OPPOSITE SEX FRIENDS WHILE IN A RELATIONSHIP (EP. 36)

In this episode, we talk about the nature of the male-female dynamic while in a relationship, offer tips on how to manage these relationships, and give deeper insight beyond the presumptive “insecurity” chatter that each side may label one's boundaries.
Enjoy! 🥃
ig: @duke @omar.bolden @just.jalon
Intro song: @xaroc__ - pledge of allegiance

[@je39981]

People have to understand when you're single you lived that life of freedom and now you're in a relationship you have to create BOUNDARIES. Having friends of the opposite sex isn't the only thing that needs boundaries there will other things that will be adjusted. Being single and taken is two different mindsets. When you're in a committed relationship you have another person feelings that you have to take into consideration.

[@anoninii]

Entering my first relationship I had mostly guy friends..my ex warned me about all of them but I was so certain they all felt the same as me - just friends. As soon as we broke up, every single one of them came onto me. If there's one thing he was right about, it was that men and women can't really be just friends. Now I'm in a different relationship, I have no male friends, and I pay attention not to put myself in situations that would make him feel jealous or insecure. But..he mostly has female friends and he's using the same arguments I've used in my first relationship... Just another irony of life I guess

[@FernGray]

On point.. huge red flag when someone can’t let go or change the nature of attachments with the opposite sex ..

[@nikolett8129]

Well said 👏🏼

[@originalmix2546]

or men.... cannot get rid of their cheerleaders

[@Arianajanay]

THANK YOU FOR SAYING IT ! So many people thinks its acceptable to have friends of the opposite sex and I've never believed in that...like people now n days think its okay to comment under others posts with emojis, commenting on their photos and videos with love language...hanging out, etc...even married men think its okay to go out to eat with single women and I am so happy to see guys of my age on this podcasts speaking against what so many people believe. Its not insecure, people will always try to find a loophole to go with worldly desires instead of the desires God has for us.

[@CyrilSneer123]

so you don't trust your partner. No trust = no relationship

[@Arianajanay]

@@CyrilSneer123 it’s about respect. You choose what YOU want in your relationship. And I’ll choose what I want in mine 🥰

[@aritalkstech]

I don't see anything controlling. I think this is a healthy display of boundaries (can be rare these days) and appreciate this conversation so I can be prepared for these conversations when I get in my next serious relationship. Great content thank yall 🙏🏽

[@daijariley8681]

This is exactly what a grown and mature conversation looks and sounds like. Not everyone will understand and that’s okay. But I appreciated this episode. If you are working to build with a partner, work towards what’s conducive for the relationship instead of the things that may work against it. Consider your partner in the ways you would want to be considered. I loved what was said, “when you don’t communicate the devil narrates”. Much love to y’all men ✨🙏🏾

[@carolynmcintyre2199]

I just love how serious you guys are about your relationships, It’s so attractive! God bless 😊

[@LifeofShyy]

I think in order for someone to understand where y’all are coming from they have to first identify if they’ve been in a relationship that was serious enough to visit these ideas. Currently I’m married but even prior to that when my husband and I were dating we knew that if we wanted a future together it was important to have healthy boundaries. Love fades, and there are times where the reality of humanity kicks in, especially if you’re going through a rough patch in your relationship. Having boundaries in place to me is just another protective measure to ensure the success of your relationship. Boundaries to me are also a sign of respect in a relationship as well. Also, if you’re not ok with reasonable boundaries in a relationship then you may need to re-evaluate you’re relationship, because when you value something you respect and protect it.

[@queenlouu508]

this episode was very good! The 100% truth. People be letting everything slide and ask where things went wrong. There need to be respect and limits placed between the relationship and outside friendships.

[@NiceAndNeatThePodcast]

🥃🥃🥃

[@ThePossumone]

Whatever friends you have need to be friends of the marriage and there is ZERO secrecy or private meetings - no one who is an Ex gf or Ex bf as old flames ignite Be safe out there Don’t ruin your long term marriage over a stupid friendship

[@JayJay-vr8dc]

To comment on the emotional support part. I think you do have the capacity to be there for your friends and even family. I don't think being in a relationship stops you from being there for people you care about. Yes there's boundaries but i don't think you have to choose.

