OCPD | Living with Obsessive Compulsive Personality Disorder

[@saraslife1972]

I have been diagnosed with ocpd last year. I recognize everything you are saying... Hope you are doing well!

[@Nicolasa_vega]

Sara Van Keymolen wow thank you so much for sharing that! I’m learning to cope hope you are well too!!! Thanks again for the comment

[@barianelozano2614]

Hello sara, i have a loved one whom i think have ocpd, and i want to understand her more. Can i ask questions from you through email or messenger?

[@saraslife1972]

@@barianelozano2614 yes, add me on Messenger

[@davidcross2341]

@@barianelozano2614 do you have a black and white personality?

[@nsdianna]

I think this is a fairly unrecognized disorder and it's important for people to talk about it. I know it's scary to share things like this, but I'm glad you did. Honesty takes courage. What you said might click with someone else and help their lives.

[@Nicolasa_vega]

I really appreciate this!!! I didn’t think it would reach anyone as I’m a very small channel but it’s been great connecting with people with so many similar struggles. Thank you for watching!

[@gatw1977]

I’m relieved that there’s an explanation for what I’ve been going through, I only found out it was OCPD today. It all makes sense now.

[@pauldelaney4180]

Very courageous and brave of you to put yourself out there on this subject. Like you, the diagnosis was a happy thing to learn but after a few months, the concern about “who am I” set in and I went over past relationships and experiences to see where my “disorder” caused issues. I’m lucky. I’m married to the same partner for 38 years who loves me unconditionally and who knew my personality was a challenge from the time we initially met. But he sees the positives I. My personality and encourages me to build on my strengths. Good luck with your progress. Thanks for your video.

[@rustyshackleford6149]

This sounded like a mirror description of my wife, I’m trying to find a way to gently guide her toward this information without making her upset. She’s self aware enough to know she doesn’t know why she is like that and doesn’t like it. But it’s WWIII sometimes when her ideas are challenged. I was diagnosed as one of those neurodivergent types late in life. , I too felt such a relief when I found out, I thought I was crazy or lazy. I’m very happy you are taking yourself down the path of self discovery. Thank you so much for sharing, I wish you and your family all the best ❤

[@Nicolasa_vega]

@@rustyshackleford6149 thank you! I hope your wife gets the clarity she needs when she’s ready! Best of luck to you both!

[@RowanEvenstar]

Thank you so much for this. I am trying to get a diagnosis and I'm watching a lot of videos. But most videos are doctors just going over the DSM. It only seems to hit home properly when people with the disorder give real examples. I'm so grateful you have shared this.

[@akshithreddy182]

I can totally understand, even I m suffering from OCD and OCPD since when I was 13 and now I'm 18 it's getting worse every day I have been on medication since the starting but it isn't working properly. the thing which u were confused about and questioning "WHO AM I " I can totally get it because even I asked the same question to myself, that makes me feel like I'm characterless 😔 I ruined all my relationships due to a lot of expectations from them😔 I get very depressed sometimes because i have very big goals extremely big plans, but due to this perfectionism and disorders I'm slowly losing the vision of my goals

[@Nicolasa_vega]

Thank you so much for sharing!!! I’ll have to do an update video soon

[@padcha8210]

03:48 I can relate to this feeling of relief and happiness after having (self)diagnosed OCPD. I have been so excited and incredible to read the respective ICD 10 criteria, since they basically describe me, which is mind-blowing. Again, it's fascinating to hear about people like you having felt the same way... 😊

[@lilyberghold5025]

I relate to this too much. Thankyou for sharing and making me not feel alone. It’s so hard to hear people talk about their experience with ocpd. I have ocpd but I can’t be diagnosed unfortunately until I am 18

[@dalilaperez7291]

Thank you so much for sharing your story! Up to this day, I had never met anyone with OCPD like me. I also felt “happy” once I was diagnosed, because Yes! -everything made sense! But it sure has been conflicting, because it frustrates me how I struggle with my ideas/ways when things are not in my control. I’m still trying to research more and understand it. Know we are not alone in this; people who have stayed around are valuable for loving us as we are, despite our virtues/flaws💖I wish there was a group to join virtually. Take care girl!

[@Nicolasa_vega]

Sorry it’s taken so long to respond. Wow I can’t even tell you how nervous I was to post this video but the fact that there’s people relating to it makes me feel great. I plan on doing a follow up to this video. Again thanks so much for watching.

[@barianelozano2614]

Im willing to join that group, i have a loved one whom i think having ocpd and i wish to understand her more everytime we are together

[@shananorth5231]

I have been diagnosed with OCPD for at least 8 years now, everyday is a struggle. Learn to take time with your kids because it truly is worth it. For years I didn't have time for my kiddos, I prioritized irrelevant tasks ahead of their childhood. Now things are much better, it is important that you allow your need for perfection to exist and set aside a small portion of the day to easing that anxiety. Best of luck, you are not alone.

