Off The Record: What About Men With Daddy Issues?

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• Hosted by Anthony Lee
• Commentary by: Can Nguyen, Joe Jitsukawa, Kalyne Lionheart, Nick Dunn, Ryanimay
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[@BeautifulDreamerK]

Not a dude but this convo helped healed some of my Asian dad trauma. You’re right- now that I’m older, I started seeing all the things my dad did for me that I never saw or appreciated them. I also started seeing him and what I do/think- certain characteristics and habits. Great convo, thanks all!

[@aquaviii]

my dad beat my ass I appreciate all the good things he did for me 😅

[@antoniobautista6718]

This is why JK News is so damn great! And honestly it proves that a lot of the time, people who are jokers are also some of the most introspective people you can meet. You don't see this level of jokes and nuanced conversation that takes into account both sides of a situation, especially nowadays with the political landscape online trying to push a black and white perspective of so many things in our lives It's just great to see a podcast with geniuine people with witty senses of humor, and also real emotions, faults, and most importantly strengths. And that's why we always tune in to watch you guys in the JK Crew! ❤️🔥

[@JustKiddingNews]

Thanks everybody for the support on this video! We hope you all found something meaningful to take from it.

[@bethnichols2875]

Thank you Kalyne for the prompt. And thank you all for sharing your thoughts and feelings on the topic.

[@barrymccaulkiner7092]

What Ryan is saying is growing up in a household with a father figure who is cynical will cause confidence issues in the minds of the children as they grow up. The kids grew up never being told _you can do it_ instead they're being told _you're wasting your time_ Growing up like this SUCKS.

[@joxse2335]

I got so much help off this episode. I related to everyone and just kept crying the whole time. So much to think about now and hopefully I can make things right with my dad soon

[@JustKiddingNews]

Wow!!! Thank you so much for identifying with our stories

[@maryelizabeth5393]

Kalyn’s really brought the best prompt! Also the James blunt song. When I heard it. I was sobbing loudly. I can’t even think about it without being heart broken and teary.

[@Qdawwg]

“Don’t be yourself” - Kalyne, thanks I needed to hear this!

[@DemonFox369]

It’s quite awesome that Ryan can immediately identify that his issues with knowing if everything is okay could be connected to his dad’s responses. I wonder if he figured that out through reading, songs, and self reflection or something like professional therapy.

[@JustKiddingNews]

It came mostly from making mistakes in relationships and taking accountability for them (eventually)

[@ncpalafox]

very mature analysis. The older i get, the more I understand and appreciate my parents. I’m a father of 4 now so my parenting style keeps evolving

[@applepieclub5012]

There’s a scene in reply 1988, between a father and a son, that absolutely got me. It was the same feeling Anthony was describing

[@jessicavaltierra716]

Not me almost crying when Nick was sharing his thoughts! I haven't understood where my dad got so much rage from bc he always praised how his dad hit him only once in his life. My grandpa was a kind man but my dad is a raging, alcoholic, narcissistic, abusive Ahole. And my mother is an emtionally immature narcissist. The good times were good but the bad times were DARK. I don't talk to them anymore but I wish I knew where it came from Side note: I'm the only woman out of 6 siblings, my brothers never understood where I was coming from cause they had a different childhood than mine. All the machismo was a normal thing for me, and they never got to see that for themselves

[@jimmymoua]

Great discussion guys! As i got older, i learned to empathize more with how my parents were with raising us. We see them as the adults and assume they know everything but we often forget that they're learning and growing with you. As many first gen Americans, you're spot on about how we're fed the stereotypical All-American family, with love, support, words of affirmation, etc. and then we look at our parents and families expecting the same and wonder why our homelife doesnt reflect that. We forget our parents often never received these types of love languages from their parents so how can we expect something they themselves never received and learned to reciprocate. Took me too long to realize this but once i did, i learned to see how my parents loved on us in the past and can see how they're being intentional now in changing themselves and to break out of that generational "hard love" they received from their parents. Emotional growth and maturity can really help you to empathize and understand one another.

[@tracyvo3]

That carnival game story hit me like a brick. Really nice perspective on daddy issues ! Thank you all for sharing and asking questions

[@peterlongac]

A nice guy who knows when to be stern is better than a mean person trying to be nice

[@taeyeung007]

i can relate to anthony when he was talkin about father and son scenes in movies/shows lol

[@DemonFox369]

My sister has dad issues, mom issues, grandparent issues, uncle issues, aunt issues, brother issues, and sister issues

[@SELENASGLAMLIFE]

Meeeeeee

[@DemonFox369]

@@SELENASGLAMLIFE Talk about a nuclear family, nuclear meltdown family.

