Overcoming Misophonia (Selective Sound Sensitivity Syndrome/4S) I The Speakmans

Selective Sound Sensitivity Syndrome (4S) or Misophonia, a condition for which there is no known cure, is successfully treated live on ITV Daybreak by Nik & Eva Speakman, using their Schema Conditioning Psychotherapy™.
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[@Christiethelegend]

That annoys me, 'ohh yay she's cured!' People with misophonia can never be cured!! They can adapt and react better with treatment and time, but it never goes away! I'm struggling so much with misophonia, and keep trying to get treatment to help

[@antisocialflutterby]

i have misophonia - and i can tell you, it's not a fear you can "get over." it's not like a fear of heights; if you try really hard you can control it. you CANNOT control misophonia. every time i have an episode, i know my behaviour isn't rational. but i can't stop the reaction, no matter how hard i try.

[@paulwokingham6426]

I have been a Misophonia sufferer for 35 yrs. In addition to the misery it brings it has been getting worse and more sounds trigger my anxiety. I saw this clip and in desperation contacted the Speakmans, they invited me to take part in a clinical study they are undertaking. I was hugely sceptical but being 'untreatable' felt it was my only option. My session was yesterday and today my life is changed. I ate with my family and sat next to an apple eater in a work canteen - unbelievable!

[@slrxxxxx]

There's a difference between a phobia and a dislike for the sound. Most of my friends claim to have this phobia and it really annoys me. People like that undermine people who really do suffer from this phobia.

[@elizabethmoore9018]

For me the crunching isn't bad, it's the sound of the saliva in the mouth while swallowing, lip smacking, throat clearing, yawning, coughing, slurping while drinking, gum chewing, and the rustling of popcorn in a bag.

[@fafoosnick6839]

Same here, elizabeth

[@rebeccabirch6130]

Same! It's nice to know that I'm not crazy! Also, I doubt that this came from watching a show. I've had this for as long as I can remember, and it certainly didn't come from anything I know of.

[@ptanyuh]

Oh gosh slurping.......................... /RAGE

[@LydiaGreatrix]

I have this and it is literally the worst thing. On some days my misophonia is worse than others. I only feel the anxiety when it's people in my family and when it's at its worse I have to leave the room. Recently it has progressed to visual stimuli; I can't even look at my family when we're at the dinner table. I want to get treatment but my parents don't understand. Misophonia sucks :p

[@actuallyapomergranate]

I now have the visual hatred too.. I hate seeing people eat or move their fingers

[@leadaily1994]

I have this and you don't get it from just watching a TV show. I've had it since I was really little I never liked loud repetitive noises. I didn't watch any shows... I hate when people eat, Munch, crunch, breathe, sniffle, cough, tap a pencil against a desk or something... There's a lot. I use head phones to block it out. Or I go in another room.

[@PocoAPoco87]

I hate to doubt her, but unless her misophonia is very slight, she would not be smiling and chatting when she heard the sound (even on TV). She'd be trying to restrain herself from screaming, punching them all, and running out of the studio--I know because I have misophonia. If I'm wrong I apologize...but I just cannot imagine someone with misophonia reacting that calmly. Plus they call it a 'fear' of sounds. I wouldn't call it fear, I'd call it rage and hatred.

[@actuallyapomergranate]

YESS!

[@ptanyuh]

I am so glad that I am not alone in having such blood curdling rage from noises. I REALLY REALLY REALLY hate the people next door because they WILL NOT FIX THEIR BROKEN CAR!!! I struggled for YEARS to find a quiet place to live, and within two months, this awful, lazy, fat, family moved across the street with this noisy broken car and it makes me want to kill myself every f**king day. I work nightshifts and the lack of sleep is literally making me insane. WHAT DO I DO!!?!?!?!?!??!?!?!

[@Trice0878]

It's a relief to learn that there is a name to this "Phobia" (Phonia) and other people obviously share my suffering. I don't remember what triggered my Misophonia as it started more than 20 years ago (age 12-14). It's not only that eating and sniffing noises make me angry I also feel ashamed of it as other people either find it funny or abnormal (or both). If there was a way to cure this, this would make my life so much better.

