Parenting a Family with Autism Spectrum Disorder (My Perfect Family: The Priestleys)

In the Priestley family, three of four children have been diagnosed with Autism Spectrum Disorder. Though Dad, Aidan, was never diagnosed as a child - he too has come to recognise his symptoms through his children and appreciate the value that an earlier diagnosis may have had. The family are high-functioning, and many of those on the outside either don’t see or misunderstand their struggles. But behind the scenes we see the daily effort that goes into navigating the world more comfortably.
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[@shadyavich4595]

My sister is autistic but is more empathetic than the average person. A lot of people with autism actually feel empathy but just have trouble expressing it.

[@uuesgirl]

My daughter is autistic and she has a ton of empathy!! Totally wrong that people on the spectrum don't have empathy, they just show it or feel it differently sometimes.

[@violetmusic7209]

Its really about how we process things differently and because of that we struggle to express it in a way that the non autistic people can understand, we actually do express empathy aĺl the time, its more to the point that in this and other emotions its us that are trying to fit in and make allowances for or on a level that you can understand (or that we struggle with it anyway) and it is more offten than not that people dont even bother to meet half way. You two must be really amazing people if you can see such thing that other people are blind in an autistic person. Thants My personal opinion anyway. Im on the Spectrum too. 💘

[@shadyavich4595]

@@violetmusic7209 ❤️

[@m.r.browning2065]

While empathy seems to come quite naturally for those among us on the autism spectrum, I'm regularly reminded that even so-called "normal" or as you've put it average people often struggle reading social cues of others.

[@awkwardlysippingtea8571]

I think the notable difference to most is the inability to express empathy and emotions in a societally appropriate manner. Unless you live with or are very close with someone who has ASD or ADHD (which I think is frankly two sides of the same coin) then you may miss the depth of their emotions.

[@NK-bz9wb]

The way the mother described every single one of her children's personallity, traits and difficulties was lovely to see, not many parents out there actually know their children so well.

[@coreniena]

Yes!! She's so lovely. It's so pleasing to see parents seeking out to understand and love their children

[@BramLastname]

You kinda have to with these kids, But I don't see that as a bad thing, The world just isn't ready for them.

[@nghsrae14]

Too many people have this "sterotype" for autism. It's a spectrum. They don't always have "savant syndrome", they aren't always terribly socially awkward, it's a spectrum.

[@AB-bo8or]

True, too many people see autistics as weirdos.

[@BooksToAshes]

Also sad to see people would rather risk a dead child who isn't vaccinated, than a child with autism (according to some anti-vaxers, though *I* don't believe vaccines cause autism and even if I did, nothing is wrong with it)

[@nghsrae14]

@@BooksToAshes it was almost immediately debunked. The people that believe that are soulless fools. Vaccines don't and never will cause ASD

[@OrionVaritasIrene]

Agreed!

[@queenjeski591]

Lady Bloom exactly! the doctor who did the study that supposedly found a link between vaccines and autism got his licence revoked.

[@bt-jz7ki]

imo, as an autistic woman who's done social work for over a decade, these might be the most educated, caring parents of autistic children that I've ever seen. they're miles more knowledgeable about their children's true needs than a heap of boastful "autism parents" that I deal with regularly. I can tell just by the language they use (ie - speaking about their daughter masking, which is typically a thing that girls with autism do) that they are incredibly tuned in to their children's well-being. these kids are going to become such wonderful adults because of the amazing start their parents gave them. I loved watching this so much, and I wish them all the best. 💖

[@daisysummer514]

I’m sure most parents are doing their best

[@LemonSte]

@@daisysummer514 yes but they don't take the time to learn, they just assume they know best.

[@PixelTheExtraTerrestrial]

Masking is currently becoming more prevalent in both genders in our comunity at this point it did used to be typical of females I mask when I am in public but look at results currently ask around just as many males are masking as females now

[@PixelTheExtraTerrestrial]

@@daisysummer514 most parents dont have to get on this level with there children they let them get on with it till something requires them we always require some type of suport there for parents do work harder

[@spiralpython1989]

Ooh, yeah. I am an autistic woman sociologist, and a (single) parent to three autistic teenagers. The parents here are very much more switched on than most parents of autistic young people. There’s so much pressure from many parents to ‘teach their kids to fit in’. Autistic people by and large don’t want to be ‘normal’, but we do need help to achieve our best in a busy and sociable workplace...

[@AA-sy1mn]

So we’re going to ignore the fact that the kid could SMELL ants??? That’s amazing! Beautiful smart children and amazing parents!

[@a.hazman4662]

wait i thought everyone can smell ants'

[@ann_usual]

When i was a kid, I thought everyone can smell ants too until i got older and realized i can't smell them anymore and when i asked other people they get weirded out 😂

[@poppyaskin2525]

Ellie Exe yea wtf when i say omggg the ants smell so disgusting everyone in my family looks at me so weird

[@99xara99]

Wait you can actually smell ants? Like how? Can you find them by smell or you gotta put your face close to the ground to smell them? 😂 Just ants, what about other insects?

