Laterras V. Lyler: A Controversial Conversation, An Empathetic Response (Dear Future Wifey Reaction)

[@hellostephco84]

I want to leave this comment here, and then I will have said all I can say about this video. I’m basing my opinion about the “ THAT FAMILY” comment on on the part of the interview where Tyler clarifies that he really doesn’t want to be involved with Bri and anyone who knows her. Then later LaTerras comes in and says “your feelings about the child’s mother cannot be allowed to get in the way of how you treat the child”. This is a moment that actually happened in this podcast, if you didn’t see it, please watch the original again. I’m having trouble understanding how so many people can’t fathom that a man’s feelings about his baby’s mother will reflect in how he chooses to treat the children. We see this all the time. Men who just randomly get someone pregnant, it’s someone they don’t love, it’s someone they don’t actually see a future with, they treat the kids like they don’t matter. And then, years later, when they’re with a woman, they respect, and someone they see a legitimate future with, all of a sudden, they are Mr. Family Guy. To me, that’s what Tyler is trying to be. He will never rectify within himself that he had feelings or he was involved with this woman and it produced children. In the timeline he is currently in, that narrative simply will not fit. He already admitted he has absolutely no feelings for those kids and he never did, and I think a lot of that had to do with the way he looked at Bri. A little nugget from my life…the times that I have been presented with the opportunity to be with child by a man, I have declined because I did not want my child to be able to see. “Dad does not love Mom, Dad did not think Mom was enough to actually commit to“and because I was only offered that by men who didn’t love me, I knew it was possible that they might move on and give 100% of themselves down the line to another woman and possibly leave my children behind. This happens all the time. I don’t know why so many people think it’s so far-fetched that his issue could really be with Bri and not with the kids. Especially since he says so many times in the interview the children are innocent bystanders in this messy situation. If you didn’t get that perspective from the interview, then we’ve lived very different lives, we’ve observed very different realities in life, and we saw a different interview. Anyway, thank you for watching 😊 Oh...and apparently I was on to something with Tyler feeling betrayed by Laterras's remarks after the interview particularly his remarks with Jessie and Ricki...Tyler has untagged himself on all Dear Future Wifey media and he has unfollowed Laterras on IG. I wonder how this whole sitation makes Laterras feel, a man who seeks to do good and redeem people with his platform. I think this interview was a mistake. Tyler should have posted a notes app apology about everything and kept it moving.

[@MsKwesi]

Tyler aka Lyler fought for custody of the first child and signed the birth certificate of the twins, who were conceived the natural way. Being in pictures with matching pajamas with his children, and now abandoning them and claiming he never felt anything for the children doesn't make sense. Yes, men abandon their children for the sake of a new relationship. It doesn’t make it okay. If I'm misunderstanding your take, I apologize. I just see Lyler as a deceptive person who keeps lying because he doesn't want to pay child support or admit to Ashley that he was more involved in his children's lives than he has admitted to her.

[@nikkil6908]

Laterras doesn't aim to do good. His later conversation with Jessie Woo and Rikki showed that. He said it didn’t matter to him either way.

[@cosmicbeauty5682]

Left another video for this... I'll "call them back" 😂

[@taylakurner]

😂

[@RaesOfLight]

Love this comment!

[@sharonachieng4134]

Me too 😂

[@SummerTyme2023]

Girl! 😂

[@melliegotsoul]

😂😂

[@potatoesomega]

Tyler reminds me of guys who leave their children as soon as the relationship with their mom ends or turns sour

[@LS-gy9bq]

Tyler sang at the very end that all he wanted was for all of them to leave him alone was so EVIL & VILE. We saw the cute pictures and assumed feelings behind them and here he was telling us that basically he had no feelings for these kids that he fathered😢.

[@hellostephco84]

That’s exactly who he is. That’s exactly it. He never was satisfied with his relationship with Bri, so he has no attachment to those kids, which is scary.

[@hellostephco84]

Oooh I want to add this too. Tyler kept talking about Ashley‘s intuition and how great it was. But we see now that this interview did not do for them what they thought it would do. I don’t think we talk enough about how sometimes your intuition can lead you to situations that aren’t necessarily meant to lift you up, but to provide correction and redirection. We don’t celebrate that part as much. When we talk about being called to a place when we talk about feeling guided to a place there’s always a positive connotation with that but sometimes that calling leads to a very powerful destruction and redirection and I think that’s what happened for these two. What do you guys think? Does anyone agree? Probably not! lol. OK, I’m done commenting.

[@bellbee58]

“She’s really tryna be a wife to this ridiculous man!” -Stephco! You give me life 😆

[@hellostephco84]

She’s trying so hard. That’s how she was raised to be. It’s hard to walk away from what you are conditioned to think is the right thing. She’s not the first and she won’t be the last. It’s just tough to watch.

[@ayeeshahm9078]

That was such a succinct read. I cackled.

[@hellostephco84]

I filmed this during the sunset in front of an open window. Translation= the lighting is real "creative" by the end, but oh well!

[@OhhYouu..MICHELLE]

The day Ashley comes to her senses and realizes she was loved boomed and understand that Tyler is a professional victim and/or hero..She’s going to need therapy😩

[@hellostephco84]

I dread the day she wakes up. It will be a terrifying event for her.

