An Autistic Marriage (A Unique Love Story)

Rachael and Griffin are both autistic and lovingly married. They prefer to live and sleep in separate homes, because that is the routine that works for them. Their marriage may be unique, but their love and commitment to one another is lifelong.
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[@lindseybotelho]

Honestly if marriage was presented to me as "doing activities together sometimes" I would be more open to it. They are onto something with this living separately thing 😂

[@rumham7466]

Omg for real! 😅. Sounds perfect to me

[@annagitana1]

Seriously.

[@trombonegirlJH]

That's how my husband and I live! We share a home, a bed, and finances etc but we have different schedules and we have hobbies of our own. We have some activities we like to do together but we are very independent individuals so we both require a lot of space.

[@rainstreet78]

Amen girl

[@Rita-yw2tn]

I agree 😊

[@BlizblobLP]

I grew up with Griffin as my neighbor and occasionally still see him around town. It didn’t really get across in this interview but he remembers so much about a person it’s awesome. Last time I saw him he was asking me if I still had the same black belt with a gold buckle that I wore to church one day back when we were like 13, and requested I get a new one because he liked it haha It’s so cool that you made this video to spotlight him and Rachel! Thank you!

[@sage8573]

Thank you for sharing. I love how genuine he is.

[@orangemonkeykiller]

I feel like being put in the spotlight of the camera might not have let as much of his personality show through. Knowing him, is that right?

[@BlizblobLP]

@@orangemonkeykiller honestly no, I just think he wasn’t asked the right questions

[@pamelakinzey5600]

I taught a student who seemed so much like Griffen. He was diagnosed with Aspergers, a type of autism.

[@caitlynimani6710]

i figured this! autistic people tend to have specific interests/hobbies that we are most advanced in. answering random questions that were not prepared with answers ahead of time would be tricky for someone with low support needs, let alone high support needs. of course every person with autism is different

[@reenat.8283]

“down syndrome” 🤣🤣🤣 Rachel was like “wait, no, no i don’t have that” they’re so cute & their idea of marriage is so unique

[@AnAdorableWombat1]

😂😂😂 that was hilarious. He was also born in 1998

[@QuixEnd]

You can't make this kid up😂

[@user-vj7yi5uf9r]

I love them ❤

[@user-bs2ry9fk2q]

And. Do that your wife wants! 😂👍

[@markstoyreviews6641]

I don’t have Down Syndrome Either But sometimes i get Confused when i see my self in photos But i don’t have any characteristics of Down syndrome or anything But in photos they make me look wired

[@daisyoconnor8547]

I don’t think Griffin necessarily misunderstood the last question. I think that his genuine answer to “How can someone have a happy marriage?” is “by marrying Rachael!” That’s what worked for him! 🥺

[@bayani6302]

Lol that's so cute !

[@beckyshell4649]

Yes that answer is kinda deep .It like how can I not be happy I got Rachael.

[@loveistheanswer5924]

​​@beckyshell4649 exactly maybe he even meant that. 🙂👍♥️🥰🤗

[@fakenphonenews4252]

❤

[@KingZealotTactics]

"Doing what my wife says" lmfao you are damn right brother!

[@CorASMR.]

Haha ❤

[@Chings001]

He is onto something here!!

[@joshuarayfield7594]

Limited as he may be, he quickly picked up on that very important pro tip!

[@cbgbstew4072]

That made me lol and he’s not wrong, either.

[@soniapizzi8930]

He's learned the secret quite fast! Good for you Griffin , you'll be married for life!

[@AliFinNoble]

The way Rachel's parents just looked at her like they were so unbelievably proud they could burst it was very touching

[@AnnLutz]

Thank you and we are truly unbelievably proud of her/them 🌸.

[@dewilew2137]

@@AnnLutz You guys are awesome parents, and you have clearly done an amazing job. I can see why you’re so proud. Congratulations! 🤗

[@AnnLutz]

That’s so kind, have a great weekend.

[@sharonjack6815]

The innocence of my mum’s name is Ann, but I call her mum. Just gorgeous

[@alexandraaaaaaaaaaaaaaaaaaaaaa]

@@AnnLutz 💙💙

[@user-cp1of4su7x]

This is how marriage with love works. They take turns talking (and with “getting [their] way next time”), she’s patient with him, & encourages him (“you’re smart”). He admits he listens to his wife (when appropriate) and doesn’t want to do bad things in front of her. Compromise, patience, encouragement, quality time together. Their union is perfect🌹just like them.

[@scaryshari]

@user-cp1of4su7x - I love and agree with everything you wrote. :-)

[@aurayukisora]

Yes as marriage should be.

[@whitneyd6827]

"if someone wants to have a happy marriage, what should they do?" "They should love each other" Why do people generally not understand this. Very profound. Lovely job interviewing these two Chris! You're very talented at what you do

[@Jess_Pea]

Love isn't enough and you can love someone and still not be right for them. A marriage takes work.

