The Truth About Being In Your Thirties

Everybody's path is not the same, there will be some that can't relate AT ALL to this. But I have a feeling...some will. #inmythirties

[@thirdeyeopen2606]

In think your voice is needed. Your channel seems like a place where humans can be humans and drop the mask of having it all together all the time.

[@lakeishag76]

Agreed!

[@MsMandelicious]

Yes!!

[@Somcognito]

Couldn't have said it better myself 💯💯💯💯

[@PrudentWifeTV]

Yes ! Her channel resonates so much

[@MyeshaB]

👏🏾👏🏾👏🏾an emphatic Yes!

[@Maremare680]

I love USA, but the fact that women are considered “old” after 30 is just ridiculous. It’s deeply embedded in American culture. You go to Europe, and at that age people are just starting to live.

[@nancybreaux9684]

Yup.

[@PiaJustynn]

This is so true!

[@bak3456]

This is false lool we still have the same pressure here but people won’t openly tell you

[@rogers5622]

Life isn't considered over 😂Having kids is a reality you have to face regardless of where you are from ( unless you have $40k.to.go.thri the the trials of IVF)

[@richild3967]

Lies I live in the UK and over 25s here are considered old ish

[@Pagesandperfumes]

On a positive note your 30s could be the glow up version on your 20s. Most of us in are 30s are more financially stable and have are basic shit laid out so now we can do the traveling and really enjoy ourselves.

[@britshanesmom]

So true!!!

[@k.alvarado6237]

my 30s has been a beautiful financial glow up. But in my late 20s I did mourn the dreams that I never went after because they required youth

[@dianalove539]

@K. Alvarado, Like what? What requires being younger to take part in? I’m curious because I don’t want to regret.

[@PASHER-do8sc]

@@dianalove539 facts very curious...

[@missdesireindependance5194]

@@k.alvarado6237 You can still go after those dreams. Your still alive.

[@MynameisNOTthepoint]

The skit was really good. Such an accurate depiction😂🤣😮‍💨

[@rogers5622]

Yes it is 😂

[@maisitag]

Yes!!!

[@4nthemorning]

I'm 35 and I don't feel old, left out or anything close to that. I'm super glad I didn't have kids because this planet is awful and I'm not interested in exposing other souls to this realm whatsoever.

[@AuthorLHollingsworth]

Im 39, and dont have any kids. This world is getting worse, daily. 😢

[@mak28busted]

Here here!

[@jae9581]

Girl smartest thing you could have done. As a mom of 2 I regret it. The anxiety we have as parents the guilt I feel for bringing them in the cruel world without considering how they would be treated.. ugh I hate it my kid is 9 she’s been bullied already so much I can’t really prevent that only help and advocate. Children are so precious but the world to me is not a place for kids. Humans are damn awful. Not to mention the fear of people stealing your kids.. I hate it. I have aged due to the stress and anxiety. I also missed out on so much in college cause I was lugging her around. Love my babies but damn I miss myself in jealous of people with no kids lol.

[@loveplaysgames2258]

I have kids and I agree with your comment

[@WrongXNumber]

@@jae9581 Girl, get some therapy before you ruin your kids lifes. I'm serious. If you think they don't feel that you regret having them, you are wrong. If you feel like it's all sOcIetY's fault, it's not.

[@manynumeritos]

Your skin is gorgeous, you look like you are in your early 20s.

[@METALMOLLI01]

IKR!

[@queenk895]

Right?! Im 32 with hormonal acne 😭

[@simphiwemalinga4189]

She's so gorgeous 😭

[@Therealempresskp]

That Skit TOOK ME OUT 😂😂😂 you should do more cause the acting was there

[@komradson7357]

Riiight, she's good!!

[@tfa4782]

Loved it

[@nicolelashae]

Stephanie, life is just beginning at our age (I am 39). You are not too old to be who you want to be. I find that I've spent my 30s really deprogramming from society's brainwashing and really learning my value and honoring my dreams and potential. Trust me, I relate to you in so many ways- but please do not write yourself off so soon. If anything, you're in a better spot to make the most of your life with the healing and knowledge you've gained to this point. I just finished my masters degree (the one that people laughed at and said I would never accomplish...). Do not allow society's mind games and stupidity keep you from going for what you want.

[@missdesireindependance5194]

Congratulations on your master. I’m 35 and working on my associates degree. I’m not letting society control my life.

[@Nat0528]

Hey fellow 39 year olds!!!! ♥️♥️♥️ Sending you all virtual hugs! We are fabulous! Period!

