Our adoption story | how we adopted our sons from foster care

[@ajs8186]

Thank you for sharing your family story.❤

[@Flylittlebirds]

I appreciate 🙏 you watching!

[@SinclaXavier]

thanks a lot for letting us know about your story it really helped me a lot in my situations that I ve been through ... cause I am also 54 woman raising 8,9,and 10 years old daughters( I mean me and my husband ) and we have been having some difficult times to deal with their stories ....but on the other i feel like it IS our mission And we want to obey GOD ANYWAYS . KISSES FROM AN ADOPTIVE MOM IN BRAZIL .

[@Flylittlebirds]

Yes, it can be so tough, but really worth it in the end x

[@christinehoffman1825]

Beauty from Ashes ❤❤❤

[@Flylittlebirds]

Yes, that's right, Christine

[@marymitchell4617]

Hi, Nyree..I unexpectadly got a visit from the government stork last week. My cousin's daughter is 15 years old. I'll call her "Rose". I've been involved since she was little, but her stepmother died last year & her dad, my cousin, was not coping well. He never did, but it became really bad this year. Their house was filthy, uninhabitable & dad was combative, uncooperative & resentful, not physically abusive but definitely psychologically abusive & neglectful of Rose. My niece was clearly traumatized & not in a good place at all. She's smart & talented, a wonderful girl, but definitely has issues, survival instincts, really. Her childhood was riddled with unbelievably traumatic events, her dad drank heavily & her stepmother shot him after 2 weeks married, which Rose witnessed,when she was only 4. He survived, but it never got much better, no charges filed, stayed together as a family, until stepmother died. There were many alcoholic dramas,, but dad did quit drinking after he severely burned himself & her stepmother. Rose witnessed all of this. She uses food as comfort, hoards it; she's an unhealthy, overweight girl, she doesn't shower, and rarely changes her clothes. Already has had suicide attempts in her teens. She can be very manipulative, defiant & well, snotty. But she also has a sense of humor, joy, a beautiful laugh, a beautiful singing voice, a kindness, a wisdom, and big, lovely blue eyes that are going blind because her birth mother used drugs during her pregnancy. Our situation here is unusual. It's my 89 year old mom, my son, sister & brother In law. We're musicians, artists & trades people who support each other & love each other. Money is tight, all that. The love is real, but we don't do any phony fake stuff, it's very down to earth here, so this is where we are with Rose, and Nyree, I'm gonna lose my everloving mind. That's how I feel tonight, after working all day, and the whole thing, won't bore you with more details, but I'm not sure I can do it, but I'm not letting her go either, we're all she's got. I look up helpful advice & it's all advocating for the parents, but her dad could give a s.... I'm mad, tired, overwhelmed, but I know me, I'll keep going because I love Rose. But between the state, the immediate family who have their 2 cents but offer no help, and the stack of other life stuff, I tell ya, I have faith but I feel defeated today. Defeated. Anybody have any advice? Without guilting me?

[@Flylittlebirds]

So, just to be clear, they are asking you to have her? Or do you already have her? If you are trying ti deliberate, about whether to move forward and take her on, then there can be no guilt in this. Its clear you will be taking on a life changing situation. The sacrifice will be huge. So, it's important to way up your resilience levels as a family unit. I'm sure you will wrestle with it, but listen to the inner voice!!! You can't be guilt tripped into it, but at the same time, some people do just have what it takes. Feel free to get in touch with me on IG nyreeflylittlebirds

[@marymitchell4617]

@@Flylittlebirds Thanks so much for your response!!Yes, she's living here, as of Monday. I'll contact you on the address you sent, too, so appreciate that. And - What I meant by the "guilt" reference was this; it is not guilt that I'm feeling in regards to her, there are family members who have not shown an interest in her welfare, who have the resources, etc. but no desire to help her, & who are offering their opinions & casting doubt & negativity on ours situation. The guilt part is from her paternal grandmother, who has implied that I'm burdening my 89 yr old mom, which is not the case. I've already responded to them & clarified that this is not the case, my mom is a tough woman, healthy & caring, who loves Rose. Also, I take full responsibility for her care, and would appreciate their support without the negative assumptions & opinions thrown in. Yes, it's a big, sudden change, but this girl has been through hell. She needs a chance, to know she MATTERS, is CARED for & LOVED, and I've made a commitment to her. I'm tough too, been through enough to know that love has got to be the goal here. I think that's our job, and we'll be given the strength, I have faith in that. Thanks so much, Nyree; last night was rough, I was questioning myself & dwelling on the "what ifs" & the chorus of negativity from others. I worked it out inside!!

[@Flylittlebirds]

@@marymitchell4617 it’s extremely hard not to let others opinions affect you. But it sounds like you’ve got this! I agree, she deserves to be in a loving environment. I’m sure there will be times when you feel out of your depth. I do every day 😆 but there are a lot of rewarding times too! Keep in touch.