our opposite childhoods and how we want to raise our kids

[@justjoelee]

well...the mugs sold out in 14 minutes. thank you folks 🤍 lessshiddy.com

[@chasel2205]

Awe dang. Any thoughts to a second drop?

[@anthonyfreeman2147]

NOOOOO!!!

[@harvestmoon_autumnsky]

As a parent of two teenagers and a teacher of six year olds, I will say the most important thing to do is talk like you guys are now, you don't have to make hard and fast decisions about parenting, just get into the habit of talking about it, and being intentional in some of the choices you make. Give them a warm household filled with love, cooking, self care and doggies. I think you'll make great dads.

[@TheKephera]

this is such wholesome advice ❤

[@melonenjoyer]

Damn ur children r so lucky ur a cool parent

[@fluffyjojo4570]

Love the new format! Interesting topic too. I was really frustrated as a kid. I’m disabled and really wasn’t comfortable in my body. When I was around 11 years old, there was a kid in my class that I was irrationally horrible to for a brief period. It really wasn’t like me to treat anyone the way I treated her. Growing up, I felt so ashamed about it. With the advent of Facebook I tracked her down and apologised - she said she couldn’t remember it. I don’t know if she’s just saying that to make me feel better but even though we’re friends now (not just on Facebook, we actually socialise) I still feel awful about it.

[@justjoelee]

good for you for taking the time to apologize! I'm sure they appreciated it 🤍

[@BlueBerries953]

Same. I bullied a girl once when I was 11. She was a very good friend until I found a new best friend and so we bullied her together, making up stories about how she had headlice etc and spreading rumours around school. She eventually shaved her head and would cry a lot and we would laugh. Now as an adult looking back, I am beyond mortified!! I don't know why I did that. It was just funny to me. As a kid I lacked the full capacity to understand the depth of harm I was doing to someone. Like I knew it made her sad and cry, but I just didn't feel affected. I am an extremely empathatic person as an adult. So it's so unlike me to behave that way. I would put my own life on line for strangers. This goes to show that when you are a kid, you lack full emotional maturity and do many things that come from lack of development and they are not the real you. I wish I could find her now and apologise. She moved countries and I feel so ashamed.

[@fluffyjojo4570]

@@BlueBerries953 It’s awful isn’t it? You hurt her, but you also hurt yourself by doing such a shitty thing. If you’re anything like me, it scares you that you were capable of acting like that and makes you question whether you’re a good person now - even though you were a child when it happened. 40 years ago I was an angry and frustrated 11 year old girl unable to come to terms with my disability. I unfairly directed that anger at my pretty, able bodied classmate probably because I was jealous. It wasn’t physical bullying but I was a class A bitch to her. She’s clearly forgiven me but to this day, I can’t forgive myself.

[@RenCres]

I like your podcast!

[@pandu5461]

I didn’t realize how engaging it is until 13 minutes in. You guys are so good at doing podcasts omg🤩🤩 I wouldn’t mind at all if you make it to 30 minutes podcast

[@fyoutube10.24]

I was bouncing off the walls as a kid, then became shy and quiet as a teenager, now as a young adult the only thing I care about is finding my own happiness

[@Abdi77777]

I love that the both of you are so happy and blessed to be with each other. Love you guys ❤

[@tstieber]

Yeah they really seem to adore and support each other. It's really nice to see

[@justjoelee]

🤍🤍🤍

[@oliviahelp1968]

Please make these longer! I would not mind it being more of a mind dump of conversation as well. 😌 As an 18 year old girl trying to figure out what to do next in life, you bring great comfort with your videos. 🥰

[@awkwardatlas5623]

I'm really enjoying this new format. Interesting to hear you talk about your different childhoods and how they'd affect how you raise any future kids. Keep them coming

[@justjoelee]

thank you! 🤍

[@michaelmetcalf2715]

Best part of my Sunday is Joe and Ryan. Banger podcast. Thanks for sharing your lives with us. Greetings from California. I was teased relentlessly because it took a long time for my voice to change. I was 6 feet at 14..but sounded like a girl. Puberty was a nightmare..💪💪👑👑