[@elleobi]

Totally! This message is very on point. I'll be 42 this spring and life is really just starting for me (had a baby at 40! starting some new ventures this year). I definitely had all the feelings she expressed in my 30s, but now I'm actually glad about the timing of my life

[@britbrithey]

Amazing! So true. Society wants us to limited ourselves based on our ages, but life is limitless. We can achieve whatever we want if we make the EFFORT to do it. 32 here. Doing a lot of reprogramming.

[@Mo-tm8sh]

Thank you so much for this!!! People are so quick to write themselves off but no one knows what the future holds. Life still has the potential to surprise you in pleasant ways. I’m 39 too btw!

[@blaqgurl]

I loved the skit. I just turned 40 and I went through all of that in my 30s. I've always been a late bloomer and now at 40 I embrace my pace and live more unapologetically.

[@janetnash8588]

I am 58, and when you hit 50 your brain suddenly gives you a break and you don't care about much of anything anymore and it is such a relief. Believe me, you are still young. As you get older time moves at warp speed.

[@Tiredttttttt]

I’m there at 26 lol idc bout nothing

[@rogers5622]

So true about the people who have a straight trajectory for success . Some of us had to learn later in life because we didnt have the guidance or investment of our parents .

[@estefaniaboujon6830]

Yes! So true! And it hurts so much to make peace with that

[@rogers5622]

@@estefaniaboujon6830 Absolutely. It's easy to feel cheated but you have to make peace .

[@themostbeautifulisraw4561]

Facts!

[@marquistf1996]

Agreed.

[@Domz12]

I am 27 but I feel stagnant, most of my friends are married, have children, renting/ living on their own and I just feel stuck. This video made me cry alot, thanks for the post.

[@tovah8841]

I remember feeling & being stuck that’s the worse feeling EVERRR!!!! It will get better trust me !!!

[@dianoun28]

I'm 24 yo and one thing I have learn in this life is that Your life can shift in just one year. God is good, your life is going to be fix and it is coming close ! Keep the faith Sis

[@lifewithsky3541]

same ! it’s ok tho be in the moment and feel and figure out your plan .. best wishes

[@tishataray]

Same. I cried too. It' s like someone finally gets it

[@jessicavarona8099]

I suggest reading the “Defining decade” I believe that’s the title. It was written by a therapist who had a lot of patients in their 20s. I think it will help you out. It gets better :)

[@freetea33]

Whew! I’m 35, single, no children, and that skit hit home😩🥴🤣 just me and my two cats for now🤣😭😩 love you! And so happy I found I found your channel

[@TheGoodylady]

Lol... same here without the cats !!

[@freetea33]

@@TheGoodylady 🤣

[@sheribarnes8737]

Cat lady crew here! 37 with two cats, single , no kids 🙂

[@freetea33]

@@sheribarnes8737 united we stand 🤣

[@MzBunny2790]

It’s strange how this was how life felt like for me in my early 20s. It seemed like everyone was vacationing, progressing, having kids, buying homes, getting married, and becoming successful so early in life and I was so stagnant. I remember when one of my classmates got signed to the nfl, I was so hurt because I felt like a complete loser. I was in college getting my degree in Accounting doing odd modeling gigs and still felt like a whole loser. I just wanted to become a R&B singer but, I never had the support. Two years ago I finally auditioned to be a singer. But, I wasn’t prepared and unfortunately didn’t get selected. But the fact that I at least attempted made me feel so much better about life. Your videos are so relatable and definitely inspirational.

[@CulturalMisfitt]

I’m so happy you had the courage to audition! That’s so inspiring

[@sonderexpeditions]

Reminds me of the quote, "it's better to have tried and failed, than never tried at all".

[@MzBunny2790]

@@CulturalMisfitt aww thanks! It was scary but definitely worth it. I think we all have this inner being nagging us to sooth our “what if’s”.

[@MzBunny2790]

@@sonderexpeditions facts!!!

[@katec9893]

That's amazing you auditioned. If that's your dream keep going and don't give up.

[@AuthorLHollingsworth]

I deleted my Facebook years, ago. Everybody looked like they just had life together. 😢⏳ Im knocking on the door of 40, and have realized that many of my college associates are not doing as great as I thought. Cut off fake friends from your 20's. I can count my true friends on one hand. Continue to pray, and live life. We will fall down, but will get back up. I thank God for all of the trials, and tribulations.😇😇😇

[@XyPhEr5]

'I'm currently pregnant with my second pair of twins!'🤣🤣🤣

[@familyvideosmakingmemories3590]

Whohooo

[@XyPhEr5]

@@mokamsn2325 lol I was just quoting her skit because it was funny not because I am pregnant 😅😂

[@heavenlydarkness674]

Lmao, Your Skit Was Hilarious.

