Meet the In-laws: Criticized by Asian Parents

[@OrientalPearl]

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[@theunknownunknowns256]

Can you, at some point, slip in the correct prononciation of Minako Honda. Is it me, meh, mi, my? I'm confused. Famous Japanese singer.

[@freezedeve3119]

so family meeting is actually fan meeting?

[@Nikohhh04]

This is probably your most personal video to date. Love it.

[@OrientalPearl]

I’m so glad that you like these personal videos.

[@slskslsl-w8k]

​@@OrientalPearlYo orphanage

[@slskslsl-w8k]

​@@OrientalPearlYou better watch your damn mouth mother fucker

[@slskslsl-w8k]

​@@OrientalPearlJust fuck back to your planet Mars if you're stupid don't be a disgrace

[@TheJoaveck]

@@slskslsl-w8k You must be a special kind of sad to waste so much energy on things you don't like. I can see all your racist comments to this page, kiddo. And I will report you. I bet you still life with your parents because no woman would ever like to date you.

[@AngelaVEdwards]

They may not go around saying “I love you” but it’s obvious that the love is there. His parents are precious. 💖

[@salmonetesnonosquedan8345]

This American thing of saying "i LOVE you" to everybody is really annoying, soo fake

[@AllUpOns]

@@salmonetesnonosquedan8345 It's not fake though. Just a different way of expressing the same feeling.

[@-Jakob-]

@@salmonetesnonosquedan8345 they just love having facades in front of/instead of everything. But there's always a backdrop.

[@adwood201]

@@-Jakob- I think that is a major problem in our western society, too much two faced fakery.

[@ScoobyDoo-xu6oi]

​@@salmonetesnonosquedan8345 It's the Western European/North American perception of love, and among all the cultures of the world they're to the first to mistreat and cut every relationship with their parents once they reach adulthood. On the contrary, in cultures where parents are almost sacred, children will almost never tell their parents they love them, and yet they still profoundly and unconditionally love them, will support them financially, and take care of them until they die.

[@cats_ARE_better_than_you]

Tommy is such a good sport. He's teased relentlessly about his choice of pillow, his ability to throw and drive, and even his birthday suit but he always seems to take it in stride. This was such a fun and wholesome adventure. Thanks for sharing.

[@OrientalPearl]

As the oldest boy and only child of the family, he has gotten used to it. lol

[@heythave]

It’s maybe that this personality of letting things roll off of you that has allowed him to be with a spouse who is from such a different background. People who are sticky with rules from your own culture will find a faults in a foreign spouse because he/she has unwittingly offended them a thousand times.

[@TonyRoss-n6v]

My wife is from Japan and it is the same family dynamic as you saw in this video. I think it is a cultural thing, but teasing shows closeness. You are part of the inner family circle and can be honest about each other’s faults in a fun way. And I think it is usually the husbands who bear the brunt of it from what I have seen. My interpretation of the traditional Japanese family is that the father in law is the honoured retired man who has supported the family for years and is too tired for any more teasing - he has performed his role and is exempt. The mother in law has been the backbone of the family and is in high regard, the wife is the patient rock who supports her husband and runs the household, and therefore the husband is the lowest in the hierarchy and is under close scrutiny to ensure he does his duty to keep the home and family successful by not spending frivolously, drinking too much, eating junk food, being on time for work etc. just my observations. I don”t think the teasing was simply because Tommy is the child, because I get it too as a foreigner as do all the other husbands I have seen. But it is a good kind of teasing.

[@OrientalPearl]

@@TonyRoss-n6v that’s exactly how Tommy’s family is for sure.

[@PedroGonzalez11111]

@@TonyRoss-n6vhow awful, if accurate

[@jimross7648]

I didn't see Alyssa getting grilled by Tommy's parents. I did however, see Tommy getting roasted by both his parents and his wife during the trip. Tommy just mans up and takes it all with a smile. Nice video.

[@OrientalPearl]

Ha ha, so far they haven’t grilled me about anything. Wait until we have kids one that for that I guess. So far I’m in the clear.

[@petergustafsson1670]

@@OrientalPearl Well, if you give them lots of grandchildren, then you should be in the clear! Get working on it!

[@PedroGonzalez11111]

@@petergustafsson1670this sort of backwards mentality doesn’t help anyone

[@PedroGonzalez11111]

What lurks behind a smile?

[@marcydrake9159]

@@PedroGonzalez11111geez Pedro 🤷‍♀️

[@pinka3702]

Honestly his parents seem quite welcoming.

[@heythave]

Yes.

[@BradYaateeh.]

and they are adorable people.