[@sophiaredwood5825]

DasPikachu I have these same questions

[@tiggers84]

I think the parents are doing an outstanding job with their children. It takes a lot of love & patience.

[@rhondaminnick9540]

Amen

[@rhondaminnick9540]

I have twins with autism and are on different sectrims...never easy

[@AK-qf8gs]

I also have identical twins with severe autism and a 3rd child with high functioning autism. they are 18 years old now and they still have tantrums so it’s a challenge every day. But they are very loving and have their daily routines. My husband and I also worry about what will happen to the welfare of our kids when we are no longer able to care for them in our old age or when we pass away.

[@decietfuldolphin986]

@@AK-qf8gs may i advise you to not use the terms “high functioning “ and “tantrums” when talking about autistic people? “high functioning” is an ablest terminology commonly used to separate who acts the most “appropriately “ in a neurotypical society and also discredits the different hardships they face due to being autistic that you might not even notice. Also, saying your 18 year olds have tantrums is extremely infantilising and the majority of the autistic community feels very uncomfortable when referred to like that. You may not have intended to use those terms but please think upon what i’ve said, as an autistic person myself.

[@AZRAEL_FURY]

Please watch the documentary called Vaxxed, you can find it here on YT.

[@surayaiffah4967]

These parents are actually parents because they think about their children's needs beyond food and shelter. They think about their kid's personal growth, relationships, and how their kids will "be" in the world. Amazing.

[@anna8315]

I love the end quote "It would be a boring life is we would have no autistic kids". Such a great family spirit.

[@kikipeaches2876]

I feel bad when the little girl was crying and didn’t want to get out of the car. It’s so much worse because of the camera person.

[@violetmusic7209]

Dont feel bad;she is strong. You are right that the camera people weren't helping and it was a tearless cry (sorry i'm a persific haggler/ nightmare/sometimes appears to be robot) i still struggle to get out of the car too when dropped off, i'm in highschool by the way.☺

[@livvieRAWR99]

Same, i was like "back off camera person, let them have a moment" the hug at the end was sweet tho

[@senajabeen1076]

@@livvieRAWR99 if they weren't happy showing her crying in the car they wouldnt havent put the clip in. also there is a thing called a zooming

[@AZRAEL_FURY]

Please watch the documentary called Vaxxed, you can find it here on YT.

[@klimtdidit8482]

@@AZRAEL_FURY whats the link between this documentary and this video ? Maybe I understood it in a wrong but after typing it on youtube I saw it was a documentary about how supposedly vaccines cause autism which is far from being true. We are in 2021, so many studies have shown this argument is false and comes from an ignorant place...I'm sorry but I don't get why this comment is here under this interesting video about a family dealing with autistic kids.

[@naecoalana8017]

As someone who may be autistic herself, but never diagnosed, and grew up with two diagnosed siblings, I completely understand the whole being left out thing. I felt like I was borderline abandoned at times. My brothers got everything and I usually got ignored

[@rcps3166]

Yes yes yes

[@solveigs113]

same here. But with my mom and my twin sister.

[@zollo911]

Relatable.

[@donnariggs1567]

HUGS as the middle child in a quote"normal family" I felt the same much love to you!!

[@notcosmiclobsternoooo118]

Me too.

[@victoriaandrassy6051]

Watching her daughter is like watching my childhood getting recorded and played out to me.... the part where Sophie wouldn’t get out of the car hit the hardest, at that age kids start to realize your different. Not only do they realize they start to pick you out of the crowds then starts the heavy masking making each day SO draining and that’s just socially so once you combine the academics with it woah does it become far too much. Seeing her sit there fiddling with the seat beat crying just hoping her mom won’t actually make her go was far too relatable to the point that it almost physically hurt me to watch her make her go ( even though I do realize the mom of course needs to work and child care is expensive).

[@fatcatoncouch8272]

this comment is it. i can't express things well and this comment was exactly what i thought in my head. thank you

[@fatcatoncouch8272]

I had trouble going to school ever since I was 8, look where I'm at now, dropped out. there's no really ANY exposure here about autism or mental health, therefore my parents hated me for being a "lazy child" who only brings burden to them. they would abuse me, hitting and slapping my face after they get so irritated watching me making excuses as to why I didn't want to go. not to mention the guilt tripping they always do to make me feel more shit than i already do

[@fatcatoncouch8272]

and as an asian, just imagine how hated i am in this family. as my other cousins are studying overseas, bunch of them becoming doctors, while i slowly rot in the house. both of my grandmothers hate me.

[@katie3092]

me too the car bit was very scary for me. i had flashbacks drawn from the depths of my memory in primary school. once my dad called the principal to coax me out and i remember wanting to shrink behind the drivers seat. i don’t have autism but back then i was struggling to cope with severe ocd, anxiety, odd, sensory processing disorder, adhd and arfids. i still have them all today lol plus a few more but i’m worlds ahead from where i thought i’d ever be (and my parents and treating team as well) wish i could say something to little sophie but hang in there, it’s rough but it’s not forever 💚

[@violetmusic7209]

Did the 👍 because 100% minus the brackets part. It isn't about money or compulsory it's about if you don't go and you don't cross that barrier than you won't ever do it, because really its getting into school and started thats the most anxiety filling part cause your actually pretty alright after that bit, remember seeing Sophie with her friends; she was happy and she was copping. I'm honestly the same exept back then i didn't have friends and that was the worst part of all = no stability at school whatsoever

[@ea-hb2tg]

Sophie’s hair colour is really pretty

[@niky5052]

The pics of the dad when he was young looks exactly like his kids. Ahaha they are his little copies

[@harrypriestley1136]

I know he looks exactly like me 😄

[@karolinamozejko3798]

This child who doesn't have ASD. I hope he feels well.