[@FalseDisposition]

I feel that same way about repetitive noises... People used to do it to try to push my buttons without knowing how incredibly grueling it was to have to hear it...

[@cnuffs]

Mine started when my mother screamed at my cousin for chewing ice and sent him home. Ever since then I notice gum smacking, pop corn eaters, ice eaters, dry mouth people, people who suck on candies. I hate living this way. And it enrages me the 10% of the people who smack. And they chew gum extra fast not like normal people.

[@actuallyapomergranate]

I have misophonia and the worst trigger is people eating. Fight or flight. I get in trouble if I do either and I get called "retarded" by my own family. I can't stand so many sounds and it's honestly ruined my life.

[@slawek2109]

Good to see that I am not the only one. After long years I found out Misophonia. Actually it is not strong for me because I could watch this video, but in real world I could not stand it. The worst for me is with my family, I can't sit with them behind the table while eating. I have to go my room, close the doors and eat alone. I can't stand noises and looking at them while eating. Of course they could not understand that and each day there are arguments about it when I get rage. Today I showed them articles about this.. I hope they will undrestand.

[@fafoosnick6839]

The way my mom pronounces the letter 'p' (I hear a slight clicking sound from it that drives me MAD!), and sometimes the letter 'b' (depending on the word). Also, my husband makes smacking and salivary sounds while he eats that so incredibly annoying. It's hard to live with this, I can relate to this woman.

[@ptanyuh]

That is precisely why I live alone and always, always, always will. I cannot stand other people making noise, especially when it's in MY SPACE. The outside "society" noises are fine -- garbage trucks, snowplows ship/fog horns -- but as soon as an INDIVIDUAL decides to make noise and POLLUTE the air for everyone else, I fly into a murderous rage. I cannot stand it. I wish I could go back in time and murder the person that created the leaf blower....................and don't get me started on weekend warriors firing up their table saws at 7am on a Saturday. WHY ARE PEOPLE SO INCONSIDERATE!?!?!?!?!?

[@IrulewithLucas]

Finally, my parents think I am crazy and ignore my hatred for the sound of people eating. It drives me insane and causes physical pain in my side.

[@frodobag152]

Since I was very little I have had sensitivity to certain sounds. From watching this video I cannot see how it is possible to just feel better after chatting with 2 shrinks for 30 minutes. Especially considering the great amount of rage and hatred that boil to the surface when I hear the things that set me off. In short it sounds like a load of ....

[@jbjbbsblove]

i have misophonia. it is probably one of the most frustrating things to live with! nothing seems to help me except for actually vocalizing that a sound annoys me. for example, if someone is chewing loudly, it helps for me to say something to them because i then become more comfortable knowing that they are aware of the annoying noise and will try to be careful about it. there really needs to be a cure for this soon!

[@WHEATIE1993]

To learn more about the disorder, read Sound-Rage. A Primer of the Neurobiology and Psychology of a Little Known Anger Disorder (Chalcedony Press, 210 pgs) , available from amazon.com.uk and amazon.com. The book provides compelling evidence that “misophonia” is a developmental, neurological disorder, and presents detailed information about trigger expansion, emotions, cognitions and therapies. I hope this helps.

[@lovexperi]

she does not have misophonia just because she cant stand eating. if that is the only sound that triggers her she does not have misophonia she is simply annoyed by that sound,

[@georgea.567]

I have misophonia and the sound of people eating doesn't scare me I just get anxious and pissed off.

[@TrishaFreitag]

I couldn't even listen to the first 10 seconds of this documentary!!! Those crisps cracking made me want to scream. I had to pause it. :(

[@cashbox8441]

This lady created the 4S illness for herself by feeling bad, having empathy, for the person on TV talking about their illness. For those who have never heard about the illness, how is it that they can end up with the illness? What is the difference between the two types of people? This lady had just one trigger that was self-induced, what treatment is there for people who don't self-induce the illness and who have multiple triggers? If this was such a great healer of the disease, why do so many people still have it over 2 years later? Does this mean it was only good for the people who self-induce the illness onto themselves by feeling bad for someone else? Does this mean there's not a one size fits all type treatment?

