UNLOCKED Full Episode: "Fix My Backstabbing Friends" | Iyanla Fix My Life | OWN

[@jaricameyers3063]

“I’m sorry you felt that way” the worst you can tell someone after YOU made them feel that way!!

[@lovingmylife528]

Yes 🙌🏽

[@everydayreality.2068]

So true. It allows you to take 0 responsibility for your words or actions.

[@faithjoytoe8999]

Exactly, it is a coward’s way.

[@lekilabryant167]

So true. My mother apologizes to me like that. To me, that's saying that's your problem not acknowledging anything.

[@alexiskeys9985]

My favorite one is: "I'm not responsible for those feelings." 🙄😒

[@tshambiawhite1409]

IDC how old these episodes are, they still hold so much weight and wisdom! I love Ms. Iyanla!♥️

[@ElonNicole]

Yesssss

[@janearj2779]

I have to rewatch them again occasionally, they are so helpful!

[@mahue171]

I actually think the older ones are so much more powerful

[@elquanjahlowe7273]

Yes indeed 💯‼️

[@michaelm2207]

I totally agree on you! Makes you think about some thangs lol

[@oratilelekalakala3095]

Iyanla has so much authentic power within her that her spirit is so pure

[@ParisCouture]

I've always said from day one -- Iyanla is called and chosen by God to minister, minister, minister, and set the captives free. It's completely obvious to me. ♥

[@zzizahacallar]

❤ her

[@BrownSugaBabe757]

WHY DID THESE EPISODES STOP!??! The world needs this so bad!

[@zuritribe4844]

Sooo bad we need these!!!! 😢❤

[@jesssocountry334]

She was tired

[@Butterflyyyy9]

Oprah her own friend fired her

[@shantechekita]

It was exhausting for Iyanla muva was tired

[@AshleySmith-kd8nb]

Sure do

[@algrina04]

I cannot believe that Brown Chicks still exists to this day This is amazing!

[@heavenlygardens]

I was wondering about that! This was recorded in 2012. I was thinking dang if they made it work, they'd be a force! Especially since podcasts are so big rn.

[@MsSong2U]

Thank you for this. I was wondering if they mended their friendship and business ties.

[@Simplykiebby]

@@heavenlygardensthey do! I follow their twitter

[@KrissyBlendz]

23:58 this was the moment when Iyanla became iconic!!!! “Not on my watch!”

[@parislove9723]

💪🏿 she is not for play play..

[@naomibrunson3369]

Right

[@joeylegodi3737]

I think she is abusive and aggressive. No! I would've walked out. someone does something wrong you act crazy? Nope!

[@annahjaya700]

😂😂😂😂

[@alonnimurchison5022]

girl the way iyanla turned slowly and then hit the table I let out a little chuckle!!! sis said "NAWT ON MY WATCHHH" I LOVE IT !!!

[@saythatash]

When the women bowed and received wisdom from the the wise women elders tore me down. Oh what I would do to sit in the presence of seasoned women with wisdom. Bring Iyanla back!!! Our generation of women NEED YOU!!!

[@tempiedunn-pv2tf]

I felt it, l was in tears and the filling was so real from them all.

[@soufbayshawty]

We need her so bad 😭

[@charliest.kardasism9134]

They should do this, with the real housewives of Atlanta 🤣

[@vazyvas4712]

That would be hilarious!

[@crystalj.8678]

This would be epic!! Lol!!

[@hgo883]

Can you imagine? I think Iyanla would leave.

