One Month Away - Social Media UPDATE!

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Since quitting Instagram and Facebook around a month ago, there have been some significant feelings running through me every day. I tried to keep this one short and sweet for you guys, but there are a lot of topics to touch on!
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[@oliviadavis1200]

I really appreciate this...was feeling the same. ❤❤much love from California☺

[@chingg7639]

This is my first vlog of yours that i have seen and this content hit home in a lot of ways.. Its incredible how these things happen. But at least you have a lot of people even online, because when you have neither,, well ya. Its painful how lonely times can get. I look forward to watching more of your vlogs though, silver lining.

[@esmeraldaa4536]

I found it interesting to go without social media. I actually deleted all my social media for all of last October. I deleted Facebook, Instagram, and Snapchat for an entire month. Of course I checked my email daily because I get emails from my bank/school and whatnot. And ohh boy. You basically covered everything I felt during that month. I felt very excluded from many social events and I even questioned whether or not the friendships I had were actually friendships. There were very few people that reached out to me. Probably four or five of them actually reached out to me through text message and when I did bump into some people that I had as friends on social media, I don't think they even realized I wasn't on there anymore. It was quite a lonely month. However, I did also got some clarity and some actual PEACE of mind. I feel like I was more aware of my surroundings and was actually more grateful for the things around me. It was quite liberating to not have to be looking down every couple minutes at my phone just to be scrolling down. I did also find it invasive that all these platforms kept emailing me about people and things that were on my social media. I didn't realize how much they want you to keep using their platforms even though not even half the people on there don't know that you have even left.

[@tania52644]

I quit Facebook for a while because I found myself getting into political debates/arguments ( I live in the U.S. so I'm sure you can guess why ) ... I found it was really messing with my mental health. So I deleted the most negative people and just quit for months. I needed the break ... I felt so much better. Now I go on occasionally and make sure not to read the comments sections of certain posts I know might get to me. Also ... I was getting a lot of reminders/messages from Instagram and Facebook trying to get me to log in. Almost on the daily.

[@anicesunset2022]

This is such an important topic and I'm really happy you did this experiment ❤️

[@Livingdeadgirll]

Thank you my darling! It blows my MIND how much substance i found giving it a try. Ive learned so much.

[@jocelynPMA]

Nice to see you! :-) I enjoy your channel as always! My comment specifically relates to the punk/HC scene (that’s the scene I grew up in) and social media. It was so interesting when you said that no one flyers anymore, I hadn’t thought of that but it makes sense! I loved seeing show fliers, that’s mainly how I found out about shows before I knew people and found out thru word-of-mouth. I really haven’t been in the scene at all since the emergence of social media, but I remember around 1996 there was a few message boards that kids started hanging out on (literally, a few!) Victory Records had a message board and I hung out there and I suppose it was like social media....but a lot of us became pen pals and sent each other CD’s and Zines and random stuff we made. I think it’s interesting now how any music is available at your fingertips, when before it was more of a social thing to go to the record stores, get together w friends to borrow music, make mix tapes, etc. ok I am just being an old lady now :-) but I really appreciate your sentiments and authenticity . Of course I remember that the “older” scene kids talked about how much better the scene was “back in the day” so it stands to reason we would too :-)

[@Livingdeadgirll]

This comment was such a pure JOY to read! I can absolutely SEE what you mean. It has evolved SO much in such a short few years, its been a wiiiild ride being the generation that both remembers a time with out technology but also lives in a time where it is now relied on SO heavily. I had brought up the flyering thing to a couple friends last night because i almost missed a really great show had it not been for my friends notifying me! He said that he had noticed the change and remembers the days of walking up and down the streets handing out bills asking people to come to shows. Another friend chimed in saying that he has had many of his show posters RIPPED DOWN by a jerk in town who believes he should be paid a dollar a poster, otherwise he will take them down. These billboards are for everyone, so i dont know where he gets off thinking hes owed anything for any of them. Its so weird. The Scene is a wild one!

[@zencat55]

So weird. I grew up without facebook, instagram, internet, and cell phones. I will never give up my cell phone or internet. The rest of it I can do without. My friends and family get a bit impatient because I don't check my phone every 5 minutes but they've learned to live with it. I absolutely feel less cut off and lonely because of the internet. The whole world is at your feet and you can identify with so many people through it. I am an introvert and was quite lonely as a child but the internet gives me a sense of connection. Facebook is a great way to keep up with my long distance friendships and that helps too. I will say things were more relaxed back in the day, though. All these things create stress for sure Good video. I must thank the internet for giving me the opportunity to enjoy your vids.