[@starolivio6895]

Why do you say?

[@sagaesjohansson]

@@starolivio6895 Cus the other's may get more attention (cus they're on the spectrum and kinda requires it) and he may feel left out or abandoned and maybe feel like he isn't as loved as the others'

[@luke-fh9gf]

Same😬

[@tws3184392233]

True. When a sibling needs special care sometimes the "normal" child is left out somewhat.

[@user-tq9vs6fc9u]

Yep. I know a lot of people who siblings who have various disabilities... and that issue does exist.

[@teresaa7071]

That mom is an absolute hero!

[@solidstate9451]

Indeed! We stopped having kids after having one with autism, because I was afraid I couldn't handle more than 2 children when one has special needs, but she does great.

[@harrypriestley1136]

My Mum is the best

[@BramLastname]

@@harrypriestley1136 Tell your mum she's doing well for me, okay? I'm doing the same with mine whenever I see her, Didn't think I'd find someone who also grew up in A house of 6, with only 1 neurotypical sibling.

[@harrypriestley1136]

@@BramLastname hi it’s me Harry mum is going good

[@jenlovesthisstuff]

This was a great depiction of real life on the spectrum. I cried when Sophie was in the car and didn't want to go to school, because that was my exact experience of school too!

[@donnaadom8483]

The other girls pushed me aside too. Kudos to her teacher for addressing it!

[@raea3588]

@@donnaadom8483 When I was growing up in school, no one knew I had autism yet but I was just like Sophie in this way. I don't think my peers meant to be cruel by excluding me but I was very lonely. I didn't know how to socialize with them and I just couldn't in large groups. It's not how I'm wired. But rather than address it to help me at all I think the school simply thought "Oh well, she's simply an unpopular little girl. Not much we can do about it." This is sad. We're all social beings, some more than others and in all kinds of ways. School isn't just about learning your ABCs. It is also about teaching children to socialize and how to do it with those who might be different.

[@shelzblack488]

Yep same and I used to tick school a lot too or pull sickies. Mind I got genuinely sick too and have PCOS aswell and EDS :'(

[@towel1636]

Same, my mom didn't knew that I'm autistic so she just trought that I was lazy and didn't like to study. It was a terrible traumatic experience, she would push me physically to school and I was always crying in class.

[@user-mv1hv5ce3b]

I’ve never been diagnosed but this was my experience too, I hope you guys are doing better now (‘: I used to cry and yell in the car, just so drained of school and not wanting to go and be bullied. It hurts to think there are kids experiencing that every year

[@josi050]

I'm 21 and have just been diagnosed, I was very much like these kids but no one ever noticed. Since I know my whole life suddenly makes sense.

[@jean_the_bean]

yes! i'm 14 and trying to get a diagnosis right now. it just makes so much sense now

[@josi050]

grace wishing you the best!!

[@CoffeeConsumer643]

got mine at age 13 made life more easy to understand

[@leahtheanimationfan40]

I got mine at 18 and the more I learned about autism, the more my life made sense. I moved out of my mom's house when I was 19. I am 22 now and working a full time job. I ride the bus because I can't drive and I eat a small variety of foods because of sensory issues

[@annikasoderlund619]

I was diagnosed at 27, and it explained everything. I cried when I got home after I was diagnosed, because it was just so overwhelming to realize that all the bullying and abuse I took was for things I couldn't possibly be expected to do.

[@mOkaCoortezz97]

Their mom deserves all the recognition in the world!! 🙌🙌🙌🙌

[@harrypriestley1136]

She is the best mom in the world

[@user-tq9vs6fc9u]

I hope Conner is doing okay, and so are all his siblings and both parent are doing well. It’s gotta be difficult being the only sibling not on the spectrum.

[@racheld8920]

I hope he's okay too. I'm the oldest at home and my little sister is heavily autistic and while I have autism too, It's a lot milder for me but I struggle with her behaviour a lot.

[@user-tq9vs6fc9u]

@@racheld8920 I’m part of a Sibling group where we are siblings of someone with a disability... (my sibling used to have a disability) This is on FB, it’s called SibNet if you’d like to check it out!