[@justjoelee]

thanks for watching! kids are ruthless haha

[@galvynsevere978]

I didn't realize I that could relate to you guys by growing up in a Christian family and thinking about going to heaven our whatever. It gives me hope for my future💛

[@Harry-fk5of]

I can totally relate to being intimidated by adults and feeling like they and the people around me were judging me hard. It made me self conscious and it caused social anxiety which has come and gone all the way through my life. It's an ongoing battle for me even today in my 30's

[@alleycat1387]

Joe your childhood definitely mirrored mine it's so crazy! As a toddler I actually started out talkative and sociable like Ryan, but due to some life trauma I definitely relate more to you growing up. Became nervous and shy around adults..even had a similar experience in Jr high where a girl didn't want to sit next to me and yet all the seats were taken so the only available spot was next to me and a boy didn't have any problem saying outloud "she probably doesn't want to sit next to her because she's too ugly." I'm not a model, but im definitely not ugly either..and yet little things like that affected me like they did for you which was why I grew up with social anxiety (still am in a way).

[@teetertotter5787]

I love how thoughtful you both are. Thanks for sharing your childhood things and reflecting on how it impacted you.

[@BryceCorsi]

I feel like as a kid I was more extroverted, and as I got older I closed up. Mainly because of my sexuality, and the fact I hung around mainly girls. And having low self esteem, I ended up having toxic friends for a long time. Glad to know I wasn’t alone, thank you for sharing your guy’s experience!😌❤️

[@wehojm7320]

Whatever you want to classify this vlog as it was a good listen. You're sharing some honest feelings with each other and with us on what shaped you to who you are today. I think you'll make fantastic parents.

[@williamgraham6352]

Loove this new podcasting era for you guys! I've always thought you both were quite insightful and well spoken so this is kind if the ideal format to showcase that!

[@VampcatVvvvV]

I wish as a child I had been taught to understand that failure is not a reason to give up but just a stepping stone to becoming. I was always told how smart I was which set me up for believing I had to be perfect at something immediately. Now I'm 64 (in 3 weeks) and I've missed out on so many things because I gave up as soon as it became difficult. By the time I was a teenager I was certain adults had been lying to me my entire life. I bring this up because it's something I wish all kids could understand. It's what I would try to get my younger self to understand.

[@chonwaywan725]

damn, idk that there's a person out there in the world that has the same trauma and experience like me: just dont talk to anyone and you are fine, and repeating the little little situations over and over again for years. because of this, i really had a hard time to just go on from one day to another. i honestly thought that nobody struggles with this except for me since everyone around me is just as outgoing as f-. but anyways, from this, at least i get to know someone that has the same experience as me and just to remind myself that i am not alone, that i need to be grateful with what i have. thank you for the video!

[@jphd21]

I love love love this new format, there's this amazing energy between you two, I didn't feel one outshining the other one, it was more about sharing and complementing each other. I'd like to suggest something though, the mics are great (podcast vibes) but the metallic arms are huge and became a focal point and were blocking you as well, you tend to move your heads quite often and sometimes we couldn't see your eyes and expressions, which are super important, especially with topics like this one!!

[@jupiteromen1805]

Being a shy quiet kid, I can totally relate to Joe-Lee

[@m_aarrcc]

this was the first time i cried watching this...thank you ryan for sharing I am definitely in my journey but seeing this helps me, thank you both for sharing :)

[@NoahWisniewski]

the way i was always soooo self conscious of myself and what people though of me, and I think that stems from getting bullied just like you!!! The overthinking is so me also, and maybe this is the libra in us cause I swear we think the sameeeee

[@popanga0994]

I am loving this new format!! You guys are my faves 💖💜💙

[@mr.antonio88]

The mugs 🤩🤩

[@justjoelee]

thank you! 🤍

[@wimvan362]

What a great and honest video/podcast👍🏻. So good to talk about your youth and the learning proces. You become to great persons and are blessed as friends together. Thx 🙏🤗🇳🇱

