Old Couples Reveal How They Met... Folks Say Its JUST CREEPY

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0:00 How They Met
5:00 Different Eras
13:20 Aba Tells How He Creepily Met His 1st GF

[@wolfmaster781]

Yall using the word creepy very loosely

[@AbaNPreach]

Nowadays thats how its used. Folks get called creepy for way less. Dont make it right but it is todays standards.

[@opinanlosjovenesrd3477]

​@@AbaNPreachSadly 😢. And that can cause so many problems.

[@Edward-hn8ed]

​@@AbaNPreach that sounds like the real problem here.

[@bboyenzoIL]

An ugly guy says “hi” he gets called creepy, the world is using it loosely

[@p0kiipanda]

Pin of… truth?

[@cherryhazard8002]

I feel like a lot of people would consider it "creepy" if it was done by someone they were not attracted to, and romantic if it was done by someone they were attracted to.

[@Tony78432]

That’s how most of society perceives these kinds of things. Makes things really tough for people that not considered conventionally attractive even if they have honest intentions and genuine interest

[@WhoisThatGuy-]

Yea, pretty privilege,i think they spoke about that before too

[@piecebypiece2028]

It's the Dahmer/Dobler theory from How I met your mother.

[@markas101]

100% this. it can be seen as a brave and sweet gesture if they like you but creepy id they don't

[@-DEADHOE]

Mannerism changes it too. Someone randomly coming up to you and trying to get your number aggressively is very different than someone doing it awkwardly. A person's boundaries and experiences is important too, I'd think anybody that just watches you for months and doesn't say anything to you until they "confess" is weird.

[@Lmao10752]

If you think about it, social media is even creepier. You can stalk someone page as many times as you want and they would have no idea

[@zippo5294]

100%

[@oag2167]

Very good point!

[@Black_Jesus3005]

Can’t forget making fake profiles

[@jerometruitt2731]

I did that with my wife. I studied her for months before I made my move 🤣😂🤣🤣😂

[@SeymoreTheDisappointed]

And they do, I've seen these people claim someone not having social media is an ick because they can't stalk them and use any little minor thing in their life as a red flag

[@bleukettu4521]

My grandmother saw my grandfather driving down the street and thought he was cute. She knew his family and asked when he would visit next. When he did visit them she suddenly had to mow the lawn in a crop top and hot pants. He stopped to ask if she needed help. They've been together almost 60 years.

[@kaimobley5324]

Yet women these days have the nerve to say "I don't have to do anything to get a Man's attention". Ayte then, be happy alone

[@l-_-ls]

😂 ❤❤

[@Cantetinza17]

My grandfather was actually interested in my grandmother's older sister, but her older sister saw him as too young, so she introduced my grandmother to him. To add to the hilarity, my grandmother went to the salon to get her hair done for their first date and the lady who did her hair was someone who already went on a date with my grandfather, but he didn't feel a connection, so he ghosted her. When the lady found out that he was taking out my grandmother she tried to mess up her hair, but her boss caught her and her boss finished my grandmother's hair for the date. It's a long azz story, but all I have to say is, "DANG GRANDPA!"

[@Cantetinza17]

@Samhoffery I don't know if she got fired or anything. My grandmother just said that the manager had finished her hair. My grandmother had no idea that the lady went on a date with my grandfather until later.

[@SweetDemoness]

Bless those two that is beautiful 😂❤

[@susiex6669]

As someone who has had stalkers and been followed by weird men in her youth, I dont find either story creepy. If someone is looking at me but doesnt follow me, get in my personal space, endanger me, I dont care. The second guy paid for the meal BUT LEFT IT UP TO THE WOMAN TO CALL HIM, he didnt harrass her. Where is the creep?

[@NaeNae23]

Exactly. Good point.

[@kopykat6843]

Bingo!

[@missfitbrat271]

Exactly. His comment about watching for a few months. It wouldn’t surprise me if he went to the same church and/or just attended that same diner to eat after church himself. He may have watched her for a few months because he has a little crush but also perhaps to see what she was like over time or maybe she wasn’t single. I dated a guy for five years who after we started to date for a few months, he told me that he saw me many months prior and was “studying” me to see what kind of woman I was and if I was even worth his time. He thought I was attractive but we met at the gym. He was curious if I was even single but also wanted to see if I was the type to seek or accept attention from different men because he didn’t want to wonder. After he decided he wanted to approach me, he tried as hard as he could to figure out how to approach me to keep the lines of communication open for the possibility. I rejected people a lot and he saw it. I even rejected him lol very sweet guy that just had some demons he couldn’t get over and we parted ways but I don’t find anything about what he did or said weird or creepy. I appreciated it, actually

[@susiex6669]

@missfitbrat271 Agreed. And we all do it. We all check out a potential mate, ask around if our friends are acquainted, see what they say, this is normal as long as it doesn't cross a line in to actual stalking.

[@shorelinefishing9213]

If It’s creepy to watch a girl for a few months that you’re interested then wtf is instagram

[@theafflictionvhs17]

_Asking Couples especially older couples how they met, usually results in them lighting up with happiness & joy._ _It’s honestly adorable._

[@boysoverflwrs]

right!!!!!

[@AnonAdderlan]

Its also a great way to tell if younger couples are likely to stay together.

[@SpencerLemay]

STOP TYPING IN ITALICS

[@masterchiefiii]

Why?​@@SpencerLemay

[@theafflictionvhs17]

@@SpencerLemay _No…_

[@AlenAbdula]

Going to church and seeing someone you like every Sunday is "watching her for a month" he didn't go to her house and peep. Once he had enough courage, he paid for lunch as a gesture for access. I don't think that's creepy at all and clearly she didn't think so either.

[@zachrohler1047]

I think alot of folks forget that church is usually a single hour a week

[@CoOlKyUbI96]

Plus we don’t know the context. For all we know these two were members at the church for a while already.

[@emma2370]

That is literally how most people met 20 years ago. It is not at all creepy.

[@A_Random_Ghost]

@@zachrohler1047 Damn, how's your service that short?

[@user-ri5ex9xl9e]

@@A_Random_Ghost Lol they must be catholic or something because baptist service is so fucking long.

[@KRodBabay]

I had this converation with friends at a party (Gen Z's) and they were telling me how people back in the day did creepy shit like engineer situations by altering schedules etc. was creepy. At the time I disagreed, but I also see there's another side to this. What I asked my friends was, 'How is going on an app, liking someone and then stalking their social media + Googling pickup lines, not creepy? " Like we're literally trusting strangers on the internet, it could be a bot for all we know. And yes, everyone we meet are once strangers and there's an element of risk there, but there's more layers to hide behind on the internet.

[@honkhonk8009]

In a way its good. You shouldv seen the insanity that was politics back then. They would abuse the living shit out of their positions of power, and pull the wierdest fucking strings. Dude for our generation, accepting $50 gorillion dollar bribes from Lockheed martin is thought to be common, but would be unimaginable to actually do for most people. Were the same folks who get anxiety talking to a cashier. You think were gonna do corrupt shit?

[@jerometruitt2731]

What did they say when you pointed that out?

[@tjknox8936]

If you're stalking period it's creepy......doesn't matter if you saw them on dating apps💀💀 And googling pick up lines is "creepy" simply because someone has 0 game and needs help to make a good impression? Who's trusting strangers on dating apps? If you swipe right and like each other, meet in a public area. And giving you benefit of the doubt, meeting a stranger online is another level of anonymity than in person, you can't see or hear who they are compared to seeing strangers in person, but that's not to say plenty of strangers aren't creepy in person, you just wouldn't know it, even if you can see and hear them

[@Roach9373]

@@tjknox8936no shit its creepy

[@theinvisogirl2520]

I have to say being a millennial and marrying my husband I was more the creepy one then him. I pursued him. I asked him to marry me jokingly for years. And he being old fashioned had to be the one who asked. That day I said of course I’ll marry you you kidding me. he’s the youngest of 2 older sisters and I’m the oldest daughter of 3 younger brothers. And a lot of things we do are related to our upbringing. I’m matter a fact and blunt, while my husband is receptive to the feeling that other people give off in the room. I love my husband very much and I think all you can do is be the best you can with what you have. Gratitude is the secret ingredient to a healthy marriage and it takes two people to make it work if your not giving or receiving gratitude equally are you sure you want that.

[@annimu9081]

People keep calling everything creepy, red flags, icks, yet somehow still keep landing themselves in toxic situationships.

[@KangOfTheNomadicConsortium]

Cause they are desentizing and OVER using the words to the point they can set bars on their toxic situationships any way they want to. It's another way of creating a society that self polices itself so if governments ever want to they can make the laws never questioned because well....it's to protect everyone from the "ick" or "creepy". It's pretty ingenius people now are calling most things disgusting yet doing the disgusting things themselves - sometimes privately, sometimes publicly.

[@isitoveryet9525]

The people who find this “creepy” are terminally online. They can’t even fathom what life away from the internet is like

[@tjlnintendo]

So…. GenZ & young millennials

[@lilaross-cz8zr]

its more like stalking a person and changing a whole tarin route to see a girl you never spoke to, know in the slightest, and who has never seen you, but you just think she looks nice is creepy. once again, he changed the TRAIN LINE that hundreds of people used bc hd was obsessed. thats weird. life away from the internet is not stalking a woman you never spoken to and who has never seen you changing a whole train line that efftcs hundreds of people. are you ill?

[@AndrewB23]

​@@lilaross-cz8zrwe get it bud you're sad and lonely now go away

[@wes7949]

​@lilaross-cz8zr if the intention was to do something wrong, then yes it's creepy. But the man married her and is still with her 30 years later. So, not creepy.

[@fledermaus2433]

Thank you for that comment @isitoveryet9525. That's the point!