[@markusmayer7956]

Indeed. They certainly are. Very sweet folks.

[@pacificprospector]

I like them.

[@russellward4624]

But the mom is definitely a dragon lady lol

[@SweetAshGamer]

aww Tommy's dad wished for wealth for you and Tommy! That was too cute!

[@harleymac6308]

Tommy is so sweet. You're a wonderful couple. His parents are amazing ❤

[@OrientalPearl]

Aww, thank you.

[@ScottsdaleSushi]

I cannot help but hope you two have a baby some day. Would love to watch his parents spoil their grandchild. (I am a Grandma & love it).

[@toucan8898]

These personal vlogs are so wholesome. I love it!

[@OrientalPearl]

Aww, thank you. These are always my favorite to film and edit.

[@astralpolice]

Been a subscriber for years. I love every single video Tommy is in. I love y’all as a couple. Also my parents are just like his. “Cut your hair”, “you woke up how late?”, “did you get fired?”. No mom I work at night! Love my mom and dad though and Tommy’s parents are great.

[@mamachicken1548]

LOL!!

[@crush_override]

Even with him being naked?

[@iggstr]

Feel sorry for Tommy - you digging him out about everything. The guy just wants a bit of peace and quiet (all us guys do). Tommy's the main man 💪

[@pafkatata]

Yeah shes kinda nasty. Dont know if he likes it.

[@Magnet12]

You’re doing very very important work by putting these videos out because you are very unique, so please keep doing what you’re doing

[@jaall7280]

I loved every second of the video. Thanks for taking us there with you!!!❤❤❤❤

[@OrientalPearl]

@@jaall7280 aww, that makes me so happy.

[@BethDoublekickChick]

Mum's face asking Tommy about work, getting fired, haircuts, was so serious, typical Ma! 😅 I try not to be that way with musuko but sometimes I cannot help it! Such a fun video 🤘 PS my son just spent his second day in Japan enjoying the Sarawa Autumn Festival, He literally said it was the best day of his life, he met alot of elderly people, and an 81 yr old gentleman insisted on paying for his curry dinner after they had been seated together in a busy restaurant 😮🥰💖 One theme that has jumped out at me today is the Japanese elders are very wise and their wisdom should be cherished ❤

[@heythave]

Which city does this festival take place at? I was at the Gion Matsuri festival in Kyoto this past July.

[@typicalstormtroo3492]

Finally another Tommy and parents video, please more of these their amazing

[@OrientalPearl]

@@typicalstormtroo3492 sorry to keep you waiting so long. I’d love to make more of these soon.

[@typicalstormtroo3492]

@@OrientalPearl the relationships is just amazing and Tommy’s dad is so wise keep it up.

[@saschaeuler7883]

I can't agree more than that

[@henrykfu]

Oriental Pearl brings energy and joy to the family. As an Asian parent, I would like that.

[@jeremyemilio9378]

I'd not like that..too loud too much energy

[@reneepasich]

This was such a fun video to watch. I would have a hard time, because I am a BIG hugger and I tell people I love them all the time. At 67 years old, I don’t think that will change. Tommy’s parents are the cutest!!

[@JustinsDreamArt]

What a cute couple! Much love to you from Arkansas,USA.🥰

[@sandyquinn491]

I'm glad you have found such love amongst mixed peoples. :) I am learning Japanese through Pimsleur. I like saying I love you and cuddling people- I will seem "touchy" to others. LOL looking forward to continued content. Thanks you!

[@imcnagpc2]

Poor Tommy. He seemed bummed out over the “keep your clothes on “ bit. 😮😮

[@rachelmiller3620]

Yeah that was kinda mean to say to your significant other😞

[@mrneveradullmoment]

@@rachelmiller3620 It was not. LOL.

[@rachelmiller3620]

@@mrneveradullmoment You don't think it's mean to imply that the person you're with is unattractive? Couples should build each other up in my opinion. Even if you tease each other it should never be about things like physical appearance, things they can't change, or things they might be insecure about. Think about what that does to someone's self-esteem; little jabs add up.

[@markusmayer7956]

Poor Tommy! 3 against 1. 😂 He needs to snatch the car keys next time and make everybody ride with him while he is driving. These trips look like a precious family tradition.

[@lionsborn]

@orientalpearl this is so wholesome. I enjoy these family clips alot more than anything on YT. Tiny cars just keep everyone so close literally and figuratively ❤ Here’s to no fighting between you and the inlaws ever 🎊

[@OrientalPearl]

@@lionsborn I’m glad you find these videos fun and wholesome.

