu can't get over their videos. Started in the afternoon been here on their KZbin page.

[@tshepisophala5354]

@@nkosazanangombane1714 ijoh I love love them so much

[@topollomotjolopane2314]

when you get to the nice stuff sis Nozi forgets to translate, now i will be trying to piece the info together. whenever you can, please add translations. I honestly do not want to miss a thing. I have learned a few phrases over the year since I found your channel but somethings still fly over my head

[@simelubuhlempofu5787]

My partner was born in a Hindu family and am a Christian (SDA). Growing up in church, I found it difficult dating a fellow adventist because of the church guys expectations (which family I came from, what I did for a living, the qualifications I had "academically" the list goes on. Mind you i didn't have anything I mentioned above and more because I am from an unprivilleged family. Nobody proposed me for a very long time and I felt like everyone knew that I didn't have the qualifications required by the church guys😭 mind you time was also ticking, my agemates were married and those younger than me were also being taken phambi kwam. I was so depressed but nobody knew. Years went by and in 2019 I met my current partner after so many years of being single, this guy did everything I expected from a man and he is still doing it but the fact that we don't believe in the same thing makes it so hard coz everything feels so wrong "remember as Christian am not supposed to be equally yoked😭" and it kills me everyday.

[@zizonkezama6791]

Ooh marn Buhle💕 may God lead you sis💟💟

[@luciamokolo4742]

I'm sending you a big virtual hug sis💜

[@tashatee1389]

Ooh marn Buhle, ndiyayazi into yase Sabatha ntombhi!!

[@keoahilemoletsane1170]

Pray for yourself, for him and seek God's will for your relationship ❤️

[@lisathembani9657]

hiii i just want to introduce myself and ensure you guyz that i'm officially a member of the family xoxo

[@naledivimbani]

Interesting view and quite an insight. I love how you always start on a lighter note. Keep going we are learning.

[@sinoxolomoyo987]

😂😂😂😂😂 Yhuu Nozi's reaction when Skhu was telling the story of him having to be introduced to his father's ancestors! 😂😂😂 I was literally making the same reactions😊😂

[@ashleymude4482]

👏👏👏👏Gotta love these 2. Nozi insert subtitles for some of us who are from Zimbabwe. At this point i understand a bit though ❤️

[@lungiswakhethelo7005]

Great topic. Eye opening 💫

[@nontsikelelomtoli7173]

The way Nozi laughed at the part of ukusikwa.😆 This is so enlightening.💜🧡

[@lungilendwandwe758]

It's sis Nozi's heart doing "flip flops"😂 there by the intro

[@aphiwevali1856]

Thank you for this video Nozi and Skhu!❤️ I share the same sentiments about this topic especially as I relate to Nozi in terms of how I was raised. Your topics are always adding insight and perspective to a lot of things🙏

[@mpoomzadube1429]

😂😂1st thing I also noticed is that Skhu cut his hair 🤣🤣 Wadla Skhu "all night"

[@neliswamadondo9937]

Lol it's always the off topic arguments in the beginning for me 🤣🤣🤣🤣 love you guys ❤

[@sandssn6079]

I love you so much, you truly are inspirational and I learn a lot from you, your love for each other and yho hay it's a lot of things ❤️❤️

[@fundiswadudula3570]

Niyayenza inti yenu guys.. Jelas dawn All the blessings from the Most High💓

[@petronellabaloyi303]

I am learning a lot from you guys,thank you ❤❤❤

[@khuthalasomaxama6678]

Thanks guys.. Siyanithanda maani😘😘😘😘 May God keep u together for always💞

[@minkz002]

The only YT couple I watch religiously 🤌🤌🤞. You two are an asset in my life. A pool of knowledge and wisdom including real-life experience. So relatable. Ndiyanithanda no jokes. I’m giving you all your flowers while you’re still alive. 💐💐💐💐 🥺😭🥂🤍♥️ !

[@bongiwemazibuko9982]

I love you guys very much. May God keep you together and help you love each other even more.

[@babalwabobo8757]

Always looking foward to watch these vids...Thank you guys

[@samanthazungu9222]

Nozi. ,, 'yami mina i wanted the marriage' so true for most us..