[@ameercadeberg4889]

It's only weird or creepy if you persist even after she showed she wasn't interested, or if you doing something immoral/illegal.

[@chillyman7340]

That's the best way to describe it, it's word that is taken out of context far too much these days lol.

[@MusMasi]

@@chillyman7340 Not interested in them equals them being creepy, so 99% of the women I pass in the street everyday are creepy AF.

[@LazarusRising]

No their point is that it’s far easier to classify something as weird or creepy. In the first two examples, even back then the woman once found out that it was odd, BUT was completely oblivious to what’s happening around her. Today because of ppl being conditioned to have more preconceived opinions, they would observe things more and judge more inherently

[@mc-rv5ou]

if an uglier person does it they might view it as creepy its really just perspective...

[@KrazyKat007]

Some girls like the chase though.

[@ZaZa-oo3dw]

I have a “creepy” story. I met the love of my life by being creepy. I saw him one time on a beach, I kept going back hoping to see him go by, didn’t speak to him for ages but every time I went I hoped to see him. Then he got used to seeing me and started saying hi. Time goes by we reach the point where we’re waving at eachother then talking sometimes, then years later he becomes THE LOVE OF MY LIFE. There’s holes/time gaps in this story but all in all, this would be considered “creepy”. I saw someone, I liked them, I went to that specific place with the hope to see them because that’s the only place I had a high chance of seeing them again. I wanted to see them. Social media was rampant so I could’ve looked for him and talk online but I didn’t. Preferred to just see him 🤷🏾‍♀️

[@StillAwesome21]

It is, you could've just walked up and said "Hi" lol.

[@oscarwarren9709]

I think it gets lost on people that most of us are awkward in many ways. Those quirky interactions are common to human nature. There's nothing wrong with that. It's only a problem if it is unwanted advances or the person pursuing another has bad intentions for interacting with someone.

[@eja9539]

These gestures are incredibly romantic because these guys seem earnest, were extremely committed to their love interest and most importantly the interest was reciprocated.

[@lstsxx]

Wasn't creepy at all. He checked her out, liked what he saw. That's how relationships usually start.

[@MamaBearCarter]

Yes! Absolutely not creepy! 💯 As a woman who grew up in the late 80s, and early 90s when the fellas HAD to interact face-to-face, I appreciated the fact that he did "his research". He asked the dudes in my class, "Aye, what's shorty name?!", "Yo, she play the violin?!" (That was an actual question cuz he saw my violin case and asked someone that was close to me) 😂. THEN when he actually approached me with what I thought were assumptions bcuz I didn't know he was researching me, I was impressed and hit him wit tha "How did you know?! 😊" lol

[@Rowley_Birkin_QC]

Yeah, “Game” used to be more than just some slick one liners for a pre arranged online date. It used to require some off the cuff, seize the moment, opportunistic manoeuvres. Proper skills 😂

[@lilaross-cz8zr]

its more like stalking a person and changing a whole tarin route to see a girl you never spoke to, know in the slightest, and who has never seen you, but you just think she looks nice is creepy. no, this is not how relationships start. most start off by to people meeting at a comon area and talking, like church, school, the library, work and feelings start to grow.

[@kioshy117]

@@lilaross-cz8zr i agree but atleast it worked out 😅

[@miguelmarti6815]

​@lilaross-cz8zr I wouldn't count workplace because you can get fired if thebperson doesn't like you. All it takes is someone saying you're creepy. Church yeah maybe, library? Not many people go to libraries anymore...so all you have is online dating and apps.

[@conchobar]

There's a big difference. Gen X'ers and Boomers simply weren't afraid to make large gestures of affection and weren't ridiculed like people are today. This "Fear of cringe or creepiness" is definitely a modern sentiment.

[@SSingh-nr8qz]

I'm a Gen X'er and this is true. You were EXPECTED to make grand gestures. It was a big part of pop culture in movies, TV shows, books, and music. You couldn't get away with that weak stuff you see today. It's called having standards for both men and women. Women made you work, but in return women put in the work as well. The downside is while these grand gestures were great during the dating phase, it was hard to maintain in the marriage phase, and that can lead to marriage problems expecting similar levels of grand gestures all the time.

[@uwotm8634]

Yeah I also think their intentions were generally not malicious and was meant more as a romantic display whereas now you don't know if someone is genuinely interested or just wants to smash.

[@francestaylor9156]

The younger ppl thinking everything like trying hard is cringe is bizarre to me. Like it’s what we grew up with but even worse lol. Like trying to get a girl’s number is cringe to some ppl. Like wtf?! 🤦‍♀️

[@FUEGOSTARR]

@@francestaylor9156u know they’re socially awkward weirdos trying to project their insecurities on others. being authentic is a crime for these insufferable ass people

[@TURBOMIKEIFY]

Back in 2007 (6th grade for me), I got this girl I liked some earrings to let her know I liked her. She was embarrassed and flattered as I asked her during lunch in front of her friends. She said no in public, yes in private.

[@VitaInDC]

@15:00 I really like Preach teaching us the perspective angle in a story, i.e. where a story starts for one character may be different for another character. This is Writing 101 and was a nice reminder of perspective in storytelling.

[@analiseferguson]

Preach is also ignoring the rest of the picture on purpose. Just because the woman didn't know she was being followed by someone doesnt mean that she was not being followed. Thankfully Aba recognizes that the entire story matters.

[@Dandoskyballer]

Go watch the movie Rashomon. Great film.

[@nevfelix]

Facts... I walked passed my girlfriend every day for a whole 2 months smiling and building courage and then only got a way to speak up and talk to her lol it was an embarrassing encounter but thankfully she received the vibes ❤😂

[@d-leb]

It's really sad to see how sterile our society has become to refer to someone taking an interest in someone they have never met before as creepy. Meanwhile, dating apps that allow you to sample different profiles while swiping left or right from what is not much dissimilar to a deli counter kiosk. All while trying to ensure that the meat you select is something that you can afford. If someone described how today's dating is handled to people back in the 1980s-1990s, they would think that our dating culture is creepy.

[@honkhonk8009]

Sterilization of society is the most perfect way to describe it. Your Canadian and you say something mean on the internet? Potential prison time for spreading hate-speech. You want the traits and independence of a REAL HUMAN BEING? Tough luck, shouldv been born 50 years ago where it was harder for NPC minded subhumans to shut you down for deviancy

[@dotunmakun]

I couldn't have articulated this so well! Wow, this comment deserves to be pinned. Today's dating standards are so wildly different and peculiar.

[@sman14GTA]

Yep, they're just jealous and insecure. Whilst previous generations had interesting stories and moments about how they met, how they locked eyes, stories they can tell their kids, grandkids or even script writers for movies or books.... This generation will have to talk about downloading an app, closing ads, dodging malware, and swiping away. Embarrassing & Deserved.

[@mikeoxlong3676]

Based

[@roshidon]

Great comment.

[@carakaiser3141]

I'm on preaches side. I only exist because my grandfather saw my grandmother walking down the road and he said she was the most beautiful woman he'd ever seen in his life. He said he knew if he didn't pull over and talk to her he'd never see her again. She got in his truck and they were together ever since. They got married had kids and stayed together in the house he built until they died. Over 60 years together. And that is not creepy to me.

[@MusMasi]

This ended well, but to all women out there please don't get in his truck.

[@carakaiser3141]

@@MusMasi Times are a lot different today. We have phones and other means of communication.

[@MusMasi]

@@carakaiser3141 yeah but back then they had phones and other ways of communicating, jumping into a random strangers truck was not your only option. It worked out well for her, but Its not behavior I would recommend for someone living back then or today.

[@carakaiser3141]

@@MusMasi No not everyone in 1920 had a phone.

[@Wyomingchief]

​@@MusMasidude we get your point as it applies to Modern society. It wasn't the same time back in 1920 or whenever they were talking about. Let it go now you're just looking desperate to try to make an irrelevant point😂

[@SlootyBooty]

Lol! I was fortunate enough to have had my Great Grandparents, on my mother's side, in my life till the age of 17. Their story on how they met would be considered beyond creepy by most today. My grandfather had first briefly met her at a party. A few weeks later he is driving and he sees her with a bunch of groceries trying to hail a cab. He pulls over and offers her a ride. She says no, but he says "Come'on. It's not like you don't know me! We met at so and so's party!" And convinced my great grandma to get into the car. He then proceeded to drive her out from Brooklyn to Long Island, which was rural farmland back then, and refused to take her home till she agreed to go on a date with him. They were together for 60 years. My great grandma also came with a disabled child from her first marriage. My great grandfather not only immediately accepted my disabled Aunt as his own, but he spent thousands of dollars on surgeries for her, medicines, etc. she had been born with a tumor on her spine and because of it she was crippled. This was the late 1940's, mind you. The culture felt differently about the disabled and usually someone like my Aunt would have been sent off to some long-term care facility and forgotten about. My great grandma's first husband left because my aunt was born this way, so you can get a better perspective on how amazing their love story is. Together for 60 years. Married for 58. And when my great grandma passed away my great grandfather, who had been in better shape than her, just deteriorated rapidly. He would start crying out of nowhere and sob out her name. He passed about 2 years after she did. And towards the end he would say "I want to see Anne and Carol..." A lot. Anne was my Great grandmother's name. Carol was my disabled Aunt who passed away about 7 years prior to either of them.

[@y0shimoshi]

Omg 😢 thank you for sharing

[@Theescapist_87]

OMG that's so freaking sweet.

[@InjimaruX]

Nah that's creepy even by standards of back then 😂, just because it happened to work out doesn't mean it wasn't considered creepy.