[@nataliedelgado1875]

It’s been one week since I been on Instagram and today I logged back in. I ended up permanently deleting it. I’m glad I finally got rid of the addiction. I don’t have Facebook or twitter either 🤗

[@Morrgue_]

When I decided not to use Facebook a lot of people didn’t notice. But when they did notice it was like they didn’t care. Now none of my family tells me when something is going on, when someone is sick or going through something. It’s like their only form of communication was through Facebook and now that I wasn’t there they couldn’t bother to fill me in separately. My mother in law actually deleted me from her friends because I wasn’t using Facebook as much. That kind of hurt my feelings because it was one of the only ways I found out anything about my brothers and sisters in law and now her profile is private to me. It’s just really shocking to me how much people rely on social media and how much it means to them. Just like you said, it feels really lonely without it because no one reaches out to me even though they have my number or other ways to contact me.

[@Livingdeadgirll]

megan.morgue I had a bad feeling when Facebook got more personal, when it shifted from quick updates to “stuff we usually only talk to with our close friends.” When I started only being notified of friends and families passings & wedding engagements through status’ instead of texts I had a feeling it would become heavily relied on. Dang, no one even remembers birthdays anymore, I took mine off of my Facebook page one year and it shattered me. My immediate family were the only ones to reach out to me that day, everyone else needs the daily reminder. It’s almost sickening what it’s done to us, in such a short time. I’m sorry to hear that simply using the site less caused a close relative to delete you. That’s heartless.. :( it’s amazing how Many people feel the same way too.

[@vilkenstrutzutzutz]

I was just thinking about this, because it is my birthday. If it wasn't for Facebook, we all know I would have gotten like two texts maximum. It's pretty sad. I want birthday cards like in the old days :)

[@LightAndShapes]

Social media is a weird one for me. I don't really have "real life friends" I talk to people at uni and I talk to people at work but like nobody would go out of their way to keep up a conversation or hang out with me when it doesn't relate to work or uni. So I kind of turn to the online world for social interaction, and whilst I've made some awesome friends and feel connected into so many communities I can't just pop down the road and physically hang out which brings me this HUGE sense of loneliness, and social media both amplifies and soothes this. Its amplified when I see people hanging out and doing cool shit that I'm scared to do alone or it soothes it when I'm involved in an awesome conversation with actual strangers. 🤷🏻‍♀️ I don't know! I've deleted the Facebook app but kept messenger and I rarely go on Instagram now and if I don I force myself to sign in on browser, and I can't tell if it helps or hinders, sometimes I go on and feel uplifted and sometimes I go on and feel so alone...

[@Livingdeadgirll]

Completely understandable! Its a double edged sword, have to take the bad with the good, otherwise it wouldnt feel half as good!

[@emilys2355]

I got rid of my social media about seven or eight months ago and honestly I can’t believe how much less stress and anger I feel in my life. I originally left because I realized how few people I followed that I actually knew and gave a shit about. It was just a bunch of people on my city that “knew” me because they follow me and see pictures of my daughter and husband and whatnot. I just became so annoyed by the fact that EVERYONE knew my business, and for what? Those people didn’t actually care about my life or what was going on.

[@Livingdeadgirll]

Emily Fisher so true!!! They wouldn’t reach out to you to make plans! Ten years ago if you told someone you were “following a cute girl” everyone would be alarmed! Now it’s the cultural norm!

[@emeraldh80]

About people not calling / texting... Last year I was sick enough that I had to drop out of high school for a semester and be homeschooled. I had a decent friend group at the time, but still no one even texted me once (For context: You Tube is the only social media I have). I felt so alone because I used to talk to these people everyday at school, but suddenly there was no contact. I could have been to the ER and they wouldn't have known. They knew I had health problems. The funny thing is that whenever I would run into a friend out and about or wherever, they said that everyone missed me and that "we talk about you all the time", or that " I've thought about texting you, but I forgot." So I guess my point is that I know how you feel.

[@Livingdeadgirll]

Emerald H I feel having KZbin as your only social media is healthy, you chose whose content you get to devour. You know who is a more positive and negative light, who edits things to look comfortable and inspiring, so you know who is worth your time. The other social media’s you consume everyone’s thoughts, regardless if you really like them or their opinions. You’re doing it right! I’m so so so sorry to hear that’s the way that they treated you, it’s amazing in this INCREDIBLY easy world we live in now, it’s HARDER to stay connected. Truly connected. It’s so superficial, it’s amazing. & also breaks the heart when you realize.