[@Fryedoreo]

As I am approaching the docile age of 38 in November I’ve grown to learn that success means different things for different people. But there seems to be a certain level of Self Awareness that hits different in your 30s and most people who you find “successful” are often struggling with the same outlook of not feeling fulfilled with what their life has produced as of currently. Like you said though everyone’s 30’s are different but this indeed is the time of self-awareness for adults. Thank you for your videos 🙏

[@Pagesandperfumes]

So so true I can't relate to much of the fomo people have in their 30s because many of the accomplishments they want I'm completely not interested in such as Motherhood and marriage. I'm personally enjoying my 30s because I was way too broke to enjoy my 20s so I play to do all the traveling I could afford to do than 🤷‍♀️

[@ashdacraft]

@@Pagesandperfumes 👏👏👏I feel you! I hate this narrative that women 30+ are all scared and scrambling to wed/have kids/settle down. Made my dating life hell-dudes think I’m expecting a marriage proposal after a month-I’m just trying to have fun and live!!!

[@P03ticJustice]

Men peak in their 30.... Of course you can't relate

[@Fryedoreo]

@@P03ticJustice indeed it’ll be downhill from here.

[@daphcajean2171]

Men get better with age. Women kinda don’t!! Its sad but it is what it is.

[@soulistic87]

TBH is your 30's you have more opportunity left than you have lost. Still time to take risks and be able to recover from mistakes. If you spend time focusing on what you missed out on in your 20's you are wasting your 30's.

[@AliseIam]

I’m 40 watching this and ROLLIN!!! I’m remember the 30s fondly but happily in my 40s now cause everyone’s a divorced single mom and well... I have 100% freedom

[@vvelle7]

I turned 30 this year. I spent my entire 20s in school and this year I am finally finishing my residency. Sometimes I feel a tinge of sadness because everyone around me was living their lives while I was in school but then I know that all those years I have sacrificed will give me a much brighter future. That was a sacrifice I had to make and I do not regret it. I try not to have FOMO and compare with others. I just wanted to end with saying that I love your channel. It is nice to see someone online that is grounded and realistic about life. I definitely subscribed.

[@waverider6133]

You can do all of that in your thirties.

[@dewilew2137]

Congratulations, Doctor Winnie!!! 💗🙌🏽🤗

[@tiffanycosby4977]

I hope that you realize now, today, that your life is about to move very fast! With your "Pretty privilege" post, your audience just grew exponentially, and your voice is going to be sought out in ways you had not previously imagined! Congratulations to you dear! 🎉👏🏾 Get ready for what is next! 🥰

[@P03ticJustice]

You didn't mention the fact that in society, women without children are looked at as pseudoadults. They aren't considered real adults until they have children and people talk down to you when they find you don't have kids vs when you do people perceive you as more credible in different ways and automatically assume you know more adult related things

[@kellynunez3430]

THIS!!!

[@P03ticJustice]

@@kellynunez3430 I think this is the mean reason women are haunted by fomo honestly.

[@SilverandGoldL]

This is so true .

[@P03ticJustice]

@@SilverandGoldL people do this because subconsciously most humans believe parenthood is the final level of adulthood. Having to take care of others regularly and make decisions for more than yourself. When you wake up and the only person that matters is you or you still relying on your parents in a childish way like living at home beyond 21....yeah society doesn't see that as a actual woman but of of an almost eternal extension of teenage hood....other countries around the world have rights of passage into adulthood and usually if you don't have a kid in society the value for the woman falls. It's unfortunate but that's the biological imperative to advance the species.

[@keva4672]

🔥🔥🔥🔥🔥

[@zoekenny3619]

Hahahaa this is all so true! I kind of 'escaped' the sense of failing at life as a woman (ie, not having kids in my 30s) by moving overseas and focusing on work. Now I'm in my 40s and it doesn't bother me anymore. I just figure that my life is meant to be something different and maybe it's better this way.

[@komradson7357]

Love this💗

[@KAMZA.]

I feel like you work in an embassy somewhere

[@pearlivory3483]

Yeah it’s interesting. My 20s were slow in comparison to my college friends. 30s hit, (I’m only 31) and it’s moving super fast 🤷🏾‍♀️

[@idrk1507]

I’m 15 and I’m scared to be 20. Not because I’ll be 20 itself, but because I fear seeing the 29 become 30 and not being ‘glamorized’ anymore

[@nnebundoannaobi1386]

I'm in that mode rn, my twenties are slow compared to my friends. I felt left behind but I realize that now is my time to prepare for my success. I'm fortunate to be alive, now is my time to forge ahead on my journey.

