Our Election Reactions | You Can Sit With Us Ep. 224

[@annekaanderson6447]

Reminder, there is a midterm election in 2 years. That is going to be super important. You need to vote then too.

[@DanieGrace]

Yes!!!

[@swithheld9905]

i dunno if we'll ever have a real election again. there is no way they'll give up power again. that is not to say that we all shouldn't try to course correct in the midterms (if they happen), but let's not sit back and do absolutely nothing for 2 years expecting to be able to fix everything by voting. a lot of people will need a lot of help very soon.

[@soulsaw]

#2010

[@Jt.024]

Don’t just vote. Talk and persuade within your people who don’t align with u 100% , educate and explain. Learn why they think the way they do so u can know how to tackle it. Volunteering in campaigns is a good start to gain & continue the skills that help u in these difficult conversations. Start in local elections, congressional and state seats. I’m not telling y’all it works all time 100%, but it start having an impact on people and gets the gears going. I definitely I’m still trying because theres other elections but I’m definitely not wasting time with ppl who are not open to have these conversations and don’t have the flexibility to question their beliefs.

[@Danteax]

Voting will not solve anything. We need action.

[@devynjingles]

being a young black woman, one who attends howard university (kamala’s alma mater), myself and my peers were so disheartened with the election results, but not surprised. there’s a saying that black people (especially women) have to work twice as hard to be seen as half as good, and that statement is a testament to this very situation. there is so much more work this country needs to do, but hopefully overtime it will be better. there is so much i can say regarding this, but all i can say is i am so proud of my alumna. in 107 days, she instilled hope to millions of people, united communities. she gave little girls of colors hope that there are no limits to what they can do. so thank you madam vp from a black girl from cali. to those hurt, devastated, feeling all negative emotions about this, I leave behind kamala’s power words from her concession speech: “only when it is dark enough can you see the stars”

[@laurenlarry4483]

Howard Grad here. (Class of 2010) I immediately thought about baby Bison. I can’t say everything will be okay (cause it won’t), but I will say you’re in the best place to process your thoughts and plan. I’m so sorry the election when that way. “We canning throw up our hands when we must roll up our sleeves”. They have tried to wipe out our ancestors, they never have. They will nope wipe out us, we I’ll remain. In solidarity.

[@emi-fr5mf]

What a beautiful comment, thank you so much for sharing 💗 My heart aches for you (as a white Canadian who can only imagine what this is like) ❤‍🩹❤‍🩹❤‍🩹

[@jessicalocklear762]

I see you. I see the fight that is taking place and I promise I will use my white privilege to do as much as I can. Unfortunately, I lack the external equipment for my whiteness to matter much, but I promise to use it. F this crap, dude. Women need to stick together- regardless of every class, creed, color, and religion.

[@travelswithblindcane]

I'm so sad the racism and sexism in America made it pretty much impossible for her to get elected no matter her policies or platform. Not surprised, but sad. I'm sorry we didn't do better and more when I was decades younger and more fit to fight. But I won't stop - to add on to the VP's words, it's always darkest before the dawn. We can make this better by fighting together. You have my sword

[@kit548emt]

Kamala is just getting started!!! She's incredible and next run she's going to be stronger than ever!!!

[@zoltanv9987]

I cried the entire week after the election. As a woman of color with a lot of disabilities, I am petrified for the future. 😭 Thank you for talking about this.

[@lailinshale]

mom of a disabled child here. I'm having constant nightmares about the future of my child's education. I wish more people actually researched or had a bit of empathy before voting.

[@juelitran]

Europe is with you. My whole workplace was on fire, we barely worked that day, we just discussed the impact it will have globally for the next 3 days. We work with American business and have relatives and friends there and they are so scared. We will keep you in our prayers

[@Eviiee12]

I come from an immigrant family. I am a first-generation Mexican American, and I am very concerned and worried. I live in Texas, unfortunately, and I have been feeling hopeless. Hearing you guys have the same sentiment actually makes me feel better. That there are people who truly care. Thank you, guys ❤️

[@travelswithblindcane]

people definitely care. you're as American as I am, and your parents came for a better life. Isn't that why everyone does (or did, generations ago)? unless they're Native, nobody's a "true American." These fascist jerks are scary but they're also not very intelligent. Their idiocy about immigrants causing problems is all utter nonsense anyway, the call has always been coming from inside the house xD we got you and we'll fight like hell.