[@ravenkailu6703]

Well I’m autistic and my non autistic younger sister has over the years had said “your overreacting” “why are you crying” both mainly because she’s shouting at me and the noise is causing me to overstimulated “suck it up” when I’m having sensory problems and one time I got asked if I’ll ever be cured of being autistic which in her defense she was like 8 when she asked this one

[@danielanunezalonso5683]

@Harry Priestley Hi! How are you? This video was really beautiful to watch, you have a really good family

[@hiimapenguin]

@Harry Priestley hi

[@dead-immortal]

I have high-functioning autism and I wasn't diagnosed until I was 13 or 14. I'm almost 17 now and still the only diagnosed one (though I suspect my mom is on the spectrum). I wish that my family was as chill as you guys are because it's almost like a curse for me and they expect me to do everything "normally" and not get migraines when I'm surrounded by flowers, cleaning smells, people, or light. I wish I could come live with you guys☺️🫂

[@Squiglebot]

I've got three autistic children and in recognising my childhood in them, eventually was diagnosed myself. The hardest thing about having autistic kids for me has been reliving the trauma of sending them to school in tears knowing how stressful that is. They are just perfect in every way...

[@deaddog7611]

I’m autistic and I want to raise children. I can’t fathom sending them off either. There’s some things you can’t help. But I’m sure you are helping in the ways you can.

[@monicamotatto3152]

El Home Scooling es una buena opción en ese caso? Mi hijo está llegando a la edad de estudiar en escuela y estamos considerando enseñarle en casa

[@carolinam789]

​@@monicamotatto3152le recomiendo preguntarle a un profesional para que pueda hablarle acerca de eso y saber cuál sería la mejor decisión dependiendo de las necesidades del niño

[@Taylor-xo8nv]

The teachers and parents of theses kids are so rad! I love how everyone has worked together to make sure the kids are able to be successful!

[@DiniBrum]

Same here the chart they created for all the girls to play in a non invasive environment is amazing! The education is student led and just beautiful to watch

[@Hisglorre]

@@DiniBrum Yes, and it gives the classmates a healthy view of autism

[@hiimapenguin]

I agree, but "rad"? That died off a LONG time ago. I suggest "amazing".

[@karleymurphy]

The way the parents really try their hardest to make sure all the kids feel completely equal. They really found what works for every kid and is just working with it. Even with their son that doesn't have autism they realize that he needs some time away and then letting Sofia and Harry go to the nature program a couple day a week instead of all the sensory of regular school. They're a beautiful family.

[@MollyViola]

i recognize so much of myself in that little girl

[@DonDaddaDanoDaDaneCalledDanno]

I only found out I was on the spectrum at age 22. Been terrorized and traumatized developed ptsd and anxiety through life. Was bullied and psychologically terrorized by a friends mom from age 4 til 12. Apparently she was jealous of my mom and had to take it out on me. I wasn't the weird kid. But I was the overly happy and smiling kid. But so many people found it too annoying.. But I'm actually getting through it

[@QuiltingCrow]

I'm autistic and when I was young, nobody even knew about autism at all. I had to learn to mask all the time the hard way, with a lot of pressure and violence, I was never seen as the person I was, nor tried my family to support me in anything. When I see this family, I'm so happy for them, but I can't help a feeling of sadness for myself as well.

[@gladysolvera6566]

Oh dear! I'm so sorry about that, I wish you had someone to lend you a hand and know when to reach out. Are you okay, now?

[@QuiltingCrow]

@@gladysolvera6566 I am, thanks a lot!

[@QuiltingCrow]

@@rita_3967 Thank you for sharing this, Amélie! It totally makes sense to me. In fact, I find myself in a so called mid-life crisis because I have no idea how I really want to live! I feel like I don't know myself at all. Luckily, I was able to find a very good therapist and I'm working on it, but I know it will take a lot of time, which makes me sad as well, because it feels like time is ticking out for me while others already have a life they want...

[@QuiltingCrow]

@@rita_3967 Absolutely correct, I totally agree! I'm actually very pleased to have met someone else who struggles with this.

[@QuiltingCrow]

@@rita_3967 I think the "problem", if you will, is that each person with autism is totally different than the others. We are very individual. I know a lot of autists, but I only met one person I could connect to. So, "just" being an autist doesn't make us connect with each other. For example, I have a high IQ around 140 and that changes a lot with my autism as well. I can mask very well and I can learn a lot of stuff, but my mind goes blank when I should listen to/look at something that doesn't interest me...

[@libacus4741]

My autism is just like Sophie’s!!! I acted just like her in elementary school. I mask a lot and experience hyper empathy, like many girls on the spectrum.

[@watchingthebees]

Me too! Also a girl on the spectrum

[@PixelTheExtraTerrestrial]

Same and I'm 31 at this point

[@spiralpython1989]

Yep! That’s me and also my daughter too... it can be a hard and tricky path. And the other girls/ women in schools and workplaces can be really nasty to females who are ‘different’.

[@donnaadom8483]

The history of autism REALLY seems to highlight the patriarchy, sexism in medicine & education, and the often significant difference between genders. SO VERY glad that girls with autism are finally getting some light..may we all continue to learn, and accept each other for the betterment of us ALL.

[@foxyshazaam3310]

Same with me. It took having a son of my own with autism for me to realize most of my problems including drug addiction were a way of coping with my hyper empathy and over stimulation and hyper emotions.. sensory overload and auditory processing disorder. I was in talented and gifted in 2nd grade and teachers wanted me to be skipped ahead a grade in 2, 3, and 4th grade. Then in middle school I went the opposite direction. Couldn't focus and easily bored because i was so ahead and then i started getting in trouble. My overload would lead me to self harm. I dropped out sophomore year. I wish I could have gotten help when I was younger but this had led me to go all out with the help I am getting my 4 year old.