[@SSBMA1994]

It didnt work on Tamar from the Real, so I doubt that this would work either

[@kdeloris2225]

Girl you just told the truth 🤣🤣🤣 now that would be musty TV 🤣

[@Daniellenicole566]

“When you are a visionary, people come forward to serve you, not to spite you” and that’s when it hit me 💚😩🙌🏾

[@LvndrBeez]

✍️ writing that one down

[@samanthatheegr8]

"You are not going to make her responsible for what came out of your mouth!" Fiyah! 🔥 🔥 🔥

[@keiarapayne3206]

I’m in tears as black women we need this 🥺we need to continue to create safe spaces for one another to continue to level up in power and prayer 🙏🏾

[@elly3837]

I really need the support of my Black Si-Stars because I grew up in and still live in an all white racist town and it is absolutely horrible 😿

[@lilahmarie5846]

@@elly3837 sending you strength💪🏽

[@Maz-zb9uf]

Really from the beginners of time we been tearing each other down nothing has change we refuse acknowledge we in the wrong

[@PureNapture]

I don’t trust black women enough, sorry

[@rainy.d7404]

This was positively powerful. I cried myself and got a bit of healing. I'm trying to reconnect with my estranged sisters.

[@irritism1227]

🙏🏽❤

[@quediantterkids7047]

Me2

[@mrs.ceeshockley9152]

Prayers for you and your sisters

[@harlem4653]

Sis may things go in your best interest💗

[@AngelasTravelAdventures]

Me too.

[@startpupsinc9758]

I'm a 47 year old single man...Strong man!!!...This was painful...powerful...and brought a genuine tear of sadness and joy...Iyanala is for real

[@kristinenickley1755]

I thank God that men watch Iyanla too!!😊 Take care, I am 55, & have been watching her since she was on Oprah!!❤ Kristine, San Diego, Ca.

[@lonyettadunbar2920]

I am such an empathetic person and these hit me so deep at times! I can definitely relate to using these videos in my singleness as a place to reflect on my inner self and path forward!!

[@Ogjayfay]

Iyanla is anointed.

[@AngelasTravelAdventures]

I know this is old but I cried like a baby watching this. I can so relate to the younger girl and relationships with women. All my life I've desired authentic, loving , trustworthy relationships with women and often got the opposite and ended up being hurt and betrayed. It made me aloof which comes off as anti-social but in reality, I just don't want to be hurt.

[@sufundasamuels2313]

It's really sad when something like that happens to you and it's okay to want to be empowered and exude empowerment to other women, but I've really never cared to be around a bunch of women, including my only family because I'm a firm believer in protecting my space, peace and soul from foolishness.

[@variousJnames]

Same! I do not trust women, starting with my own mother. It's sad because I know I've missed out on rich female friendship. But every single one has betrayed me or left me in some way

[@JaxBox1]

Same and I just entered my twenties

[@zuritribe4844]

U not alone 🤷🏽‍♀️🫶🏾🥹🥰

[@zuritribe4844]

@@variousJnamesI’m sorry that this happend to you!🫶🏾 I hope you find a good friend out there !!! If not hit my email!🤷🏽‍♀️ I don’t have many friends bc I don’t trust but I definitely can see the benefits of friends

[@niyah_jordan3147]

Between her husband, then the talk with the elders…I cried the last 10 mins 😭

[@miraclesblessings5044]

I remember I watched this when it aired, I forgot how deep it got. Crying....

[@kardon4996]

The same here my dear.....

[@blessed7015]

Same...❤

[@Votethepower]

Me too.

[@keisha772]

DITTO...

[@MsBari1025]

Iyanla IS BEAST!!! Although episode 2012, her stuff as timeless as human behavior is consistent... LOVE her vibe, style, tactics, and depth. She is certainly a blessing to the world -- she definitely did her work!!

[@naomibrunson3369]

Amen 😭😭😭😭💯

[@bellaf7774]

Love her so much

[@DJ-zd3gj]

YES!!!!

[@bellaf7774]

When you hug someone and u hold each other and rock for a while…those are the best hugs. I’m just crying like a baby rn

[@jaricameyers3063]

Yes! My aunt always hug and rock, it feels so good!

[@lesley5380]

Hugs are great 🤗

[@spinjunkie8178]

The end with the elders tore me up. I want to be a blessing to others just like Iyanla and the elders. This is how we must carry ourselves as women❤️. This episode blessed me so.

