Old And Alone: The UK's Impoverished Elderly | Full-Length Documentary

[@yunnanne]

One of the best documentaries I've ever watched. When I turned 18 I was confused and I didn't want to go to college. I spent a year at home wondering what to do, and that year turned into two years... After that my mom told me I had to work or study so I looked at the options and since I've always loved the medical field, I went to school one year and became a nurse assistant and that has been the best choice of my life. I did two internships at a hospital (which I loved) and one at an elderly home and that was just... so rewarding? I legit felt my heart fill with love when I took care and helped them every day and it's such a shame we tend to forget our elders as a society. I'm studying again now to try and get into college and hopefully become a nurse so I can work with elder people again and take care of them during their last years around and, hopefully, bring to them the comfort they bring to me. Hugs to anyone reading this

[@sabinekoch3448]

You are a wonderful person! 💐

[@yunnanne]

@@sabinekoch3448 coming here two years later to update this: I did make it into nursing school, starting this fall. I've been working at a nursing home and I love it in here. I plan on coming back once I'm a full nurse!

[@artsyamy73]

I loved how real kitty was about how the way we feel about our body doesn't change,such a small insightful and neat thing to hear😊

[@sarajohnson2928]

Amy YES! This is the biggest thing about aging that young people don't realize. You think you change as you get older?

[@sagrammyfour]

I am 71. I have a niece from Greece, and was astounded at the way she treats her elders--with respect, gentleness, and even reverence. I have seen similar treatment in other cultures. So nice...

[@chrissie1066]

sagrammyfour We are both 75. From England originally, bu we emigrated to Canada 18 years ago to see our grandchildren from birth to 17 and 19. Next year we are emigrating again to Crete...somewhere warm and sunny. Same health care as the UK too. Can’t wait!

[@khalidalali186]

It’s the same here in the Arab world. Senior citizens are treated like royalty by random strangers everywhere they go, let alone family, clan, and tribe.

[@theGENIUSofART-understood]

truth. seen them in toronto

[@definity5260]

As a "young" ageing lady with health issues, this documentary has given me the insight that I need to count my blessings for what I have even though I am alone.

[@amykrueger6024]

Yes me as well.

[@annjean8709]

Ditto.

[@wendybrierley5412]

Yes, I agree. You need to help yourself to improve your quality of life. I am not young.

[@caskettsolo7925]

In a sea of beauty, makeup, lifestyle, etc vlogs, +Real Stories is one of the channels shows the true raw harsh side of life around the world. Make me more grateful for everything in life. Thank you.

[@levimacdonald5188]

True💯👌 couldn't agree more

[@jerifarrar5596]

I have adopted an elderly couple I go by every day and do wat I can. they have enriched my life. it takes a village

[@celtglen]

Yes, it does Hon. I wish the powers that be will, in turn, grant you as caring a companion to you as you are to them.

[@reddogmom3365]

Jeri Farrar 🙏🏽

[@TheChiefCoin]

You after the house or written in the will.

[@darlenemichuk9128]

@darlingUSA1 Nice am sure very rewarding to put a smile on somebody's face ,warmth and comfort in their heart. Do you call them by nickname, I know a guy who had a nickname for everybody, born in the 40's? he sure taught me a lot about life. Old Vic, his wife left him a long, long time ago due to his infidelity. Plus, no children we my husband, a friend of his, kinda helped him out with vet visits, grass cutting and grocery shopping. at the supermarket one day, his pants fell down in the produce section. he was very angry saying "You f****** C***. I could not do anything. He was talented enough. Being a mechanic at 21, building his own rear engine engine rail (front engine rails are not great) If the engine starts on fire ........ However , many winning trophy's, one of I have, A small victory cup from the year I was born. He said I could have it. My (ex) husband met him at the racetrack. It takes somebody to put a smile on somebody.

[@harrickvharrick3957]

Thank you

[@FrostValkyrie]

Kitty reminds me of my Nan, I'm just glad my family have always looked after her and my grandad before he passed. I learnt it doesn't take much, just having them over once per week for Sunday dinner, bringing over a few meals to put in the freezer for when they don't feel up to cooking. Helping with the garden and cleaning the house once per week, popping over for a cup of tea it doesn't take much but it means the world to my grandparents to realise they are still very much loved and wanted around. I've also found just taking my little dog over to see my Nan helps cheer her up as she doesn't believe elderly should have pets cos they could be left without a home after she's gone, it's why care in the community and things like PAT animals are so important if people don't have families around it gives people hope and socialisation, there's nothing worse than being alone.

[@rhondarose8180]

she is smart to keep moving everyday

[@cindyjones8336]

She moves around better than I do! Bless her Heart!

[@riverunner9978]

I’m 68 and alone. I have family I keep in touch with,they keep in touch with me. I maintain my home of 45 years. I grow my own organic garden.preserve lots of fruits and veggies! I make sure I arrange repairs of paramount issues like water heat and roof, etc. I remain positive and keep moving above all! I feel very fortunate after watching this.