[@whitezoie12]

I fully agree with you. Duke said emotional support is a luxury, but honestly I feel like you can't be a real friend to someone if you can't be there for them emotionally if they need you in a crisis.

[@Snicklez89]

🙌🏾🙌🏾🙌🏾🙌🏾🙌🏾🙌🏾

[@nikitsakiridi385]

It's literally just what you mostly do.. if you gravitate towards your friends than your partner don't you see an imbalance there? Of course your person must let you free in a way but your freedom shouldn't hurt them in any way

[@FitnPaid]

I like how Omar said once the boundary is crossed thats now when I'm acting like the person your painting me to be... felt that

[@Thegiftofkay]

Thank you guys so much for having this conversation. You guys made this conversation look so easy, even though I’ve seen this conversation become difficult amongst friend groups many times. This is what it looks like when a group of self-aware men are all serious about their future.

[@tracijones4147]

SELF AWARE (that's the key) Facts!

[@NiceAndNeatThePodcast]

Thank you for tuning in! 🥃

[@dennisbennett123]

Y’all been on 10 with all these great topics. Y’all keep climbing more heights and beating the odds

[@Charlenespov]

You guys helped me to understand the difference between security and insecurity ❤

[@rebeccajoseph6166]

I can listen to you guys all day every day… Keep it up fellas🙌🏿

[@NiceAndNeatThePodcast]

🥃🥃🥃

[@AikiraBeats]

Watching you guys lately have been helping me change my mindset in terms of relationships and how the structure of a relationship should be built.

[@AKY3FR]

I believe a huge part of life is to build and nurture relationships. I don't think it's practical or even necessary to avoid all relationships with the non familial opposite sex because you could miss opportunists for growth and miss the opportunity to have knowledgeable people speak into your life. I believe us a people have a responsible to learn and establish healthy boundaries in every relationship. That could look like simply telling your female or male friends your expectation of them when you develop a romantic relationship with a female.

[@JB-pd3ir]

When you are in a relationship you simply should be putting the spouse first (before friends, parents, siblings). Friends and family should be respectful of their relationship. Every relationship ypu had before will change a bit because you can just not be as available emotionally and physically as before. Plus you and your spouse can be friends with the friends. This is the ideal way.

[@korqui.p]

I think ppl who have never had a real genuine friend in the opposite sex aren't ok with it and that is actually a little insecure imo. However, there's nothing wrong with boundaries but to make it seem as though men/women can't have friendships without something "slipping through the cracks" is silly. Also it's only insecure when you don't have a valid reason to dislike the friendship. The fact that the person being the opposite sex is the only reason its a problem is strange to me. Why does anyone hang out with their friends 1 on 1? It's only a compromising situation when ppl aren't being honest about the dynamic of the friendship and when everyone can't be cool ijs

[@Snicklez89]

THIS!!!!

[@Sy-8888]

I agree because it’s “bro’s before…” any other day but w/a woman it’s a complete no no? To be emotionally available doesn’t have to come with a preference because when boundaries are present and respected it doesn’t always have to end with cutting someone off, limited yes.

[@sammywilliams6]

These days? Okay 😂😂😂

[@reemcfall]

I have to agree and I guess it depends of the level of maturity as well. Unlike the label, my husband and I started dating when I was 35 and he was 39 and we both were Active Duty Air Force at the time and have had long careers all over the world. Naturally, we each knew a lot of ppl and had lots of friends of the opposite sex. Now it would have silly of us both to give up all of our friendships of the opposite sec just because we weee seriously dating and eventually married! Now that we’ve been married for 18 years, we are all friends!!!!! My male friends are like brothers to me and visa verve and yes we can talk to them respectfully with or without the other as we often do, but we do share the conversations with each other most times, but it doesn’t have to be the case always.

[@BriBorgersen]

Completely agree! In my eyes, opposite sex friendships are completely harmless if both people in the friendship have no intentions other than being FRIENDS.

