o̶v̶e̶r̶sharing in seattle 💬 deleting my antidepressants

[@CelesteAnise]

I have been saying for years that living in this environment is making us mentally and physically ill. We need more in life than to be in survival mode working 2 jobs for 40 years and dying. We are curious and creative. Humans want community and to fit in somewhere. Society is structured around consumerism and always working and being the best and working the most. The people who can't keep up with these expectations fall out of society and are demonized for struggling and unable to perform the 2 or 3 jobs to keep a roof over their head. It is complete BS>

[@reginafisher9919]

Spot on what a great post!

[@Askalott]

You said it, Sister.

[@elanornadorff]

I'm a 5'10 woman and sooo relate to you about to unapproachability. I think tall women kind of occupy a masculine space (in the eyes of other people) and it makes us seem intimidating. It was even more noticeable when I had short hair and didn't present as traditionally feminine (even though I've always percieved myself as very feminine and warm). I think other women are intimidated by us because we literally have to look down at most of them to talk to them and men are intimidated because we're kind of in their lane physically and whether consciously or unconsciously, we don't seem as easy to dominate

[@Katherout]

ok there is so much tall women unity in this comment section on this

[@internetsafespace]

OH MY GOD. I just read this and suddenly things make so much sense.

[@Kim60610]

Katherout, I'll be curious to see if more and more people start approaching you now to make conversation. I think when we're in high "achieve" mode and always on a mission to accomplish something, we subliminally give off a vibe that we don't want to chit chat and "waste time." Please keep us posted on your journey. Love your videos and your message!

[@simiforbreakfast]

i think this is accurate and so now i’m having a crisis over it :)

[@amberburch152]

Gentle reminder that sometimes people are depressed in the summer when they're seeing their friends and everything is going "well". I'm so glad you're feeling better! I know this probably isn't what you're saying, I just get twitchy anytime someone approaches the line of "you don't need antidepressants, you need to go for a walk/go for a hike/etc". Capitalism sucks but disability is also a real thing

[@sugarbomb187]

this!!! some of these comments are a bit upsetting

[@Katherout]

it goes both ways, i think. capitalism often disables people because of the oppressive, constrained limitations it puts on our lives and the way we move through the world. of course physical and mental impairments have existed since the dawn of time, but disability itself is constructed by our ableist society. those are my politics on the matter at least!

[@amberburch152]

@@Katherout I agree with your politics, but I'm still a bit conflicted I think. Mostly because I do feel better with my medications, and that has been consistent for me in wildly different live situations. Even if society wasn't ableist I think I'd still feel dramatically better with them. This is something I've struggled with a lot, as have other depressed/anxious folks I've met. It's like disability imposter syndrome. Am I really depressed? What if I don't have an anxiety disorder everything is really terrible? It can lead us into really bad mental places. Especially when the answer is yes, this is really happening to us, even when well meaning family members are trying to convince us that we just need to go for more walks. Just wanted to share a bit of the impact. I don't know how you feel about content warnings but I think this video potentially warrants one.

[@gerardoflores2422]

Omg I’m right on time

[@Katherout]

ofc u are...

[@ClaireCraig]

just want to say that this has been one of my favorite series on youtube since you started uploading

[@Katherout]

omg

[@mellowmorgan]

I used to have people walk up and spill their life story to me and in many instances it made me uncomfortable because it was unwanted. over time it wore on me. I was assaulted various times and followed home once. I gained a bit of weight and grew older. I became hardened. I stopped dressing as showy. I avoided catching people's gazes. I went about my errands in an officious manner. I got a bike and stopped taking transit or walking. But sometimes I miss it. The attention but also the comraderie. But then one odd bad experience will re-harden that protective shell. I don't know. I don't know which is better. To be magnetic or to be safe in my loneliness.

[@ZarriahRose]

this is relatable and puts something I’ve struggled to put into words into words quite well. I don’t know the answer, but appreciate you voicing this and am wishing you well. Rooting for you!

[@mellowmorgan]

@@ZarriahRose you too; thank you love.