[@leahmojo2178]

Honestly sometimes I feel like this also depends on the state you live in. I’m not saying this is exact 100% of the time how it is for everyone but the beauty standard in CA (especially LA)is vastly different from somewhere like NC, or GA, or MS, insert any other area.not saying everyone can just move easily but the older I’ve gotten and the more I’ve traveled, success in career or romance can really depend on where you reside geographically .

[@GoldenSighlence]

Facts! I’m 28 and had to move from South Florida to the midwest last year just to find a decent job and affordable rent. It’s boring and i miss my home but i can actually survive without working two jobs and going to school and living with creepy ass roommates. Ppl here looked at me like I am sooo behind in adulting but their rent is dirt cheap compared to what i was paying just for a room in FL. Like girl your rent is 5 dollars and a sack of corn cool it lol

[@leahmojo2178]

@@GoldenSighlence $5 and a sack of corn I’m wheezing 😂

[@softshell812]

It's so true. LA is a whole different beast.

[@Pemberjas]

THIS.

[@missdesireindependance5194]

The south and the Midwest are places where people get married in their 20s. I never lived on the west coast but most of them are still single past their 30s.

[@cutflower36]

The problem is media, social media, I don't no why everyone has to display they're life on fb and the rest of the apps, love yourself, care for yourself, don't compare your life with others, what God has for you is for you.

[@minimalistdanse]

The problem is how people overuse social media. And most people are narcissists thats why they display their life and such.

[@beautifullove320]

💯💯💯💯💯💯💯💯💯

[@sierrajean6524]

Good advice.

[@angelh7703]

But what exactly is it that "God has for YOU, that is supposedly for YOU?" Who is God? What exactly is that? What is that? What does that really mean? What is the value inside of it? Who is the vessel that "special" thing is supposedly going to operate come from or through? You or someone else? Who is it that's doing the examining, the studying of you to get you to what is supposedly for you?

[@anicesunset2022]

I love this take! So true.

[@kymthecocksmith3690]

My 30’s ave been great. I meet more interesting people I go nicer places I feel more confident . I actually date nicer more successful guys. Life overall is just so much more interesting and I Now KNOW myself and who I am and how to behave and how to dress I am So much more mature and patient and just enjoying my life Plus I work out I look and feel like a better version of me in my 20’s

[@DrineThePoet]

I just turned 38 today and my life JUST now makes sense. I just now have love, marry, have another baby or babies and buy a home. Life is making sense NOW. So it's so different for us all. Thanks for this video sis. Skit was on point 👏🏾👏🏾👏🏾👏🏾👏🏾👏🏾

[@TITLEWA]

Do you know how refreshing you are? My goodness stumbling across your page has been such a breath of fresh air. I feel seen & no longer alone.

[@Blaquebarbgamer]

Same here sis

[@SayconTalks]

As a person who’s been on Broadway but didn’t have connections and had parents who allowed me to work in the arts as a teenager BUT did not do the “super parent Britney Spears Michael Jackson Beyoncé” push- I am a witness to the opportunities that happen when people come out of the big schools and conservatories or have a fancy manager at a young age. There is so much sacrifice and so much that people don’t understand about how the entertainment industry works. Loving your page

[@suhmirahere]

What advice would you share for a 20 year old black girl wanting to be on Broadway as well? I also worked in the arts as a teen.

[@maggsg6209]

Ugh I relate to this topic. There’s so much anxiety as you enter your early thirties, not just because of the hindsight about wasted time in the past, but the decisions you have to make in the near future and whether they will take you where you want or not. PS: please do more skits lmaoo that was too real!

[@honeyhomemakers]

The accuracy of your skit🤣🤣 Everything you covered in this video is relatable. Success is different for everyone and we all struggle with something. Although I feel like some people use their 30s as a status competition.

[@MyWorld-xw6ic]

This is exactly why i got off social media!! Love the skit girlie

[@cressidaaaaa]

Early 30’s still living with Parents! Everyone I know is married or getting married. Having kids or already have kids. All my hs friend are home owner or have their own apartments. I’m so behind in life pertaining to my age. I got so depressed that I deleted my social media account too. I got so annoyed seeing everyones progress yet I’m STILL single, with no kids, no relationship and a sucky job! I’m just like what am I cursed or something? 😩

[@sapphire8644]

You don’t need kids to be happy you’re going to be ok bc I’m childfree and I’m glad I don’t have kids.

[@cressidaaaaa]

@@sapphire8644 I want at least one kid. It’s not just to be happy but I would love to have my own. Even one! I love kids so one would be a blessing for me but it all God’s timing I guess. Right now I just need to get my shit together 1st. I’m viewing an apartment for myself next week so hopefully I’ll get approve. I’m just taking life one step at a time now. That’s all I can do. I’m only 32 so idk.. day by day

[@sapphire8644]

@@cressidaaaaa you can adopt there’s so many kids that need homes. A kid is still a kid keep in mind of that in case you might not get your own. Personally, I don’t think it should matter if the kid is biological or not.

