Outgrowing Friends: The Unspoken Reality

[@SonnyL3773]

Change is the only way to grow. The goal to life is to constantly grow. I really get my energy drained by being around people who refuse change.

[@makelifemedicine]

@@SonnyL3773 same 🙌🏼

[@Nato-g5m]

Yep!!! "crabs in a bucket" is a real thing!! AND 1 Peter 4 says..." Because YOU do not continue running with them in this course to the same low sink of debauchery, they are puzzled and go on speaking abusively of YOU!"

[@makelifemedicine]

@@Nato-g5m incredible that this lesson is even in the Bible 😂💗 Fundamental truth of human nature.

[@waggytailsolo]

The solitary confinement analogy is spot-on. We have to remind ourselves that there is no lock on the door. Thank you for this timely video.

[@Aveleen_Nicole]

Ending my marriage of 5 years and I can’t wait!!!! I knew I had to pick my feet up and run when I was told by this man that “ I’ve changed “ he hasn’t Also have a friendship that I see must end… part of me want to say it directly but I also want to let things fall off naturally but I cringe at getting a text message I’m so tired of pretending with people! It’s exhausting

[@makelifemedicine]

@@Aveleen_Nicole Wow, you are going through it! That's a LOT of change and transition and transformation all at once. Good for you. Remember, you are doing this for YOU, and no one else. You MUST prioritize yourself, your happiness, your health-physical, mental, emotional, spiritual. I know you know this, just a friendly reminder 😉 As far as the friendship, they run their course and die naturally, in my experience. It has never required a formal conversation. And I've ended mannnnny of them 😅 Cheers to growth and evolution 🥳

[@Aveleen_Nicole]

@ cheers indeed ❤️🎉💃🏾 Thank you for the reminder for the advice 😊

[@makelifemedicine]

​@@Aveleen_Nicole Anytime, sis 😉❤

[@Aveleen_Nicole]

“ IT DOESN’T MATTER WHAT THEY SAY “ Man! I’m so happy to find this channel!!! Thank you!! This applies to allll relationships!

[@makelifemedicine]

@@Aveleen_Nicole Absolutely all relationships- Amen to that! PREACH! 🙌🏼😂

[@David-jk2dp]

"How you ARE shouts so loud, I cant hear what your saying" is one saying I have lived with. I pay attention to my body. It knows/feels. Took years to affirm my feelings where this is concerned because of family gaslighting

[@ManhattanRats]

Agreed: I've outgrown relationships in my 60+ years. You've got my attention. Robert in NYC.

[@makelifemedicine]

@@ManhattanRats I bet you've got stories! All in the name of growth and evolution 🙌🏼❤️

[@JC_WT]

I loved this talk. You absolutely nailed it on every point. I'm currently going through a lot of this with my family right now. And omg it's so draining. I know I need to get out of here. Not entirely sure how I'm gonna make that happen yet but I know it needs to be done. I have amazing plans that could change the world if I could put them into practice, but I know I won't be able to truly put my all into this project in my current situation, so that is a priority at this stage. Definitely feels like I'm in a "crabs in a bucket" situation. Again, this was a great talk. I really mean that. You have a sharp mind. 🙂👍

[@makelifemedicine]

@@JC_WT wow, thank you 🙏🏼 I am very flattered, that's one of the best compliments 🤓 The fact that you are feeling that agitation and the urge to make a change, is enough evidence to tell me that you WILL make it happen. When you're ready, you will 😉💗

[@roberthanson5157]

I’m in Schofield Wis. 55 years old male. Your video popped up on my KZbin channel on Christmas Eve. I love listening to you!