[@faithful2myfreedom934]

I give that marriage 2-3 more years. And 3 is me being generous bc Ashley is not gonna want to give up, but she will file for divorce!

[@daughterofyah6209]

Im actually in that stage. In therapy in all. My thinking is so skewed and it feels like a shitty fever dream, I keep replaying certain aspects and wondering 'was this real? Why was I so stupid? Why didn't I see the signs, why could they see it and not me' etc. Finding myself and having grace with has been hard but I need to heal because I have a baby now. When she wakes up she will have to do the work as well, and it will be hard but she will find herself and hopefully a stronger version of herself as wells

[@Monicahappened]

Yeah she’s gonna need an overflow of love and support to keep from spiraling. I’ve been there before but I was alone, and it’s a deep dark place .

[@SmallBobby]

@@daughterofyah6209 Yeah, we've been there. Had our "reality" bubble burst and holding on for dear life to our last little bit of mental sanity due to a man and his shitty actions. If and when you make it through, the new reality is more grounded and will serve you 100 fold. I can see Ashley walking right into this as so many before, but the only way is through it. Let's just keep her in our prays.

[@AmberEverywhere]

Hair is giving. Side part, I see you

[@Whatsgucci]

I love the fact that everyone refers to him as Lyler💀

[@hellostephco84]

The lies are atrocious!

[@SmallBobby]

The "Li"bra lol

[@Whatsgucci]

@ Stooop!💀

[@mariabrown6926]

As they should

[@Becoming_EJ]

I hear what you are saying about Ashley trying to be a proverbs 31 woman. However, besides Tyler not being the kind of man that should be receiving that covering from a proverbs 31 woman, wouldn't a P31 woman guide a man to do good? As in NOT CONDONE the abandonment of three children? Additionally, the coldness she exhibited with her half-brother reaching out to her told me all I needed to know. Which makes me believe that she is not convicted in the faith as she and Tyler claim. I think they are cosplaying and should respectfully leave God out of it.

[@logenesis3108]

I agree! Everyone is so quick to bring God into the mix or even talk as if they be kickin it with him or something but I’m tired of the most ungodly people mentioning God when it’s time to defend whatever messed up behavior. And no, this message didn’t come from God. I’m just a regular degular human

[@Ms.July29]

Thank you! People use "growing up in the church" as a slippery, worldly synonym for *Christian,* which it is NOT. Growing up in a dealership doesn't make you a Chrysler. And first 10 verses of proverbs 31 are written to A MAN (a king specifically) "Do not pervert justice for all the afflicted" Tyler, those children should not grow up and seek justice from you 😢

[@hellostephco84]

I think that’s hard when so much of black culture is the black church. I think that’s part of the reason why the dear future wife podcast is so popular because he plays into two huge themes within the black community, which are: relationships and singlehood, and God specifically the Christian God. I think if he was just a relationship podcast, he wouldn’t be as popular, but it’s that combination of relationships and Christianity. That’s so many people in the black community can identify with. Ashley reminds me of a lot of women that I know who are raised that way, and in the Christian religion, they cannot help but to see things through that lens because that’s how they were raised. So they’ll never leave God out of it because people tend to use their belief systems to justify everything that they do in life. That’s why a couple of years ago. The deconstruction movement was so popular, because it was the first time that a lot of people were looking out their lives and their religion, outside of what they had been taught. And thinking for themselves. I’m not saying people can’t and shouldn’t continue up in the way that they were raised, but in a situation like this, you do need to have enough of a critical mind to ask yourself “is God even in this or am I pulling him into this because this is how I was raised to think and I’m not used to thinking critically by myself?“

[@tiarac8917]

@@hellostephco84that’s really great point about the critical thinking because something I’m noticing in pop culture more now is using God or misquoted scripture as a scapegoat or a bypass to self reflection and behavioral improvement instead of as correction as it’s intended. I like that you brought the Proverbs 31 scripture as a barometer for a man too because it also says the husband is known and respected in the gates which to me sounds like he has a good name and good reputation and this rabbit hole of lies that emerged from that first hiding of the children was a bad sign from the start.

[@Becoming_EJ]

@@logenesis3108 EXACTLY. I'm a Christian and something I hard to learn recently was discernment. I mean I've met men who would apologize for something that didn't align with me. I'd accept their apology. What they didn't understand was why as a Christian I wouldn't continue to date them after saying I accepted the apology. SO, If Ashley truly has God in her life, she would be convicted to bring Tyler to his kids. I honestly didn't think she knew everything before she said, "I Do". But since she has, she is not don't anything a person anchored in the faith should. Your husband abandoning his children, God's children should never sit well with her.

[@Lunaslair678]

Those glasses are soo cute on you

[@hellostephco84]

Thank you!! I Iove frames like this.

[@JubeiKibagamiFez]

Hey there. So glad you're posting more.

