Dad Is Reunited With His Long Lost Son After 40 Years | Look Me In The Eye

Explore the transformative power of eye contact in this deeply emotional episode of "Look Me in the Eye." Watch as estranged family members and former lovers confront decades-old rifts, seeking reconciliation and healing through silent connection. Follow Barry's poignant journey as he reunites with his son after 40 years apart in a heartfelt experiment on "Look Me in the Eye." Witness their emotional reunion and the challenges they face in rebuilding their relationship against the backdrop of past hurts.
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[@joysmith1213]

Poor man, destroyed. You can see it in his eyes. Gave his entire life for his family.

[@yvonnewalesuk8035]

@@Susan-k6u1x I suspect that the problems lay somewhere in the middle, rather than your judgemental verdict.

[@nicolaablett7790]

His face tells you everything

[@mediaaccess2]

@@Susan-k6u1x Too many assumptions based on biases. You are a shallow person. This story isn't far from mine. So many circumstances.

[@melissadavis9591]

​@@Susan-k6u1xwow,then when a women can't have all that wonderful stuff and stay home she'll complain,and find another reason to leave,poor excuses.

[@maya3110]

40 years and now he decides to connect with his son... absolutely pathetic..where was he when his son needed him..I feel bad for any child abandoned by their parent, have zero sympathy for selfish parents. If they didn't care then they won't care now..they stay selfish

[@marygonzales8986]

Please don't wait too long. My dad died when he was 53...I never had the chance to reconcile. I am now 69 and I still think of him all the time.

[@miss.conduct8083]

Oh Mary, I am so sorry!❤ Without knowing your own situation, my wish is for your comment to go GLOBAL - for all these kids (or rather, these very young "adults") to reconsider their hasty decision to go No-contact with their parents. Especially considering their brains (more particularly, the prefrontal cortex which is responsible for foreseeing potential harm & consequences) aren't fully developed until 25+. This is also the reason why statistics have shown that more flowers are delivered to the dead vs. the living. Further proving; regret is far more detrimental and a stronger emotion than appreciation and love in the present. I wish you well. xo

[@marygonzales8986]

@@miss.conduct8083 XOXO

[@MrChubba10]

The father and son .. massive shout out to the father for not saying anything bad about the mum just that she was the love of his life. He thought a big house and things the family needed was how to show love .. when all the time his family were missing him. It's so very sad.

[@darondatoole7439]

It is sad. I pray the son will come around.

[@lesliebrown8665]

What a hardworking bloke, the Pain in his eyes tells it all,,, God bless his heart

[@laughingallthetime50]

Oh God, Barrie and Nigel. I couldn't stopped crying the whole way through. What a lovely father and son. The genetics are very strong!

[@PrincessJazmina]

Barrie’s pain he had in his eyes truly broke my heart. Don’t get me wrong I seen the pain in Nigel’s eyes as well but Barrie’s killed me! I’m so happy for him reconnecting with his son.

[@jeanniecooper7390]

I had a precious father I was 24yr when he died I've missed him everyday since. 😢

[@jiara01]

This moved me to tears watching the Father and Son. Happy everyone reconciled with each other and made peace.

[@lindalundstrom4347]

Guilt is a powerful emotion. Years go by and I believe many parents stay away because the feel they don’t have the right to be in their childs life. They know they have let them down and don’t know how to fix it.

[@joycehowardgreen5763]

People should criticise no one ,until they walk in their shoes in their lives.. you know nothing until you do..

[@shannonricketts4628]

Yes So Very True🥰there are always many sides to a person's life and story

[@BelfastManUtdTherapy]

anyone who cheats on their wife or their husband, is a rare breed. Whatever shoes they've walked in. It takes lies, planning, eye to eye in bed contact saying i love you etc knowing your being cold and tricking the family unit, lack of empathy. One of our friends, cheated on his wife, we are in our early 40s now. When my friend saw this, he had to tell us and we had to tell his wife, because friends or family cheaters lack a certain heart and hes probably cheated before and not felt sorrow.

[@marionrhodaalico3404]

Insatiable wife ...she should have spoken to him so they could weave what's been torn. Years ago and up to now, husbands and fathers are always the losers..