[@dangodaydreams7872]

The poem Kitty wrote honestly made me sob. Her and Doris are just so inspirational. They're all wonderful people who have lived such interesting lives. This is a really hard hitting documentary because it really makes you realize our mortality. Life is short or sometimes far too long. Hearing such wise advice from people who have lived for so much longer than I have is honestly just....I can't even explain it. It's terrifying and awakening all at the same time. It's just so astounding to see these people go through their lives, still being as strong as ever. I know this is an older documentary but still, it REALLY stuck with me. This is probably going to stick with me for years to come. This is definitely a documentary that's worth watching.

[@leaperrins8373]

It's certainly not just the elderly that are isolated. I am 37 and I haven't had a proper conversation with another human being for 5 months. I spent all xmas and new year alone. I am self employed and work form home. I talk to a couple of clients via email every week and that's about it. I love living on my own and value my independence but it can be really difficult to find appropriate company once you leave school. I've had tons of friends over the years only to find that they have died, let me down, ripped me off or fallen out of contact. I don't know what life has in store for me in the future but I do hope that these people featured are able to maintain their independence (if they wish) but that the locals may do more for them after seeing this documentary. It's important to reach out to anyone who you think is suffering. If nothing else, people should take away from this documentary, that we could all do more to help those around us.

[@laurenloveshere]

lea perrins ❤️

[@moogie4z]

lea perrins going on14? years been living alone and it does get extremely lonely at times and its easy to lose hope when you realise nothing will get better

[@ephraimdikel7663]

I feel really bad for you.

[@FULLOOKKK]

Yup same here. Though I really enjoy being left alone :)

[@PatrickMcManusNY]

Hello.

[@cherylesteele5854]

When that lovely scouse guy said that life should be a rehearsal because he has made a mess of his, I felt that. 💔

[@lesleyhubble2976]

I guess you have to learn by what you see as any mistakes

[@nickieriley7733]

Should be quoted lol

[@rachelevans6247]

Yes! And I just don't understand why no-one paid for him to have a hot water and put his sink and bath in. If I was his neighbour I would have. Even the district nurses just left him after his treatment even though they knew. He seemed to be crying out for help for the simplest and most basic of things or perhaps he is just to proud to accept any help? Makes me very sad.

[@laurenloveshere]

So much emotion ❤️ I just can't even collect my thoughts right now. This is by far one of the most important things I have ever watched. So many life lessons here.

[@bellaangel7598]

A very touching documentary well done. Lonely and frail elders are all around us if we have but eyes to see:-|

[@themartinblairproject]

Beautiful and sad story . . . and it terrifies me that I will grow old and broke. I need to make better decisions . . .

[@clvanhorne7841]

haVe u?...eyes 2 see , a mind to discern,...a heart to loVe & understanding & chaRity to remedy or aide &not inTeRfeRe?...hmmm see my aboves of whence i write to u of love,s...10 & 2 sabbaths PassoVeR too...

[@christineryab9429]

bella angel y top

[@jennyhughes4474]

But we are mostly invisible: only go out on days I'm good enough to so people think I'm doing just fine. Some ask 'how are you?' but when I tell them the truth they don't want to hear so I wish they didn't ask if they really don't care how I am and what I need. I've got a brain injury & other injuries and this neglect has made me anxious & depressed, oh what a surprise.

[@baxtorhowle2872]

That old man was such a horrible human being not even his only daughter wants anything to do with him...shame.

[@angelaviolet]

Ah, what lovely genuine elderly people in this documentary, it's so unfortunate for so many that they are neglected by the very system that they've paid into all their lives.

[@ftw7026]

Can you adopt old people? I would adopt Doris in a heartbeat. She's lovely and has a wicked sense of humour

[@tarantala111]

Here in NZ, we have an organisation called 'Age Concern' which one can join (after being vetted) whereby you 'adopt' an oldie or two or three or - as many as you can reasonably manage. You befriend them, then visit on a regular basis - usually weekly. I did this for over ten years and found it incredibly rewarding.

[@nomadicnana5497]

i would adopt Frances and fix his place up for him. God bless Frank.

[@eddenoy321]

I have befriended a few oldies on my own, if they can maintain a some degree of of conversation or retain a bit of humour. I am not a skilled professional,so I can't do much more than that.

[@biscuits2572]

Would love someone to fix up his place for him. And someone to take him for a drive now and then and a chat.

[@misst.e.a.187]

We have befriending charities here too. Age UK and other local bodies. I was registered as a volunteer, and my previous church practice this, visiting elderly parishioners regularly, as well as care homes. Most care homes have volunteer visitors. But, unfortunately, this is a growing and heartrending problem.

[@ruff2play]

Thank you for posting this and thank you to Doris, Kitty and Francis for sharing your thoughts, hopes and anxieties. The trouble is, I don't consider myself old - other people do and therefore it is their problem. I love living by myself, but now I have a gentleman who shares my facilities (ie cooking, laundry, electricity, rent ,bathing, internet) and he sleeps in a caravan on my property. We share the grocery bill, fuel costs and housekeeping. We respect each other's privacy and habits and compromise by constant communication. Others would probably think we're on the poverty line, but we don't. Blessings to you all.