[@lyneae3786]

I know, this has got to be my favorite video from Chris because I feel like I can learn the most from it. I actually feel like I relate to Griffin more, but wish I was more like Rachel because she is more mature than I was her age. Women should mature differently than men. I was just very “left-brained”. Thanks to Chris, Griffin and Rachel for sharing their story to the world. Love is enough when it is mutual; they work towards being what the other needs within their respective boundaries and abilities. There is a mutuality between them despite their differences. This is a sacrifice of themselves for something greater that they share between them. That is love.

[@AsheiJenkins]

“Love feels like life” that’s the most beautiful sentence I’ve ever heard.

[@user-cp1of4su7x]

💯❣️

[@shaypink40]

That was my favorite part of the interview ♥️🤟😊

[@zatoichiMiyamoto]

It does.

[@itsfrankieg5816]

Yes … he couldn’t have said it better!

[@rambledogs2012]

He just nailed it with that sentence.

[@OhiChicken]

I know it's rude to laugh, but Griffin saying, with full confidence, that Rachael has Down Syndrome made me nearly spit out my drink. I wonder what he thought you were asking...

[@dollsNcats]

Makes me wonder if they have friends with down syndrome and he got confused or overwhelmed by the question.

[@susivarga7303]

He obviously knew the question was about Rachel and her disability but his answer shows how "limited" he is compared to her when it comes to mental capacity. I find her patience and how she handles him fascinating.

[@flyingnorseman]

@@susivarga7303 If more people had the patience, love and understanding as Rachel the world would be a much better place.

[@katerclickbait887]

Seriously I laughed out way too hard! Would love to spend time with this dude, they are a great couple

[@kaelanlutz]

@OhiChicken Griffin quite literally says the first thing on his mind usually 😂 We all thought it was very comical! And yes Rachael’s patience with him is truly a symbol of their love 😊

[@BethaneyLilly]

I love Rachel’s style, her necklace and gold eyeshadow are beautiful. Griffin saying he “ listens to his wife & does what she says” makes me smile….he’s a smart man realizing the key to a happy marriage “happy wife, happy life” “Love feels like life” what a beautiful saying.

[@satyamevajayate308]

Did anyone notice that Rachel was being a little different in front of her parents and more confident and articulate with Griffin.

[@narfinarf5920]

I did too. She could feel more comfortable and independent around Griffin, he's her partner and not someone she necessarily needs to impress if that makes sense. Her parents seem to mean a lot to her and she looks for their validation, she was getting emotional while talking about how much she loves them so maybe vulnerability is difficult? I'm not sure, I'm just so happy these 2 have each other and the support they need and deserve.

[@somethingsmatter]

How do you avoid disagreements? „Doing things my wife says“ ❤😂 so precious!

[@sharonjack6815]

Which is really saying something as Griffen admitted he gets frustrated when he doesn’t get his way of what he wants. I think Rachel lets him have his was a lot of the time by her interactions. Such a calming person she comes across as You can see the adoration they have for each other. Just beautiful

[@dantemedici8179]

Is this not just everyman?

[@bobbydigital8056]

​@@dantemedici8179Too many, sadly. This is why I will never married.

[@lynzblk]

Griffin smarter than he sounds (no offense meant by that at all!) he’s really got some stuff figured out better than majority of men like 😂 like he may not articulate very well but he does articulate the most important parts ❤

[@streetsofgold4310]

😂😂😂❤

[@saraostlund2510]

The way Rachel's parents look at her when she's talking fills me with so much joy

[@GlupShiddo]

Ikr! 🥰 when you can see the adoration in someone’s face, you feel it too 💓

[@coleybowley]

You can tell she got a little shy, too, when talking about them. They're such a wonderful couple :)

[@rachelburton4603]

This oh my gosh, they just look at her with so much love and pride. Griffins mother too 🥰

[@Crocrobon]

same, they're so cute

[@vivianevenancio6502]

I could feel the profound love and appreciation they have for Rachel. She's very lucky.

[@GCohen9782]

“love feels like life” That’s quite profound.

[@AnnLutz]

Thank ya’ll so much for your heartfelt words, support and encouragement. No doubt we are all created uniquely. Chris and Alyssa are amazing and we are so grateful to them and to our daughter for organizing this. Each of us has our own story. Colorful Wishes to ya’ll.

