Swingers Club Advice (23 Tips)

[@dronesiviews]

Well said you guys. It's really awesome to see and hear people describing the lifestyle honestly and ethically.

[@lowcarblexy7622]

Great advice! Hubby and I are just recently dipping our toes into the swingers lifestyle and this is all great advice, thank you 😊

[@mandapanda7407]

I really love and appreciate Jackie's point on these clubs being a safe place to dress up. I love dressing up, I love looking like the sexiest arm candy on the planet; seeing heads whip around in my direction or do a double take are intoxicating. But there's nowhere that I feel I can dress like this without negative judgement, weirdly enough. I have these clothes that feel so empowering, and nowhere to wear them to. The fact that swinger clubs are a safe place to wear these things make me all the more excited to find and go to a club. I don't think there's any in my state (at least, not my city) but maybe we'll do a swinger cruise or pop into a club while we're on vacation

[@cresentborchardt5467]

You guys are so informative and insightful, as this lifestyle was recently mention and is being discussed. So being newly introduced to the subject, all your information is helping immensely and is actually making me feel more relaxed and open to the possible experience(s).

[@ramonmirabal101]

We were swingers for over 30 years best ever happing, we are a happy couple after the years we don't play anymore but still love each other. I do play sometimes my wife doesn't feel like I respect her desition, o by the way we are in our 60.

[@michaelb893]

What are your and John’s hard yeses and no’s?

[@chrisboyd4433]

Question for you, Jackie. What about when one partner's hard no's are the other partner's hard yeses? If partner one really feels that this is a lifestyle choice they want to make, but the other partner says no.......what then?

[@BM1620]

If it was me I would communicate with my partner and get to the bottom of whether their hard no's are truly how they feel, or if there's another emotion behind it such as fear or jealousy. If it's fear or jealousy it's time to delve deeper into the conversation and establish if it's something that can be worked past, sometimes the other person just needs to be reaffirmed that the support and love is there, and that if they engage in anything they end up feeling uncomfortable with that it's ok to stop and recollect. Now if the no is truly their decision and and it's against what the other partner wants then there's some big decisions to make. If being in the lifestyle is that important to one partner yet the other has no interest then possibly that particular relationship isn't going to work out. That's something only the two of you can decide. I definitely would not ask my partner to make concessions for me and do something they truly don't want to do or are not interested in, that's not what the lifestyle is about. It's about trusting each other, loving each other, communicating with each other, and just being able to let loose and have fun!

[@BM1620]

Bottom line is communication, if you cannot communicate and be honest with each other then considering the lifestyle is jumping the gun, you first must be honest with each other. It can be hard, especially when it comes to some of our deepest darkest fears, but at the same time you will feel refreshed and like a weight has been lifted off your shoulders afterwards. Sometimes it's hard to be honest if you are afraid that you will receive an angry response. That was something me and my wife had to overcome. When we were much younger I was very much a jealous person, not because I doubted her to be faithful, but because I doubted myself. so it definitely took some heartfelt conversations and some convincing to make my wife realize that that's not who I am anymore, and the reasons I acted like that in the first place. It can be a slow process, you have to build trust. But once you can successfully communicate and be honest you should have no problem building that trust and potentially experiencing some truly enlightening things together!

[@amberlockhart237]

Hey. I was hard no to the swinging lifestyle to begin, but my partner and I worked on our relationship and he let me explore it and dip my toe in first. It's not for everyone, but communication, GOOD communication is key. If you can't be honest then don't do it until that can happen.

[@theblindguy4796]

@@BM1620 very well said.

[@ninakim7282]

Lights on or lights off? Sex in the open or in separate rooms? Is it dangerous emotionally to swing with the same ppl too many times?

[@myshreksbox]

It's dependant person to person. Everyone is different

[@Coneman3]

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[@lonnhoffman6865]

Swinger clubs are prejudice towards amputees

[@openlove101]

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[@Coneman3]

And single guys.