[@yamadakenji4143]

I think you're putting Tommy down to much. He seems very chillaxed about it but these things can build up and everyone has a breaking point, even if they're Japanese. But being Japanese they will be hesitant to say something about before they've really had it.

[@BradYaateeh.]

Always brightens my day when you present a new video.

[@martcp71]

Wow, a whole episode of Tommy getting thrown under the bus! I liked it. His parents seem really sweet.

[@OrientalPearl]

Tommy was having a blast. He likes being roasted by the ones he loves.

[@rosebud-ame]

@@OrientalPearlAre you sure? 😀

[@brudzool]

@@rosebud-ame my thoughts exactly.....gotta let up sometime

[@dragonsember]

His mom reminds me of my mom! "Did you eat breakfast on time? You should cut your hair! Don't spend so much money!" Moms never stop mothering lol

[@squealerpig]

@@brudzooli get what you're saying but she dotes on him

[@Choctaw_Dude]

You guys are such a cute couple. Actually, your whole family is cute.

[@gillianbc]

This was so lovely to see you with your husband and his family. Your in-laws are lovely.

[@KyaJimenez]

The way Tommy is flexing his muscles when you said he’s sad 😂. I hope they all subscribe now😂

[@OrientalPearl]

@@KyaJimenez maybe this will finally convince them.

[@alexbroszeit2335]

Early! Thank you for all the kindness you share, pearl ☺

[@Desolate1]

Thank you for such an adorable video, your family is precious!❤

[@OrientalPearl]

You are so kind

[@mehreenn]

Loved this vlog! What a happy lil family 🥰❤️

[@mercurybird9711]

Love videos like this! Thanks for sharing your trip with us!

[@shadowdraqon2479]

9:05-9:23 i can confirm this is also true for Chinese, we take “talk is cheap” and “actions speak louder than words” to a whole new level

[@torakwarius]

I really enjoyed this video. The scenery is gorgeous! His okasan and otosan are so cute, and there was so much love without having to say it :)

[@Daergarz]

"You can drive whenever you want, but I'm not getting in that car." Ouch, that hurt me in *my* manhood!

[@jeanettejeanette1199]

I bet secretly Tommy's Dad will be treasuring that hug haha He just wouldn't admit it haha. I really love these kinds of videos, they're so fun to watch :) I love seeing you and Tommy together - you guys are such a cute couple :)

[@AMmporter]

You and his parents need to do more things together. I loved this. His parents crack me up. His mother is like me😂😂😂

[@andrewhoneycutt7427]

A very wholesome video 👍

[@Matheus-tq5vu]

9:59 "What was that? Be stronger. Why are you so weak?" 😂 Poor Tommy was bullied throughout the whole video

[@OrientalPearl]

Tommy dishes out the punches more than anyone else lol

[@vikkibutler8255]

You are a good content creator generally, but I especially love the videos with you and Tommy together. I like to see you happy and exploring.

[@OrientalPearl]

That means a lot to me because I like making these videos the best.

[@dealman3312]

Hilarious and enjoyable video. 😂Thanks for putting together this family vlog! Tommy has cool hair, he should keep it long

[@jimdiamond8246]

Tommy knows what the gig is all about.its good he helps out with your channel .a sign of a really good man .

[@rebelwithoutaclue5693]

6:42 I was raised by the saying “kids are to be seen and not heard” or “speak when spoken to” era and I have manners and show common courtesy to everyone.

[@lauren_was_here_8]

i LOVE this video so much! i love his parents!!! so cute! What a blessing to have them and tommy in your life. great people !

[@breezeh1127]

This video is the best. I couldn't stop laughing about the car ride!😂 I think it's adorable to see you both enjoy the bath together and joke around and be a couple. I feel like Tommy's parents must be more open than most to raise such a sweet, funny, accepting and loving young man. You two are a perfect match and I think they know that too❤❤

[@furball192]

Your vlog type videos are so cute! We love watching your videos❤

[@morganfaye93]

I feel like it’s hard for them all not to love you. You’re so good-natured! Great vid!! ❤

[@OrientalPearl]

Aww, thank you so much Morgan.

[@alexandraazure]

This is honestly my favorite type of content from you boo and I’ve been a subscriber from damn near day one. Happy to see more of this!!

[@OrientalPearl]

Thanks Alex. I’m glad you like these videos best. I enjoy making these the most.

[@Bwa]

This is the most funniest video i seen you do yet 😂 it’s funny how you push boundaries with his family never done by Tommy. More funny family videos !