[@MrVikingsandra]

Yeah I literally walk EVERYWHERE in Seattle and I was freaking out about how nice and friendly random strangers on the street were. I always engage in conversation with strangers and I LOVE it! That never really happens in Europe where I'm based, sadly. Makes me wonder every time...

[@Katherout]

omg

Perfect timing for my post-work KZbin break!

[@Katherout]

YEEHAW

[@Askalott]

I completely agree with your analysis of the "mental illness" situation (not implying people aren't really suffering--that's real), speaking as someone who has struggled with those issue my whole life. I came to the same realization about my own antidepressant use, and I'm so happy to be off. I also believed for a long time that I was chemically imbalanced, but now I see that it was indeed environment, but I was gaslit by family, friends, and society into thinking I was the problem. I'm so happy you're doing well with the changes you've recently made. I still feel down from time to time because of all the trauma I've experienced (as well as the state of the country/world), but luckily the brain has neuroplasticity, and it has an amazing capacity to heal. Be kind to yourself while withdrawing off Wellbutrin, but I'm glad it's going okay so far. Take care.

[@Katherout]

NEUROPLASTICITY!!!

[@sheridensmith]

wow... another katherout banger

[@Katherout]

and that feedback is warmly welcomed

[@NoranMorsi]

Omg as a fellow 5’10 i never get approached too i mean nyc might be a factor but that makes soo much sense

[@Katherout]

WAIT NORANNNN WE'RE ONTO SOMETHING

[@Atmviola]

I live in Denver and also do not have a car. Sometimes it can be annoying since it takes longer to get to most places, but I also really enjoy using bus/train rides to read, journal, or listen to podcasts. I’ve also discovered so many cool places in Denver simply because the bus route drives by it.

[@marcusliou2812]

As a former Seattleite, I felt very nostalgic about the Puget Sound scenes.

[@JCResDoc94]

*solid. no adeps is always the most powerful position ultimately, of course. wish we could all be thr =)* (tho thr is nothing wrong w a shield to assist w the world. whatever works, for as long as it works

[@shumonjohnson6077]

5'9 Comrade here! How to be more approachable: SMILE, something about a bright smile says you are approachable. I also just speak to other people.

[@safety_sid]

I feel you man. I'm not a 5'10" woman; yet I also have suffered from the "unapproachability" auora as well. I can tell you from my experience it's definitely something that stems from how uncomfortable I am in crowds and what not. I guess I'm so uncomfortable that I put off bad vibes that others easily pick up on. Almost like how if you're afraid of a dog they'll sense that and be afraid of you. My wife on the other hand is right at home in big crowds and what not and she'll not only have people approaching her but I swear everywhere we go together there's always someone wanting to gift her something for free. She's also well above average height for a woman ... so I don't think this unapproachability aura has much of anything to do with stature.

[@Gravija83]

That is the best robe!!! Legitimately jealous!

[@Theendlesstoil]

AHHHHH YES GO OFF ABOUT HISTORICAL MATERIALISM. lol it almost like when you don't give people agency in their lives they end up mentally unwell.

[@Megano.oregano]

I definitely think the purpose of making such a car centric society was to keep people from congregating and communicating with each other, and to make money. I live a 5 minute drive from the grocery store but there is literally no way to walk there without walking on major roads with no sidewalks and there’s no public transport. Car dependency has been forced on Americans and it has so many benefits for capitalists. Everyone with car payments, everyone paying registration, everyone paying for gas, everyone paying for maintenance, everyone paying for insurance, and everyone totally isolated so they don’t know if others think it’s crazy too. Plus,You cant start a revolution if you’ve don’t even know your neighbors.

[@Katherout]

THAT PART

[@Lisavande]

Idk if you mentioned this anywhere already, but Id love to know more about these classes you are talking about!! They sound so interesting. Like are they online? Who organises them? How much are they? What are the reading materials? Sounds sooo interesting

[@youmeteacofeee]

That is so sweet of your mom❣️Also you're making me want to cut my hair. I’m surprised you get unapproachable vibes, you seem so approachable to me, regardless of height.

[@katrinaneville5427]

The video that made me a subscriber :p

[@astridrojass]

circe so good!!!