[@elizabethkamara3943]

As someone who’s recently been cheated on by a girl bsf I think one of my biggest mistakes was never having the conversation boundaries need to be set because my idea of a bsf was very different and I also believe in emotional cheating if there’s things you go to her about and you feel like you can’t come to me that’s a huge problem

[@tinaj9621]

Some ppl are foul. My former boyfriend who is in the 50s age group (me, in my 40s) was very clear and agreed on boundaries and he still cheated with a friend acquaintance (their kids were friends, same school, activities, etc). I'm just glad I found out. Also, his previous gf cheated on him badly with her male friend. My former boyfriend said he truly trusted her with this guy. Just state expectations and make sure that the other person is on the same page

[@tinaj9621]

Also, what is a bsf? Just wondering 🤔 💭

[@elizabethkamara3943]

@@tinaj9621 it means best friend and that’s funny cause my ex was cheated on by all his past girlfriends 😂

[@FAITHANDSLIME]

I love the season, fellas. Much respect!

[@stevenglass86]

Boundaries ….. In black in white !! “One band one sound !!” And I’m also tired insecurity being the scape goat !! “J” hit gold though !! Opposite sex friends if at all should not be solely exclusive to you . 🔥 out the gate !!

[@NiceAndNeatThePodcast]

🥃🥃🥃

[@NicE32E]

A lot of you guys should go and watch this week's episode of Insecure. The way Taurian handled Molly's interaction with her awkward male friend (who was even her ex-lover) is the vibe. Taurian's energy = Da Rules. This possessive "my girl can't" thing sounds like something I'd hear on a high school podcast. When you're with the right person everything is just chill and you don't have to institute rules of who your spouse can and can't hang out with because they'll just move the right way at all times.

[@rashayaboston]

I just love y’all so much! Seeing black men being able to be open and transparent!

[@NiceAndNeatThePodcast]

🥃🥃🥃

[@breadwinnerd3217]

This low key wasn’t good to discuss because all three of you all had the same view. So of course y’all piggy backed & agreed with each other. There’s absolutely nothing wrong with opposite sex having hang outs, lunches, etc. of course there will be boundaries but platonic friendships are healthy… they are needed. They need to be normalized… the issues does stem from an insecure place & maybe needs to be worked on. Trust… is trusting your partner to choose the right platonic friends, female & male wise.

[@QueenColey]

Can we talk about dealing with BD/BM? How does that change things

[@Optimusksu]

The maturity on this show is on punto. I respect you gentlemen for expressing your feelings about this topic. Women DO weaponize insecurity for men. N im not even just talkn about this subject of opposite friends. Im talkn in a general sense. The maturity of this conversation allowed me to see a new perspective regarding women loosely using the word "insecure". All without disrespect, belittling, gaslighting or a shouting match lol RESPECT. #NiceandNeat

[@NiceAndNeatThePodcast]

🥃🥃🥃

[@43cassy]

Just get rid of all friends when you have a relationship and focus solely on your relationship and God. Too many distractions, spiritual energies, social media etc that already makes it difficult to maintain a relationship. Your union is sacred. Develop your soul tribe together and place respect, loyalty, God and love above anything. All the best!✨

[@charliahstarks1071]

You guys made this conversation so smooth. I’ve brought this up with my bf about having 2 female friends one of them is lesbian the other straight but I expressed to him that another female changing in front of him gay or not doesn’t make me feel secure and comfortable as his girl. Have had many talks about boundaries and actions are being taken on both sides. Definitely starts by having those awkward conversations and letting your person know what things you will and will not stand for. Can’t force what’s not meant for you ☝🏾

[@angelawebb2379]

ONE OF THE BEST PODCASTS OUT HERE!!! I'm always sharing your videos with friends. Keep up the GREAT work, I can't wait to see what you all will bring to us in 2022!

[@belledelemos9615]

What an amazing conversation, some people aren't ready for it grown folks.So much wisdom and gems, grateful for you KINGS.

