One Year After My Gender Transition: Lessons We’ve Learned

Shaye / shayescott
Amanda / amanda___scott__
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[@RoseOriginals]

When we decided to be two moms, we didn't think about what the world thought. We just wanted to be moms. We were fortunate enough to be able to have children. We went about our lives as a normal family with all the trials and happiness that brings. We raised two amazing individuals that are emphatic, loving and accepting of diversity. Along the way we ' encouraged peoples' misconceptions of what a family should look like. Don't worry about the outside world, your family is beautiful. Thank you for sharing this experience with us and hopefully encouraging even more people to understand that there is more than one way to live your life. Love you both!

[@mikethomson4064]

R u trans?

[@sojournertruth9844]

Shaye, you *nailed it* when you said that what they mean by "don't normalize this" is absolutely "don't *humanize* this," but they don't want to say the quiet part out loud, because then their bigotry is completely naked! They are literally angry that you're just a person trying to live with authenticity and joy, and not some demon out to corrupt people. I mean, how dare you be charming and relatable and have a family? You're not supposed to want wholesome things! It's just insane to think like this! 😂

[@kindness_is_the_key3888]

Perfectly put!

[@aubomatic19]

I feel like “bring it on” is such a great attitude to have. It’s a better reflection of others than yourself.

[@whitney2042]

Shay, as a tall lady (I’m only 6 feet), you have to get used to people asking you how tall you are and little old ladies asking you to get things down from the top shelves in the grocery store. 😂 It is our lot in life.

[@daisywares1]

So much. 6’1’ here

[@DarkRunsOut]

Definitely! 😅 (Fellow 6'2 woman here)

[@CaliMel184]

Yes! I'm not even super tall, I'm 5 foot 7, and people absolutely do this to me in stores.

[@jennmca7583]

Truth. 5’9”. I’m the shortest of the ladies. 6’ and above. I’m a shrimp. 😊

[@katieweeman5007]

Totally, I’m nearly 6 feet tall, and even though I’m a cis woman it still makes me feel masculine. I hate that something like height can make people not feel good in our own skin. Shaye is so beautiful and her height just makes her more beautiful.

[@bkm2797]

Love you two, there is no question I am watching genuine soul mates. Shaye, you are doing great and I'm so happy that you have Amanda and your beautiful children to remind you that life is good. Thanks for sharing.❤️👍

[@matthewsnively9849]

Transitioned just behind you. I’ve found your channel and it has given me hope that life can still be good even if it now looks different. Thank you for sharing with us ❤

[@MTCr8zy]

Your family continues to shine bright in a very hateful world. Your story is one of courage, hope and sooooo much love. You will “normalize” someone else’s journey through your authenticity and maybe another’s path to their own self-love will not be so difficult. Keep shining beautiful Scott fam.

[@SelitaEbabe86]

Transitioned 3 years ago, couldn't look back

[@_Nat_A_]

The two of you and your kids have been extremely generous in sharing your real life experience. I agree Amanda needs a video too. It would be just as generous of her sharing her experience.

[@lhmccool67]

This! 💯

[@Momo_1967]

As a woman who has recently started my own journey to live more authentically and present a more authentic self, I really appreciate these videos. My journey isn't about being queer but rather about healing my childhood traumas which forced me into a state of survival. Coming to realize that I've lived the better part of my life in a fight or flight mode has been enlightening and freeing. It's also really, really hard. My appearance hasn't changed but how I engage with the world has and some family and friends don't like the change. They want me to continue taking care of everything which is what I was doing for years. Anyway, my point is that what you said about allowing others to be on their own path without judgment really resonated with me. Thank you! 🥰

[@adelemichele]

Shaye your voice is very sultry you dont need to change it. I hope you will be completely Comfortable being your beautiful self. Bless Amanda for being there for you and changing along with you. Xxxx❤

[@ms.sassypantsdiva2880]

This SO hits home for me! My partner transitioned 20 years ago and we're still going strong. Been married almost 33 years. Amanda, I feel the very exact way you do...all of it! I wish I could talk to you more personally! You are both such beautiful women. I admire you Shaye for going through this journey. You deserve every happiness in the world!