[@caleighhraee]

My great aunt Jo passed and my great uncle Jim passed 11 days later. He was in worse shape than her so we weren’t expecting her to pass first. He could only last 11 days without her. 11 has been my lucky number since I was a kid and they were basically my grandparents because my mom’s real parents abandoned her. I miss them so much 🫶🏻

[@caleighhraee]

@@InjimaruXif he was ugly it’s creepy, if he was handsome he’d be considered passionate. It’s not that complicated to understand

[@trendafile6356]

I can't believe Aba thinks he was the creepy one. He was 17 while that lady was 28! Im 30 and these 18 year olds look mad young almost like kids..there is no way she didn't know he was that YOUNG.

[@TheHonestSage]

What's crazy is how different the majority of society thinks differently on that point! Lots of folks that I know say that kids are looking way too mature nowadays in the way they dress, act, and react.

[@patrickarraes4422]

Am from Brazil, I meet this girl and we hooked up a couple of times. I my graduation ceremony was going to happen in NYC, I told her I would pay all expenses to go with me and my mother to NYC. Very creepy and wierd for a guy you just started hooking up. She took the risk, 8 years later I able to run again and play tennis, thanks to my new kidneys (joking we are happyly married).

[@theredheadwiththread1275]

I hope she appreciates your humor! lol

[@codesjoker]

😂

[@remyphilly5168]

Lmaoooo i was like bro got the Spanish fly serum 😂😂

[@Thunderbird_306]

Had me in the first half😂

[@patrickarraes4422]

@@theredheadwiththread1275 yeah she does 😀, sometimes I say the most funniest things out of the blue and she laughs a lot. Still dont know if she is really into me though...

[@notme1255]

Clearly the husband in the second couple knows her sense of humor and that's what makes a marriage fun no matter how long you've been together. (And neither of those ways are creepy IMO)

[@reinekaelamakemedokidoki7206]

it's creepy to have eyes for someone for a long time and covertly find a way to approach them?, as opposed to today where you stalk all their social medias, lurk their pictures and find out everything about them before deciding to go for it. yeah, they're the creepy ones.

[@incarnate1]

I think these older couples met in less creepy ways than young people meet today. The standard way people meet today is judging people like stock cattle, not human beings with a personality, and stalking them on social media. These older guys had what we might call courage. Preach had a great, mature take here. Creepy is entirely subjective, we all come from different backgrounds and cultures, and hold different perspectives. In Japan, women over 25 quickly begin to become undesireable as they age. The West may see that as creepy, but without digging into the nuance, that is normal there. It is only the egocentric West that consistently believes, "No, my perspective on things is better than yours", while at the same time having a large faction of the population think it's okay for people to switch genders and get involved in wars thousands of miles away from the country on the taxpayer's dime.

[@jgb8038]

My wife and I met first day of university, waiting for Orientation. My wife was home schooled and had no friends. I was a loner and going through a very one sided relationship. My wife then saw me sitting on a flight of stairs, walked up the stairs and sat down behind me a few stairs up. For the next hour or so, she stared at me, supposedly trying to muster the courage to talk to me. After breaking the awkward silence I took her for a walk whilst we waited, spoke about the coarse we were going to study together, and about cats of all things. We didn't really speak to one another for a year before I ended my prior relationship. Seeking a friend and someone to talk to we started talking again, hanging out, enjoying each others company. We did projects together and studied together. She became my best friend. We married 7 years later and recently had our first child. I'll never forget the day she stared at me for an hour, it was so creepy, and whatever spell she casted, it worked.

[@conchobar]

A ton of scenarios defined as "Creepy" is just the time someone takes to muster the courage to approach someone.

[@AspienWaifu]

That absolutely would have been me, I still get caught staring at my husband from across the room like a cat 😂 This is really adorable, I love reading all the “meet cute” stories on here but yours might be one of the cutest (albeit awkward lol) ❤

[@jgb8038]

@@conchobar couldn't agree more. However my wife likes to be creepy for the sake of being creepy, and I love it. It makes us laugh.

[@jgb8038]

@@AspienWaifu I've got plenty of stories of my wife being adorably creepy and cute. Another is we were going on a field trip to a Buddhist temple for our course, and she wanted to sit next to me. We weren't dating just yet but we were very close. Listening to each other's music, watching anime or listening to the same podcasts. So another girl, one of her friends tried to sit by me before she could, but she kinda jumped into the seat and started barking. It caught all of us off guard. There are a few much weirder things she's done, but those are memories for me.

[@VenusianLissette]

“it was so creepy-whatever spell she casted-it worked” im sorry this is hilariousssss lmfao (thanks for sharing)

[@BeBetterFit]

This story definitely wasn't creepy. He didn't follow her home. He noticed a pretty woman on his route, and it seemed like he was working up the courage to talk to her. This is cute. Lol

[@Farhan_049]

What do you suggest guys to do today which will not be creepy? When approaching women with romantic intentions, obviously.

[@RmX.]

Would it be romantic if I stare at you at the gym the whole time to work up the courage?

[@skiterzzz4474]

@@Farhan_049literally the same thing if a girl says ur creepy she’s not into u 😂 but any way u look at it trying to get w anyone is a lil creepy and sus to an extent

[@bigzino]

He mighta followed her one time on da low

[@MusMasi]

@@skiterzzz4474 So most people are *creepy* because most people have sexual and romantic feelings and desires, I guess we should all be celibate now so no one is *creepy*

[@erinjakeman5116]

Creepy is when the guy follows you home and stalks you. Creepy is when he refuses to accept no for an answer. Creepy is also a vibe that some people give off.... the kind that years later you are reading about how they killed people.

[@King_Of_Games]

7:02 I think preach is spitting right now. Most ways people meet is gonna be creepy. Even today is just basically stalking a profile and then if they stalk you back it’s two stalkers meeting each other. The hoops, these people will jump through is a reflection of what they were capable of doing. Like the guy moving the train station it’s not that different from a guy at the movie theater opening up another lane to sell the pretty girl popcorn just for her it’s just what they’re capable of doing within the realm

[@blahzayevibez]

Man literally controlled transportation to find his lady 🤣

[@Ex4lted_]

Crazy work 😂

[@TheFatalcrest]

😂 listen....the romance had his hand pressing those buttons. I like that story😊

[@pog8744]

SERIOUSLY THAT MADE ME SWOON. SO CUTEEE

[@m.2891]

I mean the effort!! Women love this shit.

[@Noperare]

That is straight up some romance movie stuff. The only thing missing is he telling how much he loves her and everyone on the train clapping while playing the intro of "Don't Stop Believin' - journey"

[@Devils-advocate78]

None of these stories r creepy. I think it’s much more creepy to pick a potential partner from an app like it’s some kind of catalogue

[@emma2370]

Exactly. Dating apps are creepy. It’s weird to act like meeting someone at church is creepy when modern dating is awful.

[@DaxterDV]

Lmao, delusional.

[@thatboymeak]

@@emma2370they’re just as creepy as each other, which is not creepy at all. You’re just projecting, that’s all.

[@hubert1223]

Lol because it is a catalog. You hit the nail right on the head.😂

[@jerryharambe5176]

@@emma2370 dating apps aren't creepy, creepy people on them are creepy!

[@1980tiffani]

I watch these little shorts and love them… I love the fact that there are real people in marriages or relationships and they actually like each other. They showcase young couples, nontraditional couples, old couples… it’s very refreshing. Instead of focusing on social media and reality show relationships.. folks today are creepy for thinking it’s normal to sit at home and swipe left or right or have a relationship where you don’t see each other or touch or go OUTSIDE!!! I’m all for old school ways of meeting people.. I don’t ever want to have to date in these times.. I think I would stay single .

[@KangOfTheNomadicConsortium]

Or that relationship where they look at their phones at a restaurant with something on t.v. like a sports game for a team they both like and then leaving the restaurant while both looking at their phones.

[@mattcaston9546]

Appreciate y'all giving us full commentary episodes, hoping y'all boys get a deal on a network

[@ChickVicious237]

I think it's cute, people in those days had a much better grasp of body language and non-verbal signals which allowed interactions to flow more organically, if that makes sense. I think "creepy" was certainly a thing but people generally had a way of navigating situations, and each other, in a more productive way.

[@Ex4lted_]

Very true

[@flameshoter6]

People still have that sense . Some just think they can have cake and eat it too. Everywhere you go now, you'll get canceled just glancing. I will never have a chance in hell meeting someone.

[@kingrobotnik6950]

@@flameshoter6where do you live? If you move, you’ll more than likely find someone. I’ve had my time with western women. Exhausting. I’m ready to taste that cherry blossom if you know what I mean 😏

[@oldgrandpamos3341]

​@@kingrobotnik6950 What does that mean?

[@suppertimesims]

Ted bundy would like to introduce himself

[@dfpguitar]

Before social media , fixating, semi stalking and staring over a few months was the equivalent of following someone on IG. How else were you supposed to know what someone was upto and who they were before introducing yourself. The internet has also made people see potential partners as transitory disposable products, things to dip into to fulfill a need if they are absolutely perfect and then move on when that partner is not serving you any more. Most dating age people today seem so alienated from the idea of picking and investing in a long term partner, accepting their flaws and needs and developing an attachment for better or worse.

[@justacoginthefkery]

Nailed it with this comment. I call online dating a combo of window shopping & speed dating. I was having a conversation with a guy where he likened it to ordering items from Amazon. Sadly true, but what bothered me was that he couldn't see the inherent issues with likening humans to a freaking lamp you order online. Ppl no longer treat echother as fellow humans. Just things on a screen to be used, discarded & replaced.

[@MusMasi]

@@justacoginthefkery I am off social media, i only have email, and youtube, linkdin. But this girl who started talkng to me on the bus, she asked for my socials, I said I didn't have any but I would take her number lol. She was so shocked, but I got her number.