[@PassusPkz]

It's not fake. I didn't even know there was a term for it, or that it was even an established neurological disorder until very recently. Yet, ever since I was 9, I couldn't stand the constant repetition of something like gulping with sounds, loud eating, constant coughing/throat clearing, etc. Without experiencing some form of unreasonable irritation that only got worse with every time the sound was repeating itself. Most cases of Misophonia all share the exact same, or similar symptoms.

[@Kat-ji5mn]

can't even watch the whole video because of the chewing noises they keep playing. which kind of sucks because I like hearing other people's stories and learning more about it.

[@WHEATIE1993]

A new book has been published summer 2013. It’s called, Sound-Rage. A Primer of the Neurobiology and Psychology of a Little Known Anger Disorder (Chalcedony Press, 210 pgs) and is available from amazon.com.uk and amazon.com. The book provides compelling evidence that “misophonia” is a developmental, neurological disorder, and presents detailed information about trigger expansion, emotions, cognitions and therapies. I hope this helps.

[@foaloal]

I naturally noticed this condition during junior high/high school. It would get so bad that I couldn't pay attention to lessons because of the classroom full of loud ignorant kids. I also have Misokinesia which is when seeing somebody move erratically really annoys me, like when somebody is twitching their leg up and down for no reason, or when people bite/chew on their fingers/nails. I routinely despised test times, even though I always scored well, because of the so called "silence".

[@dawncooper4829]

My 20 yr old son has this condition. lt totally disables him. He rarely leaves the house and cant use transport unless its me driving. lts not so much eating noise but other people sniffing. He has had CBT and EMDR. id love help for him. He cant work or go to further education and suffered through secondary school until he was suspended then moved to a unit. We are desperate .

[@41koala41]

My daughter has this and this video has totally enraged me the way crunching would enrage someone who had misophonia. This video made it appear that a person makes a choice to get it and that with a swipe of a wand it is gone. What a crock! First of all for the most part people say there is no cure. There are things that you can learn to make the situation less unbearable but I do not believe that in 30 minutes they fix this woman nor that she brought it on herself

[@PassusPkz]

It's a neurological disorder; it's not something we can help. The extremely common argument that "another person's (insert sound source here) isn't ok, but theirs is" is a misinformed argument at best. The emotional reaction is literally built into our brains, so someone who's normally calm, and tolerant can for a split second become irrationally irritated because of that certain trigger.

[@12MusicLight]

Most of us start this at ages 8 to 13. I don't think the reason is that all of us watched a tv show telling us to be afraid of certain sounds.

[@katherinecollins4685]

Incredible work

[@nikandevaspeakman]

Thank you so much ♥️

[@FalseDisposition]

Yay! I can finally put a name to what's going on with me. I can't STAND repetitive noises, running water, people eating (especially cereal, holy crap that bothers me so much), and tons of other sounds....

[@CaitlinTheLynxFox]

My boyfriend and I both have misophonia. He gets so angry he wants to punch everything. And I get into severe anxiety attacks. Misophonia can trigger rage or anxiety. My and my boyfriend have to sit away from everyone and it's even torture for us when we both eat alone....

[@leannaayoung1514]

Oh my Lord, I and the people around me. was thinking I was going nut s, I Was screaming to please shut up. Your hurting my ear's .I can't stand the noise. I just said to my husband, now do you understand.? I don't want to go out anywhere for all the nose out side.. I hope and pray there is a cure. for this.

[@JaamiWaali]

I live in California - USA. Would I need to fly over to get an appointment to be cured or do you guys travel to the states? Or do you know anyone over here that could help me? It's been over 20 years with 4S. Thanks!

[@yanirawr]

I don't understand how they treated her mysophonia? I'm french and might have missed a few things. Can anyone help me? I myself suffers from it and it used to be severe when i was a teenager.

[@yanirawr]

***** oh great you reassure me

[@rbloch23]

I hear what your saying, but there are a lot of hard-wired neural processes that can be modified through conditioning techniques (e.g., panic attacks).

