Our Final IVF Update

[@nbesio]

C4/C5 spinal cord injury here. My wife and I tried IVF for 3 sessions, but my fishy swimmers just would not cooperate. After taking a little time and doing some soul-searching we decided to have a child through a frozen donor. My wife is perfectly healthy and able to get pregnant and it was mainly my pride causing the delay in deciding to go this route. We went to the donor company in Seattle and found a donor who looked somewhat like me and met some of my personality types. We now have a beautiful and crazy 3-year-old boy. The irony is that most people say he looks and acts more like me than my wife! The main thing is turning taught me is that you do not need to be the biological sperm source to be a child’s father. He is the total world to me and it melts my heart every time he screams “daddy” when he comes into a room and climbs my chair like a jungle gym. Whether you decide to have a child through IVF, donor or adoption, that child will be the pride of your life (until they become teenagers.) You both will be incredible parents no matter what you decide!

[@kristenbalkenhol7884]

Maybe it’s my pregnancy hormones or maybe not but this was so sweet to read it almost made me emotional! I’m so happy you and your wife were able To have the family that you wanted. You are right, blood does not make you a parent but being a good father does. I’m very happy for you and your family 😊❤

[@essexitagermeng5504]

Respectfully, what about the baby’s rights to know the biological father? Why not adoption instead?

[@mommak8342]

There are 1-2 MILLION on the adoption waiting list.

[@bonsaibaby8257]

@@mommak8342not everyone wants or can deal with a child with mental health issues due to being in foster care. I’m not saying these kids aren’t worthy but just that not all people that want kids are worthy to parent them. I hope you understand what I’m saying. Also, I’m not saying all foster kids have issues but a very high percentage of them do and if you don’t want to take that risk you shouldn’t be guilted into it.

[@MarianneMedlin-dz4dz]

This is BEAUTIFUL! I got chills. Thank you for sharing ❤

[@maydaj1]

Infertility is so hard. We did 8 IVF's in 5 years and I'm finally holding our 2 month old miracle baby at 48. Wishing y'all the best and don't give up ❤️

[@MrMo-bl5pq]

Congrats!

[@tomalex349]

Is it because man can't get a woman pregnant?

[@BeautyByDaisie5899]

My mum had problems getting me here. She had 5 rounds of IVF and fifth time lucky I was conceived. Its difficult having kids but adoption is a great thing to do

[@thisnaturalgirlislocd]

Blessings!

[@JeriHall-ll]

Applause to your dedication and tenacity! Congratulations.

[@JaneRumes-xc3ns]

I too had three IVF procedures back in the early 90s. None of them took but looking back almost 40 years, I’m so happy because otherwise I would’ve never had been able to adopt two children that were meant to be mine. I adopted privately in my area from birth and kept a relationship with the birth mother for 36 years. The second fell into my lap as a friend had gone to Ukraine and visited the orphanage is there an arranged for me to adopt this little girl. She’s 33 now. My son unfortunately passed away. I am so blessed to have them and be their mom. I’ve always said to myself, whatever will be ,will be. God brings you the right children when the time is right. Keep shining and keep up your spirits although I know it is hard as I’ve been there like I said. From a 67-year-old mom❤

[@toomuchiridium]

What a lovely story you’ve shared! Your family sounds really wonderful and lively. ❤️

[@SJC49]

Me, too! My Chinese daughter is now 28 and gave me 2 beautiful grandsons who are my life! Take care, Jane. 😍🇨🇦

[@laurajackson2429]

@JaneRumes- xc3ns Iam so very sorry for your deep loss of your precious son.

[@AyeYoTay]

Wow you are my hero!! 💗 I want to adopt so bad 1 day!! I'm 40!!

[@Wuv2000]

I absolutely agree. We always told our two adopted children that they were meant to be ours but had to come through another vessel. They are grown now but have never doubted our love for them and no difference was made between them and the one we finally were blessed with naturally. My adopted son has given us two wonderful grandchildren and the blessings just keep coming!

[@erikaaaaaaaaaaaaaaa]

I have done IVF and had the heartbreak of a cycle with no fertilization and then another with no embryos making it. I know you all are putting on a cheery face for this video, but I know its an incredibly difficult and emotional process. Wishing you all the luck in the world on whatever you choose to do next!

[@anitaallen4143]

I’m proud of you guys.

[@RebeccaOsterbergFamilyandMusic]

I only had one IVF attempt back in 1984 and it was truly one of the hardest things I’ve ever been through. I had 17 eggs, 9 embryos and 7 implanted, but…none “stuck.” Back then it was our life savings…around $30g. I’ll be sending the energy of comfort your way. No matter what, if anything more, you decide on the journey, my heart and I’m sure many others, are with you.

