Social Media Made Me Feel DRAMATIC This Week...Here's How I fixed That.

[@nowwhat1434]

I love how vulnerable you are. I feel like black women online right now have to either pretend like everything is perfect, luxury etc etc OR they rant about racism/sexism/Colorism all day. I love that you’re normal and calm. 😂

[@sunnc]

Exactly lol that’s why I watch like she’s chill

[@alextroy9202]

I feel the second one

[@sonderexpeditions]

Same. Why I watch her.

[@Kayla-kd8ov]

I love how refreshingly honest she is

[@anissa2361]

Yes!!

[@carbon_lifeforme]

This channel honestly makes me feel safe

[@leelee4552]

I know right. Although I'm younger (22) I still relate to her struggles 😭

[@nowwhat1434]

She’s so precious and calm.

[@ohohnenyeoo2654]

It does right 🥰

[@videogworl]

Literally same

[@mulalom1193]

Same here. I love it here.

[@Doctor.Dentista]

Don’t forget people be racking up debt to do these expensive things. Even when people make a good income, they still live beyond their means.They have different priorities. retirement and emergency funds aren’t their priorities

[@msbell221982]

I really hope this is true. Saving and paying off debt gets old and isn’t sufficient for me because I always end up overspending from being deprived.

[@dezinechic]

this! and then have no money for the things they REALLY need AND wish they had kept!

[@shimmering_morbidity728]

Thank you for summing up what I have been sitting here attempting to formulate into a non offensive, gen z approved comment!! But you said It perfectly.

[@BlkOnyx0508]

@@msbell221982 it never gets old! You have discipline when you practice this. Also your assets and credit score will be great

[@BeautifulBrwnBabyDol]

I just love hearing your perspective. Commentary and timing = on point. What I love is when you say “I want to take the time to be honest”. Giiiiirl, you and honesty are synonymous 🙌🏾🙏🏾

[@RaesOfLight]

Double claps 👏🏾 👏🏾 - I love seeing one of my favorite (and dare I say an OG KZbinr (respectfully) commenting on my recent favorite/ up and coming influencer/ KZbinr... kudos to you, ohstephco!

[@kentara_excelsior]

Awww. I love that she ^ likes your channel!

[@leahswenson7776]

I don't do social media because that's exactly how it makes me feel. Just seems like the whole point is to show off.

[@videogworl]

This channel is exactly what kind of talks I have with myself all the time. I feel seen. Thank you for being so consistent! You're making a difference

[@marquistf1996]

Exactly

[@daronxoxo]

So agree!!!

[@user-zm3lb9eo1g]

100% agree. You’re so relatable Steph

[@alexisreve1]

Yes, she always brightens my day! Such relatable content

[@Babyshoes777]

Deleted it all years ago, y’all it so freeing. I feel so attached to reality and my own life. My real life relationships are stronger and healthier than they’ve ever been in my adult life. Good luck y’all 💓

[@britt1953]

I’m still on social media but I have the apps deleted on my phone. I check social media once every few months and that’s about it. I think it’s okay to use as long as you keep some distance from it and have your priorities straight. I’m SO much happier now that I spend significantly less time on them

[@alextroy9202]

I want to delete it but can’t

[@anissa2361]

@@alextroy9202 Same, lol. But I kinda want to to see who would actually contact me outside of it and just so I won't feel like comparing my life to everyone else's.

[@icedcocoa221]

@@alextroy9202 same 😩

[@BlkOnyx0508]

SAME 🤗

[@hellostephco84]

Have you ever seen a simple social media post and been launched into an existential crisis? Just me? Cool....Cool. Well, if you have, how did you reground yourself and/or what did your reaction teach you about yourself? Also just FYI I never discuss any issue between myself or ppl I know without their knowledge or permission 🤗

[@AlphabetSoup123]

Have you ever thought about doing stand up comedy while you’re taking this time away from teaching? You’re a natural at comedy.

