Obsessive Compulsive About Relationship Conflict

[@leahguesman4294]

This is like listening to someone who has been living in my mind 😭 I needed this… especially today. Thank you Mark, once again.

[@tonypino5415]

Mark your teachings are blessing me a lot. The problem is not the problem. I realized all these manifestations of anxiety, bitterness, spinning etc were from very deep wounds in my heart. The Lord has blessed this ministry and now I'm ministering to others with these truths.

[@winniecash1654]

This is so me. Yay, God is using our brother Mark for the good of the rest of us who need healing. ! ❤

[@jpadkins1988]

Oh my goodness I have been wondering about this scripture. We read it out loud in Celebrate Recovery every week. My former BFF dumped me and I didn’t say anything unkind to her (she was literally offended by a compliment). I always worry that I’m supposed to go apologize even though I didn’t do anything wrong.

[@winniecash1654]

@@jpadkins1988 I wish I could give you some kind of encouraging words. Sounds like there's more to the story, at least in her mind, which would cause her to behave this way. Are you able to flat out ask her what happened?

[@learningpeace9788]

I laughed so hard at the Kermit impression! 😂🐸That was great, haha. This topic boils down to the "fear of being misunderstood" for me. Rejection for sure. Thank you for this!

[@KeketsoN01]

Yessssssss, fear of being misunderstood!!!

[@julietreagus7043]

Halleluyah...Its just so freeing to know that we're not alone in our quirks and personalities.... Rejection is at the core of a lot of things... So appreciate you pastor Mark... Can relate so well ..thankyou

[@LL-lj1kq]

I’m 70, and I couldn’t stop laughing at PREPARING YOUR HEART. Because that is me ! Thank you Mark, and thank you to the questioner. ♥️

[@Jesusandmentalhealth]

Dude, you are the male version of me 😂😂 Great and encouraging show. So thankful for you and others in my life (including the Holy Spirit and His leading) who have taught and encouraged me in my OCD recovery journey ❤

[@Cathereena]

Same! ❤

[@tiff1622]

I had to say this real quick, and let you know that you helped me stop with the scrupulosity just as it was solidifying within me. It was a hellish time, but your videos helped me calm down and realize that it didn't have to be that way. I Thank you, so much.

[@MelissaDeJesus777]

❤️

[@Nightwalker25-m3u]

I can't believe you have summarized my childhood church experience in one video.

[@richwilson3767]

Mark. Listening to this in my car on way to work. Laughing out loud. Walking in the room, do they like me. Then we answer ourselves. No they don’t. It’s not funny. It was just the way you said it. You have a really good sense of humor. And the muppets. Your something. Spot on the voices. So funny.

[@karlenebehlen15]

This is exactly what I deal with. Praising God for leading me to this.

[@VoiceAndPianoByChristaFord]

Hi brother mark, this is literally my experience with relationships since I was a young married military wife with young children, this exact same scenario would play out over and over again! Thank you so much for sharing how to avoid repeating this it is such a joy to learn all these skills

[@Pepperfam]

I have relationship OCD. I always have to come back to this video. This is a god send message. My marriage has been almost destroyed from my ocd and trauma. I was abused at my church and the toxic people I would spin out for months. Thank you mark!

[@MaddiKepley123]

I received a passive aggressive text from someone who makes me “spin out” - what’s funny is that before your videos, Mark, I didn’t know it was relationship OCD! I thought it was just me feeling bad for something maybe “I did.” I thought, “hmmmm maybe Mark has a video about this…” SURE ENOUGH!!! Thank you so so so much!!! 🙏🏻 everything you said was spot on!!!

[@judyaaron3232]

This video came up first on KZbin today. This is so real for me today. A granddaughter is causing me to feel this way lately.

[@patricknolin2936]

Thank you mark. You are a godsend doing God's work with real people with real issues. Keep talking WE'RE LISTENING!!♥️🙏

[@angelajackson3258]

I totally relate to it all; you are telling my story in every message that I'm blessed to hear.