[@Lolzadoodle8484]

Lmk about these approachable pills bc I'm 5'4 and apparently unapproachable and intimidating. But when people get talking to me (I'm southern but live in the north), I'm a warm + inviting person, it's just something else about me ig LOL and masks don't change anything either, neither does how much makeup I wear (I do a lot of colorful/avant garde makeup and happily wear it out or am completely bare faced/wearing very light makeup and still... No approaching). Men will approach me weirdly but I don't entertain that behavior, I never get the friendly people, just creeps 😭😭😭

[@du_ogmog]

I am a 6'1 female, and I have heard in the past how I have been intimidating, but once they get to know me I am not at all. On the other side of that, I seem to attract the strangest people that feel then need to come up and just vent about life, or make odd comments that make me uncomfortable. I am intimidating to some, and overly approachable to others. I don't mind either way, there are times I just want to blend in, but most of the time I am comfortable with myself navigating through this existence.

[@ElizabethGilbert2]

I'm a 6' tall woman and get engaged with on the street somewhat- but I have a habit of greeting or smiling back at everyone I pass if we make eye contact, just because I want to feel connected

[@BelaCurcio]

approachability technique: bright neon green lipstick

[@emmeline-tyler]

I love not being approachable! Haha

[@jordyn5044]

yess circe is such a good read. wish i had more time to read :(

[@Katherout]

it was excellent!

[@UdoADHD]

Try celluma machine and it has money back guarantee

[@Yourrrr]

I'm 5'11/6 ft tall and I totally feel that... I've always been told people feel intimidated by me, I definitely have strong facial features and I'm a WOC which I feel people in seattle are less likely to talk to me bc of that anyways, it's definitely come in handy though when I don't want to be bothered Also holy shit I though dicks had shakes... I must've hallucinated getting one there lol good shake recommendations: red mill burgers and scooter's burgers (ballard)

[@Katherout]

ok so far the tall women in this comment section are in solidarity... and i think i was spreading misinformation cause someone else said dicks has vanilla chocolate and strawberry LOLLLL

[@shakiras5679]

Drop the snake ring hookup!!!

[@maggieboyle9275]

it was SO hard to let myself do what I wanted, when I wanted; and then when I started doing that, my initiative started to come back??? Absolutely wild how that works lol

[@Katherout]

..... you just cracked something for me about burnout

[@rayraystinz]

when you said .. no one approaches me, i said outloud to myself (as also a 5'11 woman) "it's the height" lolol

[@Katherout]

LMAOOOOOO

[@Shelleebeee]

if you haven't listened to the podcast Death Panel yet, based on how you're talking about connections between health and politics and economics, you'd probably enjoy it!! The hosts always speak with this righteous outrage that I think so many other (even far left) places fail to really vocalize.

[@Katherout]

ok thank you for the rec i need to hear this

[@solegonz762]

I soooooo wished I started watching your vids before

[@tylenolover]

Golden gardens ❤️

[@Katherout]

actually carkeek!

[@persimmonskies]

Yes to car-free life! Also, Dick’s has bomb milkshakes: vanilla, chocolate and strawberry!

[@Katherout]

wait.... i was spreading misinformation

[@BoomerBlogging]

The approachability issue is definitely related to your height - and - not an aura thingy. People - for the most part - are a tad "socially insecure" - especially during covid. You're lucky on this issue, in that, the people that do approach you are the people that "you" want to get to know.

[@healthycitizen1926]

Im glad you realized and stated that things around us are designed to disable us . I try to tell my friends and family certain songs , movies , and even foods we eat aren’t healthy and slowly affecting us negatively. Theres other things of course like your social circle , and things like that but im glad your mentioning how outside things affect us. Also no its not abnormal that you traveled around the way you done in this video . If you study other cultures outside of the USA they dont mind other forms of travel outside of a car thats an American thing and its pretty shallow to be honest.

[@amberburch152]

Do you follow any disabled content creators, or spend time with any disabled folks? You may not realize it but these comments are pretty ableist. Sometimes disability just happens to someone and it isn't their fault. It certainly isn't caused by watching the wrong movie.