[@juleslove9814]

@Nikey Likes yes I want her to upload daily lol

[@tarotsuperstars]

🙄The basics of common sense, science, religion and spirituality supply the essential answers people need. You went into advanced territory and got confused and I'm not surprised. Don't get side tracked trying to understand things like existence. Ignore the philosophical types who only talk the talk. Stick to the classic spiritual works. 😀

[@hellostephco84]

@larry Tbrown you have a mindset people would love to have. Never forget that 😊

[@Boahemaa]

No its not just you but I have resigned myself to what I am willing to do and the most I hope to get out of it. Also I am old enough to have observed that most of the people living the life I want had to do things I would never want to do. I'm fine with the trade off😄

[@mammajamma4397]

I've been dealing with a nasty bout of jealousy, over almost everything, when it comes to my friends and their lives. What's crazy is that some of those very same friends have told me that my life has inspired them to make positive changes in their lives. That always shocks me lol. While I'm still trying to figure out how to stop being illogically jealous of the whole damn world.

[@monetemery6055]

It's GOOD to take a BIG BREAK from Social Media. I'm currently on hiatus from IG and it's been Great.

[@busridingchick1063]

Just returned this month after being off Instagram for 15 months, great break, did I miss it, somewhat but it’s all about what you allow in your space

[@kale4580]

I deleted all my accounts on social media to start focusing on healing my self through secret practices.

[@emersyn444]

when i first read “secret practices” i thought you joined a cult 😭

[@kale4580]

@@emersyn444 no just meditation focused around breathing, and some healthy life style changes.

[@khlikb8796]

I completely relate. I deleted social media over a year ago and have not looked back. I feel like I gained my independence back, as well as my independent thought. My body image & self-image improved and I felt more grounded in my personal relationships. I had to remind myself that social media is not a real place! It’s a microcosm of human projections & insecurities, as well as a treasure trove of information and social experiences, if used w/ intent. Not to say I don’t get envious or no longer compare myself to others, but I definitely connect my improved mental & emotional health to leaving social media. I won’t say I’ll never return one day, but during covid I had to do what o had to do to protect my inner peace, and I never looked back!

[@neenee12201]

Very well said 👏🏾👏🏾👏🏾

[@sometime.somewhere]

Comparison with peers is natural because there are some elements of life that are competitive and it can give you a rough guide of where the norm is. If you are in a class and everyone understands something apart from you, that will indicate you need help, or if vice versa, perhaps you need to advance. In terms of socially, comparing to others in general an be good depending on what you want. But it only works if you know what you want is actually what you want, not desires and wishes of other people. And also do you want the results of what someone else has or the actual thing. Successful attractive businesswoman, you may just want their fashion sense, their partner, their accolades, lack of financial worries. But do you want to work 80 hours a week and not to see your family. Conflating one with the other won't help. I think we need distil exactly what it is we want, use others as a reference point for progress (if they are doing what you want) and then mark the progress based on what you achieve personally. Jealousy can be a good indicator of what you want, but as she said, action is what will work. By taking action you will show yourself that you can take steps to what you want before you become bitter about it.

[@labornurse]

Underrated comment.

[@Maya__Mia___]

This👏🏽Comment👏🏽Right👏🏽Here👏🏽

[@mulalom1193]

Finding this channel is the best thing that’s happened to me this year. It’s a safe space for me. ❤️

[@tishataray]

I love this channel.. Steph has a way of making you comfortable to feel what you feel without judgement

[@msd3879]

🎯

[@missSDW]

I have an experience “to-do list” too. I didn’t do ShHIT in my 20s🥲 so I’m doing things now at 32. Got my Coachella tickets. And got tickets to see Teyana Taylor *edit* and I want tickets to see Ari Lennox. Planning a trip to Paris and Amsterdam. Ima brides maid for the 1st time so finally going to Cancun too lol

[@alexisreve1]

My main social media hangups are relationship-related stuff. People celebrating wedding anniversaries, buying houses, having children, living in dual-income households, etc. It can be difficult in regular times, but COVID has brought out the worst parts about being single and living alone. That said, I've been living in Europe for several years, so I know I've been on the receiving end of those hangups, as well, particularly with the married-with-children crowd. Grass is greener and all that, even though I live in a studio with no yard or grass to be seen but I digress

[@anissa2361]

Yeah I sometimes feel the same way. Like I'm glad people are in happy relationships but I'm 22 and have never been in a relationship and it annoys me, lol like sometimes I would like to have that experience.