[@hellostephco84]

You know it’s a challenge to post more. Honestly, I can be honest and respond to this comment and say that I a lot of times, I’m confused about what to post. I know people don’t always agree with my viewpoints. So commentary is tough. I tend to not see the same thing in situations as everybody else sees. My perspective is different and that’s not always popular so it doesn’t always get the views so sometimes it’s not even worth me responding to certain situations. Also, I sort of don’t know what else people would want to watch on this channel. And so, it makes it difficult to know what videos to even put out. So good months, are months like last month with a show that everybody’s watching and I can give my commentary on it even though it’s not gonna be what everybody else sees or what everybody else is thinking about the show but it gives me consistent content ideas and I know hey someone might watch. But honestly, I’m at a loss for what people would watch and so it brings me a little bit of trepidation whenever I think about making a new video cause I’m like “would they even care about that?” Posting for me is like gambling. I never know what’s gonna end up being worth my time And that’s a kind of frustrating. So I try and post as much as I can but like I said, it’s like gambling and I don’t like to gamble. I hate casinos actually lol.

[@JubeiKibagamiFez]

@@hellostephco84 Yeah, I know it's rough, but how else are you gonna find your true audience? I don't make videos, but from what of seen of small creators, consistency brings the best results. Michele McDaniel is a good example, her channel use to be called "My Thoughts Will Probably Offend You" and she stuck to her guns, now she's almost at a million subs. I don't think finding a niche` really works anymore, creators just have to be will to ride the ebb and flow of the subscribers until it reaches equilibrium. I say post what you want to post and the haters be damnned.

[@hellostephco84]

@@JubeiKibagamiFezI know her!!! I know exactly what you mean. Good point! And I don’t think people are haters per se, I just think they don’t agree so that means they don’t enjoy it like they would if they agreed. Opposite viewpoints are cool, but it feels better to the brain when someone is affirming your feelings, thoughts or experiences. When that’s not happening, listening to them can feel like work and people already work too hard lol they watch videos to have fun! So I don’t think it’s hate always, but you’re right, it’s definitely a “refining” experience for sure.

[@DoubleA-ou7pj]

@@hellostephco84you have such a great voice and sense of humor that it doesn’t really matter whether I completely agree with your views. I’m sure others feel the same. Like the other poster said just post and the people will watch. I often will watch KZbinrs I like just to give them views and have background noise. No one really cares that much. (Until you say something that makes us hate you 😂)

[@hellostephco84]

That’s not what my analytics and my views say lol. But thank you 😊

[@sunnyb85]

You look gorgeous sis!!!! ❤❤❤❤❤❤❤

[@Monochrome_11]

i swear next season LIB gonna have fucking Legion lol

[@hellostephco84]

I would have trouble sleeping if I was a cast member for next season. and I know I had a messed up story. I’d honestly reach out to Jesse and Ricky privately and be like hey I’m in the next season, go easy on me. They won’t lol. But I would still ask.

[@MizzBFlye]

@@hellostephco84😂

[@stacia1525]

I so enjoy your company. I really hope you get all the happiness you deserve!

[@MindyourSociety]

Am I the only one who saw this video, paused it and then went to watch the entire Laterras video just to be able to come back and watch Stephco’s take on it? 😅😂

[@jackeeB]

34:06 Tyler is sitting at the kids' table. When the interviewer said tyler was a "king" and a "leader," i cackled. 😂😂 That man-toddler is a court jester and couldn't lead me to water.

[@hellostephco84]

I think he said those things to him, to try and give him some damn self-esteem. Tyler sounds like he didn’t have any self-esteem. No positive ideas about his life and his legacy. And no grounding ideas about himself as a man. So in my opinion, Laterras saying that to him was like someone saying “hey remember you’re great!” but you’re saying it to someone who really is not displaying those characteristics. You’re trying to get them to see themselves in a different light so they start to move different. I don’t think Laterras really thinks he’s a king. Especially not after getting more information from Ricky and Jesse and hearing the man say out of his own mouth he had no attachment to his biological children. I think Laterras is a counselor and a coach at heart so he’s trying to just get him to change his mindset about himself so hopefully his actions will look different.

[@gingerly5822]

Court jester 🤹🏽 not “stepping foot” in court 🏛️ but on zoom 🖥️👀 Semantics 🙄

[@nikkinikki8]

Great commentary! I believe the Laterras interview style did not work for the Tyler interview specifically, because it’s obvious that Tyler has had yes men his whole entire life, adding one to the mix is only an ego boost and a cause to keep lying. A good interviewer would have took that baby shower question and asked well “was there any other place or event that they could have been talking about?” Something so simple could have gave him more credibility, instead of seeming like he was coddling him.

[@hellostephco84]

That is a good question, that a more “informed” interviewer would ask. But I think LaTerras just didn’t have that information, he kept asking about a baby shower bc he thought that’s what it was. He kept giving Tyler the option to clarify and he kept asking the same clarifying questions because he thought the issue at hand was a baby shower lol. I wish someone had said in his ear “hey LaTerras, ask him about a GENDER REVEAL man, he’s getting by on a technicality! Change the question!” But they didn’t so he dropped it. Tyler knew what that man was talking about lol but he got a loophole because he wasn’t asked correctly. I think LaTerras does have a good platform but you can’t be a liar which unfortunately Tyler is.