[@thathobbitlife]

You're Rachel's parents right? We all seem to agree that love was just BEAMING from you all 😊😊 y'all all blessed

[@maryandrear.4988]

Sigue amando a tu hija, son unos padres muy amorosos, eso es lo que necesitamos en esté basto mundo, DIOS bendiga grandemente tu familia señora ann lutz.♥🌞

[@shaddowsdieout]

They are an adorable couple! ❤ Fantastic job on both sides in regards to parenting. It's so difficult getting our kids to understand such complicated concepts regardless of their diagnoses. You guys have done well 🎉

[@EmpressChan77]

It warms my heart to see every good parenting can do. They are amazing I love their love ❤

[@RabbitHoleDiaries]

Such beautiful souls - and nine years, incredible! Great job, y'all! 💖

[@ridingboy]

"Love feels like life." Such a powerful answer. 10 times more striking than most neurotypical softball answers. And her parents seem to be absolutely wonderful people.

[@user-cp1of4su7x]

💯 loved this answer from him too!

[@SpiritBladeFox]

Love is life

[@marcelredplanet3765]

yeah. Such an easy yet profound answer. ❤

[@kjr8660]

Rachel is so incredibly articulate and thoughtful, she’s like a perfect mentor to someone with more advanced autism.

[@twelvelookslike]

She is very pretty also

[@DannyD-lr5yg]

@@twelvelookslike She reminds me of someone - some actress - I can’t quite put my finger on who but it’ll come to me later I’m sure 😅 Edit: Emma Stone! She reminds me of Emma Stone, both in her looks and mannerisms.

[@emprezesh]

She is very thoughtful! Just so you know, there’s no such thing as “more advanced” autism. In this case, Griffin would be described as having higher support needs. Because Rachel has less support needs when it comes to communicating (doesn’t need as much prompting or help explaining herself), that doesn’t mean she doesn’t need a lot of help with other things or doesn’t have serious issues that impact her life in the same way Griffin appears to. Autism is described as a spectrum, which you could think of as different colors on the spectrum of light. Someone with “purple” autism is not going to be “more advanced” as someone with “green” autism, for example. It impacts every single person differently and varies in terms of support needs.

[@brennathecatlover4360]

She’s probably more functioning or maybe has a less severe case

[@lindaashbrook6789]

​@@emprezeshthank you for explaining autism and how the spectrum works. 😊

[@ranerhodes6712]

Rachael’s energy brings so much comfort . She’s so articulate with helping those around her. She’s a beautiful person inside and out 🤍

[@PH-pq3vq]

aw she's so kind and gentle and loving. I'm so happy for them both that they have found someone who is a fit

[@byefelicia7358]

Love Rachel’s dimples and her brother’s expression when she revealed his marital status! 😂

[@lordsupernewton8888]

Her dimples are so adorable.

[@kaelanlutz]

She hit me with that left jab to the gut haha 😂 she loves compliments about her dimples!!! I’ll pass it along!

[@amourpkay]

@@kaelanlutz well hello Kaelan! So you're single, are you also looking? Asking for a friend 😊

[@j.e.m.7182]

@@amourpkay LOL ikr what a handsome guy.. no wonder he isn't married, ladies probably ask him out left and right! 🤣 (Side note I loved these two families, they all seem like such kind and warm people. I hope that they all live very happy lives with their loved ones ❤)

[@Jesus_Saves_Believers]

This is the cutest 🥰

[@jadamercedesthompson.]

I’m autistic and this gives me hope that I’ll find love some day. Thank you Rachel and Griffin for sharing their story and thank you Chris as always for this beautiful community.

[@dollsNcats]

You will :) ! There’s love for everyone! My friends fiancé has autism! But my friend doesn’t. And they both just learned to understand and love each other

[@lenaposthuma4787]

@@dollsNcats I am too married to someone who is autistic and I am not, You're right. It is about understanding this person and each other really.

[@cr4zysh4dez]

Keep your hope; I had years of lonely and heartaching…I found my one eventually. It may not look like others story but it will be your own 😊

[@Catlily5]

I am autistic and it took me 8 years to find someone. But it was worth the wait. My partner has ADHD. We have been together for almost 13 years.

[@tabora_]

Of course you will find love. You need to find the right person who loves you unconditionally. Do not settle for less, and be a good partner yourself.

[@user-zb2mw1wq3l]

私は、インタビュアーの彼がキッチンの撮影をするときに"Hey,Griffen"と挨拶する場面が好き！ この番組は、障害や疾病のことを「一つの個性」として取り上げているので、私は視聴していて気分が良いです。 この番組の存在が、もっと日本で認知されてほしいです。

[@luku2232]

I’m honestly curious about what the views are around disabilities in Japan.