[@kelseyhaag6427]

I probably comment on every video you guys post and quite frankly I wait for them! They give me peace, hope and just really help me to keep grounded in my journey with my trans daughter! Everytime I have a hard day or my daughter has a hard day I get on and watch a video of Amanda and Shaye! I tend to go straight to Amanda’s video of “why I support my trans partner” not because I dont support my daughter but that video always helps me to say the right thing to her. That video helps me to find the words to help my daughter on her hardest days and for that I am ultimately grateful! Thank you both! You have NO idea how much you have helped me help my daughter!

[@florbalsamo4727]

What a beautiful comment! So nice that you are supportive to your trans daughter ❤

[@kennyrichard2971]

You are so lucky to have such a beautiful supporting Wife. You both look amazingly beautiful.

[@orlandoromero22]

I always enjoy watching and learning with y'all content( I've been binging since finding y'all)but just realized something in every video/short Shaye is not the only one opening up& being comfortable .Amanda is opening up& evolving also & it makes both of y'all GLOW.👏

[@SonyaWilderWellness]

Love your grit, blood, guts, raw honesty, truth, beauty, radiance, humor, and your Beautiful Hearts. You are living your Purpose by changing perceptions and lives. You have more support and Love than you know. I Appreciate and Love you both. Thank you for BEing. 🙏🏽💝❣

[@Occulus01]

Like many others have said, there is no doubt we are clearly seeing what love, (self) acceptance, and support looks like between soulmates. As you all are the exception to what is otherwise a marriage ending situation, you give the rest of us a modicum of hope that love can endure the hardest of challenges life brings. Thank you for continuing to share your journey together and blessings to you both.

[@heatherbubke8336]

I have the utmost respect for you both. I just watched Mormon Stories and watched your 2 videos. I truly believe that you are both saving lives by being your authentic selves and that you are living your mission as light givers. If you are born into a world that you feel you don't belong, it's because you're here to help create another.❤ Thank you for everything!

[@cameronrau6142]

An authentic life is such a beautiful thing to see. Your inner beauty matches your outer beauty. Keep shining Shaye and Amanda❤

[@berglettemom6045]

I feel so privileged to be able to watch your videos and your conversations about this amazing event in your lives. You are both such beautiful souls, and the love you have for each other and your family is just wonderful to observe. Thank you so much for sharing your lives with the world. Also, Shaye, I think your voice sounds awesome. 😊 Congratulations on getting through the first year.

[@djdingwall1]

I feel like parrot that repeats itself. I hang on every word that you share emotionally through love and acceptance. Thank you for showing up in your vulnerability.❤

[@chloemoey]

yay, first comment!

[@Familylawgroup]

When Shaye mentioned concerns about her voice, I wanted to let her know that speech therapy can be quite effective in improving the vocal range in speech. They can do a lot, without requiring surgery. As a viewer from the first video, the things I have found so interesting are 1) the cautionary openness you have tried to convey. Shaye’s fear of backlash is still evident but she is coming out of her shell 2) your children appear to be raised with applying concepts of compassion and charity and love and kindness and it is evident from their casualness to being recorded with their parents and 3) Shaye, as a man, was striking and handsome. I couldn’t picture HIM as a feminine facial structure and then you shared HER rebirth and she is stunningly beautiful and the smiles are so radiant. I also want her hair…. You have done a lot of serious videos but I would love to watch some videos of Shaye trying to learn how to do her makeup and hair herself, much like a teenage girl would be learning while watching YT and TikTok, etc. I would love a video about Amanda and her journey with trying to figure out if she sees herself as pansexual, a lesbian, or, even better “Shayesexual.” Amanda, now that you know you love and remain feeling deeply attached to the human known as Shaye, have you struggled with wanting to find where and who you are? For example, I expected this video to be titled “My SPOUSE…” but it was titled “My WIFE…” I am not sure why that made me pause but it made me wonder if Amanda is, independently, exploring what this transition means to who she is.

