How I Changed My Life 2 | how to stop caring what people think & needing validation

[@thaliamartin826]

I heard this today “ you are not gonna be everyone’s cup of tea so be the best bowl of porridge you can be”

[@OctaviaB]

Love this!

[@ste_channel3591]

Explain please esp bowl of porridge part?

[@thaliamartin826]

@@ste_channel3591 everyone does not like tea or may not even like the tea you drink so just be the best version of you. Porridge is sort of similar to Grits it’s a breakfast/lunch meal

[@DeneatresLatreec]

Ayeee!!! I love this!!! Yass hunni!!

[@PrincessAmmanii]

At 29 I decided I wanted a new life so I quit my corporate job, enrolled in grad school and started my journey. I’m 31 now and I still haven’t figured out what I want lol but I know I for sure that an inauthentic life is NOT it!! ❤️❤️

[@yzma6142]

As a 26 year old who is unsure of what I want this is very inspiring! All the best in your journey ✨💕

[@PrincessAmmanii]

@@yzma6142 Aww you’re so kind, thank you! We can’t give up, our dream lives are on the way 🥰🤗

[@babyhips]

Feeling so proud of you!!! Good luck in your path babez 🤗🤗

[@OctaviaB]

I’m so proud of you and your new journey and don’t worry about having it all figured out! Your path will always find you.

[@PrincessAmmanii]

@@babyhips Thank you so much!! 🤗 I’m receiving your blessing into my life ❤️

[@GLAMAFROMNYC]

I always remembered this quote and it helps to keep me calm, cool, and collective-“those who anger you conquer you”. No one will conquer me, ever again

[@gabbys.9398]

Yes 🙌🏽

[@GLAMAFROMNYC]

@@gabbys.9398 yasss

[@OctaviaB]

Omg I love this quote! This is basically what I was trying to say but couldn’t find the right words! But yes trust me I have a learned to master my emotional intelligence because I will never allow another person to control me again 🗣🗣🗣🗣

[@GLAMAFROMNYC]

@@OctaviaB 🗣🗣🗣

[@mali-ngose360]

I live by this too. Am always calm and people look at me and think am rude or not grasping whats going on. 😂😂😂 when in reality am not letting them conquer me.

[@clerknorth9695]

I'm 39 and I haven't cared whether people liked me since I was 12. It was revelation from very early on and I've lived my life with less stress than I see other people experiencing. I was always called different and different is not always a bad thing. Different is peaceful and quite a cool place to be. I have never consulted anyone about decisions I wanted to make. People can be so negative. It takes a very thick skin not to care but it's something that must be learned from very early on. I have been called ugly and I have been called beautiful. I have been called fat and I have been called too skinny. I don't absorb any of it because who asked them? Not me.

[@beautifullybliss]

👏🏽

[@TiphaniJnae]

Love this video! I'm a 34 year old single mom and a full-time government employee. I decided to relaunch a business I started when I was 20 years old and went back to college to finally get my degree. I can't believe I'm finally graduating after nearly 20 years lol. It's NEVER too late. When I turned 34, I vowed to stop caring what people thought about me and finally started living life ON MY TERMS.

[@OctaviaB]

Good for you!! That’s great ✨❤️

[@coaluck]

Tap tap...is this me? I’m 34, a single mom and I work full time for the federal government. It didn’t take me until now to get my degree but BOY did I struggle with getting my bachelors and finally went on to finishing my masters. I WOULD LOVE to dedicate some time to my business . I’m unsure and worried it will fail. I’m a horrible risk taker I go with the guarantee and the guarantee will forever keep you broke. Sure I live decent and I thank God for it but I want financial freedom.

[@relaxingsounds3032]

Dear, whoever is reading this I may not know you, but I wish you the best in your life 💜💙💚❤💛

[@OctaviaB]

❤️

[@FindingJoy2023]

That’s very kind! Thank you and same to you!!!

[@ShanTalks-Podcast]

Thank you

[@plubin123]

Thank you and same to you🎉💃🏾💃🏾

[@ML-ni1tk]

you too🥰🥰

[@dionneslife808]

Wishing everyone all the success in life and a peace of mind. Love yourself always and be the best version of YOU!!! Blessings to you all!!!