[@emilyfiora1320]

Fellow 5’10er here! Not only am I an introvert, but I wouldn’t consider myself an approachable person either. Haha two for two! People often make remarks about how it’ll be hard for to find a partner cause of my height or how I’m always blocking their view :/

[@alexwyler4570]

Have you thought of becoming a lawyer? go back to law school? You are a great talker. And you care about the world - future Barak/Michele Obama. Most lawyers go in the profession to make money but always a few that make a difference for the people. That would be you! Do you know KZbinr Steve Lehto? He is a lawyer that stills youtube. Read his comments, it is a nice community. Different than yours but still agreeable. Just a thought. We need lawyers/politicians right now. You got to be a talker to go to law school. That is you! No way around it, it is a must to pass the bar. You would be a powerful president at age 40. I live in Corvallis Oregon. I do not know anything about politics but I would support you and I bet a lot of your followers would support you too. Just a thought. Something for you to journal on. ;-)

[@sugarbomb187]

as someone currently in law school, this is a bit reductive, you need much more than "being a good talker" to go to law school, or even be "argumentative"

[@sterlingmarshel6299]

@@sugarbomb187 I don't think she meant it as an attack on attending law school or that it is easy. She meant that she is very articulate and smart. Pretty sure she could become an attorney if she desired. Her past accomplishments are proven

[@sugarbomb187]

@@sterlingmarshel6299 i wholeheartedly believe in kath's abilities and I also think she would be a great lawyer. It wasn't an attack but these are some preconceived ideas about law school and being a lawyer that are commonly shared although they are not exactly true. a lot of people end up in law school and hate it because they think this is what you need to get through law school - truth is you mainly need reading and writing skills. law school is expensive AF and is very demanding, people need to know what they are getting into.

[@diaz9rox]

I think you just have a really nice jawline/a kind of badass looking face, tbh I might be afraid to approach you on the street if I didn’t know how warm you were from online. Also there are definitely down sides to being approached, I can be earbuds in reading a book at a subway station and people stop me to ask for directions, and people always ask me to take their picture, which would be fine but I sick at photography lol

[@Katherout]

omfg a kind of badass looking face... taking that to my grave

[@Pr1ncessYak]

Have you considered getting tested for adhd?

[@CelesteAnise]

Looks like Carkeek?

[@Katherout]

iykyk

[@justsharesumn]

when you said tmj my eyes popped up... I've been struggling like 2 years now.. the tension headaches are something else.. how did you treat your tmj? did any medication help with the headaches? the dentist says there isn't a specific cure/treatment. Any advice?

[@cassiemyers6689]

Just wanna say I’m with ya, TMJ headaches suckkkk. I have a custom mouth guard but it really doesn’t do much, just keeps it from getting worse. Advil never works for me anymore because of how much I used to take it

[@sugarbomb187]

try botox! it helped a lot

[@justsharesumn]

@@sugarbomb187 Thank you, will keep in mind! 😊

[@justsharesumn]

@@cassiemyers6689 Hey Cassie, thanks for sharing.. Same, no over the counter works for me either. I'll look into the mouth guard because sure don't want it to get worse. I hope we can find a good fix soon 🙏🏽

[@harjboparai1340]

Hi how is ur thyroid now

[@alyona_egorova]

What course are you taking? Sounds interesting

[@Katherout]

it's thru the political org i'm involved with on identity politics!

[@asilentkoala]

If you were ever at a Fish and Chips joint say Spuds in West Seattle Alki Beach, I'd approach and say your vibe is groovy. Just saying. ☺️

[@Alicia120904]

wow yes! I’m a 6 foot tall woman and I do think I intimidate people, specially men 🙃🙄

[@CelesteAnise]

Oh, interesting! I seem to be overly approachable I get everyone trying to talk to me and tell me all their life problems or issues and I am only 5Ft tall

[@Katherout]

i have witnessed this phenomenon with my sister and a few specific friends and it is WILD to me that just never happens to me

[@CelesteAnise]

@@Katherout are they all short? Do you want it to happen to you? I am originally from Mississippi so I was use to having many people come up to me and talk and take up so much of my time. Here in Seattle it happens still but not at the frequency it did down south. I noticed I get way less male attention here and I love that. I hated how harrased I felt in Mississippi from aggressive and immature males.