[@sapphire8644]

@@cressidaaaaa but also just a question why do you want your own kid?

[@tangiechapman6219]

I am 32 going to be 33 in September and I live with my mom it so sad

[@missc2u1]

your channel popped up in my recommendations yesterday and I am so happy that it did. I have really enjoyed your content. Your honest perspective is refreshing to hear.

[@jojolady95]

You is me, I am you, and so many others, like so happy I stumbled upon her.

[@Ncognito579]

Man I am 30 and will be 31 in a few months . Just ended a relationship in April with no prospects and when I telling you I am *struggling * mentally and emotionally every single day. I am also isolated so that does not help. I feel like I just turned 30 , we just had 4th of July. I am supposed to be married and on baby number three next year smh 🤦🏾‍♀️ Everyday feels like a race against time where I am losing . I even stayed in a toxic relationship longer than I should have with hopes of at least having a child

[@dreamlevelhd9727]

That is not a right state of mind sister I do understand you but this wil only cause you to have a child with someone who does not deserve your womb. Or you may find the right one but wil be so focused on having kids it wil scare him away. fix yourself up first especially your mind so you wil see clearer and wil find the right one you can build with believe there is someone checking you out but you might not see it just because you’re to focused on it. Hope that this text from your 21 year old brother can help you a bit. Keep your head high if you need to talk let me know ❤️

[@tishataray]

I feel this

[@missdesireindependance5194]

Throw the clock away! The more you stress yourself out about age the more you are preventing yourself from getting what you want. Women are having children in their mid 40s. Also adoption is always an option.

[@Ncognito579]

@@dreamlevelhd9727 Thank you love 💕

[@Ncognito579]

@@missdesireindependance5194 I’ve been trying but it’s definitely easier said than done I feel like it’s like telling someone with anxiety to just chill, I really do try 🤷🏽‍♀️

[@unbreakable4650]

Woah.... did you say that you work with inner city youth⁉️ Girllllll be proud of yourself even possessing the skillset to work with children and being a positive example and role model You have got to give yourself credit for your piece of the puzzle😉

[@Genisvell1983]

She’s on the come up. If she keeps this going with this content she’s going to be major content creator in 3 years.

[@lezlieporter5960]

I love how you edu-tain your audience! You’re so good! Btw, listening to you today made me realize that as a mom of three adult children in their 30’s who are not married I have most likely contributed to my kids FOMO by “sharing” (hint hint) with them what my friend’s adult children are doing. 🤦🏽‍♀️ I’m going to stop this foolishness today! Thank you for the insight!

[@MeMeC283]

I am so glad you are aware. Not a lot of moms realize how they may unintentionally contribute to their kids FOMO - amongst other things…. Yay you!!!! 👏🏾👏🏾👏🏾🎉🎉

[@alinapariyani4683]

The skit is me, but with a shelter cat 😹

[@angelac2228]

😂😂

[@TrishtonCarroll]

Your content is so good, please do not stop making videos. I have watched every video on your channel and so excited for the new weekly episodes!

[@gen2886]

your realness is such a breath of fresh air

[@IryCookie]

Ok, but the shelter dog part is MY definition of making it in your 30s. That is literally what I want but with at least 4 or 5 rescue dogs. No kids, no job that demands around the clock stress (even if it pays well, I don't want to spend my life working and regret all that time worrying about work when I am older) and just happy doing my own thing. You go, beautiful lady 🌹!

[@likelovetothelost]

I think you should work for Buzzfeed. Like you’re giving me a Buzzfeed vibe.

[@SHESHESHANIA]

Yes she does hv that vibe!!!

[@PASHER-do8sc]

Definitelyyyyy

[@sonderexpeditions]

Facts.

[@estefaniaboujon6830]

Yeah, but she is too real for BuzzFeed

[@notsurex]

heck no..

[@xXSupaKawaiiXx]

This skit had me rolling 🤣

[@jeniferwatts2741]

I wish I could articulate my thoughts as well as you. I’m in my late 30’s and have noticed a big difference in the way people interact with me as opposed to my twenties. I really appreciated your talking about realizing time is up feeling you have in your 30’s. It’s not really up but the feeling is so real!

[@sadephillips9645]

Some people in their 20s have fertility issues. Everyone’s body is different.

[@tracypereira2553]

Your cateye sis!! Is on point! Also I'm turning 30 this year and have already started going back in time and picking apart some of my choices because I am nowhere close to being where I thought I would be. Thanks for shedding some light and a new outlook on 30s.