[@nikkinikki8]

@ Lol that is how Laterras is trying to cover himself by saying he wasn’t informed. He doesn’t need to be informed to ask it a different way. That’s just a generalized follow up question to make sure it’s an absolutely false statement. Before I watched the interview I didn’t know anything about a baby shower or a gender reveal lol I was still hoping he’d ask it differently because Tyler was putting more emphasis on the location than the actual accusation. Dead giveaway. 😩 Lol

[@paymyrent7516]

Couldn’t care less about Tyler and Ashley anymore. Just like your content/voice and am commenting to highlight “throwing your sperm against the wall like it was noodles” lmao

[@hellostephco84]

He didn’t know what to do with it!!!

[@sydneyyliz]

Please keep posting!!!! I live for your uploads

[@jackeeB]

I love your side stories😂

[@hellostephco84]

😭😭😭

[@keroppibadtzmaru]

You are so beautiful ! The glasses lipstick combo is perfection ❤ Also I am one of the people who don’t always agree with your perspective but I love your personality and storytelling so much that I really love to watch you. I never missed a video ✨

[@hellostephco84]

Thank you. Lol...no one agrees with me. Lol. But thank you. That's support!!!!! Thank you so much :)

[@taylormade9748]

I’m so weak at your Laterrus impression lol. I think Laterrus tried his best. There were some parts where Laterras definitely held Tyler’s feet to the fire. I was confused why ppl were not acknowledging that. & Stephco ppl are DEFINITELY now applying pressure to Bri. I’m glad she’s fighting for her kids, but she has very bad behavior like Tyler. I can see now why they were besties.

[@hellostephco84]

Good. She got away with a lot. I feel sorry for her ex-wife. If I feel sorry for anyone.

[@taylormade9748]

@ definitely agree. Ty and Bri did not respect their own relationships and were fine with hurting their significant others. So messy. So unnecessary

[@Zikomo7]

Tyler wanted Bri’s blue checkmark. He’s upset that he’s not getting promo/sponsorships he thought he’d get. He doesn’t like Ashley. He’s been messaging girls since he proposed to her

[@destinyschild5768]

Really is there proof?

[@hellostephco84]

And this is what I mean about being done with this effing show lol. Like why do we still know that about them? Why do we still know that this man is doing that? Why? Why why? I’m done!

[@mwikakalima24]

Zikomo maningi 🤭👋

[@pulengseakgwa6744]

​@@mwikakalima24 😂😂😂😂

[@Zikomo7]

@@destinyschild5768 there was. I can’t remember which girl found the leaked texts. Sorry

[@chelaclova8680]

I love your content and your channel! Your hair looks amazing like this 😍 the glasses are so cool and trendy, but I feel like a smaller glasses frame would look SOOOO good on you and compliment your features well!

[@anakiyacreates]

Earliest I’ve ever been! Lol hey Steph Co! 😊

[@YourGirl918]

Ashley will never be the same after this relationship I really hope she will find clarity and peace cause Tyler is not at peace, the amount of burdens this man carries I could never . Chaos !

[@hellostephco84]

GURL. She will be a mess.

[@The_1_She]

This IS the lewk Stephco ❤❤❤

[@genzpassport5643]

love the glasses

[@LS-gy9bq]

Ashley is not a victim!! Both she and Tyler sold their victims story about being raised without fathers in their lives, PRAYING AND BEING ALL CHRISTIAN-Y, & BOTH...BOTH HAVE BASICALLY SAID F TYLER'S THREE KIDS‼️🥷🏽 WE ARE TRYING TO GET TO A INFLUENCER BAG ‼️ THEY'RE BOTH DISGUSTING 🤬 BRI , literally expected that the kids could participate in the wedding and had no problem with them being a part of Lylers new life but Lyler and Ashley have rejected that 100% INTENTIONALLY inflicting years of trauma on those kids with no empathy coming from their own experiences ‼️

[@hellostephco84]

They are very entrenched in their desired narrative, I hope after this interview and the fallout, they will really start looking within and stop pretending that anything they are doing is correct.

[@Rogueviewer1]

They’ll have no choice but to look within once their external world continues to crumble. Both their reputations are in the trash now and they don’t have the fortitude to sustain a houseplant smh

[@tisam5042]

His podcast is like this with all guest but I agree he did let Tyler hang himself. He wouldn’t respond to confrontation. Dear wifey podcast didn’t understand that he was enabling because some women will use this as a passive way to be dumb😊

[@tamararodriguez4413]

All Bryan McLight (as Jessi Woo calls him) had to do was to say I Have 3 kids, and let Ashley decide if she wanted to be with him or not... but No, his messy behind decided to Lie about how he messed around with another woman (who just happened to be gay). As a mother, Bri had to come out and defend their Children that He decided he no longer wanted to be involved in. He put them in Harms way, their mother came to their defense. Ashley has dug up so deep that at this point she deserves all the crap he has put her through. Latteris gave him a safe space for him to continue lying and he meant what He meant "I want That family to go away"... and he meant Bri and Her children. He can Go, but the court will deem him responsible for kids he conceived naturally and that he has custody for. Let him have what's coming to him‼️‼️

[@beewest5704]

When it all blows up in Ashley's face Lyler will be the 1st to say Ashley made him abandon his kids. And he loved her so much but he later decided he could not live without his kids & paint her as a evil stepmom.