[@linnda3406]

I’m autistic and it’s affected my life deeply I wish I could say I loved my autism but to be completely truthful my experiences have made me hate this part of me, people can be so cruel when they don’t understand you!

[@laidedges]

Wow. My son feels the way you do also. He’s 13 and doesn’t tell people even if they ask. It’s like a little family secret . He hates even hearing the word and gets angry. Is currently in denial and says he doesn’t have it. He sees it as a negative

[@linnda3406]

@@laidedges I completely understand that and it’s definitely hard to accept it as a positive whilst others view it as a negative, in the four months since I wrote this comment I myself have bit by bit learned to accept my autism as a founding part of myself, I have learned that many autistic children have talents in many other stuff and what can be seen as a nuisance in some situations can also be a benefit in other situations, I hope you’ll pass on to your son the knowledge that having autism does not make him any less of a person if anything it makes him kinder and more compassionate for others, wishing your son and your family the best in life and I hope he begins loving himself all part of him the autism included!!

[@rbitrary]

@@linnda3406 I'm honestly so happy for you for getting to that point ❤I was going to write, for me it gets redirected more as anger that people are taught that my harmless behaviours are "bad" and should be shunned. Like, I still hide most of my stimming so im not ostracized, but when i really think about it, I get more mad at the world for making me hide it

[@Gummy_Pop.]

The 1st half i had someone understand my struggle and now i have to deal with people who don't understand....and its hard...

[@shemmoirichards]

@@laidedges Help him identify a benefit of having Autism rather than negatives. Show him that he is experiencing that benefit as well. In my case I was in denial of having Autism because I thought that having such a condition also meant low intelligence. After finding out the opposite is true I felt more confident in my Autistic self and went on to surpass everyone in my class in our final exams except one person. Your son can come to view Autism as a strength too. Just highlight the positives and show him evidence that the positives exist within him.

[@Jacob-mx2fj]

this made me really emotional. I was diagnosed with autism when i was a kid but only found out a couple months ago ( I'm 21) . I did'nt know i had autism so thought i was just a weirdo, got bullied most of my time in school. Really wish i was told earlier on so i understood it was a positive thing, instead of now being in and out of depression, social anxiety, no self confidence.

[@mrs.garcia6978]

Sophie not getting out of the car and her explanation broke my heart

[@harrypriestley1136]

She finds it hard to get out of a car

[@navyblue9355]

I used to do the same thing all the time growing up but I would just get yelled at because I wasn't diagnosed with anything until recently. I'm glad these kids are getting the support they need :)

[@makenziewalthers8920]

This mom is amazing😭😭

[@maeliandrade9919]

the honesty and openess of this documentary is so helpful and encouraging

[@ljean5471]

These parents are SO in tune with their children wow. They all seem so genuinely calm and content, I'm sure they have their moments like any other family but they do really seem like lovely, lovely people the lot of them. Parents anyone could look up to regardless of if they have children with ASD or not Also Big shoutout to the school helper that Sophie has, even a lot of professionals don't understand autism in girls unfortunately, I'm glad sophie has someone like her who gets it to help.

[@SpookymidnightKyanite7]

Finally people are starting to understand ASD does not have to be the stero type I also have ASD

[@naomighyss]

To the person/team who produced and edited this video: this is really good storytelling, so well done!

[@mrs.garcia6978]

It’s so cute the oldest look like Dad and the youngest look like mama. Thx for the vid ❤️

[@staceyg3110]

This popped up in my recommendations and I thoroughly enjoyed every minute of this programme. What an incredible family. Look how much the children thrive in the nature school too. My son would love it. Such a shame that it's not incorporated more into the curriculum here in the UK. Some schools offer nature school (forest schooling) once or twice a week but it's mostly under 5s.

[@cieluphantomhive2405]

Mama has the most beautiful calming voice, bless her. I only wish my mom acknowledged my autism.

[@ginniekinz5401]

Right? My mom was instructed to just “slap her out of it and tell her to smarten up” 🙄

[@luniers4629]

No-rules-night, they follow all the rules! Children!

[@1a2b3c4d2847]

A bunch of great kids truly

[@Sarah.Riedel]

I know this is off-topic but just to clarify in NZ "lemonade" is actually carbonated soda like Sprite lol

[@southwest3671]

What do you call lemonade then? The lemon juice, water and sugar in a decanter at a lemonade stand? Just curious.

[@Sarah.Riedel]

@@southwest3671 it's funny I honestly don't remember ever drinking or even seeing "American lemonade" in stores anywhere although I'm sure they probably did have it. So I have no idea haha. Maybe they called it something like "traditional" or "old-fashioned lemonade." The most popular brand of soda lemonade is actually called L&P which stands for "lemon and Paeroa" - Paeroa being the North Island town south of Auckland where the beverage is produced. The town has a local spring that produces naturally carbonated mineral water, sort of like Perrier. I visited their factory and they have a giant L&P bottle outside that you can hug or climb on for photos lol.