[@lhmccool67]

I agree. I would love to know how Amanda is experiencing her own transition in life outside the church, within the marriage, etc.

[@florbalsamo4727]

I agree too, I would like to see that, and to know if Amanda realized she was atracted to women in general or just Shaye, or whatever meant to her. There is one video that she mentions it, but she doesn't dig into it, I'd like that

[@shelleydunxan2380]

Thanks ladies for the update about your journey through life. Inspiring!

[@lorij9649]

Wonderful Video and Love the last words.. S E E. Y A !!!

[@julieprince5538]

Much Love to you Shaye and your beautiful family ❤ Thank you for having the courage to be You!!!

[@user-cn4nk4yf7w]

Thank you for sharing. Looking forward to Amanda's story ❤

[@joannciccotelli6338]

Fantastic vlog, you have adjusted to the real you. Amanda, you are beautiful inside and out. Yay for Shaye !

[@renaissancewoman3770]

So good to see you both happy and thriving. And your lipstick shade is so slay Shaye x thanks for the video!

[@coreyh580]

Thank you ladies for sharing your sacred journey with us. You are salt to food that has no flavor, and light in a dark place. Hope.

[@hays0714]

Congratulations on almost 18 years! Thats incredible. You both are such beautiful souls ❤

[@thompsoncindy42]

Shaye, your voice is lovely!! Sultry, calm, soft, so easy to listen to!!!

[@chelseahanson1396]

You two are just lovely. I love how you view and use your efforts to share your story as a way to fill some of the void that having to leave church culture created. Still trying to work that one out myself. Hope and wish you and your family much safety, health, and happiness

[@xXcrimsonxroseXx]

I love the way you support each other, and I love the grace and patience with which you are sharing your journey. ❤

[@notsoperfect3028]

I’m glad I found this channel!!! My wife and I have been together since freshman year of high school, and we’re currently in our 30s. I transitioned about 7 years ago and I feel so fortunate that our love has only grown stronger. These videos are so important and so helpful. Thank you for sharing your experiences.

[@lilyrosel]

Thank you from someone oho has only recently discovered your content, for being a ray of hope and bringing a tear to my eye

[@helpbrowneyes22]

Would love to see you making home decorating clips again. You both are so good at it.

[@ANM5437]

Shaye I love your voice. It’s so calming ♥️

[@canaliculus]

Thank you for sharing your experience! It really means a lot! 💖✨🌻

[@userl2227]

You two are the bee’s knees. Seriously, just glowing with happiness and authenticity, both of you. Your story is so inspiring. You are the very definition of FAMILY.

[@milly7628]

Thank you for sharing your story! ❤ I have learned so much from your videos.

[@janicefulton1105]

Thank you for sharing your journey. Your whole family is going through this journey. From what I have seen you All are doing great.

[@BobiBamlett]

You bring so much joy, thank you. I wish you two so much love. ❤

[@baconninja657]

Such a perfect example of love and realness. You ladies are inspiring - I have loved getting to know you and learning more of a world I have such a little understanding of. Thank you for being so open and never stop being yourselves.

[@PB-dq9gi]

Yes, Amanda needs a video next!

[@AnneloesF]

Just one year, wow! Love how you support each other

[@Lauren.j.m]

Congratulations on your upcoming anniversary!

[@RyannJoyRule]

You've definitely given me great courage

[@kfaulknerstudio]

Your honesty and humanity are beautiful

[@jordyndillard8794]

Everytime i get down in my transition, I come back to your channel. I am so happy for both of you and have so much love for you. Thank you for allowing me to feel empowered as a woman.