[@rebotiled9156]

You guys are such a vibe 😂

[@nolowslim313]

Lol we are all camping here

[@OyamaMgojo]

This was a very helpful conversation as usual. You guys are very informative bethuna❤️❤️❤️

[@anitaandneedle7545]

The English battle everytime 😂😂

[@nondumisomakinana8797]

Did I not laugh my lungs out when Nozi said “uyabona namhlanje awuzolala, all night long”🤣🤣🤣

[@lionessmolapisi7557]

You two God brought you together 💕💕💖💖💕💕💖💖

[@zandilezabengunigumede3069]

It's the beauty for me ❤️ kule family yakwaMayaba, the nails the outfit,the glow love y'all guys❣️

[@lindtkatmmwaya4824]

I am a Zimbabwean Shona lady getting married to a SAn Tswana man. Our cultures are worlds apart, a few similarities but otherwise not really and at first I was intimidated when I learnt about Tswana culture and how his relatives would accept me. Iv met the ones in jhb and they’ve accepted me. But I don’t know what to think about the family I’m still yet to meet from his home town. Iv started learning Tswana so I can try to say a few basic things. My family has accepted him as well but we are still to introduce him to everyone...Love your channel!.

[@thamixelelo400]

I'm so impressed of your open conversations and Asakhe ungene uwavulile amehlo kwatata Mayaba

[@yamashingamashwama8826]

This was a good conversation. Thank you Nozi. Some of the pointers are even for people from the same church, for people in a relationship nje. Writing down what you are happy about and the challenges that you foresee is really a good thing to do because it forces you to really about the kind of life you will live with the person. Thank you girl!

[@mthembenimthombeni6927]

😂 😂 😂 😂 Aaaay these two.... Lionel Leoneli Lion Lager 😂

[@prudencepoti5616]

🤣🤣🤣🤣 yhuuu

[@ntombikayisemqina1305]

I've learnt alot in this video❤❤❤

[@alinandemupewa4500]

It hurts not understanding when they talk in their language. now you have to to assume that you get what they are saying 😅😅😅😂

[@naamashirima6061]

I feel the same here

[@gracekabucho]

True...wish there were English captions.

[@nkonkobeap9692]

You can click on CC on top of your screen.

[@oh.eulanda]

One thing about your videos? They are encouraging and they give you a refreshing perspective on marriage. Love it 💛

[@ncebakazihonono951]

Ndayibukela eyokuqala advert ndayigqiba for a change hay ndivile straight sis Nozi🤣 Love you guys

[@sibahlendlela8953]

😂 😂 😂 😂 😂 😂 😂 1 minute in and im already laughing

[@thuliswajuqu4174]

Jonga silila iinyembezi!!

[@sisiphomzimkulu774]

Uncle Skhu is so rude😂😂 "Kudala wahamba"

[@nthabisenghlakudi5270]

Lol 🤣

[@alutagxotani]

It's an eye opener sisi Nozie noBhuti Skhu 🙏🙏 thank you so much for this video❤❤

[@mbalimadlala924]

I've subscribed to this channel long ago as well as get notifications all the time and I Have never commented before, but TODAY!! I have to put it out there!!. This topic was one of my favourites. 🤞👏 so informative yet casual. I loved every second of it. 35 MINS was too short by the way lol.. May God continue blessing your union💖 Forever and always.

[@chantelmolele8996]

Yuuuuuhhhh👀🌹♥️the introduction 🤣🤣🤗

[@tashatee1389]

Really informative topic indeed👍, enkosini bethunana!! As we find ourselves in relationships with partners abangakhonzi kwi nkonzo zethu, this video was really an eye opener 😉

[@sisandaxulashe3674]

Ok I always thought that Nozi grew up in the AOG church, but after ndive indlela yokungena emtshatweni I am convinced that is not the Assembly of God.

[@mphogaotime2489]

Definitely not how we (AOG) do things!

[@zaneleradebe8954]

Lol... as someone from AOG🙈😂

[@sisandaxulashe3674]

Similar indlela but lena ngathi i strict too much, intombi ivuma kumfundisi so umfana uyaqhaselwa ha a sana, ibe worse ke eyofakwa i ring ngundodakazi ndiyaqala uyiva🤣😅🤣😅🤣

[@lolo_z]

I thought Zembula was extra, this one takes the cake 🤣🤣

[@thato_mofokeng]

Lol, as an AOG product. I thought we had it tough😂

[@nathynice1]

I DIED AT "UTYWALA IS CALLED LION" ,HAYBO BRA GOODMAN 🤣🤣🤣 WHERE DID THAT COME FROM...