[@NiceAndNeatThePodcast]

Thank you for rocking with us! 🥃

[@beverlylebogangditlhake3046]

I'll comment real quick, and elaborate some more further , I even ended the relationship because my ex couldn't reprimand or even set boundaries. The friend even went to an extent of posting pics of them two captioned "loml❤" I addressed it first ,shit didn't change 🙃, and he knew how I felt but still we had the same battle, I left the relationship simply because my feelings weren't being taken into consideration. But thank y'all once more for an insightful topic 👏. It's all love 🥃🥃all the way from South Africa 🇿🇦

[@NiceAndNeatThePodcast]

Thanks for the LOVE! 🥃🥃🥃

[@prettychunks1011]

Definitely agree with Omar's opening explanation of "it doesn't work" with exception...majority of the time it dont work."One band, One sound!!!! Yall did again fellas. Happy New and many blessings you you all🤗🥳

[@zabrinamack8443]

6 minutes in and I LOVE THIS CONVERSATION! Thank you black brothers for keeping it real. I'm so tired of the world morphing what GOD is ordaining which is ultimately COVENANT RELATIONSHIP! Please keep recording these moment this is HIGHLY MATURE!

[@BlessedByBrinae22]

Found you guys on Tik Tok and have been hooked ever since !! Loved this season btw, can’t wait to see more❤️👏🏽!!

[@NiceAndNeatThePodcast]

Welcome to the family! 🥃🥃🥃

[@BreenyLee]

This is sooooooooo good!!! Eye-opening!

[@dacies5899]

I appreciate this conversation! It definitely had a more traditional feel to it. I also realized I’m a bit bias… I was like yeah for the things men shouldn’t do and how they should conduct themselves, but when it was flipped I was like oh snap! 👀🤭 Great episode! 👏🏾👏🏾👏🏾

[@janetjohnson3790]

Real conversation hope everyone who is serious in a relationship hears this..

[@stacey8486]

This was a great episode! Thank you for explaining a little bit about your village. One day please break down how your village started and how you established the codes and also talk about any issues you may have had if any with your homie's girl.

[@nenelife2811]

I think it's great that you guys can actually touch on these topic because most people think this is normal but it's important that mature conversations can be had. Great job🎉 most people shorten their relationships time span because of this

[@karenciita_dayana]

I'm in a relationship rn & my partners want to go & meet up with his bestfriend who is a girl & I so agree with everything yall are saying & it exactly how I feel about it & I couldn't appreciate every thing yall have said coz it all so true... I am extremely worried & scared & anxious about it & yall have gave me answers on how he may be able to manage it ... I thank ya'll & love this video for yall being so authentic & transparent about it

[@Snicklez89]

Hmmmmm so I’m going to offer a very different perspective. What i noticed throughout this entire convo, which was very problematic to me, was that because y’all don’t really trust other men and don’t know their intentions you set boundaries and limitations for your partner. The reason that’s problematic is because the ROOT problem are other men but instead of checking them(or checking yourself) you check her which is not okay. This is a huge problem for women, especially black women because we are getting policed when it’s not us, it’s your counterparts who you need to be having conversations with because you know some men in this world ain’t shit and are predators. And if y’all talk to a woman, we have no problem having straight male friends. We are not the ones who grow attraction or “waiting for our opportunity” while playing the friend role. THATS MEN. Because men have been taught to think that they have to sleep with most women they come in contact with, even if they don’t even like the person. Men don’t know how to say no to sex and it’s something y’all need to unlearn and stop trying to control women on and instead talk to your male counterparts. You can’t be consciously aware that some men are the problem but still want to police women. Also, this conversation was very much giving Steve Harvey 😂. It came off very VERY controlling. A Lot of talk about being one with a partner but not wanting them or even yourself to be an individual outside the relationship and realizing they are going to have their OWN friends whether opposite sex or not. You cannot control a person in that way because eventually it’ll create resentment. Now if y’all on the same wavelength about this then kudos to y’all, but what i do know is that with this stuff women usually get the short end of the stick and go along with things they usually wouldn’t but they’re doing it for the sake of the relationship(usually because they don’t want to be single). The last thing ima touch on is single friends because there were some problematic things said there too. I really want us to STOP treating and talking about single ppl like they’re the worst ppl and will get you into all this trouble etc etc etc. that is a falsehood and unfair. There are millions of single ppl on this earth who are great ppl and mind their business. Again, y’all need to check WHO YOURE AROUND because it sounds to me like the single men you’re around are trash and have no respect and probably would still be the same in a relationship. Y’all have to realize that a trash person is a trash person, doesn’t matter if they’re single or in a relationship. Much love to y’all 💜

[@Ria19907]

Wish I could like this 1000 times 💜💜

[@letgomyego]

Agreed 💖💖💖

[@leemiller2243]

preachhhh

[@frankmonney1784]

You made some excellent points.