[@ShikisaiMaki]

@@luku2232 I'm autistic, have ADHD, am severely chronically ill, and I used to live in Japan and I unfortunately felt rejected and misunderstood by a lot of people, especially older folks. "Hit the nail that sticks out" is a common saying in Japanese. It gives you an idea of the mentality. Sadly, Japan has a history of hiding people with disabilities and treating them differently (sometimes mistreating them too), but it has gotten a little bit better in recent years. However, I'd say that when it comes to mental health, disabilities and any marginalized identities, Japan is years, even decades behind North America. Also, Japanese people don't usually say what they think to your face (even when you ask them to be honest) so, it can be really difficult for autistic people to figure out what people want and mean. (Even neurotypical folks struggle with it!) You constantly have to read between the lines. It's also considered rude to ask a lot of questions and question the rules which is something I do a lot because I need to understand the logic behind everything and it was very frustrating for me to not be able to get answers and being perceived as rebellious and rude for asking.

[@luku2232]

@@ShikisaiMaki thank you for answering. I can definitely see how some of the cultural norms would make it very difficult to navigate.

[@ShikisaiMaki]

@@luku2232 my pleasure!

[@ShikisaiMaki]

@@luku2232 my pleasure!

[@lizwolf111]

As someone who has lived with AUDHD all my life but unfortunately went misdiagnosed for 36 years (finally properly diagnosed with AUDHD at age 37), this video really helped me realize that I'm not broken or damaged. From an outsiders perspective I would probably be considered "high-functioning", but this is actually not true as I spent the majority of my life masking while struggling very much internally. I've never had a career, I've never left home, I have had many relationships & been fully intimate, but I do not want to live or sleep with my significant other which has caused most of my intimate relationships to end. I actually am fine with being with family & my best friend, it does not really bother me if I have a romantic partner or not... But hearing Rachel & Griffin's love story gives me hope that living separately with your partner is possible ❤ Thank you for sharing!

[@a.marvellehoneyman4560]

Thank you for sharing your experience, ❤.

[@lynzblk]

It’s totally possible. You’re just different and know what you want and what makes you most comfortable and you obviously don’t compromise/cave in for the sake if keeping your partner. So the right person will come along one day - and I’ll tell you a secret: they always come into your life when you least expect it / when you stop looking…. Just make sure you’re still going out with friends and in public so it’ll have a chance to happen. And start saying yes more. In general. It’s a thing. Look into it ❤

[@patientzero5685]

I am so glad that you got the help you needed. Do you have any suggestions for getting diagnosed?

[@adonaimakhofola2696]

The way Rachael's parents look at her with so much love brings tears to my eyes🩷

[@jessie9539]

Me too I’m crying😭🩷

[@yadira0425]

Yes!! I was going to comment on that. They look at her with such happiness and love and the way she speaks about them is so beautiful. You can tell she was raised with so much love. They even built her her own space to be more independent 😭🥰🥰

[@adonaimakhofola2696]

@@yadira0425 which is so lovely to see!

[@adonaimakhofola2696]

@@jessie9539 🤭🩷🙈

[@vanymobile]

Ellos y la mamá de Griffin también. Se les ve tan orgullosos de sus hijos. Ojalá el mío (TEA + TDAH combinado) pueda llevar una vida así de feliz como ellos con alguien que le entienda, le ayude y le comprenda. Mi mayor deseo. Os deseo mucha felicidad! ❤

[@askmisspatience]

“What does love feel like?” “Love feels like life.” “How do you feel when she says she loves you?” “I feel happy.” “And, grateful.” I’m in love with the parents. This is one of the sweetest documentaries I’ve ever seen ❤

[@LT-qt5xj]

as an audhd woman who's often held to neurotypical standards + had many exes storm out because they 'had enough of (my) behaviour', even after my best efforts at communication and explanation, this gives me hope that there's always someone out there who will love you for you, and you them ❤

[@taralounsbury8139]

Super props to the parents that are meeting these two where they are. I hope these two grow old and in love together. It makes you realize that our relationships don’t have to be as complicated as we make them. How to have a happy marriage “love each other” I think a lot of people forget that.

[@Otzdarva]

I love these two.

[@gaygranola]

No way, nice to see you here Otz

[@johnnybon4865]

AYEEE OTZ

[@sttuuu3442]

KING! Love you, man.

[@katstinct601]

ARIANA WHAT ARE YOU DOING HERE

[@blvndr]

hey otz

[@Brycesaggiebabe]

I love how they fit with each other so well. Racheal understands him on a deep level and it is so amazing. I love the parents supporting the two of them. Beautiful family. "Love feels like life" no truer words then that.

[@kristenbillmyre2129]

You said what I was going to 😊 They fit so well, the parents are all so amazing, and yes he's right. "Love feels like life"

[@churnetwinborne7285]

So sad they can’t live together

[@dewilew2137]

@@churnetwinborne7285why? It doesn’t sound like either of them want to.

[@Brycesaggiebabe]

@@churnetwinborne7285 yet it isn't. This is how they enjoy their marriage, and we are not the ones to judge them for it. They love each other in their own way. That is perfectly ok.