[@hellostephco84]

I edited that one out…but I saw that too lol

[@1991-present]

I am one of those married with children people looking at your life with Green eyes!

[@alexisreve1]

@@Bereal-yd5gh I'm content alone, especially living in Europe (meaning it's easier here than in the US), but I'd like companionship, an emergency contact, a second income, tax benefits, help around the house (although this is debatable for those of us attracted to men), etc-all of which are a partner/spouse for most. The world is simply not made for single people. But similarly, it must be horrible to not know if you're capable of living alone and being truly independent, so sometimes singledom is a gift

[@alexisreve1]

@@1991-present There are ups and downs to all walks of life, especially knowing people who've gotten divorced as a foreigner in Europe. But brighter days are ahead :)

[@breezluize3282]

PLEASE, PLEASE don't compare yourself to anyone. You are exquisitely brilliant and you are finding your way. Figure out what is truly right FOR YOU. We appreciate your honesty, vulnerability, intelligence and sharp wit. You are providing a service to all who watch your channel in just you being you and living in the process of finding your way. Plus, people always show/share their highlights. I'm sure those other people's lowlights would be eye opening and mind boggling.

[@reffa2858]

It happens to all of us. As a guy, I can care less about fancy cars and vacations. It's when I see people who I went to school with doing more tangible things like buying houses or land when I have yet to acquire such assets. It sort of makes me feel like I'm not good enough. And I've recently started working to acquire these things and honestly they're in sight and completely pheasible within the next 6months to a year I'm not sure if its jealousy or some type of nevgative self reflection of myself to do better.

[@AlphabetSoup123]

Have you tried to put a limit on your phone for social media usage? It was a godsend for me and helped curb doomsday scrolling and comparing myself to strangers 24/7.

[@caramelcocoa234]

Yes for the past 2 weeks. I’ve vowed this week I’m going to delete Instagram and TikTok. Went down a really scary worm hole. Opened old wounds of old friends doing good and making me even more angry at the falling out (something I’ve already come to terms with) . Then I started mindless scrolling ( which is when I know I’ve spiraled lol) deleting everything for now and joined a bunch Of make new friends app. I also needed to come to terms with not having friendship circles of decades and create what I want now .

[@akiac.8101]

I respect you for posting this comment and being honest. I love convos like this. Becuz i realize im not crazZy for feeling how i do. Especially when you say ppl you had a falling out with doing better than you. Like bro, this feels soo backwards. They were in the wrong. So they should be hurting and stuck and I should be the one prospering.

[@kyliCatherine1]

@@akiac.8101 This!!

[@elledee6182]

At most I'd gotten angry when browsing at Twitter because so much stupid there, I moved that app in a folder so out of sight, out of mind. I stopped keeping track of most people I know because we fell out of touch or they got annoying, so that saved me a lot of personal mental space. Or there's "you can't make comparisons if you don't have friends!" lmao Yeah I never got to the "you so funny AND HOT, btw I have free tickets to an amazing trip wanna come with?" either, but I never thought that far that I'd get such things. I was taught, if you want something, you have to save up and earn it. Also distracting hobbies really help, like crafts and drawing, so I was too busy looking for craft supplies or references to worry about others LOL. As for traveling, it's very appealing when I was young, but when I finally did at 27 (37 now), mainly lived in China for a few years, traveling is damned stressful. Especially nowadays. But I do appreciate the process of saving up, getting the international document requirements, making reservations, and so on. And I enjoyed the experiences I had there (excluding the bad, of course), but all I wanna do is stay home and make cute things.

[@Ray-pp5qb]

right!!! I used to be a huge traveler in my twenties, I went everywhere. I'm glad for the experiences, but you are CORRECT it is STRESSFUL and EXHAUSTING. I never had a long trip without at least one breakdown, or just utter nonsense happening. lol Today in my late thirties I enjoy staying in my DAMN HOUSE and cooking fancy foods. Especially since, i pay so much to live in this damned spot in NYC. I'll still occasionally travel, but I ain't pressed.