[@tamararodriguez4413]

@beewest5704 "Lyler" ‼️🤣 and You are 💯‼️‼️

[@paintitblack9712]

I'm glad you posted on this. Your takes are always on point❤

[@sleepfulpeace4783]

I just had to pause this and thank you for your nuanced take. I really feel for Ashley. It's why so many women get caught up in bad situations not realising you can't moral/dutify your way out of a wotless man. And Tyler is adept at looking regretful so she probably thinks she is moulding him into a better man. It's just a mess. Tyler is very toxic but she just can't see it right now

[@tdh6003]

You are an excellent commentator Steph. You are so sharp, hilarious, and insightful in all your observations!

[@Chikou14219]

You’re giving Tyler an incrrrrecible amount of grace… I am surprised

[@hellostephco84]

I don’t think I’m giving him grace. I just don’t think I am advocating that he be tossed off the highest building, now that I kind of understand what a mess he was in his 20s, and I understand what he was hanging around, I’m surprised he didn’t get more women pregnant honestly, and I don’t think we know enough about the real situation with him and Bri. All these additional interviews, are letting me know that once again we might be responding as social media to a situation and we don’t have all the details. I think the only thing we can all agree on is that he needs to be financially responsible for those kids because he made thembut all of the other hate that I had for him in this storyline before I watched this interview, kind of went away when I saw that he was just really really really messy around some really messy folks and it started to make more sense to me how they all got in this situation.

[@BrickCity8919]

100% agree, tons of grace. It’s a testament to what being physically attractive can do for someone. Like if tyler looked like big ed from 90day fiance i dont think there would be nearly as much analysis and grace being given. Ive seen lots of people desire to forgive him and find silver linings and condemn bri based on the testimony of tyler who has yet to tell one truth about anything. It’s the way of the world

[@Chikou14219]

@ The thing is, he’s not *just* someone with a wild 20s, he’s a 30-something pathologically lying, gaslighting and trolling. We know he’s lying in a large capacity bcuz of the aligned stories and receipts from other parties. He’s shown himself to have terrible character and stand 50toes down on this character. That is why the public hates him. We have enough receipts to rightfully condemn him to hell.

[@Chikou14219]

@hellostephco84 The thing is, he’s not *just* someone with a wild 20s, he’s a 30-something pathologically lying, gaslighting and trolling. We know he’s lying in a large capacity bcuz of the aligned stories and receipts from other parties. He’s shown himself to have terrible character and stand 50toes down on this character. That is why the public hates him. We have enough receipts to rightfully condemn him to hell.

[@hellostephco84]

@@Chikou14219 I honestly never said he wasn’t. At what point did I say he wasn’t these things? You assume because I didn’t tell him to go straight to hell that I don’t think he’s a liar and a manipulator? No. I said I understand him more now but that doesn’t excuse what he’s doing.

[@NotaShowOrPodcast]

Love this hair style on you , so pretty ❤

[@kayla7665]

The best thing Tyler and Ashley could do is actually be in the kids lives now. Whether they send birthday cards, ask to see them for the holidays, or just have a relationship with the kids, but it's from a distance. Tyler is so consumed with "these kids, aren't mine" but you could step up and still be present for them regardless, and that's what both him and ashley aren't seeing. F all the storylines, and narratives, why not just be there for them until their 18 and then you sit down and share how messy it was in the beginning. At least then the kids have had you in their lives and you can say that. Choosing to not want to be apart of their lives and claiming to justify it becuz you don't feel they are yours is truly a cowards way out. They will remember you as a coward Tyler....I

[@MariahBethea]

🎉🎉boom

[@en9665]

So pretty, love this look

[@sleepfulpeace4783]

This video was 💯. I am so glad you appreciated Laterra's role and approach as just as valid as Jessie and Rikki's. Also I think Blk women's attitude to Ashley is partly a trauma response, but we need more grace for each other. Instant subbie

[@kaiymariewalker8823]

Steph you’re so good and honest and REAL!!! I really really really love how balanced and even-keeled you are its just refreshing even with this kind of ghetto content 😂

[@lovetowatchitnow]

The DMV would have this

[@hellostephco84]

😂😂😂

[@keykeyksm]

Thanks Steph! I appreciated this point of view. I watched the live with Laterras on Jessie's channel. I was upset because I thought he sounded a little misogynistic but I didn't think he deserved the pressure he got.

[@osabhopeful]

My thing is, this whole thing would have been avoided if Tyler was just straight up in the pods and didn't act as if he didn't have kids. We can play a drinking game off of how many times he mentions having "pod babies" and the like. It would not haven't gotten so messy if he didn't call them "sperm babies" and publicly disowned them.

[@beewest5704]

Why was he even on the show with his mess. That tells me all I need to know. It was not the time or place to find a stranger to marry on TV.

[@hellostephco84]

AMEN

[@janicehull8017]

Thanks for watching so that I didn’t have to. 😅

[@nedvithy7780]

steph i would love listening to your grocery lists, i love love your videos

[@carly10347]

Your audio is better!! Yay!

[@hellostephco84]

W00t! And that’s on. Finally learning the difference between a dynamic microphone and a condenser microphone! And learning that I like condenser microphones better and it makes it easier for me to edit the audio. Thank you for noticing!