[@anastasiae.9110]

Wow

[@alexisjones2045]

This isn’t a dig at all, but you talking about finding the bench really reminds me of all of the people who literally don’t have a choice of whether they take public transit and their norm is life without a car. Our cities totally aren’t made for mass public transit and life would be a lot cooler if it wasn’t as car centric

[@Katherout]

agreed!!!

[@TheHannahPatrice]

God created you and Jesus Christ saved you from sin and He loves you more than you will ever know, understand, or appreciate

[@reginafisher9919]

My husband and I did the same thing instead of taking pharmaceutical bullcrap we now just smoke weed and have a beer it works much better

[@girlanonymous]

Hmmmmm 🤔

[@amberburch152]

You know your own bodies best, but please know that that can be dangerous for some people.

[@alexwyler4570]

oooh Did you taper off your NDRI at all? How long does the NDRI ( Wellbutrin) built up stay in your system before you start feeling it? Is an NDRI as addictive as an SSRI? did you get any malaise stopping your NDRI? Really really really surprised your psychiatrist did not give you a "tapering off" schedule. If you were on it for one year, you should give your brain one year to readjust ( just like pregnancy, sometimes it is a bit longer to come back to normal and still, you are not quite the same really)\ Maybe your psychiatrist did not taper you off on purpose. if you experience malaise, you will call him and beg him to go back on it. You see all the people living on the sidewalk thanks to the Sackler family rebranding opiates as non-addictives in 1990? All through the 1960s, and 1970s 1980s, doctors would tell you that cigarettes were not addictive and the reason you could not quit was that you lacked self-discipline. Tapering off SSRi :Lexapro from 20 mg . for your readers tapering of Lexapro. At the end when on the 2.5 mg, do not jump off, the step is too big, instead use a nail file to file off a little bit of that tiny 2.5 mg, a little bit more every day until only dust is left. That should help with the Lexapro ( SSRi) withdrawal malaise.

[@lvrinvn3080]

so weird how i find myself identifying more and more with every video. i love that you mentioned (paraphrasing here) mental illnesses being a reaction to capitalism & our material conditions. realizing that was pivotal for my own journey through depression. I'd say you're on the right track! amazing video, as always

[@caterinas6863]

Thank you, these were my thoughts exactly!

[@Katherout]

❤❤❤ it's always so affirming to come on here and find so many of us on the same path!

[@indecisivefruit]

Hey! I almost never leave comments on KZbin videos but in this case I felt compelled to leave a personal anecdote. I thought I was in a great place in my life to go off of my meds! I did so, and the first few months were great, I felt amazing. However, after everything got out of my system I found myself slipping back *fast*. I became severely depressed and even suicidal very quickly. It turns out that, personally, I just really do need to be on certain medication to level out my brain chemistry. This is obviously only my experience! I just hope you, and anyone else who tries this, are really careful and monitor yourself closely. Maybe keep someone close in your life updated with what you're doing and how you're feeling so they can keep an eye out for you as well. I wish you the best of luck with your journey!!

[@amberburch152]

Thank you for sharing this! I'm starting to see some pretty ableist stuff in the comments and I'm glad people are sharing their stories and pushing back. I've had similar experiences, and I'm finally in a good place with my meds. I'll probably be on them for a long time. And my life is going really well right now, my 🧠 just can't figure it out.

[@Askalott]

I'm sorry you had that experience. That could be the result of a lot of different factors. Hope you're doing well now. I was suicidal for a lot my life, and I tried all different kinds of antidepressants, and at first I felt good, but over time they made me even more destructive than I already was. After some extremely traumatic events and a lot of soul searching, I realized my brain chemistry was fine and that my life experiences had caused me to want to end my life. I went off antidepressants, faced my trauma, learned to live a life that was true to myself, and my mental health has only continued to improve over the years, and I never thought that would happen. I think it's different for everyone, and there may be a benefit for some people, but at this point in time we as a society are definitely overprescribing rather than underprescribing, so I don't want people to be fearful of questioning the use of these medications. Question everything.