[@janicescott6569]

@@BelfastManUtdTherapyAdultery is a very serious issue but if a person is repentant and turns around they can be forgiven.

[@Nou75]

No, it is selfish for any parent to keep their kids away from the other parent unless they were endangered. The marriage may not work but that relationship with the parents MATTERS

[@danielcassidy4481]

Vulnerable is a risk most people won't do, this is powerful

[@Lighting_Desk]

It's always important to recognise that not every long lost family situation is a happy ending.

[@kathyjones3320]

Im so happy for Nigel and his dad, made me cry.

[@tina5601]

To the father from Dubai. Your Daughter is Absolutely Gorgeous. I can also tell she has a Beautiful Beautiful Pure Soul of Only Kindness and Goodness in her Heart. Please Don't Throw Away this Chance to have the most Wonderful Years of Your Life Ahead of You. To be in the Children's Lives as they grow up and become teenagers and Beyond. God bless the two of you and enjoy your wonderful journey ahead❤ my Very Best Wishes from Alaska😊 It took Courage and Love to Meet Eachother . Glad You Did. 👍🏻🫶

[@jowhite4048]

My dad was estranged from me when he passed away, I will live with the guilt for the rest of my life. Don’t let that happen to you ❤

[@miracles-f2o]

Don't feel guilty. Watch Soul Podcast. You are a soul having a human experience. Your dad forgives you......there is no judgement on the other side....now you need to let go and forgive yourself. The 'ego' human mind will keep you safe but often stuck as it is often judgemental. We have been programmed and conditioned ❤ I punished myself for 30 years + .........❤. learn to love yourself and your heart or you will create dis....ease. Watch Matt Kahn Say the hoppopono prayer ❤ Bless 🙏 you

[@marielle3548]

The first story is heartbreaking,this poor man was robbed of his children for so long.

[@patricianyandoro5606]

father and son reunion , oh breathtaking

[@mariadefatima6469]

My mother left for 35 years when we meet I was 37 years old we tried but she didnt know how to be a mother and I didnt know how to be her little girl we stayed friends untill she died 80 years old and I sometimes miss her or miss what we could have been

[@yvonnerahui8729]

Aw..that sounds a sad story..a longing still within. Hope you are a mum & have a,good relationship with your child /children??

[@sillycookie1982]

I feel for you. I can imagine I would've had the same problem. Mine left when I was thirteen. As a teen when she would come back to the country to visit I wouldn't speak to her. I was still angry and I still had some deep fear of her from past abuse. She died tragically when I was 21 and I never reconciled with her beforehand but she couldn't be anyone but who she was and I can have sympathy but I have more sympathy for the child inside she left.

[@deevillarreal9475]

❤ Like Barry White said you had what you had 🫂💙🙏🏽

[@debbiee6535]

I hurt because I know how you feel my mom didn't know how to be a mom cuz she was never mother and unfortunately I didn't figure it out until my daughter was raised but I did get to be with my granddaughter for a while I hope that helped

[@debilindsey3967]

She didn’t know how to be a mother for you I have three children the only child that even tries to have a relationship we have our ups and downs, but we connect The effort has to be the ups and downs. It is worth it. I pray that my other children desire to work through those ups and downs.

[@rebeccavillafuerte5296]

Oh my!!! I started weeping when the camera focused to the father’s eyes 🥲 40 years apart…..father and son meeting truly moved me 🥲🥲🥲🥲

[@katiekorell9776]

As a foster kid who met and then lost my parents again and then became a mom myself, 1. I would never be far from my daughter. 2. I would never let her think she wasn't my priority. 3. I fought to keep her father IN her life (when him and I broke up and he wanted to run away). 4. I know how it feels to be missing my parents....I couldn't give her that pain. I hope everyone can heal from their past.❤

[@debbiee6535]

You're a good parent thank you

[@aishanermal8776]

Emotional father and son, truly longing to see each other. U MAKE MY DAY..