[@emeraldh80]

Livingdeadgirll I just wanted to say that I'm really happy that you've come back to your channel, you have a great mixture of entertaining and important topics. Btw- have you heard of Songkick? It's a website, it might have an app, that you can track bands on. Idk if it will have every band you listen to, but it does have less-known artists in the system. It will email you if there's a gig that you may be interested in coming up as well.

[@Livingdeadgirll]

Thats SO neat! I have NOT heard of that! Thanks so much for passing along that info, ill have to check it out!

[@znyznyzny]

yeah it feels good...I always get bored eventually though and am like, "well maybe it'll be ok and people will be fine this time." Not always true lol I wish I could quit for good but also I can only communicate with some good friends through FB Messenger so it sucks

[@AishlingONeill]

It’s so weird the control these social platform have on us. Especially Facebook. Cos like you and your mother, my family send me so many things and it’s the main way we communicate! I could definitely delete the app and maybe just use messenger but it’s such a hard thing to do! I really think you’ve done so well! And omg the advertising. It gets to me so much. I unfollowed and unsubscribed from so many pages and emails for products and already feel so much better even tho I still get those random promoted ones which by the way are scary and very accurate to what you’re thinking about 🤨

[@Livingdeadgirll]

Aishling O'Neill I really hate how accurate those ads have become! You don’t even need to say it out loud anymore! It’s like the newer phones get a chip in them that can leech off your skin and into your brain! Hahahaha far fetched but, who knows!!!

[@LePezzy66]

It's so weird and interesting that you find yourself so lonely. It's how people used to live for a really long time. I'm so glad you did this, and I think I will try it too. And I kinda want you to know, I do think of you from time to time. You have always been a really important person to me, eventhough we probably will never meet irl. Aand, have you read Ready Player One? It kinda discribes a future like you said, but it focusses on the videogame side. And I wanted to say, I think people in the future will still embrace the past. Just like now "hipsters" and "hippie"-like people will still exist. There will still be monuments and museums I think. But we'll have to see I guess. But I'm just as curious to see how we will then look back at this time era, with all the emojis and hashtags.

[@Livingdeadgirll]

LePezzy66 everything being shortened to acronyms really worries me! Languages are so beautiful and now we see people typing so LAZY! it’s wild to me! I really hate that people’s vocabulary are going down the drain and when you call them out on it they say “it’s just the internet, calm down.” But it’s not!! For most people we write more words on the internet than on paper! & with such a fantastic auto correct and even productive text we have no excuse! Were dumbing ourselves down, for what?!

[@anhell32]

I like to use facebook just for updates for concerts and to get in touch with family in the usa ...i got twins kids so i don't have a lot of time free...i'm with you on the instagram and fb thing ...they take like 1 to 2 hr a day from other things ...hi from puerto rico!!

[@Livingdeadgirll]

They DO! they really take time away from the important things!

[@mrhoffame]

Good job. I might be one of the only people you meet that has NEVER had a facebook page and never posted a single thing on facebook, twitter, or instagram. Wear it with pride lol Great to see you.

[@Livingdeadgirll]

Thats impressive! You will always be kickin it old school, mad respect for you friend. :)

[@pamelarenfree4185]

It’s my first time commenting so hello from Australia 😸 So I deleted my social media in April and relate a lot to this and have a lot so say about it but I’ll keep it short for now. Firstly yes I not only got emails from Instagram but I also got text messages updating me and it was really creepy. One really lovely thing though is that a friend of mine from the USA messaged me last week to check on me because she was worried 😭(I didn’t announce so she had no idea why I disappeared) honestly I’m not planning on going back any time soon

[@Livingdeadgirll]

Thats such a nice surprise! That means there is genuine interest from that friend! You really find out who actually cares & matters the longer you stay away.

[@pamelarenfree4185]

It was really lovely considering family members didn’t even notice my absence. I still think of it as such a toxic place and even deleted my Pinterest app because the negativity managed to find its way over there and out way the positive. I’m really happy that you break is doing well for you though and I hope you have a lovely day 💜💜💜

[@BlackMetalRebellion]

Social media can be mostly a negative experience with how many disgusting people there are dwelling on it. It really depends on who you choose to friend/follow. The more people you friend/follow, the more opinions are gonna be had. Most probably being something negative or something you disagree with. If I weren't soooooo into music and content creation I would've probably peaced out ages ago.