[@rebeccamassey337]

This just proves what ive already said: there is someone for everyone. Everyone needs their someone. And its all about someone that complements you and whos company you enjoy. I am happy these two found each other they seem to be soulmates. And its a beautiful thing. This is what its all about. What they have is priceless. Im not going to say any more because im about to cry. This is what any parent hopes for their children.

[@ppp285]

What a wonderful couple! I see Rachel's parents getting all the praise for their demeanors here...and I just want to say that Griffin's mom just seems like the most affirming, easygoing person ever who wants for her son what he wants for himself and just goes with it and supports it and identifies their relationship as a marriage with no ifs, ands, buts, or caveats, because that's how they define it for themselves. Everyone needs a mom like that.

[@wallacerobert45]

Awesome couple. I have Asperger’s and got diagnosed late in life at 34. I am 44 now. I cried four times today listening to this and how beautiful these two are. Maybe someday I will find a partner. It has taken me 10 years to unmask since being diagnosed. Thank you for all your interviews. Peace out love y’all.

[@christahewitt2758]

Congrats on your diagnosis and I wish you all the best in unmasking and welcome to the community. ❤

[@kmorris101]

My daughter's fiancé has autism and aspergers.. they are engaged to be married and having their first child at the end of March.. I absolutely adore my daughters fiance, Owen.. he's a genuinely nice person and he's very smart! You'll find the right person to marry when you least expect it!

[@carter_1]

The best thing to do is go to places & events where people with autism & Aspergers meet. They have dances, games, sports, & just hang out time. Sometimes you just gotta go find love ❤ I know there's someone special just waiting to find you too!

[@mervisa89]

I was diagnosed this month, with exactly 34 y.o. I hope to be able to fully unmask and find myself. I'm so happy for reading your comment, for some reason🫂🫂🫂

[@mytravls]

Can you share some examples of your experience with the condition?

[@Katie-mw7pd]

Rachel has the best smile, her dimples come out and her eyes absolutely light up!

[@sierra9828]

right! she’s so beautiful

[@tuliplouart]

“Love feels like life” absolutely. People always ask what love is or what it feels like, and I think that’s the best answer.

[@RiverAndBrooke]

"Love feels like life." Best answer I've ever heard! ❤️

[@CrisOnTheInternet]

The smiles on their parents' faces 😊

[@edithkahiu3882]

L

[@tricksterx98]

I love how they are completely fine with having a "non-standard" relationship and how they deeply feel that it is the best for them both ❤

[@Soundsaboutreet]

This is a perfect example of how women can pass as neurotypical, because I bet the vast majority of neurotypical people wouldn’t suspect she is autistic if they met her alone, if they can’t spot the subtle clues in her body language, but I think it’s pretty safe to say most people could tell the man was autistic within seconds of hearing him speak. I have a son and an daughter with autism and the differences in presentation is so different. Bless this couple, it’s so lovely that they found each other ❤

[@laurentweet9254]

"I'm not gonna talk anymore but you got this" 💞💞💞

[@SaraGomez-my1iu]

So inspiring. I'm a mother of two handsome autistic boys. And the teenager has struggled so much and suffered a lot of disappointments trying to go on a date.

[@kevinbissinger]

Dating coaches help tremendously.

[@snuff2023]

Im a mom of 2 autistic boys too. They are 3 and 4. Both cnsidered nonverbal and are such different personalities. My teenager also has adhd but i suspect he may be on the spectrum.

[@toiletseat777]

don't feel too bad, it's not just autistic young men that struggle with that nowadays

[@Dropitlikeitshotspot]

Both of my roommates are autistic, and I love helping them get ready for dates! Most of all, I love their stories of what happens on their dates. They can be so much fun to listen to and more genuine than I am.❤️

[@junebugx1312]

i am a 22 year old autistic woman (ADHD and OCD too) and i find that i do best dating/being friends with other autistic or neurodivergent individuals. i only ever met people online until i met my partner. he has ADHD and is wonderful to me but i honestly recommend mingling with other autistic people as we usually understand each other.

[@missumbrella3135]

I love her dimples! She's so pretty.

[@nannybean8134]

I was thinking the same thing! She is absolutely beautiful!❤😊

[@monkeybearmax]

She really is and stylish too!

[@blackqweenmars]

They are so wholesome. I am auDHD and it’s always so nice to see other autistic people finding love. My friend/crush is also autistic lower-functioning/higher support than me(I don’t like to describe it that way, but I don’t know how to better describe it), and our interactions are also pretty similar to this. It can be hard to interact with an autistic person because of the loss of attention. We’re currently both teenagers (17&18). But this video gives me hope that maybe I could have a great relationship as an autistic person with another autistic person, even if they are higher support than me. It’s nice to see people with disabilities getting married and living life because sadly a lot of people with disabilities get discriminated against and can’t find people who love them like that.