[@theyJC]

look into immigrant rights groups Legalization for All and La Frontera Nos Cruzó ❤️‍🩹

[@bananamilk1974]

Yes, unfortunately Ted Cruz was elected... Again....😡

[@AllShellBreaksLoose]

Come to California, we will save you…at least for a while ❤

[@AllShellBreaksLoose]

My theory is that Tronald Dump speaks in single syllable words which stupid people understand. I don’t blame the people per se as many states do not have access to proper education… but I still can’t stand them as look what they have done. 😢

[@ericaavery9382]

Becky is all of us 😭💕 I just love her more and more as she speaks so passionately. Thank you for making us all feel seen right now if nothing else.

[@travelswithblindcane]

this. it's so nice to feel seen. Over here in Denmark people act like it's not a big deal since Denmark is wealthy and all the problems will be for America. I'm just...that's not how that works, allow me to grieve for my country and the world please xD

[@SimoneWorld1]

I was so defeated the entire day! I made it to work, closed my office door and just sobbed. I just couldn’t believe it.

[@rachellucarz]

Becky, that was Missouri (my home state) that passed abortion/minimum wage/sick leave! So many people here are Republicans in name only and if you actually talk to them, all they actually want is support for the working class. It's hard to grapple with.

[@tdc51781]

I’m Missouri adjacent - I live in the STL DMZ. The thing is Missouri has shown voters that their elected officials will consistently ignore them. So yeah, they passed abortion and minimum wage - but you can’t be serious about that and your ticket still elects Hawley, Parsons, Schmitt, Wagner, ect. and be serious about enshrining those rights. Ultimately those voters made the decision that they put whatever it is that made them vote for those candidates above any of the people those amendments would have helped.

[@rachellucarz]

@ I’ve lived on the Missouri side of St. Louis almost my entire life, and the only other place I’ve lived is Springfield so you’re not telling me anything I don’t already know. Religion is a major factor in why they vote Republican, as well as it being what is familiar and comfortable. But shifting mindset is easier than shifting values and Missourians have proven that their values are more progressive than they get credit for. That’s why I still have a sliver of hope for my state.

[@TiffanyScrog]

I’m so pissed at the lack of logic here in Missouri. I just want to scream at people, you voted for democratic policies and republican politicians. I hate the people who don’t even know or care to learn who they are voting for. I am so happy that we at least got rights so my three daughters can decide what to do with their own bodies, but then they voted for men who treat them like property. 😢

[@mitch9276]

Arizona put abortion in our constitution though!!!

[@rebelseer3691]

​@@TiffanyScrog - Are you pissed at Obama who promised to codify Roe V Wade to help him get elected and then didn't do it?

[@he.said.teenjiejer]

i honestly don’t even think ageist is the right word for not wanting eighty year olds to be president or on the supreme court or what not. letting biden run for president this time around almost felt like elder abuse to me. he’s old! he deserves to rest! he shouldn’t have to work a basically 24/7 job! and for the record, i have that same feeling about trump. he should not be working. i know he says he’s “not even close to eighty”, but he is. he should also be able to retire, to spend time with his family.

[@emmac.j.8374]

What family?

[@TheMW2informer]

I think it was ageist if the candidate wants to run, but I agree with your sentiment and that both would be well served just enjoying life instead of working.

[@smithmarina970]

I think we need people of all ages in these positions but i do think there are times to properly step down when needed.

[@mmitch27]

"We're going to be here with you" I'm not American but lord that was so comforting in a way I didn't know I needed.

[@travelswithblindcane]

this, so much. As an American in Denmark I teared up. Adding my voice to the choir - I'm not going anywhere and I won't stop working to make things better however I can.

[@thatonegeekmadison]

As an IVF mom with a chronic illness, I'm so fucking sad. And I agree with Becky, having that grace and kindness towards other people who are supporting people that are taking away your rights is really hard right now.

[@KenzieYeager]

Trump is pro-IVF, he wants it to be covered my all insurances or federally funded...

[@jlcarmya2z]

As a sexual assault survivor, and the mom of a teen daughter I’m devastated. I’m trying to plan for what I fear things will look like when he’s back in office. We’re going backwards and his appointments to the cabinet are just as bad. It’s scary. My favorite thing I’ve heard is, Trump voters vote for me, Kamala voters voted for we.

[@KenzieYeager]

I voted for trump for people other than myself. I voted for trump for no war, voted for him so people my age (18) can buy houses (I own a house so I'm not voting for myself), I don't think abortion is a right and I voted for the life of those babies, I voted for tariffs (it could be good/bad for economy but it discourages companies from using manufacturers from china for example that use child labor), I voted for the middle class (me), etc. I informed myself and didn't listen to the media.

[@thehopeofeden597]

No joke, I just finished binging other episodes of this series and WAR to avoid all my post-election feelings. This just dropped so I guess it’s time to confront them - this show feels like a hug to comfort me.