[@makelifemedicine]

@@roberthanson5157 omg! How synchronistic. I'm from Wisconsin too! Maybe I said that in the video, who knows lol. Happy holidays to you, and thank you for being here on my channel ☃️💗

[@roberthanson5157]

@@makelifemedicine I’ve worked through so many issues in my life as well. I have 1 that I haven’t been able to my whole life though. Trying to work on it

[@makelifemedicine]

@roberthanson5157 You will get there. Or not. But who cares? We're all just on an endless journey anyways 😂

[@roberthanson5157]

@@makelifemedicine Very true! I’ve been at the same factory job for 36 years now. It’s getting old. lol. The last 6 months I’ve been thinking about quitting and cashing my 401 k out ( I have 300,000 in there) and doing I’m not sure what lol. But forcing myself to figure it out

[@makelifemedicine]

@roberthanson5157 I guarantee if you throw yourself into that situation, you will absolutely figure it out. You just have to trust yourself 💗🙏🏼

[@realigninglife]

I left a religious background almost a decade ago. I 100% get what you're talking about when you say vibration and the energy that you get from other people and what you're putting out yourself... I was shocked to discover that I was so shut down, I never even felt this from myself or other people. It was like stepping into an entirely new world, unfortunately, most of my family and friends couldn't come with me and now think I am some kind of black sheep alien that believes weird things that messed me up for life. lol. Still living my best life though!

[@makelifemedicine]

@@realigninglife I'm sorry to hear but, But glad that you're not letting affect the way you live your life now 💗

[@lorensims4846]

We can accomplish so much when we work together. But when we work at crossed purposes it can ruin everything.

[@makelifemedicine]

@@lorensims4846 totally, that's a great insight 💡

[@Kareena1988]

Can you do a video on why "stupid" or chilled people get a partner in life or people chasing them while mature, serious people who are much more empathic and loving seem to be unwanted?

[@makelifemedicine]

@@Kareena1988 I will put it on the list! One thing I'll say though is that it sounds like a limiting belief, and if you believe that to be true it will be almost impossible for you to experience otherwise. Similarly to this videos' topic, the "dumb" people aren't preoccupied with thoughts of self doubt, so it doesn't hinder them from attracting what they desire 😉💗

[@realigninglife]

I'd love to see a video on that too. One thought that came up for me is people that end up with partners they have to chase are definitely not choosing them out of something healthy from inside themselves. You can take heart with that.

[@JC_WT]

I'm going to read "The Power of Now". Thanks for the recommendation. 👍

[@makelifemedicine]

@@JC_WT it's foundational for any spiritual path, in my opinion ❤️ I hope you like it ☺️

[@Royalbliss206]

10:59 i feel that way with my mom ,she says she loves me but

[@philipbryan7352]

does this includes family even if they mean well including those that don't get out much

[@makelifemedicine]

@@philipbryan7352 in my opinion yes, even if they "mean well". That's often an excuse for really messed up, toxic, codependent, and manipulative behavior. I believe it's every adult's responsibility to sort out their shit and to at least be working on their own projections and patterns. If they're not even trying to meet you where you are, and they say they "just love you" or are "just worried about you", that's a bunch of BS, in my opinion. Of course, anyone is welcome to disagree with me 😉💗

[@justanotherguygeorge3430]

I feel like im not resonate with most people, just with my goals😃😃

[@makelifemedicine]

@@justanotherguygeorge3430 you are in good company here 😉❤️

[@Mmmmchocolate]

Friends? What are those?

[@Billn1971]

Wish I knew!

[@Upharius]

A lot of this is a lack of self esteem and perceived self worth. Growth or lack thereof wouldn't really matter because we are still individuals. At the core of all of this is choice, people have their own lives that consists of making decisions that alter, and/or affect their world.

[@makelifemedicine]

@@Upharius I agree with you that it's a lack of self-esteem and perceived self-worth, among other things, that leads people to harshly judge and criticize those around them who have changed.

[@HelloworldWelcometoMylife1]

Do something about it, but what I already cut out all those people who don't serve me where to go to meet people who are aligned with me where is this metaphorical "other side" I want to find people that I could connect with I whold love to have someone like a yoga teacher or meditation instruction of opposite gender as an intimate partner of close friend preferably romantic partner im searching for Tantric twin-flame connection with someone I don't have any money to go to events ad online doesn't yeld the best results

[@makelifemedicine]

@@HelloworldWelcometoMylife1 I saw your message on IG! Will respond to you there 😄