[@BEAutifulkiss21100]

i hope you dont take this the wrong way but i really dont think youre unattractive at all!!!!! youre pretty. and finding someone is not easy.youll find someone it just takes time. same for me over here.

[@olebogeng7558]

That skit was EVERYTHING 🤣🙈

[@NolLiM1]

This is one of the realest talks regarding age and societal expectations. I've felt like this all throughout my 20s for various reasons as well, especially because the window of opportunity has opened to an even younger demographic, thanks to technology. Hell, seeing kids getting famous and making money makes those of us in our 20s and 30s wonder about the what-ifs. Not a good feeling at all.

[@preskidd]

Awesome video and super cool skit. I'm a guy in my 30s and totally understand and agree but please dont count yourself out yet. I'm in the same boat. I dont know if you knew but I'll tell a few celebrities who made late ig rick ross popped off in this mid 30s, steven Carroll from the office in his early 40s with a wife, kid, and mortgage, nicki minaj was in her 30s when she finally popped off, Stephen king same as steve Carroll. If you close your eyes and still see Broadway like I see singing please take the steps, social media is your friend. Keep up those skits and post them on ig or KZbin. I pray God will open the doors and bless you and your cousin both. Keep up the great work.

[@preskidd]

And lastly please dont think what did I do wrong or I wasted so much time. Maybe God said you were not ready. Take the small steps.

[@cindyfleur808]

No Nicki Minaj was in her 20s when she popped off😅 She’s been successful over more than 12 years. But she did get married and had her first child after the age of 35>. So your argument still stands!

[@AuthorLHollingsworth]

Amen!👐😢⏳

[@morethenyousee8351]

And there's that Asian guy from hang over who definitely seems to have been in his late 30s or 40s before he became an actor. Dude had a whole different career before that.

[@RudolphManor]

Our 30's are the last stage of our young adulthood as we are transitioning from our young adulthood to midlife in our 40's. 💯

[@bunnitrixelstrange3594]

You look Gorgeous never would have guessed you were in late 30s.

[@Jennifer-no6uc]

I just turned 30 and baby I never related to a video more. Its been 1 week since I deleted Facebook. It was getting bad. I feel like I'm having a 1/3 life crisis lmao 😂

[@tishataray]

Me too

[@whome6081]

Lol I tell people I’m having a quarter life crises 😂😭😂. Provided God will bless me with a long life. No fb is the best thing ever!

[@crys4865]

I feel you turned 30 3 weeks ago. I live in NYC it’s very rare to even see families let alone marriages.But, when I move further down South I’m going to feel behind.

[@alextroy9202]

I’m 20 & and ready to get deleted IG

[@sachaharrison9740]

I got off Facebook too! Everyone just brags! They act like their life is perfect!

[@Amber_Aviva]

Yep, it makes me wonder if they know they’re bragging or if it’s done unconsciously

[@sachaharrison9740]

@@Amber_Aviva girl they knew what they are doing! Like their life is so great and you suck

[@BarestTruths]

@@Amber_Aviva I never thought and still don’t think that I bragged on social media but I have removed myself because what I realized was that the parts of my life I presented represented like 10% of my life and I hated that idea. I hated that people could go to my IG and see all these great photos and compare their life to mine when the 90% I’m not sharing is all the boring, mundane, normal, ugly stuff. Easily put, I didn’t enjoy contributing to the toxic side of social media by creating a false self image.

[@Jammin1504]

The skit was excellent. We want more. It’s so true. He same thing happened to me. All my friends were very successful while I made little money. They all got married and had a fun life. I did eventually get everything right at 30 when I left Canada and moved to my happy place in Jamaica. So keep doing what ur doing. I promise you, you will get yours. And the more struggle, the better the result. I love ur channel. Thanks for making these videos.

[@MeditativeMuse5860]

Girl I feel like you are my new best friend! Every single thing that comes out of your mouth HAS LIVED IN MY HEAD. I just found your channel today, I’m 4 videos in and I’m heart broken when the comments are off cause you are stirring up so many necessary and healing conversations. Thank you Pisces sister ❤️ Since I just turned 31 I jumped into this video and you are giving gems!

[@christiinaa_]

I loved your Skit. It is so accurate this is exactly how I am feeling right now.

[@itsyagirlashleytv]

The skit really has me so entertained right now 😂😂😂😂😂😂😂❤️

[@RochellB46]

Damn sis your life sounds so draining ☹️ stop worrying about everyone else like stop comparing yourself to everyone we’re all on different paths ❤️ your 30s aren’t old either

[@adesa1]

Many black women do not hit their stride professionally until their 30’s-40’s. You can use your platform to launch whatever dream you have. I moved to nyc to be a writer and ended up being a teacher and school leader but plan to slowly continue my writing. It’s a dream that sticks in my head that is apart of me but God puts stuff in place at the right time.