[@justjoelee]

Thank you so much! 🤍

[@tstieber]

I am months behind on your vlogs, life is so busy, but I'm grateful for being in the moment today! I don't really reflect back on childhood that often, but I was also really shy, plus we kept moving back and forth from Europe to the U.S. so I had to adjust to different cultures over and over. I would get a little bullied in elementary school too, not as bad as Joe, more like teasing and being left out. I'm hindsight, it was because I didn't feel like I fit in with the straight boys or the local culture. But as an adult, I'm super outgoing and will talk to anybody! One thing that's weird though is that as a kid in the 80s, I was considered a huge nerd, but that's because the social standard at that time was to be really tough and hyper masculine. By today's standards, though, the mainstream is way more nerdy than I ever was back then. All the superheroes, Harry Potter, Star Wars type of stuff that's become mainstream today was looked down on in those days, and only the biggest outcasts were into that, and I wasn't even that big of a nerd. So if I were growing up today, I think it would be a breeze by comparison.

[@leeauslander8305]

Are ryans parents ok with him being with a guy? He said he grew up religious. Not being nosy just wondered.

[@tstieber]

@@leeauslander8305 I think I recall him saying a long time ago that they're not super close. Sad bc he's so disarming and warm, they should be so lucky as to have a good son like that

[@claraebang7958]

I will comeback to this video during hard time and tell myself:"what would your dads say or do" and I would feel and do better because I would think of Joe and Ryan😊

[@x10xiii13]

Audio improved from the last one! Good job, Joe!

[@kwametomlin]

omg yess!!!! the new video layout

[@justjoelee]

Yay, thank you! 🤍

[@levislevis1073]

I love this podcast! This helps me a lot to train my "listening"❣️ Love from Brazil🇧🇷 (sorry, if i wrong something)

[@sigurdk13]

I loove the new format. Y'all in your podcast era 😝. But the mic stands are covering a huge chunk of the screen it becomes a but distracting, but love you guys. Keep these coming 😭

[@chrisnguyen5801]

Love love love this! Love finally hearing the perspective of an asian lgbt boy because not very many people talk about this that I can relate to!

[@yunglynda1326]

totally resonated with what you both had to say!

[@perfxctworld]

this new format makes me really happy! have a great day :)

[@allisonhellums]

Loving the podcast style again!! Also very excited to watch with my own ss mug in the coming weeks. Congrats on the launch!!

[@justjoelee]

Hope you enjoy it! 🤍

[@luzbelovyh]

I love the mugs, they're beautiful🥰

[@justjoelee]

appreciate that! 🤍

[@bl2431]

Love this! Just tip for camera angles, looks like the camera autofocused on the mugs as the focal point, would suggest switching it to manual once you have the zoom focus locked in. Love this channel!

[@hahahanulinka]

For me, all sports were a horror because I'm clumsy and I was bullied because of that, so please if your kids won't be into that, show them you still love them anyway. But I think you will be great dads.

[@KhumoMarkham]

I am really enjoying these podcast style videos. They feel more intimate.

[@yukikanuwat8774]

Hoping for longer episode of this, I love how you share your insight to us.

[@drkomaltiwari2023]

Here with the speed of light ✌🏻

[@justjoelee]

🤍

[@Wyattheearp]

Wow, great video guys. Thanks for letting me into your podcast life. You are both beautiful and full of life. Thanks for sharing some of your intimate childhood memories, I can relate to so much of what you describe. Good luck in the future guys. Hey, I took Judo when I was a kid and have fond memories of it, as well as it induced in me a small bit of self confidence that expanded as I got older. Keep up the love and "Be less Shiddy!"

[@DevilDears]

Great podcast! ❤ I’m glad you’ve decided to make this a regular thing.

[@kat_as_trophy]

omg the mugs and the frank ocean poster are the perfect fit

[@binhongjenniferxie4289]

As mother of teenage girl , suggest after you have kids let them try all kind sports at young age , help kids find their favourite one, then focus on it. Will get more benefit from it physically and mentally. but for swimming I think is mandatory, because it can save yourself !