[@janet3895]

Dads face lights up when he says he’d just like to say hi face to face

[@janetmontgomery-r6j]

I'm glad father and son reconnected with love. It's sad that fears and ideas and worries keep people apart

[@lisajeter9511]

How could Nigel not see LOVE IN HIS dad’s face?

[@lissettegonzalez3605]

I was crying my heart out, because my dad passed away about 10 years ago and I miss him so much!!!

[@BrianHornak]

I'm so sorry

[@respecthewoman]

I'm just coming across this, this experiment is profound and those who participated are brave and courageous human beings. Wishint them all healing, wholeness, guidance and blessings.

[@tina5601]

I HAVE TO ADD ......THIS SHOW IS INTENCE DURING THE STARRING STAGE. NIGEL'S FATHER HAD ME BAWLING LIKE A BABY. 😊

[@jaynekeller3652]

Aww he missed him so much So happy for them

[@pebbles4715]

I just felt very emotional watching this.

[@Fayrwa06]

This is a best programme to release stress, l am crying with all of them all. Thanks for a wonderful programme.

[@joycehaines2055]

Made me cry for them, wanting happiness for all.

[@stephaniepiazzese2602]

Oh Lord. The father and son,,, how beautiful ,, how absolutly beautiful that they found each other. I cannot even imagine, having a Dad who wanted to know me. 😢

[@janicescott6569]

Even if my own father and mother abandon me; Jehovah himself will take me in. Palms 27:10

[@suzannevanderwesthuizen9984]

Some of us have our Heavenly Father when the earthly ones couldn't be that. I'd say we were better off for it...

[@janicescott6569]

@@suzannevanderwesthuizen9984 Psalms 27:10 Even if my own father and mother abandon me Jehovah himself will take me in.

[@miracles-f2o]

Both father and son were very hurt when they split up ❤ So sad ❤ Glad they're back home ❤

[@leahm.trahan319]

Hurt people hurt people. The capacity to forgive heals and stops the cycle of hurting.

[@Planet820Claire]

That is correct. And the crud that comes from generations before. Most people have someone in their lines... who feels they were cheated, or unloved in some way.

[@meredithheath5272]

Not necessarily: Some individuals are just greedy, selfish - and Sadistic. I'll spare you the details, but, I cut off my son, but, he cut ME off before I did it to him... His step daughter was the one to massively influence those in our previous "family", - and with Law Enforcement, Elder and Protective Services, friends of family, etc...

[@Isaac-ho8gh]

@@meredithheath5272 exactly.

[@rustyhowe3907]

@@meredithheath5272 You understand in full and I hope you're in a better and safer place.

[@jeanniecooper7390]

Ohh the father and son got me 😢

[@maryatvan]

You createda space where truth, love and a home for healing can exist. Much more of this is neededbi the world.

[@stephaniepiazzese2602]

His eyes tell the whole story. I’m So sorry for this poor man,,, 😢

[@victoriacorpuz-q7e]

I could feel the pain in his fathers eyes and it's breaking my ❤.

[@janicescott6569]

Wonderful show!!! I am so happy Nigel has made peace with Barry and can have some good years ahead. What a beautiful home Barry had built for his family. And the father and daughter should have many wonderful year’s ahead. So impressive that everyone was willing to never look back. Just go straight forward.

[@LoveMusic-pd5iz]

Long ago, in the late 1970's I took part in a series of what was commonly labeled "personal growth" classes. One of the exercises we did was staring into the eyes of each person in our group. So glad to see this hasn't died and that it is being used in what I consider a more appropriate application. Congratulation on the success of this experiment.

[@vicn6779]

I am bawling for the father & son! Wao! Seeing his son as an older man! I am happy for them.

[@zuneburger9367]

And here I sat and cry like a baby

[@donnastansell3126]

This is the best program I have seen in years!love and forgiveness 🙏 is what we all need ❤️ may God bless everyone!

[@seresau8621]

I am new here! Love watching this emotional meetup. The Father and his son really got me 😢🥺❤🫂

[@angelabokaba9479]

This is so sad ,what a moment between a son and a father

[@debbiee6535]

I'm glad she realizes it's not her but that man that can't face responsibility or commitment

[@millyslife9170]

A true provider and paid the price 😢 how sad.