[@bridgethall1065]

Very powerful...stay in peace not pieces. We all benefited from the scene with the elders. Just awesomeness. No words can really describe it.

[@TheHonorableAngelinaNordstrom]

What a powerful episode! My favorite part is when the ladies met with the elders and when the ladies supposed the on woman whose husband lost the battle with cancer. I'm still wiping tears away after this episode.

[@laurielambert7593]

PEACE, Yes, it's powerful and I shed soulful tears. The calmness and clarity that come over them was mighty. It was refreshing to see them apologize, make amends and reconcile!

[@BlaqB0mbshell]

Sadly, she passed last year. Her & her husband are reunited!

[@emandaboss1]

@@BlaqB0mbshell oh no that’s mad sad im just watching this episode n was hoping they was doin something n making a difference today…

[@annetteodanga]

@@BlaqB0mbshell oh noo!May she Rip

[@trinibarbie2161]

NOT ON MY WATCH , NOT ON MY WATCH . it was funny at first but when I seen the clip in its entirety I actually felt why she did this

[@protectedmusiclover850]

It's spiritual. Stubborn, spirits don't want to loose us, but the anointing (not just patience) will break through all that. Iyanla fully anointed kept speaking to that distrust and the anointing BROKE THAT YOKE OF BONDAGE!

[@lovingmylife528]

Amen 🙏🏽

[@cierapaige9139]

I wasnt expecting to receive my own therapy from this. The part about trust really struck a cord, I cried my heart out. I need a 1:1 with Mrs Iyanla

[@blessed7015]

Wow...This episode was heartbreaking, emotional, and powerful. Anointed and gifted are words that I think of when I see Ms. Iyanla do her thing. Black people, and people in general, need this type of reflection and potential healing on an ongoing basis. And, then, the world might have a chance at being a better place.

[@tawanawilliams6296]

It’s weird, they are all naturally beautiful yet they didn’t want to remove their make up and be seen

[@serpilkaddy1609]

I literally thought the same!

[@tawanawilliams6296]

@@serpilkaddy1609 it kind of hurt my heart. Thank you for seeing them. So much ❤️

[@serpilkaddy1609]

@tawanawilliams6296 Always. Just as I see your beauty too. X

[@katiejohnson9366]

Oh man I ugly cried on this one . Had to take a break just to be able to breathe through my nose again. I swear she gets me every time

[@Smbeeee]

Iyanla has the wisdom and heart of a hundred souls. What a treasure of a woman.

[@Shawnmyrelle]

Im so thankful for Zondra’s humility. I learned so much just watching her respond and learn.

[@elsrubbishremoval6951]

That "will you trust " part was so darn powerful. I felt her heart slowly opening up. Ms. Iyanla is the nona, mama, auntie and sister we all need. ❤ May God continue to bless her.

[@dayYdream2k]

I have never cried so much from an Iyanla episode than I have for this one. My soul was touched.

[@AngelasTravelAdventures]

Mine too

[@charliest.kardasism9134]

This is where the Not on my watch, was born LMFAO

[@MsRentastic]

Lol I literally just said this.

[@lovingmylife528]

Lol 😂

[@banziimavusotv]

She seemed so peaceful as she glanced at both ladies before she said that. THAT killed me. Lol 😂

[@rosalanijackson5827]

It doesn’t matter how old these episodes are, life happens everyday and people are still hiding and hurting

[@Yaz1231]

It's one of my favorite episodes by far. Be kind, respectful, supportive, encouraging, and present. Do for others expecting nothing in return. These are things I live by.

[@heatherjackson84]

Receiving the wisdom from the elders is truly underrated and strongly lacking in our communities.

[@jroc2k]

Iyanla could make the toughest women in the world breakdown

[@OH5311883]

I'm just here crying my eyes out. Thanks Ladies.