[@ppfuchs]

You guys should talk about how you met, and started dating. I don't think you have ever discussed it.

[@SuperSammie08]

Wow. That was brilliantly beautiful. Thank you.❤

[@camnova]

This was a beautiful vulnerable conversation ❤

[@lourlopezsk]

I absolutely loved this 😍

[@billyhorr7126]

to your younger self...ask for forgiveness or forgive your self your brain is still developing instead of peer pressure

[@davidperrii]

Love these videos with you two!!!

[@TheKmilo2695]

I loved this chapter! Keep it on with the good job Joe and Ryan. The religion topic is really interesting, do you think you could talk about it some time later?

[@remarc69]

Well, that was slightly therapeutic and very enjoyable, thanks guys👌🏻

[@tamarjungreis3129]

thanks for sharing

[@stephenprentice7731]

:-) great episode guys. Excellent, open hearted conversation. Wishing you both well 😁

[@peterpatrick620]

. . . great share . . . you guys are on the way to becoming great dads . . .

[@im_learning_bicth]

Not the childhood enemies to adult lovers pipeline 😭

[@yeseniag778]

Oh man! I really love this new approach, I love to hear you guys talk about more things in depth and to get to know you guys better. I really hope you can make longer podcasts. I would love to hear more of what you have to say, and it would be nice to listen to while doing whatever else I may have to. ❤😊👍Really appreciate you guys.

[@larakelly6288]

another sunday and see you two talking find out more about you, i'm loving this podcast❤❤❤❤❤❤(l am from Brasil 🇧🇷)

[@deardiary3830]

Omg Joe, no one understands me when I tell them I find(/found as a kid) it really hard to talk to people who are older than me. And still, even to my own family I find it soooooo difficult and I HATE it having to talk to adults.

[@williamm8240]

Are you guys the only child? I am at the bottom of 6 brother and sisters. The hand me downs and the family dynamics. All the things that you talked about is understandable. Keep up these one on one and search for the feelings that come with that emotions and part of living. Great conversation.

[@jameswebb375]

I would be really interested to hear more about both of your experiences with church and religion - just a suggestion :)

[@Lifewithseanthony]

Great podcast. It’s crazy how we all share some sort of PTSD.

[@alansaltz8308]

hey guys when are you going to have more of those mugs? they’re really cool!

[@Hurc_life]

Can you move the big polls to the side so we can see you both more. Other than that awesome video as usual!

[@arnaudmarch788]

Ok this is gonna become a thing, at least it's my new fav thing to listen to on my monday off. Really want that mug tho damn

[@themultiKai]

it would be nice if it was a longer podcast. something i can cook to. :)

[@odilijabarkute7914]

I am eating this content UP

[@justjoelee]

thanks for the support! 🤍

[@Abhi-qr5ex]

I love video like these, yeeee i am waiting for more.

[@AYUnyc]

I’m pretty athletic but the one sport I COULD NOT do was swimming 😭😭. I can swim but not well in deep water. So yea, a life hack but swimming has been hard for me to learn LOL

[@louis_lindau]

Hey. Joe I'm curious. Don't you think that your shyness in the childhood was an effect of your parents behavior? If I am not mistaken, your parents are native Koreans. And I live in the Sibiria(Asian part of Russia), where I have a lot of Asian classmates. Shyness is pretty common problem for them.

[@TheOnlyTaps]

Fantastic discussion

[@tcraigy]

Great topic of conversation. I think who we were as kids helped us learn what we don't want. Any kind of activity is good as networking is one of the best ways to shape your future. How about Lacrosse? It is Canada's original sport. I was also curious if the base of the microphone stand could be moved out of the frame. Would it look weird with just the metal arm with the microphone in the frame? It would give you more room to do your pour. 🤷‍♂

[@_gregc]

I LOVE this

[@adventureforme]

Excellent! Thanks!

[@tjdomerny4847]

Did you guys get your tats done after you moved in with each other or before you knew each other?