[@angelasmith3332]

I’m so sorry. I did a couple of rounds of IVF 20 years ago and none resulted in a live birth. My (now ex) went on to impregnate our neighbour, promptly kicked me out of my home, married her and now they have a child together. Life is pretty shitty sometimes.

[@kellylogsdon]

@angelasmith3332, that's terrible. I am so sorry that happened to you.

[@angelasmith3332]

@@kellylogsdon thanks x

[@TropicalParadisebyLisaLisa]

Sending hugs n love your way

[@WendyH10]

@@angelasmith3332f him Angela! ❤

[@katharine2435]

I was adopted at 11 and so grateful! Adoption is a beautiful gift. Please consider!❤

[@alexisreiter3214]

Some people are really miserable and have long lasting trauma from adoption though, like myself. I wouldnt wish it on anyone even though i am happy that it works for some ppl like yourself. Just a thought that adoption is not always appreciated or happy, and it makes perfect sense for a couple to want biological or not at all

[@katharine2435]

@alexisreiter3214 well if the choice is death or adoption what do you choose? I choose life regardless of how hard.

[@alexisreiter3214]

@@katharine2435 i personally would prefer to have been aborted a million times over, but i am happy you found comfort and peace in adoption and hope that for more people. I just think it’s a very personal, intimate, and polarizing subject. I myself am about to go through ivf and when ppl suggest adoption it really hurts me bc i have to get rlly deep to explain why that will not be an option for me. So that is why i share my opinion, bc if someone wants to adopt they will. I dont think advocating it is a tactful thing to do, bc some adopted kids will NEVER be grateful for being adopted, bc their life is inherently miserable. Aka how i was until i worked through my problems

[@aprilrichardson620]

Me too and very grateful!

[@cometasporelcielo]

I'm an adoptive mom and it is terribly traumatic for most mothers. There are a lot of older kids who are desperate for families

[@heathergosse]

I'm an embryologist, from Minnesota but currently live/work in Houston, TX, and omg I'm so sorry to hear about your journey! Working in the IVF lab, it's so heartbreaking when embryos die or a pregnancy doesn't "stick". Wishing you guys all the positive energy presently and in the future if you try IVF again.

[@galaxymel18]

Thank goodness for embryologists! We go to NY for treatment and they are amazing. Which clinic are you with in Houston?

[@Ieidjdushsjiol]

It’s great that you have time to comment you should call them maybe.

[@TechP]

@heathergosse can 7 million per mL successfully fertilise egg without any complications?

[@irishlydia]

I would not have had my children without embyrologists or ivf. I suffered with recurrent miscarriages for over 10 years until I had my little miracle and currently pregnant with my 2nd after few more losses.

[@WrenPadget]

It is equally heartbreaking they are destroyed if not used . Your logic makes no sense. Be happy only when the embryo is wanted. I am a lab tech also, 30 years

[@MarkKent-o2t]

so well done for being so very open,i am disabled .married 25 years ,my wife is..not..disabled.we was told we could not have children,..we have 1,girl and 3 boys .so amazing .i am from,england.mark

[@extremebrah]

I dont want to BE rude but are you sure you are the father?

[@MrMo-bl5pq]

He is the father, as long as he shows the purest love to the kids..

[@extremebrah]

@@MrMo-bl5pq nah man...He needs to do a paternaty test unless he wants to keep being in doubt.

[@samuraijosh1595]

​@@extremebrah I think he won't have the courage to ask for a paternity test since he already feels he's over compensated because his woman has stopped down to date a disabled man.

[@donnamckinley9807]

​"stopped" down to date a disabled man. What does that even mean? They are husband and wife and she didnt stop down or step down to be with the man she fell in love with. The problem isnt with them, its with poor souls that cant imagine disabled people having so much more to offer than their disability.

[@Koriikoh]

I have SMA too, and with my ex-girlfriend we tried to freeze some of my fishy-swimmers while I stopped my medication for several months. Unfortunately, there wasn't one to be found. I guess there are plenty of ways to become a parent. If my swimmers aren't here in the future, it's fine, I don't need them to become a loving parent. Thank you guys for keeping us updated, what you do is so important.

[@WendyH10]

@Koriikoh you’ll be a great dad no matter how you get your children.

[@Koriikoh]

@@WendyH10 Thank you so much, means a lot! Of course, growing up as a disabled person without any reference was hard, so I used to reject my parenting wishes. I'm 28 years old now, and I have not a single doubt in my mind: I'm going to be an incredible father one day.