[@dudeorduuude5211]

Yes, I see no difference with what the older generations did. People stalk others social media. When I was online dating, I ruled many out because of that practice, as their profile didn't match reality, or I found they had profound mental issues as they would post about it, that you may not pickup until a little while in, as people are on their best behaviour.

[@JELIFISH19]

The internet didn't do that. People did that way before the internet. The only difference is who can treat the opposite sex like that. There have always been men and women who go on a lot of dates and have a lot of sex. But those people were extreme extroverts and very charismatic to meet a lot of potential partners. But now you don't need those things. The apps do a lot of work for you so the average people has access to more potential partners.

[@theinvisogirl2520]

I feel like people aren’t going out to bars anymore and that’s where I met my husband. I walked into that bar determined to meet someone new and I saw my husband sitting alone nursing a pint. Looking depressed we connected on a level that I can’t explain like from the beginning we got each other on a level that no one can compare to. And the biggest thing that’s held us together is a shared goal and gratitude for everything both of us equally.

[@lianoid918]

The chemistry and ability to actually listen to each other and converse/debate with respect is always so refreshing. Such a great team.

[@ambereyes7998]

Approaching a woman will be labeled creepy if the woman doesn’t find you attractive, and that’s really all there is to it. And I’m talking about normal approaches.

[@pennyproud1621]

Creepy- a person showing romantic interest after being told that it is not reciprocated. A person seeing what they like and going after it is strength. It takes a strong person to do that.

[@Allanchan-nel]

While your comment is correct, in practice, a first and only expression of interest is often considered creepy if they don't feel the same way.

[@munky342]

​@@Allanchan-nelit's considered creepy if you're not part of the less than 2% of men that she wants. Ftfy.

[@Reofenja]

The creepy man is happily married, while the 'normal' people are alone with a gun in their mouth, calling them creepy.

[@francestaylor9156]

lol that got hella dark haha

[@chillyman7340]

@@francestaylor9156 The gun in the mouth part got me 😂😂

[@gyorgyor7765]

100% right, you look at the rates of single men and women now a days and compare ut to these successful "creepy" couples and it becomes clear that the younger generations conception of creepiness is a disaster. It cripples men's ability to make the magic happen and most straight women don't want to.

[@MusMasi]

🤣

[@flamingrage100]

lol damn

[@yootoob1001001]

Gen X-er here (hence a long comment, ha). I think part of it was over time how interest in someone started being portrayed. If we talked to our parents or grandparents, in a lot of cases it was considered romantic to go overboard both as a one-off or for someone up to being persistent that they liked someone and wouldn't give up because they believed that you were The One. It seemed like it was considered impressive at best or at worst annoying. If someone liked you and you didn't like them back, it was normal-ish and no one thought much of it. Not that crazy things didn't happen, but it wasn't mentioned much, and someone going out of their way to win you was considered sentimental and passionate. Think about it---a ton of fairy tales, romance novels, romantic films, novels, etc., were based on ideas like this. But then later, we had a ton of crazy horror movies, stalker films (e.g. - Fatal Attraction), and over time the more someone would show non-mutual interest people would freak out and worry about being stalked (or pretend they were worried---some people seemed to like people falling all over themselves, but that's another conversation). Nowadays, it sounds like people are afraid to make momentary eye-contact in public lest they be deemed a lecherous monster waiting to strike or a would-be murderer. Even among my age group, it makes it strange because people generally don't approach each other in public or other shared spaces much even being polite or friendly. It went from someone is just extremely friendly to now I wonder what their angle is. The world is a weird place.

[@ditta7865]

It was also different with communities. Back then I actually asked my Nana about this. If women in the community felt unsafe and the males of the community were very protective, they could go to certain men who would harm people and I'm not talking Mafia stuff. The communities were very tight knit and men would go and threaten as a group another man if he was being scary to a woman and also men were a little bit more polite back then as far as my nana tells me. Yeah there were some creepy situations where they'd come up to you but they still had to have manners and if she said no and she meant it not playing and smiling at him or giving him a chance later. If she said no like three times it meant no and usually then she'd get her friends to also tell him to go away and if he didn't listen then it would be family. Sometimes if you paid or you knew someone in the police force they would rough that guy up just a little bit if he was getting stalky.

[@honkhonk8009]

Always thought it was wierd when old politicians would talk about "communities". I would always think to myself "what communities?" Half the people in our country could drop dead in their rooms, and their bodies would be found by the tax man after a few months of "disappearing". Im not bullshitting either, because this is literally a common occurrence lol.

[@ditta7865]

@@honkhonk8009 Yes, I believe you but I'm talking back in my Nana's day. Communities knew everything they were tight knit. Hardly people moved in and out. There were tons of community events where you were expected to come along or participate unless you had a good reason not to. Most of the time you were born with the same people that you grew up to be adults with. The only reason my Nana left her small town was because of the world war II. Every village has a cop. Where are the police now and if the cops didn't do their jobs, the people in the town did and they were known to do that now from after world war II. You can also find this by reading statistics. Slowly community started to fracture. They were still quite secure but by basically the '80s and the '90s. That's when everything started going downhill like a landslide.

[@cleanmikeandtheboys3165]

These might be creepy by "today's" standards but I can also see how stuff like online dating would look dystopian to some people too. I put "today" in quotes because standards vary with location as well as time.

[@JustChayse]

Very well put bro I agree entirely

[@ronswanson1410]

Agree. I think people used to be more forgiving w each other and these days anyone who takes the slightest chance at showing affection is risking cancellation.

[@somebody700]

Modern people in dating criticizing old people is hilarious for me as a young (ish) man in 2024. People can't stay in a relationship for more than a couple of years, and even those who get married can't stay married for more than 8 and they all have something to say about an old couple that easily did what they can't do. If you know so much about relationships why can't you hold one?

[@LOLANIMELOLANIME]

Kinda wish I was dating 30 years ago….

[@generalwillwelsh7926]

Its not creepy. If you go outside this is how life is. Ive approached women its not a big deal. Its the internet blowing things out of proportions

[@robertsmith9741]

A huge aspect of being perceived as creepy is not knowing when to let shit go. If the train guy did what he did and approached her and she didn't reciprocate interest and he kept doing it, that's creepy. But if he stopped, it wouldn't be viewed as creepy. When people say a guy is creepy, he keeps wanting to talk to me, what they normally mean is the person can't notice that I'm not interested. As long as you know when to stop, you'll never be seen as creepy.

[@ayeyuh6920]

I half-agree, but talk to a lot of older couples and you'll notice that a lot of times, the guy *did* keep trying. It happened with my grandparents as well. My grandmother said no like 4 times before agreeing to go on a date. They're still together. I don't think repetition is entirely the problem, it's how you forceful you are about it.

[@SSingh-nr8qz]

@@ayeyuh6920 Yup, that was the standard back in the day even up to the 90's. A guy had to earn the date. A girl just giving is up on the first ask seems needy and low quality. The higher class women required you to win them over. Some guys may whine about this today, but there are benefits of this, namely you are forced as a man to really up your social game and understand the opposite sex better. Women had to up their game as well.

[@deeznuts-je6dd]

Ohhhhhh he half agree

[@deeznuts-je6dd]

By today standards btw

[@StillAwesome21]

Back then, you were expected to keep going. You were seen as a "coward", if you let one "no" deter you. It's very easy to say the bs you did, but times were different back then. It only now that women actually mean "stop" when they say "no" and even then some women still don't mean it. 😂

[@herroyalsquirrelness8167]

My hubby met me when I worked at a fast food restaurant. He went through the drive thru to visit his cousin who worked with me. He talked a little with me through the window. When he left, his cousin shook his head, and told me I was dumb.. that his cousin had been trying to start something up with me that whole convo.. and I didn't even notice it was anything more than being friendly. Months went by. I was good friends with his cousin and another acquaintance, but would only ever really cross paths online when we'd comment on friend's posts. He's always start jesting with me on there. Until I finally added him on my friends. A conversation about going together to get christmas shopping we both needed to get down out of town turned into a date. Been together ever since. Months later I found out that every single conversation he had with his cousin and that acquaintance after he first met me, for those months I never saw him, he'd ask about me, and if I was there. If I was, he'd tell them to tell me he loves me.

[@TheGabbia]

These things are called romantics and aren't creepy at all, even if you don't like the person. The creepyness start when you tell the other person that you're uninterested and he/she continues with the same behavior. That's the difference.

[@GregXHunterz]

I would agree with this.

[@gattzflappa6306]

4:16, they clearly went to the same church, and he saw her there and took interest. There is nothing weird about that. The way he said it sounds like he was creeping but listen to the context and it makes perfect sense.

[@myklo4269]

And he said he gained the courage to go talk to her at the dinner. A lot of people (mostly women) don't understand the thought process a man goes through while courting. Doubts, regrets, what to say, what not to say, etc.

[@stellastarbrightk7563]

Plus it’s obviously an inside couple joke

[@CoOlKyUbI96]

I might be assuming from my part, but it’s also possible that they were both members of that church for a while. So it probably wasn’t even a situation of him being new to the church and then randomly checking out that one person with their family?

[@gattzflappa6306]

​@@CoOlKyUbI96 That's what I was saying as well. He probably saw her once or twice a week at church, and worked up the courage to make his move. He did her whole family a favor and put the ball in her court by leaving his number. That's about as genteel as you get.

[@sethkarma2072]

One of my boys in H.S drew up this like school floorplan, noted down all the classes of this chick he liked and "optimized" his routes between classes so he could run into her as much as possible. We used to clown on him ode over it. They're married now, at some point he told her he did that she thinks it's adorable we still joke on him for being a stalker. So I can see both of your perspectives on it, it was a weird thing to do but it's not like there was any ill will behind it. If your making somebody uncomfortable and you continue I think that's where it becomes a problem.

[@ThePugs-xv6zs]

Totally agree… it’s the last sentence that makes things creepy.