[@raea3588]

That's interesting I never knew that!

[@Sarah.Riedel]

@@Cyber.blox1 that's crazy lol yeah I actually lived in the UK as well for two years (I moved there with my British ex after we left NZ) and I honestly can't recall ever seeing lemonade over there either! It's kind of baffling because everyone seems to know what it is yet nobody has gone ahead and just made some. 😂

[@alexandraritter3542]

As an American, you can't buy real lemonade here either, by which I mean it is totally different than the taste or texture of homemade. To make the real stuff just squeeze a bunch of lemons, and the "secret" is sweeten with simple syrup (50/50 sugar and water boiled together then cooled). Then water to dilute to taste, but it should be pretty sweet and strong. I haven't made it in years because it is basically drinking sugar water, but man it is so good. Thanks for the clarification on the NZ version!

[@millacernemusic]

I really recognize my younger self in Sophie!

[@millacernemusic]

Update: yesterday I was diagnosed with autism, ADHD and panic disorder. I do have things in common with her.

[@crazydiamond4565]

I’m 62 and I just realized that I may be on the spectrum. That explains a lot!

[@leenicholson5352]

Hi.. I am 45 and have been wondering the same thing, I have two boys who are 3 and 8 who are on the spectrum and I see so many of my problems in them I had growing up.. I have always had anger problems and emotional difficulties and very annoying ocd habits.. I have always wondered am I just wierd and why am I different to everyone else.. Well just in the last year I am pretty sure I am on the spectrum too.. Amazing parents by the way.. If I can learn just a little from you and your parenting skills I will be happy, its difficult to raise my children for me as I have so many issues myself.. Thank god for their mum my wonderful partner

[@lizvlx]

@@leenicholson5352 why dont u get tested? i mean 2 kids on the spectrum...me too, and of course i also got tested. it would be too weird not to know, i mean no i dont need to listen to all that bull that sometimes gets explained by professionals about autism and about my kids. coz now i am the proven experts and the ableist professionals dont dare anymore to talk that negatively about my kids.

[@lovelee8772]

Me toooo!!!

[@__katerandoe]

autism in females is very different and thats why a lot of females dont know they have it or never get diagnosed OR get diagnosed with the wrong thing!

[@rcps3166]

@@__katerandoe Yes

[@carita2145]

I wish I could like this documentary a thousand times. My autism was ignored when I was a child, I got labeled by my parents as a shy, selfish loner when I was having non-verbal phases with a well developing depression through my whole childhood. I went and got diagnosed at 26 after a couple of major burnouts and hospitalization.

[@Zero-cw4qj]

These parents really took the time to figure out exactly what each of their children need. They are amazing parents and I hope they see all these comments bc they deserve it

[@garyandleslied]

What a beautiful family. The hardest part probably for me from my autism is anxiety.

[@ameliajessxo8782]

I'm a 10 year old girl and I have autism just like these lot. Sometimes it is very difficult to be me with typical autistic meltdowns and stimming and flapping. I mask to look like I'm ok and to look like I fit in. But really I don't cope to well. I mask alot at school but as I've gotten older it's gotten harder to do. I struggle with going to school because it is difficult for me. I love school it's just hard. Some ppl don't except me but I know I am who I am and I was meant to be me. So I will not change for anyone ❤️❤️ my thoughts and prayers go to this beautiful family ❤️💗

[@moonspirit2119]

You sound like such a lovely kid. There are so many things that make you special and wonderfully unique. These school years are hard but it’ll be worth it when you’re closer to being an adult and can find people that truly accept you without exception.

[@ameliajessxo8782]

@Kenaidy Adan thankyou so much, had quite a tough day at school today and this is just what I needed to hear, hope everything goes well with you new life and living without your parents ❤️❤️

[@ameliajessxo8782]

@@bluecheesehasmoldinit thankyou so much, you telling me this has warmed my heart aswell ❤️ and to know I'm not alone is amazing ❤️ take care 😊

[@ameliajessxo8782]

@@moonspirit2119 thankyou so much, these school years r tough and I'm scared for secondary, I'm only in year 5 but I'm very nervous but thankyou, lovely ❤️❤️

[@moonspirit2119]

AmeliaJess xo I send you such good vibes. Continue being your sweet self and people will see it and want nothing more than to be your friend.

[@ashleanicole]

Oh wow, this was filmed in my hometown in Christchurch, New Zealand! Big ups to the family looking after the kids so well, especially with the really tough 10 years we have faced in Chch, that would surely make it a lot harder. They are doing an amazing job as parents and these kids are going to grow up and be the most awesome humans ever💛

[@meYogii_]

This makes me feel important and lucky that i have highfunctional autism. That it's nothing to be ashamed of. I loved to see how this family was working together in social situations.💕

[@GeraldineMcK]

I have learnt more from watching this episode than any lectures I have attended .