[@MelSpeaksMD]

**NOBODY cares.** literally. If you’re struggling with anxiety just remember that. I was so nervous about finally starting a KZbin channel and when I finally posted my first video I realized that no one actually cares 😂. It’s sad but kind of freeing lol. Don’t let fears of what ppl will think stop you from doing the things you want to do. Thanks for sharing Octavia! ❤️

[@OctaviaB]

Hahahaha I feel that

[@itschelsray]

listened while I drove to work and this was so well received. I wish I had this peace of mind in my 20s instead of my 40s..my life would be so different. However ...where i am I'm happy and that is to be valued

[@OctaviaB]

I definitely understand where you’re coming from I often times wish that I learned this much earlier but I’m so grateful for the experiences and the lessons that I’ve learned.

[@mb5823]

I was going to leave the exact same comment! I am in my 40’s as well and I wish I had this peace in my 20’s. So proud of Octavia for figuring this out early...

[@nicolelewis6312]

You know you're blessed when the haters can't keep your name out of their mouths!

[@OctaviaB]

True that

[@Fa33389]

who would call u ugly? girl u are so pretty i m literally staring.

[@kelzway2405]

Someone who is ugly, inside and out.

[@Riathecreator]

Incase anyone needs a breakdown of this video 😘. 1. Nobody really cares 2. Stop asking for people's opinions and do what you wanna do 3. Develop thick skin a.k.a desensitize yourself 4. Protect your energy 5. Understand that you cannot please everyone 6. Understand that you are not perfect and cannot be, so mistakes are welcomed. 7. Stop reading negative comments and reviews, and feeding into it 8. Work on your emotional intelligence 9. Focus on the positivity and leave the negativity 10. Get to know yourself and appreciate you.

[@ingridmalcolm6619]

As a fellow Jamaican, I am so proud of you. I love your channel. Keep up the good work

[@je39981]

The likes and dislikes analogy also relates to Instagram as well. Post your pictures because YOU know you look good. It doesn't matter if you don't get enough likes or lose a following. The ones who don't stick around wasn't genuine to begin with so why shrink yourself for applauds. Wonderful video !

[@OctaviaB]

Amen!

[@taylorm0307]

Your accent coming out when you start speaking straight facts👏🏾❤️

[@OctaviaB]

✨❤️🇯🇲

[@Seisha-Eagle]

I know right...it's absolutely beautiful to hear!💕

[@SESmithy]

Yeah, I needed this video. I am 27 and I feel stuck terribly stuck in life. Which is sad because I really am not! I haven't even been able to indulge in things I like including KZbin and videos just wind down time. Just stuck in my job and hours... I can't wait for my next step. I feel it coming!

[@stacygordon9836]

I can totally relate to this. I am also 27 and my corporate job has been mentally and physically draining me. Sigh

[@SESmithy]

Yes! Its now rolling over into my physical aspects. Ugh! We have to do better.

[@OctaviaB]

Oh ladies I can relate to this all too well ! I’m not sure if you guys are able to see the difference from when I was working a stressful 9-to-5 job versus now. I felt like I was being drained but I also know it’s not easy to just pick up and leave a job that is basically sustaining you . I literally prayed long and hard to be freed.

[@SESmithy]

@@OctaviaB I can definitely see the change in you! I also am looking for that personal change. Need to get back to praying! ❤❤

[@chocolatelovin19]

27 here too! Been working on myself. Covid really changed where I thought my life was going but I’m taking it a day at a time. All that you need to know is that YOU come first! Always!

[@simplysean1]

I needed this more than I knew. I turn 27 tomorrow 8/12 and I have a very pessimistic mindset that I need to work on. I never focus on my present only things I haven't accomplished not realizing I have accomplished so much. Thank you so much for this video 💖

[@lebohangmaloisanekhumalo4323]

Wow, wow, after seeing this video I don't feel guilty about this weekend. Will stop being so hard on myself. Its ok to not be perfect. Thank you.... Love from South Africa

[@nazinabelle]

Love it!! Your feminine energy is fully loaded. ❤❤ When we stop caring about what people think about us, we can start living life on our terms. Understanding who we truly are and what truly matters in life, everything else will fall into place.

[@OctaviaB]

Amen to that!

[@janetics.]

YES YES YES. Stop asking people and do what makes YOU happy.