[@StanSwan]

All amazing stories but Frances' story got to me the most. "Yesterday" playing, what was once a Beatles song about a broken heart takes on more meaning in facing old age, loneliness, and death. As a contractor I have done work for elderly people who I knew could not really afford things to be fixed for free or a tiny sum so they can keep their pride. I have spent hours talking with elderly customers in their homes after just fixing a lamp or wiring a chair lift for $10 dollars. I really never talk about it much but had I known Frances I would have got a few people to come by a Saturday to get his bathroom working and kitchen sink for the best gift of all to see his happiness and show him people do care and respect him.

[@kaykepop4084]

Kitty looks amazing to be 84 years old. And she seems to be such a sweet person. All of them seem to be such sweet individuals. Wish they were my neighbors, I would visit them often

[@gianinas9348]

The first lady have a good sense of humour. God bless her!

[@allmightlionthunder5515]

She is now with God's grace !.

[@allmightlionthunder5515]

***** I knew her ! known , i helped her across the road and stuff ! when i was around . This video was done around a year ago ! sadly .

[@SOMD-THC]

may she rest in peace. Her story while I admired her strength to keep active. broke my heart because she was alone and just brought tears to my eyes...

[@allmightlionthunder5515]

T. Kemp She was hit by a bus or something to . She's with God and she's back to being perfect again ! became an angel of light . A ticket to valhalla !.

[@didirobert3657]

You just made that shit up, didn't you? Shame on you!

[@skshi2280]

It's so hard to believe that thousands of elderly are living in difficult living conditions. I especially adored Doris for her words of wisdom, sharp mind, and wicked sense of humor.

[@LindaKordich]

Incredibly touching....yet at the same time incredibly heartbreaking. Thank you so much for bringing light to our fragile, helpless elderly.

[@motorhomemike4014]

i'm 62 and i'm in love with Doris she rocks and i hope when i'm her age i am as together as she is i love her attitude and her sense of humour

[@Signal_light_instructor]

evony tree are you retired

[@motorhomemike4014]

i live on a disability pension the govt. says i'm crazy but i fooled em my tin-foil hat was hidden under my touque ;)

[@franniefargo9454]

evony tree thank goodness for that

[@eddenoy321]

LOL,GOOD JOB,EVONY !

[@sabrinacash3361]

evony tree 😂😂😂😂

[@gerardscott5815]

I wish we did get a rehearsal like this man said.....because we can so easily make a mess of our lives. How nice that would be

[@sisterbluesighs]

I adored meeting these people via this doc. My maternal grandmother lived to 100. She always had a fabulous sense of humor. My mother died at 68.❤ We never know how much time we have left. I hope to live until I've lost my sense of humor.

[@ErykaSoleil]

I'm glad I watched this, but it broke my heart. I was holding it together until the first two or three chords of "Yesterday", and then I had to grab some tissues. :( What strikes me the most about Francis is that he would benefit SO much from simply having a local plumber or two who would be willing to put in some volunteer hours here and there to put his plumbing together properly (including a water heater, even if it's just a small one). He even made it clear that he'd rather have help fixing up his house, than go into a "home" where he would lose his independence. Why are people so willing to shove the elderly into assisted living facilities, but so unwilling to help them just fix the homes they have now, and maybe visit every so often?

[@yasnyne]

ErykaSoleil Probably to keep their houses

[@isbsey]

Francis is entitled to a kitchen and bathroom if he were to be referred to a social worker. Someone needs to report his circumstances and life would change for him.

[@lesliekendall2206]

Because if they go into "a home", the State and care facility get the house. Remain independent and the State gets nothing, that's why. We live in a callous, cruel world. AND HIS SELFISH DAUGHTER IS BEYOND COMPREHENSION! I'm only 63 and my only child that I did EVERYTHING for, doesn't speak to me, either. I'll be GLAD when I'm finally gone.

[@markmcknight2467]

DARK APPERITION Well, the narrator says that he is not willing to accept outside help, so what do you do?

[@markmcknight2467]

DARK APPERITION Well, he also kept saying that he had not had a bath 🛀 in 12 years, so those sweet female nurses arranged for him to get a bath and a meal and somewhere to get in out of the cold. And what did he do? He was almost about to get in the bathtub, but of course, decided not to at the last minute. Very confusing. I have JUST gotten a place to live after being homeless and in the cold for 10 years. I cannot tell you how good a tub bath felt after using the water hoses’ cold water for all that time! I did not want to get out! God will provide a way for those who have good intentions and love him. I am a living witness to that, even though I have strayed away from him several times. I never did get too far away that I could not remember how to get back under his caring wing. Maybe Francis will find a way to live in his little home with the plumbing problems corrected so his last years are comfortable and his daughter finds it in her heart to forgive or forget their disagreement(s). I will definitely pray for just that. Take care of yourself my friend. Mark

[@cindyweir9645]

I used to take care of the elderly. Now I’m elderly myself. It isn’t easy, but learning to live in the moment helps. Doris is a hoot, love her.❤️

[@christinecortese9973]

Such words of wisdom. We all have to give up everything eventually. Stay present, in the moment, and pray or meditate to clear the mind of those omnipresent worries.

[@MrLegendary0ne]

Sharing our lives with other people gives it value. I can't imagine being that alone for so long.