[@valerielester7210]

She is incredibly gracious. Only thing that made it remotely bearable to watch.

[@lynneleeluckdowsing6654]

Life is often unfair. Really feel for Barry and Nigel. Wish them the best: peace, love, harmony, a mutually supportive relationship

[@juanmagallon]

omg. i wanted to hug all of them. that is so loving

[@dennisbrayboy4089]

The old man an son looks so happy at the end I’m so happy for them both

[@Claire-cc7lb]

Reconciliation is so important, so is redemption if possible. It’s easy to rationalise about a situation or person or relationship but the emotions don’t fade and can tear you apart for years.

[@juanmagallon]

i just came here to watch this man and rekindle with his son. it broke my heart.

[@camillemoore2461]

Oh boy This is So Very Sad : It Broken My Heart into A " Million Pieces "😢😢😢😢😢 Happy For The Reunion. Thankfully The Almighty Kept You And Him Alive to Meet Each Other.❤❤❤😊 True Live Never Dies .Big Man Thing .Lovely .This made Me Cry Like If i Was A Part of This .😢😢😢😢😢

[@francesbaker3488]

Me too 😥😥😥

[@Truthseeker371]

In this day and age of increasing lonely people, we need to expand the notion of family. Related or unrelated, single or divorced, we need to have a place where we can get together to chat and care and share life. Having a regular chance to converse definitely alleviates social isolation.

[@Dave0421]

Every family has a story, whether good, bad or indifferent, there’s always a choice to which path to follow and that’s there choice ❤

[@susanclingenpeel3338]

Very sweet that they all were able to reconnect, to find a great reunion, and find love again, regardless of when or where they will see one another again. My own tears fell for them all. Thanks for this program "Look Me in the Eye" !

[@THEUNKNOWNOFFECIAL]

Daughter and father look alike 😭🙏 and father and son my heart burst oh my days my eyes falling tears 😭😭😭

[@jacquelinewillmington7763]

That was one of the most moving experiments l have ever watched. It just goes to show that forgiveness and compassion can change situations if we allow them. ❤

[@lizlynskey8281]

My son hasn’t seen his son in 5 years he was 4 when his mum took him & we don’t know where his mum nor him is , albeit the relationship between my son & his partner wasn’t ideal but my son would look after his son ,made sure he was safe looked after him when she wanted to go out take him to nursery pick him up she knew what she was doing from the time he was born, me personally she used my son as a sperm donor & when it suited her up sticks & moved , it’s broken my son he can’t move on & is not in a good place his mental health has deteriorated, but one day I’m sure his son will look for him & us too,

[@mattieclan8957]

So interesting to watch the son and father walk the same way. Genetics is a big thing😊

[@highlander713]

Ray ❤ always gentle man! God bless.

[@emp2715]

No one should judge any of these people. Until they are in that situation themselves, they don't know how they would feel, only speculate.

[@niamtxiv]

No excuse.

[@FemiNelson-sb1em]

I believe the feeling is of accountability, not judgement. Huge difference. Paz be with us all 🙏. "Isa"

[@katherineernst8764]

We adored our father. He would take each one of us out on a Saturday. He ran a restaurant and had things to do.

[@markr.devereux3385]

This show gave me butterflies. Tbat silence was deafening❤😊

[@sylvialin6453]

I would say to anyone. Reconciling when you are still breathing before is too late. Never live to regrets. 40 yrs gone and wasted

[@BrianHornak]

Exactly

[@marygonzales8986]

1000 % Agree!

[@Isaac-ho8gh]

No. Why attempt to reconciliate if you're not ready to?

[@sylvialin6453]

@@Isaac-ho8gh i wrote when..so is up to those who doesnt want to. Theres no force

[@PatarSimatupang-g5i]

Beautiful stories. Thanks.