[@bookworm67-hv7nm]

dude your pure evil setting his mum on him like that it's funny though🤣🤣🤣🤣😈😈😈🤣🤣🤣

[@OrientalPearl]

We do this every time. It’s like a family tradition lol

[@LadyChaos1992]

alt title: "Alyssa, Mom, and Dad pick on Tommy" lol

[@michaelashley2855]

You’re

[@TheworldiseffdUP]

The way you always touch Tommy shows how much you love him, and he doesn't seem to mind. ❤

[@xenite8555]

You and his family are so sweet together. Love your videos

[@robertthomas6127]

Videos like pictures are much nicer when they are natural....This was one of them. Greetings to all of you. 👋👋👋👋

[@Alpha_Sigma01]

Wonderful video! ❤🎉

[@christiansmith808]

Great video! Loved seeing everyone enjoying being together. I kept smiling and laughing through the whole video!

[@OrientalPearl]

Thank you Christina. I’m glad you enjoyed this one.

[@DennyRic]

Y’all are so cute. Glad you have such a sweet relationship with his family.

[@twangbarfly]

I have watched a couple of your videos after stumbling onto your site this afternoon. They have been a real eye-opener - so much fun and so informative, and completely infused with your own great personality which brings out a great response from those you talk to. It's not simply a question of speaking the language of people from a different culture, it's having the skills and the knowledge to bring big smiles to their faces and great joy to their hearts. You are doing a fantastic job as a cultural ambassador there - I subscribed at once and look forward to watching more of your amazing adventures and interactions! Thank you for this!

[@---nd2yx]

Eh…. You guys are almost certainly joking, and your dynamic is your dynamic and I’m just some random person on the internet, but from the outside looking in it seems like you guys give Tommy a really hard time and throw lots of small, mostly intended as harmless insults at him and he just sits there and takes it and never says anything negative about any of you in return. I bet on some level it hurts or bothers him more than zero, even if it’s not his personality to ever express that.

[@OrientalPearl]

It’s just for the video.

[@vincenteng7473]

It’s wonderful to see how well you get along with the in-laws. Think it helps that you are fluent in Japan to communicate with them.

[@OrientalPearl]

I’m really glad you like these family videos.

[@Topher_Knows]

​ @OrientalPearl If you made your content more like this, I would rather watch you two explore doing this kind of stuff than binge watch most TV shows. This is excellent! Great work, and glad to see you are enjoying life!

[@kendrickkx]

Amazing video and such a funny video. Thx for sharing

[@OrientalPearl]

Thanks for always being here.

[@em1osmurf]

i don't follow to learn japanese, i just watch this because it is such a delight. no shock, no violence, no schlock, just Good Stuff. thank you!

[@esagirl56]

❤Thank you and your Japanese family for keeping it real! Hoping to see more of you all together.

[@OrientalPearl]

Thanks for watching. I’m so glad you enjoyed it.

[@dulcetesbrasil]

I love those videos where you show the family and have a vlog and a walk.They are my favorites ❤

[@OrientalPearl]

Thank you. These are my favorite to make.

[@janicelaurin7263]

Fun family video! I was laughing so hard when Tommy said, "I love you" to his father 😅 His parents are so nice. Thanks for sharing the family trip.

[@OrientalPearl]

Thanks for joining us.

[@wekker090]

Love these vids, great parents by the way,.

[@sialo1]

Not only is there love for y’all as kids, but your MIL is lowkey proud of you. I could sense it. No need for it to be said.

[@mariekanemaru4914]

I can totally relate! My husband is also Japanese and at first I was worried they wouldn't react well to me not being one when I first met them when we were still dating. But they were actually so welcoming and once I was part of the family, our topics (let's say 'criticism') wasn't on me but on my husband. My mother-in-law especially treats me very well and every time we meet she always has a little something for me (treats or a little gift). I love my husband's family.

[@kennisrensen7983]

pearl you are a good light in a no so positive world. i really want to visit japan, but i am a little scarad about not knowing so much japanese. :)

[@skipcool5317]

More content like this! This is what I subscribed to see

[@OrientalPearl]

I would love to. I wish more people liked these videos than the langauge reactions, because I’d prefer to make these instead.

[@Mobik_]

You're just bullying Tommy at this point in the car LMAO 😂

[@janicem9225]

She seems to do that a lot, to be honest.

[@LadyChaos1992]

yay, more Tommy! He and his parents are so sweet and adorable! I'd love to see more videos with Tommy and his parents! Japanese people are shy when it comes to expressing their true feelings. I guess they don't want to express anything that could inconvenience their partner? In American culture, that would be seen as lack of communication.

[@lassam333]

Poor Tommy for being roasted that much. Glad that you have a good relationship with your in-laws. I remember Nagano for hosting the Olympic Winter Gmes in 1998.