[@laurenloveshere]

MrLegendary0ne ❤️

[@badbag9625]

Was 80 yrs old last week and reside alone. Can not walk more the a few feet but grateful to wake everyday. i try not to depend on others who are busy with their own lives but do have a wonderful health aide a few hours a week Live on a fixed income but appreciate the fact that life is GOOD. THANK YOU LORD, bless people of ALL ages that have difficult lives,

[@susanpettitt713]

the eldrely woman is like a zen master ...understands suffering and attachment...what lights these people have......

[@KraftyKreator]

Wow! Really thought provoking, humorous, witty, sad, and observant. Certainly makes one stop and reevaluate where the end of the road is for each of us.

[@karenstrong8546]

I’m quiet tearful watching this .. lovely souls .. all of them .. as for that daughter .. well words fail .. no matter the water that’s gone under the bridge .. bitterness is the most saddest of all emotions and she will be the one who bares it’s consequence.. because bitterness carries a heavy price .. always and without exception

[@starbound6287]

to tell u the truth I needed the wisdom that this wonderful older lady did depart to me,,im closing in at 67,,but have much to live for,,i needed her message greatly,,as she wished,,she blessed someone today,,thank u a million times,,

[@ceciliahink6677]

while the queen sits on her thrown,Do you believe God is not watching?People who are so wealthy and don't try to help people like these.People who fight with their last breath to stay strong and don't want to be a burden to anyone should be given help,however minor it might be.I bet 1of the Queen's hat has the value to keep a man warm during the winter.How can people bow to her.I don't even want to look at her wrinkled up old face,because everyone ages.God knows.Dosen't it say in the Bible,"The weak she'''ll inherit the earth".????? God Bless the queen Ha! Never.God bless these elderlies who keep fighting for 1 more day,on their own.These people would rather suffer than be a burden to anyone. I so regret not being there for my father because of wanting my son to have the good life.I can only pray for forgiveness everyday.

[@TickleMonster333]

The Irish lady breaks my heart the most, you can tell she’s fragile inside and out. God protect her.

[@unappreciatedtrap_queen7787]

Oh I love Doris. Nothing gets passed her, the expression on her face when he asked why she won’t allow people in! Priceless! Good on her. God watch over her till u need her back.

[@catladyoftroyn.y.8713]

It's so real. One by one, we all go. Clearly, it's so hard to be lonely. Thank you for this story.

[@janrees4887]

My grandmother is 98 and still lives mostly on her own. She's an amazing woman and she's always been an incredible woman.

[@toriagiro9519]

I love Dorris. she is so special and well spoken. ❤️❤️❤️

[@CDN1975]

Loved when Doris talked about the rhubarb. Rest in peace, beautiful soul.

[@annabelgrace1267]

Did she pass?

[@markmcknight2467]

Theresa75 ‘Straight under the rhubarb’! That is just beautiful! I love it!

[@nitalancour7316]

I think this will be me when I get old. Never planned for it to be this way, but life has a way of throwing you curveballs. And strokes.

[@jennyhughes4474]

Yup, it happened to me: was fit, strong & healthy when BAM medical errors wrecked my life - and no access to justice (or even remedial care) after.

[@rosemarycornwall5162]

I'm 25 minutes in and I can't watch anymore.I am 61 years old and just can' bear to watch as I can see my own future unfolding....

[@avengernemesis7990]

Rosemary Cornwall I am nearly 70 and I take every day as it comes. Look forward to what the next day brings. I drive and go out daily. I look after myself physically and mentally. Have a good diet and grow my own organic vegetables. My adult children have their own homes and lead busy lives, however we see each other every day. Unlike the UK I am privileged to live in a country that provides good health system, emergency housing for people who need it and good social structure. That country is Australia! We also have a service that provides hot meals to the elderly or infirm. I don't know about the UK or USA but I think we are extremely lucky to live in Australia.👋

[@NoodlesEaton]

I a 65 and this makes me want to die now.

[@lisamendez7479]

@@AVDB9622 hello Angela, I too am 53 i have your same worries! But i loved you favorite quote and your thoughts. STUFF doesn't really matter, but holding on to those precious few things that remind us of happy times, and loved ones. Have a blessed day Angela

[@NoodlesEaton]

@@avengernemesis7990 Well I guess you are just a better person than me. You need to get off your pedestal and stop judging, pendeja.

[@vitocorleone1462]

It doesn't have to be that way at all its a choice

[@marciajia9364]

the eyes with full tears, the word sorry is not enough for me to feel about the documentary!

[@nunurbuisness5877]

this is why saving for retirment and owning my own house is so important to me. you must save for retirment as soon as you start working don't depend on the government and in the U.S. it's worse in that we have such high medical costs

[@cliffkonkle3467]

Nun Urbuisness The way the world is today makes that not always possible for everyone. One day everything will be taken away from you no matter what.

[@sarajohnson2928]

Except Francis couldn't keep up with repairs. You could sell your house after you retire, invest the money, and live in an apartment where someone else is responsible for the upkeep.