[@akhonahermans5867]

♥ ♥ 😘 I think what's important is, to learn and understand one another and also to do things willingly

[@afikiletunzi1823]

Yhiiiiiii yhoooooo ngumcimbi lo wengeji tyhiiiiiiin akafane eykhuza uBhuti.....Ndiyaythanda indlela ocinga ngayo Nozi ❤😘

[@siphelelexulu3884]

Ave umemeza Nozi, when you sing, If you can just tone down uzoba ngomzwilili. uGoodman 😂😂keeps telling you qha wena awumameli😂😂😂😂😂❤️❤️❤️❤️❤️❤️ Nginithanda ukufa

[@anathipezisa9177]

Ndyanithanda mna guys and your topics are eye opening. Thank you so much

[@lindatafeni9402]

You are the mood, always 💞

[@tendanipelaelo6293]

🤣🤣🤣🤣 Nozi's singing

[@narelaurantsho3352]

As usual 👌👌👌I haven't done none of that, never slaughtered a chicken my whole life 😹😹😹 umqobhothi...I can try but hubby knows that I'm not slaughtering no feathery nor any other animal! Count me out!😄 .....Love you guys! Take care❤️❤️❤️

[@ingajonas9364]

My parents were never married but they both decided that I use my father's Surname when I was born. What bhuti skhu said is things esenzekayo kuba my father also says ukuba I was once sick when I was a child but immediately I stepped into my father's home ndaphila and my mom was so angry kuba caba ndandigulela ubhubha. Uthi uMama her family was like please thatha lomntana kuba nesisduko asisazi (ndingu Mampemvu ❤️)

[@sicko_ffx]

Hello Majali ❤️

[@theom1442]

Actually when I was a child I was so sick too....they took me to churches couldn't help at all untill one woman who was a sangoma...told them this child will not be helped by anyone no doctor or church....just take her to her father's home she will be fine. My mom took me home she said no one did anything to me immediately I go there the same day I was fine....in the evening I was so strong and i began playing with other kids.

[@lindobuthelezi9097]

Ya'll gave me something to think about.. thank you

[@AmeeraHoney_]

lmao ya'll had me googling the pronunciation of Lionel😂😂😂 kuyafana maan

[@conniepedinyane2492]

Always it's an eye opener topics loving the channel laugh till the end especially skhu when he do not shy to speak his mind

[@bulumkobulumko652]

Awu MOLOKAZANA WAMATSHAWE, Siyabulela. Ayavuya AMATSHAWE ANOMOLOKAZAN🎤🎤🎤🎤

[@simthandilempondo6827]

Zange Nozi athi “Lion Richie” kodwa. Ndive u Lionel. 🤣🤣🤣

[@veromashao7680]

Definitely not. I think maybe African Gospel

[@gautaseete7871]

My most favorite couple ❤️

[@letshegomancoe4481]

Nozi is reminding me of "the chronicles of a Lusisiki Makoti" did she not wear stilettos? 😂😂😂

[@yolandanxesi5463]

Yhoo the way I was laughing 😂 😂 😂 😂

[@nattyhill911]

I prefer Sku with hair 🥲🥲🥲… he looks handsome like that. But either way still works. Thank you for the relevant topic👏🏽👏🏽

[@KeketsoNtsibande]

Skhu bought flowers 💐 sbonge

[@workwithongz7377]

Zimandi incoko zenu. Sikhula nani as nani sikhula. We learn through your experiences.

[@nompelogoqwana5158]

🤣🤣🤣🤣Hayke Nina nge English lesson❤️ Thank you Sis Nozi and Bhuti Skhu for enlightening us.❤️ Thank you Bhuti wam for clarifying that your Church does not do Rituals because abantu abaninzi have misconceptions about it, and not knowing that they are Christ followers. I am bit confused kwelicala lenyongo? I believe you both Christians and both of your churches do not do Rituals . Your mom doesn't do Rituals , you were too raised in that way ,then inyongo isuka kweliphi icala? Or from your uncles? I would really want to know. Thank you very much Mayaba family for such eye opening topic.

[@sinazondaba2009]

I think its safe to say the mpondo guys are the best to date😉 Skhu reminds me of my boyfriend, he reasons exactly like him limpondo lase Bizana

[@bathandwabovana298]

It’s the “Nyongo” story for me 🤣🤣🤣🤣🤣🤣OMG

[@mihlesihlali5769]

Maskhosi kay1😍😍😍🔥🔥🔥 aaawwwuuu uNovaphi. Sibahle ke thina!🙌🙌🙌