[@Ash-up9gl]

As an autistic adult, it's lovely to see a documentary like this. It's so refreshing to see people not being afraid to highlight the strengths in autism as well as the struggles and it's lovely to hear the kids speak, so people can hear their perspective too. One thing that was perhaps just slightly miscommunicated here was the idea that to be autistic you need low-empathy. This isn't the case and many autistic people actually present with very high empathy and can be very oversensitive to other's emotions. Just so people know! :)

[@jernisharichard5032]

Right well put 😂

[@briannabergman8381]

Omg a play chart, that makes me so happy to see them finding solutions , and the other girls being so kind and responsive

[@karenk3458]

Thanks for bringing awareness as it’s really tough when people can’t actually see the difference so they fail to understand.

[@IsThisTourettes]

The only thing I didn't like about this was how the father said he lacked empathy. Autistic people do NOT lack empathy unless it's due to another disorder. In fact some autistic people are some of the most empathetic people I know. I know that as an autistic person, I am extremely empathetic. Sometimes to a fault.

[@ameliateahowhite]

Me too

[@doyouhearthepeoplesing2]

I don’t know I have Aspergers and ADHD I have zero empathy

[@doyouhearthepeoplesing2]

@Dzsamila # i dont have autism so

[@doyouhearthepeoplesing2]

@KEPLER wrong that crap only applies in america i do not have autism im not re tarded thank you

[@alecrosewell6959]

@@doyouhearthepeoplesing2 ? Being autistic does not imply retardation. They may look and act different doesnt mean they are dumb. Iq is not an indicator of autism.

[@demikimberlypril5027]

I myself have autism too so seeing kids being so young and knowing about their autism and getting to learn already is something that I never had because I'm almost 17 and I have known this for a little longer than 6 months so I feel great when I see the parents being so understanding to the kids because my parents and I are still in therapy for my autism

[@caitlingee642]

This family seems so beautiful! Props to the mom for working so hard with her family and school, that seems like it could be exhausting but she's awesome for staying so calm and supportive. Props to Connor, it seems easy to feel left out or looked over, but he's awesome for just being that big brother and so empathetic.

[@marieroark3902]

I truly loved learning about that family. They are such a beautiful inspiration!

[@hpcuthulu6249]

this needs at least 1 mil views

[@KCsFunHouse]

This is amazing! She’s a super mom and I think the dad is using his experiences to help her learn the best way to handle situations. It’s amazing to see the supports available around the world.

[@sesil0060]

I’m raising 3 kids with adhd and asd I feel this in my bones. Love this. Thank you for sharing

[@LMoneL]

This family is really loving and I really admire the mom and dad for doing so much for their children.

[@LinhNguyen-iq8rv]

Incredible family with such positive outlook on life! Good role model for families with autistic kids, and for all families in general!

[@danielfreeman649]

The parents make a great team and each of their kids is great. They're all beautiful and talented

[@virtueisdead6673]

This is just such an awesome documentary!

[@meredithglickman3881]

What an amazing mother. She does so much for her family and so much love.

[@coressaclark6354]

Best understanding ive ever heard

[@TigerPrawn_]

Racheal is some sort of superhero, getting her degree while being a mum (alone for 10 weeks a year)! and having a job. My god.

[@karolinawalichiewicz4200]

that mom is so amazing to making everything possible. she is the missing 'puzzle piece' for this family! seems like the hardest part is even figuring out what each individual needs , figuring out where to get the resources, and then knowing how to ask for or request what you need

[@annadanals3466]

I absolutely love this video! Makes my heart so happy!

[@whitney3258]

What a great school, amazing parents & awesome kids!

[@AfraidMonsters]

What an amazing family. You guys are so lucky. I’ve never had a childhood anything like what they’re having. Friends like they have, parents like they have, support, etc, so lucky and amazing.

[@oh2887]

Great to see the kids surrounded by clued in parents and teachers.

[@annachan2669]

These are such amazing parents and people. I have a 5 yrs old ASD and I’m learning everyday. This story amazes me.

[@jayneshort6103]

Ratchel you are a wonderful mum, wife, and teacher you bring tons of love as do the people you surround your self with.

[@chantellemanning7520]

This was fantastic to watch! Learnt so much!

[@chti341]

I just love watching this family, could go on forever. We rarely see such parents in documentaries these days. Thank you for sharing.

[@raymondparenteau3098]

All the children are so special. I love them all. I have a 9 yr old niece with autism, and she has come a long way.

[@mrss_foster]

I honestly feel like we shouldn't differentiate anybody with a mental disorder, as a sick or diseased and say something is wrong with them. Nobody is actually normal, and there is no description of what normal should look/act like. Normal is a social norm, but I still believe that we shouldn't neglect anybody whatever or whoever they might be. Everybody is different, and special in a beautiful way.

[@josiah42]

I hear what you're saying but there's also a huge upside. You're saying we shouldn't cause any divisions between a person and the rest of the populace based on a disability. The stories I've heard from people discovering they are autistic is that they've felt disconnected their whole life and they finally have found their people and found connection and community for the first time. Finding a meaningful label allows them to locate others that share the same experiences and struggles. That means they can benefit from approaches that have helped others instead of figuring out everything on their own.

[@elleofmann6406]

My son's autism being a disability is necessary in order to get him the resources he needs. Everyone is different but when the differences match a certain pattern of challenges then we know what to call it and how to help with it. Autism can be a gift, autism can be a debilitating condition. Both perspectives are correct.