[@ThatTaRaGiRL]

Exactly. That's why I don't understand why they don't just use a donor's sperm... or maybe even his brothers if he was cool with it? Then at least there wouldn't be a risk of an innocent child brought into the world with the same disease as Shane 😕

[@Jabroni2U]

@@WendyH10 great dad? how? can't even hug them or hold them. Kids need to be held and loved in the arms of both parents, not virtually held. A dad holds them, cleans them, hugs them, feeds them, takes them to school, carries them plays with them, protects them and more. A healthy person and a disabled person is not a good match. Too much work for the healthy person, especially if you start a marraige that way.

[@Jabroni2U]

@@ThatTaRaGiRL why not the seed of a strapping black guy? Whats her name might enjoy it

[@sylvynwye]

I have watched you both since before you were married. I have never communicated. Thanks for sharing your lives together with us. You are both beautiful human beings.❤

[@bernice4599]

❤🙂❤️

[@DavesRange]

Sheep

[@jakebiomask]

They are a fake couple.

[@sylvynwye]

@@jakebiomask I don't believe they are a fake couple.

[@sylvynwye]

@@DavesRange Sheep?

[@lysa64]

my husband never had any fishy swimmers! But we have kids from Peru, Guatemala and Korea! Wishing you the best in the future!

[@glindagoodwitchofnorthview8287]

Congratulations on your family.

[@CATNAPREAL1188]

Oh Thank Both of YOU ! To give a child a home, a mom and dad, siblings, a family and LOVE is what honest to GOD parents do. The skin color doesn't matter, the country doesn't matter they are helpless little humans that NEED A LOVE AND A FAMILY ! So SINCERELY THANK YOU for being Those People!!!

[@SJC49]

You are blessed. My Chinese daughter is now 28 and has given me two beautiful grandsons who are my life. 😍🇨🇦

[@dancer20617]

❤❤❤❤

[@ravenc4912]

Why couldn't they adopt from America? MANY kids in America need homes and to be adopted.

[@lisatague305]

IVF is such a roller coaster of emotions and it’s so personal ! I will share that I was 41 did 3 cycles and have a beautiful 23 yr old son . So it can happen if you decide to try again . Love to you both .

[@letigre5822]

I love this story ❤

[@opera93]

Well, Thank you……

[@jordannnndable]

Love to y'all as I go through IVF I know how EXHAUSTING the process is and the fact that y'all did all you could I know was so tough and you're so tough

[@DesireeStiles]

I did IVF with my disabled hubby and they did a surgical retrieval including tissue as they weren’t optimistic about the quality due to him being in a chair 25 years. I only had 5 eggs retrieved. We did ICSI and had 4 successful day 5 blast. 2 which are now our girls (ages 10&7.5) I’m so sorry you went through this loss, it’s so hard to process it all. I did have to do 2 rounds before I could do retrieval too. I hope you try again in the future and that you find success in creating a family.

[@Sketcher93]

I just love your relationship with each other. I'm 65 and happily single since I never found anything close to what u 2 have. I wouldn't settle for less so I fell in love with my independence. Cheers 🥂. Your admirer and lover of happiness, no matter how we get there ❣️.

[@thefilipinojoe]

I agree 🎉 that single life is way UNDERRATED. I’ve enjoyed a GREAT life and am very happy. Part of the reason I am single is because I love my freedom, independence, and ability to do WTF I wanna do! Life is good and I plan to keep it that way. ❤

[@kortneykennedy7303]

Do you want to be friends with me on tex I'm a girl I'm 38 old I'm in a wheel chair my body hurts me every day so if I ask you too play with your body on tex

[@kortneykennedy7303]

Take a shower 🚿 for me then I will tell you what to do to your body on tex

[@JulieIreland]

Saaame! Just turned 43. I live for my 3 daughters (ages 20, 18, and 14) and MYSELF. I'm 1000000% content!

[@abbsterlicious]

YAS LADIES. NEVER SETTLE🩷🩵💙 I am 28 I was in a 5 year relationship with a much older man from 21-26 and it was unhealthy and abusive. So many times I said to myself “I don’t know if this is right”. But he had manipulated me to the point where I really did not have confidence in my own thoughts. I look back at that even 1.5 years later n I will never ever ever allow someone to treat me like that. I was almost 22 when I met him, he was 37. I now know that the crazy love I felt was actually love bombing. He moved into my apartment 2 months into our relationship. I realize now that was very intentional for him to trap me very fast before I could get wise to his behavuor essentially. I grew up in an emotionally traumatic childhood but I didn’t know that until I was 25. I see how I overlooked soooo many red flags, I had absolutely no concept of boundaries or how to regulate my emotions or anything like that. I wish I could go back n just give myself a hug all the times I would be silently crying wondering if that was how love was supposed to feel. I used to fear being alone (another reason I found myself in toxic relationship dynamics). Now I have fallen in love with being alone. I am so proud of myself for that. Now I feel like, look I absolutely love spending time by myself…. So if I’m gonna hang out with someone, I am sacrificing alone time in which I KNOW I would have a wonderful time. I’m not going to give up that time to just anybody! I’m proud of you ladies🩷🩷🩷🩵💙💙💙🩵🩵