[@gavinbaldwin1]

You both are so beautiful inside and out!!!❤

[@emeralds222]

Wow... thank you both for your most humble, awesome, truthful, and painful testimony. How I wish that we lived closer and could be personal friends. What is there to say ... my feelings extend to you is appreciation, awe, thankfulness, hoping others can reach deep into their hearts to find how to live truthfully.

[@longerwenqian8279]

I just can't get enough watching and following this family 🎉your so pretty sheye ❤just love to watch you guys

[@carolinerehel428]

It’s awesome that you’re sharing your experience, I think it doesn’t just help other trans people but cisgender people such as myself to better understand what you’re going through. You know what they say, people are afraid of what they don’t understand so you’re definitely contributing to a better understanding and acceptance from all. Wish you the best 😊

[@DanielHerrera-rl1vw]

Love you guys! ❤️

[@kimberlyfinch6055]

I see that you both sincerely love each other it should not matter how you both choose to live your lives as long as you are Honest and Respectful of one another ir should not matter to any one no one can dictate how you should be. Live your lives in love and Faith. Thanks for sharing your beautiful love story with this crazy world 😊❤

[@tomtaft9861]

"Freefall" and "trusting the process".. There is no script, road map or predictability to any of it. Our second puberty is fast forwarded and suddenly we're in bodies more aligned wth our truth and selves. There is no slow gentle process. And it's the social, medical and hormonal processes running parallel. Facilitating people being themselves is saving people. Keep doing it!! Xxx

[@JellyBean-pv8ko]

Your family is no “different” than mine, as is everyone’s in their own ways - beautiful, courageous, loving, challenged, etc. Thank you for sharing your paths!!!

[@Mixmastermonk80]

Much love from Brooklyn, New Yawk! ❤️‍🩹

[@b.m.t.h.3961]

Not everyone has to believe or accept people changing sex but on the other hand, they should still be polite and kind.

[@susiepatterson5383]

I think I’ve watched you while in the process of building your house and all the exciting things. You finally got done and I never thought you looked happy. I mean you were happy, but there was something missing and now I look at it and it’s because you weren’t you, and now you are❤

[@stephaniebellehauck]

Love this so much

[@valyav.2248]

Your both so beautiful and your wife is stunning ❤ 🎉 I'm glad you stand up for your wife the world has many eggs left to hatch and it's beautiful to see your encouragement ! ❤

[@susanestes8934]

love you gals!!!! Do more videos xoxo

[@shannonclarno412]

6’2” female 🙋‍♀️ I have gotten asked my whole life about it. I love your story and your evolution ❤

[@Balaganbetty]

Love you Shaye!

[@amberadams7523]

Is that the dress from the short where Amanda made matching ones for Shaye and your daughter?? I love that short (and the dress), if so it's so nice to see you wearing it! Also about the voice: I get that you would want to work on it but I really think it fits you! So I guess I'm just saying, don't worry about rushing it, for a lot of us I dont think it detracts from your femininity :)

[@pattylyman7907]

Shackles. Barriers. Why are these words even relevant in other's lives? We are each individuals on Earth. There should not be barriers. There's not one way to be any of us. Bless you both for your open truths.

[@hayleeromrell3000]

Lovely. You two are lovely. ❤

[@laurachard8961]

Shaye is beautiful inside and out

[@hayakhan1639]

They both are twe beautiful humans with pure souls god bless

[@tararosedraws]

Love you two. X

[@saritalynnedwinabaker-brow8709]

I still struggle that Amanda tends to reformat everything Shay says as though we didn't understand what she said the first time. Shay, you are amazing. Xx I totally admire both of you but I would like Shay to get a little bit more space to just stand in what she says without having to be interpreted.... We get her. X

[@jenniferingersoll5745]

Love this ❤

[@rondaborgert5170]

Have you both thought of writing a book about your life together and Shayes transition? You are a interesting couple. I enjoy your content and have such compassion for you both. My daughter is transgender so I relate well to this video. Hugs to you both❤❤

[@5280Recreation]

Interesting you mention your voice. I find it soft, unique and pleasing to the ear. Shaye, at the end of the day, you do you, but be careful not to put yourself into another box of what a female should sound like. I hope someday you can say, in whatever voice, I'm 6.2" and beautiful!