[@misha07justin]

i live in bulidling and above me and beside me next store noisys bugs me when they walk cross their floor 823 they got no rugs on floors at all walks above a lot and makes me so mad I grind my teeth alot

[@skylarj3374]

omG SHE WEARS HEADPHONES DURING MEALS. I've been suffering since elementary school and I can say that's not the worst of it. My parents aren't supportive (my mom has threatened to move out or cut me out of her life) because she hates it so much.

[@TheMe23333]

well this video gave me more anxiety from DEMONSTRATING PEOPLE EATING

[@wendylb9170]

My daughter said it sounds like im eating glass when im eating crunchy food.. its really odd

[@bluesmanpar38]

it's absolutely irresponsible for any editor to put to view a story on a condition that initiates a negative response from the very people who are interested in trying to cope with this condition. Within the first 10 seconds you subjected me to the very sounds that enrage me. I immediately slammed down my earphones and scrolled down to respond. I'm guessing there are no "editor awards" in your future. Unbelievable!!

[@moonlight3vampire]

I have 4S but for me i cant stand and go into fits of rage when people cluck their tongues. People do it just so they can have a good laugh but it affects me so bad i cant function. I have bad flinches, hit my head, my blood pressure goes up, my breathing worsens, and/or scream when it happens. Then i have murderous thoughts, I just keep thinking about killing these people or wishing that they would die. Everyone says its all in my head but I've had this condition for as long as a can remember

[@paulae4033]

Exactly! it's rude and disgusting, it doesn't take effort at all to chew with a closed mouth. Eating with your mouth open and making noise for all to hear is just bad mannerisms, why wouldn't it irritate people.

[@chicadee4587]

close your lips before chewing!! omg

[@S.B.433]

This has been me since I was a kid! I HATE the sound of people eating!

[@rbloch23]

How is this approach different from cognitive-behaviour therapy or one of its variants (e.g., cognitive-processing therapy, made known by Dr. Patricia Resick)?

[@lovebunnieslove]

this woman does not have misophonia. it would be the same as talking away a broken bone. she may have found it annoying and all that but she did not have a legit form of it if you can just talk it off.

[@Ip0g]

i have misophonia...and I can't and I won't believe that u can turn these intense rage, aggressions like this by fingersnipping....I know the feelings you have when some1 snaps his lips and I know it gives you aggressions you cannot imagine if you havent got the same problem. imposters...

[@1sexymotherpucker]

I have 4S too. I hate listening to popcorn chewers, dogs barking or whining , pencil and fingernails tapping. Gum smacking pens clicking, dry mouth...hard to even concentrate in a conversation if these things are going on. Makes me want to punch something and I hate it.

[@Ilookravishing]

i am so glad i watched this because i have been freaking out that it was going to ruin my future plans and make life pretty much unbearable to live. I am going to seek out help, which does first mean telling my mum, who thinks i am just being a bitch when i get angry at her for eating. I want to get this sorted asap, as it is affecting my results in exams and my social life. gaaaaah

[@skykobalt]

I have this disorder and it affects every day of my life. When watching this video I couldn't stand the sounds of the people eating. Does anybody have some suggestions to help?

[@jkveda]

I don't like this - it makes misophonia look like a mild joke that can be cured in half an hour. What did they do during that interval? Pump her with drugs? I'm sorry - but I bet she got home and it quickly came back again. This video just frustrated me. I believe the cure to getting over it is simply LOTS of hard work. Especially with recent research showing how much plasticity the brain has.

[@stevemorse108]

For me my disgust of the sound of people who make lots of noise eating or chewing gum stems from my father's behaviour. He was a very passive agressive person and who would make excessive noise eating as well as other ways of expressing meeting hostilité (saying hurtful things and or endangering people physically i.e. turning on a cément mixer while his son was cleaning it with his arm inisde or driving dangerously with passengers). He was repeatedly asked if he could make less noise but never made the slightest effort and in fact would move closer to others and continue to make noise. When one has this past experience how is one supposed to get over it. I sometimes wear ear plugs if someone is chewing gum with their mouth open or put on music with guests who make lots of noise at table.