[@mrss_foster]

@@elleofmann6406 ah yes, I agree with both of you. What my comment did was leave a loop hole, but me myself being a person with a mental disorder also understand that those disorders and disabilities need to be treated, but also that makes us unique and beautiful.

[@elleofmann6406]

@@mrss_foster yes, as a parent who has their own struggles...it gets hard to see the positives a lot of days. I have much anger towards a condition that has stolen my son from me, and stolen his life from him. There are positives (he's almost 3 and has an excellent memory and is very smart). But he deserved more than this lifetime of struggle. Now learning about autism because of my son, I've learned that I also have autistic traits. At 23 I still flap my hands when I'm overly excited or anxious. I have mild sensory and ocd issues and have struggled with social anxiety my entire life. I have never felt normal and always felt something was off with me. Rare moments in life I could not talk because there was too much noise, literally trying to figure out why I felt like I couldn't open my mouth to talk when nothing was physically stopping me. And these things have helped me understand my son. I know that when he's pushing his body into me it means he needs to be squeezed...just like I need to be laid on. I just feel bad for him, I think I have it...but I think his is more severe than mine and I'm so scared for his future.

[@mrss_foster]

@@elleofmann6406 I respect you for even having the courage to admit this to yourself and next to that raise a child with something you didn't know how to deal with yourself but, I believe that both you and your son will be okay as long as you have each other's support. You seem like a great dad to me ✨😊

[@nadiabairamis3854]

That mom is a superhero!!!

[@mrsmsz8179]

Lovely family. Thank you for sharing your stories. Enlightening. 💕

[@awaliwu]

Thank you for your beautiful contribution by letting yourselves be filmed. I think you are wonderful.

[@CVH2311]

Auntie Annie is so precious as well. Bless her.

[@Lindseyjones6422]

I'm have aspergers....didn't know until late 20's , thank God for my caring and supportive parents everyday!! Can be hard with finding the right words to express how you feel at times , upside is you have a very unique way of thinking and figuring out things !!

[@roxanafernandez2996]

Wonderful parents, raising flourishing children! Also, praise for the wonderful people that help aid the lives of this family. My respect to their growth all around!

[@imjuanalonso]

I'm in love with this family. You guys are so beautiful and so special inside and out.

[@StringsCrusader]

I don't know how I came across this, or why I watched it... But I'm definitely glad I did. :) Applause to the parents, friends and family, and most certainly to the kids!

[@ghents565]

I have a son who high funching. He is very smart. Hated school. Yet was so smart. He dont like to hug. He dont understand to watch that he dont tell what he really feels. They definitely says things that we would not. Love my son he is so gifted. Love your family.

[@judusmasamune9523]

She’s a life saver ! A perfect mom to help

[@Peip692]

What an incredible family! Very touching and educational. Also, fantastic production value super high quality sound, video, and editing - well done

[@nena73]

the little girl reminded me so much of me as a child, especially w the whole school situation. it's so difficult to figure things out there and i feel bad that she's already worried about school at such a young age. i wish her the best of luck

[@borderline2K]

when she said “the worst part about autism is that it’s hard to get along with people” it hit me hard. i wish her well too. i feel her.

[@yourmajestytheinternetuser]

This is a great video! Amazing family, very intelligent kids, a supermom and a great father.💙

[@karenclairelicudine1360]

Amazing family, being there for each other, loving and appreciating all their children

[@dezlinglife]

This family is so kind-hearted and intelligent and loving!

[@larneyful]

Love this video. What an awesome family and well done to Mum!!!! She is amazing! Dad is very cool too! And yay for the social system! I would wager a bet that at least some of the family members have one form of synaesthesia or another.

[@sta_rlight5564]

Whenever I play games with others, I get so much anxiety because I usually don’t understand it or have limited understanding of how the game works. The instructions of the game are difficult for me to understand at first but if I keep playing the game and ask you to repeat it for me many times on how to play it, I will be able to play it confidently. I’ve been made fun of many times for not understanding the basics of certain games such as basketball, soccer, volleyball, hockey etc. I just need time to learn how to play it and I just need you to be patient and not lash out on me or laugh when I play it wrong.

[@tillybinkieking7258]

Thank you. As a grandma, I do not fully appreciate it all, so this is very helpful. Well done!

[@isabellaperzinger8191]

What an amazing family! And this mum deserves a prize, awesome

[@LillianJEllmore]

Love this beautiful family. Sophie, if I was your age and went to your school I would definitely play with you! You’ll find friends that will embrace you WHOLEHEARTEDLY eventually...they just need to mature first ❤️

[@bethanymcdermott3954]

I actually cried when the daughter was talking about socialising and school because I related so much - it was like looking at a younger me but one who had all the answers earlier on. I'm so glad she and her brothers have such a supportive family and environment to grow up in.

[@alleemaria97]

Wow I have so much respect for the mom. I'm 24 yo now and can't ever imagine dedicating so much of my life to 5 other beings, like she does. Mad respect !

[@AyessaVCruz]

These kids are very lucky for having such loving parents 💜