[@jeffsinclair4412]

I`ve noticed some differences in the way you all communicate while watching your progress over the journey. Less the male female dynamic but Shane listening to Amanda more letting her complete her thoughts. Great !

[@amyfu2047]

Shaye looks so much more comfortable in her own skin now!!! Brings tears to my eyes seeing you so happy. ❤❤

[@livliveart]

As a trans girl stuck in Texas (7mo HRT), you give me hope. Thank you for your authenticity and love, it truly means so much. 🥺💖🏳️‍⚧️

[@katielouisecunninghamsmith4312]

Shaye and Amanda you amazing journey is a journey you ain't alone. My daughter she trans I greatful that she came to me mama and mom my wife he calls her mom to tell us. You are beautiful women both of you.

[@lotion_laura]

Great video! You have beautiful children.

[@paulinehawkins2207]

Don’t know how you got in my stream. I think your family is beautiful. ❤

[@destin.marie.]

I absolutely love your vlog style! Do you plan on making more "normal" family vlogs I think it'd be good to show people! Thanks for your vulnerability ❤

[@GreatScotts]

This is something we go back-and-forth on. We show some of our regular family life in our shorts/ reels, but I imagine that we will do family updates from time to time even if we stick with more of the sit down style for a lot of our videos. We try to also incorporate everyday moments into our videos whenever it’s relevant. Thanks for watching! -Amanda

[@lhmccool67]

​@@GreatScottsI'm sure it's challenging to decide what to share and not to share for so many reasons, especially because so many people have zero hesitancy with providing their opinions (like me) even when their opinions are extremely hurtful. 🫂🫂

[@filopage]

Shaye, you are a beautiful woman. Both of you are. I recently started following your channel and I'm happy hormones and surgery have diminished your dysphoria. Genuine question: does your voice creates dysphoria? Are there ways to change that besides vocal cord surgery.

[@debrakintzing8914]

I love you guys!

[@Jmj878]

Hi. Thanks for the video. I really enjoyed it and very happy for your family. I do have one question. Why is Shaye's voice still very deep? Do the hormones not change that? Just curious. Peace.

[@rosazamora1320]

I’m so very happy for you! My best friend is a transgender male and he has his challenges but his authentic self life is priceless. ❤

[@BritleyHoff]

I have found in my own journey that we are either extrovert or introvert and it's harder for the introverts to share their journey. But for us that are extroverts that douche our journey, we become advocates and we help those behind us to lift them up in showing our journeys. And I do believe for all of us there is a time where we put it aside and we do start living our lives without broadcasting it all over social media.

[@terrabear4093]

Just found your channel & want to send some love your way! 🌈 ❤

[@florbalsamo4727]

Hey girls! You too are lovely, and Shaye you are so beautiful, you irradiate that happiness of feeling your true self. Don't mind the haters, there's lot of people in this world who support and love to see families like yours, with so much true love and acceptance. And for many of us is just another proof that we can have a family just as beautiful as yours (me being a lesbian it shows me that, gives me hope). Like some other comments, would love to see Amanda talk about what has been for her, if this made her question her sexuality, etc. I know you have mentioned it, but I would love to see it in more detail. I saw you said that she probably had some bi inside her since she is physically attracted to Shaye now even more than before. But I wondered if she realized she is atracted to more women or women in general, or just Shaye. This is with all due respect, just wondering, but in no way I'm judging or anything like that. In fact, is probably cause me being atracted to women only, I wonder if I had a partner that later transitioned, how would I take it, and if I'd be atractted to him after transitioning and how much would that make me question my sexuality. Hope you don't get this in a wrong way. Much love to you both and your kids ❤❤

[@Magenta-ju6kq]

She is beautiful ❤ the only thing that gives away that she is trans is her voice. My brother is trans too and he has just started the process

[@nicolefay1218]

I love how Shaye continues to glow more with each video.