[@HotSauceStain]

Yo I went to Sweet Grass elementary school! My parents still live like half a block away, Blue Quill baby 🤙

[@tomislavandreev326]

Are you doing shipping to Croatia or North Macedonia? Love ur vlogs guys keep up ⬆️ ☺️🙃☺️❤️

[@justjoelee]

yes! but unfortunately the mugs are all sold out 🤍

[@robmarth2226]

Yey, another podcast!

[@justjoelee]

🤍

[@codemyster323]

The mugs are sold out already, only 30 min after the video posted 😢

[@justjoelee]

sold out in 14 minutes 😳

[@codemyster323]

@@justjoelee happy for you Joe and all your success man

[@johnalexisfranco8265]

Liked it! More to come please :)

[@GarrettWease]

Grew up in a similar way to y’all I think, and the critical thinking thing is a sure thing. Getting real as I’ve got two on the way this summer. 😬

[@justjoelee]

CONGRATS GARRETT 🤍

[@michaelelie4308]

Hi I love listening to your guys conversations/podcast. listening to you guys make me look at life a little different and I like that. could I ask you guys one thing could you adjust the mic slightly so we can see your face is better?♥️♥️♥️😊

[@mrki731]

OMG. Thank you so much for being so open, especially Joe. It's not easy to recall and share awkward moments from our youth. We all tend to hide those moments or forcefully forget them. Our brain is playing dirty tricks on us all and no one talks about it. Thanks for sharing and know that you/we are not alone in this. 🏆🫶

[@jjsmith4829]

glad u 2 survived your childhoods

[@kaylanicole5126]

Joe are we the same person?😂seriously I was exactly the same way and it sucked growing up

[@tstieber]

That's what's so amazing about the world being virtual and final, we suddenly realize we are not alone! For me, I'm not like either of these two guys, but for all the different vloggers we watch, my husband and I find it weirdly hilarious that there's one other couple that talks, thinks, and acts almost exactly like us. Surely we all have alter egos and doppelgangers out in the world.

[@justjoelee]

seems like we all had similar upbringings haha

[@chocolatemorechocolate8963]

Yea, those mugs sold out. I'm kinda of sad. They were cute cups. On another note, I love how he is sharing how he was an enabler of bullying but made the choice to be different. Ironically, he even realizes he is queer now. I think you two guys are great. Keep up the content!

[@shelleyritchie3568]

Very interesting exchange of ideas

[@azam987654321]

how do 2 guys have kids? sorry i am 11 and english is not good

[@anichi883]

super random but I just wanted to say that there's an Ultra Peach Monster. It is divine.

[@pierce1701e]

Ugh I missed the mug. I’ve literally been waiting for those things to go on sale and I missed them! Nooooooo!😢

[@riacardi7011]

yall are too cute

[@WillieFordham]

Hipsters are so cool

[@Joshua-eg5vs]

I'm seated

[@ropasidi5154]

Amazing sound!

[@deesullivan7474]

If it's in this format, 15 minutes is a little short don't cha think. Most podcast eps are anywhere from 40 mins to 2 hrs, ya know. Anyways if you're gonna do this from time to time or moving forward, truly commit to it. Your pocket friends wanna hear what you think. For more than 15 minutes lol

[@tjdomerny4847]

Ryan should take a Meyers Briggs test. He may not be ADHD but simply ENFP

[@matsaidso]

DAMNNN! Those mugs are hot asf 😮

[@justjoelee]

appreciate that! 👌🏼

[@magnify_coffee]

いつも素敵🫶🏻🥺☕️

[@Mokawoo]

I got bullied by fat kids I was also small and frail. I got bullied up until 4th grade when one of the non fat bullys became friends with me .what I remember he said I just looked funny I wore stripes and you know clothes little kids should wear and the “cool” kids would wear jeans shirts with like “cool” designs. But we became friends, after moving years later I saw in social Media he got shot….very sad but I’m guessing he was part of a gang since their was lots of gangs in that area.