[@jerometruitt2731]

In business he'd be a genius for doing that..

[@BigG627]

@@ThePugs-xv6zsI agree, I’m in H.S, 18, had a girl I liked in freshman year and would notice I’d run into when going certain routes, so I’d go those routes so we’d talk more. Know a lot of girls who do the same to guys too.

[@starlarose2216]

That was before cell phones. You actually had to make an effort to talk to somebody hence you could create those "coincidental" romantic meetings. My husband saw me twice and when I got transferred to his area cuz we work at the same place he went to the supervisor personally and told him to keep me cuz as he told me "we need a pretty girl to get the guys working" and oh boy lol it took me a while for me to notice him like that but he came to help me all the time. And now we're married with 5 kids 😊

[@StillAwesome21]

If you're ugly then this is stalking, just don't be ugly doing things like these and you're good.

[@ThawtsForFood]

The amount of logical arguments being made in this episode was insane. Love this channel fr

[@mycuprunnethoverr]

This was a good topic, great video, social media has really hindered organic relationships between human beings 🤔🤔🤔

[@senderoverland]

I think this is one of the issues of today, people arent allowed to make mistakes and be forgiven. Men dont want to approach women because maybe they are misreading a sign or a look and they will get labeled as a creep instead of someone who just made an honest mistake. A lot of men today probably think its not even worth the risk of being labeled a creep for approaching the wrong person. Its kind of sad to think about but it makes sense to me. Kinda goes to the saying “the difference between being a creep and being romantic is how attractive you are”

[@lucianoben-malek693]

Completely agree! There's definitely a consensus among today's society that if you do anything at all in the dating world or trying to get to know a girl that could be construed as even slightly wrong then you'll likely be labelled a creep and made to feel like you shouldn't even try. I think that's one of the reasons dating has become such a minefield that young men don't want to wade through anymore. I (speaking as a man) can safely say we can be very clumsy and impulsive when it comes to dating, but that DOES NOT make us creeps, it makes us human and we make mistakes, especially when you're a teenager or very young adult. It's also pretty crazy that girls will call men creepy for the littlest things in real life, only to go on social media and post themselves basically naked for the world to see and not see the disparity!

[@TinyChubbyBuddies]

I whole heartedly agree. I remember I had a little disagreement on Facebook years ago because a female friend was openly complaining that a slightly older man approached her at the grocery store. She said no and he moved on. But nooooo he's a creep and some kind of Villan. But all I heard was a man showing his interest and getting rejected, then moving on with his life. He didn't follower home, he didn't touch her etc. Just because your a little uncomfortable, doesn't mean that they did anything wrong.

[@CeasiusC]

Very true

[@tsujigiri7]

One thing that's overlooked is how much being creeped on has become a status symbol for some women, to the point that they will intentionally contrive situations or go out of their way to interpret situations to be creepy. Remember all the girls at gyms recently who were claiming they were being creeped on anytime someone glanced over?

[@zachrohler1047]

While also being half naked with a ring light and camera lmao

[@headkicked]

Yeah, they play up that they hate it when they actually loooove it. That type of girl will go out of her way to get creeped on and then act like she hates it, only to go somewhere else to get creeped on again. And the cycle continues. I would bet money that some of those girls are into ugly bastards too, but they act so disgusted because that's part of the fantasy for them.

[@SoloAdvocate]

@@zachrohler1047 Right doing "dip squats" in front of a suspiciously placed camera angle...

[@bethanynorman1829]

Lol. I have a friend who would literally say "no" to a man, before he could even finish a sentence. I took her out for her bachelorette. She's beautiful. She had a little birdcage veil on that I got her, and a simple button that said "bride to be". A guy in line at a club literally just said, "hey congrats!" As we walked by, and before she could hear him finish his second word, she said "No!" I was like....."calm down, girl. He was just congratulating you."

[@nochso6835]

​@@bethanynorman1829 Good luck to her husband!

[@RobCooper-Bachatador]

Creepy is how someone feels, not how someone acts. There are actions that are likely to be creepy to a majority and still are not creepy to 100% of people.

[@WORTH-IT-MAN]

0:36 yeah it’s how you get people to like you we love talking about ourselves

[@Pensive_Scarlet]

I really agree about the reciprocity, and I want to add that being conventionally attractive always makes a huge difference in any situation like that. It's the old idea of "the guy/girl you think is attractive has a crush on you, but the guy/girl you think is unattractive is a stalker". That's a lesson a lot of us learned in high school, and it's a mentality a lot of people never grew out of once they left high school. Add to that stuff like the more recent trend of people thinking it's no longer socially acceptable to approach someone unless you're in a club or on a dating site, and it gets easier to see why tensions are getting so unbearable these days. In mainstream society, nobody wants to give you a chance unless they're already into you.

[@teniaosayande6355]

You know, that's a really good observation. Never thought of it like that. I'm a little older, plus raised in Southern hospitality mode 😅But this makes me understand what some of my younger family say.

[@treewithwings4527]

Wonderfully put. And how are they supposed to already* be into you if they have never met you? Everything with dating nowadays is so counter intuitive to what the base line end goal is supposed* to be.

[@minutesnippet]

As a younger man who talks to guys my age 100% we already knew this observation because we live it. Count yourself lucky You don't have to live in my dumbfuck generation of narcissists. Critically thinking and common sense so uncommon especially with the idea women my age have and the lack of empathy they hsve for man. Feminism has never been more toxic or hypocritical and plain stupid and narcissistic. They want traditional men without paying traditional and also want their cake and eat it too.

[@justacoginthefkery]

​@@treewithwings4527this! The old ways ppl took more time feeling things out, crushes built (or faded) & then came the anxiety-ridden moment of someone making a move. Online dating & social media removed the human element of experiencing feelings & turned dating into shallow window shopping of "give me what I want from you right now."

[@Dtoons53]

Also I implore anyone to watch old clips of the things women found “attractive” in men. It was realistic and attainable modern women’s standards of what “conventionally attractive man” is today is much higher then what it was 60 to 100 years ago. What’s considered average today was cream of the crop back then. The level of effort men had to put in just to get a date was a fraction of what guys have to jump through today. That’s why 63.5 percent of men are single while only 34 percent of women are single. Whether many women want to accept it or not they’d rather share a small pool of men before they lower their unrealistic standards. It’s also why so many women think men are cheating left and right because they are sharing a small percentage of men who have a ton of options and are doing a lot of the cheating lol. Edit: for example my dad is MUCH older then me old enough to be my great grandfather and if you ask him the kinds of things he did to get dates it was very simplistic things that you see kindergartners do for a crush today 😂

[@p0kiipanda]

This has the same energy as people who say that ‘Baby It’s Cold Outside’ is about sexual harassment or is creepy… even though the original song is done by a married couple. I get that standards have changed in regards to social norms and how men and women might approach each other, but to call how old couples that are still *happily together* CREEPY is so wild to me.

[@avivastudios2311]

Standards haven't changed at all, I'd love to be approached by a nice guy. I'm 19 btw. Meeting someone out there would be sweet.

[@enderlionheart4497]

@@avivastudios2311 While that may be the case for you, and you may even be the majority, men have been basically screamed at for years to not approach women. Anywhere. Ever. For any reason whatsoever. Much more vocal women have been saying not to approach them. And there has been little to no rebuttal. So how are men to know that women want that, when all we're hearing is to not approach and hearing nothing to the contrary?

[@impposter560]

And it was (to my understanding) a joke at the time. "Say, whats in this drink?" and the punchline was usually the equivalent of "Nothing". Just think of how horrified people fifty years from now are going to feel about our songs because they won't have any understanding of the societal context 😅

[@ayeyuh6920]

To be fair, reading those lyrics out, it does sound creepy as hell lol

[@skiterzzz4474]

@@ayeyuh6920would u want ur girl to potentially freeze to death in a snow storm??

[@nellybarrett7]

I just adore both of those paintings! Or drawings behind them whoever the artist amazing job ❤

[@user-go1px9kt1v]

5:18 whats creepy, he had his eyes on her for a while first before approaching her in a respectful manner!? He was being a man, a gentleman.

[@nooneofimportantconsequenc5031]

I think both couple's stories are so cute and romantic. Social media and dating apps killed romantic gestures.

[@ThePugs-xv6zs]

Agreed. For train guy, if he had done it twice, approached her, and she rejected him, but he continued to do the train thing… that would be creepy to me. But how the story played out did not concern me.

[@kdrizzle9671]

@@ThePugs-xv6zsexactly it was a beautiful story tbh

[@mrblackbond]

Correction: modern women have killed kind gestures.

[@nooneofimportantconsequenc5031]

@@mrblackbond sadly, you're not wrong

[@nooneofimportantconsequenc5031]

@@ThePugs-xv6zs completely agree

[@just4universe219]

Wanting to see someone you find visually appealing = creepy... Not having the courage to immediately speak to someone you just happen to see on their routine = creepy... Asking someone out but being rejected = creepy... So basically having any interest in a person that you don't know is called creepy nowadays. People really lack empathy man. Ofc these taken to an extreme is creepy, but that's why we call them extremes and not what is otherwise harmlessness behavior

[@honkhonk8009]

They dont give a shit about you, yet expect you to pay your taxes and fund their welfare.

[@Wwattz]

Which is funny, because people marry total strangers more than ever. It seems like much older couples all knew alot of the same people before they officially met. So you have people that you know that can give you a reliable idea of who that person was b4 you met.

[@technicaldeathmetalhead]

​@@Wwattz exactly. Usually, your parents and family vetted your potential partners. Your father helped weed out guys with bad intentions, and your mother sussed out crazy women. Nowadays, we tend to trust algorithms on dating apps or just go straight for strangers. It's like boxing without a corner. Without your mother, father and some spiritual/religious base in your corner it's no wonder people are getting knocked out.