[@infiniteinfinity9802]

Congratulations!!!! 🌈🤩🎉👏🎊🎈🥳🌷🩷🩵 Who gets to define “normal”? It took me 61 yrs to awaken to the reality that I get to define it in my own life. You freed yourselves at a much younger age. I’m so happy for you both and your family🩷🩵🌈 If you get a chance, listen to Conchita Wurst sing Rise Like a Phoenix. Conchita is a gay guy (Tom) in drag. He likes expressing his feminine side since he’s a child. That song gets me to the core. You both are helping so many people rise.

[@wilburshuman]

great song thanks sooooo much for reminding me !!!!!!!!!!!!!!!

[@sherylheidecker9025]

I enjoy your videos. You are both lovely.

[@themathsprofessor6962]

Loving these videos... You are both an inspiration. Now, I am not a religious person at all (I consider myself agnostic), but I do think about religion and religiosity. Something that I have often wondered out of pure fascination with your story, is what are your relationships with God now? You are clearly no longer members of your previous church, but have you maintained your faith or an altered faith? Have you simply dropped your previous practices but still hold the same core beliefs or have you fundamentally changed in the way you think about God (and his / her) existence?

[@Dr.GForensic]

Religion is man-made...not by God. You cannot combine the two. The Lord is real and I hope you have accepted Him as your Lord and Savior.

[@themathsprofessor6962]

@@Dr.GForensic With all due respect, I have no interest in what you have written or what you believe. I am, however, extremely interested in Shaye's and Amanda's belief system. There are very interesting questions about the interplay between being transgender and believing in "the Christian" God. For example, did God make a mistake and give you the wrong body? or does being a member of the queer community give you an insight into the dogma and conservatism created in the name of God?

[@LeahFairfield]

@@themathsprofessor6962😂 then don’t leave your comments on a public platform where others ARE allowed to reply.

[@themathsprofessor6962]

@@LeahFairfield Reply all you like if you are addressing my post rather than inanely arguing with me or attempting to convert me, so that I accept the lord as my saviour. If, for example, you personally know the answer to my question or have some relevant insight into it, then please respond. Otherwise, just make your own comment. Does that seem reasonable to you?

[@LeahFairfield]

@@themathsprofessor6962 😂 you don’t get to choose how people reply to you.

[@nashanasha3770]

I'm always respect and both of you so amazing ❤❤❤I'm follow both of you before and forever. Thank you always share your experience as a new life new transgender couple. Your wife Shay so amazing. She's so strong and kind women in this world❤❤

[@addysgb]

All I can say is Shaye I wish I had your courage. I pray that I’ll find it one day. Although I’m 46 years old already I think my time in this lifetime has passed. You should both be so proud of yourselves for having the courage to live your authentic selves and lives. Love to you both and the kiddos and pups too 🏳️‍🌈🇦🇺🏳️‍⚧️🩷❤️🧡💛💚🩵💙💙💜🖤🩶🤍🤎♥️🏳️‍🌈🇦🇺🏳️‍⚧️

[@hopefrawley]

You two have one of the strongest marriages I've seen ❤

[@donnataylor980]

I know God loves our souls❤ and that's what I try to love about everybody you cannot be in love with somebody's body they perish😢 Souls never die❤ that's what everlasting life is our spirit😊 I think you look beautiful❤ y'all both do😊❤😊

[@bkm2797]

Beautifully said, I feel the same. If people would learn to love for its own sake.

[@ta4393]

You are great ❤