[@sadiehelen]

I’ve followed you guys for awhile. My parents got pregnant at 36 after 2 years of trying via IVF. My mom had a bad pregnancy many years prior to me being born and lost the baby, had major complications, hence the IVF strategy because she couldn’t go another route due to the previous complications. I was in the last batch and they had basically no hope, but here I am. I was one of the first 30 babies in MN to be successfully conceived through IVF in MN (according to my parents). I’m 31. They went through a lot of heartbreak before their last attempt (me). I am sending you a lot of hugs because this is such a crazy journey that not many people understand. My parents have explained it to me, and I actually have issues conceiving myself, now that I’ve gotten to adulthood - so I have a lot of empathy surrounding this topic. I am considering adoption if I continue to have issues. It may not be for everyone but may be an option. Anyways, thank you for the update even though it was a tough one. I am sending yall the best. Don’t lose hope. Or if you do, make sure it’s on your own terms. I’m not there yet myself - still trying. Hugs.

[@perfectdisabledparent6949]

Shane - I've been there/done that only to have multiple blanks most of which I never shared w my wife bc it worsened her heartbreak. Just have to live life and something may change down the road - it did for us! Lead on, ride on, fly on in solidarity!

[@sandramendoza6297]

I have not watched you for awhile - but came across this video this morning- I was so sad to hear this and now I’m sitting on the sofa with a heavy heart for you. I hope an unexpected blessing comes your way today that lifts you up. Kindest regards

[@awoken9151]

Quite the rollercoaster life has been for you these past few months. I'm so sorry the IVF did not work out for you. It is so nice to see your strong support for each other. Much love to you both.

[@erikshappywife]

I am so, so very sorry. Please consider adoption. My youngest son is adopted. His birth mother was one of our foster children and she came back and gave us her son because, she said, living with us was the only time she ever felt like a part of a family and she wanted that for her son. He was only 3 weeks old and weighed just 5 pounds when we got him. He is now 26 😊❤

[@youthecat]

That is a TRULY special story! Very happy for you. :)

[@amberhall1288]

Beautiful!!! ❤

[@eeg0415]

Love this. Thanks for sharing.

[@marljusweety]

Sounds like she made a really good decision. ❤ You did good, in many ways.

[@brightpurpleviking]

Your youngest son WAS adopted 😉 it’s a one time event, not a permanent state of being🥰. My kids were adopted at birth and I’ve always told them it was how they came into our lives, but it didn’t change their dna ❤ adoption is pretty cool, isn’t it? Just another way to build a family 😊 Someone told me that adoption is like…some people take a plane to Australia…others take a boat!

[@catwmn14]

Embryo adoption might be an option for you! We struggled with infertility and loss for the past five years before we moved onto embryo adoption. I got pregnant on the first try and it has been such a blessing for us! We love this little boy so much even though he’s not genetically related to us. Being pregnant with him makes me just as much his mom and it’s created a special bond. You can even adopt whole batches of embryos so that you can have genetic siblings! I know it’s not everyone’s first choice but it’s a beautiful option to consider.

[@mekol3627]

What the... Playing with life. This is not natural at all

[@phantasma616]

@@mekol3627 so rude. IVF and IUI aren't natural either but MANY people are here because their parents did them. how children are brought into this world is none of your business.

[@Katee_and_Lincoln]

Genes make people, but People make families 🥰🥰🥰

[@catwmn14]

@@mekol3627 the embryos are already created when another couple goes through IVF, whether you agree with it or not. People often have remaining embryos that they’re not able to carry or they made so many that they are done growing their family and can’t possibly use them all. I think it’s amazing that we’re able to give those babies life that they wouldn’t otherwise have.

[@mekol3627]

@@catwmn14 so. Adress the cause of these "remaining embryos". Sounds like you talk about shoes or something. What is the limit in this playing with lives topic?

[@Wuv2000]

My husband had very low sperm and we did several rounds of ivf. Finally we went the adoption route and had a beautiful baby girl and boy. Totally happy but after 10 years I suddenly got pregnant all on our own! A precious son was born. They are all grown now but we have been blessed with 3 children who are all ours. Keep doing what you can for a child but there are precious babies out there that need good parents!