[@gabriellebaker7377]

im here so early omgggg

[@paintitblack9712]

" we're triggered by the storyline we get" -stephanie Love your commentary❤

[@80soa]

Tyler is one of the many men that love to create baggage with women but think they don't carry it too afterwards.

[@BrickCity8919]

Ashley is def not a Proverbs 31 woman imo. Proverbs 31:8 8 Speak up for those who cannot speak for themselves, She is turning a deaf ear to his children who cannot speak up for themselves. Theres a very scary apathy happening

[@hellostephco84]

A proverbs 31 woman is a script. I was pointing out the fact that she was given a script to follow, and she is trying to play to the script. But regardless, she is being a good little soldier of the Christian church factory that tells women to put marriage up on a pedestal and sacrifice themselves and abandon all critical thought just so they can be married. I used the proverbs 31 example because that was one of my many experiences with being indoctrinated in the same way. Ashley may not be living up to that role in your opinion, but my point was to point out that she went to the same school that a lot of other people did and received the same education and the same instruction. A proverbs 31 woman is a script a template to become in your life, but you cannot become that woman fully without selecting the right man and so she’s trying to play the part, but she’ll never fully assume the role not because she’s not following the script closely, but she didn’t choose the right partner. That’s my point. It’s like a lot of roles you can play in life. You’re only as good as the people that you decide to play with.

[@StellaDeeCoder]

I just want to say that I like your glasses 🤓 and you look so beautiful in this video Steph! ❤

[@LS-gy9bq]

Ashley does NOT have good "scruples"! HER BEHAVIOR IS SHOWING THAT‼️ NO WAY WOULD SHE BE ABLE TO CONDONE /ENABLE/ AND SUPPORT HER HUZBAND ABANDONING HIS 3 CHILDREN IF SHE HAD SCRUPLES!! THE RESPONSIBILITY IS TYLER'S BUT NO WAY WOULD HE CONTINUE TO DO THAT WITHOUT HER ARDENT SUPPORT!!!

[@hellostephco84]

Hypothetically, the scruples she has, her engineering is sound it’s applied to the wrong situation. If I use salt in a baking recipe. The salt isn’t wrong. There’s nothing inherently wrong with the salt. It’s in the wrong recipe. How many times have people and I guess I feel this way about her because I’ve made mistakes in my life and felt like I was doing the right thing until I finally realized “Hey it’s not that you’re all the way wrong. It’s just that you’re trying to be “right” in the wrong situation, which is making you look stupid” I don’t personally believe that “good people” are people that just never do wrong things. And that “bad people” are people that never do right things. You have some people who will try and do good things in a bad situation and then they will be deemed bad people because that combination will inherently show them in that light. That’s my point. I don’t know why that’s so hard to understand. I also don’t know why you’re typing in all caps. WE are not Tyler or Ashley. Everyone needs to calm down.

[@mayabasquin]

24:10 broke my heart as well. We saw the beautiful ballerinas and the kids could have been invited and weren’t. So so sad.

[@hellostephco84]

No reason they couldn’t come if he wasn’t being a slimy snake.

[@thrivebeyondteaching]

Just started watching but this look is 🔥 🔥🔥🔥🔥!

[@_whitley519]

Steph I LOVE the hairstyle and glasses!! you're beautiful.

[@jojb411]

This hair is great on you!

[@icomeinpeace3756]

29:01 exactly!!! He should have never accepted smh

[@queenjasz7685]

I’m glad somebody said it Bri is MESSY MESSY !!!

[@Wuzthebizness]

Exactly. That's how most men (who had male figures growing up) handle each other. He let ol boy sit and expose who he is.

[@mayabasquin]

I appreciated Laterras’ interview solely for the clear contrast illustrated. To your left, a man who is biologically and legally the father, but justifying and rationalizing every one of his actions and then to your right, a man who has made mistakes, admitted to them openly and chosen to father children who he had absolutely no biological ties to. However ill-prepared Laterras was to interview Tyler, his example shines and I pray his example of fatherhood convicts Tyler. I think Laterras was winsome. I’m glad he kept using the word offspring. For the sake of the children. I hope he thinks about it and I hope he and Ashley can’t shake it from their minds until they come to the conclusion that they should be in the village that raises the children.

[@therantingshop7423]

Actually Stephanie, people did want to hear from Tyler.

[@hellostephco84]

I did not lol. I didn’t wanna hear from either one of them or maybe hear from them one time but all of this extra interviewing and all of this extra information after the show is over. I just wanna be free!

[@beewest5704]

Yeah it's too much now & the more they open their mouths the more they proof it should stay shut.

[@andreawatkins67]

Steph I love you lol I enjoy your videos so much

[@wendyc2374]

You better preach that Word! I hope Ashley listens to you.