[@doctorofletters8412]

I feel like people giving you advice in the comments are missing the point ! Thank you for saying what a lot of people including me have experienced!I relate and I love hearing how you deal with these very common and very natural feelings ❤️

[@tishataray]

I must admit with social media, I get hit with positive comparison as much as negative comparison and both suck... positive in terms of seeing ppl doing better than u and negative in terms of seeing ppl sick , friends' parents dying etc

[@hoooyea163]

Girl… really loving your videos. As i was listening through your feelings on jealousy i remembered the first (or second) time in my life where i felt EXTREMELY jealous of my friend who had gotten the opportunity to travel somewhere I’d dreamed of for years. I mean SICKENINGLY jealous. Ive heard before the saying “envy and jealousy breeds ambition”- well that exact sequence of events happened for me. Jealousy is not negative, its an initiative. Eventually you become so embittered that it pushes you to change… let us EMBRACE the dealings of our shadow self

[@mlw6988]

In 2015 I had a major postpartum depression meltdown because of social media. My close, talented, pretty privilege friend decided to pursue a dream that was very dear to my heart…one that I had talked about for years. I had no idea she wanted to pursue it too. My dream was on hold due to having a child. When I saw that she had gone after the very same dream and achieved it, I wanted to be happier for her…I have always been her cheerleader…but seeing people praising her on social media for achieving the exact same dream I had, telling others that this has always been her unique dream, feeling sleep deprived, hormones all over the place, baby screaming and just feeling like my dreams were on hold…I cracked. I totally get it.

[@aceoftarot8069]

I often don't go on social media to browse only to post, I have a weak self-esteem as it is

[@bubblegumprincess]

I no longer have social media and it’s GREAT. I hated experiencing so much FOMO and the mindless scrolling. It felt empty and meaningless because of the sheer volume of content. Which sucks because social media has SO MUCH to offer when used purposefully. I couldn’t handle it anymore though. Kudos to everyone who can still be on there but not lose their minds haha. In my late twenties I started taking solo trips. Texas, Canada, Niagara Falls, Harpers Ferry, Shenandoah mountains, Amish county… everything. Nothing super cute or glamorous that people rush to post about haha. But.. I learned how to plan stuff *I* liked. Learned how to make my own fun and experienced the tranquility of being alone and feeling empowered, knowing I didn’t need anyone else to have fun. No pressure to take the perfect pictures or videos for social media. Actually experienced being IN the moment! Got my first bf at 30 (!!!!! I know right!??). It is a relationship which is healthy bc I learned myself and got more insight into myself while single. I communicate w my bf so well now because my focus is different. I know how to accept love and give love well because I poured into myself with confidence. Anyways that was way too long lol. Great video… had me thinking about all of this. God bless!

[@stewpeas4741]

I just switch between apps as soon as one of them makes me feel bad😂 I don't actually address my feelings. Great video as always!

[@talisha5863]

With holiday season coming up, I’m glad you brought up the idea of traveling/sightseeing. Even if you’re not in a relationship, that doesn’t mean you can’t travel alone and enjoy life. It’s perfectly okay to relax at home, but don’t stay in the rut of never doing anything when you’re off. This video is a sweet, subtle reminder to LIVE, LOVE and LAUGH…life is short and it’s about what you make it🥰👍🏽🙋🏽

[@nancykerrigan]

I only have Instagram, Twitter and YT. This is why I limit my SM use. The fear of not keeping up and that I honestly don't care that much on how everyone else is doing. I mean I wish you well but still. Oh and last music festival i went to was Afropunk in New York city. Think it was two years ago.