[@bluefirekin]

This was hands-down the most wholesome love story I have seen in a long, long time. What a beautiful couple, in all the ways that count.

[@joshrappaport1278]

I'm autistic and I wish this couple all the best!!!

[@imperfectly_megan]

Me and my husband are both autistic. Thank you for telling your story, it helped me realize a few things about our relationship, and that it doesn't have to conform to Neurotypical ideals for us to be happy.

[@Catlily5]

Same here. But my partner has ADHD. We have been together for 14 years but don't live together. We eat dinner together almost every night. I spend the weekends at his place. People think that it is strange that we don't live together and aren't married. But it works for us.

[@JTG313]

​@Lilycat5 please don't be offended when I asked this but why have you all decided not to live together and what level of autism do you both have.

[@mariiamaria7732]

"they should love each other" ❤ it's really necessary answer

[@beblessedtodayjesuslovesyo6231]

This might be one of my favorite interviews ever. Love them all!!!

[@tamoshanter6268]

Beautiful couple. They may not have what many believe a traditional marriage is, but they definitely have their own marriage. It is so obvious that they love and care for each other, know each faults but do what they can to help each other through life. In many ways, it may be better than a traditional marriage. Kudos to both their families for their support and understanding. My wishes to both of them for a very happy adventure through this life.

[@laramaaike3050]

I didn't know how to describe what I was feeling, but you wrote it perfectly, so I just tag along.

[@tamoshanter6268]

@@laramaaike3050Thank you!

[@memmermiller]

Honestly, no two people’s marriage looks the same. It’s all about discovering what’s right for you. This couple gets it ❤

[@oliverdobes6618]

Whenever I see people who are neurodivergent living their lives to the fullest I am filled with so much joy. Their joy and authenticity is refreshing and infectious. I am reminded of how their priorities in life are often less infiltrated by greed, malice, or other intense manipulative emotions. They are so sweet to each other. I love this adorable and genuine couple. Truly wish the very best for them!

[@Jesus_Saves_Believers]

That was seriously the cutest thing ever. That ended in the perfect note too!❤❤❤❤

These videos bring joy to me. Seeing people get along even with disabilities makes me happy! ❤

[@kenrickbautista6141]

Same. It's so awesome.

[@Frankfreaks]

I mean.. Joy Boy!

[@doris501]

sometimes they are more happy than us….

[@picvic7]

That and how loving and supportive both sides of the fam are.

[@soniamo4139]

depending on the spectrum of the autism and the abilities, we can get along with several people, but typically, socializing gets tiring.

[@luminolmortis5927]

i love this so much. as an autistic adult, i just love the way y'all's parents have completely supported the way you want to live your lives together. society wasn't built for autistic people, so you guys built your own type of marriage and it's so cool that it works so well!

[@mom23wASD]

Rachel and Griffin, thank you for sharing your story. My son Mark is 24 and would love to be married and have a family. Seeing your marriage gives me hope that Mark's dream of marriage can come true, even with his autism.

[@sistatiph2308]

I have 5 children and 2 are autistic and I am actually waiting for testing on my youngest child (Pretty sure he is), I am a single mother, I dont have any family or support where I live, 1 person checks on us. watching this really gives me hope that my babies will be able to be in love and get married as they are verbal and 1 is high functioning. Its so hard and I appreciate this channel so much. I cry every episode. Here where I live, I have tried to reach out for support with no success. I wish I lived in a city where I could meet other ASD families.

[@onlyinsomniac]

It says so much that the one thing Griffin never struggles to articulate is how he feels about Rachel ❤

[@sarahwest5964]

As someone with Autism i loved this. My husband has adhd and autism. He helps me out a lot like Rachel. I dont always understand whats going on and cant express myself fully. This video is great for us to show we can love each other and have fulfilling relationships.

[@burly636]

You expressed yourself very well in your comment. ♥️

[@kogumak.2390]

This was such a precious video, my whole heart swelled with wholesome. Definitely one of my favorite videos I’ve seen

[@thatswhatshesaid14]

This is one of my favorite videos you've done. It was so hard not to smile throughout it all. The looks of love on all their family members faces as they watched them talk was so beautiful. Thank you for sharing this 🤗💚

[@alicebelloo]

Omg I'm autistic too and got married a day before them, April 28th 2023!

[@M_SC]

Congratulations!

[@tandiparent1906]

❤Congratulations to both of U!!

[@alicebelloo]

@@tandiparent1906 No way my partner's nickname is Tandi

[@bmary8283]

They are two pure souls, these 20 minutes have literally flown away. I wish them all the best for their future ❤❤❤

[@tanyabrown9839]

That was beautiful, thanks for filming this. Such purity there between them.

[@Irish__Clan]

Thank you, Rachael and Griffin, for sharing your story with us! Great video!