[@BrittMFH]

Very true! (Especially) those of us without families need to prepare for the future. Spend money wisely and save! 👍

[@margimackowski-seif9305]

Nun Urbuisness Sad to say, you can try to prepare your whole life through but, in fact, more often than not, life can kick you a blow. ... an illness, an accident or, like in my husband’s case an acquision that swallowed up His pension ( long story short - Poof! Gone ) . We were some of the lucky ones, we were retired from the military before he went to work for that company. So we had an income to fall back on and his medical bills that occured due to a major heart attack were covered or we would have been out on the streets. We are now in our mid-seventies. We have worked our way back through a lot of financial difficulties and, again, own our own home - with a mortgage - have his pension ( which will go away if he passes) and Social Security. I am more than willing to cut back when necessary and I think assisted living sounds fine to me as long as I can decide my own care. I don’t want to be medicated and strapped to a wheelchair. I want to be able to come and go as I please. Doris îs my hero. She lives life on her terms.

[@jujuvtx]

I saved for retirement. Then got cancer and spent my retirement on getting better. Now I have nothing. Life throws you curves. And then you go without.

[@Mrs-Lady_247]

💔 God bless these people! The government should do much more to help the elderly regardless if they own their home or not. They are vulnerable 😔

[@MareeStone798ms]

Kitty is a sweetheart and Doris is a sharp old pin and Francis needs help!

[@GGiblet]

yes, exactly!!

[@allmightlionthunder5515]

I known and know her she was a nice lady ! and she was very strong-willed sadly she as left us now ! . my mum is the lady in the shop ! .

[@karen4you]

Thank you for update. I am glad they made this film.

[@allmightlionthunder5515]

karen4you ow i do mean Doris she will be angel in my heart always, That's ok i would tell all the others about it here but ill be here for to long but they have said nice things about her makes me want to !, but i do not know what to say or i think it sounds weird ! when i do .

[@karen4you]

The Beyonder .... I really would like to know all about them. The guy seemed very fit and wished his house could have had a kitchen and bathtub put in. Each grew wise with time and it inspired me in ways I can not express.

[@sallyviel671]

I want to adopt dearest Doris... She's straight up. Bless her. Watching from Melbourne Australia

[@acajudi100]

I admire these people, for being survivors. God bless everyone.

[@wifemomteacherlife7648]

That beautiful smile at the beginning just made my day! She’s a beauty!❤️

[@noellechristie2418]

its abslolutely disgraceful that the British government allows so many elderly people to have no heating in the winter and allow pensioners to die every year of the cold. How can this happen in powerful 1st world country ?

[@davidglover9210]

The government is not interested in looking after the people they should. They keep putting the pension age up hoping people die before they reach it so can't claim a pension.

[@quasimobius]

Because they're spending all their surplus tax dollars on those demanding "immigrants". It's shameful.

[@riverunner9978]

Corruption in gov. !

[@galegrazutis185]

@@quasimobius absolutely and druggies making criminals comfortable in prison and a whole lot of other things that piss me off

[@patriciabroderick3436]

How can they?

[@brucecolemancfo5087]

Breaks my heart. I wish i knew Francis. I'd be his friend any day.

[@TabbyAngel2]

Well I cried throughout this entire documentary... God bless them all..

[@faithnaidoo7647]

Beautiful.!!!!.No negativity.Just doing the best they can with the little they have.I just adore the seniors.They are living story books on life.

[@belsbling114]

I watched this just now and what a lovely lady Doris is and Kitty. I felt so sorry for the gentleman without a bath or a kitchen sink. I so hope three years after this documentary that he is ok and had some sort of help

[@sushimaya5691]

God bless all old people😇I am glad my grandparents and died with dignity and family around.

[@lesleylofthouse276]

Sushi Maya - yes mine too x

[@misst.e.a.187]

A blessing, and how it should be.

[@classicalmusic1175]

What a fascinating watch. Elderly people like this have a totally different outlook on life. I guess it's a generation thing.

[@StanSwan]

You may think that now but we all have the same feelings. Some people find religion some curse it. It is a very unnatural thing to welcome death. It goes against our very own instinct for survival.

[@celestaronin]

They were the lucky ones fought wars and knew who side they were on, could see through the bullshit and everything was reasonably priced and they worked for it I wish I was one of them and didn’t have to live into the future BS that is coming!

[@franceinegelven677]

You will find old age is a cruel joke. Not only does your body attack u but u find the closest life long family n friends dropping off one by one. It hurts!

[@susanmaguire9009]

I do wish we legally would have the right to die.

[@franceinegelven677]

@@susanmaguire9009 SusN there r plAces in Europe and I thought here in US one state is coming Around. It’s hard isn’t it. No one knows how bad getting Older n older can be. Even society views us acually ignores us like we have no purpose. Only family n old friends can be saving grace.

[@mamakalami]

Thank you for this amazing documentary. I am as feisty as some of these oldies and I pray to God I keep it up throughout my years of life.

[@judya.shroads8245]

These lovely ppl have inspired me to do more in my early retirement frot with some lower disabilities in my legs. Just keep going, getting out and talking to ppl, having GOD and JESUS in my life. GOD BLESS

[@Msviolet65]

Doris is my kind of lady! She tells it how it is. Kitty is so sweet yet very strong willed. And Francis, what a sweetheart. I would be ashamed of my child if they ignored me and allowed me to live in such conditions. Advocate for your elderly! They were just like you at one time in their lives, hopefully better, so they deserve better.