[@SJC49]

My 28 year old Chinese daughter has given me two beautiful grandsons who are my life. Aren’t we lucky?😍🇨🇦

[@JeffMcDuffie72MeridianGate]

You're husband needs enclomiphene. His testosterone is probably flat lined

[@Wuv2000]

@@SJC49 we absolutely are!

[@FreeMare1042]

Such precious blessings.

[@Koreleine]

I hear this so often, that people are told they will not get pregnant naturally and when they give up, suddenly the miracle happen. Nature goes weird ways sometimes.

[@mrsoph28]

Aw man, I’m sorry it didn’t work out for you. Glad you took time to yourselves to “get over it” as you say, who knows what the future holds for you two!

[@annanz2]

My hub & I stopped trying for baby after 13 years- I'm 43 now, so it was more that than anything. IVF sucks, infertility sucks and all that comes with it- lifestyle changes, invasive procedures, stupid questions & suggestions from those that have no idea , periods & turning sex into a chore. I wish nothing but the best for you both & take care of yourselves. X

[@landracriswell437]

I went through AIs and IVFs for several years! Many tests, bloodwork, surgeries, pills & injections! It was very emotional and stressful to go through, without much support 🥺. I did have good news January 14, 2002, I conceived my beautiful daughter. I wish everyone good luck be strong and patience.. Endocrinologist in Louisville, Ky were wonderful to work with!!

[@lacyshoenfelt1620]

Infertility is just this side of emotional hell. Making the decision to discontinue treatment is so hard but the best one we ever made. Sending you love and peace in this chapter.

[@Suprachiasmatic]

I’m so sorry this didn’t turn out how you’d hoped. 💙 thank you for being vulnerable enough to talk about it though!

[@TheCassierra908]

I'm so sorry for all the IVF struggles. It is so difficult. In 2005, my husband and i went through an unsuccessful IVF attempt. It was so extremely hard. For us the next year, we were blessed with our daughter amazingly naturally after 6 years of infertility. Thinking of you both. Wishing you all the best.

[@bamfam9285]

I thought I was not fertil myself. I got pregnant at 41. I couldn't believe it. You 2 are young. If you want to have a baby take time and try again later. You will be great parents ❤❤

[@CourtneyLynne0513]

41 wow! Did your pregnancy go smooth? If you feel comfortable answering of course but I was just curious because I know as you get older it’s more high risk. My mom was pregnant at 38 with her 8th (and last) baby she needed a c-section I forget why, but my sister turned out perfectly healthy and she is pretty advanced. I’m 26 but I still feel as if I’m running out of time to have kids. Someday I want to be a mom! Your family is beautiful btw!

[@whatever8243]

@@CourtneyLynne0513I was 39 when I had my third. It was 17years after I had my first. It was a smooth pregnancy other than super tired. 37 weeks my blood pressure shot up so they induced me at 37 weeks. He was born perfect and I recovered well. He is 13and I’m now 52.

[@celinuchis90]

​@@CourtneyLynne0513 I feel the same way. I'm 33. 😬 I feel like I need to make my final decision when I'm 34 (I'm still not 100% sure if this is what I want).

[@Beans_Autistic_Adventures]

I was 47. Truly thought I was done. I am now 52 with a 5 year old son a 32 and 29 year old daughter and 2 grandkids. Don’t get discouraged

[@carmenrivers9674]

I have to say- I was saying the same thing you all are when this happened to friends/family....until my daughter in law & my son went thru infertility....she found the courage to tell us to just hug them, allow them to grieve, & that often we say " she's infertil" when alot of times, we don't know. I wish for nothing but the best for you both! Xo

[@Terrann1]

Guys I am so sorry. We love you guys. 😊

[@heatherbrien5250]

So much empathy for you both. 💕

[@susie9010]

Adopt, adopt, adopt! We adopted our daughter 13 years ago because we couldn't get pregnant. It is wonderful and she was my very own since the time she was born. It is a beautiful thing. I encourage you to adopt!!!

[@meghan2846]

Do you have to keep in contact with the birth mother?

[@beverleyevans3262]

Do not adopt if you want a life without crises and heartache and heartbreak . Unless adoption is very different in The USA to what it is here, as it may well be of course.

[@omaimahegazy0158]

What's the problem with adoption, please ?​@@beverleyevans3262

[@tammysantana7200]

Thank you for the update but I’m glad you took the time to yourselves. I love you guys I’m so sorry I didn’t work out as you’d hoped.

[@sgough83]

As an adoptive mom to 2, don't give up. Take your time to process. Sending love and peace ❤

[@maryrentscher2316]

That entire process can be exhausting and full of very high highs and very low lows. Lean on each other. The Serenity Prayer helped us a lot to keep on going. Wishing you both all the best

[@toesinthesea1829]

IVF can be all consuming, it gives hope to so many but the void can be devastating & long lasting if unsuccessful. To remain focused on each other is so important & like many couples, this journey can take you to those unexpected chapters in your story. Thank you for sharing, your honesty and courage will help others in so many ways.