[@goldust8092]

Great job in expressing your feelings about your diagnosis of OCPD. You mention that you worry now if it may have been a contributing factor in some failed relationships you’ve experienced . Its seems that you currently have friends in your life so obviously you haven’t let your disorder always get the best of you and they have seen good things in you. From what I’ve researched on the topic and in having a son with the disorder I can tell you that isnt always the case and that many people with the disorder lose their closest relationships. I think your obvious ability to be honest with yourself and others and your openness to learn how to identify when your over reactions or expectations may be negatively effecting others is going to be the key to you overcoming your disorder and ensuring a better life for yourself.

[@LaneMaxfield]

Thank you so much for talking about this. I haven't been able to get an official diagnosis, but I have been struggling to find out what is wrong with me for a long time and OCPD fits incredibly well. I can relate to everything you are saying. Whether I end up diagnosed or not, the information is helpful and validating.

[@oldnewsglory]

I haven't been officially diagnosed, but a psychiatrist at the ER recently told me this was his theory and holy shit was he right. I've been feeling this kind of emptiness that is different than depression episodes I've had in the past. Hearing your story was really very helpful, so thank you for posting this. Especially the piece about wondering "what is my personality?" That is exactly what I am feeling right now.

[@elizabethavalos7657]

Thank you so much for posting this. I just found out today what OCPD was and before that always thought I had some form of OCD or extreme perfectionism and self hatred. This is the first time I've heard someone talk about what I struggle with on a daily basis.

[@unity1683]

Proud proud proud of u! It's amazing how u recognize ur limitations and look forward to work on them. Ur partner and children are so lucky. I and my dad die everyday dealing with my mom with ocpd. She is prejudiced against taking therapy and is too egoistic to recognize her limitations. We aren't as lucky as ur family :)

[@williambreen4915]

Thanks for sharing. I would really love to see more personal examples of this condition. Your video was not perfect and this is part of being human so great insight. But it real and heart felt. Also great insight into recognizing that rigid adherence to order and timeliness does not equate to having a good time, or reflect negatively on you. Dare to be bad sometime, put your husband's socks with his tee-shirts and see what happens. Best wishes as you continue to work on personal issues that effect your life.

[@terrahumphrey9455]

Great video. love your transparency and honesty.

[@swedd013]

Thank you for sharing this! It all sounds so relatable to me except for the spending style and not being able to discard objects. I've just started with therapy so I still have a long way to go but thanks to you it's making so much more sense so thank you for that. Hopefully you are doing better now!

[@jannahahmed1742]

Thank you so much for sharing your experience. Would love to know how your journey continues for you!

[@Nicolasa_vega]

I would love to do a follow up! Thanks so much for watching.

[@VioletFoxisms]

Thank you so much for this. I got diagnosed this year. That thing you said about ocd vs ocpd really helped me. Therapy has helped me as well. I’m “flexible” these days too :)

[@Nicolasa_vega]

This makes me so happy! I hope you are doing well!

[@SuperJessTV]

I think we all have a few of these little quirks. I know I also used to hold people to my standards and it brought me a lot of grief in the past. I'm a little more lenient with that now lol

[@Nicolasa_vega]

SuperJess TV thank you!! I’m learning!

[@georgiasocratous3560]

A personality disorder does not mean that your personality is a disorder. It just means that SOME aspects of your personality might be maladaptive. But there are other parts to you and your personality that are equally important. At the end of the day, we all have unhealthy/maladaptive traits. We should learn to accept ourselves as we are, both good and bad, both healthy and unhealthy, we’re not just parts of us, we’re “all” of us, imperfections and flaws included. It’s also rarely black and white - although OCPD causes a lot of suffering, there’s positive things that can come from perfectionism, preoccupation with order and details etc. The goal should not be to completely discard those traits but rather “negotiate” them when they don’t serve us :) only when we accept ourselves as we are, then we can change

[@daniellelevy-wolins4498]

Really grateful for this video - thank you so much for sharing. You are speaking my story!

[@im19ice3]

thank you for sharing, i'm grateful for every instance i dont feel crazy all by myselgf:S it can get lonely out here

[@kristinam2719]

Hello - I am just wondering what prompted you to go and get a diagnosis? I’m asking because my experience with someone with OCPD is that he is always in the right and doesn’t see what is wrong with his behavior.