[@vannah0801]

Legally I have had 4 abortions... because i have miscarried 4 times. I am having to debate if I want to have children or not at this point for my safety.

[@PiaPancakes]

@@vannah0801 I am so sorry that it has come to that love. It’s so unfair. I wish I could say something better but do whatever you need to do for your health.

[@alyrivers7864]

I'm so sorry! I can't imagine the pain. I have a friend who also suffered a miscarriage, and I have endometriosis. Both of us would be high risk pregnancies and we are facing the same question. We're both leaning that it's not safe for us. That should not dictate our choices to build families and I mourn for all of us

[@alyssa9103]

Hopefully you feel better when you realize that miscarriage care is actual healthcare and every single state has that in their legislation.

[@leighhauserman9549]

It’s so sad because people that are anti choice, can’t understand that abortion isn’t just about unwanted pregnancy, but also protecting women’s health.

[@ambriab.8718]

I love that Becky validates our anger. We have to start pushing back 🫡. I am majoring in Political Science and International Relations and seeing this just fuels me to go harder. We have to go harder and start getting mean. "Now I'm awake to the world. I was asleep before. That's how we let it happen. When they slaughtered Congress, we didn't wake up. When they blamed terrorists and suspended the Constitution, we didn't wake up then either. They said it would be temporary. Nothing changes instantaneously. In a gradually heating bathtub, you'd be boiled to death before you knew it". The best thing everyone can do right now is EDUCATE YOURSELVES! They want us to be ignorant so we won’t be able to argue back. Fuck that

[@KIWIgirl2014]

“Gen Z, run for office.” Meanwhile in NZ, 22-year-old MP Hana-Rawhiti Maipi-Clarke protested a bill that could infringe on Māori rights by tearing a copy of it in half and initiating a haka during its first reading. Gen Z is already BEING BOLD in all the best ways.

[@ashr9]

I don't even live in the USA but thinking about what the lives of millions of people there are gonna be like, especially for women, people of color and the LGBTQ+, makes me sob uncontrollably. I can't even imagine the intense sadness everyone who actually has to live through these times feels like. Sending so much love to you all. Stay strong. Keep fighting. It made me so happy that they talked about things you could do at the state level to fight for better policies. 🙌

[@Robinv0224]

I saw a post about how liberals are always offended and this election is no reason to end relationships with people. My favorite response was “I’d rather be offended than offensive” and that just sums up how I’m feeling rn

[@skylab9]

~ listener from Louisiana. It is comforting to know that I'm not alone in this suffocating feeling. My relationships with friends and family and work peers are forever changed. I didn't go into work the day after it was called. I couldn't. I feel so sick

[@travelswithblindcane]

I left the US about 15 years ago for Europe. I'm type 1 diabetic and insulin was simply too expensive to be affordable, and I was going to die going to the hospital so much and having ambulances called when I'd have seizures in public. And no, the Walmart insulin didn't work for me. So I've never known a United States that was livable Lost my left eye at 23 to diabetic retinopathy because I didn't have vision insurance and couldn't pay $30k out of pocket for the surgery to save it. So yeah, I definitely feel for the people that will be affected by health policies being messed with by Trump, but it's never exactly been good in the States. Everyone in Europe thinks our lack of universal healthcare is insane, and they're correct. But yeah, on election night results started coming in at midnight Copenhagen time, and I stayed up until about 3. Went to sleep very scared. People had been telling me not to worry about it for months, but seeing the way people were so lukewarm about Harris had me worried. I tried so hard to hold onto hope but I definitely wasn't surprised when I woke up and Harris conceded. I spent a couple days just sad. Couldn't get out of bed. Yeah, I don't live there anymore but a lot of people I love do. I don't want anyone to suffer, and Trump is going to affect the entire world in a bad way. But the first thing they try to kill is hope. They want us too sad to fight back, just like Becky pointed out. They also want to kill community - the rise in racism, misogyny, xenophobia etc. is evidence of that. They want us at each other's throats because if we're hating immigrants for eating pretend pets then we're not focusing on Trump being a felon, apparently? Still not sure how a guy in debt up to his eyeballs and with every business he's tried failing miserably is seen as better for the economy but I guess him telling people nice things is better than Harris' new homebuyer tactic. I really don't know. I'm still upset but I have a big Ukrainian friend group and even if things look bleak I'm still going to be there for them, and for everyone who needs it. I'm going to love harder and do more in defiance of their side's extreme contempt for the most basic tenets of humanity. Sorry for rambling but yeah. Thanks for this. You're all wonderful and everyone in the US, we'll get through this. We don't have any other choice but to make it as good as we can. Show them we're better just by being decent.