[@kyliCatherine1]

Girl I just love listening to you talk! You have an amazing personality. And you kind of remind me of one of my closest friends 🥰

[@RohannaG]

Haha Steph your videos are always gold to me. I can definitely relate to the reactions you had. I’m only 21 (22 next month) and during the pandemic I had to delete so many accounts I was following even “friends” because it’s just too much sometimes. I wasn’t having these experiences everyone else seemed to be having and I had to take a year off school due to Covid so that didn’t help. I found peace truly in my faith, it helped so much when I realized hey, there is a plan for me I just have to accept it and let it work out. But also I had to make that shift like you did and say hey, if I want to go on that trip or meet a guy I have to take that leap and go for it. I ended up taking a last minute trip to Las Vegas with. Y sister a week before heading back to school and it was incredible. I also deleted everything I had in instagram and started fresh. Ousting only what I enjoyed and cared about and not thinking oh if this would get me likes or whatever. I think as the years went on we definitely lost sight of what social media was meant to be and that’s why it gets so depressing watching certain things because so many people are all about the likes, views and engagement and not about what really matters to them and sharing it with others. Definitely something I have to remind myself about and take frequent detox.

[@atalkwithtee]

It’s not just you!!! I’ll see a post like wow!!!! They are living their best life!!! I roll my eyes n toss my phone… give myself a pep talk “ you is kind you is smart and you is important lol Thanks for this video

[@007jLoSoulGLo]

I really enjoy watching your videos because I can wholeheartedly relate to the content. It hits me in a way that no other content has. It’s not superficial. For me, it shines such a light that this type of person (someone like me) exists!! From your upbringing, to the dating stories, to the unconsciously feeling jealous of others that appear to be doing better in life. All those subjects are very necessary to talk about from a relatable perspectives. Thank you for being transparent by sharing your life and journey! This really makes me feel represented in a world that generally looks over me! Thank you! ☺️

[@dsanders401]

I don't care what anyone says, you're gorgeous. Hair and makeup goals. 😊

[@Elizabeth-mf3dn]

You are SO well spoken and engaging - I feel like there is a job coming around the corner for you in the near future that will pay well. People can be so boring and Unengaging but you have a gift! Side note but people who do these crazy things and show them on the gram are “acting” like when you hangout with them in real life they’re stiff as a board and don’t have a word to throw to a dog. Not everyone but from what I’ve noticed

[@godsfavor6939]

This is one of the reasons why I don’t have social media accounts. Sometimes I feel I should because everyone else has one and it will keep me in the know, BUT not having it will keep me sane instead. I watch world news daily so that’s good enough for me. Most of the time I feel what people post is just a façade anyway. Thank you for keeping it real Stephanie.

[@tas655]

Steph!! Omggggg what GREAT CONTENT this is !!! I feel the same way!! What I did was I removed instant from my phone and blocked my favourite fashion Instagram models lol!! I just had to stop myself it was too much but I think your way is much better I so want to travel and the pandemic has only made that even more evident. Please if you are coming to Europe let us know and link up!!! 💙💙💙

[@kayelle5239]

I remind myself that social media is someone’s highlight reel and I never really know what’s going on behind the scenes. I had a friend who looked so happy, healthy and perfect on social media only to find out they were miserable via DM.

[@Boahemaa]

The way to keep from feeling envy so deeply is to look at the full picture. Yes there are people doing better than you but there are so many more doing worse than you. More importantly though allow yourself to feel your feelings. They've made you make actual plans to get what you want. Its the most you can hope to get from the pain.

[@nanii22]

I never regret watching your videos. I've been going through the same rut. With both travel and my lifesyle choices (ie: WORKING OUT!) This video was placed in my way for a reason. I'm doing a 30 min YT workout after lunch today

[@naturallove6615]

Don’t compare your self to others especially from what you see on insta. I’m 28 and never had traveling experiences like that and only been to a few states. I have friends and family who been to numerous countries but that’s ok. Doesn’t mean my life isn’t eventful and I’m not living it to the fullest.

[@crystallewis5902]

I know this is sort of a different topic but this video reminds me of how much I hate passport Twitter lol. It makes no sense for others to judge people by how many stamps they have on their passport (or to judge someone for not having a passport) when traveling requires not only money but the ability to take time off of work and/or to not have any responsibilities you can't afford to step away from. And some people (like myself) simply have no interest in traveling, just like not everyone is interested in Broadway plays or golf. It's classist to say that someone isn't cultured or isn't a well-rounded person simply because they haven't left their country. Travel is a privilege, not a required life experience.

