Panel Meltdown: Polygamy Ignites Heated Exchange

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[@aestheticmoods4257]

I have a wife and children, Alhamdlilah, and I'm also willing to have a second wife because there are a lot of sisters that don't have a husband. I'm financially stable 😌 Alhamdlilah. Why not!!

[@HlulaniNtsakoMathye]

Respect!

[@raheelsiddiquei1230]

Times for men to stop brinf scared and make polygamy normal again

[@BlacFireSan]

❤ the truth

[@CoComelod123]

Men r not men enough dey r weak n scared of de reaction of deir 1st wives n family in her favor. Dey lack de diplomatic way of convincing dem to accept polygamy. Like a gud way to convince den how beneficial it is to den n how to control n reply to de comments deyll get. N how de man can ensure he'll never lean on the 2nd wife n forget or ignore d 1st even in simple things.

[@terrancetilghman863]

Wah aliakum as salaam respect

[@bryanotieno7106]

The sheer double standards and hypocrisy from the panelist

[@lameesabu]

Amazing Coach Nazir...May Allah bless you.

[@siyanapollachi2286]

As if our whole religion rests on just have multiple parners. You sound desperate and pathetic.

[@cyberneticsynthetic5750]

Respect

[@meezanlmt]

I’m the black brother in the video. Being courageous does not equal to being stupid or not calculated. I would never marry another wife if I could not afford it or be able to take care of my wife and mother first. So there are certain conditions that need to met before it makes sense to me. Also the question is are men polygamous by nature ? Ned’s to be qualified. Wanting more women to sleep with does Not always equal to having multiple houses to take care of and be just. since we are Muslim….wanting to marry many women comes with responsibilities I don’t think people fully understand and estimate. I am courageous but I will not put myself in a position where I fail as husband and father cause I get to have two vaginas.

[@outstandingpersonalrelationshi]

Wa alaykum as-salaam wa rahmatullah, akhee Dawud. I appreciate you chiming in. I feel like you’re being a bit disingenuous here. It’s easy to shift the conversation by throwing in conditions that weren’t part of the original topic, so let’s address it head-on. No one said that courage means being foolish or ignoring responsibilities. Yes, polygyny comes with obligations, and it’s for men who can handle them. But being able to handle them is the bare minimum, not a justification for hesitation. Exceptional men rise to challenges, not create excuses to avoid them. The real issue here is that when Brother Ali posed the question, “If your wife was totally okay with it, zero problems, you come back home and she's cooking a meal bruv?” - you didn’t pause or bring up any of these conditions. You said, “Yes!” without a second thought. You didn’t mention homes, finances, or any of the other prerequisites you’re throwing in now. The question was about whether men are naturally polygynous, and your answer was crystal clear. So let’s not muddy the waters now. What you’re saying now doesn’t change the fact that your initial response proved the point-men are polygynous by nature, and all these added excuses didn’t factor in when it came down to the raw truth.

[@misterhenley4380]

Bruv, the fact you would already proves it. It's noble to put personal goals first, but that's not the point when talking about men's nature.

[@bryanotieno7106]

​@@misterhenley4380Perhaps a holistic approach to Polygyny via ChatGPT would administer knowledge

[@outstandingpersonalrelationshi]

How does that fit here? This vid isn't about how to practice polygyny nor about who should or should not do it, I have several vids on that. And yes, I go in on men who are predatory, abuse women via polygyny, and dive into the responsibilities as well... but discussing how to do it properly isn't the topic, but more a switch and redirect in this thread.

[@TheBlackGentlemanGeek]