[@Livingdeadgirll]

BlackMetalRebellion it’s VERY hard to be into the music scene with out it! People rely on it for free advertisement! I really really need to go through my list and chuck some people off. The scene I’m involved in is very very opinionated!

[@BlackMetalRebellion]

@@Livingdeadgirll I have to do a bi-monthly cleansing of my Facebook "friends" as a lot of them are far too toxic for my life online.

[@Livingdeadgirll]

Its so true! Brain numbing at times.

[@BlackMetalRebellion]

@@Livingdeadgirll Agreed. Anywho, I hope you stay positive and stressfree! :-)

[@Lampshadeattack]

I just quit social media too. I feel so peaceful.

[@Lampshadeattack]

Also I deleted all my old social media a year ago and didn’t want to bother u so I never added you back. But I just found ur KZbin again and I’m glad you are doing ok.

[@Silenceisay]

i did the same and for a month no one contacted me. 0 people. i had at least 10 folx i cared for dearly and not a damn one messaged me. and when i was the one reaching out they would disappear after like 3 messages :T i was (And still am) absolutely hurt, empty like you said, and have actually completely removed fb from my life for this reason.. if my friends actually cared they'd make an effort to find out where i've gone or if im even alive lol i totally agree on what you said about there being a false sense of connection and its just the worst. I really wish i had the capability to make friends in real life. but its gonna be harder because now i have higher expectations in order to call someone a friend ever again. i really hope i find genuine friends soon. because apparently ive never had any lmfao also im really glad you did have actual friends looking for ya, it gave me hope

[@mermaidthrasher4235]

I deleted Instagram, in April, and have gone on twice to check for stores I forgot the name of. I love not having it, and don't plan on using it again. Facebook is fine for me and that's it.

[@MandatoryManda]

You can go on FB and Insta gram and I believe go to settings and dabble around find the setting to make it where they won’t email you and harass you. Always check the settings ALwAYS €

[@Livingdeadgirll]

Oh for sure! i will absolutely be doing that now, i had just never, ever thought that it was something they COULD do! Blew my mind! Learn something new everyday!

[@MandatoryManda]

True story ! I’m going to try this Thanks Kory

[@TypicalJosh36]

Mandatory Manda cori*

[@Livingdeadgirll]

hehehehe. thank you friend! Im STOKED someone knows how to spell it!!

[@Livingdeadgirll]

YES! i do recommend, the first day is weird - but it gets better! ( & you get more efficient! )

[@billydavidson7571]

Im the RAD'EST person in IOWA but thats not an accomplishment, LOL, I found you guys by watching a KZbin video a long time ago, it was Justin showing how to care for DOC MARTENS, you guys are cool 😎 I remember being probably around 6 years old & seeing 2 PUNK ROCKERS walking near my house in the SAN FRANCISCO BAY AREA, those dudes had the NEON mohawks & looked BAD ASS This was around 1994.

[@billydavidson7571]

PUNK MUSIC HAS SO MUCH ENERGY 🤘

[@billydavidson7571]

Ive never had social media WHY BECAUSE IM RAD

[@Livingdeadgirll]

Billy Davidson stay rad!!

[@znyznyzny]

😂

[@IsabelSantos-rw9qe]

I feel i need to take a break from social media i feel it makes me feel like more isolated and alone . And also i feel like i compare myself with other people on social media with out like realising i do .

[@Livingdeadgirll]

Isabel K yes!! Absolutely! Even if you have no intentions of it, you’re always wondering why your life isn’t like that. It’s not healthy!

[@LePezzy66]

Reading all the comments about people who have had similar situations as you, but without a choice is so.. idk a good English word for it. Maybe we should all send snail mail to each other or something

[@TragicElegance]

It was fitting that your phone going off scared you. :p

[@Livingdeadgirll]

hahaha it hasnt been going off very much! It shows. :p

[@lochness3224]

being 41 I guess it's different ... in the respects that if I went out somewhere, I would be actually present in the moment, and not video everything with my phone, not take Instagram pics of my meal.... not EVER use my phone at the dinner table or when in line / getting served in a shop.... I could leave my phone behind nearly all day and not have a heart attack about it ....lol..... the ppl that I have on FB are actually real ppl I know in the outside world.... guess I'm just getting old, but I personally think ppl are just way too addicted, and its Toxic to their mental health.... you only have to look at the stories of 10 yr olds killing themselves over cyber bullying to see it

[@Livingdeadgirll]

You are entirely correct, its sucked us in SO badly & its relentless. Impressionable minds being able to have these devices at so young.. its detrimental! Ive learned SO much in just putting the phone down & not reaching for it, unless its absolutely needed. I feel in control, which is something i was lacking a LOT before i took this big break.