[@rebashley]

You hit it on the head!!

[@brookesmith6998]

I love this video! I'm in the process of finding full time employment after graduating last year, but I've been able to do small things that keep me inspired and happy. I'm going to an outdoor music festival in a few days and have several concerts on my calendar for the next year. We sometimes overlook how gratifying it can be to do what we can now to move us toward where we want to be in the future. I've been to two Afropunks and got to see Janelle Monae, Jill Scott and Erykah Badu as headliners. I would definitely recommend!

[@kayp9318]

I totally understand this feeling. Especially when I see baby or engagement announcements. I really feel like God forgot about me or I got some kind of curse on me or something. I’m on a Instagram break now. I get it

[@AG81018]

When you started singing I can only imagine I laughed out loud. Thanks for sharing. I love how vulnerable and funny you are.

[@ashtrologytv]

Thank you for posting this sis! I have a stellium in Scorpio in my first house, along with an opposition of Saturn in my 4th to my sun and Mercury in my 10th. Things seem to come slowly to me, and I get so jealous! I’ve been really working on elevating this energy in my life to something more happy and productive. Just wanted to comment this since I know you’re an astrology girl too and may appreciate it! Thank you for your honesty ❤️

[@ambhway3619]

You have , hands down , the best KZbin channel and content. Super relatable !!! I feel this way often. Thanks for sharing !!🌸

[@Sarah-ts3gv]

It’s always a treat when I see a new upload 🤩

[@TheSecretninja2001]

Love love loved this post!! And I feel you especially on the job aspect. Now I don't particularly like to travel because I have a fear of heights and flying but I've flown to different states for concerts. For the majority of my adult life I've had jobs that left me in the constant state of sink or swim and after I lost my last job I sat down and thought about what I wanted to do and what I wanted. I made a list of things I wanted and what I didn't want in a job and also looked up how much money I needed to make to live in the neighborhood I wanted to live in and not live paycheck to paycheck. After that I prayed about and started my job search. After a year of being out of work (some temp jobs inbetween) I found a job that fit all my criteria. While it's not my dream job I enjoy working there and what I do and most importantly it's allowed me to hit some major financial goals I previously thought I'd never be able to hit and it's been going on 3 years that I've been there. I enjoyed this video so much. You're so honest and realistic and funny and just a needed voice.

[@miki410]

I really curate the accounts I follow so I can avoid people who tend to flex their lifestyle too much. I also like to remind myself that I have a lot of things that other people might be jealous of and it can go both ways. You have a beautiful singing voice by the way!

[@thepollenhater]

I really enjoy your content Stephanie! every video has made me feel less alone in having these ‘negative’ and uncomfortable emotions that are stirred up by social media or not being where everyone else is in life. I also struggled hard with the positive vibes only era 😂 I like your approach of setting personal goals for yourself to show that you can have those travel experiences too and not spiraling from the feeling of lack.

[@BlkOnyx0508]

I love to see other people spend their money. Thats the way I look at it. I have no problem marveling at it. But if traveling is your passion use a credit card to pay for it. Rewards points! Rewards are the only reason other than emergencies to have a credit card in my opinion

[@mayasevelen]

Do you ever take social media breaks? Or delete it period? I feel like that could be a game changer

[@SepTeena]

It IS a game changer!

[@RamenzillaX]

I completely understand. It's easy to say "comparison is the thief of joy" "don't compare yourself to anyone", but we live in the real world and it's unavoidable. It's ok to have these feelings from time to time, but we shouldn't let those feelings fester into resentment and further self doubt and angst. We'd just be miserable and that's no fun! It's a cliche, but taking social media breaks help. There's a vast world out there that doesn't involve scrolling. Thanks again for the honest, personal, and relatable video!

[@alexisreve1]

At least a couple of these music festivals got to reach out to you at some point. I mean, GOT TO. We gon speak on it for 2022/2023.

[@prettybrittany_]

you came in end easily became one of my favorite 3 channels. i look forward to EVERY video you post. you are so different !!!