[@flyingnorseman]

Sweetest thing Ive seen in years. I truly pray that they have a long, healthy and happy life together.

[@aarinmae]

when they talked about Griffin liking girls being mean i was like “damn same” LOL. love the two of them together!! so wholesome :)

[@scoobydoo3285]

This is so sweet! I love how they’ve made their life all about what works for them. They’re happy and content and seem to have the best support system with each family and that is the best team! Such love and devotion here love it!

[@missdann]

Rachel is so kind and thankful! She’s inspiring 😊

[@elliganange]

my partner and I have been together 10 years, we're both low support needs autistic people. We never plan on living together, we're currently looking for houses as in two adjacent houses to live in together as neighbours. We do get what men and women do.. but you don't have to actually sleep next to someone for that to be part of your relationship. We have our reasons a big one is that my autism and ADHD came with a mighty dose of chronic insomnia and that can mean it's difficult for me to fall asleep with someone in the bed but also my tossing and turning can be disruptive to them. It's weird how many people think we're not committed to each other or in love because we have adjusted our lives to fit our needs rather than other peoples expectations.

[@nightyew2160]

I am so jealous. I also struggle with insomnia. Also, things like feeling someone's breath on me keep me awake.

[@burly636]

If that works for you, then you do what you need to do. Doesn’t matter what other people think. Relationship isn’t a mold. You decide with that will be.

[@fanofthedog]

How sweet. She is so gentle with how she helps. And OMG Rachael those adorable dimples on you!!

[@Hey_its_Dre]

Loved this! Rachel just radiates joy and happiness! We can all learn something - The patience they have with each other is everything!

[@TDruzhok]

"Love feels like life". Beautifully said, Griffin. And absolutely correct 🙏❤️

[@codydagg2259]

I understand why things like this make people realize that love is truly pure and innocent when it is expressed honestly.

[@ThePianistPlayer]

I'm autistic, and I wish Rachel and Griffin all the best! ❤️

[@martinaschiavolin1020]

This is one of my favourite videos ever. I could feel the live through the screen. I am in awe of all 3 parents, the way they look at their children is the way i wish all parents looked at their kids, with such joy live and pride. Sending so much love to Rachael and Griffinand their beautiful families❤❤❤❤

[@ETHELLEX]

Love them. I actually fully support this type of relationship - love, respect, not living together, no intention of doing so because, well, they are happy the way they are. It's beautiful.

[@umbreonespeont6]

Love this channel. I'm also autistic and married! Beautiful video

[@CaptchaNeon]

Do you and your spouse also have a non traditional marriage?

[@umbreonespeont6]

I'd say in some aspects, yes and in some no. Our lives are pretty "normal" in a lot of ways. They accommodate my autism beautifully, but we've pretty much like your average Joes, just with more sensory blocking headphones and food aversions, haha. Thank you for the question! @@CaptchaNeon

[@snarkishark]

"they should love each other" is honestly the best tip for a happy marriage

[@floralovespringandflowers6227]

Oh God they are so sweet and I love their parents! I love how they are looking at their children so sweet and full of love. The sibblings too. It is so sweet! You can feel all the love for each other in this room. ❤ Thank you for showing us.

[@509frindian]

Dude your videos are so awesome and the way you interact with these people is perfect it was like you were made to do this please don't stop keep going you're on the right track

[@leannejones7080]

As the mum of 3 outta 4 Autistic children and working in a high school, on the ASD unit, I’ve had to help autistic teenagers negotiate bfriend, gfriend stuff……this just melts my heart. I hope they enjoy a long and happy marriage, big virtual hugs from the uk 🇬🇧 xxx

[@AnnLutz]

🤗🙏💜🦋🤗

[@sagemode67]

My girlfriend and I both have autism. I'd love for Chris to interview us!

[@violetvictoria5522]

H.

[@dandy5150]

TMDWU

[@Silenceeify]

​@@dandy5150What😅😅😅

[@junebugx1312]

they have applications you can fill out for an interview 🙂 i also have autism (plus ADHD, OCD and CPTSD) and i am planning on contacting them for an interview one day

[@dandy5150]

@@Silenceeify It is what it is, t00bz (͡° ͜ʖ ͡°)

[@ralexandra1058]

This is such an unbelievably heartwarming interview.. these two share such a pure, gentle love…

[@markman713]

Chris, you are one of the most amazing people alive on this planet for doing what you do. Talk about making a difference. It's so incredibly special. Thank you for helping so many beautiful people share such important stories.

[@Aster_Risk]

These two are really good together. The way Rachael helps Griffin and how they both love each other and compromise is great. I'm married and I'm grateful for my husband who understands and supports me and I do the same for him. I wish this type of love for everyone who wants it.