[@Ys45x]

This prompt hits heavy. Thanks to my uncles, aunts, and family for holding my siblings and I down. My pops still pops in here and there but growing up with split parents from a young age will force you to mature quick. I don’t regret it because it’s made me who I am today. I can’t wait until it’s my turn to break this generational chain and better the future.

[@lindaespinoza3393]

Props for approaching this topic and the vulnerability shown here.

[@perlabeatriz1341]

I agree with Joe I always say it definitely sucks growing in a toxic household, but I cant blame my parents for something they didnt get. Especially as first gen, our parents didnt have the knowledge and education available how are they supposed to know how to parent besides what they grew up with. I learned a lot talking with my parents on how they view life in general. Love the prompt!!

[@baseball90242]

Are your grandparents to blame?

[@justakai7250]

I had the worst ever fight with my dad about how he never let me live my childhood and how it hurts that now that I’m an adult he wants to provide and be a father figure to me now and I wanted to disown him for that, but I realized that when I was a kid, so was my dad. He was only just starting his adult life. I wanted this dad that was there for me all the time and helped me whenever I needed it, but I didn’t realize that he was learning to be a parent too, he did what he thought was best for me whether I liked it or not and it took me a lot to realize that, I said so many bad things that you should never say to a parent and I will have to live with the knives of words I threw at him and I am truly sorry for that. So I hope that who ever reads this and went through or is going through a child hood with a teenage or young adult father; they’re still learning so don’t expect everything you want to go your way, I’m sure they’re trying the best that they can with what they know.

[@NinaInthaWorld]

Ahhh I can't stop tearing up in the middle of my university's quad listening to this and thinking about my own parents. But honsstly I really appreciate these convos bc I watch every video and it makes me look at my own life too. I don't journal or go to therapy but I think introspection and self-awareness are the most important things to work on. I forgot where I heard it, but I really do believe that just questioning if your a good person/child/parent is the baseline for being a good one. Obviously it takes more work than that, but it's a really important first step, so I think Ryan, or any of you for that matter will be great parents.

[@fishybiz]

Great topic

[@kokaop3838]

I always tell people I got issues with my dad but not daddy issues. Having older brothers also helps alot

[@richardwang8087]

I’ve worked through a lot of my own daddy issues recently but this video actually made me tear up a lot because it reminds me of what my dad means to me, thank you guys for being serious and humorous again

[@Alexis.carter]

As a Filipino, I literally related with 100% Ryan said. I had all those issues growing up too and not feeling good enough etc. My dad was a perfectionist, so I always needed validation from my partners. 4 years of therapy is what helped me grow out of all that

[@bhogal88]

Great video guys!! Very very informative and it's insightful for people to be introspective and change behaviours.

[@SilkyySmoothhs]

That’s one of the biggest things I took away from psychology was to not fault my parents because they did not have their own great examples of parenting and then I realized they’re just winging it lol 😂

[@HasanPikerIsADouche]

Seems so logical, and so many don't see it

[@chrystianaw8256]

​@allensilva2725 please. Most people make excuses for their parents. They seldom lay blame, even when it's warranted.

[@joelester9541]

Kalyne got me hyper focused this episode 😍

[@pa1773la]

18:06 glad Joe realize this. Our parents didn't have any training or getting enough help being a parent/s. They brought us up on how they know they can and they think right.

[@Dave_of_Mordor]

i don't really agree with this, but based on every other comments, i'm probably the minority here

[@DemonFox369]

They did receive training but the training is living. Whatever their parents did or whatever they experienced in their life is what they will pass down to their children through their parenting methods.

[@pa1773la]

@@DemonFox369 Yep, that's what I have in mind..training in life but not as parent/s.

[@DemonFox369]

@@pa1773la I mean life trains you to be a parent. Whatever the human experiences from birth to 18, 25, 35 or whenever they give birth is what they offer to the child.

[@pa1773la]

@@DemonFox369nah going through life alone is so different when you have another life to bring to this world and do in your best knowledge to mold them to a better person.. 1 wrong move from you could make or break your child. Being a parent is such a big big responsibility that's why you see some bail out by abandoning their young.

[@Ameliarodriguez1101]

What are y’all talking about? You can’t be both?! Bart is doing his thing! He is a better parent than his own and a big time provider. It is very possible to do both

[@bobbyalistor]

this new Careful Boyz OTR era is definitely a therapy for Ryan 🫶🏼🫶🏼 would love to hear Steve and Bart on this topic

[@emogirlhashervengz]

Great point of views on this topic. I'm not a guy but I can empathize with my male friends now about the way they speak about their dad's or parents in general.