[@laurenpurdy2694]

I work in community mental health. We've been exhausted since 2016 and we now have another 4 years of this. Pray for us because we are so very, very tired.

[@lalakass9041]

As someone who lives in Missouri, our state also passed all of those policies and still went red. All I can say atleast in my state it’s all the farmers and the people who live in our small towns that made our state red. I am a person who voted blue in a state that fully went red. All I can say that Missouri had one of the strictest abortion bans and now it is in our constitution that it’s is a reproductive right.

[@Updog89]

We live in interesting times, to say the least.

[@Holley455]

Everything that Becky says at the beginning is how I feel. As a gay trans/non binary person, I am scared for my future to be honest. As a preschool teacher, I am saddened for the children having to live through this and grow up in such a hateful society. I just have hope that eventually we will get through this. Sending so much love to everyone out there who is feeling this way. We’re in this together ❤

[@_ZB4]

Thank you for this episode. It’s incredibly important for other Americans to hear from you all and know there is a huge group of people who are decent, wonderful and believe in equality who will stand beside them as the US heads into a likely very turbulent four years ahead. You’re not alone! Lots of love from Australia x

[@MfKeepTakingMyNames]

I just felt so much sadness from this election. I also feel for Trumps supporters because they think he’s going to help them and he’s not. He doesn’t give a crap about his supporters. This is just sad

[@penelopesmith2825]

I just started the episode but Becky is already so real and giving me such catharsis by saying everything I’ve been thinking these past few weeks 💙

[@penelopesmith2825]

30:00 love her

[@Sayje]

As someone who moved from a liberal west coast state to the bible belt in 2022 i saw these results coming 😔 as soon as i starting talking to young female first time voters who were supporting trump i knew it was done. The reality i was living in burst and i think that’s why this one hurt so much more.

[@RayshellJ]

I’m with you completely Becky. I think the hard part about the discord in voting is that you are applying logic to those that do not use logic/reasoning when making their decisions. I genuinely have come to a conclusion that they do not make decisions based on logic. They lack critical thinking or the ability to string all the facts together when considering leadership in the country. I also think some people just voted for him to say that they did/ they like that he is a polarizing person.

[@kiyanawhitney-james6596]

You have to talk to those who voted for him or shifted to him. That's how you truly find your answer. If you willingly choose to stay in an echo chamber, you lose in sight on the other side.

[@kimp.dr.n2652]

👏 👏 👏 👏

[@sararibeiro528]

Thinking that the US has the best health care system is the craziest idea ever. You get bankrupt in order to take care of yourself or your loved ones, how can the “best country in the world” allow people to die and live in pain just because they don’t have money. As an European, that’s just absurd to me.

[@travelswithblindcane]

yeah, as a type 1 diabetic who grew up in the States and had to leave as soon as I could because I couldn't afford insulin, that part just baffled me. Maybe because they make decent wages and no serious health issues, so it doesn't really apply to them, and they're focusing on the research? Maybe? it's hard for Americans not to base their worldview entirely on America, we're fed so much propaganda about this kinda thing throughout our lives.

[@rebelseer3691]

I had to pay a $800 + penalty yearly under the ACA for not having healthcare! I made too much to qualify for Medi-Cal but not enough to pay for healthcare. When I finally got insurance the deductible was so high it was ridiculous.

[@andreaflores6536]

As a teacher of a title I school and a daughter of immigrants, I cried all day the next day. I was too hopeful and was definitely disappointed. 😔

[@Panda4pres]

Aw Becky. I cried too. I wish I could give you a big hug and drink wine together

[@BogWyytch]

when roe v wade was overturned my husband and i left texas because of the lack of health care. turns out i have pcos, endometriosis, had to have a D&C and my asppendix burst all in 5 months. i could have died if we stayed in texas.

[@Namite0001]

I really resonated a lot with what Matt said this episode. Matt you're a gem!!!

[@Erica82411]

It’s honestly so disheartening to me that so many podcasts are either not speaking out or saying “it is what it is” so they have no perspective on the election which is such a copout. Thank you for speaking on this and using your voices to represent your audience 💔

[@glomioh]

I am currently in application process for getting disability, after my last job left me handicapped. I am so scared and terrified of what my future will hold and everyone around me tell me I am over reacting. It has been a really hard time realizing that the people that I thought were my friends... did not care and continue to tell me that "its for the economy." I honestly... dont feel safe with anyone BUT thank you for the podcast

[@kelseykeller2424]

Illinois voted 73% yes on the advisory question of "Should all medically appropriate assisted reproductive treatments, including, but not limited to, in vitro fertilization, be covered by any health insurance plan in Illinois that provides coverage for pregnancy benefits, without limitation on the number of treatments?" As someone who just went through ivf to get my baby girl, I’m overjoyed that this has entered the conversation!