Brother, I've seen you in other videos with brothers Hijab, Sneako, Ali, etc., and you always try to downplay taboo topics, maybe to sound polite or for the need to be accepted by who knows who. This video isn't even about how to practice polygyny. It was just about if everything is perfect, would you go for multiple women? Yes of course. I want multiple women. Now how to look after them is another topic. Don't be too philosophical. Don't be a too simpy to women either. If women are allowed to practice their female nature, which is to seek the best resourceful man she can get, then we should be allowed to practice our nature, which is to have multiple women. Women want quality (monogamous), men want quantity (polygynous). But for some reason we let women crush our nature as if it's a sin to the point where we're even scared to talk about it, all the while she's practicing her own nature and no one says anything. This has been happening for a century. We're not saying be reckless and uncalculated with your move. What we're saying is, don't discard the fact that you're polygamous because you want to sound cool to women. It doesn't work with women, no matter how cool you sound. Been there done that, it doesn't work. That's why a lot of brothers are surprised that after 10-15 years of marriage, she either becomes monstrous or leaves after you tried to be cool "for her". And she will still go and be a 2nd or 3rd wife to another man other than you. Seen it happen in real life. Women are not as straight forward as you think no matter how much they sound. There's a saying: "Don't listen to what she says, listen to what she does". Because they use emotions to make decisions and we know emotions are temporary, so anything decision or opinion she makes is also temporary and can change by any strong emotional stimuli. If you've noticed, women always follow the opinion of the strongest in the room, whether that be a man, society, a group or a government. They're natural followers. I can assure you if society or governments were to impose polygamy, they would have no issue with it. And no, I'm not a r*dpill but I know enough about women nature. I know you're going to say "I'm not trying to look cool for women or be the good guy in room, etc." but your actions says otherwise. Yes respect women, no doubt, but don't be scared of women too much, bro. Hint: Women actually like that raw lion power in a man, and would let him bring other women. They usually say the opposite of what their instinct tells them, they can't help it. Anyways, barakallahu feekum

[@KLUKA.INC.]

Respect. The world is unclean by being brainwashed

[@siyanapollachi2286]

Women have a right to choose weather they want to be in a polygamous marriage or not. And she has a right to know any health concerns due to multiple partners, some mentally just can't cope, some don't get their rights hence why most women choose not to. A nikkah is a marriage contract, exchange of goods and rights. I believe alot of women have no problem with polygamy but the fact that a lot of men are not able to look after more then wife.

[@EdenSahra]

People shouldn’t be annoyed when people say men are polygamous. As a woman myself if Allah had allowed me to have several husbands I would do it too. Both women and men like multiple partners it’s natural to want other people

[@outstandingpersonalrelationshi]

Interesting. We doubt that. Polygyny is a form of marriage and the husband can fulfill his duties to his wife as a husband in most areas. The other way around, polyandry, not only doesn't make sense biologically, but when women say they would desire such a thing, they aren't thinking about marital duties or thinking much at all; Women aren't saying, sign me up to cook for multiple men daily, add several more loads of laundry, several more sinks full of dishes, and definitely sign me up for raising multiple children in multiple homes! Oh and don't forget to double up on the sexual demands, forget swelling, soreness, discomfort, and just ignore my monthly cycle, I want all that... 😑 Nevermind man's anger, jealousy, or testosterone fueled rage, I'm sure women can keep that under control... Nope, women aren't on that. They may think of men as slaves who grant them their every wish or playthings, but that's not marriage because they aren't thinking of being a wife to multiple men.

[@ZM-et7zt]

There are places where polyandry is practised and the people seem OK with it. It looks different to a marriage under polygyny, not every household has the wife cook and clean, many cultures have maids or the husband takes part. The problem with polyandry is that it limits reproduction and causes society to fail as a result. I'm not speaking of the spiritual ills or the fact that it's haraam, but purely judging polygyny and polyandry based on real world examples, the difference I see is the children part. Because the things you mentioned are not the same across cultures but may be true for yours.

[@gamerelated510]

I learned a new word today: "hypergamous". Thanks brother 💯

[@phoenixknight8837]

Jazakallahu khayr for confronting this matter. May Allah subhanahu wa ta'ala aid us in reviving the beautiful Sunnah of Islam in totality.

[@901guineas3]

It's time to get our shift together as an Ummah. We're supposed to be the example because we follow the best example. Thanks again OPR. Barak Allahu Feekum

[@202machine]

Also Allah address this is the first Ayah of Surah 66

[@aerolongercosmos4487]

Powerful speech by Coach Nazir. 🔥🔥🔥

[@naeemahjs]

Not all men want to be RESPONSIBLE for more than one woman.

[@outstandingpersonalrelationshi]

Why are you using an absolute? That's a poor way to frame anything and makes no point at all. Interesting factoid, not all men even want women. 🤔 Do you see how saying 'not all' means absolutely nothing?

[@naeemahjs]

@@outstandingpersonalrelationshi point taken. 🙏🏽

[@sakibfuseini891]

Most men cant provide without a woman working to comtribute to the bills the sisters are paying bills most of these brothers know the sacrifices their wives are making thats why they dont even feel confident to seek polygamy they didnt even deserve their first wife

[@utmost6722]

Everything you said is on point, polygamy is not for everyone. And i agree man's nature is polygamy, however men have choice to supress there nature. I agree polygamy is good but its only for the mature ones, and polygamy has been practiced for thousands of years, it brings about purpose, truth, and growth for any one to have structure in a family 👍

[@philipireland23]

I need to man up. I know, but it’s hard to cut ties and move forward when multiple kids are involved

[@zxcccccc1]

Why are you cutting ties? You sound defeated, and that's not good.