[@Katherout]

this is indeed part of it for me! i think i'm in a great place in my life to go off meds and given how many other medications i'm on i thought it would be nice to reduce some of the side effects from medication. i wanted to verify -- am i still depressed without the medication? i talked in an earlier vlog about the rate of reoccurrence of depression which i'm well aware of, but i'd rather go on the medication when i really need it in those instances as wellbutrin started to curb its impact after 6 or so months for me.

[@katecritic]

you might like the book "wanderlust: a history of walking" I especially like the ties it makes to civic mindedness + walking as politics. new subscriber and I've really enjoyed your vlogs! my life is in a similar spot. you have a lot of awesome nuggets of insight and advice!

[@Katherout]

i neeeed to add that to my reading list

[@destroyx]

Wishing you luck off the meds! I heard they’re nasty to get off of. I’m on Lexapro myself and hoping to wean off soon. ❤️

[@Katherout]

my doctors were not as worried as i was LMAOOO i've read some horror stories but fortunately wellbutrin as an NDRI is a bit of a diff structure

[@cassandrahood7665]

Bruh the speed at which I clicked 💨💨💨

[@Katherout]

HEYOOOOO

[@TheLunarFire]

I don't think its so much about looking a certain way as the energy you put out. our bodies mirror what we are feeling, whether that's nerves or anxiety or excitement so if you're open to talking that will be more apparent to others too. maybe this is something that will happen more now that you're feeling good post leaving your job 🤔

[@NikiKuchipudi]

You were kind of on the right track with the social model of disability. But it’s more about, if we build a more accessible and equitable society, people can still be mentally ill but there will be systems in place that protect and care for them. Not: an accessible and equitable society will cure mental illness. Another example, I am a wheelchair user and am Disabled by an inaccessible world. If the world was perfectly accessible, I would still be a wheelchair user but would be able to access things more. Hope that makes sense. It’s very nuanced!

[@Katherout]

thank you for this, niki! totally. i don't script my videos so i miss a lot but while impairment will always exist, the way we experience those impairments in this world can change!

[@NikiKuchipudi]

@@Katherout very true :)

[@AnneleenRoesems]

Hearing you talk about your life as a pedestrian and your unaproachability really is a look inside the American life. I can't even imagine people eating in their car in my little country unless they're going on a road trip. And having people approach you like you mentioned is so foreign to me, but I actually love it when it happens! I hope it happens more to you, because it seems lovely 😊

[@alexwood3459]

I live in the UK and people are so chatty here but yeah, it's certainly not remarkable to eat your takeaway on a bench and I can't imagine someone commenting on it. People do have cars here but the world isn't that car friendly, like I don't know of any drive-throughs (almost UK people please feel free to correct me, maybe there is one?) normally parking in scarce so when you go into town you go on the train or drive but park miles away, you can't just live your whole day in your car. Most shopping areas are walking only and even if there's a road you can drive on it has little to no parking. I agree you'd only eat in your car on a road trip. I find Australia very similar to what Kat described though. Being a pedestrian outside of the city centre is a bit of a novelty, unless you're walking your dog.

[@AnneleenRoesems]

@@alexwood3459 I'm from Belgium and what you describe is very similar to my experience! Except that people just aren't chatty here. You would be considered odd or even threatening of you start talking to people in the street. I find it sad, because even in like a restaurant or a shop, people will do no small talk.

[@hannab2745]

!! i was literally just journaling about feeling like i am unapproachable, like I exude awkwardness or bad vibes or something, and i am also tall (6 foot)

[@Katherout]

OKKKKKKKK THE TREND IS TRENDING

[@lauraelisee]

I wish…chronic depression and anxiety aren’t always circumstance related and depression can still be there when everything is seemingly perfect. I’m really glad going off your meds has been so positive ☺️❤️

[@Katherout]

it's true -- maybe mine just coincided with a shitty ass time in my life we'll see!

[@jo-annfat-bricks2471]

If You like In&Out try CALIBURGER.... it is an In&Out immitation restaurant that also sells beer.