[@heycris5833]

I resonated a lot w/ this video but I also found it interesting the way you interact w/social media b/c u are KZbinr and there’s a ton of ppl looking at you the same way. You are so much closer to doing all the things u talked about than the rest of us. I’m sure ppl are watching u feeling the same way. Wishing they had the courage to YT. Wishing it would actually take off. Wishing they could get ppl to pay for their stories, sponsorships etc.

[@puresomewhere]

This video came right on time. I just deleted all my social apps off my phone because I found myself getting really angry and depressed about comparison.

[@nyeemajohnson7924]

Stephanie continues to impress and inspire me with her content! It requires a high level of maturity, self-awareness, emotional health, and consciousness to channel potentially toxic feelings of jealousy and envy into SMART (specific, measurable, actionable, realistic, and time-sensitive) goals! Can’t wait to hear about her travels in 2022!

[@BeaSiegal]

“Hi, I’m Satan” 🤣🤣🤣🤣

[@miesha.b8740]

This is exactly why I’m on a social media break right now, I love it here 😌✌🏾

[@janet7995]

I'm down to go to Essence festival..I've always wanted to go, but never had anyone to go with. Afro punk, never knew it existed, but sooo down. Seriously, I'm sure the singles that relate to you would love to get out the house in 2022 too 😁

[@prosperousk5477]

We all should hook for real. Lol

[@janet7995]

@@prosperousk5477 for real. I felt that way from one of her last vids...like why aren't we all just hanging out already lol

[@anissa2361]

Ugh I want to go to so many things but don't have anyone to go with. I want to go to the Colored man play, but I'm not vaccinated 😭 And even if I were I don't know who I'd be able to go with.

[@hellostephco84]

We gotta come up with something….

[@prosperousk5477]

@@hellostephco84 yes absolutely. Let us know, and we could link up.

[@LM-qc3vt]

I can’t believe how much i enjoy just sitting here listening to you talk for hours😂 amazing

[@beautyforashes1918]

I'm jumping in on this one. 2022 is going to be my year of travel as well!!! ✈ Wheels Up!!!

[@neenee12201]

Stephanie I cannot wait until you even happier ending. You are literally one of the only social media personalities that I’ll continue to root for! This platform was made for you! Thanks for giving all of us quirky, slightly insecure girls a safe place to be honest and vulnerable 👏🏾👏🏾

[@coolbeans22]

I have this vid bookmarked to return to whenever social media has me going through it and boy did I need it today so thank you!

[@missantrafalgar782]

I had that too... But I live in a budget I go on vacations twice a year... But they're heavily budgeted... I would get a hotel with a kitchenette or an airbnb or a cabin and because I can't afford to go to Europe I would pinpoint somewhere in my province and go there.. I live in Ontario so seeing beautiful things is pretty easy.

[@karlaalvarez6893]

Go to renaissance festival this year!! It’s sooo fun and dress up!!

[@theshunnedBandersnatch]

Yesss! I went for the first time with a group of friends and it was SO much fun!

[@angieinthecity]

Thanks for sharing your honesty. I don't check stories on Instagram often because that's where ppl share the shows they've booked 😭 I'm happy for them but sometimes I get sad because it's nonstop booking and I can't even get a callback......😪

[@viceanterra3]

Social media is really a trap. If you get off of it and start to consider things on a global scale, the *vast majority* of people can't afford to just pack up and fly *anywhere* . Of the people that can travel, *most* people have a budget for it and plan *months* in advance. I worry as a new father how social media will creep into my daughter's head and live rent free. I'll try my best to let her know it's just a highlight reel and hope for the best.

[@Ilovemanymanythings]

I needed this video. I stay off of social media apps (especially Instagram) for this very reason. It's really hard to get out of that mental cycle, but I guess it takes time.

[@1991-present]

This channel is a bona-fide safe space

[@BBrunnel]

It’s like every video I come across, you put into words what I’m feeling.