[@K.alexsadler]

We’re coooooked if Dem establishment picks someone like Gavin Newsom. No introspection about the party or why we keep losing.

[@beckbrown8832]

I am beyond glad that you are holding space for this. It feels dystopian. The way that this country is going is sad and devistating for all. Even those who dont know it yet.

[@landonchantry9499]

My wife and I are wanting to start having kids and now we are terrified to even try. Just out of fear of something bad happening and not being able to get the medical care needed

[@courtneythomas3297]

As a Canadian it is so scary to watch because we follow right behind what the states do. Hold on tight is all we can do and try to find like minded people and build community

[@arianacorrea6576]

I was 20 in 2016 which was the first time I could vote for president. I have never voted in an election where Trump wasn’t on the ballot. Can’t wait for 2028

[@liapania]

Even from Aotearoa (NZ), I cried when the results came in. It's so disappointing to know that there is so much hate out there. It's so hard to believe that this happened

[@stefmondragon9145]

Thank you, thank you, THANK YOU! My husband and I are one of those families that are scared for the future because of these Mass deportations, even when we shouldn’t be scared. We are in the process of adjusting his status. We are scared of our small family being broken so thank you for empathizing with us, I started crying when Becky started crying because it shows we are not alone when we feel the most alone right now and not know what to expect in the future.

[@catalinavillamarin7143]

Yup. I lived in the US for 5 years. Got a masters degree, worked in nonprofit and was excited about the prospect of making a life there. Then the 2016 elections came and felt like a bad transplant being rejected and left. This is just re-living it from abroad.

[@eli-hk8tp]

I thought listening to this would make me feel worse about it but I’m actually feeling very encouraged. Yeah, this sucks but we still have power and we can still shout our voices from the rooftops and make shit happen. This one loss doesn’t have to define all the other battles we can still fight to win.

[@ggracedd]

as someone who currently lives in Pennsylvania for school and voted in North Carolina, I was very shocked on how both of the states went, im more shocked on PA then NC (bc im from a very conservative area in NC and it went red last election) but Im just very nervous to see what happens next. but out of everything im so fucking happy that mark robinson lost the governors race in NC bc if he would have won everything would have went to hell in that state.

[@luceroalfaro8608]

I remember 2016, the atmosphere the next day was just depressing and mournful. Our school held an assembly to explain everything of what was happening and was going to happen, as well as offer counseling services.

[@Nate-vq8wy]

Counseling services for what 😂 nothing drastic happened and life went on

[@kit548emt]

Thank you for this! I've had such a hard time being positive! I look at my 5 year old daughter and I feel like we've failed her and her future and that's crushing! But it's time for me to quit being sad about it and pessimistic and time to take action and learn about what I can do to take action to help change our future!!

[@Andrea-jq2fk]

26:06 my thing is they claim they care about women’s sports but they don’t care enough to watch it or be respectful to the athletes. I love the WNBA and the way Angel Reese or any player tht isn’t CC is treated by the public is disgusting

[@carlystorrer8272]

I live in Michigan, and I moved from a blue county that I'd lived in for ten years to a SOLID red county right before the election. It has been so weird feeling so bereft at his win, when everyone around me at work is so excited. My boss' husband walked in the other day wearing a maga hat and it made me feel sick. This is the best career move for my husband and I right now, but I'm just sad right now

[@ultraparanioa]

how are y'all still promoting Better Help?!!

[@travelswithblindcane]

it bothers me too but they signed a deal with them years ago. I can't remember who said it but as soon as it's over they won't be renewing it, but at this point they're bound to it.

[@PiaPancakes]

@@travelswithblindcanethank you for clearing that up. I’ll look into where that’s stated and I hope it’s verifiable. I’ve been feeling conflicted due to the sponsorship for a while now

[@kimp.dr.n2652]

Better help knows where to find thier audience $$$$

[@barmhjertige1]

I’m not sure if I’m emotionally stable enough to watch this right now, but I guess we can all cry together

[@barmhjertige1]

Well it seems like I’ll be back later

[@Jasyoucan]

I literally cried for a week😢 I live in St. Louis one of the few blue dots in the red sea that is Missouri 🫠thank goodness most of the people in the major cities here have common sense and compassion. As a black woman I’m not surprised just deeply disappointed

[@IceCreamCarly3460]

This also happened because more people than ever didn’t vote at all. I am scared. In Colorado we had abortion rights and lgbtq rights on the ballot to put it in to the constitution of the state. We were preparing. We knew that was going to pass but we were preparing. It’s horrible to know we had to prepare for your rights to be taken away. I am a woman. I am a woman who has a female partner who is a woman of color who I love and want to get married to one day. It is a scary time

[@TheKrisen]

I listened as someone that didn't vote but also someone that wasn't upset with the results. This was really eye-opening to how other people are feeling and honestly taught me a lot about the other perspective. Thank you for being open and honest about y'all's feelings and thoughts.