[@janinebelleestrada7096]

Then assholes be complaining why they are regretting not having a lifetime partner and post it on reddit and then ending the whole thing with dying alone and blah blah. Biatch I got my bf because I can't take my eyes off him. He was the most beautiful man I've ever seen. Been tailgating him for literal months trying to approach him and give him my letter until one day he himself followed me because he noticed I was following him and when he tapped my shoulder I instinctively looked for the letter inside my bag and gave it to him. Oh boy he laughed his ass off for about a few minutes. I was like 14 back then and he was 12 and I only did that because I saw an anime doing confessions through letters and stalking your crush. Either way we tried dating and it went really well. Though at first we were treating each other as friends as we were both young and that he was too young as well. We formally dated when he turned 20. Whenever I looked at his face he never fails to amuse and mesmerize me. We are already 34 and I always have that routine of looking his face before he wakes up. It always compels me to kiss his cute forehead😂😂😂 not only that I really love his demeanor of staring into the trees or the sky and he closes his eyes and feels the breeze. That's why I chose to get a home by the hill surrounded by trees on a plateaued village. Also better because he is work from home in auditing but it does take away like 16 hours of his everyday life.

[@mochagypsymagick]

@@technicaldeathmetalheadGreat analogy!

[@karlwilliams8625]

Everyone in the comments saying its not creepy but using dating app is being normalised. Just approaching women in real life these days is considered creepy to a lot.

[@limazulu6192]

It's creepy and has always been so for all of time because it's unexpected and unsolicited. Some guys make it work anyway because they know how to put you at ease but generally speaking it's startling at best and hella annoying and scary at worst for women. And it's made worse because too many guys don't know how to approach and don't know how to take a rejection. If you wanna meet women in real life without it being unexpected or unsolicited there's no shortage of options. - School - University - Work (i don't care what anyone says, best place ever) - Any club focused on pursuing a hobby. - A Club (Worst option) - A bar - Parties - Speed-dates - Smoking areas. - Social work. - Raves - Festivals - Concerts Or any place the woman approaches you first. For some reason I've gotten plenty of dates at a Train station and inside trains from random women who approached me first. Rule of thumb if you can expect social interaction from strangers it's a good place to approach. If not, leave them alone.

[@SweetDemoness]

​@@limazulu6192It depends on the person for me, i like being approached by men if i can gleam from first glance they mean no harm, even if im not interested, i still really appreciate it and say thank you for the compliment, some women will turn their nose up like they just whiffed a big fat shit and its really discouraging, like if they are Polite and respect the rejection, its not creepy at all, how could any person expect to make connections if just saying hi and starting a convo is seen as creepy?

[@limazulu6192]

@@SweetDemoness like i said there's nothing wrong with men approaching. The key is it can't be unexpected and rarely works out if its unsolicited.

[@saraharias2022]

Hearing those stories reminds me of the old romcoms I have been watching lately. Especially train guy. Think about “You’ve Got Mail”, “While You Were Sleeping.”, “Sleepless in Seattle” , “10 things I hate about You”. In real life or life today in 2020’s, we could not allow it. Makes great movies. I enjoy the conversation Aba and Preach brought up.😅

[@KangOfTheNomadicConsortium]

All those movies mentioned were brought to life at the birth of the internets RISE. However, the kicker is that those were the downfall of the "who will I meet today in my WALK or DRIVE out in the world?" which to be honest. Was the interesting part a lot of people felt about life, wander, and mystery in partaking in social settings. How did Steve Jobs meet Wozniak? An excerpt from Wikipedia(and stated many times over the years) "Jobs and Wozniak became friends when Jobs worked for the summer at HP, where Wozniak, too, was employed, working on a mainframe computer. We first met in 1971 during my college years, while he was in high school. A friend said, 'you should meet Steve Jobs because he likes electronics, and he also plays pranks" A computer was mentioned but they met OFFLINE by chance through a friend. Not an app. Now you hold an IPHONE in your hand to communicate with a billion people on the planet.

[@dreamoutloud2629]

Showing up at someones house in the middle of the night and throwing rocks at a window is technically creepy... But it's also romantic. Mostly anything romantic is vulnerable and vulnerability is uncomfortable and creepy. Being in love is cringe and creepy...but it's also great and romantic and endearing at the same time.

[@MusMasi]

Throwing rocks is Romantic? So broken widows and Injury is Romantic? I am just poking fun at you. I think you meant small pebbles not *rocks*.

[@mmoogl3547]

@@MusMasi ???

[@znjnjz33]

How is being in love creepy..i dont think you guys know what the word means

[@satorrotas93]

Well said.

[@ElectricShinn]

Very well said 👍👍

[@kofiwrld]

Everything is creepy now because we assume the worst of all men

[@semir9112]

Underrated comment.

[@k.w.1459]

As a Gen x woman, I agree with this comment. It’s annoying. I sympathize with you.

[@MusMasi]

You Exist so therefore you are creepy.

[@JankyToe]

There it is.

[@HFFCANADA]

​@@JankyToesomeone actually said it

[@katiefountain2407]

Also consider that until pretty recently the woman was not supposed to make the moves. It wasn't socially acceptable. A girl's reputation was everything, and you wouldn't risk messing it up.. So guys naturally needed to be a little bolder. Because initially everything was up to them..

[@mamamalet]

Times are different for sure. For my mum, being followed when she was younger was how it was. Apparently my dad used to camp out of my grandfather’s house just to catch her outside. They’ve been married for 33 years now. I’m 31, lived until 19 in my country back in Africa and my experience was the same. Being followed because the guy wants to talk to you is common. When I say follow, I’m not saying, he’ll be in his car following yours. I’m saying in the street, daylight, normal life setting! That’s common and we didn’t take it as creepy!! A lot of people married that way and still are. I’m in Canada now, and I know if I haven’t met my Bf from university, I would’ve been lost cause society make it hard for people to approach and talk to each other unless you’re in a bar or online. To me that’s sad. Again only my opinion. You can have yours and that’s fine too. 😊

[@leylahg1108]

That's really interesting to hear. Did you all feel unsafe during any of the times you've been followed? Cuz i think thats my only concern when being followed in the street as a girl. I live in America by the way. I think if i knew they 100% were trying to start a peaceful conversation i would be fine with it like you are.

[@mamamalet]

@@leylahg1108 not at all unsafe. It’s just normal. And it is mostly during the day so we don’t feel unsafe cause we know it’s just to talk! They ain’t doing anything wrong. If you don’t want to talk, that’s fine. But no one get really rude about it. It was so strange to me coming to Canada to study and being like Huh🤔, that harassment here?? And I was part of a project w/ my university, filming videos to explain to first years africain guys, who just immigrated for study, that here, that’s not how you do things. Here, if you try to talk and she says no, that’s it. Just leave it. That’s why I get that things are different depending on where you live and it’s fascinating to me.

[@chuusenberg519]

Come on that doesn’t sound good either 😂

[@mamamalet]

@@chuusenberg519 again, cultures are different. I respect other culture but because someone doesn’t understand yours, doesn’t mean it is bad.

[@tidianesimpson]

Not creepy. I agree with Preach. Creepy cannot be subjective and objective at the same time. There has to be a standard. Creepy is defined as “causing an unpleasant feeling of fear or unease”. None of these stories would do that normally because these are harmless stories. That’s why it’s about context and intent. If pursuing a woman meant you had to be invasive it would make it normal not creepy. Even the word Pursue is a creepy word but we use it all the time. What preach was saying is that there’s your story her story and “the” story. “The” story is out side of your and her perspective. It’s the outsider looking in. That’s the objectivity. But your individual stories are subjective.

[@MrSeanman30]

Moving trains for a stranger is insane, no matter how you look at it. The lady even said so herself. You don't think the music video "YO Excuse me miss" ain't creepy? Dude saw her from inside a store and followed her around town lmao😂

[@TooDamnTall]

These stories would all fit the definition of creepy based on the experience of the woman being crept on. As men we don't see these stories as creepy because we probably wouldn't fear a woman doing these things, but a woman that has had multiple stalkers and or been sexually assaulted may justifiably feel uneasy or scared of the men in any of these stories. The creepy talk especially now is super subjective.

[@amaragrace94]

You just proved it's subjective by definition. 😂 Feelings are subjective. They vary based on person and circumstance.

[@MrSeanman30]

@@TooDamnTall someone altering your mode of transportation without your knowing and approval is dangerous and creepy regardless of feelings.

[@TheThirdMuskateer]

Exactly, some people are adamant that the guys were being creepy and others believe the opposite. Both perspectives are equally valid because creepy is a statement of perspective and opinion, not an assertion of the "objective" truth.

[@TheSaintedOne]

My wife and I met at a concert where I was headlining. Then we ran into each other at a music store where she was buying my album. I've ALWAYS felt like I was the creep taking advantage of a fan. She feels like she was creepy for fangirling her way into a relationship with me. Okay, babe. We're both creeps.

[@nottomclancy2439]

That's a very interesting observation.

[@chriscanavanii9064]

Lol headlining

[@gr33dl0cknein3]

Is not creepy, you're just mutually attracted to each other.

