Just heard Lysa last night in Rockford MI. I really needed the encouragement, going thru divorce after 30yrs (an amputee w lots of health issues) have no idea what I'll do but trusting in my Savior one day, one moment, at a time. And when I'm on top of this pain, I'll publish the bk I'm writing and Lysas encouragement will have been part of my fuel. Thank you Lysa!!
@RASHASA123711 ай бұрын
When I were coming out of a abusive marriage. When someone given a Bible verse. It changed my mindset because that is why GOD!!! Has it. Be blessed!!!🕊🤍
@lisacarle168611 ай бұрын
I can't describe & just don't have words😢 I'm just hurting & my tears don't stop. I have nobody to be with or process with. It's wonderful to see what friends actually look like & having others in your life. Thank you for the invite.
@jilelam11 ай бұрын
I feel the same🤗
@jennifergramirez11 ай бұрын
Praying for everyone in this thread who is grieving any type of loss. My husband just told me he has cancer and this video came at the right time. 🙏🏽❤️🤌🏽
@jilelam11 ай бұрын
@@jennifergramirez Thank you 😊 I pray for all🙏🤗🙏✝️
@jilllingenfelter468211 ай бұрын
God is the amazing Healer. And I understand how you ladies are feeling for sure. And I have gone through permanent divorce 9 years ago. And I have gone through all of the emotions even before our separation happened. And my ex husband cheated on me the whole time we were married. And my amazing Godly family have been my loving support. And they have reached out to all my church families in my town/city immediately right after I was abandoned by my ex husband for the second very last time in November 17th of 2015.And that anniversary is coming up in a few days. And then our separation happened November 18th 2015. And then our permanent divorce happened in April 21/22nd 2016. and all my church families stood in the gap for me. And prayed non stop for me when I didn’t have any strength at all in me back then. And I didn’t want any music on in my apartment.And I didn’t want any light to be in my apartment. And all I wanted to do was sleep constantly back then. And I also didn’t have much of an appetite at all And I just wanted to hide/disappear:( 😭😭And I also absolutely hated my blonde hair. And I still do. And that hasn’t changed at All. And I will be coloring it very very soon :) :):) And I’m very very excited about that:):) And all the loving support prayers, loving encouragement from everyone I absolutely love has really helped me :) And God has really helped me to heal inside/out:) And I have my appetite back. And I love staying busy.and I absolutely love church ministry life:) And I absolutely absolutely appreciate my Singleness :) And I absolutely love being a Godly aunty to my 3 amazing Godly nephews:) And I absolutely resonate from everything that was said here today :) And everything that was said here is super 100% true/super helpful. And here is what I have also learned whatever hasn’t killed me in this life. And what hasn’t put me in a early grave has only made me super super strong :)@Official Proverbs 31 Ministries:)
@trishbech908211 ай бұрын
❤ Love and hugs to everyone and don’t give up hope! You matter. You are not alone in your experience even though you may feel discouraged at the moment. Pray to have the Lord bring friends into your life. Personally, I am so thankful we have online communities like this to encourage my heart when things seem hopeless at the moment. I pray we turn things around with Him as our strength, and God plants in our hearts ways to get through and get beyond whatever we are facing.
@Beinghopeful3 ай бұрын
I‘m going through separation and moving out soon, but I’m so blessed to be around with right people, friends and family in my church community. It is so important to be surrounded with the right people who is willing to go out in their comfort zone to help.
@franceshampton876710 ай бұрын
Thank you for talking about this. I,too, was guilty of "band aid" remarks because I had not yet experienced this type of pain. Another helpful tip is not start to rattle on about the annoying things your spouse does. I know you are trying to relate to the grieving friend, but all I could say back was, "at least your husband is still there for you!"
@keekeekeekeekeekee778311 ай бұрын
Going thru the same divorced, empty nest, moved, alone, 1 friend...whew thank you friends
@trishbech908211 ай бұрын
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@lisacarle168611 ай бұрын
❤️🙏🥰 You're not alone.
@dawnturner930811 ай бұрын
Christian Music helped me so much… God comforted me through that, and Lysa’s experience!