[@tcconnection]

You guys have been through so much. Your sharing will help others. Glad you're at a point to just enjoy your life together now.

[@InsaneAng]

This was similar to my story. We only tried once. Too many people will say things to you that hurt but are intended to help! I don’t know how many times someone told me, “You’ll see, it’ll happen when you’re not expecting it!” “Just relax, it will happen eventually.” We had our kids through foster adoption and I am at a place where I am happy in many ways that it happened that way.

[@annavallentin4662]

You 2 are so generous and brave to share your challenging journey and difficult results. Sending you very best wishes for peace and ultimate happiness.

[@justinfernandes2506]

Thank you both for being so honest. Do not give up hope. I appreciate you both sharing your lives.

[@thompsoncindy42]

Thank you for sharing your IVF journey with your audience. Your resilience in the face of disappointing results will no doubt be helpful to others experiencing issues. Much love to you both❣

[@yellowbananas43]

We thought ivf was the only way we’d get pregnant and there’s no way we could’ve afforded it. I started to focus on my health and slowly resigned myself to the idea of being childless. I’m now holding our 14 month natural surprise girl! So never give up hope. Sometimes God does the most with the least ❤

[@davidgiancoli2106]

Best of luck to both of you. I and your many viewers care!

[@ThriftyChick89]

I did 3 rounds of IVF and 2 egg retrievals. Nothing worked. I finally got pregnant naturally but in the meantime- all of the “suggestions” were not helpful honestly. At this point I’m sure you know your options. Best of luck in your next steps! ❤

[@maryjanedavis9033]

This. Everyone is like “just adopt” like it’s that easy of a decision. It’s just insensitive

[@pamcakes1]

You gave it a good shot. My heart goes out to you. IVF is so emotionally and physically taxing. I didn't read any comments and hoped for a happy ending (sans fishy swimmers), but I'm glad you two took some time and are feeling a bit recovered. Maybe one day you'll feel up to trying again, but if not, that's OK too.

[@venite_makes_things]

Seeing my friends go through IVF, I’m pretty sure this is about the most you can ask of people. So hard. Glad to see you’re in a good place now and whatever will happen in the kids department, you will leave a beautiful mark on the world.

[@DoctorJoanieTool]

Sending you all love and peace. You are a beautiful couple and I hope there is a way - any kind of way - adoption or IVF or surprise - for you to be parents. Only because I know you’d like to be parents and you’d be wonderful ones! But your life is already filled with love and respect and adventure. I am glad you have each other and your beautiful family together. ☮️

[@kelliedaeges555]

All support in your journey, it will come 🙏 ❤

[@razzygirl91]

Sending you both lots of love. I have definitely come across people who did several cycles of IVF and one embryo suddenly “stuck” and all was well, but obviously the whole process sounds extra exhausting for the two of you, and it’s not exactly a small amount of money I imagine! Keep doing you, enjoy this time to rest and reset and who knows what other avenues you might want to explore in future ❤

[@Karissa.Bendel]

The journey of infertility is so difficult! my husband and I have been on it for over a year now! We are starting our first IVF cycle in the next few months! Sending you both love in this challenging season🫶🏻

[@debbiehunt5940]

I hope you guys don’t give up in the long run, you guys would make great parents.

[@robynsandberg4159]

Thank you so much for sharing your journey. I am a single woman and adopted a beautiful baby girl from Guatemala when she was 10 months old.... Cannot believe she's now 22. There are so many options out there .... Donor sperm, donor egg, surrogacy, adoption... As long as you stay open-minded and don't close any doors you will become parents!! Love you guys!♥️♥️

[@Bexar2204]

Talk about an emotional rollercoaster, I´m so sorry for you that it didn´t happen. Hope you´re doing well in LA.

[@beccanaeg5377]

It took 3 ivf cycles and 5 transfers before I got pregnant with my twins. We then donated 9 embryos and she just had twins too

[@surfboard396]

I think that someday you guys will get the good news you’ve been looking for. I wish the very best for you. Much love.

[@Jabroni2U]

Hope not for the kids sake

[@surfboard396]

@@Jabroni2U Have a great day!

[@dearestdrew]

So sorry to hear the emotional rollercoaster you guys have been through. We were all rooting for the “fishy-swimmers” along with you. 💔 Whatever path leads you two to parenthood will be well worth these trials. It’s easy to see how much love you have to give your future child(ren), and each other. Thank you for being so open & honest - I’m sure your transparency is comforting to many. 🫂❤️

[@kenbales9837]

You guys are the best, you can see the love between you two. Don't give up.