[@bearuchiha1428]

If your dude had a friend girl that is a dime piece (or you’re aware she just looks better than you) I GUARANTEE you nor most women alive would let that ride. Even if his intentions are pure lol. Just stop with the bull lol

[@BubblyBrie]

At the end of the day, everyone has certain preferences for their relationship. What you may be okay with another person may not. There is not right or wrong answer, it’s all about respecting the boundaries that you and your significant other have set for your relationship.

[@shawn-marielewis4534]

This topic is a little bit touchy, I think it's whatever works for your relationship tbh .. The episode was good though, it's always good to hear the different points of views.

[@NiceAndNeatThePodcast]

🥃🥃🥃

[@fashionjas4309]

The respect on both sides on this video🙌🏾. Currently going through making sure there are boundaries with my man female friend. Really feel like his friend is doing too much, especially with flirtatious words on FB from her that he had to stop her from Doing smh. 🙄 Really feel like this girl is pushing her way in on him.

[@imanijireh]

I like that Duke specified the type of relationship/people y’all talking about off rip !

[@CharlotteDelgado]

been waiting for this topic!!

[@NiceAndNeatThePodcast]

Enjoy! 🥃

[@alesiasinspiration]

I wonder how these lines get drawn and would love a convo for women who are bisexual and in a monogamous relationship. And also when it comes to the queer community in general. Can a bisexual person not have any friends?? I think a lot can be learned when we step outside of the herteronormative thought process. Not all men are predators and not all women are unable to hold boundaries and respect. It can be made clear that all friends can become friends with both people in the relationship, but I do believe people can befriend anyone. And in that friendship they will have moments where it is just the two of them. I don't believe anything is wrong with it as long as their is trust, transparency, conversation, and understanding that a friend stays in a friends place.

[@rebeccawilliams5575]

It’s great to hear these perspectives from the male perspective. They are very self aware and know how to articulate their needs and really values their relationships.

[@mikaylajohnson6017]

This was a really great episode! You all brought up some great points. Keep it going!

[@tinaj9621]

I don't find a man having an issue or imposing a mutual boundary at all regarding friends of the opposite sex. In fact, especially when it comes to this topic, I totally respect it, likely can relate to it, and find it admirable.

[@tiffanyjones3239]

Y’all should consider offering counseling sessions for couples. I know I’d be all for it. Sessions with my pastor are good in the biblical sense, but I need some real deal conversations with my fiancé with smart intelligent men like the three of y’all. Great podcast too by the way.

[@NiceAndNeatThePodcast]

Thank you 🥃🥃🥃

[@MartyMar-yk1ik]

I love these guys clarity.

[@maryade4416]

Love the convos you guys have. Please consider having longer seasons the 12 weeks go too fast for my liking.

[@91WriterzStatus]

I just stumbled upon this podcast. I really like the flow of the show. Y'all are really chill and have great thought provoking questions to produce a different pov.

[@lano5398]

Let's goo! I've been waiting on this episode. About to lock in!

[@babygirl4949]

I wish there was someone on the show that felt differently with this topic bc there were some holes or some places that I would have liked some pushback for more clarity.

[@aritalkstech]

It's interesting bc a lot of women like to have extra men hanging around I see a lot of pushback in the comments but I think it boils down to personal accountability. If your man is protecting, providing, and everything else why wouldn't you want to hold yourself in a way that demands respect for him and you. Even single, too many men hanging around is weird you can feel the sexual energy. No man JUST wants to be your friend esp if you look really good. Just their nature.

[@43cassy]

💯💯💯💯💯💯

[@ambitiousjamie1563]

My Pastor says Emotional support should not be exchanged between the opposite sex

[@Sungoddessz]

Trust is everything in a relationship. If you trust your partner, you shouldn’t have an issue with them having a friend of the opposite gender. Nipsey said “You cannot posses people, you can only experience them.” Period 💯

[@garnerbuckleyjr.5452]

You can trust till kingdom come..it means nothing to the person who is cheating...