[@ptanyuh]

Oh my gosh, that is my dad to a T. What a jerk. He'd also take his boiling hot coffee, stir it with his spoon, and then stick the hot spoon on the back of my hand. Total a$$hole. Who acts like this and has such little respect for their family members!?!? I'll tell you: NARCISSISTS.

[@stevemorse108]

Yup I hear you in french they called them narcissictic perverts....very sorry for the abuse that was vsited on you...it is sickening that a parent would act thus...that is the rub..our parents were supposed to love , respect and protect us.

[@misha07justin]

I have sore jaw now and neck now and tightness in my lower back

[@blustarr57]

@nikandevaspeakman What about the sound of words? I have Identical twin 11 year old granddaughters. One cant stand the words 20, 35 ,and 40. The other one, she can't handle the words like cool, school, any ool. She also can't stand the words that have the q or ck sound, or any L's. So because of this we can't even talk anymore. She can't go to school this last month it got so bad. Their Dr. don't have any idea whats going on!

[@heart9779]

i also have sound sensitivity and god i HATE when people eat chips or soup it hurts

[@Missfeke]

The word sensitive in this video is taken out of context. And it's nothing like fingernails down a blackboard, that is actually music to my ears compared to other things. When I hear some sounds, like the host deliberately crunching, it has much lesser effect, yet if he was doing it next to me in another situation I would go nuts, which makes me think this could be psychological, but I don't know. The negative association I'm not so sure about. I get the same anxiety when I see people yawn.

[@NAILSpaintedBlAcK]

I have this and I hate it so much :( its disgusting and I have always eaten alone I always thought I was the only one I CAN'T STAND THIS I had to turn the sound off its unbearable I don't like repetive movements either I get very angry at gum chewers and I usually leave or yell

[@rainybritania097]

why couldnt you put a warning? I heard the noise and started crying/

[@pryncyss]

thought I was the only one that went experienced that when ppl eat crunch munch or slurp.

[@broadaorb]

It seems to run in families so how can this be a learned behavior? Family I have never met have this condition.

[@leadaily1994]

@fie: yeaaah,I went to google and just typed in why do I hate the sound of chewing? And it came up. But I've never seen a show on it. But yes she probably watched the show and was more aware of it.

[@misha07justin]

I woke last weekend to some one 8am making noises saying woo woo and well made my breakfast time bad and upset stomach

[@vickibitis3937]

There's a difference between "phobia" and "phonia." And I agree...Vicki.lol

[@vnoe67]

I think this is not real. I did not get my condition by developing my own phobia based on something I saw on TV or experienced in real life.

[@danalauren5101]

I am I have had this since I was 7. I can remember perfectly the second I starting feeling that way, it happened when I suddenly heard the S sound in her voice but in that moment before I let her know what going on I thought before hand that this was weird because I DO IT TOO.....sorry people with loud chewing issuses I myself don't get others phobias but I sure cant stand it when someone continues to breathe loudly. But the only things that I have cured myself is threw I DO IT TOO n WEED!!!!

[@RCmaniac1231]

Mine is mild now but it will probably get worse.

[@thomassurdi1]

I have it and it sucks

[@elmoguy1]

This is me. Same exact thing.

[@misskity6]

Well, then I have it. It's a relief to finally know there's a word. Now it'll be acceptable when I lose my shit at the dinner table. People will run marathons and raise money for my condition. Thank you, Misophonia. You just replaced my former "bitch" label.

[@basstrombonechick8629]

Why would you put eating noises in a thing about people who are sensitive to it??!! People with misophonia might watch it!You just gave me an anxiety attack. Thanks

[@luyafemi]

Give me a fucking break. This is not about sounds, this is about CONTROL.

[@MarikaUnsoo]

OMG I have the SAME problem !!!! It's terrible :'((

[@ACookie236]

I have this and although its 'rare' I don't see how she has made it to morning news.ridiculous.