[@twosawyers]

Trust me I can see the emotion. The smiles says it all. We are with y’all.

[@victoriadunnett4745]

So so sorry it didn't work for you both, IVF is often hailed as an answer and for some it is,the rest of us,a different story. Definitely take time to yourselves whenever you need,it's such a tough thing to go through

[@CelticRover42]

Love and solidarity to you both. Appreciate you continuing to share your story and ways to help and encourage others.

[@bobbyt2012]

Y'all are champs for putting this out there. It's such a tough thing that lots of people go through, but not that many people hear about. So happy you have a strong relationship and can get through the hardship. Much love to you both.

[@RowesRising]

I love that you say your cells divided made you parents🥰

[@amberaboushahba1576]

IVF is hard emotionally, I did 3 cycles and with the hormones and everything it does take its tole. Sorry for your troubles but nice that u guys have positive attitude, even if you didn't I feel for you guys.

[@kellylogsdon]

Hannah and Shane, thank you for sharing your journey with this. So many people need to hear this. I am sure it's very very hard to share.

[@denisedestefano821]

I'm so sorry the 'fishy swimmers' didn't cooperate. You two are still very young so don't give up hope. Maybe, when you're ready, you can explore other options. Adoption is always another option. I'm adopted, my birth mother was adopted, my half sister is adopted and my beautiful niece is adopted. My prayers are with you. Thank you for sharing your journey through life.

[@sarahbambi]

I don't know why adoption isn't their first and only option. People who have such debilitating disabilities and who decide to selfishly pass them down to an innocent child instead of adopting a child who's already living and in need of a home are the epitome of selfishness and lack of self-awareness.

[@denisedestefano821]

@@sarahbambi I guess you're not aware that they had already asked if Shane's condition would be passed on and they were told that it was very unlikely.

[@stephanied9629]

Wow, @sarah. You are an incredibly selfish person to have posted what you did. Sit down

[@melissa2068]

This is called advice from an old lady. When you don't focus on it. There have been many times where it happened naturally when people quit worrying

[@Gail-mv3sq]

So sorry you both have gone thru SO much.. IVF is HARD… hard emotionally and very hard on the bodies. Just rest; you’re beautiful people.. live your beautiful lives with the love you have for one another..

[@pjm6496]

Hard financially too 😢

[@lexismom9341]

I'm so very sorry. My prayers are with you both. Love you both!

[@jessicasmith307]

So sorry to hear about how your IVF journey ended this time. Thank you for sharing with us. Heartbreaking how hard it can be to conceive sometimes and how IVF is definitely not a guarantee of a baby 😢 I cried listening to this. It’s clear you both have been healing and getting through the heartache together. I had to do IVF too and it is incredibly emotional and overwhelming with so much pressure. Prayers for you both 💛

[@cynthiaholland13]

Having kids is hard. I pray you guys have a robust live in support system that can help take care of your husband and the kids. You don't want to burn yourself out after child birth. I believe you all will find a way to start your family together❤

[@MichelleBastin]

I love you both. Sending big hugs & just knowing you have each other is amazing. ❤

[@lisa-marie4938]

My husband and I did two IVF's and it was so exhausting. I am thinking of you guys as it doesn't end as soon as the results are given. The process from beginning to end is a roller coaster and even after. I kept it all in, until years later (5ish) and now I allow myself to express the hurt. You two are so optimistic from all the videos I have seen, please make sure to take care of yourselves. I am glad you took the holidays for yourselves. If anyone has something to say - omg, what world are we living in? oh, a weird one.Maybe not the best choice of word, but I can't even think of one that fits. It's a sad time where there is no respect and I just hope people are not selfish and give you hate because they didn't get a video, or question your channel legitimacy. I adore both of you and followed from the start and now my mom watches 63yr old :) Positive thoughts your way for a future with a little one or with the family you have now, like my husband and I. Maybe adoption or big sister for me, but who knows :)

[@barbaraoertli5947]

So sorry, hugs from Minnesota ❤

[@fadumohussein9519]

I’m so sorry! I pray you’re blessed with many babies together sooner than later .. healthy and happy!!

[@brittanyt33f]

Sending you both so much love from the Carolinas. Thank you for feeling safe to share that and for being vulnerable. I’m certain this video will help others who may be currently or have been down a similar path. I love seeing you two and admire your fairytale together. ❤

[@KL-ou9jj]

Yall would be so so perfect for foster adoption. It’s such a blessing.

[@charmainen2846]

Doing my second IUI tomorrow...☺

[@robynlmt24]

Good luck! I conceived my first through a medicated iui!