[@hannahtherese2107]

Love this video. I'm 29 and have been really struggling with that Facebook FOMO for the last...geez, 7 years? (People start families early where I'm from.) Then I remember I almost got married and went that direction and chose not to for a reason. That wasn't the life I wanted when I hadn't even had my own life yet. And tbh it's still not. I may feel fomo, but there's not one person on my timeline I'd actually trade with. They're all married to walking mayonnaise sandwiches (sorry but it's the truth) with good but stressful jobs and cute but demanding kids. I know it sounds like sour grapes but I easily could have this life if I wanted it... I just... don't, deep in my heart. On the surface it looks like I've accomplished very little and it's true, but I'M FREE. And it would take a lot more than "this is what we're supposed to do right?" for me to give that up.

[@paintbox3011]

Although I'm just 14, this reminds me so much of how I'm wasting my time. What I'm doing now will affect the things that happen to me later in life and I know I wouldn't stand the dissatisfaction of not having done anything major. I'm one of the "gifted" children and I think I will meet the same fate of my peers. Wasted potential.

[@kannot1]

You are absolutely right!!! Many young people are wasting their youth on social media💔 write novels, fall in love and get rich, work on your long term dreams! Invest in your future now or else you'll regret it like this lady (sadly) all the best💕

[@SynterraSteen]

Hey there, I have a little story for ya. I was a “gifted kid” like I even had to change schools to continue my education at 8 years old. I went to traditional middle and high school to get the “experience” and I was 100% caught in the “gifted kid, wasted experience” cycle. I was so lost. And of course depressed. Fast forward a few years (I’m 23) and I finally got back in touch with my inner self and I’m on the road to achieving my dreams. Never stop learning. Follow what you want to do ALWAYS!!! Go after your dreams like your life depends on it. Start now and never look back. You got this. Love from a stranger ✨🖤

[@Stoney1217]

Oooh don’t stress about that you’re literally starting some of the best times of your life. You’re gonna look back and be like dang I was so stressed about my future I didn’t enjoy my youth

[@KimmieSan97]

Gifted kid, wasted potential here ✋🏾 you’re lucky to be self aware at such a young age.

[@ashdacraft]

I don’t even want to tell you my story because it will seem discouraging. But I’m just gonna say same boat and I followed the “nerd” path. Did all the stuff I was supposed to do and made all the grades I was supposed to make and I’m gonna say I’m no better off than anybody else I went to school with and just leave it at that. Good things can happen, but that “gifted” thing stops mattering after school basically.

[@hopkins-mccoy5259]

Absolutely. Love this. 37 and I’m a secretary with two teen boys. I’ve been banging the idea of going to nursing school.I put it off for years and have no friends and renting my home. School would be free for me but my kids baseball wrestling football and stuff would have to stop for one year. I’d love to pay my rent up with my next tax return and just do it. My parents seem depressed and want more for me. I have these regrets. Never told anyone till I saw this

[@KAMZA.]

Do it pls!!!

[@yourfavpersuasion9385]

just go

[@cativabonita3110]

Please do it! Change starts with us

[@starchunkss]

That skit was actually hilarious! 🤣🤣 So relatable especially being a 30+ year old, childfree woman in 2021.

[@moneaxox9235]

Found you randomly the other day and absolutely love your content been watching your vids back to back now . I’m turning 26 soon and low key been thinking about this like when does it all align together .

[@MissNausicaa87]

I relate to this so hard...Anytime I meet people I used to hangout with in my twenties and someone asks me "So what have you been up to?" I feel like saying just "I've survived this far".

[@themostbeautifulisraw4561]

‘Hindsight is devastating.’ Okay I’m crying now.

[@o.b.amauwah6644]

I don't even know where to start. You literally took every thought I've ever had in my head and made sense of it. Especially that part of being happy for someone after the fact. I've always felt bad not being happy for friends the exact moment they share their good news. But it's hard, it's truly hard, to always be joyous in the moment when it appears the someone is living your dream!! And I definitely re-listened to the "whole to parts v. parts to whole" section. Excellent video!

[@Piqued5]

Oh god I felt this deep in my soul and I don't even have a shelter dog.

[@NienitaO]

Yes 30's I'm like - if I don't do what I'm interested or would like to try then I'm never going to. Tomorrow is no guarantee. I don't mean career wise as I still don't know. All I want is to live in peace and have fun. Yes having finances is unfortunately necessary so you can have food, shelter, safety, etc. But no need for fancy items. Trying new things is great, or learning something new. Good luck to us in our 30's! 😀

[@jjohnson2389]

The skit it tooo good lmao I really like your channel. Keep it up.