[@propheticwarrior]

Really enjoyed this video. You hit the nail on the head concerning many things. I really like what you said about treating God like santa. Isn't that the truth. It's amazing how much mixture has happened within the church. I was encouraged by this video to see just how far God has brought me through some of the struggles you spoke of. Right now I am in the midst of trying to make a decision concerning a pastor who is a friend of mine. I say friend but perhaps it's more less like a really good acquaintance (not sure). I really do sense some things that are off but I am really trying to, like you said, "wait on the Lord". I definitely was milling over whether or not I should ask him if everything was ok but I believe the Lord led me to this video to hear what you said and my final decision is to leave it alone. Believing for the Lord to move my wife and family in a new direction this season of our lives. Her and I both watch your videos regularly. God bless you and yours.

[@mikem4883]

I have the rejection mindset book. Just came in. Awesome needed video for me. Thank you so much Mark. From now on, back off and let the Holy Spirit work. I always felt, ,as a Pastor, I had to jump on everything. And I lost a lot of sleep. Now, retired and filling in once in a while, much more peace. Wish I knew what you said in this video, 30 years ago…thank you. Ps I love your joking around. Life is toooooooo serious for some of us. Love you my brother. Mike

[@amygoff4127]

This is for me

[@tylerortagus931]

Oh man thanks mark this is spot on for me! Some good stuff to look at. Lord convict me when I’m looking for validation and acceptance through others!

[@lindacarr7721]

Thankyou for being willing to me talk about these things. It’s not popular in The church yet soooooo important. God has used you to help me on sooo many dark times. Thankyou

[@rondawallis957]

So good and funny! I love how you help us laugh at ourselves!

[@olympia.i_rea]

This is very relatable!

[@coconut_juice]

ew i think i just did this yesterday - and also all of my life

[@danab398]

Thank you for all you do! Your videos and insights have helped me see the truth of spiritual and narcissistic abuse that I experienced and start to finally truly heal. What would you say about a Pastor who encourages “wronged” people to come to him first, instead of going to the person who wronged them face to face first?

[@iw9338]

Yes i hear you on this. Yet, most people don't want to discuss things Thanks Mark👍👍

[@SketchybrainD]

So far this is exactly what I’m dealing with. Thought i was the only one I’m being so fair and was honest about this from the beginning. She is just using it against me and I can’t understand why. She pursued me. I told her I can’t handle a relationship yet. Told her my problems. She kept pushing and guilting me She promised she would help I trusted her Told her I get if I’m too much just don’t leave my head all messed up. Just be honest. I told her I couldn’t and said I don’t do well in relationships. Six years she swore she would help That she loved me. As soon as I dropped my guard and let myself believe her and it could work. I fell in love and she used everything I told her against me. My mom died and she ghosted me right after I can’t believe anyone could be this cruel after six years of making me think I could trust her.

[@lorisullivan327]

Ohhhh yeah… the queen of codependency… the process is slow to unravel… 🧡 I loved the old guys 😂😂🤣

[@jessicalove143]

It sucks when the one you love is a DismissiveAvoidant. I just want to love him and help him where I get compulsive and anxious. I have to tell myself to just let go and let God and not take it personally.

[@ammiebrooks6011]

Mark, everything you speak about is so relatable to me. Thank you for your videos.

[@beckybarber7969]

Great stuff. Really appreciate it. Your word and ministry is helping me as we minister to others here in Belize 🇧🇿. Thank you and to God be all glory.

[@sharonspender6431]

Mark thank you SO much for answering my question. Sending high fives back to you. By the way, if coaching/podcasting ever stops working out for you, I'm sure you could get a job as a Muppet; you sound just like them!

[@Cathereena]

Yes! Loved the Muppet Show! Don't forget the Swedish chef! This video is me! So much in this video that I needed to hear and apply! Thank you! God bless you!