[@BekimUnikkatilPS33]

One day I will snap and end up on the news if this construction doesn't stop soon I swear to fucking god

[@ptanyuh]

SAME!!!!! Except it's the lazy, fat, inconsiderate family across the street with their BROKEN CAR!!!!!

[@Angela-zw6ko]

I hate that and lip smacking. It really bothers me and my brother will do it all the time. I get mad and I got irritated just by the short clips in this video of these people chomping away

[@rdmqwerty]

did they REALLY have to fill this video with noises?

[@misha07justin]

reiki helps me a lot so does flower enssenses to as well from friend alyce

[@elmoguy1]

Me too man. Its the most annoying thing in the world

[@ainvencivel]

so they can't stand other people's chewing but their own is ok?

[@MrJellybellylove]

i never learned the behavior from anyone or anything

[@exeuroweenie]

It's funny how a guy innocently eating an apple in a silent office while clicking on a keyboard suddenly makes the antichrist look like a boyscout.Warning;if you have misphonia regarding eating,poise your mouse over the mute button before watching this.

[@broadaorb]

Why do they have to have these horrible eaters on here when we want to find help for this? I have to skip part of the video.

[@misha07justin]

some noises can bug me when I read books need a lot of quiet to read my books my apt

[@MrBananaButtons]

That should have been me getting cured!!!!!!

[@thevampireinyourhallway7570]

misophonia I have that it fucking sucks!

[@sark9jesse]

Magnesium Chloride

[@sophistubex6673]

omg i have misophonia too

[@Strawberrimylk]

I doubt that she really has misophonia or anything of the like. The whole thime he was chewing she was smiling and laughing as if it was a joke! Whenever I hear one of my trigger sounds I get so furious its visible!! One of my friends that was eating asked me why did I look like a "psychopathic serial killer". I also think that whole "way to cure it by replacing her memory of that show" and stuff is a complete load of BULL!!

[@hhhannah98]

Oh My Gosh. WHY did they put those sounds in this video?? Now please excuse me while I go punch something.

[@52milesfor52children]

Wow - I couldn't listen to this clip. How misguided do you have to be to include the VERY TRIGGER SOUNDS that cause anxiety and very real revulsion to those who would be searching out this information? It's like having strobing lights on a video about epliepsy.

[@jeffm1256]

This video is really irritating. Why would they add a bunch of obnoxious crunch noises to a story about people who get anxiety and anger over those noises? It is just pointlessly insensitive. And the guys stupid grin when he stares at her as he eats makes me want to slap him. She said she was annoyed by the noises, do you not believe her and need to inflict unnecessary discomfort for your own enjoyment or something?

[@iwishiwasamypond]

trying to get help with my condition but every video has freaking chewing in it. aaaaaaaaaaaaaaggggggggggghhhhhhhhhhhhhh

[@EmmaMarch]

Pooor girl :/ this is ridiculous how does eating something in front of her HELP ? They have it all wrong. Therapy pfff. It's a biological condition :/ !!!!!!!!! PS: i donno why they keep showing people eating in those damned documentaries.

[@ashlittle5248]

Sorry, Nik and Eva, this is a load of rubbish. There's absolutely no way she was "cured" within half an hour. Better research should have been done before this segment was aired -- Misophonia is not the FEAR of sound, but the HATRED of sounds. It doesn't come on because you 'watch a tv show and try to imagine what it's like.'' It happens without any outside influence and more often than not from a very early age (i.e. I started when I was 4! I would scream and cry at certain noises/actions and nobody knew why!) I'm sorry to sound horrible, but in my honest opinion, she's pretending. Her reaction the first time round - smiling and laughing! - tells everything. A real Misphonia sufferer would be HIGHLY uncomfortable and wouldn't be happy staying in that situation. I wouldn't be surprised if this was someone they've pulled off the street and given lines to say.

[@leannaayoung1514]

Oh my Lord, I and the people around me. was thinking I was going nut s, I Was screaming to please shut up. Your hurting my ear's .I can't stand the noise. I just said to my husband, now do you understand.? I don't want to go out anywhere for all the nose out side.. I hope and pray there is a cure. for this.