[@kellymarie9151]

“Not on my watch!” will forever be iconic. OAN tho RIP Dr. Dawj.

[@HydenNoway]

come back Mrs Iyanla, PLEASE WE NEED YOU🤧🤧🤧

[@RonnieceSmith-u7b]

Yes please come back

[@CamilleNYC40]

FR!😢

[@princessglg1]

💯💯💯

[@ElehaFelix]

She about to have her own network real soon

[@CT123-e6q]

Would love to see where these six lovely souls are 10 years later

[@Lyvnlyfe]

This episode I felt to my core. Cried through it all. I understand the distance,hurt and loss of friendship. I am going to make some calls. I miss my friends from loss of communication and life changes. Thank you ladies for being vulnerable.

[@ashs1491]

I been out with Covid so these Oprah and iyanla episodes are perfect right now!!!!

[@mayday4529]

Get well soon👍

[@Whatshaname]

I hope you have recovered!

[@4knewt505]

That's exactly what I'm doing watching it now. Hope you recovered well

[@chelleholmes1012]

I hope your better!!

[@markkinkle7038]

Get well soon. Your mending your body and your spirit to. When you are healed, no one can stop you!

[@Votethepower]

Why does Iyanla have me crying?? I am just crying all over myself.

[@mikeysrightleg1880]

23:58 - That is how you use your masculine energy as a Woman, that beautiful control as soon as the blonde woman understood. Iyanla has faith that she wont do it again 💯❤️

[@KJ.85]

This episode is always touching no matter how many times I've watched it. But, it's elevated knowing Dr. Dawj passed away.

[@Mllascelles1]

This will always be an iconic episode. It was a necessary and relavant episode.

[@LeanneRichardson-ix7zt]

Wow! My family needs this lady! We have so much of hurt going on in our lives we need to heal. This lady is gifted and anointed at what she does... I Love her so much! I've been watching her for years.

[@jennyoyster5054]

“NOT ON MY WATCH!” Yes ma’am.

[@sunnaharoma5517]

Just mind blown how deep her Mothership skills are!!

[@Cindy.P]

Iyanla is such a gift. A huge inspiration. Thank you God for giving us Ms Vanzant.

[@Averyveryy]

This is good. Glory to God for his love. A lot of women have suffered for us to have opportunities in life as long as we put in the work. We are supposed to be humbled by that, but sometimes we get carried away by our emotions. Because we are still walking around with unsolved old issues, and act like we've got it together.

[@lovingmylife528]

This comment 💛🙌🏽

[@lamarjackson6874]

When Iyanla was holding that one sisters face and said “he is going to leave you” I broke down. That is a hard pill to swallow that modern medicine can’t save your husband. Omg such a powerful moment

[@Kekethegreatone]

I truly believe in sisterhood. When I went through my divorce my friends held me UP. They are my sisters and my rocks. I wish to see more women loving on each other❤️🙏🏾

[@Ms.Chan.T]

I dont believe in sisterhood. I have been rejected, excluded,made to feel irrelevant and unimportant by the sisterhood. Even when they say "Oh we got your back, we love you" its a lie.

[@Kekethegreatone]

@@Ms.Chan.TI’m so sorry to hear this. I hope you find good ppl to love on you. You deserve it.

[@4knewt505]

They ALL looked stunning without the makeup 😍 made me think of when we wore less makeup in the 90s. They really did look natural and beautiful and I'm a woman who wears makeup. 🤔

[@Itsshe1984]

An Oshun priestess. Oshun energy heals the world! ❤

[@nicholeh9180]

Whew. She has a gift to cut thru the BS and leave everyone (including me) sobbing

[@myfriendisaac]

6:50 That shady *”Hello”* from the both of them 🤣

[@laurielambert7593]

SEE...and I would have been petty: My reply to the forced "Hello" would have been a head nod.

[@sufundasamuels2313]

@@laurielambert7593 Yeah, a head nod or nothing at all and be set on ready if it came down to it....hell, I don't have time for foolishness!