[@philipireland23]

@@zxcccccc1 not defeated. Just expressing that It’s imperative to choose wisely the women who you want to build with on a higher level.

[@MaiMuna-c8v]

May Allah abandon you if you abandon ur children. May Allah make you strong enough to thrive thru this test.

[@philipireland23]

@@MaiMuna-c8v I never mentioned anything about abandoning my children.

[@MaiMuna-c8v]

@@philipireland23 Then may Allah make this situation easy for u brother

[@coumba5527]

Im trying my best to be interested. You men should focus on your responsibilities and being just with your loved one especially when the man's family uses the wife as a doormat. Strive to become the best husband then we can talk about polygamy. Until then lower your gaze......

[@outstandingpersonalrelationshi]

🙄🤨😑

[@AuthorPreneurElite]

Besides Hijab, the men were cringe. PSA: Joking about being killed or beaten by your spouse is not funny - regardless of gender.

[@joellekhan9643]

Subhannallah Do not lose Janna for jealousy ❤

[@scentedgamer8676]

Bro ur right,i saw an imam joking when a woman said her husband wanting one more woman…his answere was he should keep his focus on his first and forget another wife,and he laughed.

[@coumba5527]

Come on. We all know they don't become better after having a 2nd wife. Very few. Lets stop pretending. They are just following their desires. Otherwise many would marry disabled or old women so ......

[@muhammadmafaz8530]

It's good to fulfill desire in Halal way

[@coumba5527]

@@muhammadmafaz8530 who said it's not? I'm talking about polygamy and the real reason most of you are very much into it. Mainly because of the lust and marital problem that most of you are not willing to make effort to solve. Hence why divorce is high in the community and to be clear I am not against it. And I'm not gonna bring up the topic about you lot marrying revert sisters only to divorce her after a few days again hiding your real reason while using what's halal.

[@muhammadmafaz8530]

@@coumba5527 that's because women are poor in picking right spouse as a result relationship end's up in bad situation

[@coumba5527]

@@muhammadmafaz8530 of course it's always the women's fault if you lot are fake

[@zxcccccc1]

But homosexuals are getting married.

[@MaiMuna-c8v]

May Allah hurt your feelings the way you hurt ur 1st wifes feelings, and May Allah betray you the same way you betrayed ur 1st wife. May Allah reward both ur wives for being stronger than majority of women theses days.

[@outstandingpersonalrelationshi]

May Allah guide you to submit to Him and His authority, abandon your ego, control your disrespectful tongue, and cause you to become obedient and turn to Him in tawbah instead of rebellious, آمين

[@MaiMuna-c8v]

@@outstandingpersonalrelationshi Ameen, now say Ameen to my duah too.

[@outstandingpersonalrelationshi]

No, your dua is hateful and an insult and not befitting a believer. You doubt it, ask a person of knowledge.

[@MaiMuna-c8v]

@@outstandingpersonalrelationshi yea, forgive me, what u did hurt my feelings and In Sha Allah I will forgive you as well. Thank you for your response.

[@outstandingpersonalrelationshi]

I don't know you nor have the intention of hurting anyone, simply educating. Regardless, all is forgiven, thank you.

[@Positive-Princess]

Polygamy is beautiful in its true essence; a man taking care of more than one woman, and a woman not being bound by jealousy or envy. Simple. Especially with men outnumbering women. If you would share your food with someone who is in need of sustenance why wouldn’t you share your husband (in a respectful halal way) 🤍🤍🤍 I don’t like seeing panels like that, May Allah forgive and protect all the believers as we are growing and learning to be and do better ❤

[@yasminm5385]

I agree sister. I would love to see my husband have children and be involved in taking care of them. I miss having family around for support and fun times

[@Positive-Princess]

@@yasminm5385 Allah knows best 🤍✨May you have Barakah in your offspring, household, health, marriage, family, and wealth. May Allah answer your Dua, and remember if it isn’t answered specifically there is a better answer awaiting you for a better outcome. Allah knows best 🤍✨ Salaam my sister

[@thembapakula6831]

Respect!

[@AbdallahEsa]

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[@Zackron121]

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[@202machine]

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[@princejohnson7118]

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