[@janaywilliams1568]

I am so appreciative of this video. Thank you

[@brianmarshall3931]

Been there done that. Went through 2 year depression where I let crap pile up and had a very messy place - but it returned right after of the the depression. Almost all of it... not leaving a dish in the sink for more than 3 minutes, to cleaning house twice a week.

[@Nicolasa_vega]

Thank you for sharing! I struggle still with it as well and it comes in waves for me too. Sometimes it’s unbearable and then other times and can kinda push it to the back of my mind. I’m learning to make peace with the fact that it will probably always be a back and forth.

[@mads777x]

Thank you so for this video it's really hard for a teenager as all my friends never understand me at all and I just feel so alone like no one understands me one of the main concepts with me is devotion to work...

[@howdoi4174]

Thank you for sharing your experience. I believe my husband has OCPD and it’s ruining our relationship. I searched a lot about OCPD. I also talked to 2 psychiatric who offered free service at my church and they said that it was OCPD. However, my husband is not willing to see a psychiatric or admit it. Could you provide me with any resources to cope with my husband and live peacefully like virtual support groups

[@Nicolasa_vega]

Oh my Im def so sorry you are on the receiving end of ocpd. I’m def don’t know of any support groups as I’ve never thought of that before but that’s actually a really good idea. I’ll try googling some info. I really hope your husband is able to reach out for help and that you guys can work through it. Sending you all the positive energy.

[@thedanielprocess]

Man U are so brave for this

[@Nicolasa_vega]

The Daniel Process thank you! It means a lot.

[@angiedilaj]

I was diagnosed with this as well as OCD. So it's a constant battle between my OCPD believing it's right and the OCD knowing the compulsions are illogical

[@thedanielprocess]

hope this means u are back.. this was great info.. thank u. and thank u fr sharing

[@Nicolasa_vega]

I am!

[@eversunnyguy]

Are most OCPD's angry as they have 'my way or highway attitude' ?

[@Bunicher1]

Thanks for sharing and your openness

[@hcwyt2646]

My husband has it but he refuses to admit, how do I get him to realize it and get help?

[@janicewilliams7665]

So happy u made this video..im struggling with same issues...when u were diagnosed did they suggest therapy or medication? Thanks

[@Nicolasa_vega]

Im so glad if this helped you in anyways! They actually recommended both. I tried meds for awhile and they helped but I wanted to see if I could manage on my own. I’ve been off for about 4 months. I’m doing ok! I have moments or days but just the act of recognizing it’s ocpd helps me shift my thinking. Always a work in progress tho!

[@caitlanward]

Wow you hit the nail on the head explaining what OCD really feels like in everyday situations.

[@May-fe1sz]

Thank you for making this video. How did you get a diagnosis? I've heard that's is hard to get one

[@sheleeromo]

I know someone with ocpd 💜 love you

[@Nicolasa_vega]

Shelee Romo i love you more!!!!

[@jmfs3497]

As someone who works under a manager with OCPD, the frustrating part IS the complete projection of their egotistical needs onto others. The need to see everything as a competition, the need to control and to criticize others, the double-standard of wanting other people to constantly follow their rules but being the one that can change the rules at a moments notice if they break their own rule... like being the one that makes themselves late to something. They will criticize me for being literally one minute late, but since they are the manager will just change the meeting time if they are running late. For me, it feels like my manager is abusive with his OCPD... like I feel actual trauma from not being able to find another job where I don't have to uproot my entire life to get away from him. The idea of perfection isn't real, either. Like I like the results of my process more than I like the results of his process, but I don't force him to do his projects they way I want to do mine, yet he does force me to do projects the way he does projects and it seems slow, low quality, and low client satisfaction. It's the need to violate other people's boundaries and control them, even through triangulating around them and manipulating things. It's a "keep your hands to yourself" lesson that didn't seem to get picked up by the person with OCPD. I'm glad to hear how people who have this disorder think, so that I can navigate them better, but it is really exhausting to deal with someone with OCPD who is in denial. Thanks for processing your life. Most people know they aren't perfect, even if they like things a certain way, and we do something called "compromise" and "respect boundaries".

[@rockinmama007]

Thanks. I've find a critical partner and raising children evoke this

[@bunnyf.carrot6300]

I'm a very religious person, until one freaking day, i started praying at the doorknob, i kept doing the same thing all day, and if i skip it or try to avoid doing it, it bothers me like something bad is going to happen, then the hardest part of my day is going to the bathroom thinking about my crush, when his face is suddenly turning into the guy i hate a lot, and i won't leave the bathroom until i see his face without thinking him as the guys i hate. This is so stupid, like i have to look at myself in the mirror without looking away, until i finally get inside my bedroom, or some unwanted images popping in my mind, this is disturbing me.