[@LiaTheLight]

Found myself watching all her videos and take notes with a notebook.. she has amazing advice for the youth and the elders. Mothers to friends.. her wisdom will never get old.. timeless content.

[@MsJellybean1111]

This is my absolute favorite episode, I can’t ever watch without crying😭

[@skatulle]

The talk with elders, EPIIC!!! so good

[@James.Payne.]

This is one of the best episodes of any TV show/program ever. Thanks Iyanla 🙏🏾

[@tcrump212IsLmbrJck_t]

Home girl with her back turned had me bawling. She was THE GUARD!

[@thatolamebanda1085]

"Serve with joy, enthusiasm and excellence" is the message i take for myself as a Supervisor of over 400 people. I learnt a lot from this story 😊😊😊

[@Gorgeouss_Court]

This was one of the most touching episodes I’ve seen.

[@zahirahjahmad2530]

This is why you have to be careful on who you receive information from that was created to help inspire, educate, enlighten and motivate you…Many are broken & have self destruction within side themselves and needs someone to help them through life and living.

[@HAI.1]

No 1 Tip to fix backstabbing friends is: Get rid of them all and never look back.

[@reneewilliams7425]

This woman is golden

[@PatriotJewel]

Lost when the elder women came 😢😢😢❤

[@TheMerFree]

These women are so gorgeous without any makeup on!

[@andreaholmes5697]

I could sit at Iyanla’s feet all day and just glean from her wealth of knowledge and wisdom.

[@specialkay4329]

Dawj has took me back to my aunt's battle with Glioblastoma. Brain Cancer. My last words to her were I love you, and it's ok to go. She eas gone in hours. But I'm right before she went into a coma, I took her left hand and she held mine so tight. Rest Easy Teen

[@hopelovefaithinGod]

wow to think I found my way here through a meme, only to end up watching the entire episode and bawling my eyes out-this hits home and is so beautiful watch to this day 🙏🏽❤️

[@aconi9836]

one of favorite episodes. I love the end with the elders. sisterhood is so important and hard to find

[@tannsmithp]

Wow. Shared this. Powerful in so many ways. Thank u! Praying for the lady who lost her husband and for the health and success of this group.

[@Dream-Me]

We don't have elders these days. We have grandma's dancing on tiktok tryna be young. Lord.

[@nyaintunyaintu509]

😂🤣😂🙏🏾laawwd have mercy !

[@4knewt505]

Right! The need to be glammas instead of grandmothers or any other bling name. I was proud the other day when my daughter said I have a classic style.

[@sufundasamuels2313]

😆😆😆....so true! It's downright embarrassing!

[@dashino2839]

😅😅😅😅

[@seensay2132]

Grandmothers Used to be in their 60s and well beyond that phase. Now they’re in their 30s 👀

[@kdeloris2225]

It was so beautiful watching the six brown chicks get wisdom from the elders 💝💝💝

[@jacquelinebrantley208]

I forgot how good this show was. This episode in particular. I cried the first I saw, and it brought me to tears today. Iyanla is wonderful!

[@AaronOBryan60]

I rewatch this episode a lot…it’s so honest…I hope they finally got to cherish one another…

[@MadameBumblebee]

Now, I'm crying. I wasn't expecting that. And Chicago girls, woo. We take some work but I'm glad they had this time.

[@LiaTheLight]

To all my fellow black sisters, we need to be graceful with each other. Those who get it, do it. Those who do not receive it, it’s okay, you’re giving someone something they probably don’t experience

[@janae0911]

Just visited their IG, not sure what happened but this brand is still not clear on what it is or the problem it solves. I hope the internal team isn’t riddled with conflict. Wishing much abundance & love to each of these ladies.

[@asanta2023]

Well, remember what Iyanla said. What if the only reason they came together as a group was so that they can help the woman whose husband was going to die due to brain cancer. They all said if that had been the reason, then it was worth it.