[@indiopeltier9758]

This is rad ,Thank You

[@blakeskinner3878]

Instagram is just angry that they are making less money 😂

[@zombiegamer1916]

Im glad your doing well i hope that it gets better for u

[@Livingdeadgirll]

Thank you friend, one day everything will be okay.

[@zombiegamer1916]

@@Livingdeadgirll i hope so but till then ill suport you the best I can

[@cougarrain]

U R Special 💖 This is groovy, I disappear off the internet alot, I deleted my Instagram/Twitter and I feel better I don't use FB only messager...Whenever I feel lonely I jam,write, read a good book. It's like go outside and soak up nature. It's your time to get back in touch with all the good stuff you love. besides working or school. Don't worry everything will work out. Sometimes it's better to get away from other people's drama. Hey treat yourself to something New and Fun 💖🤘🏻 Rock On 🖤

[@Livingdeadgirll]

Jade Cougar thanks friend!! It was easy to pre occupy myself at first, but these last few weeks it’s slowly started eating away at me at the most random times. I hope I get a second wave of inspiration!

[@reluctantvKat37]

i try to stay off my phone for social media, but i use my little laptop, and since i spend most days at home, (i am disabled..it's a long story) i find that youtube, email, and facebook are how i connect with my friends and with the news and the world. When my computer glitches up and i am without those things for hours or days, i go back to reading books, which is great too, but i feel SO LONELY...i really get that feeling. People seem to connect now via text and internet, and not by in person visits or phone calls...so we think we are connected, but it's only in cyberspace. So i am trying to VISIT my friends when i can, and CALL when i can, to help with that problem. We all need reminders to TRULY INTERACT. *HUGS* Please know, it's NOT YOU, it's the internet...people love you, they just are bogged down by social media and it takes them forever to notice when someone steps back from that...not because they don't care, but because they are inundated with TOO MUCH INFORMATION all the time...and they can't process it.

[@Livingdeadgirll]

Thank you so much for the lovely comment, i truly appreciate it! Im so glad you understand!! The first little while is peaceful, but it does catch up to you! Im saddened by the way things go these days, but theres nothing i can do to change it. I just cant help but notice HOW superficial it all is when push comes to shove.

[@reluctantvKat37]

yep, i agree, and it's soul wounding...that's why i am trying to reach out to friends more in person and by actual calls...i need to make that connection as real as i can. *hugs*

[@Livingdeadgirll]

I couldnt agree more, ive been trying to make plans with more friends, but its hard to keep both parties interested enough. Also, ive been having a tough time in my personal life, so ive been ditching plans a lot more than regular.

[@reluctantvKat37]

Oh, i'm so sorry to hear that! Are you ok? Can i help in anyway? If you want to talk, i am here...i know what it's like to have stress in your life and to try to fight not to let it get you down. i could see real loneliness in your eyes when you talked about it, and i felt like there was more to the sadness i saw than you are saying. Really, if there is anything i can do, please let me know. i know you don't know me, but i consider you a friend and an inspiration, and i just don't want you to have to face hard times alone. *more electronic hugs!*

[@Livingdeadgirll]

reluctantvKat37 you’re the sweetest! Thank you so much, my kitty that I’ve had for around 7 years has been having trouble breathing. We took her for a very expensive vet visit the other day and got her antibiotics, it’s been helping.. but she’s still struggling. I have a lot of stress thinking about what the future holds with her. She is my baby & I don’t know what I would do with out her. Only one or two other friends know about this situation, I haven’t been very vocal about it, it’s tearing me to bits. I’m just very lost on where to go from here if the antibiotics don’t help. :( thanks so much for listening!

[@TragicElegance]

So it's funny. When you posted this, Facebook notified me about a post I made exactly 5 years ago after doing a social media blackout. Basically saying that everything is fine and the black out is great. It really put into a perspective at that time of what I was puttting my time into and what I valued. I really want to talk about this on my channel at some point. It's a great way to reset. If you want to find peace...get off the internet.

[@Livingdeadgirll]

Its SO TRUE! My mind was utter Chaos before i decided to delete these apps. I was miserable. I have seen a great improvement in my mood and in my values. I do miss the constant stream of attention, i wont lie.

[@DIZMANofDX28]

I know how you feel on many levels, we are the change this world needs.

[@Livingdeadgirll]

ROCK n ROLL CASHIER it’s very true my friend!