[@juliannnnk]

as a asian these family dynamic videos really hit home helps me looks things a different way

[@jenna145645678]

I feel like men with daddy issues is lack of control in managing or coping with intense emotions. Men with mumma issues is attachment issues with women or people in general

[@bakura67]

We need that mouth was crazy

[@justakai7250]

This is probably one of the best topics talked about, really spoke to home

[@YovaniBinuelo]

Love how yall had this conversation. Been unboxing this experience since the start of the year.

[@looloo960]

I like what Anthony and Joe said about our parents growing up the opposite it brings it into perspective! And Joe brought up the solution to fix it half way through the video! Props to you guys for figuring it out

[@alisha1377]

Empathy and compassion, learning to honor our parents in the things they tried their best to be. Becoming a parent myself, I really feel for my parents. Even more so that they were teen/young parents with shitty upbringings. They did their best.

[@CalsAndKilos]

I also cried at noon at that Iam tongi video on my way to the shops 😂 had to calm myself down before going in

[@peterlongac]

11:15 nick the caveman has entered the chat

[@Ysumguy]

Kalyne is breath-taking. Full simp intended too

[@21ventura]

I did have an ex with daddy issues because his dad abandon him and his family when he was little. As a grown man he couldn’t have long term relationships fearing he would do the same as his dad

[@cloud_zer0]

Now do mommy issues for men AND women

[@Miss_Kisa94]

Mommy issues in men just turns them into serial killers. You think Ted Bundy had a good relationship with his mom? Definitely not 😂

[@brandongomez1626]

It shouldn't be too much to ask a father to not just provide but to be a good dad. I grew up younger being poor and got more privileged as I've grown older. Now I'm 22 in a home where no one cares about me and I get beat so I rather just be poor with a good dad if that's the case. But it shouldn't. Doesn't matter what's available you should always be an emotionally available dad. Otherwise you aren't shit 🤷

[@flypenguin007]

This part of the segment is called “WiseGuys- therapy for people that can’t afford Better Help”😁 love the wise insight

[@VonsonOG]

Love these episode boyz. So much insight

[@TubeDeviant]

My goodness, this episode needs to be another 2 hours.. haha

[@19Elicar]

I definitely got father issues. My parents separated when I was 2. Also my dad live in a different state during my childhood so I only visit him during summer. My parents would sometimes get into the stupidest of arguments when they meet to exchange me. Not to mention my environment was fuck up when came to relationships. Know I have problems with not seeking friendship with people.

[@grandmasterczar4969]

Great video

[@jaybly2014]

The best lesson you get from having daddy issue is learning to say sorry when you fuck up, because you know that your dad would never say it to you but I’ll always say it to my kids.

[@lilanisi]

It's hard for first gens in western countries but I think the reason is more to do with society. If we spent alot of time up in our parents homelands there are no issues because it's the same for everyone. Then you can feel grateful for what we have growing up where we live knowing how much everyone struggles there. You also have larger families there to provide influences and understanding for you. That's why they say it takes a village to raise a child...village as in people close to you either by blood or distance.

[@TheYellowHaze]

I loved this episode. I relate to the not a good dad but a good provider point y'all mentioned.

[@josemvria]

thanks for having safe spaces like this for generations of people. americanized or even though we're still in our countries, its an important thing, because we're humans first.

[@arlenefaith1]

I wish Bart was there to speak on this.

[@jayh6135]

I don't really know how to identify what type of "daddy issues" I have, as a guy. My dad was in my life until I was 5, then he went to prison for a long time, then when he got out I never saw him again, my parents divorced and that was that. I didn't grow up with any male figures I respected all throughout my life, I think my outlook and relationships are fucked up. Someone give some insight lol? It's tough hearing about which is better to have an emotionally in tune father who couldn't provide as well, or a distant father who was providing well because seems like my dad didn't even try at all, just gave up and then 20 years later has a whole different family and kids

[@ayooolearnit6153]

Jk gem of a video

[@GomezMG209]

I feel Ryan so much on what he said

[@CuongChanster]

Hitting my soul, this episode

[@SELENASGLAMLIFE]

Thanks ❤

[@DemonFox369]

When Nick is working and can’t look after the dogs, he’s just like his dad. That’s not a bad or good thing but I wonder if he’s aware of that. I think he’d be a good father if he wants kids but that’s something he’ll need to figure out when it comes to home and work balance.

[@imagelle]

You also have to think about how young they were and the how some personality types don’t mesh well. It’s so many thing to consider when thinking about how your parents raised you. Thanks you the topic it help me see the different perspectives.