[@Craftitup64]

Such an interesting and unique couple. They appear well rounded and happy. I didn’t want their interview to stop. Such a genuine love. Great questions that rolled off your tongue Chris. I wish them the very best.

[@natand4297]

This is the sweetest. I admire the couple’s parents for all of their love , guidance and support.

[@bisma1352]

The parents are super supportive and loving, i do wish they are able to learn a bit about asexuality as maybe that would help not think of sexual intimacy as the ultimate development in case that is not how rachel and Griffin end up proceeding. I think it's amazing they are able to live separately in their own comfort zones yet still know they have each other forever.

[@megascopsasio2015]

I agree - I also had this thought!

[@AnnLutz]

I certainly understand it now but had been told by teachers and professionals that that time would come. Mine came with a simple need that she understand her choices and that they both be able to respect each other’s decisions and choices.

[@bisma1352]

@@AnnLutz it is awesome how you didn't make the topic taboo or consider it not necessary as some people infantalisingly do. I respect your informed decision making at the time! Sorry if it felt like criticism of your choices, instead i had hoped you had explored this option for her too and that's amazing you have! In my personal experience with it while i understood how things worked it was just never relatable and i wondered if that's what was going on.

[@tangiechapman6219]

This is not illegal marriage

[@cr4zysh4dez]

I’m autistic (& other disabilities) and 27 years old; my partner of 3.5 years is not autistic or disabled but we have made it work!! It takes a lot of compromise; and radical acceptance. Household stuff is different than a couple where both adults are abled & working. My partner has seen me through meltdowns, sensory overload, shutdown, autistic burnout, depressed. He helps me a lot verbalize how I am feeling and he can always tell when I’m hungry or tired or needs my meds before even I do sometime. I know my family is happy that he educated himself & is my support cause it makes them worry less when I’m not staying at home. (With partner half the week and parents other half….its the reality for many of us who have medium/high support needs.) I know the future is unique for us & will not look like the relationships or marriages(?) of most our friends. So for anyone watching these videos whose autistic and discouraged on love- it is there and whether u find is also on the spectrum or another person abled or differently abled. And it can happen and you CAN be enough for someone who’s “normal.”….

[@sapphireblue1013]

My eldest is autistic and her bf is not. They've been together for only a few months, and I'm wondering how this will work out with him, not knowing fully the support she needs, even though she says she tells him. She's capable of taking care of herself, but not financially or anyone else.

[@C-24-Brandan]

Its awesome to see two people over coming & living with challenges, yet theyre both truely happy and living their best lives! ❤ Really happy that they have each other and together are living a great life! Having such supportive families is also something that Is really great to see, it's something that everyone should have and experience in their lives.

[@rckxxxxzrn]

Thank you for the great interview. I feel like Griffin, with his mor direct approach to most answers is actually really helpful to gain perspective. I feel like I can learn alot from that. I loved his last answer especially❤ Sending much love from Germany

[@user-dp6ju5jp7p]

I am autistic, and my husband has ADHD seeing these two people so in love just brought joy to my heart. My husband has had to learn about my eccentricities over the years but he understands me. I think more than anyone else in my life. Plus he gives great hugs with a perfect amount of pressure.❤❤❤❤

[@hiphopsjester942]

As an adult with autism, this really just… just really gives me hope and makes me so glad to see that we’re living in a time where everybody gets their chance to be happy! 😌

[@SessmaruKusanagiGaming]

All of these videos give me hope. ❤❤

[@trishwhitehouse6536]

I think this was one of the most beautiful KZbin videos I’ve ever seen. I got teary when she said, “I try to help him.” How beautiful is that!

[@Romann-ii5ew]

Shoutout to Griffin .. dude said his favorite thing is doing laundry ..because he likes clean clothes ..thats my dog💪Grffin crazy af ngl

[@theryn4376]

So sweet her cute dimples… and looking up at the ceiling looking for repairs. So stinking cute 😂 I do the same with my ADHD. Wish my boyfriend and I compromised more. Learning from this one!!! Bless this couple 💜 and her introducing her parents 😭 I’m crying. How genuine and true.

[@Bunnidove]

Right?? I also have adhd, and can actually relate to a bit of what autistic people go through. If I were to have a mild case of autism it wouldn't surprise me

[@tmc3178]

love them and especially griffin's answers. they may not be the answer you expect but he's not wrong!

[@liznichols4916]

The teamwork going on between all parties involved here is amazing! What a sweet couple. 😊

[@sparklycucumber9027]

The honesty between them is very heartwarming. I love seeing human beings simply getting along in a compassionate and loving way. It's such a great joy for me personally and this channel always provides that for me, thank you to everyone willing to share their story and those involved in sharing it!

[@noemiszekely2304]

❤ i cried in the end..."they should love each other "❤ that is the most important tip for a happy marriage nothing else❤