@bryfount905211 ай бұрын
Another thing not to say (imo) is you are so strong. I feel so weak already and then I feel not heard. Yes, I went through a lot and I'm surviving, but it doesn't mean that I'm ok at all. I'm definitely not thriving. When I just got a hug and some sort of listening, it is so much better.
@jacquelinesheehan574810 ай бұрын
I truly enjoyed this, thank you ladies! ❤
@OfficialProverbs31Ministries10 ай бұрын
Thanks for watching, friend!
@chargrover827911 ай бұрын
Thank you, for bringing to light well intended words that may actually have the opposite effect. Yes, more of these please!!
@patcossey42456 ай бұрын
I loved this! Thank you to all of you!!
@meganwildhood389311 ай бұрын
I went through my divorce alone. I had lost my church and didn't know anyone, especially anyone my age, who had gone through a divorce. The people who said the worst things to me were Christians and that kept me out of the church for ten years. Finally stepping back into church community, I still don't feel safe to share my history because of how horribly judgemental Christians have been. Thank you for showing me that it's possible for Christians not to be jerks.
@missjunith218811 ай бұрын
I'm that friend!!! Lord Please allow me to attract what I give to others😢I Really Need A True Friend!
@jeaniewright881711 ай бұрын
It would be great to have some more friend talks(: thank you ladies
@ky871111 ай бұрын
Wish there were women’s divorce recovery groups at my church. There are many widow’s groups and they’re so supportive of each other. I’m 66 years old going through this alone after a long time marriage.
@melaniearrowood22218 ай бұрын
Have you thought about starting one? Maybe a church leader can tell you where to start or the leader of one of the widow's groups? Or if you don't want to start one through the church, maybe do a meet up at a local coffee shop? ❤
@tina2667-jy8my8 ай бұрын
I love this! ☺️ life's struggles would be much easier to get through with friends such as you three 🤪 with that said, saying the RIGHT thing can be so difficult to some that they resort to saying nothing at all. Supportive words are just as unique to an individual as the individual themselves. My marriage is ending after 37 years. "I can't imagine what you're going through, but I'll always be here for you", would be chicken soup for my soul.
@dawnturner930811 ай бұрын
I just lost my good friend … who I moved in with for the first year of my divorce. She died of Parkinsons and was in such difficult situation … but knowing she is with Jesus.. . Dancing now really helps!
@lisacarle168611 ай бұрын
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@michellemorkel595610 ай бұрын
THANK YOU🎉❤
@jennamartin591311 ай бұрын
I’m having a really really rough grief, fear whatever day….. this was needed! Thanks ladies! 💖💖💖
@OfficialProverbs31Ministries11 ай бұрын
We're glad this helped you!
@slm20219 ай бұрын
Thank you, ladies. That was wonderful and very helpful. God bless you for helping all of us be better friends and partners in this world. 🙏 ❤
@OfficialProverbs31Ministries9 ай бұрын
We're glad you enjoyed it!
@sarahmorgan52439 ай бұрын
This is so good. I have 2 friends that do this. We may not hang out, but they text me to check on me and cheer me up.
@franceshampton87679 ай бұрын
Lysa, I hope you and the girls consider making more helpful videos. For some of us, these videos will be our support group. I am perfectly fine w/this because the topics you cover are exactly what we betrayed are feeling and thinking. Thank you for sharing the knowledge and experiences that each of you are suffering through.
@irisharris371911 ай бұрын
I have learned so much from this discussion. Thank you!
@jilelam11 ай бұрын
I love to laugh. I have no one to laugh with.❤
@trishbech908211 ай бұрын
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@trishbech908211 ай бұрын
I can totally relate… other than at shows, I Can’t remember the last time I laughed let alone get together with a friend. My last conversations with my friends were ALL about non laughing serious problems in their marriages. We will overcome - God does not want us to remain in this state and I truly believe He will work more joyfully circumstances in our lives. Let’s all pray to Him to encourage our hearts and for help towards finding a way to laugh again!
@lisacarle168611 ай бұрын
So very true for me. I can't remember the last time I did. My sorrow & grief just won't go away & I'm sooo exhausted of this. I'm just not the same & I'm not sure who I am now.