[@benelobe]

in re: states that voted red but simultaneously voted for liberal policies-i think it just came down to the fact that, like matt mentioned briefly at the start, the dem campaign was very poorly run. it not only ostracized pro-palestine voters, but it later pivoted to appeal to lite republicans, and was (and has always been) overly reliant on being “the lesser evil.” it’s clear people Want liberal policies and rights, but can’t trust a candidate who won’t listen to those who are actually marginalized (i’ll personally never forget the “i’m speaking” comment). this is most apparent in michigan, a pivotal swing state where harris lost, but rep. rashida tlaib-who has been a vocal critic of both the trump and biden admins and is the only palestinian member of congress-won her district by nearly 70%. also, not to be more of a debbie downer, but most (if not all) of the new ~diverse~ people elected to congress that becky mentioned are funded by aipac 🙃🙃🙃

[@llcourt]

3:00 we are but Kamala wasn’t gonna be the answer or fix anything and was objectively worse. At this point anarchy and not ironically like the system is corrupt and broken. Versailles type bs where the rich and politicians are rigging the system to benefit them specifically while the working class suffers, barely able to live.

[@meganjones3368]

Thank you all for this as per usual. Had a good cry to this. I’m so scared, but it’s nice to not be so alone in it.

[@Siw4545]

From a 24 year old bisexual woman blue dot in Nebraska, I’m sorry. I’m so sad. And angry. I’m fighting with my parents about this right now and it’s just so difficult to make them see clearly that my rights are going to be stripped away without my consent. On the good side, Nebraska passed medical marijuana, paid sick leave, and took taxpayer money away from private schools. Unfortunately we didn’t even get close to protecting abortion but the other three were almost a miracle still take what we can get here

[@mmwinner274]

No matter how the election results turned out, I requested time off from work. It's been a long couple of years, and I needed a breather after this election. Thought it would be a relaxing few days off, but I cried. I cried while packing up my nephew's backpack for school. Tried to hold back tears as I saw kids lining up at his school, waiting for their teachers to get them. I have always voted but recently I vote for the kids and for the people who can't. I'm trying to lean into strong females I admire like AOC, Jasmine Crockett, and Katie Porter, to name a few. I'm trying to be hopeful. Kamala gave me so much hope. I know one day we will see a female president of the United States. Tim Walz gave me so much hope too, that maybe more conversations would be had regarding neurodivergent protection laws. But I am sad and angry for this country. There's a lot I want to say but I want to thank you all for talking about the election. It made me feel less alone.

[@axgardeniaxw]

Thank you for this episode 💙

[@alessandravasquez6791]

Wow there are so many misinformed ppl

[@jenni_chu]

I’m from Arizona. Although Im glad a lot of Dem policies were passed, I’m disappointed we became a red state again.. I don’t get it either Becky.

[@whereyoubean]

I’m from the Philippines but I’m still watching this. This is what happened on our election. When people voted a dictator’s son. 😢

[@obscurecamera24]

alot of Filipinos here have voted for trump 😞

[@francisngo]

There wasn’t much talk about young men and specially young colored men who mostly voted for trump. I don’t think the question is why did they vote for trump but more so why they didn’t vote for Kamala. Being a middle aged man of color, I felt like the Democratic Party alienated this age/demographic group. We have made strides for women’s rights, trans rights and (most) people of color and I’m on board and support all of these things but like Matt said, people are struggling economically and they don’t have the capacity to focus on other people’s problems. Young colored men (blacks and Latinos) are struggling mentally, economically and that wasn’t spoken about much from the Democratic Party and that’s why I think one of the reasons why trump won

[@sarahrobinson2926]

I am deeply saddened and worried for our future based on the outcome of this election. And I wanted to share that the reason Supreme Court justices don’t have term limits is to hopefully make it so those justices don’t have to worry about losing their job and therefore having to appeal to whoever is in political power and therefore will be more objective in their decision making. This has historically been practiced by both the politicians in power and the justices appointed but in modern politics, justices have been chosen more along party lines than their ability to remain objective and unbiased across their career.