[@charmainen2846]

Thank you, I'm now on the 2 week wait@@robynlmt24

[@jessica1413]

Sending love. I used a donor from a cryobank and did IUI. My girls are 18 and 21 now. I am forever grateful to that person. There r all kinds of paths to parenthood or deciding not to is ok too.❤❤

[@Zeldagirl64]

I just started watching you both, hugs and enjoy each-other ❤️❤️

[@TaylorHaselton]

I'm so sorry you are going through this. Thank you for sharing with us all.

[@llshamp1424]

Sending you both SO much love...❤

[@maryflanagan3193]

Sorry to hear this. It is such a long heart breaking battle. Big hugs to you both.

[@sparklepugtea]

My condolences to what happened, but glad to hear y’all doin better! “Fishy swimmers” will always give me a chuckle 😂

[@Jabroni2U]

hardee har har

[@mrs.k6169]

You two are awesome. Take all the time you need... it was but a stepping stone for future blessing. You're still young, and you never know what the future holds. ❤

[@keidwyn]

So new to the lives of Squirmy and Grubs ,sounds like an exhausting rollercoaster ,Im sure you both had some pretty tough days but I love how you are both still able to smile and kid around ,laughter can be the best balm ,sending good vibes from Melbourne Australia .PS you guys give me hope regarding having a relationship I've kissed sooooo many toads that I lost hope ,but your love is beautiful and yeah I get it nothing is perfect ect but it feels to me so healthy and respectful ,guess what Im trying to say is ... I'd love to have what you guys have

[@susannahstuckey4488]

I’m not even a minute in and Shane is already telling a fairytale-comedic relief aside, my heart is with y’all, I know you will have the best family in the right timing. I’m TTC also and I know it can be disheartening.

[@sheliadrennan653]

When its the right time it will happen. God bless you both

[@Mosiebaby]

You are such beautiful people. Thank you for sharing your story and journey. It can be such a process and we are sending you all hugs!

[@WriterJenOnYT]

I'm sorry for what you've gone through and the unfortunate result. I'm glad you're relaxing, enjoying each other...and you'll figure out what's next when you do. Love from St. Louis.

[@katemeeks8625]

Our IVF failed too, with lots of fishy swimmers from OH 🤣 it’s so distressing. We are at 4 years later now, we both came to the decision that we were done at the exact same moment, had a kiss and a cry, went to build a bear and got a bear with two hearts. He’s taking care of our sad for us, lets us deal with it a bit at a time. But, we are perfectly happy as a couple, we have two guide dogs who entertain us. Not the same as our own child, but it’s ok. Still have sad days, but they get further apart abd don’t last as long. All emotions are fair emotions. Just keep being honest with each other, even if they aren’t positive emotions, and you will get through.

[@Louis--]

I think I sense a merch drop coming! Fish Swimmers t-shirts!

[@hilarygrant4351]

You'll do IVF as long as you want to, or, stop when you're done. Only YOU will know the right time. I know someone who went through 10 cycles, using both her eggs and donor eggs with no success. She and her husband eventually adopted a baby boy from Guatemala; he's now 20 years old. I did three IVFs in the late '90s but unlike you guys, my physician was blown away at how perfect my embryos were, **every single time.** But... NONE of them ever stuck .once they were, uh, inserted. I even did an embolization procedure to make that happen. The roller coaster ride is so draining and difficult... not to mention that there are times in the process where you really are justifiably hopeful and then the roller coaster goes down... AGAIN. When I finally decided I was done, I asked my doctor (whose clients included Brooke Shields and Roseanne and Jane Seymour) why I couldn't get pregnant. He leaned back in this chair, thought a moment and said, "I don't know." Fast forward to today: my beautiful daughter, who I brought home from China as a baby, is now 26 years old. I cannot imagine having any other child. She was absolutely meant to be my child, and I was meant to be her mom.

[@vdovii]

Whatever you choose in the future I hope it goes how you want. ❤

[@jeffreycormier5754]

My heart just sunk for you 2. You have been on this for quite some time now. You both so deserve each other right now and always. Sending big hugs.

[@lexipace6928]

Been a watched for years! Love you guys so much!

[@nancydooley7439]

I came to you to say not to loose faith. You will be successful and you must let go of considerable stress from the process. Do not loose hope. Much love to you both and may your blessings be realized soon.

[@jdaasa2011]

Thank you for sharing your story. Hugs to you both.

[@dagmar9230]

Wishing you both the very best❤❤❤

[@MaikaClarke]

I'm so sorry to hear about the sad news. I know that however you become parents, you will be wonderful parents.

[@diamondj3869]

Hugs from Pennsylvania ❤️