Our differences | Marriage culture shock between Kenya and DR Congo | My thoughts

[@veeluendo]

Correction: It's now been 17 years 😁🙆🏽‍♀️🙈 We landed here in 2008

[@paulomondi-gp1hk8ng6t]

Hi Vee, I just subscribed because you are my "in-law". Luos we used to eat cassava leaves, but this ended many years back - may be early 80s. Now, about your dad coming to your house - I understand why your hubby was uncomfortable. For Luos, in-laws "maro" are highly revered. A man shouldn't carelessly interact with his parent in-law, especially mother in law....you get the point? But I like it that you have been able to mix your two cultures. And by the way, I think Luos are the most flexible community when to comes to accepting and appreciating other people's cultures, so you are in safe hands. If Congo girls are like you, the please help me get a Congo lady to marry😆😆😆

[@veeluendo]

Hello Paul and thank you for this information, I didn't know that! Hehe let me ask the ones I know if they'd be interested 😅 thanks for watching. I appreciate it.

[@MichaelOdunga-ug8xe]

Inlaw keep it up will support you good content semegi

[@veeluendo]

Thank you very much! 🙏🏽

[@graceawuor8230]

Hey, mbote. i'm kenyan girl dating a congolese. I love pondu. I never had any cultural shock. I blended well. Maybe because we met abroad. He's been to Kenya before but I've never visited Congo. I would love to. Even before meeting him I had always loved Congolese and of course their music. I'm stilling learning Lingala. I think it's easy to grasp and very romantic. I am luo girl. I can teach you luo you teach me Lingala. How about that? Sounds like a plan, right? By the way, Ozali kitoko.

[@veeluendo]

Malamu moninga! I wish I knew Lingala that well to teach you. People from Goma like me mostly interact in Swahili 😅 but I wouldn't mind to learn a few words in Dholuo

[@anyabless9970]

Actually from lakeside and luhya and do eat cassava leaves made with milk and not eaten same day - you keep warming with milk every day for about 3 days before consuming it. Should try it - you will love spice as you like it👌

[@veeluendo]

This is great to know! Thank you for the recipe as well 😊

[@njuenjagi4983]

Depends with which region you are marrying. Am married to a coasterian and the wedding is such an elaborate process.

[@uncutit1995]

Hehehehe over there the evening party is left for only bride and groom

[@noelwasonga1454]

This is beautiful mixed tradition of African culture,in East and central Africa countries

[@veeluendo]

Thank you! And thanks for watching.

[@Agapao777]

Hey sis sending you love from your fellow Muhunde ❤

[@veeluendo]

I love this!❤️ It's nice to connect with you. Thank you for watching!

[@SallieJaydens-uq8qw]

It's you who didn't change us here in Kenya we do change to our traditional dressing code our culture is very strong we take it seriously

[@MeraMasha-so6bo]

Young men need to abide with the bride culture until the family releases the wife for marriage.

[@tdunde]

That Luo man got himself a wife! Does he like Congolese music?

[@veeluendo]

Very much! Hehe and thanks for watching 🙏🏽

[@raymondomollo6748]

Jatelo better not disappoint. Us luos ❤ lingala. Viva batoto Bamungu!!!

[@veeluendo]

@raymondomollo6748 He's definitely a gem. Ndio sisi sasa, batoto😂

[@raymondomollo6748]

@veeluendo I hear you my sista, I hear you. Put God first in your marriage no matter what. Blessings to you and hubby 🙏❤️

[@vellyolaki2056]

You picked up the Kenyan accent well..🎉

[@veeluendo]

Hehehe😅 yes and I can't even tell

[@jimmyodari5487]

Very interesting

[@Jameswylsie]

Have subscribe because of luoeropean.. warwaki feel at home treat our brother well.

[@Vhlathanosh]

I hate that luoeuropean bs! It's just masked inferiority complex IMO.

[@veeluendo]

Hehe oh yes! He's in good hands. Thanks for watching!🙏🏽

[@kodhealfayoaruwa9197]

There used to be evening parties in Kenya years ago - as late as the 90s but this was just for the young people (the couples' agemates)

[@veeluendo]

Ooh interesting! And thanks for watching!

[@benodero5173]

Welcome to lakeside.

[@veeluendo]

Asante sana!

[@africaine4889]

Am Congolese too and we have to go to our villages.

[@veeluendo]

Good! Which region are you from?

[@svt3]

I'm a 100% Congolese sad that my village security has never been good since war started in October 1996. Now, I'm a mother who lives in a foreign country that I'm extremely proud of but sad 😢 I can't take my children to my village because of insecurity and is marked red zone with UN

[@veeluendo]

@svt3 It's nice to connect with you! I totally understand you. The security situation in the Eastern region has not been the best for the past 20 years.

[@svt3]

@veeluendo for us who's are coming from the Eastern Region of DRC, we know the very sad reality 😢 of war, how war can totally chase people out of precious villages permanently it is extremely sad

[@judym9670]

The traditional wedding day was fun and memorable .. 😅 The ugali part 😶

[@veeluendo]

Imagine ninge choma🤣 somethings Sana😅

[@LillianeBwire]

Pangaa the house 😂you are truly Kenyan.

[@concernedc7818]

HI!! Africans pay bride price not dowry. Bride price is where the bridegroom or his family pays the bride's family for her her hand in marriage . However, dowry is where the bride or her family pays the bridegroom or his family, when the bride is getting married. The dowry system is practiced in India. Many people confuse the two.Thought you should know.

[@veeluendo]

Oh thanks for that clarification. 🙏🏽

[@benodero5173]

You have a Kenyan accent.

[@veeluendo]

Hehe I can't even tell 😅

[@Chevy_Chevy]

Great video 😊

[@veeluendo]

I appreciate you watching 🤗 thank you.

[@LillianeBwire]

Pecking in French

[@veeluendo]

Are you inquiring about the translation? "Faire une bise" 😅 thanks for watching 🙏🏽

[@LillianeBwire]

In some of our cultures your mother cannot greet your husband by hand. And your mother cannot spend a night in your house with hubby- you would have to ask a neighbour for bed space.Its changiyniw with city life.

[@africaine4889]

In my congolese tribe it's the same.

[@veeluendo]

Wow this is very interesting! Yes, I believe that things are slowly shifting. Thanks for watching🙏🏽