[@jcqlnbecker1]

So true. Those things happened then. Glad Judy Cooper came to and the children still had contact with their dad. My mother was encouraged to leave my dad by her own mother and she moved a long distance away but thankfully my dad was still in our lives. Maybe because he did the best he could under the circumstances. He certainly paid his dues. He remarried and had another family. Sad thing is my younger sister never ever ‘forgave’ him and I do know he died hoping to reconcile with her. She was/is as stubborn as a mule. My other sibs and myself were close to him and he enjoyed his last years on this earth even traveling overseas for the first time in his 70’s (twice) to be with us. MHDSRIP

[@miracles-f2o]

This is really powerful. Emotions without words ❤😢 Most humans should try it ❤

[@yeshiworkgashu3192]

She is kind❤ very outspoken grand son❤

[@shonabeggs4640]

Possibly on the spectrum. He was dressed up oddly too, compared to the little girl.

[@Roselady7]

So happy for the dad and son! I wish you all a beautiful life being in each other’s lives..❤

[@tommtom8662]

Can't hear the conversation for the loudness of the music...consider that your viewers are trying to understand the accent too

[@Planet820Claire]

I too, find that so annoying!😮

[@gabrielaturnbull1254]

Use cc

[@neggylydejesus2766]

They've separated or divorced.. and so with their children. Its painful, and I would say, why? why? As parent you have to kill me to separate me from my child, I swear! And no, time is not a healer, is you asking for an honest forgiveness and telling the truth. Its very hard to understand us, humans and choices so many times. I wish y'all the best!!

[@jacquelinepearson4892]

This programme is so heartbreaking the wasted years the anguish of the alienated parent and the rejected child makes me weep for them… my son has been estranged from his daughter for nearly 2 years she is 10yrs old now .. he fought his ex through the courts to see her but it took too long, it’s too late her head has been turned from idolising her dad to hating him because of the lies she was fed. Watching this programme gives me a slight hope but he has given up fighting to see her because she said she doesn’t want to see him he is broken and is making plans to move away and start again my heart is broken….

[@lesliemichellepipes9216]

When I was 10 years old I left him behind but at the age of 27 I stayed with him know I’m 57 years old he passed away after I visit him.

[@sprkm88]

What an absolutely horrible way this program has lost families meet….sitting opposite not able to talk to hug……absolutely horrible

[@uf6447]

Heart warming .. what a father

[@shannonricketts4628]

My daughter has not spoken to me in nearly four years,and has slso allowed no contact from my grandchildren...it has been heartbreaking

[@josefinaactub5420]

Sad.i can relate😢

[@janicescott6569]

I know it’s heartbreaking but it is common today to see families fractured. Don’t give up!

[@CryMeARiver13]

As a daughter and mother please find your daughter and try to reconcile with her without any conditions. I’m not saying you are wrong or she is right however most of the time it is easier for the parent to pull in their child and reassure them that they love them unconditionally.

[@Isaac-ho8gh]

Is she not speaking to you because of you? Most parents who are disowned by their children have done something bad to them so I don't trust you much.

[@giaatta9303]

Okay that music it over the top drama. Thank you for sharing your stories.

[@deborahburton2683]

My mom.left when I was 7 and we never saw her again 😢

[@helenmcdonnell2585]

❤

[@traditionalgirl3943]

Your beautiful, loving, kind mother in Heaven (Mary) is always with you. Talk to her. ✝️❤️🌷🙏👍😊

[@lucialuciferion6720]

I just can't imagine leaving my child behind. Why ? Selfish is why. Just plain selfish. She doesn't deserve your tears.

[@AdayHiwet]

Good program. Music not necessary, but also too loud.

[@MariaRomero-cb6ty]

"You are lucky you get my bed!!" That's more than you have ever given my mother, young guy must have thought to himself.

[@Goldie789]

The grandson, Kye, is so funny! He's got such a great personality! "You're lucky. You get my bed." 🤣😅😂🤣

[@lamarblake]

I hope you do a follow up with these people in a year or so.