[@blancaw6280]

30:49 No I can't text her because I haven't got a computer. So sad that his daughter didn't even bother to ring him back. 35:24 was pretty heartbreaking too. It must be so devastating for her to be trapped there with folks who are in horrible shape, slumped over in a wheelchair and she is still high function enough to know better.

[@georginacat7667]

Blanca W please consider why she didn't ring him back?? we don't know the situation the man may have been abusive... we can not judge his daughter

[@blancaw6280]

georgina cat You don't stop trying though. We don't give up on our kids and so they shouldn't give up on aging parents. If she doesn't want to do it then she at least can have somebody else who does it for her. I had a relative who was very difficult and could be mean but lived alone well in to her 90's. She was not friendly, she argued with people, she wouldn't ask for help and she didn't tell me when she needed things She just went without because she was too proud or "independent" to ask for help. She was very combative and embarrassing in public. When I would do things or buy things she would get mad, yell and scream and stomp her foot like a child. I didn't give up though. I did things behind the scene and let her believe she was independent. It was a thankless job but I did it anyways. I contacted neighbors and gave them my phone number and asked them to keep an eye on her. I brought food, arranged for senior services, made sure her yard was kept up and tried to get a cleaning service in. It was not easy but I can't imagine just forgetting about her and leaving her to fend for herself.

[@blancaw6280]

georgina cat Well if that were the case then she wouldn't have to worry at all because her father would be well taken care of in prison. There is nothing to indicate that this is the case here. Looks like this daughter is just a lazy, selfish hag.

[@georginacat7667]

Im so sorry that you have not be blessed with the ability to look deeper into something. No it does not mean he would be in prison at all. My father isn't in prison and he beat me.. he doesn't deserve prison he was just a shit dad... but he also does not deserve my support. This man may be innocent and his daughter may well just be a hag as you say but we don't have her side of the story to judge her

[@11redlions]

thing is bible is clear--if you do not forgive you will not be forgiven, and that is scripture, forgive all to begin healing, maybe the daughter is mentally challenged but in any case have the courage to return his call.

[@rachelmurray1228]

What a lovely heartfelt story. Yes, old age will come to us all. Thank you to the Producers and lovely old people for this film.

[@didirobert3657]

I want to hug every one of them. I just love little Doris, bless her heart. She was so funny talking about the foxes. I wish I could adopt all of them as my grannies and grandpa.

[@katerineella274]

Then do so. Or find elderly people in your community that you could visit and help out. That would be lovely for both sides. I know about this.

[@MegaCaprice123]

I like Kitty. Such a gracious lady. She’s not much older than me, but I admire her discipline towards life. She keeps herself well presented and her home is tidy. That must take a lot of effort on her part. I liked Francis and Doris, as well, but I can identify more with Kitty. God Bless them All, wherever they are.

[@markmcknight2467]

I just adore Doris! What a sweet, lovely old bird! I hope to retain my humour, energy and positive outlook exactly like her as I move into my closing years. We should all hope for that! How could anyone treat her negatively? She is trying her best not to depend on anyone and she is doing a remarkable job. Take care of yourself Doris. You have a big fan in Birmingham Alabama United States 🇺🇸!

[@shaunacassidy1127]

Wow! So much to learn from our elders. A very touching film. I was able to hold my tears, but then Francis started to dance. So beautiful.

[@tracysinclair3572]

very beautiful

[@Kyee71]

Wonderful thank you, you can see how important independence and dignity is to everyone.

[@heatherbowlan9822]

thank you for this beautiful , so very inspirering , I so love old people , they can give so much nolage , if people could take the time to listen ,and love them ! Loved this documentary so very much , and will share with my family and friends , thanks again .❤️❤️❤️🙏🏽🇨🇦

[@dlighted1277]

Heather Bowlan "KNOWLEDGE", not "nolage". Work on your spelling.

[@Linda-iw7bk]

Stop being the spelling police, you and all of us know what she means, Shakespear couldn't even spell his own name spelt it 5 or 6 ways! It is God is great longing and desire to show us His true intentions toward us. Even if we cannot imagine how we can be helped, if we are trusting #God, we can have confidence and therefor have peace that He will not forsake us in hour of need. wordpress.com/view/cornerstonemontgomeryblog.wordpress.com CORNERSTONE MONTGOMERY - 7 Year Report More of 9 years of abuse, fraud and mismanagement at lydiagorbik.blogspot.com/

[@LostLakeLass]

Heather Bowlan maybe one of them can teach you to spell knowledge, lol

[@nanabusterd]

Dlighted 1 Maybe work on being a nice person.

[@AnneLien1987]

I've dedicated my life as a nurse to elderly people in their homes. I take care of 20 a day. I love them

[@Jon212Farrand]

I love and feel my heart break at the same time watching this. Also while contemplating my own life at 40 and I’m not far off from theirs!?! Scary!

[@emilytoole1524]

elderly with low pensions must have fuel for free in winter!