[@minnie5301]

As somebody who is a little older, I always " trusted" my partners and never had boundaries. All of them cheated with their friends

[@mahoudakamara1858]

This was a good topic I learn something new listening to this podcast!!

[@NiceAndNeatThePodcast]

🥃🥃🥃

[@keepingupwithmisskrysjones2954]

Excellent take on etiquette and boundaries from a healthy masculine male prospective. The breakdown was perfect. A lot of us don’t know the real difference between being with a healthy masculine man vs. feminine “men” or unhealthy which is, in fact, controlling. This is not.

[@jadelydiana132]

with time spent emotions grow period. Whether you believe that or not. It's not about possessiveness or control. its respect care and love isnt that the point of a relationship? Its an exchange of vulnerablility between 2 people, if youre giving that to a friend of thr opposite sec what's the point? I don't disagree with them. Boundaries and etiquette is needed. Why? Because you would have chaos and complications without them. Yall know how that Usher song goes (you make me wanna) Some people don't understand the purpose of dating. This is simple foundation building for marriage. 🤸🏾‍♀️ that's just me though

[@43cassy]

💯💯💯💯

[@carolynmcintyre2199]

Jaylon’s haircut is sharp 😍

[@makaylabridge5020]

Love this podcast. Ya’ll have found a niche in the market. Keep going !! 👌🏽

[@divinefemininesagittarius]

❤❤❤ I really appreciate this! It's refreshing to get grown men perspectives that just get it . I'm definitely subscribing to your channel! Thank you

[@lashyiamichael3184]

If y’all haven’t already discuss work wives and work husbands

[@NIKKIB-p3z]

I just fell in love with yall podcast this my first time watching and I love the point of views and conversations. Keep doin yall thing!

[@NiceAndNeatThePodcast]

Love!! 🥃

[@purplepurposee]

I hate that male friend nonsence once I'm in the picture u need too put that friendship aside and limit that relationship to a minimum. With a list of boundries !!!!

[@BuildingFaithWith_CoachRo]

I’ve been waiting on this topic!!!!! Considering I have a super close guy best friend!!!

[@NiceAndNeatThePodcast]

🥃🥃🥃

[@megayummyrockstar]

Now they had some sense on this one

[@ashleymoua27]

This was so refreshing to hear this conversation

[@bernyjamesbaffoe417]

In my personal opinion, some ladies throw the word “insecure” when they are loving the attention or pandering they are getting from whoever. Respect is the key to this!

[@NiceAndNeatThePodcast]

🥃🥃🥃

[@swagQue]

Great episode fellas 🥃🥃🥃

[@joeltl25]

Loved this episode🔥💪🏾

[@arkeitowhite7493]

This subject is not tricky. It’s cool to have friends of the opposite sex but there should be boundaries for the purpose of respect

[@courtneywalls5655]

Does the same rules apply even if the woman is a lesbian. You guys touched on situations involving the male to be gay but what of the female sexual preference is different?

[@jenaye6912]

this was such a great conversation!

[@bebejones2087]

Game changing conversations!

[@Demise09732]

Going to clubs is also a red flag too, also friendships that were there before you and you find out that yhe 2 or more of those guyfriends had feelings for your girl at the beginning of their friendship since they were in their teens, do you guys consider them red flags too?

[@FaithtalkswithDex]

Glad y’all had this conversation

[@NiceAndNeatThePodcast]

🥃🥃🥃

[@suzy1843]

wow, 3 mature responsible handsome men. there is hope.

[@foreignbaby2878]

Wow that episode was fire 🔥❤️❤️❤️❤️❤️❤️

[@NiceAndNeatThePodcast]

🥃🥃🥃

[@tinaj9621]

I agree with Omar, well the gentleman who was first questioned. I don't really think it works either. 🤷🏽‍♀️ and I just rather not. In a heterosexual relationship, I'm super ok with him having close, or good male friends especially if they're some solid guys too,but women and being cool, close, not so much (if fam, that is cool too). I'm confident enough to say that. Everyone has things their leary about from parenting, work, dating, relationships. That's just mine. 😊 And it's okay not to be okay and rather not deal with some stuff.

[@ambitiousjamie1563]

Currently binge watching Nice & Neat!