[@queenpraisse]

UGH, I hate that you all seemingly have to blame Christianity for bad behaviour, she’s not a proverbs 31 woman, this is FOOLISHNESS not righteousness, she ain’t got nothing to do with that verse, because what does light have to do with darkness? She would not want to be with him if she accurately followed the bible and applied that verse accurately, just because she mentions God, doesn’t mean we should actually associate her behaviour with God, a righteous woman is just and cares for children, mentioning the bible in this matter is a lack of critical thinking, there’s no Christian woman that would condone what Ashley is doing, there are plenty of people have call themselves Christian and act in a cognitively dissociated way, humans are very stupid, it’s not new

[@hellostephco84]

We're not blaming it. We're highlighting that sometimes when people have been so engineered to look at life a certain way, they abscond critical thought and cannot be objective and step back and ask "does this make any sense?" I think alot of people have noticed that religious people particularly will justify their actions because "God has told them to do this" without examining exactly what God has asked them to do. I believe that if people did that more, there would be fewer wars, fewer oversteps in governmental legislation (what happened to separation of Church and State??) and there would be fewer people sacrificing themselves in order to try and obtain a status that has been raised to the level of idolatry, for Christians...that status is marriage. We are not blaming Christianity, we are raising an eyebrow at Christians who blindly follow the parts of the Bible that make them feel good, and refuse to be objective and self reflective about anything else.

[@sarajinki]

Thank you!!! I liked Latarrus' interviewing style as well!! He let Tyler show who he was!

[@kweenz600]

34:17 “her husband is respected at the city gate” that one right there. Every other day there’s a new story about Lyler and his no good, low down and dirty ways. He’s barely allowed in the city gates 😂 Sending Ashley good vibes cause she got duped hard.

[@beewest5704]

The moment this online attention fades away she will leave him. She seems like the girl to cling just because others tell her to not do it.

[@miladoesthings]

Love the hair and glasses Steph looking good!

[@SummerTyme2023]

Love this hair ❤❤❤

[@_KrystalAlexis]

Did you watch season 1? That was the best and should of been the last

[@hellostephco84]

I have never had the energy to go back and watch that. I saw up until Lauren and Kamryn fall in love and I said oh this is what everyone wants from the show. OK and then I moved on. Lol. But I do need to go back and watch one day.

[@tj2705]

“Good scruples” is not a proper usage of the word

[@lwise8131]

Great video!

[@AlaciaLaRobin]

Also wanna add to your point about how Laterras checked him vs how Jessie and Rikki wanted him to be checked. Watching Jessie's live when Laterras came on showed just how different our communication styles are and why these gender wars tend to continue. Laterras was trying to get them to understand that he knows how to communicate with men because he is a man, and they and the comments couldn't seem to let it go. As a woman, I wanted to see Tyler get told off and put in his place, but had Laterras gone in with that energy, he never would've gotten anywhere. Idk, not saying either way is right or wrong. It was just the first time I saw an example in real-time. It was interesting to watch.

[@athompson9424]

I clicked sooooo fast!

[@80soa]

27:53 of course he means the kids, thats what he is already doing. Moms and dads that really love their kids will deal with a lot of mess to be with them, he just uses this "mess" (that he created too) to excuse himself out of his responsibility. Sending child support doesnt involve you in mess.

[@hellostephco84]

Was I the only one that heard how terrible Bri’s mom is? Was I the only one that heard his description of Bri and those relationships? Maybe I’m the only one who can consider that being involved with somebody like that would be extremely messy. And Tyler clarified in the interview. When I say that family, I mean her and her mama and anybody that comes along with Bri and that unfortunately includes the innocent kids. He said that. I think because as women what we can really see is the mom being abandoned and the kids being abandoned, we don’t hear that other part, but I hear it. In fact, in my own life, I have decided to stay around people before based on their family And leave people before based on their family so I understand where he was coming from with that. So when he says that family, I’m sorry but I disagree. He’s not just talking about the kids. He means every single person associated with them. That’s why it was so important for the LaTerras to tell him “it does not matter how you feel about their mom, it does not matter how you feel about their grandma, you need to pay child support”. And I agree. But I also agree, he don’t want nothing to do with none of the other people either and that’s valid.

[@goldengirlll]

black women love to shame other black women who struggle in love. i get that a lot of it is projection and wanting to “protect” others, but a lot of us seem to enjoy the meanness.

[@shanitamorenita]

Black women are tired of the struggle love. We’ve been used and abused for far too long. We have more resources, tools and access to information to get out of icky situations.

[@Covers-and-Commentary]

Ashley will quietly leave him and never admit her bird behavior just watch.

[@hellostephco84]

That’s gonna be such a sticky situation. The best possible outcome for Ashley is too quietly, divorce him, stay off of social media, and come back a year later with the post talking about. “this has been a good year for growth and self reflection, I realized I was putting marriage up on a pedestal and treating it as an idol, and in the process Got myself into a situation that I did not deserve. I realize I was helping a man be complicit in abandoning his family, and in that process, I was sentencing children to the fatherless childhood that I knew growing up. I am deeply ashamed of these actions and will spend my life reflecting on this chapter but from this day forward, I choose to look ahead And focus on my future. Sure I am a single woman, but I am a single woman with a conscience that is intact.” Or something like that lol.

[@Covers-and-Commentary]

​@hellostephco84 lmao girl, she needs to call you for PR!😂😂

[@zimladyj84]

That man wants to be a deadbeat in peace.