[@BPoetiqueVlogs]

If I see something cool, I have a tendency to go and do the thing or find a variation of it, all while properly budgeting. I was the friend you spoke of before COVID and it was mainly because I was a deal fanatic that like to plan adventures😅

[@aeoligarlic4024]

Thank you for talking about this! I feel like jealousy is a topic people tend to avoid. And if you do feel it, you will get demonized bc you're supposed to be positive and supportive and such (which is true!). Thank you for exploring it and addressing the trials of bettering yourself regarding this issue. I think it's important to know that for some people this took longer steps to deal with

[@hellostephco84]

I feel like you can’t be supportive unless you’re honest 🤷🏾‍♀️

[@aeoligarlic4024]

@@hellostephco84 agree! It's like the first step of fixing your problem is to admit that you have a problem 👏

[@mindyourbusinessandrelax1323]

I truly enjoyed this video and your commentary on the matter. I’ve started unfollowing accounts that make me feel this way but I’m definitely going to use that energy towards planning a trip of my own. Love your videos 😌

[@vuyiswa-fumba]

I just need you to know I REALLY look forward to your videos! ❤

[@eryabolonha]

I really love your channel ❤️ So refreshing so relatable. I have IG, I don't know why but I just don't really care for it, with that being said, I've experienced this comparison sensation multiple times, sometimes it inspires me to better myself. I do wish I cared more though

[@keshalawrence9727]

I love Stephanie. I hope you become a great KZbin content creator, your stories and your points of view are great and sometimes hilarious. I look for you uploads everyday, please keep it coming. 💕

[@MelSpeaksMD]

I always appreciate your candor! I agree, social media can be pretty rough, comparison really is the thief of joy.. better to live your own best life

[@lydiah5186]

What is the name of this crochet hair? It looks so good!!!

[@hellostephco84]

V8910 bohemian

[@UniquelyImani]

Yea I just completely let social media go 😩 it’s too much!

[@sydlaw2941]

I completely understand what you mean. People always say don't compare yourself to others but it is part of Human Nature (not making this up it's literally in our DNA). However working on self def reduce the impact. I love your transparency in your videos.

[@1991-present]

I feel this way when I see 'I/we bought a house' announcements.

[@drefloresca95]

when i feel those unpleasant feelings, i look for ppl like u who talk abt also having felt those feelings

[@GothicGodess]

"Enjoying your meal? How do you feel about a man not standing you up in the middle of the restaurant?" 🤣🤣🤣🤣🤣🤣🤣🤣 Girl you are silly!!!😂😂😂😂😂😂

[@NaturallyRene]

Get out there and live the life you deserve! Also...your hair is gorgeous!

[@m3g0mia]

I went to Mexico solo last week (playa dey Carmen. ) First time out of the country. Had a blast !!!! Ready to Conquer the world but on a comfortable budget. …. Thinking South American soon … REAL SOON. 🤣🙏🏾🤣

[@brahmabkitty03]

I’m binging you right now bc you get it! Please continue sharing! I’ll catch up eventually lol

[@riiruto]

I'm pining for more astrology videos from you! I have Venus Virgo in the 1st house...but also Leo sun in the TWELFTH house. The struggle is real.

[@kimshealthcoaching]

Thank you sis for what you are doing!

[@BubblyViolin11]

Whenever I see/hear of women having those experiences where they’re just offered shit for free and flown out on a whim, I automatically think of the ‘You guys are getting paid?!’ meme from ‘We’re the Miller’s’ rofl. 🤣😭 I really love hearing your perspective. It’s so validating and you communicate in such an intelligent and nuanced way. It’s so enjoyable to watch. So glad you create content and that I found your channel!

[@angelasalinas9381]

Random detour but I’m pretty sure we know each other from working at a wh/bm in Houston like ten years ago. Good to see you again!

[@jasminehill6312]

Yup! That's happened to me quite a few times last month so this month I've been off of social media and I feel much better 😁

[@MadameTiffanyYvonne]

The expression of "How nice." with the wide eyes at 10:56 is something I'm sure most people have felt upon hearing the good fortune of others. It made me laugh even while exercising and dripping buckets of sweat. 😆

[@CatGee]

You had me at welcome to this sweater!!! LOL

[@NyokaWill]

Fav youtuber rn !! Keep going girl ! Keep them coming

[@LF_RN]

You look amazing-hair and the Target sweater and earrings!💜