[@justapseudonym7]

So relatable, I especially struggle with "waiting on the Lord" because I get decision paralysis from perfectionism and feel I'm using it as an excuse

[@taylorplayer50]

Thankful for what you shared, I can relate!

[@iw9338]

Yes, growing up nothing was discussed. Great job Mark❤😂

[@deynaundomiel8402]

Oh wow! 8:34 hit hard ! This is very helpful!

[@carolobrien242]

I absolutely relate to this. Thank you so much!

[@julietreagus7043]

Spot on Mark.....so thankful for yr ministry.....bkess Abba

[@SketchybrainD]

Yeah. I find myself in that now. Sounds just like what I’m dealing with.

[@KeketsoN01]

Thank you so much, I almost texted his exes because of how compulsive I was getting

[@jpadkins1988]

Yes, I can’t stand conflict. People being mad at me. When Jesus sets me free of this finally (he has been working on me for several years and has brought me a long way), I will truly be “free indeed.” I do see where you are saying it’s really just following compulsion instead of doing it for the right reason. The Bible college im attending right now teaches that all suffering is the result of self-centeredness. So I can see where the true motive should actually be love.

[@jessicalove143]

I felt this 🥺

[@darcyd2680]

Ahaha, Mark 😂 it makes me lough out loud how you explain things "Hmm, I got to prepare my heart for church?"...🤔😂

[@TomDutch]

Statler and Waldorf

[@dja192]

Mark, for the Happy Days Song, it’s just sung with the days of the week in order. 😃 But wow what an amazing rendition of the Muppets! I couldn’t even remember the words! How’d you do that? And I used to watch it a lot too. Was I OCD zoning out then too? 😂

[@annasupyo]

Cant believe ive found you man

[@winniecash1654]

Someone close to me cut me out of a business contract which cost me loss of income. (They are a family member). Before this they had given me a loan. Because of the loss of income I was not able to pay them back. Cutting me out of the business agreement took me over 10 years to recover, if I ever recovered at all, since the yeaes after this the market crash of '08 happened. Now what? I really need perspective.

[@roccofelder1551]

As I rest I feel anxiety while laying down

[@Nightwalker25-m3u]

I gotta be careful of mockery but man, prepare my heart. I just gott very rigid as a kid!!!

[@CC-ze2ky]

😆 Awesome! Good Stuff!

[@julietreagus7043]

Lol lol muppet show impersonations very good..

[@Nightwalker25-m3u]

When you said you dealt with the last church. I heard "lost church."

[@SketchybrainD]

Man I hope this has to do with what I’m dealing with. I don’t like to assume things about god and don’t really think anyone can speak for god. But. I respect peoples beliefs. I just hope I can get something from this that can help

[@Nightwalker25-m3u]

The Apostle Paul thing was really interesting. Maybe he will say something like that.❤

[@shannonl9633]

The Religious Spirit will even make 'believing' a work. Faith is a gift - something that you just receive. One does not have to do anything. 'What God requires, God supplies'. - Not mine

[@shannonl9633]

Let it happen To you rather than trying to manufacture it. We cannot create or muster faith - God supplies it for us. . .it comes from Him.

[@thejanellelive1755]

Professor Bunson

[@Nightwalker25-m3u]

Yes, pandas, Zeebras, Penguins, and Toucans, and oreos! Lots of white and black.😅

[@emilyadams7046]

Anyone else watch these videos out compulsion and reassurance seeking, no? Just me? 😂

[@roozbeh1253]

Today I had a dream about God, it was kind, I will not let something this kind and good turn sour by ocd, I have to be strong, like you guys

[@angelaroubique333]

Sooooo me! ✝️🛐💟

[@Nightwalker25-m3u]

So, the other day.

[@roccofelder1551]

I want to grow in the love of God

[@judyaaron3232]

Me too

[@rockerune]

Great Kermit-impersonation

[@loriclark505]

This is hilarious