[@adiaCimoune]

I am now convinced that morality is but a social construct. In my country, we hired the son of an ousted dictator, with recorded involvement in those atrocities. Over a perfectly capable candidate. Not just the better candidate, but universally the best choice. My hope was shattered. I cried while driving for days. Why would i fight for the right of a country that doesnt want it?? Yep. Im a totally different person from before this.

[@bethanyduvall9860]

I like watching podcasts like this because 52:06? That's normal. That's a good and healthy and normal reaction to this type of information. And it helps to be reminded of that.

[@imacitykid]

Everyone is entitled to their own opinions and talking everything through with friends definitely helps us work through issues that can be hard to deal with. I just encourage anyone that feels the same way you all do to try to find someone that doesn't think like you too hear them out. Trump won the popular vote so I hope we can agree that not all 76 million people that voted for him are the enemy and bringing in the next holocaust like was alluded to in the beginning. There are a lot of people that felt marginalized, like their lives were being negatively impacted progressive thought, rising prices on everything from groceries to homes and wanted to do something about it.

[@mfuentes4961]

I don’t know how bad these next 4 years are going to get, but we should all remember this: No matter how hard and hopeless it gets, do not lose hope in yourself and what you believe in. Do not let the hate, pain, suffering, and darkness in this world numb your heart. Remember that surviving/living in a world and society that does not value your true self and disrespects your very existence is one of the biggest forms of resistance in itself. If we fall, we will get back up no matter how long it takes and keep fighting so that EVERYBODY can be free to have a better future for themselves and for the future generations. In the meantime, take time to reflect, grieve, heal, love, educate and please don’t lose your faith in fighting for a better future for everyone. Remember that in the darkest and loneliest of times, we must muster up the confidence, courage and strength in ourselves and others to be the light.🩵🩵🩵🩵🩵🩵🩵

[@Michikothundermoon]

I remember going into work in 2016, right after he was first elected. I worked at Kmart and I walked in and we had our morning meeting and we were all crying. My boss told us that it would be alright, it was only four years. Only four years and we would get another shot.

[@travelswithblindcane]

Since I rambled too much in my other comment and didn't say it - this disabled person who managed to escape thanks you. I feel seen. It feels like most people have forgotten his outright mockery of a disabled journalist and all the other horrible things he's done. Sending so much love to everyone from Denmark, we'll get through this even if it's by the skin of our teeth.

[@vstahl45]

5:10 in Arizona we passed Prop 139 which added abortion access protection in our state constitution. We also defeated a prop that would have lowered the minimum wage for tipped workers. This prop was actually put on the ballot by our Republican legislature in an effort to bypass our Democratic Governor who has vetoed more bills in her first 2 years than any other in our States history.

[@saraa.7836]

I'm disappointed, but I'm not surprised...

[@Christina-mariee]

Thank you for this episode 🫶

[@arianaarmenta1335]

Still grieving

[@jenniferreynolds2832]

It’s sad that I have less rights today then my mother did when she was my age 😔

[@Peachykeenvintagedsm]

I live in a blue city in a red state and it has been tough ever since. I have never felt the way that I did when I woke up the day after. I have lost my filter as well as my “i’m uncomfortable let’s just get this conversation over with smile” for ignorant people and it is kind of refreshing. I have never been more upset with people. I have been focusing on silver linings.

[@SarahTheSassy71]

This was liberating and calming at the same time. Thank you for letting us sit with you ❤

[@karinamkung]

26:25 I think the design of public bathrooms/shower rooms in mind is also important for this discussion. What Becky and Matt were talking about here seems to be public bathrooms/shower rooms where you have a single toilet/shower in the whole room and is clearly intended for a single occupant at a time. In which case, assigning it as a non-gendered bathroom would be feasible. However, there are also public bathroom / shower room designs where in 1 room, you have several stalls and is meant for more than 1 person at a time to be in the same room. In this case, I can see where the safety concerns of people are coming from and it doesn't seem to be as easy as just make everything non-gendered. Also, in general, home bathrooms are shared with people we know / are familiar with. A lot of people probably won't be comfortable with a ramdom stranger going up to their homes to use the bathroom in their house. Whereas, in public restrooms, we regularly share it with people we haven't met before and will probably never meet again.

[@imthatreader8950]

As a US citizen living overseas who could vote for the first time in 2020, it's hard to imagine a world where my federal vote even matters. It just all feels so hopeless.

[@nicolevelez7919]

I am really do not know how i feel. My state passed the abortion bill but the catch is why do I need to have wither my husband or my parents to sign off. I am an adult and this is my body. I am scare about our education because of the person that Trump anointed. I am literally crying. I do not know if I want to keep teaching. I am really scare. I cried for days for my daughters and I.