[@AwesomeBRINKS]

Wild, a video that was pretty much about things being levels of creepy, and the Law and Order music wasnt played once lmao. Even during Aba's story

[@SaintRubicon]

Any outside observer isnt more objective than the perspectives of the 2 people involved. Stacy, the friend of the bride, thinking the story of how the bride and groom met is creepy, isnt more objective than the other friend, Brad, the friend of the groom, saying there was nothing creepy about how they met; Neither is more objective than the other, as the interpretation of the events is wholly subjective from both friends. Ive also found that outside observers often always get things twisted; Two people meeting in the street are going to act almost chaotically from an outsiders perspective (and thats even assuming the outsiders were there in the moment, and not being recited a story), because the outside perspective cant take into account everything both parties are taking into account; Everything from mood, recent events, or even hopes and dreams cannot be observed by outsiders and those plays into human behavior a bunch. Outside observers are always going to have a different perspective than the individuals involved, and I would argue that their observations can be less objective than the parties involved, especially when we take into consideration that they often weren't even there, or even how irrelevant even having an outside perspective even is! Who cares if you think how two people met is creepy? What are you going to do about that? if anything! The only people's who opinions matters in this case is going to be the parties involved, and everyone elses opinion might aswell be noise. Its irrelevant, unobjective static that suits no purpose 99.9% of the time when talking about how 2 people met.

[@dieseltyme]

Sliding in the DMs even with a simple "hello" sounds a thousand times creepier than walking up and saying "hi."

[@katiefountain2407]

Agreed.

[@randomcomment6068]

Same. People don't even notice how our interactions are socially engineered and ignore the patterns.

[@xxamyyyox]

Nowadays guys dont say hello or hi

[@mikeoxlong3676]

​@@xxamyyyox because we're tired of being called creeps. Juice ain't worth the squeeze.

[@puffpasslogic729]

THANK YOU. Social media is waaaaay creepier. They literally creep on you in private silence then send you an unsolicited message.

[@Alassandros]

The claim of calling a guy "creepy" is like calling a girl a "slut" is an interesting observation. I don't think it holds up 1 to 1, but it certainly has some parallels.

[@laylah150]

I'm just glad men do the approaching 😂😂

[@vipr1142]

@@laylah150 Hopefully they stop soon

[@Ac3Badger]

@@vipr1142bruh what 💀 then babies are going to stop being made

[@JeromeProductions]

its real true tho if a girl calls me a creep i feel like shit

[@WhiteSage2]

​@@vipr1142You sound like a lonely miserable person who wants others to be the same

[@helloleesh]

What Aba is describing How I Met Your Mother coined “The Dobler-Dahmer Effect”: “Ted explains his theory that a romantic advance could be "Dobler or Dahmer"; an act is only charming if the recipient finds it charming, making it "Dobler" (a reference to Lloyd Dobler in Say Anything...), but if the recipient is creeped out by it, it is "Dahmer" (a reference to American serial killer and sex offender Jeffrey Dahmer).”

[@xx7n5v7xx]

Both are correct I think. The truth lay within the context, not aways accessible to the outsider (via time, distance, language, etc.). I think this all boils down to an issue in communication. "Creepy" = Unwanted, basically. Actually creepy is an issue, whatever condition it stems from, mental or behavioral, and such a thing can be "objectively" recognized from distinctly separate vantages. Like one can usually tell when a person or situation is 'off' somehow. Whether it be something say, or do, to how they act around others, tells abound. The basis for this discomfort I reckon is, while entirely rooted in circumstance (as in the characteristics with which one is imbued, from birth, grown and morphed through ones lived experience) lies in social skill fundamentally, ie awareness. To the degree that one is aware, they can then rightly judge "creepiness". One is not creepy just because another or they themselves said so. One can certainly view another or themselves as such, rightly or wrongly. THAT MEANS: One can be creepy unintentionally, or one can presume their creepiness when actually it isn't apparent; and that one could also be intentionally creepy, or not presume their creepiness when it is apparent. This boils down to intent. Basically, the first side makes their intent known.. (or vague?!..complications..) The second side perceives/recognizes the intent.. (or dense?! compications..) The best thing to ease this is natural conversation. At this point comes either acceptance or refusal. If you like them , yes; and if not, then no. Or complication. If one pursues after refusal, the odd of creepiness incline significantly unless either the situation dictates such or measures are taken to allay such concerns This is getting tricky. But this is where A&P are distinct: Aba says anyone can discern creepy Preach says its up to the party involved I say, Aba is not wrong, but Preach is closer to the truth

[@lukehardman3003]

You guys are tripping, these gestures are romantic not creepy

[@conchobar]

Exactly. Romantic gestures don't require a reciprocation of fondness.

[@robertsmith9741]

Exactly, it only would've been creepy if she didn't reciprocate and he kept doing it. Otherwise it's a confident man going after what he wants.

[@emem2863]

Yes. The only thing creepy about Aba's story is the age difference, especially if he were in high school.

[@declaracionespolemicas]

​@@robertsmith9741 That is how I'd define "creepy", if the person said "No, I'm not interested" and yet you kept being persistent, not accepting "no" for an answer.

[@pennyproud1621]

I agree.

[@waRr3nxx]

I feel these gestures are only considered 'creepy' if you don't find that person attractive. Two people doing the same exact thing would be romantic or creepy depending on how you view them. Another thing is in our current time, social media has completely removed the organic meet from society. Running into someone and talking in person is a lost skill for the younger generations.

[@The_Legend_Himself]

Bingo

[@honkhonk8009]

Speak for yourself lmfao. I just walk up to mfs iv never seen before, and talk to them like were long lost friends. The secret is that nowadays, its considered so fucking goofy and weird, that most people will be fine with exclusively cus of its goofiness. I dont do the same with women tho cus I'm ugly asf.

[@vernon772]

I am happy this was like a debate/discussion with you two. I am HEAVILY on Preach side with thise but i do get Aba's point. Sometimes you have to creep a bit/do something uncomfortable to get the result you want

[@danareesullivan3126]

Agree more with preach , it’s all based on perspective and the times we’re living in, social media and dating apps have ruined how people usually meet

[@omostim2385]

My dad who wasn’t in college and in his late twenties would drive around LSU campus IN A VAN(with the Goodtimes tv show mural painted all over it) and met my mom. Creepy as hell. They were married for 40+ years until he died. We still miss him. A lot of us are gonna end up alone trying not to be creepy or thinking others are

[@honkhonk8009]

My dad would take classes just for the girls. I remember reading some WW2 book, and hearing the mf describe "chasing girls" as if that's a normal thing any boy would do. Which i mean, i cant hate. Different time.

[@omostim2385]

@@honkhonk8009 Definitely can’t hate it. It worked in the end. I’ve heard old couples being interviewed and the woman says things like “I couldn’t stand him but he was persistent”. Not that I would do it, but is it really that bad to chase?

[@adanna007]

This commentary is just disappointing. I’m not even old so when did chasing girls become so taboo? Smh where we’re headed these days is unfortunate.

[@dmonk926]

Most if not ALL of our male forebears would be considered super predators by today's. standards lol. We are headed into harem nation territory.

[@crappyaccount]

1. what the fuck 2. hello fellow louisianian

[@dmwanderer9454]

Its like how back in the day, "just walk in and ask for a resume/interview." That used to be normal and standard, but today? You get weird looks because its all online. Women today think being approached IN PUBLIC is creepy and inappropriate.

[@onemorescout]

It’s only creepy if you aren’t a 10

[@donaldthompson7766]

​@@onemorescoutstop watching redpill shit.

[@onemorescout]

@@donaldthompson7766 Redpill isn’t wrong about that, they’re just wrong about literally anything else. The key isn’t to act even worse around women or try to master online dating, the key is to either stop caring and live your life or get off Tinder and improve yourself until girls are the ones recording you in the gym.

[@dmwanderer9454]

@@donaldthompson7766 A&P literally said the same thing in their video. "It's only creepy if it isn't received well" The only way for someone to judge you on a first-meet basis is by appearance. If you dress homeless, people will treat you like that. If you look ugly, people will treat you like that. (Please try and argue this point, you can't or won't) It's only creepy if it's not received well, and "sub 10" or ugly people are usually received poorly.

[@torachan23]

​@@donaldthompson7766 instead of assuming things about him, why don't you refute what he said by explaining why it's not true

[@TheNitroG1]

The problem is that we have exaggerated, odd behavior, or any sort of awkwardness into the realm of either charming or creepy. Then raised the stakes to their highest point in history. If you are going to show interest in a girl you have to consider the very real possibility it could cost you your job. There used to be a spectrum between sending a girl a "secret admirer" letter and sending her a dead cat because you thought she may want to make some fur gloves and she likes cats. Now if your attractive you are group A if you aren't you are group B. With very few exceptions. It's not that there hasn't always been some form of this standard its that the lines for acceptable have been pushed to the extremes and consequences that could follow you for the rest of your life. Here is today's equivalent for what he did. Imagine you start noticing you keep getting the same Uber driver multiple times a week. Way more than any other driver and there have been times you waited up to 20 minutes for that driver to show up. Then they ask you out one day, you accept. They pick you up (obviously). You have a good date, then find out they have been rigging the app so that you get them if they aren't currently on a fare, and they tend to stay in the area around your work hoping to pick you up...

[@Secretname807]

I'm a 45 year old Gen Xer and I used to be fucking terrified of talking to women. I probably was a bit creepy because I'd see a woman I was interested in, but I'd be too scared to say anything. Usually this was at a bar and it would take me quite a number of drinks to work up the courage to talk to a woman. Often by then, I was too hammered really make very good conversation and I'd miss out. Somehow in my late 20s I met the woman who would be my wife in my late 20s. We were complete sober and at the same conference - we actually met because our hotel rooms were next to each other. She was checking in and I had my door open waiting for my roommate. Somehow it just seemed to click. I guess the toughest part for her was after the conference was over, I asked if she wanted to meet up with my friends and I in the city for some drinks. We got into a cab together and we dated for 3 years, married almost 15 now. If I were single now, I don't know what I'd do.

[@MasonSanchez.]

Yep, correct! Social media has made all of these ways to meet someone and ask someone out “CREEPY”.

[@khalilismail666]

And the marriage rates reflect that, too

[@cherryhazard8002]

Nice to hear stories from couples that met when they were a bit more mature like 30s, 40s or 50s...shows everyone you can always find someone.