[@lmusima3275]

Thanks 🙏🏾 for this video. I struggled with being liked from teenage years until my late thirties or early forties. I’d been through bullying and rejection. Even in dating I’d been rejected too. Around various groups of people I knew as friends or acquaintances I was so worked up why certain people who didn’t know me were so horrible towards me. I wanted to fit in badly via social media and in person. Then a friend told me “not everyone is gonna like you. Be ok 👍 with that.” It’s so true. I moved on and eventually deleted social media. I accept that not every man will find me attractive. Not everyone wants me as a friend. Not everyone would invite me to their wedding or gatherings. I go where I’m appreciated

[@ndyfrank1036]

Your Energy is one of the reasons I love your channel. 😍😍

[@Hejejevhejes]

Exactly. Be okay with people not liking you. So true .. as long as you’re happy that’s what matters really🤍 also, do what you wanna do and what you think it’s right!!!! Don’t ask for people’s opinions. 😘

[@maurissae]

*smiles intensely * when Octavia uploads a video you did not know you needed 💕

[@OctaviaB]

Awwwww Ily ! Thank you for watching ❤️

[@krishawnfranklin1502]

I needed this! I am 26 also and have been in the process of elevating my life. Sometimes I battle with the fact that not everyone will like me but I realize that it has helped me to weed out ppl who most likely weren’t meant to be apart of my journey anyway.

[@veeviccy]

Oh my God, I so needed to hear this today. Stop asking people for their opinion

[@user-xz1xr1fb8m]

I'm starting to change my life too & octavia Inspired me 😭❤️❤️ Subscribing to similar women like her is so refreshing❤️ Now i'm starting youtube as well! Best of luck ladies in your journey🥰🥰🥰🌹

[@OctaviaB]

Best of luck !

[@priscilliam.4202]

Hey I really needed this video. I'm in college and in a room of four and sometimes when they are talking , I just feel like they are talking about me. But this video has taught me not to give a damn.

[@kadinereynolds6567]

Keep Thriving and Shining Octavia, keep being your authentic self, we appreciate you.

[@OctaviaB]

Thank you so much!

[@CallMeTink]

HAPPY HEALTHY WEDNESDAY LOVELY OCTAVIA 💛⭐👑 I PRAY EVERYONE'S LIVING IN LOVE AND LIGHT

[@OctaviaB]

Happy Wednesday ❤️

[@amorebella_]

I have been on my self love journey for a couple months now! It's so important to make yourself a priority ✨ ITS OK to be selfish sometimes for your own health & well being 💪🏼🙌🏼 Love this video 💖 thank you so much for sharing!

[@thegiftedfit]

Loved the tip about not asking people for their opinions! That clip was so true. I tend to ask people for their opinions on my personal decisions sometimes and realize even when they do provide their opinions, 10/10 it is still up to me to decide.

[@bmelforley8682]

The fact that no matter what you do, is not enough for most people!!... is so unbelievable!! The fact that you are a nice person, and you think that, that's the way you have to be, to be accepted. You are wrong!! And the fact that you gotta accept that, HURTS!! BUT DO NOT STOP BEING WHO YOU ARE!!,... WHICH IS BEING A NICE PERSON!! DO NOT CHANGE THAT FOR NOBODY AND OR SITUATIONS!!

[@benjaminslife9424]

This information is very useful. I could listen to this as a reminder regularly these are the thoughts I have often.

[@Stacey_Ts]

I try not to care how people think about me, but it’s hard not to. People are mean and will make you feel bad about yourself, for no reason. I have depression and feel so behind in life. I just don’t have the motivation to do a lot of things at times. It’s draining. But watching these videos helps to motivate me and push me to keep going forward.

[@maureenbennett809]

Brilliant advice. IGNORE the haters they didn't make you so they can't break you. God bless you Octavia keep up the good work.

[@nyacholdavid1154]

Thanks you so much for sharing. I love this because I was too much for myself and Opinion of every damn person. And pleasing everyone which’s killed me everyday. Watching this video free thanks you so much❤️❤️

[@zaedzaed1245]

After watching part 1 and just stumble upon part 2 I am so happy.i never did subscribe and you probably thinking girl what are you waiting for.i am subscribing right now.those videos helped me so much and I want to thank you

[@belledelemos9615]

What an authentic and real moment, keep striving Queen... Your growth is impeccable..✨

[@OctaviaB]

Thank you so much !

[@mxrtx9]

You’re becoming my therapist lol. I’m a new subscriber and I just want to let you know how inspirational you are. Sending you so much light and love ❤️

[@nicolabutterfly2602]

I am jamaican just like you.... please ignore negative comment.... God is good and he will continue to bless you.... I look forward to your video's weekly.... ♥️

[@OctaviaB]

Trust me, they are ignored lol

[@nicolabutterfly2602]

👍

[@simplylightness]

🙊😭😭😭😭am so sad and happy at the same time because you're talking about me....this video is so helpful thnkyu Octavia ❤❤❤❤

[@OctaviaB]

You are so welcome!