[@markwilson8078]

two things that personally I think really help towards OCPD recovery and management, Meditation and Medication. try to do things for enjoyment not achievement. I'm pretty sure I have OCPD. I feel there is somewhat of a cross over with other disorders like generalised anxiety disorder, has your doctor recommended any medication?

[@Nicolasa_vega]

Doing things for enjoyment and not achievement!! I love that! I really need to try meditation. I was on Zoloft for several months but I wanted to try to manage it myself. It’s sort of going ok. Lol.

[@markwilson8078]

@@Nicolasa_vega I'm so happy you've replied so quickly! I hope you are doing well, I'm sending hugs. dealing with personality disorders is difficult work give yourself a break, I use a medication called pregabalin which has helped me a lot. Us folk with OCPD have such a hard time relaxing and I could relate so much to what you said about feeling like you always need to be doing things. Alongside meditation I also really like swimming but unfortunately gyms are closed at the moment again cause of lockdown, second lockdown. :( I'm from the U.K by the way. x

[@zendejas530]

Hi, I think My husband is OCD a little. One example if he enters a restroom he has to wash his hands and then wash his face every time. Even in public restrooms! I get washing your hands but your whole face? Lol. If he doesn’t wash his face it bothers him and he’ll be all disgruntled until he washes it.

[@Nicolasa_vega]

Kristina Garnica we are all a little crazy! This makes me feel better. Lol. I miss hanging out with you guys! 😫

[@thedanielprocess]

ya I wanna know

[@mrs.wallace3175]

Have u found anything that works? I have been suffering for over 15 years. Meds don’t help me.

[@silviaa7396]

Thanks for sharing. I'm suffering from ocpd too, and I'd like to know your experience within pregrancy and hiw ocpd affects relationship with your loved ones. I m so scared of growing a family bcs of this disorder...

[@Nicolasa_vega]

Sorry for the late response I wasn’t getting notification. While everyone with ocps is different I have to say having my family is what helps me so much. And while I do struggle with not being a helecopter mom because of the ocpd I’m so thankful for my kids. Wishing you luck and sending all the positive every your way whatever you decide.

[@silviaa7396]

@@Nicolasa_vega thanks for the answer :) I'll try to focus on the things you wrote and start a discussion on this topic with my psych. I wish good things to you all!

[@teasha7794]

I just find out I have that

[@Nicolasa_vega]

@@teasha7794 sending you 🫶🏼

[@thesam3291]

I can relaaaattee

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[@sebastiantorres6327]

8:38 and 8:43 ... I feel attacked. 😂😂

[@Nicolasa_vega]

Sebastian Torres lmfao shut it!!!

[@spoonyliger8587]

Why did she just describe my whole life to a T? Is she my FBI agent? lmao

[@barianelozano2614]

Hi, i have a loved one whom i think have ocpd, i'm willing learn more on how to get along with my loved one. Can i message you or email you? Thank you

[@Nicolasa_vega]

I’m so sorry I’m just seeing this. Yes message me on ig if your interested. Nicolasa_vega.

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[@ciobalina7445]

I am wondering how you were diagnosed with this disorder because you would need to have significant negative impact on your life. You should check the difference between the personality style and the personality disorder. The disorder is just an exaggeration of traditionally good qualities, and this to such an extreme that it creates disturbance in your life. It should cause significant problems in your life. I would be warry about accepting any diagnostics because therapists and psychiatrists routinely make mistakes (just like doctors). You have a productive, socially full life. You're married, have good relationships with your family by the looks of it, have friends. I have NO friends, have major social problems and have routinely been discriminated in social or professional relationships for not being able to integrate according to norms. I've seen someone that fits those criteria and honestly they are NOT able to have what you have. Their life is empty. I feel mine has been the same, empty. I've been going to therapy for years and it's only now that I received a diagnostics. I suspect it's because I outwardly look successful (present well and was very successful academically) Please consider closely whether those features are in fact a disorder or just a personality style that may be a bit pronounced at certain edges in certain situations. In the US many therapists need to give a diagnostics to be able to get their money from insurance companies (I don't live in the US, by the way). These people don't care about you. Many people make plans and dislike it when they aren't able to fulfill them. A lot of people dislike being made to be late. That is not a disorder in and of itself. Of course, I don't know all the details, but what you said does not sound like a disorder to me and I can pretty much say that those around you would gently point out if you really had personality disorders because people with personality disorders are very difficult people to live with/have any type of relationship with and that's why many times they can't hold long-term relationships. The fact that you were so willing to believe you were an awful person points to low self-esteem.

[@thedanielprocess]

all jokes aside... sounds like my wife

[@Nicolasa_vega]

The Daniel Process lol I didn’t even know it was a thing before this. I thought I was just super type A