@dawnturner930811 ай бұрын
I get that… God will provide. Personally I just laugh at myself! 😛
@jilelam11 ай бұрын
@@dawnturner9308 I do the same. Always feel I am laughing with God 🤗 🙏🤗🙏✝️Give it all to the Lord 🙏✝️
@Thankful30511 ай бұрын
Thank you Lysa, Candace and Mel ~ so glad you have each other "Call ______ forth to a better place!" ... ♥ THAT! Gotta get that Monoply Deal ;)
@pisicacutecat486911 ай бұрын
One of my good friends is going through this right now. Thank you for sharing this with us. I'm learning how to just be here for my friend. 🙏
@bremimy27711 ай бұрын
I like Mel's voice. 🧡. Be that friend. 💙
@donna-colorado844311 ай бұрын
The one comment people said that didn't really help me at the time is that God's got this. I know He's got it. However, I needed someone to just talk to.
@jeaniewright881711 ай бұрын
I am so sorry Candyce that someone said that to you. I’m happy for you that you have a good support system from your friends. It only takes one friend in your life that makes all the difference. And you have been blessed with two friends .
@Nsmartinez1018 ай бұрын
I would emphasize how important it is to pray for good friends, if you don’t have them. God has been so good to bless me with a group of friends that has filled an empty place in my life that my divorce left. God first showed me how HE needs to be number one and I went through a period where He was all I had but then he allowed amazing friends to come in to my life to do the things with that I would have probably jumped prematurely into a relationship for, just to have someone to do something with. So, bottom line, God knows what you need and WHEN you need it. Pray!
@jessicamiranda710111 ай бұрын
I too felt the relief at the beginning of my grief process. So hearing Lisa say that really resonated with me. Definitely going through all the emotions and taking it one day at a time. Thank you for helping me through my own journey.
@trishbech908211 ай бұрын
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@lisacarle168611 ай бұрын
❤️🙏🥰 You're not alone.
@GriffMom27 ай бұрын
I too felt relief. I remember preparing a small meal in my kitchen alone, and realizing how much weight was gone, after fighting to save my marriage for so long. I moved onto the other stages, but not uninterrupted by distractions/ decisions I made that weren't in my best interest for healing. Other unhealthy relationships, sick parents, my own health struggles, and job issues set me back years. I'm still single after 13 years, lost a parent, a 16 y/o pet, dissolved a parent's Estate, and I just this past year have I been able to process everything that I've lost since my divorce. You Ladies are awesome. I loved this helpful information more than you'll ever know. I still feel like I walk in the room with the label above my head, so I avoid. Y'all are so relatable❤
@lyta730511 ай бұрын
Thank you! Much needed topic. Would like more practical examples on how to be that kind of friend. Blessings!
@pattymackey546711 ай бұрын
Thank you so much🙏💕🌹💕🙏
@OfficialProverbs31Ministries11 ай бұрын
Thanks for watching!
@dawnturner930811 ай бұрын
Yes… we are not contagious!
@hannawatts836810 ай бұрын
Don’t be a Switzerland friend. It hurts so deeply when your friend doesn’t want to take a side.
@jennifertullos419310 ай бұрын
How did the 3 of you reconnect (after the separation from kid's schools), a church Bible study?
@dawnturner930811 ай бұрын
Amen … do not camp out!
@ChildoftheLIGHT11 ай бұрын
Wonderful discussion ladies! So many golden nuggets gleaned, so YES, please do this again!🩵
@OfficialProverbs31Ministries11 ай бұрын
We're so glad you enjoyed this!
@ellec96811 ай бұрын
Not trying to be negative, but what I got out of this video is that if you’re not a close friend of the other person, and if you have not also gone through the same thing they did, one should just not say anything. Most often than not, it would be taken as unhelpful or even hurtful, even though it comes from a sincere place of care.
@franceshampton876710 ай бұрын
A legit observation. More often than not intentions do come from a good place. Asking how you can help is the best question. The hurt friend or family member will likely tell you.
@debragibbs934711 ай бұрын
Do not assume that because a person is married that they have not experienced the griefs you describe regarding their marriage...