[@lesleylofthouse276]

Emilia Ruiz olivas - I agree Emilia !

[@wooddragonable]

Emilia Ruiz olivas yes! this would be a wonderful petition.

[@donaldderp1602]

But, but what about the billionaires and their pockets??? Capitalism will not allow it.

[@didirobert3657]

I totally agree with that! I was surprised that England doesn't care for their elders better than that. I guess they're taking lessons from the US.

[@wcstevens7]

Emilia Ruiz olivas ..They prefer to give money to Asylum Seekers and freeloading ( so called ) Refugees.

[@shainevanbrug8110]

Just watched this today.. especially apt and hard hitting because of recent events. Isolation is difficult in every stage of life. I am in my mid 30's and relate too much to these kind, lonely souls. Also sad because there's a good chance all of them have passed by now. Such is life; but it was a warm, comforting, even inspiring documentary. I enjoyed it.

[@christinad4432]

I love Kitty! her bra and panty collection had me cracking up haha

[@susancorlett9768]

Love Doris and her fighting spirit and all the others as well.Love to them all.❤️

[@daisy8284]

These are all such special people. Good luck to them, and everyone.

[@cuddlesanddaisy]

"You don't belong anywhere." "Do you believe in God?" "When you're on your own He's the only one left."

[@VirgoCatleesi]

😔

[@pattyperkins5007]

Yes amen

[@estherday2239]

I worked as a care assistant for (mostly) old people. there were some who I genuinely loved and it made me so sad how most of them lived such isolated lives

[@metheone4]

Doris is awsome,sharp in her mind and her sense of humor is great. :)

[@breanne3267]

Quarantine has me watching one documentary after another.

[@moonlitedaze5688]

I love Doris!!! All these stories are inspiring in positive ways.

[@Julciaremix100]

amazing one! i think the best one I've seen. It's very touching and it just makes you think. Great one!

[@lecafecountryhouse]

Oh gosh, bless her, Doris. I loved working with the elderly in the UK. All of them. So down to earth and with life stories that should be put in books.

[@TheSully1961]

..i can relate to Frank/Francis going thru personal problems, depression, thoughts of suicide/suicide attempts and isolation. also, Kitty - who went thru a near-death situation due to anxiety caused by neighbors. but i still try to smile and keep a sense of humor like Doris. she also was not going to make it and prefers to live alone. life is short and its not worth it when you try and try to reach out to others but to no avail. that's me.....(and yes Doris, you were a blessing for me today - wherever you are).

[@youreawhitedsepulcher8662]

"You look out the curtain to see if life is still out there."😭💔😭

[@cindyjones8336]

That is so SAD.

[@valerieobrien5521]

People who spend time gawping out from curtains have nothing better to do ! Such people tend to live in a vacuum and often are gossips. There's one in every road. ! What folk need are interesting pursuits. Even if it's just looking up a word every on the Internet !

[@DirkjeA]

I hope if/when I get that old, I will have the same wisdom as Doris has. Such a sweet wise lady with a sense of humour that brightens up every bad day you can have. Someone asked if it was possible to adopt an elderly person, may be a joke, but the idea is really great. I know here in The Netherlands there are organisations that bring ppl together in that kind of way. People without children are matched with single parent families. It is called the grannyproject. The children get a nanna and the elderly woman get some sort of grandchildren, works great both ways.....

[@sarajohnson2928]

DirkjeA That's wonderful! I decided not to have children for many reasons and I was sad despite that that it meant I wouldn't have grandchildren. I would like to have "adopted" grandchildren if I live to be elderly while also helping a single parent. That would be a blessing for everyone.

[@dottievillegas9122]

DirkjeA love that idea.im a full time recluse.

[@michellehitt1976]

DirkjeA 😍😍

[@susiemcd3941]

I raised a large family and when my kids were younger they helped the elderly neighbors. They'd get paid in cookies which tickled them pink. I told them that when I get old, move me in their house, just set me in front of the window and give me tea, I won't be any bother at all. 💖

[@levimacdonald5188]

Kitty sounds so sad when she's talking like shes crying 😔😔❤

[@katrinakenny5910]

Thank you Real Stories..that documentary was both touching and thought provoking and what wonderful 3 individuals ..each one with something profound to say..each one with solid life advice and and funny reactions..I really enjoyed watching this..but wanted so much to reach out and let them know how great they are..true survivors in their own terms..totally admirable ..I felt sad that they did not have family members to care for them..but God has given them each a great character and attitude that demonstrates the human heart and the blessing of hope..

[@consistentlyloyal8163]

This is sad. I wonder where I would end up when I am old. I know elderly who have children and they are abandoned when they are old. It doesn't matter how may children they have.

[@grammyd8361]

I have been abandoned by my family. I have leukemia and diabetes to name a few illnesses and I haven't even been visited or called for 7 years by any of my family. In a way I am glad I am sick. I have a short expiration date and won't have to live in this pit of loneliness much longer. For that, I am blessed.

[@quasimobius]

Seriously, my mom's mom had seven children, all of whom she doted on and they all left her in a nursing home after a stroke. The worst of it was she fully recuperated, but they made her stay until she died...twenty years later. None of them treated her right. She didn't even fight the will when her husband left everything to her sons who went on to all be successful business owners. It's disgusting how they did so well and some didn't even contribute to her care. I'm deeply ashamed of how cold and heartless my mom's family treated their mom.