[@CuongChanster]

Damn. Ryan knows my dad?

[@JustKiddingNews]

Hahaha cuonggggg

[@nyatella]

can't wait for jk to Collab with Dr K

[@Gokenshiba]

There definitely is a thing as daddy issues for male as well, Asian households are definitely strict, not saying others aren’t.. shot in my family feelings were never expressed or shown, and communication wasn’t a thing.. you did what you were told and that’s it so I definitely understand why I have issues with relationships and such and being a combat vet didnt help

[@Max25670]

I think when having immigrant parents, a lot of us have similar experiences.

[@carlwilliamkullenberg1304]

this is such a asian conversation its insane, i see the same story play out in all the asian drama movies with kids letting their parents down in someway by no appriciating their parents work. As a none asian i really cant relate to this guud boi asian guilt.

[@christopherrosas1295]

16:44 Anthony glitched

[@lerrojcv3987]

😂😂😂😅😅

[@XaViEr3520]

I like normal Joe!

[@the92r]

iam tongi!

[@GYSMelanie5]

I had an incredible father, always told me he loved me, always there until he passed away when I was 18. HOWEVER, I still had Daddy issues because I was always looking for a guy who was just like him in a lot of ways. Always comparing them to my dad.

[@TMNT3388]

If your wife is 10 years younger does she have daddy issues 😅

[@angelac3705]

It's really tricky , both ways depending on what each individual needs , i had 2 dads, step dad living at home, and a strong nuturering mother, i think i had everything i needed but my own rebellion and mistakes made me to not trust some stuff , so some people say they have daddy/mummy issues, but really they had a good parents and they messed up which maybe caused issues they blame on parents, our parents love us at the end of the day i agree with everyone in this episode , again tricky conversation we are all different, i cry watching Nemo 😂

[@shaun5047]

I consider this a good example of true masculinity. Everyone is speaking from the heart and it’s clear there was a ton of self reflection. Also leaving their egos at the door. It would be very easy to bash the parents for all the things they did and didn’t do. Instead the guys showed compassion and pointed out that their parents never had a good example to strive for.

[@chrystianaw8256]

Most people don't bash their parents

[@TayTayGrace03]

Tbh I'm just shocked that JK has maintained 2M subs for this long

[@bethnichols2875]

Tbh I don't see why it should be a shock, since they have made some serious positive changes over the past few years to make this the best era ever.

[@JustKiddingNews]

I’m just glad it wasn’t bots 😂

[@itsmesteve1081]

When you guys talk about it exclusively about Asian daddy issues it feels like it's just more of a cultural clash than it is daddy issues. To me, daddy issues are almost strictly absent fathers or neglectful ones. So you either seek out neglectful friends, mentors or relationships just like how your father treated you or you simply fall in to the category where you're too scared to stand up for yourself so you become effeminate, submissive, etc. Either way, both things are unhealthy so yeah... i think the best thing to do is to find what truly makes you happy and pursue it. Give your life a new meaning

[@konekokaye295]

👀

[@DemonFox369]

Bad Dads 🤝 JKNews Teaching good things in a bad way BOOYAH 18:30

[@DirtyFiST69]

Daddy issues are Andrew Tate fans.

[@ThatsSoGoose]

Men with Daddy Issues....... @AnthonyLee ;o

[@-amosc.presley-7192]

You gotta know who your Surroundings are?

[@khairinoa]

I got daddy issues. What about it?

[@Dave_of_Mordor]

did you get your revenge?

[@bethnichols2875]

Off The Record: JohnnyChang and His Relationship with His Dad

[@BikeShorts69]

I thought daddy issues for guys were just called mommy issues.

[@bethnichols2875]

Nope. Johnny Chang explains it well. Off The Record: JohnnyChang and His Relationship with His Dad

[@loveaintfree1409]

I thought it was more mommy issue when it comes to sons.

[@bethnichols2875]

Seeing as though about half the guys on the crew have mentioned being beaten by their fathers while growing up and still dealing with residuals of that trauma even now, so they don't have close relationships with their fathers it is understandable that sons could have daddy issues. As Ryan mentioned, he fears what type of husband and father he would be considering how his own relationship with his father has been.

[@dennistan7769]

Kalyne a baddie. 😍🤤

[@America_won]

I wouldn't say I had "daddy issues" growing up, but maybe someone can help me here. when I was just 8 years old, my father passed. hard working sob, in the military deployed every year, never skipped work a day in his life. and eventually health got to him. and as a kid growing up, I had so much anger issues and resentment for my mom because my dad wasn't there. my mom always said the right things, done the right things, but idk man.