[@BookNerd4Music]

When you first met Tommy's dad and he was watching KZbin videos to learn English so he can better understand you, I thought that was the sweetest gesture. And he was you first channel member?! Not surprised. He's the best.

[@Even-Steven]

Tommy's face after he tells his dad he loves him 🤣

[@OrientalPearl]

He has the most hilarious facial expressions.

[@Matthew.Morycinski]

In US and Canada, "I love you" is of course not exclusively an expression of love. It may mean friendship or simply appreciation. In many other cultures, it is exclusively for loving relationships, and saying it is a very private thing to do. It's changing now in many countries such as Poland that are part of the greater European culture, but still clearly a new custom borrowed from America. It feels somewhat odd to me and my wife, being Polish-Canadians in our 60s, when a best friend says it to us over the phone - even though we love her too.

[@tamousha]

The whole thing about the expensive pillow was funny. Especially the parents reaction regarding the price. Watched over and over

[@natevizzi2901]

The pillow conversation 🤣🤣🤣, omg this is sooooo funny lolol , just like everyone’s reaction

[@OrientalPearl]

It was one of those candid moments. I’m glad you could share it with us.

[@theodoredodge]

Thank you for the video. Love the Michigan sweatshirt -- Go Blue!!!!!!

[@blkbass1958]

Girl, take it easy on Tommy. He's taking a lot of unko.

[@OrientalPearl]

Ha ha, the funny thing is Tommy dishes it right back out even worse.

[@breebrat56]

I’ve only watched up to 0:57 & I’ll watch the entire video. Without knowing anything about his parents but seeing you both over many years, I think his parents are amazing just like he is. ❤ He is half of each of them, & they raised him well. ❤

[@OrientalPearl]

I have the best in-laws.

[@stephanieallangarman5598]

I enjoy your family and yes, even the Chinese roommate’s vlogs. I’m happy you have such a fun family Anming. Tommy is a great 😌 partner and he hugged and told his parents that he loves ❤them both. . He’s so honest, “NOT EVERY DAY”. I love my daughters too but sometimes they don’t show up daily. You two are hilarious 💪🏼. Great memories shared. Thank you for sharing this one. I love the Japanese GG “XG” and the leader is from the NOGANO. It’s beautiful there. I bought my oldest daughter a small white snake with turquoise eyes. I got it on another Indigenous Reservation in the US. I’m also Indigenous American but it’s interesting to know what various animals represent in JAPAN 🇯🇵.

[@darrencochrane1676]

Amazing channel and video. We are in Japan for the next week visiting. So nice in the fall. Oktoberfest 😅

[@ChristopherWanha]

Bath seemed like invasion of privacy to record in there. Outside of that, It's interesting to see the family dynamics.

[@BartLawrenceGU671]

You and your family are a KZbin treasure! 🎉

[@ayushmourya2831]

They are very happy to see you 😁

[@mavelous1763]

Such wonderful videos. She and Tommy are wonderful together

[@OrientalPearl]

Aww, thank you.

[@maralisil]

I hit "like" when you kids were in the onsen! 😁

[@katdimauro9369]

Dude! Best vid yet! The 1 that got me to sub❤❤❤

[@brianchamberlin7572]

Awesome. Thank you for sharing something from your family. Good to know the differences in culture.

[@OrientalPearl]

Thanks for watching Brian. We really enjoyed this trip.

[@W4EMB]

Again, smiles on our face for the whole video.... Thanks for taking us on your trip and thank you to your in-laws for allowing you to share private time as well.

[@kellymahmud2116]

love this. The Michigan Hoodie makes it even better. Go Blue!

[@sonyamastick]

Tommy and parents videos are some of my favorites!

[@johnrobinson4445]

My in-laws were VERY welcoming. I always felt they were "on my side".

[@ahmedsalim571]

I expect nothing less from dad “ I’ve been using this pillow for ten years” 😂

[@mistersurrealist]

I was laughing so much with you two, Tommy seems like a great guy. 😀

[@boomshakarlaka7237]

I love Matsumoto castle. We went last year when my mom came to visit. It’s great for picture taking and cool stamps. Nice to go in the castle, also.

[@colinfloyd2385]

Having grown up with Japanese exchange students in the 80’s outside of Boston I can relate to the societal differences. I was young and had a blast getting to know each person and the difference of our customs. Still miss my friend Junto.

[@picklerick1948]

Great video! Life is truly amazing!

[@OrientalPearl]

Thank you so much.

[@johnnyalegria]

Great video love the interaction with family! Love from San Diego!

[@OrientalPearl]

Thanks for watching! Sending love to San Diego.