[@Jennifer-mc5sq]

In the times we live in, this healing and wisdom are essential. We need our elders to step forward, offering guidance and love. It's time to revive the days of the "village" - they are both needed and necessary

[@joyafenkhena4933]

When Iyanla said NOT ON MY WATCH. I froze up

[@bellamonroe7322]

She’s very much giving I’ll be everyone’s Mother if I need to be vibes 😂😍

[@tomm.amonde9369]

Iyanya. Please continue what you are doing. It is powerful. I'm glued and can't get enough. Plenty people are hurting. They need more of Iyanla's counselling and positive energy.

[@tyruseaves6569]

I believe that this is breaking the yoke and allowing her to feel the heartache and pain and God is using Iyanla to give her strength.

[@melstrr564]

I’m laying here BAWLING 😭. This episode was genuinely sooo healing to watch. I don’t think any Iyanla episode had me crying this much- just beautiful

[@tamekawhitney2049]

Saving this to my “subconscious training” playlist! My soul needed this desperately. “Suffer or trust me” is a tool I’ll use to hold myself accountable from this day forward

[@karyndutton8154]

OMG!!! To be in the presence of elders. I am in tears from this episode. It is a blessing

[@Nana1959.]

When you're saying " them " and not putting yourself in when it's a group; red flags!Zondra really felt bad, good work!

[@helenb6644]

I'm about to meet my girlfriends now and I'm in the parking lot about to cry. This was powerful. ❤

[@aaronobryan4295]

This incredible woman is the most on point lady we will ever know…

[@T3doulaservices]

“Suffer or trust me” whew! That’s what God asks of us! Myyyyy goodness!

[@marywrenn5262]

I felt her pain when she allowed the women around her support her in through her darkest fear of losing her husband. I hide my pain and fears too. Even from those I love.

[@beautifulest123]

she be fixing my life and dont even know it

[@kristinenickley1755]

Hes gonna leave you cause he has to answer the Call!! I have a friend in the active dying stage right now... & Iyanla just told me, me...SHES GONNA LEAVE YOU CAUSE SHE HAS TO ANSWER HER CALL! Iam very sad, but I totally understand ❤ Kristine from San Diego California

[@uggggggghhhhh]

I came here to laugh at the meme @ 23:58 thinking this was a 'bad girls club' type of tv show & i ended up crying, healed and enlightened. I really admire Lyanla, especially during the trust me segment starting 32:40 the way she was able to see how the lady was closed off, trying to let go but holding back before finally allowing herself to open up was beautiful

[@created2worshipyou]

This episode is so powerful! When I look at this I think about Atlanta Housewives and I am so disappointed in those beautiful, strong, intelligent Black Women always at each other’s throats. I think they need to watch this episode and hopefully it would help them become better and respect each other more. This episode was beautiful!

[@lifewithlayla4946]

This show had me in tears I lost my grandpa and patient months apart from cancer

[@christinedrury1409]

This programme is incredible. We don't have this in the UK. I've seen the "not on my watch" clip a million times on the internet never knowing what it was from. Now I've just spent the last 5 hours watching this programme. Iyanla is an incredible human being. Truly inspiring ❤️

[@Poeticfloetic]

Yes we do. Where have you been? 😂 It was avaliable on Cable, Sky, Virgin Media etc before the clip you watched and before internet was a thing. Sincerely South East London. 🇬🇧

[@Poeticfloetic]

I have watched her since Oprah from Jerry Springer days. You probably only had terrestrial tv. Your statement was very adament. You should speak for yourself and not the U.K as it is vast and not all households are the same

[@leogoddess2473]

I have soo much admiration to your gift the world so full of unnecessary pain..we need healing to be open and able to receive ❤ LOVE!!!! And I feel it as an empath.... I wish to be blessed with meeting you one day Mrs. Iyanla ❤💜🙏

[@thankthelord4536]

I lost 3 friends of 30 yrs bc of their jealously.