[@SowNowWhat]

Relationships come before friendships. Period. I say this applies to same sex platonic friendships. Some of y’all worried about your man’s homegirls when you should be concerned about his homeboys. IYKYK

[@soothingsounds9415]

Seriously when is this podcast returning, everyday I hope a new episode pops up 😩

[@TegaOveros]

Why can’t your girl hang out with her male friend, who she’s been friends with before meeting you as a partner? That’s sounds controlling much if you can’t allow her do her because she’s in a relationship with you. Also, it screams lack of trust for your partner. You might as well follow her 24/7.

[@Mimi8402]

It’s about maintaining boundaries and mitigating risks.

[@TegaOveros]

@@Mimi8402 there are better ways of creating boundaries than being controlling. Some of their conversations sounded controlling but I guess it works for them. You can create healthy boundaries by allowing your girl be her and interact with her friends be it males or females, Vice versa.

[@Mimi8402]

@@TegaOveros different strokes for different folks, I don’t think it’s appropriate to be emotionally bonding with another man while in a serious relationship or marriage. That level of intimacy should be reserved for your partner. Now being friendly, associates etc is fine, but there is a limit.

[@TegaOveros]

@@Mimi8402 nobody talking about emotional involvement that’s meant for your partner with some else. Like I said, Healthy boundaries are encouraged with friends when you are in a relationship but likewise, my partner should trust me enough that I won’t be out there jeopardizing/ tarnishing our relationship.

[@Mimi8402]

We’ll agree to disagree.

[@JM1993951]

I think it is pretty black and white. You can have a friend group. But if you find yourself spending time alone with a friend of the opposite sex rather than your partner, time that could be spent with the person you love….that’s a problem. Regardless of how jealous your partner is about it, you shouldn’t even want that emotional connection strong enough to spend solo time with someone at the expense of spending time with your partner. At that point you are actively welcoming a threat and not considering the feelings and needs of your partner. A man is going to want to be with his woman if he’s serious about her, not her giving that time to another man. If you want to spend time with a friend, make an effort to include your partner. It shouldn’t be one on one. That’s emotional intimacy.

[@43cassy]

💯💯💯💯

[@Battleofblogs]

It’s sad u hv to disown friends to be in a relationship

[@tatianadaniel3569]

u don't have to disown the friends. If the person you're with isn't comfortable with it, don't be in a relationship with them. The other person has a right to be in a relationship in which their partner isn't betraying their boundaries.

[@KingBruckz]

They can’t let go because they got Soul ties😂. Probably fuckin when you turn your back.

[@devin3607]

You guys are right. Good talk. If you want me to be committed. It means by definition we arent gonna be 1 on 1 hanging with opposite sex "friends."

[@Iamkeithfitten]

“Oh you got a real good one here!” Lolol

[@breannstewart9123]

It would be wonderful to hear this perspective from a DATING lens. Red flag of an opposite sex B.F.

[@Beautylove36]

Can y’all discuss whether or not men would still cuff a woman if she twerks on social media?

[@NiceAndNeatThePodcast]

That’s a communication thing … twerking is a part of some cultures

[@maryburton9308]

Enjoyed watching and hearing you all point of view.

[@Whoistiffanynicole]

Love it fellas 🔥

[@nonealike]

You know how many women keep in touch with guys they’ve had sexual relations with? 🤦🏾‍♂️😄 Now present day the guys title is “friend”. Gtfoh lol. Or they’ll have orbiters (who might actually be their friends) around who made passes at them in the past 🤦🏾‍♂️. Those be the ones they wanna introduce as friends too lol. Cut it out!

[@43cassy]

😂💯

[@Gypsymumma90]

This makes so much sense

[@PathllDiscovery]

Y'all need some grown man drinking glasses with the Nice and Neat Podcast logo on them. Ok gentleman. #NiceandNeatMerch

[@NiceAndNeatThePodcast]

Yes we do! 🥃

[@everydayfinesse9988]

I’m fairly ok with old friendships obviously with rules and respect. And you have to actively include me in everything. Now you shouldn’t have ANY NEW male friends. What situation are you in where you’re setting yourself up where you getting close to new men in your life. Doesn’t make sense. My 2 cents