[@jayr.7209]

Keep telling yourself that.

[@josezeroninja]

@@jayr.7209damn. Someone still single.

[@cherryhazard8002]

​@@jayr.7209Yeah, you're right. I should ignore my grandfather who dated a woman his age, I should ignore the family friends that met each other on their 30s and 40s and got married, I should ignore the fact a lot of people prefer to date within their age range...yeah, you're very correct.

[@chronometa]

@@cherryhazard8002this response was hilarious

[@ChrisDaAce27]

Just because it worked for some doesn't mean anything, majority won't ever get that lol @@cherryhazard8002

[@justvibe9613]

Tbh this is not anything unusual, my parents met in a similar way. I think Preach was spot on, because of social media cut out a lot of the work to meet others people didn’t have a choice but to do unusal things 😂😂😂

[@chanellovvesyou]

I agree with Aba about whether or not something comes off as creepy is whther the woman is also i terested in him. I think it applies then and now. A guy watching you for a few months to build up the courage to ask you out if you like him is obviously flattering and attractive but if you're not interested at all then it's not surprising that finding out you've been watched for a few months by someone you would've rejected had they walked up to you initially makes the woman feel uncomfortable. I think what ends up being translated as creepy in atories is of the woman does reject the man and he co tinues to be persistent is wut ends up painting all guys with the beush of if he's persistent he's creepy.

[@rockyrox4591]

I don’t think it’s creepy at all. I think it’s so special to have a story to share that begins with the man springing feelings just by seeing this “one woman” and feels something special about her. Consider just HOW many women the train engineer saw on a daily basis in NYC, imagining something so special about *HER* to fix the trains just to be able to connect with her. Or how many different women this man at the restaurant interacted with daily, but saw her having family dinner after church every sunday and made the decision to pay the whole family bill. I definitely think it’s sweet. I’ve luckily married before all the dating apps came to be, I met my husband in college. And I realized he changed where he parked to be where I parked, and I changed my walk on campus to go where I would know he would be in the gym. It’s better than a story swiping right on a ton of people and we was both free that night. Ugh. Nope.

[@nellie15]

The way I met my current boyfriend can definitely be considered creepy because the man went after what he wanted, asked for my number and only waited 2 hours before calling me, and asked me to go on a date the very next day 😂😂😂. He was a man with a plan, and that was over 2 years ago.

[@MusMasi]

He was upfront with no stupid games, OMG how Terrible!! Honestly I think some people just enjoy the games and the *chase* way way too much. So they can do some RL days of our lives stuff for their entertainment and to boost their ego.

[@user-tj2bz4bd7g]

Made me proper smile 🤷🏾‍♂️ Life is to short to miss out Wish you both the best

[@SirePuns]

Dude wasn’t playing no games, he had a gameplan and he stuck with it. Tbqh I gotta respect that, nowadays it feels like being direct just doesn’t work or rarely works so can’t help but feel like dancing around the topic is the strat (which is why I respect your man’s strategy).

[@Thunderbird_306]

You forgot that the creepy would've stuck a lot more if he was unattractive😂

[@nameunavailable-gp3ot]

Asking for number n calling soon as sounds absolutely normal to me xd? Do people wait days ?

[@LatinaSoldier15]

Back then: i saw your grandmother from across the street, she was so beautiful i approached her and striked a conversation. We've been together since. Our generation in the future: i saw your grandma's IG and i thought she was fly as i was looking at her photos, so i slid into her DMs and we hit it off. Different times, different approaches. Nothing wrong with it tbh. You should hear how me and my now husband met 😂😂😂 i wouldve been seen as a weirdo

[@knowledge5106_]

#Salute well said 7:45 yeah there are some approaches that can be "creepy" and it's even more supported if the receiver doesn't like or isn't attracted to the one approaching.

[@archetypervb]

My great aunt and uncle met in a way that would be considered creepy today. He worked as a phone operator. So he would connect calls between people. One time he caught my aunt's voice and was immediately attracted to her. Just her voice. So he would listen in on the conversations just to hear her. One day he heard her speak about how she is raising her daughters all by herself. He decided she shouldn't have to do that. He introduced himself, and they had an amazing marriage and he became the father those girls needed.

[@luna_soleil]

Preach is right like I'm a woman and it always bothered me how loosely women throw the word "creepy" around - no the difference is whether or not you're attracted to them and sometimes some dudes are just trying to be nice and get awkward it's fine. If I get a compliment I just say thank you with a smile like, they didn't have to take the time to say something nice to me. And you know what? That's usually the end of the exchange nothing happens and it's fine. Now there's some dudes afraid to say anything to a woman because we've had such poor reactions to absolutely nothing.

[@GregXHunterz]

Interesting

[@chuusenberg519]

It’s not loosely. Objectively speaking it’s weird until the end justifies the means…

[@xxxmelissatacionxxx]

I'm a woman and I second this 🙋🏽‍♀️ same thing with women complaining about men hitting on them

[@StillAwesome21]

Well, very few seem to speak which has gotten us to this point. But I 100% believe looks play a roll in this and it has never been different. 🤷🏾‍♂️

[@gripghost6068]

Preach was snapping in this video🔥🔥 😂😂😂😂

[@ogdreamgirl]

I love seeing everyone share their love stories thank you everyone :)

[@OtakuTalkOD]

I was talking to my girlfriend about this. Which by the way took me so long to get because I was so terrified of what is appropriate nowadays when it comes to trying to ask someone out when you're attracted to them. You approach them with pressure you're a creep or sex minded, you approach them friendly you get friendzoned and guilt tripped about complaining about friend zone because "oh my God you can't be nice to a woman without wanting to sleep with her." I told my girl I think it's kind of fucked up that back in the day and old couples nowadays met each other by being randomly approached, or that their significant other initially wasn't into them but they had to wear them down or put consistent effort. But in our current culture if you do that it's considered harassment. Now I know on the internet people like to take things in bad faith and are going to misconstrue or pervert my overall point. But my Point overall is things are either creepy or romantic depending on how they work out or are received. And yes unfortunately appearances factor into this.

[@gwendolenyoung4198]

I'm going to stop you right there with the friend zone thing. You're not getting treated like a friend because you were friendly with her. You're being treated like a friend because that's how she sees you. she is not attracted to you and the truth is you put her in the f*** Zone is what's actually happening. How insulting to pretend to be the friend of a woman that you really want to f*** instead of just being honest with her so that she doesn't find in the future that she just lost a friend that she is just discovering sheet didn't have in the first place because your f**** zoned her

[@OtakuTalkOD]

@@gwendolenyoung4198 what is missing the point for 500 Alex? I even made your asininely trite point already in the quotes.

[@WYIT0]

​@@gwendolenyoung4198 No guy in his right mind is approaching a women he's never met because he's just out looking to make new friends. Don't insult women's intelligence, they know exactly what that scenario means. I'd even argue they know exactly when a guy has romantic interest in them vs platonic.

[@jormungandr4690]

@@gwendolenyoung4198 Not more insulting than a woman stringing along 20 dudes so she always has a fallback.

[@drink.juice.]

So guys dont have female friends? Fk off

[@ghoulbby]

Idgaf if you just say hi, plenty of girls will perceive you as being "creepy" if they don't find you attractive. And if they're into you then it becomes a fun story to tell after you're a couple. I don't think it's a male vs female thing because men are the same way. Just one of those things that isn't really fair but it is what it is.

[@kingg3259]

I honestly love and value you guys @aba @preach. You’d think you guys are brothers in real life. You remind me of my brother when we hang out minded you we are both in our mid 20s so we got time to grow up and mature more but Thankyou guys for being consistent throughout the years please stay cool with each other.

[@elyssehinrichs5354]

Preach!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!! Is your flannel from Dixxon?? My man and I wear dixxon as well! You're the only other person I've seen besides people I see in the advertisements. Wow thats so cool.

[@Vindifox]

My significant other came down to the pool hall I was working at every night, to hang out, before he got the courage to approach me. Yes reciprocation is big after the initial interaction but even if I had said no, and he still came down, I wouldn't have seen it as creepy. Had I said no and he became loud and unnecessary or mean about the rejection, then that's creepy. You cant get a feel for someone over social media like you can IRL and in public. To me its creepier to meet someone from online, who most likely lied about everything. I refuse to meet any of my online friends because you get a persona of them and one meeting can destroy the friendship.

[@s0ne01]

Yeah, people online are who you think they are, not who you know they are. People some.

[@LOUDMOUTHTYRONE]

The words "racism" and "Nazi" have lost all their meaning just like the word "creepy".

[@Maelstromme]

All words are misused, it doesn’t mean they lost their meaning. It just means that many uses have become frivolous, but the original meaning still applies if used properly. Sometimes, the backlash to overuse of a word can cause it to be dismissed even when it is finally used appropriately.

[@natinatyoutube]

​@@UncleTom854-bm5lv Don't blame your awkwardness and desperation on american girls or any woman. Everybody likes a "nice and sweet" person, except when the sweetness actually comes from desperation and a dire need to get with a woman. We can smell that from a thousand miles away and we don't like it, that's why you got rejected a lot.

[@LazarusRising]

Not at all. And if you feel that way, you’re part of the problem

[@mingus445_gaming]

@@UncleTom854-bm5lv "this handsome nice successful man is off the market" buddy your yt name is uncle tom 💀 shut yo lame ahh up

[@mingus445_gaming]

@@LazarusRising irony ...

[@sawtooth6679]

wont speak for how others are handling it these days but the amount of times i saw a girl stuck out in public and i stopped the urge to compliment something about her outfit, hair etc because i felt like it'd be creepy to say so because i ask myself at that point how often people are just trying to mind their business and not deal with strangers in their life with that said i def understand what aba been saying in this video