[@gingergeekproductions8196]

Maybe your cousin is ahead with Broadway, but you could definitely be an actress. You are funny, creative and smart. You could get an agent, and do TV and film roles. So much of what you talk about resonates and is relatable for so many. But honestly, everyone's trajectory is different, and not always linear, but ... you can still get your thing. I'm umm ... in my 40s and doing what I thought was out of reach in my 20s and 30s. And .. you start seeing divorce happening, from those 20something marriages. ;) Just saying ... You never know what can happen. You will add up to your whole, and create it for you, not the checkboxes society tells us to check off. You will do it!!

[@melyseda]

It's the accuracy for me. The 30s FOMO hits differently.

[@angelahairston4761]

Girl!! I felt that line…”I can’t even meet someone with a job” wheewww! I could cry! Pray for a sista!

[@purplegirl8036]

“All we do all day is sit around and drink wine from our castle and run our vineyard” 😂😂😂😂🤣🤣🤣🤣⚰️💀

[@tacrewgirl]

So much truth in this video. That skit was on point and hilarious!

[@sonderexpeditions]

Man, I appreciate the authenticity of this video. So vulnerable.

[@leni6864]

Being in your 30s is the best! Ahhhh Youth! Youth is wasted on the young :)

[@SheisKee]

That’s skit was accurate and funny af.

[@_LilacRoses]

That skit was comedy gold and SO relatable. Wow. You should have your own show seriously... you are so funny!

[@alicemorrissey6201]

Man, I am at a crossroads. I really like you, but every time I watch you, I seem to cry. You just say things as you see them, and I love that!

[@Speakup117]

As a Caroline, I feel called out

[@forevergwladys]

This skit is hilarious! "Caroline?!?" lmaoooo. I'm over here binge-watching your content. You're my new fave! I hope you get that a lot 💛

[@deelightful7996]

My thought as soon as you told your cousin's story was "I'm so crushed for him. His dad put the bar up high and that may not happen for him. If it doesn't happen for him he won't live it down!"

[@elleobi]

thumbs up for the skit, thumbs down for believing it's too late to be anything you want to be. I have a feeling that when you're in your next decade(s), you'll look back and realize how young you still were and how many doors were still open in your 30s.

[@cam4short]

I turn 30 this year and never clicked so fast on a video before. 😂😂😂 Thank you for your insight.

[@KP-5928]

That skit was a cinematic masterpiece.

[@misspiscesdreamz]

I love ur channel. Love the transparency, honesty, and self awareness.

[@k.alvarado6237]

Love how you referenced Skoolin Life. That song hits hard

[@kriskyssy2732]

I remember when i turned 30 and thought (i' ve struggled with mental illness all my adult life and my 20s were being on survival mode) ok I have 10 years before I turn 40, now i start living. Well, I am 36 now and still a mess, still single, without kids etc. Nothing like I dreamed it would be and it hurts. Deleting facebook would be propably smart move. 😁

[@unbreakable4650]

Huni, just be proud of still surviving being free and making good choices so far🥳🎉 I still shop Forever 21 wear my crop tops, and whatever else is supposedly wrong after a certain age👄 Why Because I can, I look damn good and I survived to do so Never compare yourself to another 🤪 Only one of you🤗

[@MaryRalladi]

The skit was hilarious! I'm so glad you included it

[@ayanomar1408]

I turned 31 this year and honestly LOVE it, I feel like my twenties were filled with so much anexity and stress of not knowing who I am and where I am heading, turning 30 I no longer care about other people’s opnions, I live doing what I love regardless if what people think it is “cool” or worthy . it is very important tho to keep a good circle of friends because now 10 years later we all seperated to different countries but we still value our friendship and wish we can all live together or at least in one city. if there is any advice I can give to anyone in thier twenties is to hang on to the good friends you make in school/collece/work. it is soooo wasy to drift apart and not talk and then suddenly it it too wierd to talk again.

[@vanillabeam81]

I absolutely loved the skit! It was hilarious!🤣 I love this channel. Keep doing what you do, it works!

[@jellygurl27]

The see you in five years with friends 😂😂😂 in the skit. It's so true. It had been three years since I saw one of my closest friends. We had lunch and it was like wow! Time flies.

[@VenusFeroci]

You're so inspiring. You're serving Oprah meets Issa and I'm here for it. Keep being you, there are a lot of under discussed topics, and you're empowering the mass to come out about it.

[@KnowledgeSeeker78491]

When I hit 30 I realize that it was highly unlikely that Beyonce and I were getting married😟

[@kelsgordy]

🤣🤣🤣