[@leandav2055]

A lot of hate is really about what goes on inside someone, not really about anything that you do...As a man thinketh in his heart...so is he

[@mrklied2605]

This is very relatable girl we both the same age and I’m realizing too I always asking too lol 😂 dung to picking out curtains lmao girl

[@itskota4603]

I found your channel a little while ago. Recently i have been struggling with not feeling pretty or like my normal self. You have really helped me with living my best care free life! Keep shining!! ❤️

[@OctaviaB]

Awww I’m sorry I’ve helped you ❤️

[@marshapollard3148]

We all have our days. Stay strong, you got this ❤️

[@ayonnazglam9050]

Loved this topic! I’m 29 now and I feel stronger than ever. Did a lot of growing and stretching this year. Thank God for growth 🙌🏾😃

[@nailswithkams]

Wishing everyone healing , peace and love ❤️

[@xamandiloftman]

I'm 28 and also from Jamaica, I love your videos and I'm very proud of you queen 🤗❤🇯🇲

[@miggiewithdafro]

Wow this video resonates with me so much especially the first minutes until you did that first clap

[@cynthiaciciho885]

Love this! I remember Jackie Aina saying something like she would post a 20 min video and like the second she posted she'd have all these dislikes, needless to say there's people who will always dislike your videos for no reason at all, even before watching like that is their job in life haha pretty sad

[@jackiek4159]

Could not agree more about the coming to terms with "Not everybody is going to like you and that's okay" and to stop asking people for their opinions! It truly doesn't matter at the end of the day and you should never sacrifice who you are for others! Loved this video girl and glad you're doing better! Sending lot's of love to everybody! 🙏🏻💞

[@On_Point10]

You’re beautiful, wise and encouraging. Thank you for sharing your perspective ✨

[@sylmanyeki9323]

I bought that book Octavia. Especially since I work in retail during a pandemic!

[@inotamaja]

These tips are so authentic and You’re so right we are so much stronger than we think. Everything we need lives on the inside of us! Sending love God bless ♥️

[@millzdinz4772]

Excellent (and timely) video. I'm 50 and just learning this, somewhat he hard way! Thank you Octavia 💕🇬🇧🇯🇲

[@Chinachyree]

I hate to openly admit I never comment on your videos but I definitely do alwaysssss like them. I especially enjoyed this one. I love the growth! The self love , the confidence, and the way you carry yourself with a level head is beautiful. I hope this video reaches all the wonderful beings out there that need it . This truly made my heart smile. Keep it up beautiful ❤️ sending love from Los Angeles 😘

[@OctaviaB]

❤️❤️❤️❤️❤️

[@ericakane6388]

You are speaking the truth sis and I love your beautiful accent🥰

[@melissaburrell4370]

“Perfect is an illusion” just do your best and the rest will follow! Great tips thanks you ❤️

[@cannabee9687]

See this the type advice that we need real raw and uncut!!!! 💯❤️

[@ChaM_25]

One of my favorite KZbinrs 😌

[@OctaviaB]

❤️❤️❤️❤️❤️

[@kenishah.2041]

Same here 💯

[@staciaparkes4998]

Yesss!

[@lifesinceseptember]

Best video yet!! Spilling some serious wisdom😘😘👏🏾👏🏾

[@haddijatousecka4901]

I am a new subcriber here and I love 💘 you so much 💗 love the confident ❤ 💕

[@srsmithali]

💕❤️🔆Octavia if I love you one more time. I swear. This video was serious, informative and very helpful. However, you were so funny. I had to laugh. Honestly, I am a big fan of yours. I watch comment and show you love. However, I was afraid to watch this I avoided it a bit because I am in a tricky phase. This was not bad. It shook me but not too hard. I was afraid to face some realities. Love you girl another great one. Tell my girl Renee I said hello........I swear we are all friends.

[@OctaviaB]

Awww thank you so much !

[@Kokoskitchen.]

Thank you so much baby girl honestly this is what I needed to hear I'm 24 but I'm going through the same thing but after hearing all these things you said I feel so relieved and happy thank you so so much and you got a new subscriber today

[@cordieopiarussell2195]

Thank you for this video I needed this ❤️❤️

[@sunnyraez]

Love the accent. God’s glory is on you. My babe is glowing. Told my 10 year old girl to start watching one video of yours everyday. She said ‘Mommy she’s so beautiful’ 🥰🥰🥰

[@OctaviaB]

Aww thank you 😊

[@taniriches]

thank you for this octavia. I value you and your content

[@d.nelysm]

I watched when it was released and I had to come back to this for the reminder. Thank you Octavia 💎❤️

[@shackeriabrown2378]

Listen in this life you just have to focus on what matter to you most

[@almamckenzie8802]

You really inspire me, so thankful for the video💕 coming from 🇧🇿!!