[@Lion_McLionhead]

Being part lion makes you very unapproachable at least for women.

[@majomoranh]

love the younger kat wall, and the inspiration behind it. i might create one for myself.

[@TechAndWanderlust]

One thing that works great for my mental well being is lifting heavy weights at the gym and intense training. It releases all of those natual feel good chemicals. Really calms my anxity and boost my mood. I don't deal with depression but this deff helps with stress

[@buddyryan875]

I'm a large male and most people do not approach me for convos. That's actually a good thing bcuz you can be the initiator of convos with who you feel like having one with and when you feel like. You just have to start taking control and do it more

[@justmearlene]

Have you tried joes burger in Kirkland? They have yummy milkshakes and they also have veggie burgers although I haven’t tried that burger but it’s all very yummy.

[@kelseyferal]

I think you’d be interested to read “breaking off my chemical romance” by P.E. Moskowitz !! It’s an article in the Nation and it was popular and making the rounds on the internet several months ago. There’s a very good chance you already read it, heck you may have already talked about it in another vid, but just in case you hadn’t seen it !

[@DavidLindes]

1:31 - *snort*... yes, well.... Let me just say, I appreciated the absence of such juxtapositions in the prior 3 vids. :) 15:20 - I've not done this specific itinerary, but I've had close enough experiences to say: you're doing it right. :) 18:19 - hey, pedestrianism sounds like a pretty benign pill! I say run with it. That and (and I wouldn't normally suggest this, but as a specific response to the question at hand, I will): just smiling at folks. Or nodding a greeting or the like. Seems to work for me.

[@yodathecatttttt]

I’m 6 feet and people talk to me look at me all the time, but I think it’s because I wear black and usually look like I work at the place where I’m at, LOL.

[@dearben3555]

I’m so happy you know about Heartstopper

[@olivia_leigh1]

implying work is the full reason for one’s depression is pretty ableist. even someone who is social, going out in the summer, doing hobbies, etc can still be depressed. also - meds are not a bad thing. they’re a really useful tool. it sounded like a lot of med shaming when you were saying “well it’s been two weeks and i’m not depressed anymore!” or “i don’t need them in the summer” when you know full well that’s not how chronic illness operates. and encouraging others to do the same is dangerous. yes - i’m all for lifestyle shifts. but someone can have the perfect lifestyle and still need meds and that’s okay.

[@gladiatorinsweats]

I didn’t see any shaming in the video, I think they were speaking to their specific experience and feelings that they may have about it. I think we can have differing experiences and acknowledge that someone else’s experience doesn’t invalidate your own.

[@cassiapalmeira8365]

love u kath

[@FixItOnTheWay]

16:26 I get the "approachability" problem. Men are usually less approachable than women because men have more dominant physical characteristics, like height. I have to admit that as a guy, I'm very intimidated by tall women. In the same way that I'm intimidated by tall guys. I feel like big people are dominant and less patient, and will punish me for annoying them. So it's best not to bother them. Since it's hard to hide your height. You could compensate by softening your look. Which is much easier for women to do. Most men have to bite the bullet and lean into the dominance factor, and be the one who always approaches other people. Because no one will approach them. So when you're sitting on your light switch bench and someone walks by...just invite them to come and sit down and talk to you. Or get bossy and order them to sit down. The upside to unapproachability is that isolation may encourage introspection, feed creativity, and help you make more videos.

[@GretaZ-dd3lu]

I'm no doctor but it makes sense to get off prescription meds for mental health issues whenever feasible. Change your situation rather than your body chemistry. Well done!

[@sugarbomb187]

sometimes that's just not possible for some people. just wanna add that even under the best circumstances some of us will still struggle with depression.

[@Whofuckencares808]

Uhhh plz don't film random people like that guy at 12:40 that's creepy of you. U wouldn't like it if someone did that to you

[@sterlingmarshel6299]

relax -- she didn't film his face, she was filming the puget sound

[@allisonarsenault5035]

I also am car-less! I’m in Denver and it’s not the easiest thing but I love hearing from other people without cars/how they get around! Really wish public transit in the US were more robust 🫤