[@annabelgrace1267]

@@quasimobius That would include your mum too? I am sorry you had to see that or know about that.

[@kathrynb4683]

@@grammyd8361 You're not really alone. Jesus is always with you. My children are close by, but rarely reach out to me. Don't dwell on that. Get what joy you can out of each day. Keep kicking your feet up if only in your mind.

[@jodykurt9935]

I'm on my way to be considered elderly and I have 4 children. I watched and saw the examples of my parents taking care of their parents, so I did the same for my aged parents. Children learn by example so hopefully they will follow suit!

[@MamaToFive]

Doris has the best smile. :D I love helping the elderly...and the funniest thing is that they call me a child. I am almost 50 years old and I find it to be a great compliment to be called that. :) I have so much respect for those older than me. :) Also, that poem about smiling made me smile. I LOVE that!

[@notjustanotherguy739]

So beautiful ❤❤❤ Reminds me of my grandmother who refuses to take help from anyone unless it is absolutely necessary. She's super cute 😄 She still lives at home and will do so until her last day I suppose. Me and my mom do a lot for her and we've got a lovely relationship. ❤ There's something so precious and valuable about caring for your elderly mother or grandmother. You get to know them in some way you didn't before. ❤ And because she used to take care of us when we were small, it feels good to be able to return the favour. ❤

[@PhoenixFires9]

Not just another guy My mom is getting older and she accidentally says things she probably shouldn't. Totally hilarious! Love it! 😂

[@RiverofLife95]

Heartbreaking, made me cry hearing their stories.

[@imcavdb5465]

Frances looks a bit like Robert de Niro. I feel for him. He wants so little and gets less.

[@janinewetzler5037]

Ed, honestly, you're on to something there. Francis struck me as very creepy and not because of his mental illness. He loved, way too much, being handled by the young, YOUNG, home care givers he had in. I believe they go in pairs to see him for safety's sake. He does say he had all the girls after him, and that he was a looker. I get the impression that there are a few sexual assaults in his past that were passed off as just getting a bit overly friendly, right ? He was an engineer, why didn't he keep up with technology and get a computer or engineer his own solutions to his piping problems in the bathroom/kitchen ? His daughter probably has very good reason not to contact him! (that's my impression.) It took me until the care givers went to see him to come to these conclusions. a summation for sure, but I wouldn't count it as being too far off.

[@michaelvasquez9677]

Ed Denoy your a vile human being for saying that

[@JaneFrieman]

Plus when he talks he sounds like Ringo Starr.

[@susiemcd3941]

Ed & Janine you're both sick & twisted in the head. Bad childhoods?

[@sorousse]

@@janinewetzler5037 Sometimes it is wiser to just shut up and keep your weird thoughts to yourself instead of spreading serious allegations against strangers. Why would he not be overly content and friendly to the carers if they are the only people he gets to see every once in a while? I wonder who is the creep here. ^^

[@johnclark3152]

Ever since I wasa boy I've enjoyed listening to elderly people. They appreciate being listened to, and many of them are worth a library full of books.

[@adverse]

Wow! Kitty was absolutely gorgeous in her younger years! She almost looks like Debbie Reynolds. Time is a cruel mistress...

[@blightyA]

So true.She looked gorgeous on her wedding day.What a fool of a husband for being so possesive

[@FrumpyDucks]

tbh her complexion looks really nice then and now

[@sarajohnson2928]

adverse Then decide she's still beautiful and stop being brainwashed about beauty conventions.

[@kaininjathundermmandopoke5167]

Time is the ture emeny

[@adielphilander7742]

This was a really good life lesson for those that want to listen!!!

[@paulwilson2133]

Such beautiful people I would love to hear all the stories they could tell about their life, I worked in a hospice until I got ill and the things the patients told me about their life was fascinating and all those who died I can remember such brave people I hope the people in this documentary have a wonderful old age please think about a neighbour near you who you don't see much, as people are proud just a knock on the door to ask if they need anything, or just to see if they are ok x deb

[@lucyesposito2316]

The documentary was beautiful. I couldn't help crying it was so touching.

[@btakesa]

I am a 73 year old Australian and my Government looks after us very well. They will do everything in their power to keep you in your own home instead of going into a nursing home. I have nursing and carers that visit me 7 days a week and help tend to my needs and meals and it cost nothing. Aged care allows about $140 per day (7 days per week) to pay for nursing and repairs to house. I the have my aged pension of nearly $2000.00 per month to spend how I want. Free doctors and medication plus many reductions on power, gas, rates etc. Pensioners are looked after very well, but no system is perfect, but I am very very grateful that my last years are as good as they are.

[@moriah1394]

This got better and better as it went along.

[@babysinblack8064]

Francis is adorable. And such a Greta quote "everyone should get a rehearsal" in regards to having a longer/second chance at life.

[@0RoseRed]

Such wonderful people. I wish I could hug them and befriend them all. Breaks my heart to see how lovely some people are. 😢