[@Porcelynnn]

Hannah is blocked 😂😂😂😂

[@hellostephco84]

Can’t take her anymore. Can’t take it. It’s one thing to acknowledge that you were an asshole on TV. But girl, a new video every day? Videos with all the cast members trying to get people to change their mind about you? Her and Marissa were supposedly not friends. Now they’re back in videos together? Get off of my screen. blocked. lol.

[@CaRiBgAl4]

Great take

[@FishareFriendsNotFood972]

Thank you for having an empathetic and more in depth analysis of Ashley's behavior and the tragedy of it....I wish the internet could lead with empathy more than just dragging someone

[@manuntdforever9760]

I really appreciate that you’re one of the few voices who’s raised an eyebrow at the mystery surrounding Bri’s role in all of this. I highly doubt her hands are 100% clean in all of this mess. Tyler allegedly abandoning his children is awful, but the way these KZbinrs keep airing all of his personal business without his permission - I wonder if he could file a harassment lawsuit against some of them because atp the constant updates on his life that we shouldn’t be privy to is getting unhinged, imo.

[@hellostephco84]

He could if he wanted to. He definitely has rights. Any photos that he took of him and the kids and he can prove he took them himself and they were sent to Brian and used in any of the KZbinrs content on any of her social media post airing him out. Tyler could sue for copyright infringement. Those are officially his property and she shared them without his consent and he owns those images. Don’t ask me how I know that lol so he absolutely is within his rights to be offended that all his personal information has been aired out like this. But he also got himself in this situation and so I don’t know how far he’d be willing to take that kind of a lawsuit.

[@simply6eCo]

they still hate jackelina

[@CocoaBananas23]

I liked he’s interview style too and think he held him accountable just not in the way Jessie and Rikki wanted him too. They attacked laterrius and I didn’t like that but he was a man about it.

[@sweetlooweeze]

You look so beautiful Steph!

[@tishataray]

Me not knowing the story thinking the boy's name was really Lyler lol

[@Tanakaxox]

These glasses are sooo cute

[@synclaire292]

You look so pretty in this video😍😍😍😍😍

[@alexandria3692]

It’s so hard to care about Tyler and Ashley 😅 so many gray areas and a truly bizarre situation We’re talking about a deadbeat baby dad/possible sperm donor to 1/2 of a lesbian couple conceived during their marriage and the baby dad found himself married to another woman via a Netflix reality show where you marry a near stranger. I can’t take any of this seriously I’m so sorry 😆

[@lianadotjpeg]

First

[@Iracquel]

Omg I went to KAA lol

[@chinyelundubisi9985]

I think it's ironic that some ppl get perfectionist or elitist vibes from Ashley, and she committed so readily to Tyler. How would partnering with him push that image for her??

[@kmariamv]

Perhaps that is her desperation more than anything coupled with her the trauma of her upbringing

[@MsKwesi]

Because she was CHOSEN, which makes her feel better than unmarried women. It doesn’t make sense since the man she has accepted is trash, but people don't always make sense.

[@Judi.B-621]

Looking this new look 😍

[@sweetpeazAdVantures]

As a 63 year old woman with offspring older than you. If Tyler chose to help Bri ( who’s a liar and bisexual woman) and her then wife. It makes total sense that he shouldn’t have an attachment to those children. I know Tyler had lied but I know Bri is a bigger liar and very manipulative. Bri will have those kids in 10 more relationships with her before they’re 18 years old.

[@gigif169]

Not impt...love the hair

[@LawChatsWithMadeline]

Ma'am, 40 where?? 😮

[@totalpefectionisto]

Between Tyler and the white man in Wisconsin who faked his death and abandoned his family for a mistress, 2024 is the Year of the Deadbeat.

[@daughterofyah6209]

13:40 - Netflix didnt protect them because they did the background checks and knew what was there! How can you protect them when they literally used them to stir up drama. LIB just didnt think or calculate that people would have compassion for the children or just how triggering everything from Hannah and Nick, Tyler and Ashley and Marissa and Rameses would be! --drama naturally happens but when you try to 26:27 I disagree. He meant Bri and those kids. His actions say this because he has not seen them since going on the show and he even said "the son" to try to distance himself from being dad by blood but also agreeing to be their dad and co parenting with her. I agree with the Proverbs 31 woman statements. I'll add that we need to teach our daughters that the bible also talks about foolish men and liars and they do not receive the kingdom so we need to be better about making sure the partners we choose line up with that as well, not just us lining up with scripture. Youre statements on the Dear Wifey podcast Laterrus I agree with. And yess we do love a black couple who gets it right because so many of us get it wrong I appreciate your view point because I thought you were going to create a space to big him up I was like let me go watch it before I shake her down 🤣🤣

[@hellostephco84]

Oh, I still don’t like the man and I think that’s what some people are missing from my video. They think because I can see what Laterras was trying to do with him that was positive that I excuse his behavior that I support them as a couple. Oh I still think it’s some bullshit. But, I can’t see the positives in the interview and and I feel I have more insight on who Tyler is as an individual and why he ended up in this mess that he ended up in. But trust, I did not make this video to say we should all support Tyler. Absolutely not and I think I made that clear here. I’m happy you decided to watch before “shaking me down“ lol.

[@nki5ikni5i45]

51:56 Thanks for the vedio