[@KristinieC]

While disappointed, I wasn't utterly devastated. I had hopes but looking over everything I already knew he'd win majority so I had been processing for a long while even before the election. I'm just taking life as it comes and that's all I can fully control. VOTE and support the ones and groups I need to get the seats to represent what I want and believe.

[@reinaarakawa5018]

Thank you guys for talking about this. People around me are not as emotional and it helps to know I'm not the only one who feels so scared and disgusted. I'm a med student in my gynecology rotation now and when we were doing sonographies of female babies.... I couldn't help but think "wow 72 million voted to take away your fundamental rights." I cried about it that night. It's just so incredibly disheartening

[@kierstengerard1132]

I really appreciated this episode

[@SabH27]

Just to let y'all know same-sex marriage IS constitutionally protected in Vegas (Nevada as a whole) question 2 was on our ballot to remove the ban for same-sex marriage from the constitution and it passed in 2020. I was and still am proud of being able to vote for that before moving out of state in 2021.

[@beebobber546]

This is me talking selfishly, but I wish the try guys made a video endorsing Harris like they did with Biden in 2020. She wasn’t perfect, no candidate is, but Trump being president is so so dangerous when he takes power in January.

[@amjamber]

Reporting in from Michigan, was equally shocked and sad. My Kalamazoo bubble gave me a false sense of hope.

[@mikeyzenebe3131]

I genuinely am gonna show this episode to all of my friends because so many clips could be made from just this episode that reflects everything I've been thinking

[@Namite0001]

5:11 also watched LWT with John Oliver, and there are smaller victories!!

[@sezitoli]

We got Brett Kavanaugh because the republicans refused to confirm Obama’s nomination (Merrick Garland). We got Amy Coney Barrett because RBG didn’t retire when she should have.

[@obscurecamera24]

Absolutely. But Merrick Garland has been extremely soft as head of the DOJ.

[@sezitoli]

@ 💯 He was always considered a moderate pick! That’s why it was especially ridiculous that the republicans blocked him.

[@obscurecamera24]

@@sezitoli You are correct. Im very curious what will happen between now and Jan 19

[@ttisol]

5:49 I can imagine what happened here, without knowing how many voted for Trump this time vs last time, is that people aligned with more progressive policies voted *for* those policies but not for Kamala. As much as I hate Trump and everything he represents, I understand people's frustration and mistrust for Kamala and the democratic party in general. Not only are they proudly founding a genocide, they're also pandering more to "moderate conservatives" instead of really pushing for meaningful change.

[@chelsealink9091]

I live in a swing state & I'm still shocked we went red 🤯

[@Aaaaaaaalonika]

I just know that this is something that I need. I have no one in my life that fully understands. While y’all are white I just know you’d do your best to understand and care about a perspective like mine.

[@1Hannahs]

I'm white, the majority of my family is. What I don't understand, is they seem to actually value their whiteness. Wtf?! I remind them all the time that humans are all the same and they could have been born exactly like the people they judge. I just don't understand how people can vote for their benefits when it comes at the cost of others. All this to say, despite being white, it all comes down to empathy and compassion. Those with it can put themselves in anyone's shoes, but those without will only care about themselves. 😔 i am also queer and disabled so I have a little more insight than my family, but still. I'm tired of white people thinking they are better than others just for the luck of the draw on who they were born as. 🤨

[@courtneyaurora11]

Becky is my spirit animal. That’s all.

[@reysgotplans5005]

I feel like it's become more and more popular to be "the bad guy" and being "good" is almost chiche. It's kind of terrifying if you're compassionate at heart.

[@jennyhatton1114]

I wasn’t going to watch this bc honestly I’m just mentally drained from it all but I’m glad I’m watching hearing this intelligent and compassionate conversation.

[@LiMoo02]

I hope you guys know that our thoughts are with you from all over the world!💗

[@lonnekevanriele5869]

I don't live in the US. Hearing Becky say that the US claims to have the best healthcare and the best everything is so true and I feel one of the main issues. Opening your horizons to the many countries that outperform the US consistently on all possible measurements and what laws and policies these countries have implemented throughout the years to get to these high levels of life expectancy, education, health, happiness, etc. would be a much more productive mindset than the 'US number 1 country in everything'. You don't have to be the one to figure everything out alone. Socialism doesn't have to be a bad thing. Taking care of your citizens and free healthcare makes everyone thrive, not just the rich. These things have been shown again and again in so many other countries. Anyways, I'm so sorry for you guys, whenever rights are taken away from women and minorities anywhere we all cry!

[@heythereitsme]

I wild comment i got when arguing with someone was that they said google is biased and unreliable????? Wtf google is a search engine, what you search and how you phrase it influences what response you get