[@BlueSky-eb7ru]

I stayed away from my father for more than 10 years .. I only went to see him because he was dying due to a failing heart .. The only apology he offered was '" I should have done things differently " .. I was civil on the 5 visits I had with him before he died in the Hospital ..It was more than he deserved 😐

[@wolfganghasenmaier8350]

If he had reacted like the dad in this video would you have opened up to your father? I love my late dad intensely but I can understand your feelings…

[@lucialuciferion6720]

@@wolfganghasenmaier8350 My father was the same, cold , distant, emotionally a total void. He never said he loved me, never hugged me, never smiled at me, never just chit-chatted with me, never played with me , never gave me gifts, never a card/letter or phonecall when he moved abroad (only ever from my mom ❤) , never any warmth from him ever! I'm sure that's why I don't miss him, ten years after his death, and why I'm super close with my mom (co-dependent).

[@ElaAusDemTal]

So many men were raised not to show feelings... my own father is just like that. I haven't spoken with him for about 24 years and he wouldn't apologize for everything he did to hurt my Mom and me, that's what I know from growing up with him. I know that I need to get to terms with him before he dies but I am still not there.

[@marlenegreyling8620]

Music too loud 😢

[@sallybyrd3712]

This was a really great show. It is all about forgiveness and letting go of the past but of course both sides have to be willing to start over.

[@buckyb7658]

I was expecting to be moved to tears, you didn’t disappoint. Great experience, thank you. ❤

[@bonniekellyromeo9073]

He said he sometimes thinks that he should have kept in touch with them. Ummmm....you think??? A divorce, even 40 years ago, does not keep a parent away from their children. What is not being said here??

[@LoveMusic-pd5iz]

I know that many men of his age of that era, thought they were doing the right thing to stay away, to "not get in the way" to "let them have their life". This created a legacy of misunderstanding and hurt. So glad to see this small experiment help mend some of these wounds.

[@Solagal]

In an ideal world!

[@otsdrselse1163]

​@LoveMusic-pd5iz Absolutely ridiculous! I'm sure the lack of support and contribution was really helpful. Sounds like an excuse to me. 😤

[@melodygreen5029]

Maybe the mother was impossible and toxic! You can never know the whole story. Women can be viscous and vindictive towards their ex’s! Let’s be honest!

[@kameralkutie5594]

There is absolutely no excuse and not everyone is that forgiving because I’m surely not.🤷🏽‍♀️😂

[@zenaidasagum4712]

What an amazingly lovely moment with Dad & her Daughter! But what happened next? Thanks for this blog

[@delmahnori1582]

Children should not victimized by parents who want to divorce or separated. Parents should allow their children freedom to visit each parent any time they want. Depriving them from the other parent is cruel and horrible . They should grow up knowing both parents love them. Telling children lie story about the other parent is terrible. The child is the victim not the mother or father in this type situation.

[@adarsheikh-ali9290]

Many fathers leave when you desperately need them and come back when they in need

[@chloeuntrau4588]

If you had listened to the first story, you would not write this!

[@FemiNelson-sb1em]

Many do leave as you stated. Many, I hope have the courage to have a vasectomy so as to prevent more pain. The same applies to women. Society plays a huge horrible part in pressuring children right away or eventually. Some more than not, just aren't meant to parent. Meanwhile, here are these brave ppl opening their hearts & risking a serious upset. Bless all concerned. Paz be with us all 🙏. "Isa"

[@annavete5533]

He let her down badly

[@sianjones3721]

40 years not seeing each other wow

[@camillemoore2461]

These Things Are Too Emotional for me To Watch : I Am Tearing Up Here😢😢😢😢😢😢 Her Eyes Got Red Like Blood .The Dad Boy Wow😢😢😢 That Was Reeeaal intense

[@yogiine]

A problem these father from the past had.. they didnt understand that with working too much, the family has to fall apart. Well.. many dont see this before its too late even now.

[@lorrainedemorias587]

She looks like her dad ❤

[@tess2538]

Old and on his own . He now only realises ???

[@yukiefromoz2573]

I am very curious as to why Gerry cancelled her ticket back then and the reason why he couldn't attend her wedding. Very moving reunion between Barry and Nigel.

[@shonabeggs4640]

I think he feels so much shame. Now he's older he wants to try and be a good grandpa. I hope he doesn't let those kids down, too. His daughter couldn't be more accommodating to him. Fingers crossed it works well for them.

[@missymason2377]

Deep....very Deep. Healing.