[@honeyb1007]

Big up yuh self my girl. Inspiring as always. I'm 33 and still learning life lessons.

[@OctaviaB]

❤️❤️❤️❤️❤️

[@princesswilliamsmommyof5]

Negative people definitely do not deserve your attention. God bless.

[@tenzacare]

When your patois came out!! Listennnnnnnn You are my therapist!!! Thank you goodie!!

[@TheRealDealWithAmaka]

Came back to watch this video for the 2nd time because it doesn't get old ❤️

[@idaregenabutler5929]

Thank you! Loving your content.

[@NoItGrl]

I clicked on this so fast. Love when you speak on self improvement. 👏🏽 Very motivational for me!

[@OctaviaB]

Yassss thank you for tuning in ❤️

[@llllllllllllily]

Thank you. I really needed this. I read self help books sometimes but they way you articulate these points is so personable and authentic.

[@HomeWithSimone]

I literally glanced at that book sitting on my bookshelf this morning. I read it a few years ago. It’s so matter of fact. It’s like ripping the bandage off and allowing yourself to heal. The Art of not giving a F... is a good read. You’ll walk away with thicker skin for sure. Great Video 💞

[@Rose-dn5yt]

You inspired me to go see a therapist im forever thankful for your chanel ❤️

[@OctaviaB]

Aww I’m so happy for you Wendy !

[@jae-annedanae4512]

Honestly just found your channel but this is great advice and I’ll definitely have to keep returning to this video

[@CLib791]

I totally agree with all your tips! So true!!!!

[@OctaviaB]

❤️❤️❤️❤️❤️❤️

[@JaylaSherell]

This is literally me at 26 & I need to stop. Thank you for this video 💕💕

[@earla-ashleemassiah4649]

I'm watching this and im like yo.... I'm listening to myself. I'm happy I'm past this and I know it's a daily practice for me but I'm grateful for you sharing this video bc for me when I was in that dark spot I thought only I experienced it. xx

[@MissAuntieAshAsh]

I applaud your word of wisdom

[@hollyydolll]

Love this video! You are such a beautiful soul♥️

[@Lexlex11848]

Thank you so much ❤️❤️❤️

[@destineewardlaw9293]

your words speak life..thank you.

[@barry11191]

Love this video I can relate so much 🤎🤎 great advice OMG. Xoxo

[@Chase_71]

I just found you on youtube and the one thing i already love about your video(s) (2nd one i watched) is you seriously open up and share the step by step process of your thoughts, not just give us a list of advice.

[@OctaviaB]

🤍🤍🤍🤍

[@babyaku3061]

So much strength...lots of ❤️🥰🥰🥰

[@nombre1248]

This legend with the wisdom we can learn from without even trying

[@ndyfrank1036]

I so much love when you give us a little bit of that Jamaica accent. Am I like yassssss😁😁😁😁

[@sophiespace6251]

Love this

[@julietaddo9646]

I'm 22 and I'm on my path to change my life and live independently and put together with all positiveness by 25

[@marsheella2772]

Very good and very true!

[@victoria3248]

It should be illegal to be this pretty! 😍🥰

[@OctaviaB]

Aww ☺️

[@kasiahayden7967]

And what has been helping me a whole lot is that someone's negative attitude towards me is not about me, so I am working on that because this has been triggering me alot lately.

[@garainesumatsenga9177]

Thank you Octavia I needed to hear this TODAY

[@OctaviaB]

❤️❤️❤️❤️❤️

[@kenishah.2041]

So BEAUTIFUL ( inside & out). This was so eloquently stated. You are wise beyond your years in the GREATEST way. I learned what you are mastering at 26 later on in life. So, by the time you get to my age, you will be SUPER. By the way, wish I saw this video in my early 20s, I could have by passed so many things. AWESOME video

[@OctaviaB]

Aww thank you so much! I really wish I was able to have this kind of insight in my early 20s as well it would’ve saved me a lot of pain and suffering.

[@kenishah.2041]

@@OctaviaB So, sorry you had to go through what you went through in your early 20s. Thank God you're here now. You are still at a very pivotal point in your 20s , so it's AWESOME that you have learned what you have so far.

[@ashavalii]

so grateful for subscribing after the first video of your's i watched, we think so much alike its refreshing

[@OctaviaB]

❤️✨ Thank you for subbing